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How To Stop Getting Annoyed In Traffic Jams · Total Barnage

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to Total Barnage.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to another episode.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: This episode is going to be a bit of a different one.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: This is a well a solo episode.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_00: It's just me chatting about maybe not necessarily health and fitness and kind of how to get things done and exploring measures of success or anything else along that vein.
• 0:23
  SPEAKER_00: This is maybe a little bit more of things that we kind of haven't considered, or more so, things that I've just discovered in life in general, but have been the main things which has allowed me to make changes in my life, which has allowed me to change my perspective on things, to let go of previous um methods of thinking which might have served me in the past, but maybe not anymore, and has pretty much just allowed me to experience more life and more emotions and a kind of more grounded perspective on things happening.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_00: So this episode is all going to be about why we should, and I'm going to make the argument for why we should pay more attention to things that happen by accident.
• 1:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um and things that happen when we yeah, that's pretty that's pretty much it.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_00: Things that happen by accident.
• 1:25
  SPEAKER_00: And why paying attention to things happening by accident is the key to uh getting a glimpse of a um a better life or a life that you didn't think that you could experience.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: Now, I think in this episode the kind of toughest thing to be is going to be to communicate this, um, because for me this is one of one of these experiences that I have only just learnt and experienced through um through kind of first hand stuff.
• 1:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's not something that I have been necessarily taught, but that doesn't mean that there aren't ways that hopefully you can also bring this into your own life.
• 2:08
  SPEAKER_00: So, what do I mean by things happening by accident?
• 2:13
  SPEAKER_00: Um couple of really simple examples day to day uh and one of the main things that has been on my mind in the last year, especially is about rushing and about the pace of life being very fast.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: And one simple thing happening, you know, by accident is let's say that if I was or if you were late to a an event, if you were rushing, and then if you compare that to if for some reason your journey took uh less time than expected, or you left the house earlier because of some reason.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: So, you know, by accident, in comparison to you being either on time or or rushing to get somewhere, thinking that you kind of need to need to hurry, um, you accidentally leave the house five to ten minutes early, and then you can kind of pay attention to what that journey was like when you had that five or ten extra minutes.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and maybe this might look like not continually checking uh your Google Maps or your Satnav to see if you're going to get there on time, and on the whole, from my experience, it's that you wouldn't be so focused on the destination, and you'd actually enjoy the actual journey of driving or being on the train or walking or cycling, whatever it may be, just that little bit more.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_00: So, for that example, by accident, you discover that giving yourself an extra five to ten minutes would allow you to enjoy the let's say 45 minute journey and would make you maybe be able to use that time to be more grounded to slow down and to prepare for whatever else is you're going to be met with at the end of it, whether it be um if it's something like a an interview or just turning up to work um or if you're meeting family or anything like that.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I think that's a really simple example that I notice kind of day to day, and I think it's something that you know none of this stuff, by the way, none of this stuff that I'm gonna say today is gonna cost any money.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, it's not something that I can sell to you, uh, it's not something that I can force force you to do.
• 4:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think sometimes maybe you might need a pen and paper, um, but I don't think that's too much to ask.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, but it's yeah, just prompting kind of a new way of thinking.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: So rushing is the main thing.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, that is the main thing that I see in my life, and I see that since I decided to kind of make a little bit more space and to uh kind of try and do less, um, even though there are lots of things that I would love to love to do and love to kind of attack and to get done and to explore and to to kind of find out more about myself in in those ways and to create and and all of that.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_00: But it's kind of doing less and seeing if actually on the whole, giving yourself an extra couple of minutes or doing one less thing a day, uh letting go of that thing that you thought you kind of really need to do, whatever it may be, might be the key just to allow you to enjoy um more of more of the day in those like liminal spaces.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um if it is a if it is a journey from the house to work, from a house to to somewhere else.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: Enjoy that time as well and to kind of make make the most of that.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: So that is that is rushing.
