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109. When Peacemaking is Lying in Disguise · Burning Brightly

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  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  told
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  someone
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  the
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  truth
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  and
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  immediately
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  regretted
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  how
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  it
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  sounded
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  coming
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  out?
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  Or
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  maybe
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  worse,
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  you've
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  kept
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  back
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  the
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  truth
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  just
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  to
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  keep
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  the
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  peace,
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  and
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  then
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  regretted
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  that
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  even
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  more?
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  That
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  tension,
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  that
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  push
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  and
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  pull,
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  doesn't
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  mean
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  there's
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  anything
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  wrong
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  with
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  you.
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  It
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  most
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  challenging
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  balances
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  we
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  have
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  to
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  strike
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  as
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  a
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  human,
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  the
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  balance
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  between
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  truth
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  and
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  love.
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  Today
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  we're
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  gonna
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  talk
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  about
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  why
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  this
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  is
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  so
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  difficult
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  and
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  why
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  learning
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  to
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  master
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  it
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  is
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  greatest
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  skills
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  you'll
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  ever
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  develop.
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  This
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  is
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  Burning
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  Brightly,
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  a
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  podcast
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  for
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  Christian
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  moms
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  who
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  are
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  feeling
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  called
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  share
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  their
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  light
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  with
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  the
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  world.
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  I'm
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  Bonnie
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  Wiscombe,
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  mom,
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  and
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  entrepreneur,
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  and
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  I'm
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  honored
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  guide
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  as
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  you
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  face
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  this
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  business
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  building
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  adventure
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  full
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  of
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  highs,
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  lows,
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  and
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  help
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  each
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  other
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  find
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  the
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  courage
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  to
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  shine.
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  Welcome,
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  friends.
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  I'm
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  so
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  glad
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  you're
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  here
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  listening
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  to
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  Burning
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  Brightly.
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  Today
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  I
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  have
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  a
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  really
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  interesting
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  episode
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  that
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  has
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  been
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  on
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  my
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  heart
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  for
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  a
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  long
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  time.
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  I
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  really
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  feel
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  like
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  God
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  has
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  been
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  trying
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  to
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  teach
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  me
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  this
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  concept
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  for
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  years,
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  and
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  I'm
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  slowly
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  but
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  surely
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  learning,
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  I
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  think.
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  But
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  it's
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  the
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  balance
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  between
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  truth
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  and
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  love.
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  And
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  if
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  you've
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  noticed,
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  it
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  appears
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  that
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  the
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  world
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  sometimes
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  tries
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  to
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  split
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  these
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  two
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  into
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  opposing
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  camps,
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  almost
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  like
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  you
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  have
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  to
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  choose
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  a
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  side,
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  right?
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  You
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  either
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  are
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  all
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  loving
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  and
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  super
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  sweet
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  and
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  sensitive,
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  or
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  you
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  tell
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  the
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  truth
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  and
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  you
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  do
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  so
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  kind
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  of
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  harshly,
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  right?
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  But
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  here's
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  the
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  thing,
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  truth
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  without
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  love
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  is
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  actually
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  kind
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  of
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  a
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  weapon
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  sometimes.,
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  It's
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  very
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  unkind
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  and
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  harsh.
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  Love
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  without
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  truth
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  becomes
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  kind
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  of
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  a
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  comfortable
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  lie.
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  Neither
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  one
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  on
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  its
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  own
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  actually
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  serves
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  you
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  or
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  the
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  person
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  you're
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  talking
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  to.
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  We
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  actually
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  need
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  both.
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  So
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  if
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  you've
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  never
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  thought
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  about
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  this
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  concept,
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  it
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  might
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  take
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  a
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  minute
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  to
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  wrap
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  your
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  head
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  around
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  it.
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  But
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  I
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  hope
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  by
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  the
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  end
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  of
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  the
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  episode,
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  it
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  will
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  become
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  clearer,
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  and
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  you'll
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  start
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  seeing
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  this
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  concept
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  play
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  out
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  over
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  and
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  over
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  in
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  your
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  life.
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  I
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  wanna
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  start
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  off
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  by
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  sharing
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  a
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  scripture.
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  In
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  Ephesians
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  4:15,
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  it
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  says,
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  "We
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  need
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  to
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  speak
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  the
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  truth
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  in
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  love."
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  Speak
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  the
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  truth
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  in
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  love.
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  This
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  is
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  basically
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  the
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  entire
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  episode
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  right
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  there.
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  This
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  is
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  what
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  we're
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  trying
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  to
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  learn
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  how
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  to
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  do,
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  to
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  always
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  speak
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  truth,
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  but
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  to
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  do
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  so
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  with
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  love,
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  okay?
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  This
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  isn't
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  just
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  a
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  nice
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  idea.
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  We
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  hear
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  about
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  this
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  actually
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  over
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  and
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  over
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  in
• 2:16
  the
• 2:16
  scriptures
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  In
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  fact,
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  one
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  of
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  my
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  favorite
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  chapters
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  in
• 2:19
  all
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  of
• 2:20
  scripture
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  is
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  2
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  Nephi
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  2.
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  We
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  actually
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  just
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  read
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  this
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  with
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  my
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  family,
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  and
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  I
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  love
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  it
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  so
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  much.
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  In
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  fact,
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  my
• 2:24
  kids
• 2:24
  couldn't
• 2:24
  get
• 2:24
  me
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  to
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  stop
• 2:25
  talking
• 2:25
  about
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  it
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  because
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  it
• 2:26
  talks
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  about
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  that
• 2:27
  doctrinal
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  concept
• 2:28
  of
• 2:28
  opposition
• 2:29
  in
• 2:29
  all
• 2:29
  things.
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  And
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  through
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  that,
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  we
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  learn
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  that
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  truth
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  and
• 2:32
  love
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  are
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  not
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  opposites
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  fighting
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  each
• 2:34
  other.
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  They're
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  actually
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  complementary
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  forces.
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  Each
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  is
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  required
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  for
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  the
• 2:39
  other
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  one
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  to
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  function,
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  kind
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  of
• 2:41
  like
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  light
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  and
• 2:42
  dark
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  or
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  sweet
• 2:43
  and
• 2:44
  bitter
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  or
• 2:45
  joy
• 2:45
  and
• 2:45
  sadness,
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  okay?
• 2:47
  They're
• 2:47
  all
• 2:48
  required
• 2:48
  to
• 2:48
  have
• 2:49
  the
• 2:49
  full
• 2:49
  human
• 2:49
  experience.
• 2:50
  You
• 2:50
  cannot
• 2:51
  have
• 2:51
  one
• 2:51
  without
• 2:52
  the
• 2:52
  other.
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  Now,
• 2:53
  I
• 2:53
  want
• 2:53
  to
• 2:53
  share
• 2:54
  an
• 2:54
  experience
• 2:55
  with
• 2:55
  you
• 2:55
  guys
• 2:55
  that
• 2:55
  I
• 2:55
  think
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  will
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  help
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  this
• 2:56
  hit
• 2:56
  home.
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  I
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  have
• 2:58
  been
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  a
• 2:58
  quintessential
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  people
• 2:59
  pleaser
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  my
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  entire
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  life.
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  Something
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  about
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  being
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  the
• 3:01
  oldest
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  daughter.
• 3:02
  I
• 3:02
  don't
• 3:02
  know.
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  It
• 3:03
  has
• 3:04
  been
• 3:04
  so
• 3:05
  hard
• 3:05
  for
• 3:05
  me
• 3:05
  to
• 3:05
  learn
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  to
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  speak
• 3:06
  truth,
• 3:07
  even
• 3:08
  if
• 3:08
  it
• 3:08
  might
• 3:08
  hurt
• 3:09
  someone's
• 3:09
  feelings.
• 3:09
  Now,
• 3:10
  I'm
• 3:10
  not
• 3:10
  talking
• 3:10
  about
• 3:10
  doing
• 3:11
  so
• 3:11
  harshly,
• 3:11
  right?
• 3:11
  I'm
• 3:11
  talking
• 3:12
  about
• 3:12
  doing
• 3:12
  so
• 3:12
  in
• 3:12
  love.
• 3:13
  But
• 3:13
  even
• 3:13
  in
• 3:14
  love,
• 3:14
  saying
• 3:15
  things
• 3:15
  that
• 3:15
  might
• 3:16
  ruffle
• 3:16
  feathers
• 3:16
  is
• 3:16
  incredibly
• 3:17
  difficult
• 3:18
  for
• 3:18
  me.
• 3:18
  It
• 3:18
  still
• 3:18
  is.
• 3:19
  I'm
• 3:19
  still
• 3:19
  working
• 3:19
  on
• 3:20
  this,
• 3:20
  but
• 3:20
  I've
• 3:20
  gotten
• 3:20
  better.
• 3:21
  So
• 3:21
  maybe
• 3:22
  17
• 3:23
  or
• 3:23
  18
• 3:23
  years
• 3:23
  ago,
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  was
• 3:25
  at
• 3:25
  a
• 3:25
  play
• 3:26
  date
• 3:26
  with
• 3:26
  a
• 3:26
  friend
• 3:26
  who
• 3:26
  I
• 3:27
  love
• 3:27
  dearly.
