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Dating on a Budget · On Air with Ryan Seacrest

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  Speaker 1: From Hollywood to you.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to US Air on Air with
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  Speaker 2: a Ryan Seacrest.
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  Speaker 3: One A two point seven kiss FM Seacrest. Maya, She's
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  Speaker 3: just gonna get right into Maya. My has been holding
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  Speaker 3: that's why, thanks Maya, Oh Seacrest, Maya. Maya's on the line.
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  Speaker 4: Eight.
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  Speaker 3: Take a look at your screen, guys, eight to see
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  Speaker 3: you seacrets you want to see out of the back room, Maya?
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  Speaker 3: Or did you already? Hello? You probably did already because
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  Speaker 3: they put you on hold. Who did you speak with
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  Speaker 3: to put you on hold?
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  Speaker 5: Maya?
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  Speaker 1: Oh god?
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  Speaker 6: I what about her name? Why would you do this?
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  Speaker 3: Because I want to make sure that our guest services
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  Speaker 3: are up to par Okay, it was up to pr
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  Speaker 3: my How was your experience.
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  Speaker 1: With the back room?
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  Speaker 6: I'd say six and a half.
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  Speaker 3: A little quality control here? What could we do better?
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  Speaker 3: What could we do to make the first few seconds
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  Speaker 3: of your call better?
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  Speaker 7: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 8: How was your day?
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  Speaker 9: How was your day going?
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  Speaker 3: Constructive criticism back? You guys are rushy ruy.
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  Speaker 6: She didn't give a damn Oh.
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  Speaker 3: Fire guys, quality controls second?
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  Speaker 10: But for the back room right now?
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  Speaker 3: Well, Maya, maybe you'll get called that next time. Okay,
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  Speaker 3: let's go. So what can we do to help?
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  Speaker 6: Okay, So one of my friends from the East Coast,
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  Speaker 6: she was recently, came to visit me. The visit was
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  Speaker 6: totally unprompted. I had no idea she was coming, but
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  Speaker 6: I was super excited, you know, I've been working. Kind
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  Speaker 6: of happy to see an old friend. But I didn't
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  Speaker 6: know she was coming. So she came on Friday morning,
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  Speaker 6: and then she left Monday morning. That Friday, I didn't
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  Speaker 6: take off of work. You know, she didn't give me
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  Speaker 6: notice she was coming, so I didn't take off of work,
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  Speaker 6: and I had, honestly the biggest meeting with this client.
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  Speaker 6: They've been super picky, so I could not not do
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  Speaker 6: the meeting, you know what I mean. So I worked
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  Speaker 6: from home on Friday, so I figured it wasn't that
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  Speaker 6: big of a deal. Anyway, I was able to welcome
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  Speaker 6: her when she came. But as soon as she came,
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  Speaker 6: like you know, I had cinnamon rolls and stuff like that,
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  Speaker 6: But as soon as she came, I had to go
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  Speaker 6: into my home office and work. But this is the
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  Speaker 6: weird part. So now that a few weeks have gone by,
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  Speaker 6: she she kind of let me know that she was
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  Speaker 6: upset that I didn't take off work that first day,
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  Speaker 6: and she thinks it was rude, and you know, she
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  Speaker 6: came to visit me and she had to stay in
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  Speaker 6: the house. So I just wanted to get your guys'
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  Speaker 6: opinion on the situation, right, Like I'm already stressed out
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  Speaker 6: with work and stuff like that. And it wasn't like
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  Speaker 6: I didn't tell her where to go, like this is
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  Speaker 6: a good place to go for lunch.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, put this in your terms, because we heard
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  Speaker 3: that your experience with Ruby was a six and a
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  Speaker 3: half on a scale of one to ten. I did
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  Speaker 3: not answer the phone. Who answered the phone? It was me?
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  Speaker 3: I heard Ruby, she said, thought somebody said Ruby, So
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  Speaker 3: Michayla was a six point five. I stand corrected. Anyway,
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  Speaker 3: The point is, on a scale of one to ten,
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  Speaker 3: how would you rank your friendship closeness with this friend
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  Speaker 3: because she sounds like a lot of work.
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  Speaker 7: Good question.
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  Speaker 6: You know, our friendship has been pretty good, I say,
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  Speaker 6: I mean I don't it's it's been pretty good, like honestly,
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  Speaker 6: but pretty good?
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  Speaker 3: Is it five?
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  Speaker 4: Like?
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  Speaker 3: What is pretty good? On a one to ten?
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  Speaker 6: It's like an eight point five?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, that's pretty good.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, considering, you.
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  Speaker 3: Know, but okay, where's your friend now? Is she gone?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, she's back in New York.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, So I think that, I mean, we're we're kind
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  Speaker 3: of past it. But I just think that that's a
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  Speaker 3: lot for your friend to ask you to be off work.
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  Speaker 3: You got to get your stuff done, and you had cinnamon.
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  Speaker 10: Butts and you had no notice.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you. I guess our point, Maya, is it has passed,
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  Speaker 3: like life goes on. Let's not carry guilt on this one.
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  Speaker 3: There's enough things in the world that cause pressure, stress, anxiety, cortisol.
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  Speaker 3: Let's not cause guilt on this one. I don't think so.
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  Speaker 10: And she is one hundred percent in the wrong.
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  Speaker 3: There you go. That's our ruling. I had a gavel
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  Speaker 3: to hit it.
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  Speaker 7: Well, nobody's one hundred percent the wrong.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you very much, by good luck, Thank you honestly, Maya. So, Michaela,
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  Speaker 3: what happened when you're the phone doers?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, I don't know, said hi, is as Maya?
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  Speaker 4: She said yes.
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  Speaker 11: I was like, I'm putting on hold for a second
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  Speaker 11: and Ryan will be with you shortly.
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  Speaker 12: She wanted to ask her, how are you?
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  Speaker 7: I was just trying to get her down as quick
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  Speaker 7: as possible.
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  Speaker 3: I thought it was a good call. You know, No,
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  Speaker 3: this show moves at lightning speed, and you were just
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  Speaker 3: doing your job of getting it getting up there, because
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  Speaker 3: you know, if you didn't have it on hold, Mark
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  Speaker 3: would be waving his wrists around.