• 5:46
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I think it's a very common thing nowadays.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: I assume the thing is if you're listening to this podcast, then it's probably an element of um patience and uh you kind of appreciate the longer form content, so it's maybe a difficult thing to communicate um on here when it probably be more useful on very short form stuff.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_00: But then again, I don't know how uh information is really received.
• 6:13
  SPEAKER_00: Another thing that could happen by accident, very, very common, especially for me, is uh if something runs out of charge.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_00: Let's say if uh your headphones run out of charge when you're going to the gym or you're going out for a run and you just accidentally, let's say you just don't click the um flip the switch overnight, you've had an absolute disaster, you wake up in the morning and you've got to get going, and you don't have enough time to charge your headphones, and you've got to go out there with no audio, no media.
• 6:45
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, for for a lot of us, that is a frightening, uh, a frightening experience, a frightening challenge, because we need to be listening to things, we need to be um listening and consuming all the time and to to double up or just to enhance the experience of of the run or the gym session or or anything like that.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: And again, you know, the situation like that, um I've had it plenty of times when I have just you know I've just run out of charge with my with my headphones and I have to do my cross-training um with no music.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_00: And by accident, let's say it's again this is I think the main thing with here is you're looking uh when accidents happen, you don't just focus on the negative, you don't just focus on the the dashed expectations, you more so focus on the opportunity to understand more about uh how your state of mind could change with the conditions that you're met with, and so in that moment it is I think it is actually Funnan's probably I'll touch upon it now, is everything here is only really possible if you have that awareness as well.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: So cultivating us awareness, and actually, this is the this is how by accident I discovered uh kind of this um this idea is it has come from paying attention to things and being aware and distancing myself from a situation and things going wrong and dashed expectations and being a little bit more curious about exactly why um and not being too judgmental or too zoomed in.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: So as an easy practice, this is where um just some sort of mindful practice, some sort of slowing down, uh just you know paying attention to your thoughts, to the world around you, just being aware um and slowing down and don't not judging too quick.
• 8:48
  SPEAKER_00: So, any sort of maybe like breathing practice is a good thing to do in an isolated case, so you know sitting down, listening to some sort of guided meditation for five to ten minutes a day, getting into the habit of that and getting over the kind of the fear of our own thoughts, and then beyond that, what it then unlocks is you understand that with the mindfulness, it's not just a practice that you can get better at, or you can just practice it when you're sitting down with your headphones on or you're listening to listen to an audio, some sort of guided something or other, but to actually take that out into the world and to understand that the you know the whole the kind of the point of a mindful practice is so that you can have it wherever in in life, wherever in the day, wherever you are in the country or in the world, and it's not the kind of 7am morning ritual that it's used for, it's not just contained in that.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: It is something that then when you do have these dashed expectations or you have these uh circumstances that you might see as negative circumstances or challenges or obstacles, then you can have a practice to dial back into the present moment and to be aware of what's going on, which then unlocks the ability to be curious about the situation and to distance yourself from it, and then to learn and then beyond that reflect on what parts of the experience um and what conditions may have led to that state of mind, and you having just a um a different time on the bike or a different type of run.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so so yeah, that is I think that's the the fundamental thing is cultivating awareness and that is a practice, um, and it is something which uh is not necessarily for the purpose of anything else, but like I say, it can unlock the curiosity and the groundedness and the reframing of opportunities further down the road.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, for me, headphones, phone running out of charge, not having anything to listen to, or let's say uh my data's run out and I can't uh track my weights, I can't listen to what I wanted to listen to, and so I've got to go about things a different way.
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe sometimes I realise that actually uh I prefer the the accidental circumstance a little bit more than my everyday everyday circumstance.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um the next one, another thing maybe that might happen by accident is accidentally forgetting other people's opinions.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um it sounds a little bit um silly, especially if in if you are concerned a lot with what other people think.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um when I say forget, I don't mean you have to forget for you know for the big moments, the big occasions, or for a couple of days at a time.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: It is literally just noticing and paying attention that at some point in the day you have been distracted by something else for even a split second, even like literally a split second, like or bring it up to a noticeable second or two that you have just briefly temporarily forgotten about uh other people's opinions of you, and the more that you realize that you've forgotten something and that something else has just taken your attention, um for a split second you might feel like you know this is the at the kind of heart of like zoning out, if you just zone out for a second, uh there's something in that that has uh taken your attention from one thing to another, and for me, the more that I realized that I'd forgotten something, um, the more I was able to understand how the mere act of remembering something actually changes your experience of life.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um so what I mean by that is a lot of our experiences are driven by how we our perception of the um experience.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_00: Uh a lot of situations are about how we perceive the situation, how we see it as negative or positive.
