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Claire doesn't want kids · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: John Jay and rich Hyclaire. Hello, what's up. So my
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  Speaker 1: husband and I when we were dating, we like both
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  Speaker 1: agreed that we wanted to have kids, like someday in
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  Speaker 1: the future, you know.
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  Speaker 2: When we were married and more stable.
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  Speaker 1: And things like that. But as you know, time has
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  Speaker 1: gone on, we've both kind of been backtracking a bit,
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  Speaker 1: and like for a lot is like really, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like small reasons that like are adding up to like
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  Speaker 1: this big decision.
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  Speaker 2: Right you know, the economy, the state of the politics
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  Speaker 2: right now. And honestly, I.
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  Speaker 1: Wasn't exactly sure that he was feeling like the same
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  Speaker 1: way I did.
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  Speaker 2: Until we were watching.
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  Speaker 1: The news one night, and like afterwards he like mentioned
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  Speaker 1: that he didn't know if like having kids was like
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  Speaker 1: the best idea with everything going on, and I was,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and more and more like I feel like
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  Speaker 1: our couple friends are also deciding like similarly, and it's
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  Speaker 1: you know, not definitive yet obviously, like.
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  Speaker 2: Things could change, but it doesn't seem like we.
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  Speaker 1: Are going to do that, like we're not going to
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  Speaker 1: have kids.
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  Speaker 2: And it's it's a little sad because I kind.
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  Speaker 1: Of always imagined that i'd be a mom, but I.
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  Speaker 2: Just don't know if I would.
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  Speaker 1: Feel light bringing a kid into everything.
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  Speaker 2: That's happening, And I don't know, I think.
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  Speaker 1: That it should just becoming like more common, especially like
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  Speaker 1: with people I don't know in my circle at.
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  Speaker 3: Least do you have a question about that or just
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  Speaker 3: making a statement.
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  Speaker 2: I mean it was it's more of a statement, but
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  Speaker 2: I guess, like, do you have you noticed that as well?
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  Speaker 2: Like is it just me and like my friends or
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  Speaker 2: like does this seem to be kind of the way
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  Speaker 2: that people.
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  Speaker 1: Are going and like how do we I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: maybe change things.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, since you're bring it up, let me give
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  Speaker 4: you my opinion real quick. So I have three kids,
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  Speaker 4: and I love having kids. I think it's fantastic. But
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  Speaker 4: just recently something happened. I thought if I didn't have kids,
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  Speaker 4: if I didn't bring kids into this world right now,
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  Speaker 4: I would have so much money.
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  Speaker 3: It's true, they are much money.
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  Speaker 4: They are just a drain of your bank account.
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  Speaker 3: So don't do it. Oh my gosh, I would if
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  Speaker 3: I could do it again, I wouldn't do it.
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  Speaker 4: They're great, great, love.
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  Speaker 3: Having great, forget it.
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  Speaker 4: They just cost so much money.
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  Speaker 3: Are your every Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: There are, but they cost so much money.
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  Speaker 3: They do.
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  Speaker 5: But it's like worth it. It's like the best money,
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  Speaker 5: the reason.
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  Speaker 4: Forget what's going on. They cost the drain your bank account.
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  Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, But so do dogs, so do other things.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I wouldn't do dogs either.
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  Speaker 2: Would you still get married?
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  Speaker 4: Would I get married? Let's see if I had the
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  Speaker 4: income I have now.
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  Speaker 5: No, I think your life would be like you would.
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  Speaker 3: Actually, I mean you're just looking at the spreadsheet with
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  Speaker 3: every disease. Yeah, I think. But like Claire, I was
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  Speaker 3: thinking about when you were saying that, I was thinking
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  Speaker 3: about that too. It's like, I don't know that you're
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  Speaker 3: ever ready to have kids. If you look at like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: what's going on in the world. There's always going to
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  Speaker 3: be some nonsense going on in the world, and you're
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  Speaker 3: never going to be totally ready. But for some reason,
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  Speaker 3: when those kids get here, you just get ready and
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  Speaker 3: you just handle it and it's awesome. So I would say,
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  Speaker 3: just go for the the life ride that is life,
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  Speaker 3: because it is awesome.
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  Speaker 6: I have this conversation with my friends all the time,
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  Speaker 6: have comm because it's like a lot of my friends
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  Speaker 6: want kids and want them now. They want the white
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  Speaker 6: picket fence, they want the husband, they want the picture
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  Speaker 6: perfect thing. And then I had a couple of friends
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  Speaker 6: that are like, I don't want any kids, but I
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  Speaker 6: want my man, I want to travel the world. I
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  Speaker 6: don't want to do that. I feel like now, like
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  Speaker 6: gen Z specifically, like the older end of it, Like me,
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  Speaker 6: I feel like we kind of just go with the flow.
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  Speaker 6: Like I feel like we're having babies a little bit later.
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  Speaker 6: Modern medicine is allowing us to do so, you know,
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  Speaker 6: so I feel like whatever works for you, even if
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  Speaker 6: you decided you didn't or you didn wanted to do
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  Speaker 6: it before. I feel like whatever happens happens, and what's
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  Speaker 6: right for you is right for you. It's not perfect
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  Speaker 6: for anyone.
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  Speaker 5: Seems like you're kind of bummed about that though, Like
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  Speaker 5: your husband's like far on the you, he doesn't want them,
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  Speaker 5: and you kind of did.
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  Speaker 3: Did I pick up on that correct?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, we both seemed like we both agreed that
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  Speaker 2: we did, and then we both were like, maybe this
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  Speaker 2: isn't the right idea, And I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I was hoping that he was going to like
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  Speaker 1: talk me back.
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  Speaker 2: Into it, and instead he was like talking me out
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  Speaker 2: of it more.
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  Speaker 1: And so I don't know. I guess like there just
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  Speaker 1: needs to be some more conversations.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, you definitely communicate about that, because I mean that's
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  Speaker 5: something that you definitely want both of you to be
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  Speaker 5: on the same page about. And also if you're not,
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  Speaker 5: that could be a relationship breaker. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: The only reason John Jay's so quiet is he's planning
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  Speaker 3: out is kid free, wife, free money right now, fantasy thing.
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  Speaker 5: How funny would be?
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  Speaker 3: And I have this helicopter.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you Claire, thank you.