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  Speaker 11: The planes over here and jumping up and down hot Pepper.
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  Speaker 2: Literal like jumping jacks that he does at the beginning
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  Speaker 2: of the show.
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  Speaker 3: Now, then you put yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly, he's gonna
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  Speaker 3: pull an arm socket.
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  Speaker 7: Yea, honestly, haven't hurt me, all right, I.
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  Speaker 3: Know it's dangerous, So just doing your work.
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  Speaker 7: Next time, I'll just ask how she is, Mark, and
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  Speaker 7: you have to wait.
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  Speaker 3: I need I need that ten.
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  Speaker 7: I need that ten, not a six point five.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks, that's a little real for us. We can't take
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  Speaker 3: six five even it is. Give us an eight kiss right,
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  Speaker 3: it's one o two point seven kiss FM. I let
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  Speaker 3: me grab Liz real fast here, Liz, good.
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  Speaker 12: Morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 8: How are you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm good? And Liz, what's happening?
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  Speaker 8: I just need some advice. My brother in law, my
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  Speaker 8: husband's younger brother, he basically took my baby's name for
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  Speaker 8: his dog, and like he asked me permission, but he
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  Speaker 8: did it in the family chat, so it was like, really,
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  Speaker 8: put me on the spot.
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  Speaker 3: And stole your baby's name that has not arrived yet
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  Speaker 3: for his dog.
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  Speaker 8: Right, So like, I'm not pregnant yet, I do have
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  Speaker 8: a little boy, but you know we are thinking of
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  Speaker 8: expanding our family and if I have a little girl someday,
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  Speaker 8: like I want it. The name's Piper, Piper Palmer. And
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  Speaker 8: he's like, can we name our dog Piper? And I
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  Speaker 8: was just, uh, like it got super award.
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  Speaker 3: You know, Piper's gonna pick pickles, pick pickles, Liz, did
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  Speaker 3: did your brother in law know that Piper was on
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  Speaker 3: your baby reserve list?
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  Speaker 8: Yes, like he asked permission in the chat.
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  Speaker 3: This is a foul. Yeah, this is a foul.
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  Speaker 10: This is you can't share the names with anybody.
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  Speaker 3: You got to use a little bit of common sense
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  Speaker 3: judgment here, brother in law, Like when someone picks it
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  Speaker 3: for their baby, you can't make it a pet name.
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  Speaker 2: And what is his reasoning that you haven't had the
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  Speaker 2: baby yet and you're not even pregnant that it's okay.
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  Speaker 8: Right, He's like, you know, it's all hypotheticals, so you know,
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  Speaker 8: we might as well have the name in the family
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  Speaker 8: and I'm.
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  Speaker 2: Just like, I mean, for all you know, yeah, he
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  Speaker 2: may have a point, like what if your next baby
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  Speaker 2: is a boy, would you name him Piper?
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  Speaker 8: No, I see it definitely as a girl name.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I don't know.
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  Speaker 12: So I'm like, how do we do that?
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  Speaker 3: Now we need to get back.
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  Speaker 7: There's no tip for tat here.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'd like for there to be one. I just look,
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  Speaker 3: that's a bit rude, and I think it's not so thoughtful.
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  Speaker 3: And I like it's like when someone tells me their
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  Speaker 3: child's name is Georgia. Everything about me wants to scream
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  Speaker 3: with excitement to say my dog's name is Georgia. But
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  Speaker 3: I bite my tongue. Yeah, I don't talk, like, how
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  Speaker 3: many sonnies have you met as kids, Tony, Right.
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  Speaker 11: Honestly, not somebody, not somebody.
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  Speaker 10: I've met a few Dakota's, so I know what you mean.
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  Speaker 3: And you want to go, oh my god, my dog
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  Speaker 3: is named Dakota and then and then they're like, oh thanks, Yeah, First,
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  Speaker 3: this is a strike. This is strike for your brother
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  Speaker 3: in law. Are you going to change the name or
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  Speaker 3: you gonna do it? What are you going to? What's
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  Speaker 3: your move?
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  Speaker 8: Well, I'm just wondering, like, am I a monster if
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  Speaker 8: I ask him not to use it?
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  Speaker 12: Now?
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  Speaker 3: No? No, please? Okay the dog can relearn?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, yeah, I know. It's kind of like it's they've
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  Speaker 8: only had it for a couple of weeks now, so
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  Speaker 8: I'm just like, okay, maybe I just dogs don't.
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  Speaker 3: Know Piper from diaper, so call the dog diaper.
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  Speaker 10: I mean, one name is dog diaper. But Liz, what
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  Speaker 10: is your's?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 7: We could call Sonny like funny funny and she will
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  Speaker 7: just come.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's about the inflection.
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  Speaker 4: Huh.
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  Speaker 3: So why did you come up with an alternative? Lace stuff?
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  Speaker 4: Names it?
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  Speaker 3: Ryme with Piper?
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  Speaker 10: I mean, the dog's not going to be around forever.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, dark dark. But it's true.
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  Speaker 2: This happened in my family. So that's why I have
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  Speaker 2: a frame of reference. Who was it was Riley? And
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  Speaker 2: my my sister adopted this dog from a family in Boston,
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  Speaker 2: and so the dog's name was already Riley.
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  Speaker 10: But we have a nephew named Riley.
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  Speaker 2: And so when we when she got the dog, I
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  Speaker 2: was like, were you going to keep the name Riley?
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  Speaker 2: And she kept it and then now the dog's not
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  Speaker 2: with us anymore. Anyways, and we still have my nephew obviously.
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  Speaker 3: But it happens. Well again, this went for a turn. Listen,
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  Speaker 3: thank you for calling into the world.
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  Speaker 2: Let him name the dog Piper, and then maybe in
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  Speaker 2: five years you have your Piper and it's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: all be fine.
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  Speaker 8: Gosh, Okay, what's the pickle thing?
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  Speaker 11: What is Peter Piper picked a pair of pickle peppers?
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  Speaker 11: If Peter Piper picked a pair of pickle peppers, howney
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  Speaker 11: pickle peppers and Peter pepper.
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  Speaker 3: Pips who never, like no one's ever been able to
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  Speaker 3: do that? You do that?
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  Speaker 10: Like Mantra.