• 3:27
  I
• 3:28
  still
• 3:28
  love
• 3:28
  her.
• 3:29
  And
• 3:29
  she
• 3:30
  was
• 3:30
  very,
• 3:30
  very
• 3:30
  good
• 3:31
  at
• 3:31
  saying
• 3:32
  what
• 3:32
  she
• 3:32
  needed
• 3:32
  and
• 3:32
  what
• 3:33
  she
• 3:33
  wanted,
• 3:33
  very
• 3:33
  good
• 3:34
  at
• 3:34
  speaking
• 3:34
  truth,
• 3:34
  and
• 3:34
  she
• 3:34
  did
• 3:34
  so
• 3:35
  out
• 3:35
  of
• 3:35
  love.
• 3:36
  But
• 3:36
  I
• 3:37
  liked
• 3:37
  to
• 3:38
  not
• 3:38
  always
• 3:38
  say
• 3:39
  what
• 3:39
  I
• 3:39
  was
• 3:39
  thinking
• 3:40
  for
• 3:40
  fear
• 3:40
  of
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  being
• 3:41
  confrontational,
• 3:42
  right?
• 3:42
  Like,
• 3:42
  that
• 3:42
  was
• 3:43
  a,
• 3:43
  hard
• 3:43
  thing
• 3:43
  for
• 3:43
  me.
• 3:44
  And
• 3:44
  at
• 3:44
  this
• 3:44
  play
• 3:45
  date,
• 3:45
  this
• 3:45
  specific
• 3:45
  day,
• 3:47
  I
• 3:47
  can't
• 3:47
  remember
• 3:47
  even
• 3:47
  what
• 3:47
  happened,
• 3:48
  but
• 3:48
  there
• 3:48
  was
• 3:48
  some
• 3:48
  sort
• 3:49
  of
• 3:49
  conflict
• 3:49
  between
• 3:49
  our
• 3:50
  kids.
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  And
• 3:51
  the
• 3:51
  way
• 3:51
  she
• 3:51
  approached
• 3:52
  it
• 3:52
  kind
• 3:53
  of
• 3:53
  hurt
• 3:53
  my
• 3:53
  feelings.
• 3:54
  And
• 3:55
  whether
• 3:55
  she
• 3:55
  was
• 3:55
  right
• 3:55
  or
• 3:56
  I
• 3:56
  was
• 3:56
  right,
• 3:56
  it
• 3:56
  doesn't
• 3:57
  matter.
• 3:57
  But
• 3:57
  what
• 3:57
  mattered
• 3:58
  is
• 3:58
  that
• 3:58
  I
• 3:58
  walked
• 3:59
  away
• 3:59
  in
• 3:59
  silence,
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  just
• 4:00
  kind
• 4:00
  of
• 4:00
  fuming.
• 4:01
  I
• 4:01
  didn't
• 4:01
  tell
• 4:02
  her
• 4:02
  what
• 4:02
  bothered
• 4:02
  me
• 4:03
  about
• 4:03
  the
• 4:03
  situation,
• 4:04
  and
• 4:04
  instead
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  let
• 4:05
  it
• 4:05
  fester.
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  just
• 4:07
  packed
• 4:07
  up
• 4:07
  my
• 4:07
  kids
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  left
• 4:08
  kind
• 4:08
  of
• 4:08
  in
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  huff.
• 4:09
  And
• 4:09
  as
• 4:09
  I'm
• 4:09
  driving
• 4:10
  home,
• 4:10
  I'm
• 4:10
  thinking,
• 4:11
  "This
• 4:11
  is
• 4:11
  dumb.
• 4:12
  I
• 4:12
  love
• 4:12
  this
• 4:12
  friend,
• 4:13
  and
• 4:13
  I
• 4:13
  know
• 4:13
  she
• 4:13
  didn't
• 4:14
  mean
• 4:14
  to
• 4:14
  hurt
• 4:14
  my
• 4:14
  feelings."
• 4:15
  But
• 4:16
  I
• 4:16
  felt
• 4:17
  slighted,
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  felt
• 4:18
  like
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  needed
• 4:19
  to
• 4:19
  tell
• 4:20
  her
• 4:20
  that,
• 4:20
  and
• 4:21
  that
• 4:21
  it
• 4:21
  was
• 4:21
  only
• 4:21
  going
• 4:21
  to
• 4:22
  benefit
• 4:22
  our
• 4:22
  relationship,
• 4:23
  especially
• 4:23
  because,
• 4:23
  like
• 4:23
  I
• 4:23
  said,
• 4:24
  because
• 4:24
  she
• 4:24
  was
• 4:24
  so
• 4:24
  good
• 4:24
  at
• 4:24
  this
• 4:25
  herself
• 4:25
  on
• 4:25
  her
• 4:25
  own,
• 4:25
  right?
• 4:26
  So
• 4:26
  I
• 4:26
  called
• 4:26
  her
• 4:27
  later
• 4:27
  and
• 4:27
  I
• 4:27
  said,
• 4:27
  "Hey,
• 4:28
  I
• 4:28
  just
• 4:28
  want
• 4:28
  you
• 4:28
  to
• 4:28
  know
• 4:29
  that
• 4:29
  what
• 4:29
  went
• 4:29
  down
• 4:30
  I
• 4:30
  didn't
• 4:30
  think
• 4:30
  was
• 4:30
  right.
• 4:31
  It
• 4:31
  hurt
• 4:31
  my
• 4:31
  feelings,
• 4:32
  and
• 4:32
  this
• 4:32
  is
• 4:32
  why,"
• 4:32
  blah,
• 4:32
  blah,
• 4:32
  blah.
• 4:33
  "I
• 4:33
  just
• 4:33
  wanted
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  let
• 4:33
  you
• 4:33
  know
• 4:33
  because
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  love
• 4:34
  you
• 4:34
  and
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  value
• 4:34
  our
• 4:34
  relationship."
• 4:35
  And
• 4:35
  she
• 4:36
  responded
• 4:36
  with,
• 4:36
  "Oh,
• 4:37
  I'm
• 4:37
  so
• 4:37
  sorry
• 4:38
  that
• 4:38
  hurt
• 4:38
  your
• 4:38
  feelings.
• 4:38
  That
• 4:39
  wasn't
• 4:39
  my
• 4:39
  intention."
• 4:40
  The
• 4:40
  end.
• 4:42
  It
• 4:42
  didn't
• 4:42
  escalate
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  situation,
• 4:43
  it
• 4:43
  didn't
• 4:43
  make
• 4:44
  things
• 4:44
  worse,
• 4:44
  it
• 4:44
  made
• 4:44
  it
• 4:45
  so
• 4:45
  much
• 4:45
  better.
• 4:46
  And
• 4:46
  then
• 4:46
  all
• 4:47
  of
• 4:47
  a
• 4:47
  sudden,
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  felt
• 4:48
  empowered
• 4:49
  to
• 4:49
  tell
• 4:49
  people
• 4:50
  how
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  was
• 4:50
  feeling,
• 4:51
  to
• 4:51
  stand
• 4:52
  up
• 4:52
  for
• 4:52
  myself
• 4:52
  and
• 4:52
  my
• 4:52
  children,
• 4:53
  and
• 4:53
  to
• 4:54
  do
• 4:54
  so
• 4:54
  in
• 4:54
  a
• 4:54
  loving
• 4:55
  and
• 4:55
  kind
• 4:55
  way.
• 4:55
  And
• 4:56
  thankfully,
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  initially
• 4:57
  did
• 4:57
  this
• 4:58
  with
• 4:58
  a
• 4:58
  friend
• 4:58
  who
• 4:58
  was
• 4:58
  a
• 4:59
  safe
• 4:59
  person,
• 4:59
  and
• 5:00
  who
• 5:00
  responded
• 5:00
  so
• 5:00
  kindly.
• 5:01
  So
• 5:02
  that
• 5:02
  was
• 5:02
  one
• 5:02
  of
• 5:02
  the
• 5:02
  very
• 5:03
  first
• 5:03
  experiences.
• 5:03
  You
• 5:04
  guys,
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  was,
• 5:04
  like,
• 5:04
  28
• 5:05
  years
• 5:05
  old.
• 5:06
  I
• 5:06
  was
• 5:06
  not
• 5:06
  a
• 5:06
  child.
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  should've
• 5:07
  known
• 5:07
  better
• 5:07
  at
• 5:08
  that
• 5:08
  point.
• 5:09
  But
• 5:09
  that
• 5:09
  was
• 5:09
  one
• 5:10
  of
• 5:10
  the
• 5:10
  very
• 5:10
  first
• 5:10
  experiences
• 5:11
  where
• 5:11
  I
• 5:11
  stood
• 5:12
  up
• 5:12
  for
• 5:12
  myself
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  did
• 5:13
  so
• 5:13
  in
• 5:13
  a
• 5:13
  way
• 5:13
  that
• 5:13
  made
• 5:14
  me
• 5:14
  very
• 5:14
  nervous,
• 5:15
  but
• 5:15
  was
• 5:15
  actually
• 5:16
  very
• 5:17
  well-accepted.
