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Wedding Registries · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We've got a question for American Mamas. Dear Mamas, have
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  Speaker 1: you noticed how wedding registries have changed? Well, let's ask
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  Speaker 1: our American Mamas.
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  Speaker 2: And joining us now are American Mamas Terry Nedeville and
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  Speaker 2: Kimberly Burleson.
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  Speaker 1: For one thing, they're all online. Like, everybody has their
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  Speaker 1: own website now for their wedding registry.
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  Speaker 3: I remember....
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so when Wendy and I were engaged, I remember
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  Speaker 1: we went to Bed Bath & Beyond to register, and
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  Speaker 1: they gave us one of those scanning guns. Yeah, okay.
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  Speaker 1: And we walked around. We were like, we are so cool.
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  Speaker 1: We could just use this technology to put everything on
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  Speaker 1: our registry list, and then you just scanned everything, and
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  Speaker 1: then they had a printout.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: Of what was on our registry. So they had it
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  Speaker 1: on their computer system. It wasn't really online for everybody.
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  Speaker 1: That is so funny, yeah. But we had a printout
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  Speaker 1: of what was on there, and we just felt cool
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  Speaker 1: with the gun. But now, everybody, you just go online.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You go online and you pick. And what these two
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  Speaker 3: women that were talking about this were saying online is,
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  Speaker 3: no punch bowls, no china, no candlesticks. And I thought,
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  Speaker 3: I had all of those.
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  Speaker 4: That's all.
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  Speaker 3: But I've never used my china. I have never, ever
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  Speaker 3: used my china. It's still in its original boxes in
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  Speaker 3: my garage.
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  Speaker 4: What? 34 years later.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't even display them? No. I never even displayed them.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't have room.
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  Speaker 3: I just didn't have the room for stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well, we're going to have to have an anniversary
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  Speaker 1: party where we use your china.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I know.
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  Speaker 3: I never, ever used them. I was talking, your son's
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  Speaker 3: getting married. My daughter's getting married. And my daughter has
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  Speaker 3: been registering for things in her house, like lamps, because
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  Speaker 3: they just bought a house, but they can't afford to
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  Speaker 3: put anything in it.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: So they're registering for things to go in, you know,
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  Speaker 3: lamps and rugs and runners and, you know, little things
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  Speaker 3: like that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And then your daughter told me yesterday that one of
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  Speaker 3: her favorite gifts she got off her registry was a
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  Speaker 3: Christmas tree.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, that's clever.
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  Speaker 3: And I thought, oh my gosh, you registered for a
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  Speaker 3: Christmas tree? Yeah. That's so interesting.
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  Speaker 1: So like one of the artificial ones you can reuse.
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  Speaker 3: Artificial Christmas tree.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes.
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  Speaker 4: I love that.
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  Speaker 1: So when we got engaged, we registered for China and
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  Speaker 1: we got some of it. And most of what we
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  Speaker 1: got had, like, flaws, imperfections. It was damaged. And we
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  Speaker 1: didn't get full sets.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And we were like, eh. So we had registered at
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  Speaker 1: Dillard's for this china. So we took it back to Dillard's,
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  Speaker 1: traded it in for store credit, and we bought bedroom
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  Speaker 1: furniture instead.
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  Speaker 4: There you go.
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  Speaker 1: Bedroom furniture, which we still have.
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  Speaker 4: Well, think about how out of hand these weddings have
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  Speaker 4: gotten through the years. I think it's social media. I mean,
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  Speaker 4: honest to God, Kevin, I pulled pretty much... I mean,
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  Speaker 4: everything out of our savings.
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  Speaker 1: I can't judge. Ours was out of hand. I'll just
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  Speaker 1: tell you that. But go ahead.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I will say this. Kevin, when Summer was little,
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  Speaker 4: little girl, he started putting money in. So it didn't
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  Speaker 4: really do anything to damage us, but it was more
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  Speaker 4: than I ever thought it would be for a wedding
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  Speaker 4: in today's time. So we were talking about how in
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  Speaker 4: our day, you had a picture of the girl who
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  Speaker 4: got engaged in the paper. Terry Spinks is engaged to
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  Speaker 4: Kevin Natterville. And then at the wedding, they had like
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  Speaker 4: little maybe flower, you know, a little vase in the
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  Speaker 4: middle or balloons or whatever. And then you had a
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  Speaker 4: cake and maybe some finger sandwiches and mints and punch.
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  Speaker 4: And then the paper, I mean, and then a picture
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  Speaker 4: of you and your new husband in the paper for
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  Speaker 4: that Sunday. Yeah. You know, so it was so different.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Everything's online now.
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  Speaker 1: Everything's online.
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  Speaker 4: And the price, I think, of the weddings have gone
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  Speaker 4: up because you see something that someone else has done
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  Speaker 4: for their wedding.
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  Speaker 1: And you want to do that.
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  Speaker 4: And you want that.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 4: And as a mom, you want that for your daughter.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and wedding venues have become more of a full industry.
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  Speaker 1: It used to be you'd get married at the church,
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  Speaker 1: and then maybe you'd go into the fellowship hall for
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  Speaker 1: the reception. And now they have entire getaway.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to Hawaii for our wedding and things like this.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I feel like it's kind of gotten out of hand,
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  Speaker 3: and now people are really believing that your wedding now
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  Speaker 3: is all about the gram, Instagram, and what you're posting,
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  Speaker 3: what people are seeing you doing. Then you've got all
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  Speaker 3: these people that are seeing that, and then... Wanting to
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  Speaker 3: mirror exactly that for their own wedding. Our girls just
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  Speaker 3: got back from my daughter's bachelorette weekend and she, we
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  Speaker 3: just had this conversation. Nobody, and I'm going to, I
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  Speaker 3: will die on this hill. Nobody wants to go on
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  Speaker 3: a bachelorette trip. nobody i can't really they do i'm
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  Speaker 3: telling you they do it out of obligation because they
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  Speaker 3: want that bride to feel good but nobody really wants
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  Speaker 3: to spend their money or their time to go with
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  Speaker 3: the girls even some you don't know you'd rather be
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  Speaker 3: with your husband you'd rather be with your family so
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  Speaker 3: to me it's turned into this thing that is ridiculous so.
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  Speaker 1: Bailey and anna claire just had their their batch weekend
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  Speaker 1: because they combined bachelorette and bachelor weekend.
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  Speaker 3: Together that makes and they took.
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  Speaker 1: They took uh, Julia and, and Aiden. So, uh, Bailey's
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  Speaker 1: younger sister and Anna Claire's younger brother, they went and
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  Speaker 1: several of their friends. So it was like a friend.
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  Speaker 1: That's great.
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  Speaker 3: That's a totally different circumstance.
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  Speaker 1: And they all just hung out for the weekend, had
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  Speaker 1: a great time in Arkansas. And that was, that was,
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  Speaker 1: so they did a combined.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I haven't heard of that yet.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So I thought that was kind of cool. Um, and
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  Speaker 1: they all had a great time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And Julia was really looking forward to going on that
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  Speaker 1: trip with Bailey and Anna Claire and their friends. So, um,
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  Speaker 1: maybe that's a better way of doing it. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe so.
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  Speaker 1: Our wedding was out of hand. Really? Our wedding was
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  Speaker 1: New Year's Eve, and it was formal, and we had
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  Speaker 1: two astronauts and a Harlem Globetrotter there.
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  Speaker 4: Because of your dad?
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  Speaker 1: Because of my dad.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It was out of hand. I love it.
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  Speaker 3: But, man, it was awesome.
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  Speaker 1: the Ask the Mamas button. Terri Nettle, Kimberly Burleson, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.