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  Speaker 3: This is vision Board Mantra. She loves pickles this year.
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  Speaker 3: Kiss if you just got here, thanks for coming along.
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  Speaker 3: Got a lot more show to go and sistany yes, Tanya, yes,
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  Speaker 3: Meet Alison?
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  Speaker 7: Hi Alison, Hi Alison?
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  Speaker 3: Hello? How are you Alison?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 10: What's going on?
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  Speaker 4: I'm pretty good? How are y'all? Well?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it says see, I just know what it says
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  Speaker 3: on the screen. I am single and I'm tired of
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  Speaker 3: being used as entertainment for my married friends. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 3: tell me what that means to the choir.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm basically the last single person. In my friend group,
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  Speaker 4: everyone's married or in long term relationships, And like you
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  Speaker 4: just said, I just feel like my friends are seeing
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  Speaker 4: me less as a friend more as a form of entertainment.
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  Speaker 4: Like whenever we're together, they love pulling out my phones
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  Speaker 4: going through the dating apps like it's a game. They'll
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  Speaker 4: swipe through people and make jokes and then ask me
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  Speaker 4: to tell them any my recent dating stories. At first,
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  Speaker 4: like I went along with it because I thought it
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  Speaker 4: was kind of funny too, and I thought they were
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  Speaker 4: helping me. But now I'm realizing that that's not really
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  Speaker 4: the case. I feel like my love life isn't really
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  Speaker 4: being taken seriously, but it's just kind of like more
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  Speaker 4: fun for them to swipe through the apps. But for me,
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  Speaker 4: it's like what I'm actually dealing with. It's my reality,
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  Speaker 4: and I feel like they don't even want to check
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  Speaker 4: in on how I'm feeling about being single or anything
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  Speaker 4: I don't even really want to share with them. It
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  Speaker 4: makes me feel like I'm the odd one out.
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  Speaker 3: And like, so's funny and just so funny because if
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  Speaker 3: if you were the host of this show, I'd be
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  Speaker 3: calling saying the same things about these things.
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  Speaker 10: Through you don't even have a dating app for one.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so what is it that you thought they were
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  Speaker 3: doing is sort of like to help And then it
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  Speaker 3: changed into a different tone.
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  Speaker 4: What happened, Well, I think that it just it kind
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  Speaker 4: of became too frequent, and it became like where they
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  Speaker 4: were kind of messed with the people on my dating app.
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  Speaker 3: That's messed up jokes, Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: And like sliping through them and clearly making sure that
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  Speaker 4: this person wouldn't match back with.
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  Speaker 3: Me your friends.
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  Speaker 10: It's just immature.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I guess maybe they're bored because they're they're bored in
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  Speaker 4: their healthy relationship, but it's not fun for me any longer.
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  Speaker 3: Now. The other way you could look at it is
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  Speaker 3: they're kind of bummed because they're stuck. You got But also.
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  Speaker 7: You are the gatekeeper.
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  Speaker 11: I know how this feels because I feel like when
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  Speaker 11: I was single, everybody would always just want to like
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  Speaker 11: go through my end dating app.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't go through your dating app. Would you still
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  Speaker 2: be talking the same tune right now?
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  Speaker 7: No?
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  Speaker 11: No, no, But I you you are the gatekeeper, So
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  Speaker 11: like you can also just say if they say we
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  Speaker 11: want to look through your date, you know, let's go
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  Speaker 11: through your dating app. You can be like you know,
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  Speaker 11: I don't really want to do that today, or like
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  Speaker 11: you know, I'd rather not. You know, you don't have
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  Speaker 11: to give it up just because you're single, and.
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  Speaker 2: They're not going to your person grab phoney except that
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  Speaker 2: boundary unless they're going to be helpful like me and
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  Speaker 2: Sierra were for Tanya.
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  Speaker 11: Yeah, I mean I enjoyed the meddling, but I could
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  Speaker 11: see where it gets some knowing.
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  Speaker 3: But also just to you know, relate Alison. There comes
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  Speaker 3: a point where people almost look, I don't want to
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  Speaker 3: say down, but they have a little judgy when it
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  Speaker 3: comes to can I ask you why you're not married?
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  Speaker 3: Can I ask you why you don't have kids? Especially
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  Speaker 3: this happens to me all the time, and you do
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  Speaker 3: feel a little defensive, a little left out, a little
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  Speaker 3: bummed about it, And you know they're coming from that
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  Speaker 3: place of like, oh, they have it all, so why
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  Speaker 3: don't you have it all? And I understand that.
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  Speaker 10: Your real friends shouldn't be asking you.
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  Speaker 2: That your real friends should love you for who you are,
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  Speaker 2: who you're dating, who you're not dating, like it doesn't matter, or.
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  Speaker 11: They just want you to be happy and find someone
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  Speaker 11: that's like your perfect match and encourage.
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  Speaker 3: That, don't pretend to know what Alison and I are
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  Speaker 3: dealing with.
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  Speaker 11: Oh my god, I know exactly what Alison's dealing with because.
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  Speaker 3: I lived it, okay, and then you found it's awful.
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  Speaker 3: So I think have you expressed to them that you're
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  Speaker 3: finding this a bit intrusive?
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  Speaker 4: Not really, That's kind of why I'm calling, because I
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  Speaker 4: was trying to figure out how to set the boundary
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  Speaker 4: without making it awkward, or even if I should say
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  Speaker 4: anything in the first place, or should I just like
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  Speaker 4: keep laughing at all, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, be honest with yourself and with them. Okay, what's
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  Speaker 2: the point of having a friendship if you can't even
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  Speaker 2: be honest?
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  Speaker 4: That's this is true?
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  Speaker 3: And tell them to lay off a little bit, like
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  Speaker 3: the pressure is not cool.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know what.
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  Speaker 6: I agree.
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  Speaker 4: I agree.
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  Speaker 3: Do you call my friends as well while you're after
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  Speaker 3: you finish with yours?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. We'll set that boundary together.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you Alison for calling. I appreciate you. Good luck.
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  Speaker 3: It's a quote. A quote or seven o'clock gets you
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  Speaker 3: in the right headspace, all right. So there you go.
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  Speaker 3: You're having dinner at someone's house, maybe even spending the
• 15:01
  Speaker 3: night and you gotta go to the bathroom. The key
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  Speaker 3: to being as stealthy as possible. Run cold water the
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  Speaker 3: whole time.