• 5:18
  so
• 5:18
  this
• 5:18
  is
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  great
• 5:19
  example
• 5:19
  of
• 5:19
  how
• 5:19
  this
• 5:20
  truth
• 5:20
  and
• 5:20
  love
• 5:20
  dichotomy
• 5:21
  shows
• 5:21
  up
• 5:21
  in
• 5:21
  our
• 5:21
  relationships.
• 5:23
  I'm
• 5:23
  sure
• 5:23
  you've
• 5:24
  known
• 5:24
  someone
• 5:25
  who
• 5:25
  is
• 5:25
  not
• 5:26
  a
• 5:26
  very
• 5:26
  kind
• 5:26
  person,
• 5:27
  but
• 5:27
  their
• 5:28
  excuse
• 5:28
  is,
• 5:28
  "Well,
• 5:28
  I'm
• 5:28
  just
• 5:29
  being
• 5:29
  honest."
• 5:30
  You're
• 5:31
  like,
• 5:31
  "Yeah,
• 5:32
  thanks.
• 5:32
  You're
• 5:32
  honest."
• 5:32
  You
• 5:33
  know.
• 5:33
  Like,
• 5:33
  no
• 5:33
  offense,
• 5:34
  but,
• 5:34
  yeah,
• 5:34
  if
• 5:34
  you
• 5:34
  have
• 5:34
  to
• 5:35
  say
• 5:35
  "no
• 5:35
  offense,"
• 5:35
  it's
• 5:35
  probably
• 5:35
  offensive,
• 5:36
  right?
• 5:37
  Or
• 5:37
  those
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  us
• 5:38
  that
• 5:38
  are
• 5:38
  like
• 5:38
  me,
• 5:38
  the
• 5:39
  conflict
• 5:39
  avoiders,
• 5:40
  who
• 5:40
  justify
• 5:41
  silence
• 5:41
  as
• 5:42
  being
• 5:42
  kind.
• 5:42
  "I'm
• 5:43
  just,
• 5:43
  I'm
• 5:43
  just
• 5:43
  gonna
• 5:43
  do
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  kind
• 5:44
  thing
• 5:44
  and
• 5:44
  stay
• 5:44
  quiet."
• 5:45
  But
• 5:46
  is
• 5:46
  it?
• 5:46
  Is
• 5:46
  it
• 5:47
  the
• 5:47
  kind
• 5:48
  thing?
• 5:48
  Deep
• 5:48
  down,
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  think
• 5:49
  we
• 5:49
  know
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  both
• 5:50
  extremes
• 5:51
  don't
• 5:51
  actually
• 5:52
  feel
• 5:52
  like
• 5:52
  love.
• 5:53
  Just
• 5:53
  being
• 5:53
  honest
• 5:54
  when
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  know
• 5:54
  it's
• 5:54
  gonna
• 5:54
  harm
• 5:55
  somebody,
• 5:55
  that's
• 5:55
  not
• 5:55
  love.
• 5:56
  And
• 5:57
  keeping
• 5:57
  silent,
• 5:57
  not
• 5:57
  telling
• 5:58
  people
• 5:58
  what
• 5:58
  you
• 5:58
  think
• 5:58
  and
• 5:59
  feel
• 6:00
  because
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  want
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  avoid
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  conflict,
• 6:01
  that's
• 6:01
  also
• 6:01
  not
• 6:02
  love.
• 6:03
  That's
• 6:03
  actually
• 6:03
  just
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  lie,
• 6:04
  right?
• 6:05
  Real
• 6:06
  love
• 6:06
  requires
• 6:07
  courage.
• 6:08
  It
• 6:09
  tells
• 6:09
  the
• 6:09
  truth,
• 6:09
  but
• 6:10
  it
• 6:10
  does
• 6:10
  so
• 6:10
  gently
• 6:11
  and
• 6:11
  at
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  right
• 6:11
  time,
• 6:12
  and
• 6:12
  with
• 6:13
  the
• 6:13
  right
• 6:13
  motive.
• 6:14
  It
• 6:15
  doesn't
• 6:15
  bulldoze
• 6:15
  people,
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  it
• 6:17
  doesn't
• 6:17
  insult
• 6:18
  people,
• 6:18
  but
• 6:18
  it
• 6:19
  also
• 6:19
  doesn't
• 6:19
  go
• 6:20
  quiet
• 6:20
  when
• 6:21
  that
• 6:21
  silence
• 6:21
  would
• 6:21
  do
• 6:22
  harm.
• 6:23
  I
• 6:23
  have
• 6:23
  so
• 6:24
  many
• 6:24
  other
• 6:24
  experiences,
• 6:25
  way
• 6:25
  too
• 6:25
  many
• 6:25
  to
• 6:25
  share
• 6:26
  here
• 6:26
  about
• 6:26
  when
• 6:27
  I
• 6:27
  have
• 6:27
  stayed
• 6:27
  quiet,
• 6:28
  and
• 6:28
  it
• 6:28
  has
• 6:28
  harmed
• 6:29
  my
• 6:29
  relationship.
• 6:30
  Because
• 6:30
  here's
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  thing:
• 6:31
  do
• 6:31
  you
• 6:32
  actually
• 6:32
  want
• 6:32
  a
• 6:32
  relationship
• 6:33
  with
• 6:33
  someone
• 6:33
  who
• 6:33
  lies
• 6:33
  to
• 6:34
  you?
• 6:35
  I
• 6:35
  don't.
• 6:36
  Even
• 6:36
  if
• 6:36
  that
• 6:36
  lie
• 6:37
  is
• 6:38
  a
• 6:38
  white
• 6:39
  lie
• 6:39
  or
• 6:39
  a
• 6:39
  lie
• 6:39
  of
• 6:39
  omission
• 6:40
  because
• 6:40
  they
• 6:40
  think
• 6:40
  the
• 6:40
  truth
• 6:41
  might
• 6:41
  hurt
• 6:41
  my
• 6:41
  feelings.
• 6:42
  Frankly,
• 6:42
  it's
• 6:42
  kind
• 6:42
  of
• 6:42
  insulting
• 6:44
  to
• 6:44
  not
• 6:44
  tell
• 6:44
  someone
• 6:44
  the
• 6:44
  truth
• 6:45
  because
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  think
• 6:45
  it
• 6:45
  might
• 6:46
  hurt
• 6:46
  them.
• 6:47
  let's
• 6:47
  treat
• 6:47
  each
• 6:47
  other
• 6:47
  like
• 6:47
  adults,
• 6:48
  right?
• 6:49
  If
• 6:49
  it
• 6:49
  does
• 6:49
  hurt
• 6:49
  them
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  didn't
• 6:50
  mean
• 6:50
  it,
• 6:51
  That
• 6:51
  might
• 6:51
  indicate
• 6:52
  that
• 6:52
  they
• 6:52
  have
• 6:52
  some
• 6:53
  emotional
• 6:53
  maturity
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  work
• 6:54
  on.
• 6:54
  Again,
• 6:55
  we're
• 6:55
  not
• 6:55
  doing
• 6:55
  this
• 6:55
  to
• 6:56
  harm
• 6:56
  people,
• 6:57
  but
• 6:57
  if
• 6:57
  we
• 6:57
  say
• 6:57
  something
• 6:58
  and
• 6:58
  our
• 6:58
  intentions
• 6:59
  are
• 6:59
  loving
• 6:59
  and
• 6:59
  pure
• 6:59
  and
• 6:59
  that
• 7:00
  person
• 7:00
  takes
• 7:00
  it
• 7:00
  the
• 7:00
  wrong
• 7:00
  way,
• 7:02
  that's
• 7:02
  actually
• 7:02
  not
• 7:03
  our
• 7:03
  responsibility
• 7:03
  anymore.
• 7:04
  so,
• 7:05
  so,
• 7:05
  so
• 7:05
  critical
• 7:06
  in
• 7:06
  our
• 7:06
  relationships
• 7:07
  with
• 7:07
  our
• 7:07
  family
• 7:07
  members
• 7:08
  and
• 7:08
  friends.
• 7:09
  Now,
• 7:10
  what
• 7:10
  about
• 7:10
  parenting?
• 7:11
  Well,
• 7:11
  obviously,
• 7:11
  these
• 7:11
  are
• 7:11
  relationships
• 7:12
  as
• 7:12
  well,
• 7:12
  but
• 7:13
  as
• 7:13
  parents,
• 7:14
  it's
• 7:14
  kind
• 7:14
  of
• 7:14
  a
• 7:14
  unique
• 7:15
  relationship,
• 7:15
  right?
• 7:15
  We
• 7:15
  have
• 7:16
  this
• 7:16
  leadership
• 7:16
  role
• 7:17
  That
• 7:17
  we
• 7:17
  have
• 7:18
  to
• 7:18
  step
• 7:18
  into
• 7:19
  with
• 7:19
  our
• 7:19
  children.
