Latest / Founder Unfiltered - What Founders Think But Never Say / Building a $1.5M Client Pipeline in 4 Months: Lessons from Ellie Holbert
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- 0:00Welcome to another episode of 6 Figure Secrets for fractional
- 0:03Experts. My name is Bradley Jacobs.
- 0:06I'm your host, founder and CEO of mylance.
- 0:09Today I'm joined by Ellie Holbert.
- 0:11Ellie, I'm so excited to have you on the podcast.
- 0:15Ellie is the founder and principal consultant of Impact
- 0:18Advisory Services. She does organizational
- 0:21effectiveness, independent consulting, partnering with
- 0:24people and culture leaders in as part of mid sized innovation and
- 0:28knowledge work companies. Ellie, welcome to the show.
- 0:31Thank you so much, Bradley. It's great to be here.
- 0:34So elaborate a little bit more on what does that all mean?
- 0:38What do you really do? What does that look like?
- 0:40Yes, I would love to. So I'm Ellie Hulbert.
- 0:42As Bradley said, I'm an independent consultant and coach
- 0:45as well who works with typically human resources leaders across
- 0:49industries to improve organizational health leadership
- 0:53as well as team effectiveness. So typically I will partner with
- 0:56an organization to diagnose root cause buses of misalignment in
- 1:01their business and then come up with targeted intervention
- 1:04strategies to improve performance and retention of top
- 1:07performers. I love to mention that I'm also
- 1:10a proud mom to a busy toddler who is the light of my life, and
- 1:14I am a novice gardener and a lifelong learner and an avid
- 1:17reader. Amazing.
- 1:19How long have you been an independent consultant?
- 1:21Sure. I've been an independent
- 1:23consultant since February of this year, so I'm about four
- 1:26months in, almost 5 actually, and it's been a roller coaster
- 1:30so far, but a really wonderful experience.
- 1:33I guess let's talk about the transition.
- 1:34So what were you doing before? How did you know it was time to
- 1:37go out and do your own thing? Yes, absolutely.
- 1:40Before I launched my business, I was doing organizational
- 1:43effectiveness work as a management consultant for about
- 1:47the last decade. So I was very much in this
- 1:49space. But I was working previously for
- 1:51about 6 years with a technology and consulting company that I
- 1:55really loved. Right before I launched my my
- 1:59business, I was adjusting to new motherhood.
- 2:02I had my daughter a year ago in February.
- 2:05And while I was on maternity leave, I began dreaming up this
- 2:09business, thinking about how can I do the most high impact work,
- 2:13still be a provider for my family and maintain my financial
- 2:17independence. And a friend of mine actually
- 2:19told me about independent consulting.
- 2:21I had thought that I wanted to be an entrepreneur eventually,
- 2:23but I was not aware of independent consulting really,
- 2:26or fractional work either. And so I spent maternity leave
- 2:30dreaming up my business, thinking through my strategy, my
- 2:33next steps. And then I took the plunge just
- 2:35before my daughter's first birthday.
- 2:37So you just kind of were like, I'm going to do this, I'm going
- 2:39to quit my job and just go for it.
- 2:42Somewhat. So.
- 2:43My plan originally was to land a secure multi month public sector
- 2:49contract that would allow me to do 2 things.
- 2:52It would allow me as a business owner to build up cash reserves,
- 2:55but also have some time to build out the more strategic advisory
- 2:59work and leadership coaching that I love to do.
- 3:01And so that was the plan. It was a good plan at the time,
- 3:05but best laid plans, right? So I took the leap.
- 3:10I left my corporate job that I should mention I actually liked.
- 3:13And less than two weeks later, I actually had that contract
- 3:18unexpectedly cancelled due to some changes in public sector
- 3:22work that were occurring at that time.
- 3:23So that was a very surprising challenging time.
- 3:28My husband, he also was potentially going to be impacted
- 3:33by some of those changes as well.
- 3:35So you can imagine it was stressful for us as a family
- 3:38potentially going from to good incomes to potentially none at
- 3:41all. So I hit the pavement.
- 3:43I was able to land a couple of opportunities after about 3
- 3:47weeks. Thank goodness my husband's job
- 3:49seems to be OK. So we are really happy that I
- 3:52took the leap and took that leap of faith.
- 3:54But certainly as a business owner, expect the unexpected.
- 3:58Nothing ever goes as planned. Yeah, wow.
- 4:01So when you say hit the pavement, right, three weeks,
- 4:04you found two opportunities. What does that look like?