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_00: And um this may be kind of deeply rooted in how um how things have gone in the past, the norms that we expect, maybe social norms, um how we kind of see our our limitations maybe and how we see um how we see ourselves and what does this kind of show us with the the fact that the sheer remembering of something um changes our experience it it it shows us that it very much is a state of mind that determines the experience.
• 14:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um for a more concrete example let's say that I'm doing some public speaking uh and I used to hate public speaking.
• 14:12
  SPEAKER_00: Um I I mean I probably still do, I just haven't done it in a while.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_00: I kind of just talk into a microphone or chat to other people on here.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_00: But I did a when I was at school, we had um some of us had to do talks in like just literally just readings in the in the chapel um of our school and we had to do it in front of the whole school, and it wasn't that big of a deal, uh, but I absolutely despised it.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: I absolutely I got f fear, I was just concerned that I would like I would choke, I would slip up, I would kind of lose all of the um the ability to speak, and I and it was only you know like a a a passage from from some sort of extract or something like that, and this was when I was 16 and it was eight o'clock in the morning when we went to chapel, I did this little reading, and obviously I was concerned with it.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: I got given the reading two days before, so I had a good two days to one prepare, but also um to worry about what was going to happen.
• 15:17
  SPEAKER_00: And I did the did the speech, did the reading, um see nerves jangling before, stood up to the the pulpit and kind of shaking a little bit, probably read a little bit too quickly and got it done and it was probably okay.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, oh gosh, thank goodness that's done.
• 15:42
  SPEAKER_00: Just wanted to get it done.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_00: Um for whatever reason, like I didn't reflect too much on didn't know exactly why I was kind of so so fearful like in the moment, I think, but it's understandable, a lot of people are.
• 15:54
  SPEAKER_00: But then when I was walking to my first lesson after that, I had one of my mates, Matt, come up to me and uh he said, Oh, was it you?
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um were you reading this morning?
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_00: Were you doing the reading this morning?
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I was like, Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, it was me.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: And he said, Oh, nice, nice, nice work.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Oh, cheers, thanks Matt, appreciate it.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: And the the thing actually, the the the the story here is not that I actually did okay.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_00: Although he was like, Well done.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Cool, thanks.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_00: The story is actually that he didn't even know if it was me, and he wasn't even paying attention, and I realized in that moment, and actually it's it is like moments like that for me personally, and it might be similar to you listening to this.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it only takes one occurrence to completely change your perspective on things, and that was literally the occurrence that I realised.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, Oh, I kind of thought that everyone was paying attention to every single thing that I would say, wondering if I was going to slip up or wondering if I was gonna say something wrong, and they're not, and then I realised and I also reflected on it after that, and I thought, well, well, yeah, of course they're not, because even though I can't, you know, map everyone's experience as the same as my experience, but I sit there at eight o'clock in a you know, sitting down in chapel, and I can barely remember anything that anyone has said, or if it if it's you know, if it stuck with me, then it stuck with me, but for the most part, you know, I've not remembered anything that um anyone has slipped up on majorly, and nor do I like you know a few years later kind of care about it, and and there is there is a psychological phenomenon, um a kind of bias that is relevant to this, put like this particular thing about um the negative things fading, and that is the fading affect um bias, and that is about kind of never negative experiences um fading more than than positive experiences, and it gives you the confidence to uh that whatever kind of bad you're feeling in the moment it will eventually fade, and you might look at the you might resonate resonate or reminisce on the the good things um about that time and sometimes actually ignore ignore the bad even if it was overwhelmingly like tough.