• 7:20
  Do
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  tell
• 7:21
  your
• 7:21
  child
• 7:21
  their
• 7:21
  drawing
• 7:22
  is
• 7:22
  beautiful
• 7:23
  even
• 7:24
  when
• 7:24
  it
• 7:24
  sucks?
• 7:26
  I'm
• 7:26
  not
• 7:27
  saying
• 7:27
  you
• 7:27
  should
• 7:27
  or
• 7:27
  you
• 7:27
  shouldn't,
• 7:28
  it's
• 7:28
  just
• 7:29
  a
• 7:29
  question.
• 7:30
  Do
• 7:30
  you
• 7:30
  let
• 7:31
  them
• 7:31
  fail
• 7:31
  a
• 7:31
  test
• 7:32
  because
• 7:33
  they
• 7:33
  need
• 7:33
  to
• 7:33
  learn
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  lesson?
• 7:35
  Do
• 7:36
  you
• 7:36
  have
• 7:36
  the
• 7:36
  hard
• 7:37
  conversation
• 7:38
  about
• 7:38
  a
• 7:38
  friendship
• 7:39
  that
• 7:39
  is
• 7:39
  harmful
• 7:39
  to
• 7:39
  them
• 7:40
  or
• 7:40
  dragging
• 7:40
  them
• 7:40
  down?
• 7:42
  These
• 7:42
  are
• 7:43
  all
• 7:43
  very
• 7:43
  tricky,
• 7:44
  sticky
• 7:44
  situations
• 7:45
  that
• 7:46
  play
• 7:46
  into
• 7:46
  this
• 7:46
  dichotomy,
• 7:47
  truth
• 7:47
  and
• 7:48
  love,
• 7:48
  what
• 7:49
  is
• 7:49
  the
• 7:49
  balance?
• 7:49
  And
• 7:49
  again,
• 7:50
  I
• 7:50
  don't
• 7:50
  have
• 7:50
  the
• 7:50
  right
• 7:50
  answer
• 7:51
  for
• 7:51
  you.
• 7:51
  For
• 7:51
  a
• 7:51
  three-year-old
• 7:52
  who
• 7:52
  just
• 7:52
  scribbled
• 7:52
  on
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  paper,
• 7:53
  yeah,
• 7:53
  the
• 7:53
  right
• 7:53
  answer
• 7:53
  is
• 7:54
  probably
• 7:54
  saying,
• 7:54
  "That's
• 7:54
  beautiful,
• 7:55
  honey.
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  love
• 7:55
  you
• 7:55
  so
• 7:55
  much."
• 7:56
  But
• 7:57
  if
• 7:57
  they're
• 7:57
  saying,
• 7:57
  "Truly,
• 7:58
  honestly,
• 7:58
  Mom,
• 7:59
  tell
• 7:59
  me
• 7:59
  what
• 7:59
  you
• 7:59
  think
• 8:00
  of
• 8:00
  this,"
• 8:01
  maybe
• 8:01
  truth
• 8:02
  is
• 8:02
  the
• 8:02
  right
• 8:02
  way
• 8:02
  to
• 8:02
  go.
• 8:03
  I
• 8:03
  don't
• 8:04
  know.
• 8:04
  Like
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  said,
• 8:05
  this
• 8:05
  is
• 8:05
  a
• 8:05
  tricky
• 8:05
  thing,
• 8:06
  but
• 8:06
  it's
• 8:06
  something
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  pay
• 8:07
  attention
• 8:07
  to
• 8:07
  because
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  think
• 8:08
  the
• 8:08
  closer
• 8:08
  we
• 8:08
  can
• 8:09
  get
• 8:09
  to
• 8:09
  balancing
• 8:10
  these
• 8:10
  two,
• 8:11
  the
• 8:11
  better
• 8:11
  and
• 8:12
  the
• 8:12
  more
• 8:12
  fulfilled,
• 8:13
  beautiful
• 8:13
  lives
• 8:14
  we
• 8:14
  will
• 8:14
  lead.
• 8:15
  Loving
• 8:15
  our
• 8:16
  kids
• 8:16
  well
• 8:16
  means
• 8:17
  telling
• 8:17
  them
• 8:17
  the
• 8:18
  truth,
• 8:19
  even
• 8:19
  when
• 8:19
  it's
• 8:19
  inconvenient
• 8:20
  or
• 8:20
  hard,
• 8:21
  and
• 8:21
  even
• 8:22
  when
• 8:22
  it
• 8:22
  might
• 8:22
  come
• 8:23
  across
• 8:23
  as
• 8:23
  a
• 8:23
  little
• 8:23
  bit
• 8:23
  harsh,
• 8:24
  but
• 8:24
  we
• 8:25
  have
• 8:25
  to
• 8:25
  wrap
• 8:25
  it
• 8:25
  in
• 8:25
  warmth.
• 8:26
  Of
• 8:26
  course,
• 8:26
  we
• 8:26
  wrap
• 8:26
  it
• 8:26
  in
• 8:27
  the
• 8:27
  love
• 8:27
  that
• 8:27
  we
• 8:27
  have
• 8:28
  for
• 8:28
  them
• 8:29
  so
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  they
• 8:29
  can
• 8:30
  actually
• 8:30
  hear
• 8:30
  what
• 8:30
  we're
• 8:30
  saying.
• 8:31
  I
• 8:31
  also
• 8:32
  have
• 8:32
  countless
• 8:33
  examples
• 8:33
  in
• 8:33
  parenting
• 8:34
  of
• 8:34
  when
• 8:34
  I've
• 8:34
  had
• 8:34
  to
• 8:35
  do
• 8:35
  this,
• 8:35
  but
• 8:35
  as
• 8:35
  I
• 8:36
  have
• 8:36
  more
• 8:36
  and
• 8:36
  more
• 8:37
  adult
• 8:37
  children,
• 8:37
  I
• 8:38
  have
• 8:38
  two
• 8:38
  of
• 8:38
  them
• 8:38
  now,
• 8:39
  there
• 8:39
  are
• 8:39
  a
• 8:39
  lot
• 8:40
  more
• 8:40
  of
• 8:40
  these
• 8:40
  situations,
• 8:41
  right?
• 8:41
  Where
• 8:42
  I
• 8:42
  have
• 8:42
  to
• 8:42
  say,
• 8:42
  "Hey,
• 8:43
  the
• 8:43
  thing
• 8:43
  you're
• 8:43
  doing
• 8:43
  is
• 8:43
  harmful
• 8:44
  to
• 8:44
  me
• 8:44
  or
• 8:45
  to
• 8:45
  someone
• 8:45
  else,"
• 8:45
  or,
• 8:45
  "Hey,
• 8:46
  I'm
• 8:46
  gonna
• 8:46
  push
• 8:47
  back
• 8:47
  on
• 8:47
  what
• 8:47
  you're
• 8:47
  saying
• 8:47
  or
• 8:47
  doing
• 8:48
  here
• 8:48
  because
• 8:49
  I
• 8:49
  don't
• 8:49
  feel
• 8:49
  like
• 8:50
  it's
• 8:50
  right."
• 8:50
  So
• 8:50
  standing
• 8:51
  up
• 8:51
  for
• 8:51
  ourselves,
• 8:51
  standing
• 8:52
  up
• 8:52
  for
• 8:52
  our
• 8:52
  families
• 8:52
  and
• 8:52
  our
• 8:52
  values,
• 8:54
  especially
• 8:54
  with
• 8:54
  adult
• 8:54
  children,
• 8:55
  can
• 8:55
  also
• 8:56
  be
• 8:56
  very
• 8:56
  tricky.
• 8:56
  But
• 8:57
  as
• 8:57
  long
• 8:57
  as
• 8:57
  we're
• 8:57
  doing
• 8:57
  it
• 8:57
  in
• 8:58
  love,
• 8:58
  I
• 8:58
  think
• 8:58
  it's
• 8:58
  a
• 8:58
  lot
• 8:59
  harder
• 8:59
  to
• 8:59
  go
• 8:59
  wrong.
• 9:00
  So
• 9:01
  now
• 9:01
  let's
• 9:01
  talk
• 9:02
  about
• 9:02
  business
• 9:02
  for
• 9:03
  a
• 9:03
  minute
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  coaching,
• 9:04
  because
• 9:05
  all
• 9:05
  of
• 9:05
  these
• 9:05
  concepts
• 9:06
  that
• 9:06
  we
• 9:06
  talk
• 9:06
  about
• 9:06
  on
• 9:07
  this
• 9:07
  podcast
• 9:08
  are
• 9:08
  also
• 9:09
  applicable
• 9:09
  in
• 9:09
  our
• 9:09
  business.
• 9:10
  This
• 9:11
  one
• 9:11
  is
• 9:11
  maybe
• 9:11
  a
• 9:11
  little
• 9:11
  bit
• 9:12
  underrated.