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  Speaker 7: Want to waste Why.
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  Speaker 3: Walk in there, Turn on the water, run it cold.
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  Speaker 3: It's gonna mask any sound that might happen. Can be
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  Speaker 3: embarrassing because the toilet magnifies that sound. And make sure
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  Speaker 3: it's cold, because hot produces steam and that traps the odor.
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  Speaker 3: You you don't want that, No, I'll read for you
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  Speaker 3: that I'm here today for that.
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  Speaker 7: You know what.
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  Speaker 2: One day I'm gonna need to use that, and I
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  Speaker 2: will think about you.
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  Speaker 3: Although we have those sinks where you gotta hold I
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  Speaker 3: gotta lean over from the toilet and hold my hand
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: over the thing to get it to run for more
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: than four seconds.
• 15:54
  Speaker 7: Yeah, not enough.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: I can't even wash my hands. Today's squall, Tanya Ciciny.
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: Even if it takes time, you're gonna get exactly where
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: you want to be in the meantime. Find joy in
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: the journey.
• 16:12
  Speaker 7: Find joy in the journey.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: Find in the journey. About two point seven, it's kiss FM,
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: Los Angeles. So I have to say, you know, I'm
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: looking at some best ofs right now. I'm likek at
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: some best of siciny some best of Tanya. You guys
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: are you're glowing? You know, you're you're, you're you're What
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: does Kevin Hart saying that iPhone commercial? You got your
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: drip on?
• 16:36
  Speaker 7: Okay? Wow?
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: Kevin Art says, Kevin Art doesn't every commercial he's in.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: I actually really like he's in a new iPhone commercial
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: and it's great. Actually laughed out loud.
• 16:48
  Speaker 10: I know exactly what you're talking.
• 16:50
  Speaker 3: He thinks, he thinks he's got the new iPhone, and
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: everywhere he goes in the quick commercial, people are like,
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: oh my gosh, look and he's like, I know, I'm
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: finer in person. I know, I know what's up.
• 17:01
  Speaker 11: It's me.
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: It turns out they're really looking at the iPhone, right,
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: because he had the orange one in the commercial. But
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: he's I think he says at the top, I'm dripping
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: in it or got my drip ones? Anyway, you two
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: have your drip on. And so a lot of people
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: may have asked you what are you doing? What's your
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: worker because I got asked that question, not that I
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: might drip on, but shows me what what's your workout?
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: And I said, underwater? It's my thing these days. Underwater,
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: underwater I'm doing underwater workout right the weights. So, uh,
• 17:29
  Speaker 3: Tania is working on a new and duces, have you
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: heard about this she's walking backwards?
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: I have.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: I am told her that this prize is not the
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: safest thing for her to do, especially.
• 17:36
  Speaker 10: Because she loves like on the street that's like very slanted.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: Are you doing this on a treadmill or outside on.
• 17:42
  Speaker 11: The I don't have a treadmill, so everything I do
• 17:45
  Speaker 11: is out in the wild. But I've gotten very into
• 17:49
  Speaker 11: walking over the last like six months, and even concept
• 17:52
  Speaker 11: well I know, but I feel like.
• 17:53
  Speaker 7: Walking is really of the moment, by.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: The way, people don't walk in and walk since we've
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: been on this planet.
• 18:00
  Speaker 11: Okay, no, no, no, but I feel like walking your
• 18:04
  Speaker 11: ten thousand steps, I feel like now people are really
• 18:07
  Speaker 11: paying attention to it more.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: You see, it's not ten thousand that was a whole market, seven.
• 18:11
  Speaker 7: Seven, whatever.
• 18:12
  Speaker 11: But now I've implemented walking backwards because it it kind
• 18:16
  Speaker 11: of hits different muscles and just kind of different parts
• 18:20
  Speaker 11: of your legs than when you walk forward. And also
• 18:24
  Speaker 11: think it helps with the coordination. But I look so
• 18:28
  Speaker 11: I probably look so wild to people as they're driving
• 18:31
  Speaker 11: by when I'm walking backwards up to my house.
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: So I see people do this at the gym. Yeah,
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: and I have to admit I've done it before myself.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: And I think it's more than just you know, the
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: new muscles. It's really about the brain because you're having
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: to think a little bit more and focus. And I
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: think that you probably get more out of it because
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: you have to rewire your thought process a little bit
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: more with your movement and that is a good thing.
• 18:53
  Speaker 7: And when you.
• 18:54
  Speaker 11: Walk normal like you don't think about it. I could
• 18:56
  Speaker 11: be talking to somebody, I could be on my phone
• 18:58
  Speaker 11: and you're just walking. But to walk backwards like I
• 19:00
  Speaker 11: cannot be on my phone. I cannot. I need to focus.
• 19:03
  Speaker 10: Does your dog walk backwards?
• 19:05
  Speaker 11: So I've only brought Sunny once because she will not.
• 19:09
  Speaker 11: It's impossible. She goes forward, she won't go backwards with me.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: So I don't know. You know, we have been walking
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: on two legs for seven million years. I don't know
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: how many people back then did it backwards. Maybe they did,
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: maybe they didn't, but it is a very I think
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: it is a good workout. I actually now walk forward
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: with a weight. Vest Have you seen these things? Yes?
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: I have, So I have a weight vest.
• 19:30
  Speaker 7: Now for my right, I'm going to get one.
• 19:32
  Speaker 10: Oh, if you get it, Ryan, she's.
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: Gonna get it. Well Rot so sooner her husband will
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: have one too.
• 19:39
  Speaker 11: Before you even said this, one of Robby's best friends
• 19:42
  Speaker 11: has been wearing a weighted vest and he does all
• 19:43
  Speaker 11: his like work, calls and just walks around and for
• 19:46
  Speaker 11: since he told us that, I was like, I want
• 19:47
  Speaker 11: to get it's amazing.
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: Just a few pounds on your body. How he can
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: like really increase it? Yeah? Right, yeah, So there you
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: have it. Any new any new programs for you?
• 19:58
  Speaker 10: No, just bear walking the dog.