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: But yeah, I think that you know that accidental um kind of that realization or just that moment when I found out that no one else was really paying attention to me, and it gives a nice kind of freedom.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_00: Um that you know there's a there's a balance between people paying attention, people not paying attention to you and like not really caring too much.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but then also you have people that do care about you deeply, and um, you know, friends, family, um, close ones that um that do actually care about what you're doing, and if you you know if you want to do do well or be yourself or or whatever.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: So there's there is that balance, but it should those two things the support of the people that do care and the lack of care of the people that you think care um is should give you uh a lot of freedom to be able to just like experiment with these uh these sort of experiences in in life.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, the more you realize that you've um temporarily forgotten something, the more that you can understand how the mere act of remembering it changes your experience of life.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_00: And it is if you can uh reflect on an experience, if you can see kind of what conditions uh led to you maybe having a looser grip on the experience or you temporarily forgetting things, then it can give you um kind of the encouragement to just do a little experiment and see if those conditions are replicable.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like if with the with the rushing, you know, was it just a certain thing on that day that made you feel a little bit calmer and enjoy the journey more?
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: Or was it the five to ten minutes that you left to go a bit earlier?
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: So you know, you might find that you try it a couple of times, you leave a little bit early, you really you know do your best to um to make a little bit more space, give yourself a little bit more time, and it might not have replicated the experience as as much as you'd thought, and you're like, okay, maybe it's maybe it's not that.
• 20:37
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I think yeah, paying attention to these initial things which go against our general uh our general flow and kind of like day-to-day cadence of life, um, and just that contrast is something that is really, really worth noticing and paying attention to.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: Uh the next one that I this is just another these are really random things, by the way.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: Like when you're paying attention to um accidents and things happening by accident, it's not like they need to be massive big deals, like these are literally like tiny, tiny changes, and the more that you pay attention, the more you realise that change is is the thing that um is constant in life, and that you shouldn't kind of fear fear change, and actually change can reveal um more, yeah, more experiences of life itself, more emotions and um more kind of deeper experiences and connections and and stuff like that.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_00: Uh yeah, this is this is gonna seem like a really random one, but I um I do like to reach and find little stories and lessons in the most mundane of experiences.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: And this one is about my TV remote.
• 21:54
  SPEAKER_00: So the way that I turn my uh our TV on in our living room is We've got one remote which does the TV itself, one button that says TV power, um, and then the other button that does the TV box, and then we've got another remote which does the TV speaker, and what I did for a while, a few years back, was there was always a little bit of a delay on the TV box.
• 22:22
  SPEAKER_00: So I do the the power, I do the speaker, they both turn on, and then I'd kind of like uh keep pressing the TV box button um because it took a little bit longer, and you know, assuredly after about three to five seconds uh it would it would come on.
• 22:41
  SPEAKER_00: And one day I uh didn't spam the TV box um button, I just clicked the TV power, I clicked the speaker, and then I clicked another random button, I clicked the home button, and the TV turned on, the TV box turned on within about three to five seconds, and I was like, huh, something's going on here.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: I wonder if it's you know like any any button on the remote that uh that turns on the TV box and it just has that lag and delay.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: So I tried different buttons, I tried the tried the numbers at the bottom, and it still worked.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: I was like, fantastic, wow, any button you click um then leads a bit of a cause and effect, it leads to the TV box turning on.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: And then I thought, well, okay, I'm not I'm not in a rush to turn the TV on.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_00: I've got a you know, I can I can wait like 10 seconds.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: Let me see how long it would take without me pressing any buttons, and lo and behold, lo and behold, the TV box turned on within three to five seconds.
• 23:54
  SPEAKER_00: Now, uh you're probably laughing at me, wondering, like, what the hell what the hell is this kid doing?
• 23:59
  SPEAKER_00: Why is he doing an experiment um across different days?
• 24:03
  SPEAKER_00: And by the way, like I'm not sitting down and turning the TV off, like I'm not running that experiment, but actually that would have sped up the um the result and the understanding of the cause and effect of the whole situation.