• 9:12
  You
• 9:12
  might
• 9:12
  not
• 9:12
  see
• 9:13
  this
• 9:13
  in
• 9:13
  your
• 9:13
  business
• 9:13
  very
• 9:14
  often,
• 9:14
  but
• 9:14
  it
• 9:14
  does
• 9:14
  show
• 9:15
  up
• 9:15
  almost
• 9:15
  constantly
• 9:16
  for
• 9:16
  me.
• 9:17
  What
• 9:17
  about
• 9:17
  when
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  client
• 9:18
  is
• 9:18
  self-sabotaging
• 9:19
  and
• 9:19
  they
• 9:19
  don't
• 9:19
  wanna
• 9:19
  hear
• 9:19
  it?
• 9:20
  I
• 9:20
  see
• 9:20
  this
• 9:20
  a
• 9:21
  lot
• 9:21
  in
• 9:21
  business
• 9:21
  because
• 9:22
  people
• 9:22
  will
• 9:22
  come
• 9:23
  and
• 9:23
  hire
• 9:24
  me
• 9:24
  on
• 9:24
  a
• 9:24
  good
• 9:24
  day
• 9:24
  when
• 9:25
  they're
• 9:25
  thinking,
• 9:25
  "Yes,
• 9:25
  I'm
• 9:25
  gonna
• 9:26
  nail
• 9:26
  this
• 9:26
  business,"
• 9:26
  and
• 9:27
  then
• 9:27
  six
• 9:27
  weeks
• 9:27
  later,
• 9:28
  they've
• 9:29
  kind
• 9:29
  of
• 9:29
  gone
• 9:30
  radio
• 9:30
  silent,
• 9:31
  and
• 9:31
  they're
• 9:31
  not
• 9:31
  showing
• 9:31
  up
• 9:31
  anymore
• 9:31
  for
• 9:32
  themselves,
• 9:33
  and
• 9:34
  they're
• 9:34
  making
• 9:34
  excuses
• 9:35
  for
• 9:35
  themselves.
• 9:36
  A
• 9:36
  past
• 9:36
  version
• 9:37
  of
• 9:37
  me
• 9:37
  might
• 9:37
  just
• 9:37
  say,
• 9:37
  "Well,
• 9:38
  she's
• 9:38
  probably
• 9:38
  just
• 9:38
  going
• 9:38
  through
• 9:39
  something
• 9:39
  hard."
• 9:40
  But
• 9:40
  as
• 9:40
  a
• 9:41
  coach,
• 9:41
  I
• 9:41
  know
• 9:42
  That's
• 9:42
  not
• 9:42
  serving
• 9:42
  them
• 9:43
  at
• 9:43
  all.
• 9:44
  I
• 9:44
  need
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  have
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  courage
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  say,
• 9:45
  "Hey,
• 9:45
  what's
• 9:45
  going
• 9:45
  on?
• 9:46
  You're
• 9:46
  not
• 9:47
  showing
• 9:47
  up
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  way
• 9:47
  you
• 9:48
  told
• 9:48
  me
• 9:48
  you
• 9:48
  would
• 9:48
  or
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  way
• 9:48
  I
• 9:49
  know
• 9:49
  you
• 9:49
  want
• 9:49
  to.
• 9:50
  Is
• 9:50
  there
• 9:50
  any
• 9:50
  way
• 9:51
  I
• 9:51
  can
• 9:51
  help?
• 9:52
  What's
• 9:52
  happening
• 9:52
  behind
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  scenes?
• 9:53
  Let's
• 9:53
  work
• 9:53
  through
• 9:53
  this
• 9:54
  together."
• 9:54
  What
• 9:54
  about
• 9:55
  when
• 9:55
  a
• 9:55
  peer,
• 9:55
  another
• 9:56
  coach
• 9:56
  or
• 9:56
  business
• 9:56
  owner
• 9:57
  asks
• 9:57
  you
• 9:57
  for
• 9:57
  feedback
• 9:58
  on
• 9:58
  something,
• 9:59
  and
• 10:00
  you
• 10:01
  maybe
• 10:01
  know
• 10:01
  why
• 10:01
  it's
• 10:01
  not
• 10:02
  working,
• 10:02
  or
• 10:02
  you
• 10:03
  can
• 10:03
  see
• 10:04
  what's
• 10:04
  going
• 10:04
  wrong.
• 10:04
  Are
• 10:04
  you,
• 10:05
  are
• 10:05
  you
• 10:05
  honest
• 10:06
  about
• 10:06
  what
• 10:06
  that
• 10:06
  is?
• 10:07
  Are
• 10:07
  you
• 10:07
  honest
• 10:07
  about
• 10:07
  how
• 10:08
  they
• 10:08
  could
• 10:08
  improve?
• 10:09
  Or
• 10:09
  what
• 10:09
  about
• 10:10
  when
• 10:10
  a
• 10:10
  potential
• 10:10
  client
• 10:11
  is
• 10:11
  really
• 10:11
  excited
• 10:12
  about
• 10:12
  something
• 10:12
  and
• 10:12
  says,
• 10:12
  "Oh,
• 10:13
  I'm
• 10:13
  gonna
• 10:13
  do
• 10:13
  this
• 10:13
  one
• 10:13
  thing"?
• 10:14
  And
• 10:14
  you
• 10:14
  know
• 10:14
  as
• 10:15
  an
• 10:15
  expert
• 10:15
  that's
• 10:16
  probably
• 10:16
  not
• 10:16
  gonna
• 10:16
  work.
• 10:17
  Are
• 10:17
  you
• 10:17
  willing
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  say
• 10:18
  the
• 10:18
  truth?
• 10:19
  Now,
• 10:19
  most
• 10:19
  of
• 10:19
  these
• 10:20
  examples
• 10:21
  require
• 10:21
  us
• 10:21
  to
• 10:22
  have
• 10:22
  the
• 10:22
  courage
• 10:22
  to
• 10:22
  speak
• 10:23
  truth
• 10:24
  and
• 10:24
  not
• 10:24
  stay
• 10:24
  silent.
• 10:25
  Because
• 10:25
  the
• 10:25
  alternative
• 10:26
  for
• 10:26
  most
• 10:26
  of
• 10:26
  us
• 10:26
  is
• 10:26
  not
• 10:27
  the
• 10:27
  issue.
• 10:27
  For
• 10:27
  most
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  us,
• 10:28
  it's
• 10:28
  not
• 10:28
  the
• 10:28
  issue
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  we
• 10:29
  are
• 10:29
  speaking
• 10:29
  truth
• 10:30
  too
• 10:30
  harshly,
• 10:31
  although
• 10:31
  it
• 10:31
  can
• 10:31
  be.
• 10:32
  For
• 10:33
  most
• 10:33
  of
• 10:33
  us,
• 10:34
  we
• 10:34
  like
• 10:34
  to
• 10:34
  tell
• 10:34
  ourselves
• 10:35
  we're
• 10:35
  taking
• 10:35
  the
• 10:35
  high
• 10:35
  road
• 10:35
  of
• 10:36
  love
• 10:36
  when
• 10:37
  really
• 10:37
  it's
• 10:37
  just
• 10:38
  cowardice.
• 10:39
  It's
• 10:39
  just
• 10:39
  because
• 10:39
  we
• 10:39
  don't
• 10:40
  wanna
• 10:40
  hurt
• 10:40
  anyone's
• 10:41
  feeling.
• 10:42
  Okay,
• 10:42
  so
• 10:43
  I
• 10:43
  wanna
• 10:43
  go
• 10:43
  back
• 10:43
  to
• 10:43
  the
• 10:43
  scriptures
• 10:43
  for
• 10:43
  a
• 10:43
  second.
• 10:44
  Do
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  guys
• 10:44
  remember
• 10:45
  the
• 10:45
  story
• 10:46
  of
• 10:46
  Jacob
• 10:46
  in
• 10:47
  Jacob
• 10:47
  2
• 10:47
  when
• 10:47
  he
• 10:48
  has
• 10:48
  to
• 10:48
  admonish
• 10:49
  his
• 10:49
  people
• 10:50
  because
• 10:51
  they
• 10:51
  are
• 10:51
  pretty
• 10:52
  sinful?
• 10:52
  It's,
• 10:53
  it's
• 10:53
  one
• 10:53
  of
• 10:53
  the
• 10:53
  most
• 10:54
  beautiful
• 10:54
  but
• 10:54
  also
• 10:55
  difficult
• 10:55
  rebukes
• 10:56
  in
• 10:56
  all
• 10:56
  of
• 10:56
  scripture.
• 10:57
  He
• 10:57
  calls
• 10:58
  out
• 10:58
  moral
• 10:59
  sin
• 11:00
  and
• 11:00
  talks
• 11:00
  to
• 11:01
  the
• 11:01
  people
• 11:01
  about
• 11:01
  how
• 11:01
  they
• 11:01
  are
• 11:01
  doing
• 11:02
  real
• 11:02
  harm
• 11:02
  to
• 11:03
  each
• 11:03
  other
• 11:03
  and
• 11:03
  their
• 11:03
  families.