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: Well that's good enough. Kiss FM. It's time for a
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: second date update. If you are dating, you're gonna want
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: to hear this. If you're not, you'll be so grateful
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: you're not dating. So so Joscelyn in Long Beach says,
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: we have known each other for a long time. He
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: asked me out a lot, and I always said no
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: because I thought he was a player. Is that a
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: turn off?
• 20:25
  Speaker 7: Yes?
• 20:25
  Speaker 10: I don't know.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: Sometimes some people might fight it hot.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: It's true. Money clearly does not.
• 20:32
  Speaker 10: But back in the day I always went.
• 20:34
  Speaker 7: For the players.
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: Anyway. They work together, and he keeps asking and asking
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: They finally went out and it was a great first date.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: And now he's avoiding her, so he chipped away for years.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: They went out, and now he's kind of like not around.
• 20:51
  Speaker 10: Yeah, it's got a proved your point.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: Hi is this Joscelyn.
• 20:56
  Speaker 8: Hi?
• 20:57
  Speaker 12: Yeah, it's Jocelyn.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: Well Jocelyn. We are all here to help out second
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: date updates. So what made you say yes to this
• 21:05
  Speaker 3: guy after all these years of pursuing you for a date?
• 21:11
  Speaker 12: Yeah, you know, like we grew up in the same area.
• 21:13
  Speaker 12: We just knew each other well from being in the
• 21:16
  Speaker 12: same church youth group, and but enough, like he had
• 21:20
  Speaker 12: dated half the girls in that group, and I always
• 21:24
  Speaker 12: thought I would never say yes to him.
• 21:27
  Speaker 6: But we just kept crossing.
• 21:29
  Speaker 12: Baths over the years. I mean I would see him
• 21:32
  Speaker 12: at the mall or at Target or whatever. And then
• 21:35
  Speaker 12: we actually, at this point now work for the same company,
• 21:39
  Speaker 12: and uh, well technically he's an independent contractor, so we're
• 21:42
  Speaker 12: not really coworkers.
• 21:45
  Speaker 8: But I, you know, I just keep running into.
• 21:47
  Speaker 12: Him, and he's asked me out again and again, and
• 21:51
  Speaker 12: I thought, you know what, why not, I'm just going
• 21:53
  Speaker 12: to go for it. So I finally said yes.
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: So does it being like an independent contractor make it
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: less of an issue in terms of dating people you
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: work with. I think it might, right.
• 22:07
  Speaker 12: Yeah, definitely, Like he's kind of just in and out, yeah,
• 22:11
  Speaker 12: the office, so I don't see him that often.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: So I don't know him, but I like his persistence.
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: So finally he gets you to say, okay, let's go.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: Then you go on the date after all this time.
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: What went wrong?
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 22:28
  Speaker 12: I mean, we definitely had a good night kiss.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: It was like a.
• 22:33
  Speaker 12: Dancing kiss with the music and the sun said that
• 22:36
  Speaker 12: was happening by the ocean, and it was great. I
• 22:39
  Speaker 12: thought the whole night was awesome.
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: And now he's avoiding you.
• 22:47
  Speaker 12: Yeah, like I said, hey, i'll see my network, and
• 22:51
  Speaker 12: I was thinking, you know that aside from that, we
• 22:55
  Speaker 12: would definitely be on another date. He pursued me for so.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Many years, so he's a player, which, by the way,
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: if he pursues and then he gets then maybe that's
• 23:08
  Speaker 3: the way the players operate, right, It's about the chase,
• 23:11
  Speaker 3: and right he got you. Now he's lazy complace it.
• 23:18
  Speaker 12: Yeah, I don't know, but he's definitely avoiding me.
• 23:23
  Speaker 6: So because he's just playing be do you so?
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Sistney thinks players are is so attractive.
• 23:29
  Speaker 10: No, I don't attractive.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: There is a swag to them that makes you that
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: is attractive sometimes and it almost is like a game
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: in your head, thinking like I will be the one
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: to change his behavior. I will be he's going to
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: not be a player because he's gonna date me, And
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: there's a kanya.
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: It totally disagrees. So what do you what's your view
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: on players?
• 23:54
  Speaker 12: I don't want to be played by one, so I'm
• 23:57
  Speaker 12: not really into.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: Them, got it?
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: Okay, So we are going to call him next try
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: and find out what happened. Like to me, it's so
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: strange that you would be as persistent as possible to
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: get a date with you and then finally it's disrespectful
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: by the way, like finally you say yes and then
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: he vanishes. So let's find out what's going down. Hang
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: on one second, Okay, we'll come back and make that
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: call to him. The player one of two point seven KISSFM.
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: One of two point seven Kiss FM. We've got a
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: second date update. We're in the middle of that right now.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: So let's bring up Joscelyn here who wrote in and said,
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: so this guy, he's a third party. They don't really
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: work for the same company. He's third party, but they
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: work together. This guy, his name is Ricky, been pursuing
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: her for a long time, right, years, Yes, he's been
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: trying everything. Finally she says, Okay, I'm gonna go out
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: with you. They go out, and then he blows her off. So, Joscelyn,
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: be very quiet. We're gonna talk to him on the air.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: You'll listen. We're gonna try and find out what's up,
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: like why the pursuit for years and then the blow off?
• 25:08
  Speaker 9: Okay, Ricky, are you there, Yes, I'm here.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: Hi, Ricky, Ryan Seacrest, Systaney, Tanya, you are on the air.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Welcome, Yeah, Hi, Hi, thank you guys.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: So we happen to know about this woman named Jocelyn,
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: whom you I think pursued for quite a while.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Uh okay, yeah, yeah definitely.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: And why did you pursue her for sof Like that's persistence,
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: Like you know, if she says not into it, not interested,
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: and then you kept going, what made you keep pursuing?
• 25:43
  Speaker 9: She's gorgeous, definitely the prettiest girl I've ever seen. Every
• 25:48
  Speaker 9: box that I'm looking for she checks off.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: So yeah, she's gorgeous.
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: And tell me so Finally she said yes, after all this, right,
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: you guys went out?
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we did go out.
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: Tell me about the day.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Wow, I mean it was. To be honest with its
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: probably the best night of my life.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: Wow. Okay, and then now what so you have a
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: great date and then went out?
• 26:17
  Speaker 10: Yeah, are you dating?