- 4:06Yes. The first thing that I did when
- 4:08I launched my business was I reached out to my network.
- 4:11So I made a list of over 200 people that I wanted to reach
- 4:14out to one-on-one. I actually still have not made
- 4:17my way through that list, but I reached out to everybody that I
- 4:19thought, you know, might be in my corner or we had worked
- 4:22together. They were able to see the
- 4:23quality of my work and vouch for me.
- 4:26And I reached out to everybody one-on-one.
- 4:27We had phone calls to catch up. I asked them about their pain
- 4:31points and their business shared the work that I was hoping to do
- 4:34and explore it, if they knew of any opportunities.
- 4:37And the the primary contract that was really a saving grace
- 4:40was actually with two former colleagues of mine that now have
- 4:44their own consulting company. They were able to bring me on
- 4:47board to a multi month project and it's been a great fit.
- 4:51So I'm very grateful that that's worked out.
- 4:53But in addition to that outreach, I've done LinkedIn
- 4:55strategies. I've also refined who my ideal
- 4:59client profile is. And so business development for
- 5:01me has looked different every month, but that's what initially
- 5:05my efforts were focused on. Amazing.
- 5:09You know, the at the beginning, nobody knows their niche, nobody
- 5:12knows who's there, who they're joked by, and nobody knows even
- 5:15what services you offer. Let's talk about the services
- 5:19piece. How did you really figure out a
- 5:22scope that you could deliver on that made sense?
- 5:25Like what did what did that look like?
- 5:27I love this question because what I imagine delivering and
- 5:31what I am delivering and plan to deliver, it looks very different
- 5:35and this is something that I think we really need to keep
- 5:38talking about as independent consultants.
- 5:40So initially, before I left my company, I pictured having a
- 5:44suite of service offerings all related to team effectiveness
- 5:48and leadership coaching that kind of built on one another.
- 5:51I pictured very complex team accelerator programs and series
- 5:55of rigorous assessment that I hope to do because I was looking
- 5:59at this from the perspective of what's the work that I love to
- 6:02do most. But I will say with enough
- 6:05business development efforts, I was able to realize it's not
- 6:08about the work that I want to do most.
- 6:10It's about what is the need in the market, what are the
- 6:13challenges that clients are actually experiencing.
- 6:16And so I've shifted from that suite of service offerings to
- 6:21really focusing on a couple of offerings. 1 is advisory
- 6:24retainers. The second is leadership
- 6:26coaching. I still offer assessments,
- 6:29training needs assessments, development programs, but in
- 6:32terms of what my focus is, that's actually where I'm
- 6:36leaning. But I would say the the real
- 6:38lesson learned for me was meet each potential client, ask about
- 6:42their pain points and focus on those pain points versus selling
- 6:46a predetermined suite of offerings.
- 6:49And it just goes to, there's so many people I talked to that
- 6:52they want to figure out what their offer is, right?
- 6:55And as you just said, you can spend all the time in the world
- 6:58figuring it out behind closed doors.
- 7:00But if you don't get out there and talk to customers and see
- 7:02what their pain points are, you're basically wasting your
- 7:06time. I mean, do you agree?
- 7:07What do you think? I completely agree.
- 7:09And I wasted a lot of time getting my business ready when I
- 7:11was in my corporate job. You know, I was working full
- 7:14time. I was adjusting to being a new
- 7:16mom. I had a baby that was under a
- 7:17year old and I was still working on building up my business.
- 7:20So I would wake up very early or work on the weekends while she
- 7:24napped and tried to build out decks and frameworks and
- 7:28physical materials that I thought were the core of my
- 7:31business. I now understand the core of my
- 7:33business is clients and opportunities and it all has to
- 7:37frame around those. It's not about what I anticipate
- 7:40bringing, it's about what clients need, right?
- 7:43And then I don't know if you thought about this.
- 7:45I know you're pretty early in your journey, but there's the
- 7:47concept of a productized service, yeah, right.
- 7:50Where it's pretty standard across all clients and you say
- 7:52no to a lot of things. And then there's what we're
- 7:54talking about here of what are the, what does the client need
- 7:57and deliver on that. I mean, how do you think about
- 8:00making a more scalable offer versus delivering for the
- 8:03client? I love that question.
- 8:04I would say I have an aspiration to build up to a productized
- 8:09business, but I do not want to create these products in a
- 8:13vacuum based on my singular lens and vantage point.