• 11:05
  And
• 11:05
  what
• 11:05
  I
• 11:05
  love
• 11:05
  about
• 11:05
  it
• 11:06
  is
• 11:06
  you
• 11:06
  can
• 11:06
  feel
• 11:06
  his
• 11:07
  anguish.
• 11:07
  You
• 11:07
  can
• 11:08
  feel
• 11:08
  his
• 11:08
  heartbreak.
• 11:09
  He's
• 11:09
  so
• 11:09
  sad
• 11:10
  that
• 11:10
  he
• 11:10
  has
• 11:10
  to
• 11:10
  do
• 11:11
  this.
• 11:11
  In
• 11:11
  fact,
• 11:11
  in
• 11:11
  one
• 11:11
  scripture,
• 11:12
  he
• 11:12
  talks
• 11:12
  about
• 11:13
  how
• 11:13
  it
• 11:13
  pains
• 11:14
  him
• 11:14
  to
• 11:14
  wound
• 11:15
  the
• 11:15
  innocent
• 11:15
  hearts
• 11:16
  of
• 11:16
  the
• 11:16
  women
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  children,
• 11:17
  but
• 11:17
  he
• 11:17
  will
• 11:18
  not
• 11:18
  avoid
• 11:19
  the
• 11:19
  conflict
• 11:19
  of
• 11:19
  telling
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  truth
• 11:20
  as
• 11:20
  it
• 11:20
  is.
• 11:21
  He
• 11:21
  has
• 11:22
  to
• 11:22
  correct
• 11:22
  his
• 11:22
  people,
• 11:23
  or
• 11:23
  else
• 11:24
  he
• 11:24
  might
• 11:24
  stand
• 11:24
  accountable
• 11:25
  for
• 11:25
  their
• 11:25
  sins.
• 11:26
  He
• 11:26
  cares
• 11:26
  so
• 11:27
  much
• 11:28
  that
• 11:28
  he
• 11:28
  is
• 11:28
  willing
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  carry
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  emotional
• 11:30
  weight
• 11:30
  of
• 11:30
  this
• 11:30
  hard
• 11:31
  conversation
• 11:32
  because
• 11:33
  he
• 11:33
  knows
• 11:33
  his
• 11:33
  people
• 11:33
  need
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  change.
• 11:35
  The
• 11:35
  best
• 11:36
  leaders
• 11:36
  and
• 11:36
  the
• 11:36
  best
• 11:37
  coaches
• 11:38
  learn
• 11:38
  the
• 11:39
  critical
• 11:39
  skill
• 11:40
  of
• 11:40
  delivering
• 11:40
  truth
• 11:40
  in
• 11:41
  a
• 11:41
  way
• 11:41
  that
• 11:41
  the
• 11:41
  other
• 11:41
  person
• 11:42
  can
• 11:42
  receive,
• 11:43
  and
• 11:43
  that
• 11:43
  the
• 11:43
  other
• 11:43
  person
• 11:44
  actually
• 11:44
  feels
• 11:45
  love
• 11:46
  through
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  truth
• 11:47
  That
• 11:47
  is
• 11:48
  a
• 11:48
  very
• 11:48
  advanced
• 11:49
  skill.
• 11:50
  That
• 11:50
  is
• 11:50
  true
• 11:50
  love,
• 11:51
  honestly.
• 11:52
  And
• 11:52
  it's
• 11:52
  something
• 11:52
  that
• 11:53
  a
• 11:53
  lot
• 11:53
  of
• 11:53
  us
• 11:53
  will
• 11:53
  probably
• 11:53
  be
• 11:53
  working
• 11:54
  on
• 11:54
  for
• 11:54
  most
• 11:54
  of
• 11:54
  our
• 11:54
  lives,
• 11:55
  but
• 11:55
  it
• 11:55
  doesn't
• 11:55
  mean
• 11:56
  we
• 11:56
  don't
• 11:56
  start
• 11:57
  now.
• 11:58
  If
• 11:58
  this
• 11:58
  is
• 11:58
  something
• 11:59
  that
• 11:59
  you
• 11:59
  struggle
• 11:59
  with,
• 12:00
  the
• 12:00
  best
• 12:01
  way
• 12:01
  to
• 12:01
  get
• 12:01
  better
• 12:01
  at
• 12:02
  being
• 12:02
  honest
• 12:03
  is
• 12:03
  trying
• 12:04
  to
• 12:04
  access
• 12:04
  more
• 12:05
  love
• 12:05
  for
• 12:05
  this
• 12:05
  person.
• 12:06
  I
• 12:06
  love
• 12:06
  to
• 12:06
  do
• 12:06
  this
• 12:07
  through
• 12:07
  prayer,
• 12:07
  right?
• 12:07
  Maybe
• 12:07
  there's
• 12:08
  a
• 12:08
  tricky
• 12:08
  family
• 12:08
  member
• 12:09
  that
• 12:09
  you
• 12:10
  have
• 12:10
  a
• 12:10
  hard
• 12:10
  time
• 12:10
  dealing
• 12:10
  with
• 12:11
  and
• 12:11
  you
• 12:11
  can't
• 12:12
  say
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  full
• 12:12
  truth
• 12:12
  because
• 12:13
  you're
• 12:13
  afraid
• 12:13
  of
• 12:13
  hurting
• 12:14
  feelings,
• 12:14
  but
• 12:15
  some
• 12:15
  hard
• 12:15
  conversations
• 12:16
  be
• 12:16
  happening.
• 12:17
  Just
• 12:17
  pray
• 12:17
  for
• 12:17
  more
• 12:18
  love
• 12:18
  for
• 12:18
  this
• 12:18
  person.
• 12:19
  Because
• 12:19
  with
• 12:20
  that
• 12:20
  love
• 12:21
  comes
• 12:21
  courage,
• 12:22
  courage
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  do
• 12:23
  the
• 12:23
  right
• 12:23
  thing.
• 12:24
  In
• 12:24
  fact,
• 12:25
  guess
• 12:25
  who
• 12:26
  was
• 12:26
  our
• 12:26
  number
• 12:27
  one
• 12:27
  example
• 12:28
  of
• 12:28
  the
• 12:28
  perfect
• 12:29
  person
• 12:30
  who
• 12:30
  held
• 12:30
  truth
• 12:31
  and
• 12:31
  love
• 12:32
  equally?
• 12:33
  Jesus
• 12:33
  Christ,
• 12:34
  right?
• 12:34
  Mercy
• 12:35
  and
• 12:36
  justice,
• 12:36
  truth
• 12:37
  and
• 12:37
  love,
• 12:38
  Think
• 12:39
  about
• 12:39
  all
• 12:39
  the
• 12:39
  times
• 12:39
  he
• 12:39
  had
• 12:39
  to
• 12:40
  admonish
• 12:40
  people
• 12:40
  for
• 12:40
  sin.
• 12:41
  How
• 12:41
  many
• 12:42
  times
• 12:42
  did
• 12:42
  he
• 12:42
  show
• 12:42
  love
• 12:43
  and
• 12:43
  then
• 12:43
  say,
• 12:44
  go
• 12:44
  and
• 12:44
  sin
• 12:44
  no
• 12:45
  more?
• 12:45
  Constantly.
• 12:46
  That
• 12:46
  was
• 12:46
  the
• 12:47
  rallying
• 12:47
  cry
• 12:48
  of
• 12:48
  his
• 12:48
  ministry,
• 12:48
  Truth
• 12:49
  and
• 12:49
  love.
• 12:51
  Let's
• 12:51
  go
• 12:51
  back
• 12:51
  to
• 12:51
  the
• 12:51
  scriptures
• 12:51
  one
• 12:52
  more
• 12:52
  time
• 12:52
  for
• 12:53
  a
• 12:53
  blueprint
• 12:53
  of
• 12:54
  how
• 12:54
  we
• 12:54
  do
• 12:54
  this,
• 12:54
  okay?
• 12:55
  D&C
• 12:56
  121,
• 12:57
  43.
• 12:59
  It's
• 12:59
  talking
• 12:59
  about
• 12:59
  the
• 12:59
  power
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  is
• 13:00
  maintained
• 13:01
  by
• 13:01
  the
• 13:01
  priesthood,
• 13:01
  by
• 13:01
  long-suffering,
• 13:02
  gentleness,
• 13:02
  meekness,
• 13:03
  et
• 13:03
  cetera.
• 13:04
  Reproving
• 13:04
  betimes
• 13:05
  with
• 13:05
  sharpness
• 13:06
  when
• 13:06
  moved
• 13:07
  upon
• 13:07
  by
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  Holy
• 13:07
  Ghost,
• 13:08
  and
• 13:08
  then
• 13:08
  showing
• 13:09
  forth
• 13:09
  afterwards
• 13:10
  an
• 13:10
  increase
• 13:11
  of
• 13:11
  love
• 13:11
  toward
• 13:11
  him
• 13:12
  whom
• 13:12
  thou
• 13:12
  hast
• 13:12
  reproved,
• 13:13
  lest
• 13:13
  he
• 13:14
  esteem
• 13:14
  thee
• 13:14
  to
• 13:14
  be
• 13:14
  his
• 13:15
  enemy.