• 26:22
  Speaker 9: I don't.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: I don't think we're dating. No, I don't know. To
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: be honest, I really don't know.
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: Would you like to date her?
• 26:30
  Speaker 9: I mean yes, but I feel like she deserves someone
• 26:35
  Speaker 9: maybe a little bit better than me.
• 26:38
  Speaker 7: That's cute.
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: Well that's actually quite sweet.
• 26:42
  Speaker 10: Well why do you think that?
• 26:44
  Speaker 7: Yeah, it's probably right.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I would. I'm gonna be straight up with you, guys.
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: I'm broke.
• 26:53
  Speaker 9: So that's that's a bit a big problem for me,
• 26:57
  Speaker 9: because I feel like she deserves someone that can take
• 26:59
  Speaker 9: care of her fire, whatever she wants, And.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: To me, that's that's that's not me right now.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Oh, but that's just so temporary. When I met my husband,
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: he was broke too.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: I was broke when I moved to La Everyone's broke
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: some time, and no one went out with me.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I find that hard.
• 27:19
  Speaker 10: The connection is there? Money is money comes and goes.
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: About that. Then she's not maybe right. So you went out,
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: you liked her, you pursued her, she said yes, but
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: you backed off because you don't think you have funding
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: to date her.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I got I got a little intimidated to be.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I just I don't think that I can.
• 27:40
  Speaker 9: I'm at that place where I can afford all that
• 27:43
  Speaker 9: type of lifestyle.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: If you could, well life lifestime. What a first date?
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: Where would you take her on a first date? What
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: would you do?
• 27:52
  Speaker 9: I mean endless amounts of funds? I man, I'd love
• 27:57
  Speaker 9: to take her to a Charters game. I'd love to
• 28:01
  Speaker 9: take her out to a nice dinner maybe or launch,
• 28:04
  Speaker 9: depending on the time of day.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean take.
• 28:08
  Speaker 9: Her shopping, just shower her and whatever she wants.
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: Okay, let me, do you mind if I just impose
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: a little bit.
• 28:20
  Speaker 5: Okay, aren't we already?
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: Well?
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: No, I mean, because you know, dating well in my
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: real life doesn't go great. But in giving advice, I
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: think I'm okay at it. So what if I told
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: you that she wants to go out with you again,
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: and we will give you some Chargers tickets and then
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: we will send you to a place to eat that
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: is convenient to where you live or after the game
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: on us. Would that be appealing?
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that would be absolutely more than appealing. That that
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: sounds amazing.
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: Okay, could you bring back in Johnson?
• 29:03
  Speaker 11: Yeah?
• 29:03
  Speaker 10: I mean she's been here the whole time.
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: Jocelyn, are you there?
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 29:08
  Speaker 12: Hi?
• 29:08
  Speaker 10: Guys, how do you feel.
• 29:10
  Speaker 7: About all this?
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: This is good news? I feel great.
• 29:15
  Speaker 12: Honestly, I don't care that you're broke. I really don't, Yeah, Reggie, like,
• 29:22
  Speaker 12: I mean, I promise you, I just I don't mind
• 29:28
  Speaker 12: at all. I don't think about that kind of thing.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: I know you don't, but I do.
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: And bro bro broke. Forget about it, Ricky, you're putting
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: up walls. She doesn't care about the funding. I think
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: you guys should go out, get to know each other
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: and have a good time. I mean, where should we
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: see them for dinner?
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: Like?
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: Where do you live?
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: I live in near Korea Town right now?
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: Perfect, there's some great restaurants.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: It's there, amazing, And I love your chargers. Man, this
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: looks like a match.
• 30:05
  Speaker 9: You guys are making me feel a lot better about
• 30:07
  Speaker 9: this than I have been feeling.
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I just want to say thank.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: You for that.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I'd love to take you out again. Absolutely great.
• 30:16
  Speaker 3: The only issues I don't I have to find these
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: charge your tickets. We'll figure that okay, fine, a back room,
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: charge your tickets, Yeah, we'll figure it out. Okay, good,
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: thanks guys. I want to say it's very difficult to
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: meet someone in this town, and when you have a click,
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: you can't let these little things that are in your head,
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: your head, Ricky, not hers, your head stop you from
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: finding the one am. So we'll set you off the
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: first one and then it's on you. I mean, you
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: can call me back if you want something else, but
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: it's on you, and I like it. I'm going to
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: get out of this call because it all worked.
• 30:57
  Speaker 10: It really did.
• 31:00
  Speaker 9: Thank you guys so much. I can't thank you enough.
• 31:03
  Speaker 9: That's that's incredible, and especially the kind words. And I
• 31:06
  Speaker 9: think it's just I just have to be honest from
• 31:08
  Speaker 9: here on out and communicate exactly.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: And Jocelyn's into you. Joscelyn, Ricky invite us to the wedding.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: You know, I have my degree in officiating, So my degree,
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: it is a degree and what to school.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Okay, We're gonna let you guys go, Joly if you
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: have a great life.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: Good luck bye. By the way, it is a degree
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: in officiation.
• 31:29
  Speaker 7: It's not a degree, it's just certificate.
• 31:31
  Speaker 10: It's like a website. You click, click, and then you're ordained.
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not a great student. It felt like a degree. Okay, fine,
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: that's the way she work though. I love that communication.
• 31:43
  Speaker 7: Yea, love me not kiss up there with Lions Crest.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: Why don't two point seven kiss FM? Good morning, Elijah?
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: How are you?
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: Good morning?
• 31:57
  Speaker 5: How you doing?
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: What's going on?
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: Buddy?
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: Can I help you?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 32:01
  Speaker 13: So my girlfriend made a vision board and it's kind
• 32:07
  Speaker 13: of freaking me out.
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: I'd run fast, excuse and why wait a minute?
• 32:14
  Speaker 13: So well, look, I don't even think I was supposed
• 32:17
  Speaker 13: to see it in the first place. She and her
• 32:19
  Speaker 13: friends got together and did it right after the New Year.
• 32:22
  Speaker 13: But I was looking for a post it in a
• 32:24
  Speaker 13: drawer and I found it and it had like a
• 32:29
  Speaker 13: bride and there was like this enormous diamond engagement range, all.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: Normal things that women usually put on their vision boards.