• 24:12
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I just do it day on day and just notice and pay attention.
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_00: And um what I realized was that I didn't need to press the other button more than you know just the TV power button, and it did it automatically.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: So my involvement in that second part of the whole button pressing was completely irrelevant, and it would have happened anyway.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: And I think that is that is something I'm sure you know if if you have a think about other things that that might be applied to uh in life when when you think that your involvement kind of accelerates the process or is necessary for the process to happen, but it's actually just you know, if you do nothing, you'd still have the same the same outcome.
• 24:59
  SPEAKER_00: Uh, maybe a lot of you know a lot of health stuff, maybe some injuries um you might find that it would have just got better on its own, let's say.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but obviously, from an injury perspective, still go and do everything you can to to find out the best way to to get back as quickly as possible.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: If that's something that's meaningful to you.
• 25:19
  SPEAKER_00: But I think the thing that resonates with me is when things happen anyway, and misattributing your involvement in things, one of them, which is key, is does thinking about something all the time help that outcome to come about?
• 25:36
  SPEAKER_00: So there is uh like manifestation, there is you know, trying to um basically getting from a brain perspective, it's getting that positive uh feedback, that reinforcement to give you um the motivation to keep you in line with the actions that are gonna make that outcome like possible, and so manifesting something in the future will probably make it more likely that you do the actions um themselves.
• 26:04
  SPEAKER_00: But does general thinking day to day impact the outcome of something?
• 26:10
  SPEAKER_00: So, for example, let's take um you're going to the gym or you're doing some sort of exercise, you've got a race, or you've got something that you it's going to be quite difficult in the evening on the day.
• 26:24
  SPEAKER_00: Is you thinking about it all day going to benefit the outcome of how well you are going to um perform?
• 26:35
  SPEAKER_00: Now, there is probably a balance here, there is probably a balance between planning and then overthinking and worrying, kind of like the diminishing returns.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_00: It's probably necessary to plan somewhat for a for a competition or a session to make sure that you are you know what you are doing or you want to get into the right frame of mind.
• 27:00
  SPEAKER_00: But beyond the planning, and once you've decided to make a plan, do you need to then worry about it any longer?
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: Are you just thinking for the sake of thinking about it?
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: And actually, do you need to give it any more attention and worry, or can you just develop that trust that when that session or whatever comes about, you have a uh a three-minute or a one-minute or even a 15-minute, or even on the drive down, you can get yourself into that mind mind frame and remind yourself that um you can just get into yeah, into that right frame of mind.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: So, yeah, does thinking about something beyond a certain point have any influence on the outcome, or even going further, does thinking about it and suffering in your mind, first of all, could it be completely pointless?
• 27:54
  SPEAKER_00: But second of all, could it make the outcome worse?
• 27:57
  SPEAKER_00: Could you actually use little micro engagements like throughout the day using those little bits of energy to keep thinking about what's gonna happen later?
• 28:05
  SPEAKER_00: Would they actually make you uh drained of energy, or would you go into more a thought spiral rather than something which is um which is going to be useful to apply to the the race or the competition or the session?
• 28:19
  SPEAKER_00: Have you thought your way out of it?
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_00: Have you psyched yourself out?
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_00: Have you used the energy to hype yourself up uh in the morning that could have been better used just to hype yourself later on?
• 28:29
  SPEAKER_00: And at risk of not going into you know too much about this whole topic as a whole, that even applies to um in rep motivation and when you can allocate your uh let's say like uh psyching yourself up, hyping yourself up for a set or a rep if you have a set of 12 reps to do.
• 28:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um with the first four or five reps, you could probably do pretty pretty comfortably.
• 28:59
  SPEAKER_00: You probably don't need to hype yourself up for those four or five reps.
• 29:03
  SPEAKER_00: And you could delay it and only then you wait and then hype yourself up once it starts getting hard, instead of using up all the energy of getting really amped up right at the start of the set, and then by the by the fifth or sixth rep, you've gone so hard on the first few, unnecessarily, because you're gonna lift it anyway, it's fine, um, or you're gonna run it anyway that you actually fatigue yourself later on down the line.