• 13:16
  Boom.
• 13:17
  There
• 13:17
  it
• 13:17
  is.
• 13:18
  There's
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  entire
• 13:19
  story,
• 13:19
  Sometimes
• 13:20
  we
• 13:20
  have
• 13:21
  to
• 13:21
  correct.
• 13:22
  Sometimes
• 13:23
  we
• 13:23
  have
• 13:23
  to
• 13:23
  tell
• 13:23
  hard
• 13:24
  truths,
• 13:24
  but
• 13:24
  then
• 13:25
  we
• 13:25
  show
• 13:25
  an
• 13:25
  increase
• 13:26
  in
• 13:26
  love.
• 13:27
  So
• 13:27
  go
• 13:27
  back
• 13:28
  and
• 13:28
  look
• 13:28
  at
• 13:28
  that.
• 13:28
  D&C
• 13:29
  121,
• 13:29
  look
• 13:29
  at
• 13:30
  verses
• 13:30
  41
• 13:30
  through
• 13:30
  43.
• 13:31
  In
• 13:31
  that
• 13:31
  list
• 13:32
  of
• 13:32
  virtues
• 13:33
  includes
• 13:35
  knowledge,
• 13:35
  pure
• 13:36
  knowledge.
• 13:36
  So
• 13:36
  that's
• 13:37
  truth,
• 13:38
  but
• 13:38
  also
• 13:38
  an
• 13:38
  increase
• 13:39
  of
• 13:39
  love.
• 13:39
  All
• 13:40
  those
• 13:40
  other
• 13:40
  things
• 13:40
  make
• 13:41
  the
• 13:41
  truth
• 13:42
  easier
• 13:42
  to
• 13:42
  receive.
• 13:44
  We
• 13:44
  can't
• 13:44
  skip
• 13:44
  being
• 13:45
  gentle
• 13:45
  and
• 13:45
  jump
• 13:45
  straight
• 13:45
  into
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  pure
• 13:46
  knowledge
• 13:46
  or
• 13:46
  the
• 13:46
  truth,
• 13:47
  but
• 13:47
  we
• 13:48
  also
• 13:48
  cannot
• 13:49
  fully
• 13:49
  love
• 13:49
  someone
• 13:50
  unless
• 13:50
  we're
• 13:50
  willing
• 13:51
  to
• 13:51
  give
• 13:51
  them
• 13:51
  the
• 13:51
  full
• 13:51
  truth.
• 13:52
  So
• 13:52
  here
• 13:52
  are
• 13:53
  four
• 13:53
  principles
• 13:54
  you
• 13:54
  can
• 13:54
  use
• 13:54
  to
• 13:55
  help
• 13:55
  this
• 13:55
  in
• 13:55
  your
• 13:55
  own
• 13:55
  life
• 13:56
  if
• 13:56
  you
• 13:56
  see
• 13:56
  this
• 13:56
  pop
• 13:56
  up.
• 13:57
  And
• 13:57
  if
• 13:57
  you
• 13:57
  haven't
• 13:57
  thought
• 13:57
  of
• 13:57
  this
• 13:57
  concept
• 13:58
  before,
• 13:58
  now
• 13:58
  that
• 13:58
  you're
• 13:58
  aware
• 13:59
  of
• 13:59
  it,
• 13:59
  you'll
• 13:59
  probably
• 13:59
  see
• 13:59
  it
• 13:59
  pop
• 13:59
  up
• 14:00
  a
• 14:00
  lot
• 14:00
  more,
• 14:00
  Number
• 14:00
  one,
• 14:01
  check
• 14:01
  your
• 14:01
  motive,
• 14:02
  Why
• 14:03
  are
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  telling
• 14:04
  the
• 14:04
  truth?
• 14:04
  Is
• 14:04
  it
• 14:04
  to
• 14:04
  help
• 14:05
  someone?
• 14:06
  Is
• 14:06
  it
• 14:06
  to
• 14:06
  feel
• 14:07
  righteous
• 14:07
  or
• 14:08
  a
• 14:08
  little
• 14:09
  I
• 14:09
  told
• 14:09
  you
• 14:09
  so?
• 14:10
  Truth
• 14:12
  is
• 14:12
  only
• 14:12
  love
• 14:13
  when
• 14:13
  it's
• 14:13
  not
• 14:13
  motivated
• 14:14
  by
• 14:14
  your
• 14:14
  own
• 14:14
  ego,
• 14:15
  when
• 14:15
  it's
• 14:15
  just
• 14:15
  trying
• 14:15
  to
• 14:15
  help
• 14:16
  someone
• 14:16
  else,
• 14:16
  Although
• 14:17
  there
• 14:17
  isn't
• 14:17
  anything
• 14:18
  wrong
• 14:18
  with
• 14:18
  telling
• 14:18
  the
• 14:18
  truth
• 14:19
  because
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  feel
• 14:20
  unheard.
• 14:20
  That
• 14:21
  is
• 14:21
  also
• 14:21
  important,
• 14:21
  right?
• 14:22
  We
• 14:22
  have
• 14:22
  to
• 14:22
  stand
• 14:22
  up
• 14:22
  for
• 14:22
  ourselves.
• 14:23
  So
• 14:23
  check
• 14:24
  your
• 14:24
  motive,
• 14:24
  number
• 14:24
  one.
• 14:24
  Number
• 14:24
  two,
• 14:25
  watch
• 14:25
  out
• 14:26
  for
• 14:26
  the
• 14:26
  timing.
• 14:27
  Speaking
• 14:27
  the
• 14:27
  truth
• 14:28
  at
• 14:28
  the
• 14:28
  wrong
• 14:28
  moment
• 14:30
  is
• 14:30
  not
• 14:30
  great,
• 14:30
  okay?
• 14:31
  I've
• 14:31
  seen
• 14:31
  this
• 14:32
  happen
• 14:32
  before
• 14:32
  when
• 14:32
  someone
• 14:33
  is
• 14:33
  suffering
• 14:33
  and
• 14:33
  someone
• 14:34
  chooses
• 14:34
  that
• 14:34
  moment
• 14:34
  to
• 14:34
  say,
• 14:35
  "Hmm,
• 14:35
  I
• 14:35
  told
• 14:35
  you
• 14:35
  so,"
• 14:36
  or
• 14:36
  deliver
• 14:36
  some
• 14:36
  truth
• 14:37
  and
• 14:38
  that
• 14:38
  can
• 14:38
  be
• 14:38
  harmful,
• 14:38
  right?
• 14:38
  So
• 14:39
  watch
• 14:39
  your
• 14:39
  timing.
• 14:40
  Number
• 14:40
  three,
• 14:41
  delivery
• 14:41
  is
• 14:42
  also
• 14:43
  very,
• 14:43
  very
• 14:43
  important.
• 14:44
  The
• 14:44
  same
• 14:45
  truth
• 14:45
  can
• 14:45
  feel
• 14:45
  like
• 14:45
  an
• 14:45
  attack
• 14:46
  or
• 14:46
  like
• 14:46
  something
• 14:47
  very,
• 14:47
  very
• 14:47
  kind
• 14:47
  depending
• 14:48
  on
• 14:48
  how
• 14:49
  it
• 14:49
  is
• 14:49
  offered,
• 14:49
  how
• 14:49
  it's
• 14:49
  delivered.
• 14:51
  And
• 14:51
  then
• 14:51
  the
• 14:51
  fourth
• 14:51
  one
• 14:51
  is
• 14:52
  showing
• 14:53
  enough
• 14:53
  love
• 14:54
  means
• 14:54
  that
• 14:54
  the
• 14:54
  person
• 14:55
  will
• 14:55
  be
• 14:55
  capable
• 14:55
  of
• 14:55
  hearing
• 14:56
  the
• 14:56
  truth.
• 14:56
  I
• 14:56
  mentioned
• 14:56
  that
• 14:57
  already,
• 14:57
  right?
• 14:58
  When
• 14:58
  someone
• 14:58
  knows
• 14:58
  you
• 14:58
  love
• 14:59
  them
• 14:59
  and
• 14:59
  they
• 14:59
  know
• 14:59
  you're
• 14:59
  on
• 14:59
  their
• 14:59
  side,
• 15:00
  they
• 15:00
  can
• 15:00
  actually
• 15:01
  receive
• 15:01
  what
• 15:02
  you're
• 15:02
  saying.
• 15:03
  If
• 15:03
  you
• 15:03
  feel
• 15:03
  like
• 15:03
  an
• 15:03
  enemy,
• 15:04
  they
• 15:04
  tune
• 15:04
  out
• 15:05
  real
• 15:05
  quick,
• 15:06
  This
• 15:06
  is
• 15:06
  why
• 15:06
  it's
• 15:06
  so
• 15:06
  incredibly
• 15:07
  important
• 15:07
  to
• 15:07
  show
• 15:07
  love
• 15:07
  to
• 15:08
  our
• 15:08
  children
• 15:08
  all
• 15:08
  the
• 15:08
  time
• 15:09
  so
• 15:09
  that
• 15:09
  they're
• 15:09
  capable
• 15:10
  of
• 15:10
  hearing
• 15:10
  the
• 15:10
  truth
• 15:10
  we
• 15:11
  want
• 15:11
  to
• 15:11
  tell
• 15:11
  them.