• 32:37
  Speaker 13: Right, like an expensive car and these island vacations.
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: Like yeah, I mean the vision board is aspirational too, right,
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: It's supposed to be just that, you know, maybe beyond
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: what your goals are. But it's a nice thing to
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: aspire to be. What's the issue?
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you don't.
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: Want to get married? Is that the deal?
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Here's the thing, here's the thing.
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  Speaker 13: I get all that we've only been dating for only
• 33:01
  Speaker 13: five months.
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  Speaker 11: Well, bro, just because she has this vision board doesn't
• 33:05
  Speaker 11: mean it's you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, it's a vision board for this year.
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  Speaker 13: And I'm not that rich or anything like, I don't
• 33:16
  Speaker 13: make that much money.
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  Speaker 3: But what were you? I guess what we're hearing you
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: say is that you're feeling some pressure because of her
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: vision board, and that pressure has to do with the
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: future of your commitment to and with her. Yeah, is
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: that what I'm hearing that?
• 33:31
  Speaker 13: And the finances?
• 33:33
  Speaker 5: I mean, look, am I line of work.
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  Speaker 13: I'm telling to be an EMC people like me don't
• 33:36
  Speaker 13: usually get rich.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Maybe you should make a vision board and then you'll
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: be rich, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
• 33:45
  Speaker 5: No?
• 33:45
  Speaker 11: But I think also to like, maybe that's worth a
• 33:48
  Speaker 11: discussion that you can have with her, because if you know,
• 33:50
  Speaker 11: if she has like these fancy cars and these fancy vacations,
• 33:53
  Speaker 11: maybe there.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: Is important to her, right right, Maybe that's a good
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: jumping off point to have a real conversation Elijah about
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: who you guys are.
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  Speaker 10: It's a great idea, Tonya, and it might not be
• 34:03
  Speaker 10: that big of a deal.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: She might be like, oh, this is just the stuff
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: that I just cut out of magazine, like it's vacation.
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: It's just like I mean, it's like the screensaver on
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: your phone, exactly, like you're going to live on that beach,
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: but you like to look at it exactly. I use
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: this as a point to talk about what you're really
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: thinking and feeling here in your relationship, and you'll get
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: to know each other better. Great idea, and thank you
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: for listening.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: Very good point.
• 34:24
  Speaker 13: So I shouldn't be freaked out at all.
• 34:26
  Speaker 10: I think you should.
• 34:27
  Speaker 7: It's beautiful that she wants to to marry you.
• 34:29
  Speaker 3: It's a healthy exercise to to do a vision board.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: Tanya does it here all the time in life.
• 34:33
  Speaker 11: I used to put rings and brides since twenty fifteen
• 34:36
  Speaker 11: on my vision board.
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  Speaker 3: And yeah, it took a little while, but she got there.
• 34:39
  Speaker 7: I got there.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: Thank you, and good luck with the mt BRO. Thanks
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: for saving lives.
• 34:45
  Speaker 13: Well absolutely yeah, and thank you guys for hearing me
• 34:48
  Speaker 13: out and giving me some advice I needed to.
• 34:50
  Speaker 10: Hear that got call anytime.
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: It is interesting that like, okay, where he thought her
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: putting those things up is just bad news. Actually it's
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: great news because he can now have a convers station
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: about who they really are, like who he is, or
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: who he's looking for, or what in what she really
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: wants or means by all that.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Yes, and maybe it's just like she wants it. Eventually
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: she just doesn't. You know, it doesn't need to happen
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: this year.
• 35:12
  Speaker 11: But I've probably scared off so many men because I
• 35:15
  Speaker 11: would keep my vision board in like on my bathroom window,
• 35:18
  Speaker 11: or I'd keep it in the kitchen so I saw
• 35:20
  Speaker 11: it every morning I was making my coffee.
• 35:22
  Speaker 10: So when they'd come over to your house, it would
• 35:23
  Speaker 10: just be out yep.
• 35:25
  Speaker 11: With bridle rings and bridled and uh song lyrics.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Years ago, we could have helped just move the vision
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: board and this would have happens one a two point
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: seven Kiss FM. Now let me explain this to you
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: before I put Devin on. Last week, we were talking
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: about a couple who posted a sign at their wedding
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: and the sign said, pay to play one of the
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: following songs you'd like to hear. And there's a list
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: of these songs like, Uh, Don't Stop Believing by Journey
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: was up there. Some Garth Brooks was up there. Uh,
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: some Queen was up there, some classic sings, songs. There's
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: a menu and ps the songs that were listed. The
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: couple does not really like proceeds We're gonna go to
• 36:05
  Speaker 3: their honeymoon fund, so think about that concept. These are
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: songs that we think you like, we don't really love,
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: but you're gonna pay for a honeymoon, so hey, we'll
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: give up the time. People were divided, and then Devin
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: heard that he's a wedding DJ from Huntington Beach. He says,
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: never let your guests choose the songs. Devin, thanks for
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: coming on with us. Now why do you say never? Surely, well,
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: he definitely sounds like one, So Devin tell me why
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: is it that the guest should never choose the songs?
• 36:34
  Speaker 5: A lot of times the bride is worked really hard
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: on a list that we love because it opens up
• 36:40
  Speaker 5: floodgates into what it is that they like and what's
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: going to motivate them to get on the dance floor,
• 36:45
  Speaker 5: and then to incorporate some of the bride'smaids and some
• 36:48
  Speaker 5: of the guests requests. But if you had fifty people
• 36:52
  Speaker 5: doing a pay to play, they ultimately become your DJ.
• 36:58
  Speaker 5: And the biggest part of our job is to look
• 37:00
  Speaker 5: at it like a video game and we're shooting for
• 37:02
  Speaker 5: a high score, and we're looking at Grandma, and we're
• 37:05
  Speaker 5: looking at the bride's maids and the bride and wanting
• 37:08
  Speaker 5: to get them to dance.
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: Yeahs, I like what you're saying because you're trying to
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: You're aiming to please, right, and you're reading the room
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: and you're reacting off of the read of the room,
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: and when you see some reaction, you build on that reaction.
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: I mean, you're a purist and I love that about you.
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: You've got to really you got to throw something out there,
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: read your response, and then try and build on that,
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: and that that fluidity is what it's all about.
