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Don't Be So Particular of Others | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 101 · The Torah Sparks Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Alright ever, we are back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hope you're doing fantastic.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: Today is a new topic and exciting.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's the last day of Ostchest, the last day of letter Chest, which means tomorrow as the Shem, we're gonna go to a new letter Ost because the ninth letter comes after the eighth letter.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that will be beseder and exciting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, um today's topic is called deaf and mute.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not talking about specifically a person who's actually a deaf mute, but we're talking about the ability in one's abodes ashem or in life in general to utilize um this ability, we're gonna call it an ability to not hear something, to tap into being a chirish, at least for the moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are many times where it befits a person to act deaf.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here he goes.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let's say you have people who are very powerful and vile men of the generation, and they know you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We know about it to his face, let's just be more um uh be more powerful in a negative way against him.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: But if the these wicked people they don't know that you know what they said about you, she is hard to Allah sure also maybe they'll actually have remorse, regret, be in a gual kabhaks me fan of, and then from then on they'll treat you with the respect that you deserve in your presence.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it behooves you to be like a deaf mute and not show them that you know.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, the chinim debu is a divar soy, let's say somebody said a secret, the erash yadabishama, and you happen to know about it, it goes without saying, but again, like we said, sometimes things that go without saying it has to be said.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yasma biker chair shalma.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to make yourself, if you heard a secret that you weren't necessarily supposed to hear, then you should make yourself like a deaf man who did not hear Ishlay's Darbis Shmyaso, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't want to cause other people distress by relating their private matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, you shamma alpha, no one should hear these matters from your mouth.
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  SPEAKER_00: You never are allowed to reveal secrets of others, um, that would be forbidden.
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  SPEAKER_00: Says the Peleyoites.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_00: Being silent is a very important tool in life.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: At a time of quarreling, a person should muzzle his mouth, he should be silent via saatma key, shalishima, he should make himself like a deaf man who does not hear, and he shouldn't reply with to any insult, any provocation, with whether it's good or otherwise.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: In this way, uh, he should offer his cheek to the smiter and let himself be filled with disgrace, like it says in Echa Vesof Makeo Al Karko.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the end, the antagonist, he's going to be hurt, he's going to be smitten, gamhu yiya ki ilfta khpiv, and he too will be like a mute, unable to speak.
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  SPEAKER_00: So better in this instance, in in when in hopefully shouldn't be involved in a quarrel, but at least if even if a person is, they should take the quiet side of it.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Says that Heligapelli's an important claw when it comes to marriage, when it comes to khenach, when it comes to teaching, a per a father relating to his children, and a Rebbe to his Talmudim, the Balamish the husband to a wife, the Adonishar Sav, or a homemaker to his servants, Vekadaima and the like.
• 4:02
  SPEAKER_00: Rayal Shalali Daktigman Kalkah behooves a person not to be overly particular with them and their actions, the things they say, the things they do.
• 4:16
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it behooves a person, it's in his best interest, it's in his best interest to make it seem like he didn't hear what was said, he didn't see what was done, and and let the other person kind of figure it out on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: If someone's so medactic in everything the child does, then the child's gonna feel a certain level of pressure or a Talmud or a spouse.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if a person who just kind of let things slide by um in an appropriate manner, then that might be um the best thing for that relationship.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: When it comes to interacting with a fellow person, and meshama allove slo shama lets you hear something improper about your fellow.
• 4:57
  SPEAKER_00: Make it make make it make yourself like you're a deaf man who does not hear it, ukiada, as if you have no knowledge of the matter whatsoever, so that way your friend shouldn't be embarrassed from you in your presence.
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you have to make it known that you heard what was being said.
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but sometimes, um, like we've discussed today in today's share.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the person has to make it as if he did not hear, if he does not know what is going on.
• 5:39
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, we have to use our proper judgment.
• 5:41
  SPEAKER_00: We should all be um bizarched to have that proper judgment, just to connect it to the to this tekufah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, Merit Hashem Ha ba'lain al-Tabah this week is is gonna be Rashana and a certain level during this period of of Din, we want Hashem to be like that, where he makes himself like a Khairish and we we've done certain things uh over the course of our year that we maybe would hope and wish that Hashem didn't know about.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, Hashem does know about it because he's a Hashem, but through the process of the Shuvah, you know, Hashem is so merciful, and when he d gets up from the Kisei of Din and sits down by the Kisei of Rachim, essentially that's what he's doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's becoming like a khairish and and a and uh like he's becoming like a deaf, like a deaf person, and he's not hearing, he's not listening to those sins that you did.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're Hashem, we should all be Zeika to tap into that Rachimim.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if Hashem is being merciful to us, we should of course um strive to be merciful to others and not be so medactic on them, just like we don't want Hashem to be medoctic so much on us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wishing you all the best and have a fantastic rest of your day.