• 15:12
  All
• 15:12
  right,
• 15:12
  last
• 15:12
  thing
• 15:12
  I
• 15:12
  want
• 15:12
  to
• 15:12
  say.
• 15:13
  Having
• 15:14
  the
• 15:14
  courage
• 15:14
  to
• 15:14
  speak
• 15:15
  truth,
• 15:15
  especially
• 15:16
  when
• 15:16
  it
• 15:16
  comes
• 15:16
  to
• 15:17
  something
• 15:17
  that
• 15:17
  you
• 15:17
  need
• 15:18
  from
• 15:18
  someone
• 15:18
  else,
• 15:18
  like
• 15:18
  something
• 15:19
  that's
• 15:19
  not
• 15:19
  a
• 15:19
  need
• 15:20
  of
• 15:20
  your
• 15:20
  own
• 15:20
  that's
• 15:20
  not
• 15:20
  being
• 15:20
  met
• 15:21
  or
• 15:22
  a
• 15:22
  frustration
• 15:22
  you
• 15:23
  have
• 15:23
  that
• 15:23
  you
• 15:23
  need
• 15:23
  to
• 15:24
  tell
• 15:24
  someone
• 15:24
  else.
• 15:26
  A
• 15:26
  lot
• 15:26
  of
• 15:26
  that
• 15:26
  comes
• 15:27
  from
• 15:28
  gaining
• 15:29
  confidence
• 15:29
  in
• 15:29
  yourself,
• 15:30
  I
• 15:30
  didn't
• 15:30
  have
• 15:30
  the
• 15:30
  courage
• 15:31
  to
• 15:31
  do
• 15:31
  that
• 15:31
  in
• 15:31
  my
• 15:31
  younger
• 15:32
  years
• 15:32
  because
• 15:32
  I
• 15:32
  think
• 15:32
  I
• 15:32
  lacked
• 15:33
  a
• 15:33
  lot
• 15:33
  of
• 15:33
  confidence.
• 15:34
  Now,
• 15:34
  I'm
• 15:34
  a
• 15:34
  big
• 15:35
  fan
• 15:35
  of
• 15:35
  discovering
• 15:36
  godly
• 15:36
  confidence,
• 15:37
  asking
• 15:37
  God
• 15:38
  who
• 15:38
  you
• 15:38
  are,
• 15:39
  asking
• 15:40
  him
• 15:40
  to
• 15:40
  show
• 15:40
  you
• 15:41
  your
• 15:41
  value
• 15:42
  and
• 15:42
  how
• 15:43
  important
• 15:43
  you
• 15:43
  are.
• 15:44
  And
• 15:44
  then
• 15:44
  it
• 15:44
  becomes
• 15:45
  easier
• 15:45
  to
• 15:45
  tell
• 15:45
  people,
• 15:46
  oh,
• 15:46
  that's
• 15:46
  not
• 15:46
  going
• 15:46
  to
• 15:46
  work
• 15:47
  for
• 15:47
  me.
• 15:47
  Or
• 15:48
  actually
• 15:48
  I
• 15:48
  need
• 15:49
  this
• 15:49
  to
• 15:49
  happen
• 15:49
  like
• 15:49
  this,
• 15:50
  right?
• 15:50
  Yes,
• 15:51
  that
• 15:51
  looks
• 15:51
  like
• 15:51
  standing
• 15:51
  up
• 15:51
  for
• 15:51
  ourselves,
• 15:52
  but
• 15:52
  sometimes
• 15:52
  it
• 15:52
  just
• 15:52
  looks
• 15:53
  like
• 15:53
  standing
• 15:53
  up
• 15:53
  for
• 15:54
  what's
• 15:54
  right
• 15:54
  too,
• 15:55
  I
• 15:55
  think
• 15:55
  a
• 15:55
  lot
• 15:55
  of
• 15:55
  us
• 15:55
  wanna
• 15:56
  say
• 15:56
  we
• 15:56
  would
• 15:56
  do
• 15:56
  that
• 15:57
  in
• 15:57
  a
• 15:57
  situation
• 15:58
  that
• 15:58
  warranted
• 15:58
  it,
• 15:59
  but
• 15:59
  the
• 15:59
  more
• 15:59
  we
• 16:00
  can
• 16:00
  flex
• 16:00
  this
• 16:00
  muscle
• 16:01
  of
• 16:01
  telling
• 16:01
  truth
• 16:02
  with
• 16:02
  love,
• 16:02
  the
• 16:03
  easier
• 16:03
  that
• 16:03
  will
• 16:03
  get.
• 16:04
  So
• 16:04
  remember,
• 16:05
  truth
• 16:05
  and
• 16:05
  love
• 16:05
  are
• 16:05
  not
• 16:06
  opposites.
• 16:06
  They
• 16:07
  are
• 16:07
  partners.
• 16:08
  And
• 16:08
  when
• 16:08
  we
• 16:08
  can
• 16:08
  learn
• 16:09
  to
• 16:09
  hold
• 16:09
  them
• 16:09
  both
• 16:09
  at
• 16:09
  the
• 16:09
  same
• 16:10
  time,
• 16:11
  we
• 16:11
  get
• 16:11
  deeper,
• 16:11
  more
• 16:11
  meaningful
• 16:12
  relationships,
• 16:13
  we
• 16:13
  become
• 16:14
  wiser,
• 16:15
  more
• 16:15
  loving
• 16:15
  parents,
• 16:16
  and
• 16:16
  we
• 16:16
  become
• 16:17
  better
• 16:17
  coaches
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  business
• 16:17
  owners.
• 16:18
  That
• 16:19
  is
• 16:19
  how
• 16:19
  we
• 16:19
  get
• 16:19
  closer
• 16:20
  to
• 16:20
  the
• 16:20
  incredible
• 16:21
  women
• 16:22
  that
• 16:22
  God
• 16:22
  wants
• 16:22
  us
• 16:22
  to
• 16:22
  be.
• 16:24
  And
• 16:24
  remember,
• 16:24
  if
• 16:25
  you
• 16:25
  want
• 16:25
  to
• 16:25
  go
• 16:25
  even
• 16:25
  deeper
• 16:26
  on
• 16:26
  how
• 16:26
  faith
• 16:26
  and
• 16:27
  business
• 16:27
  intersect,
• 16:28
  how
• 16:28
  the
• 16:28
  spiritual
• 16:29
  principles
• 16:29
  we
• 16:29
  believe
• 16:30
  actually
• 16:30
  apply
• 16:31
  to
• 16:31
  the
• 16:31
  work
• 16:31
  we're
• 16:31
  building,
• 16:32
  I
• 16:32
  wrote
• 16:32
  a
• 16:32
  book
• 16:32
  about
• 16:32
  it.
• 16:33
  It's
• 16:33
  called
• 16:33
  Burning
• 16:33
  Brightly,
• 16:33
  and
• 16:33
  you
• 16:34
  can
• 16:34
  grab
• 16:34
  it
• 16:34
  for
• 16:34
  under
• 16:34
  20
• 16:35
  bucks
• 16:35
  on
• 16:35
  Amazon.
• 16:36
  The
• 16:36
  link
• 16:36
  is
• 16:36
  in
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  show
• 16:36
  notes.
• 16:37
  Have
• 16:37
  a
• 16:37
  great
• 16:38
  week,
• 16:38
  my
• 16:38
  friends.
• 16:42
  Are
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  ready
• 16:43
  to
• 16:43
  start
• 16:43
  or
• 16:43
  grow
• 16:43
  your
• 16:44
  dream
• 16:44
  business?
• 16:45
  Click
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  link
• 16:45
  in
• 16:45
  the
• 16:45
  show
• 16:45
  notes
• 16:46
  to
• 16:46
  download
• 16:46
  the
• 16:46
  free
• 16:46
  starter
• 16:47
  guide
• 16:47
  to
• 16:47
  building
• 16:47
  a
• 16:48
  business
• 16:48
  or
• 16:48
  to
• 16:48
  schedule
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  free
• 16:49
  coaching
• 16:49
  call
• 16:49
  with
• 16:50
  me.
• 16:50
  And
• 16:50
  if
• 16:50
  you
• 16:51
  loved
• 16:51
  this
• 16:51
  episode,
• 16:52
  don't
• 16:52
  forget
• 16:52
  to
• 16:52
  leave
• 16:52
  a
• 16:52
  review
• 16:53
  and
• 16:53
  share
• 16:53
  it
• 16:53
  with
• 16:53
  a
• 16:54
  friend
• 16:54
  who
• 16:54
  might
• 16:54
  be
• 16:54
  feeling
• 16:55
  the
• 16:55
  call
• 16:55
  to
• 16:55
  burn
• 16:56
  a
• 16:56
  little
• 16:56
  brighter.