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: So you explained it perfect because you know, I mean,
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: there was a thing once upon a time where they
• 37:38
  Speaker 5: had every gaps on an invitation to put one song request.
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: But you're already setting up half of the room to
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: not even hear their request. And my priority is that journey.
• 37:48
  Speaker 5: I mean, here's one thing like even your ladies written,
• 37:51
  Speaker 5: you know, there now we'll say yes to this.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: How many times have you.
• 37:54
  Speaker 5: Ever been at a party, been in a wedding, been
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: an event, Here a great song, you start dancing and
• 37:58
  Speaker 5: the next song sucks.
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, everybody clearly answer. But for you DJ, that's sad,
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: like I feel bad for the DJ might go back out.
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: Yeah, even if it was you, mom, dad, grandma and grandpa.
• 38:11
  Speaker 5: I'm looking even at the table in the musical at tourney,
• 38:14
  Speaker 5: I'm looking from them to bother.
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: Their heads, tap their feet, tap their.
• 38:18
  Speaker 5: Finger and totally p And if it's one song, I mean,
• 38:21
  Speaker 5: if it's a Michael Jackson that got Grandma even coming
• 38:24
  Speaker 5: out to dance, and my next song's not Jerry Lee Lewis,
• 38:27
  Speaker 5: you know it's got to be two three of one
• 38:29
  Speaker 5: type two three of another.
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: I appreciate you sending some light on this because you're
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: in the trenches on this and that is Devin. Thank
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: you very much for being on with this. Devin, take
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: good care.
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: He's not wrong, no, and the video game analogy really
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: makes sense.
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: One or two point seven Kiss FM. Jasmine Sandimus, Good morning,
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: How are you?
• 38:47
  Speaker 14: Good morning?
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: How can I help you?
• 38:50
  Speaker 14: Well, Okay, I have a little bit of an issue
• 38:54
  Speaker 14: my brother is getting married and you're next summer, and
• 38:58
  Speaker 14: you know, I really want to be there, and my
• 39:02
  Speaker 14: husband and I were actually going to have a four
• 39:04
  Speaker 14: month old baby by then, so we have like this
• 39:07
  Speaker 14: plan that we've worked out well where he'll stay at
• 39:09
  Speaker 14: home with the baby while I go to the wedding.
• 39:12
  Speaker 14: But we have an older child's with four and my
• 39:16
  Speaker 14: brother wants him to be the ring bearer, which I'm
• 39:19
  Speaker 14: ecstatic about and I think is really special, but my
• 39:22
  Speaker 14: husband doesn't feel comfortable with our son going to Europe
• 39:24
  Speaker 14: without them.
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, yeah.
• 39:28
  Speaker 14: So I'm just like literally stuck because I think it's
• 39:31
  Speaker 14: like unfair. You know, I don't want to be unfair
• 39:34
  Speaker 14: to my brother, who you know, really wants his nephew
• 39:36
  Speaker 14: be potter of the big moment. But at the same time,
• 39:39
  Speaker 14: you know, I understand my husband's concerns, and I just
• 39:43
  Speaker 14: don't know how to like balance being there for my
• 39:45
  Speaker 14: family but like respecting my husband's wishes.
• 39:49
  Speaker 3: I don't know. If I don't know what to do.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: You all have to go. Yeah, kids, weddings, This is
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: not my Bailey Wick, So siy, why can't you Anyway.
• 39:59
  Speaker 14: He works from home and needs to stay home with
• 40:01
  Speaker 14: the baby, but bring the baby.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: You know, four months old is like the easiest time
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: to travel with the baby that age.
• 40:08
  Speaker 14: Yeah, we're just not comfortable with like traveling with Europe.
• 40:13
  Speaker 6: It's going to be so far, it's a lot happening.
• 40:15
  Speaker 14: Plus, I don't want, like to leave the baby with
• 40:18
  Speaker 14: a babysitter like that age.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: You know, I've just discovered an easy out. Oh, I mean,
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: this is all about the baby. This is all about
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: the baby's safety, well being and health. And there's as
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: badly as you want to make everybody happy, there's only
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: one lens you look through, and that is through the
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: eyes of the baby. And then you're you're gonna total out.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: No one can No one can tellya you don't know.
• 40:41
  Speaker 7: Yeah, first of all, you're the mom.
• 40:43
  Speaker 11: If you want to take your four year old son
• 40:44
  Speaker 11: to your brother's wedding, you should be able to do that.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: You should And I think your husband needs Are you
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: saying you're totally comfortable with it, jsmine?
• 40:54
  Speaker 14: Well, if I'm comfortable.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: With breeding, yeah, yeah.
• 40:58
  Speaker 14: Absolutely my four year old, Yeah, I want him to
• 41:00
  Speaker 14: be the ring bearer.
• 41:02
  Speaker 6: But like you know, I don't want to.
• 41:04
  Speaker 14: I understand that my husband doesn't want you know me
• 41:08
  Speaker 14: there with him and without him being there.
• 41:11
  Speaker 10: Not to make this more of a fight.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: But you can come at your husband, well, you can
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: come out your husband like do you not trust me?
• 41:18
  Speaker 10: Is this a trust issue? Like I am his mom?
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: Like you're now, you're now, you're pivoting it to be
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: this is not about the baby. This is about you
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: not trusting me, this relationship. We don't think I can
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: handle this, then we got a bigger problem. That's nice,
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: I mean love it. Change the headline. Okay, so good,
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: so manipulative and goodtivetive.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: It's giving, manipulative, it's giving, like my feelings are hurt.
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: This solves the problem, Jasmine, she knows what she's talking about.
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: I can't wait to hear how it goes. Calls back.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: We're here.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: I mean, can you imagine Michael said I could and
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: bring my kids and were like, yeah, it's so weird.
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: It's great. It's really a good solution. You got this, Jasmine,
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: Thank you so much, good luck. I can't wait for
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: you to go do this. He calls back after it happens.
• 42:10
  Speaker 14: Okay, I sure, well, thank you so much.
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: Yes, no, you know how you operate.
• 42:15
  Speaker 10: That's why I gonna call us NAX and be like,
• 42:18
  Speaker 10: what did you.
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: Tell my wife? It was called on air with one
• 42:22
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