• 29:28
  SPEAKER_00: So allocating your kind of resources and your thinking um to the right situations, and this is yeah, understanding like experimenting on one day, you might naturally and you might not plan this, but you might reflect and think, Oh gosh, I was yeah, I was thinking loads about it, and actually, how did it turn out?
• 29:48
  SPEAKER_00: Like, how did the session turn out?
• 29:50
  SPEAKER_00: And it turned out the same as if I didn't think about it.
• 29:53
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, if you look at science, if you look at scientific experiments, if you look at the how thorough these experiments are and the development of scientific understanding, you cannot you cannot like split tests, you can't have a control variable for things that you do in life, you can't go back and recorrect it, you can't have perfect conditions for it.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_00: But I think for understanding yourself and understanding the experience that you have better, doing these experiments to have a oh, more often than not, this rule applies.
• 30:28
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, more often than not, I do perform better when I think about it during the day.
• 30:33
  SPEAKER_00: But more often than not, I perform worse when I think about it for the whole day, all the time.
• 30:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, on the whole, more often than not, I uh when I plan for an episode like this, I do better if I just write down four or five different ideas.
• 30:54
  SPEAKER_00: But maybe other episodes I might need to have a little bit a more um more detailed plan and maybe some quotes or maybe something that is more structured.
• 31:06
  SPEAKER_00: So these things and what we're 40, 46 episodes in.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_00: For me, the whole thing with this year, we're trying to do on average like two podcast episodes a week, is to basically just see what works, see what some people like.
• 31:23
  SPEAKER_00: We chat around the gym, we ask, you know, what episodes people liked, um, and just to basically just do an experiment.
• 31:30
  SPEAKER_00: Like we don't have enough volume to have a full scientific experiment, and it depends what people want to listen to at the time, so it's not gonna be it's not gonna be as clean as pure science, but it does get a decent, like a bit of better understanding and a bit of direction to uh how we would want to progress with with things.
• 31:49
  SPEAKER_00: So yeah, do your do your thoughts actually have as much of a purpose as you think they do, um, or is it after a while is it actually just worrying but you put them down as thinking?
• 32:06
  SPEAKER_00: I reckon I'm gonna leave it there for this episode today, all about things happening by accident.
• 32:13
  SPEAKER_00: Um, the practice that I would really encourage you to use alongside with this is to make a note of these experiences and how they might be different when accidents, um when things that go against your expectations come about, and to investigate that process to see if there are any nuggets of gold that might have been holding you back before, or ones that would lead you to having a more enjoyable day today.
• 32:42
  SPEAKER_00: So, pen and paper, notes app, journal, anything that you can make a record of, and then you don't need to you know remember it, you just have it down on the piece of paper, you have it down in the book, you have it on your phone, and then you can come back to it and have a look at that kind of soft experimentation and exploration and uh see what's what.
• 33:07
  SPEAKER_00: See what's what.
• 33:08
  SPEAKER_00: Um like I say, this is a very different different type of podcast.
• 33:12
  SPEAKER_00: Uh something which might seem very, very futile and um and unimportant, but for me it's unlocked a lot of a lot of life experiences that I didn't think that I could have.
• 33:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I am very grateful for that.
• 33:26
  SPEAKER_00: But the main thing is cultivating awareness and then it's in the moment paying attention to um and being curious of how circumstances uh pan out when they go against your expectations.
• 33:39
  SPEAKER_00: Uh thank you very much for listening.
• 33:41
  SPEAKER_00: If you do enjoy this type of episode, drop me a message.
• 33:44
  SPEAKER_00: Uh I might do it every now and then, but if it is something that you found valuable, then I have a lot more of these little uh ideas that I find very significant.
• 33:55
  SPEAKER_00: But thank you for listening.
• 33:57
  SPEAKER_00: Uh drop a like, share it with a friend if you think that they might enjoy it, and we'll see you in the next episode.