- 8:18I hope to create productized services that are based on real
- 8:21life examples and principles I'm seeing that are working in real
- 8:25life. And So what I mean by that is I
- 8:28plan as I deliver for my clients to keep in mind repeatable
- 8:32processes, frameworks and shape these overtime informed by real
- 8:37world experiences with the goal of building up to productize
- 8:41offerings maybe within the first couple years, but I don't, I
- 8:45honestly just don't feel ready for that yet.
- 8:47I really want to focus on my clients and their needs.
- 8:49So the number one question is always business development,
- 8:53right? It's building a pipeline,
- 8:56keeping things sustainable. I know you've had a lot of
- 8:59success in this area you were sharing with me previously.
- 9:02So tell us, first of all, tell us the success.
- 9:05Like what? What does your pipeline look
- 9:06like? What are the opportunities look
- 9:08like? Like, give us the spiel right
- 9:10now. I would love to share more and
- 9:12I'll try to be as specific as I can because I know I I've really
- 9:14appreciated that. And in episodes I've listened
- 9:17to. In terms of the question around
- 9:19what my pipeline looks like, I'm very grateful to say it's
- 9:23actually looking very strong just about four or five months
- 9:26in. So in terms of initially what my
- 9:28goal was, my goal was to earn about 1.8 times my corporate
- 9:32salary. And now just a few months in, my
- 9:35pipeline is actually at 4.4 times my corporate salary.
- 9:40And I should mention half of those opportunities do not have
- 9:43a monetary value assigned to them.
- 9:45So you could make the case that this pipeline is actually
- 9:47approaching 9 times my corporate salary, which significantly
- 9:51exceeded my expectations. I could not complete this work
- 9:54all by myself. If I wanted, I would have to
- 9:56hire more people, but it's looking very healthy.
- 9:59In terms of how this breaks down, I've had 11 deals
- 10:02officially close. I have two opportunities that
- 10:05are at the contract finalization stage.
- 10:08I'm preparing one proposal right now.
- 10:10I have 9 opportunities where we are actively in discussions, 15
- 10:14qualified leads and 30 additional leads that have been
- 10:18identified. So in total, that actually comes
- 10:21out to 67 opportunities in my pipeline, half of which, again,
- 10:25have no dollar figure assigned. So if I had to offer a value for
- 10:29that pipeline, I would say as high as six figures, but likely
- 10:32well into the seven figures if all opportunities had a value
- 10:35assigned to it. Yeah, wow.
- 10:37So it's like 4 or five months in, you have over $1,000,000
- 10:40worth of deals in your pipeline is absolutely incredible.
- 10:44So Congrats, most people struggle so much with this.
- 10:48Thank you so much. Well, I have to say, Bradley, I
- 10:50followed your method to AT and it has been instrumental in
- 10:54building that pipeline. And that pipeline I should
- 10:57mention, it's not like I have these superhuman levels of
- 11:01confidence when I'm getting on calls with potential clients.
- 11:03I'm a very normal person. I question myself.
- 11:06I have fears, I have anxieties, all of that, but I have really
- 11:09taken away a lot of insight from you around still making that
- 11:14persistent imperfect action. And that, that is everything.
- 11:19So I don't wait until I'm fully ready to do something.
- 11:22I give myself until I'm 75% there and then I have to take
- 11:26action. That's the rule for myself.
- 11:28And so that pipeline, you know, there hasn't been a single phone
- 11:32call where I handled it perfectly.
- 11:33There hasn't been a single, you know, proposal that's been
- 11:36perfect and needed no revisions. None of that has happened
- 11:39through perfection. It's just taking those
- 11:41consistent, imperfect actions that build up over time.
- 11:46I love that. I think every single business
- 11:48owner, much less independent consultant would benefit from
- 11:52just ship it just 75% of the way there as a rule and just ship
- 11:57it. So exactly you mentioned that
- 11:59you've been following our methods that we talked about
- 12:01here on the podcast and what we offer at my Lance share with the
- 12:04audience specifically, right? Like, yeah, I don't need you to
- 12:07reiterate what's on our website, but like what specifically did
- 12:09you do, have you been doing that's really generated this
- 12:12super successful pipeline? Sure.
- 12:14So I would say that my business development efforts fall into 3
- 12:18buckets, one being the direct outreach to my network that I've
- 12:22been doing those one-on-one calls.
- 12:24Another bucket would be LinkedIn outreach and then a third bucket
- 12:28would be finding places where my ideal client is gathering
- 12:32together. So in terms of the LinkedIn
- 12:35outreach, I follow your method. I've listened to almost all of
- 12:38your episodes and follow your advice to AT.
- 12:40So what does that look like? I post that leadership to
- 12:44LinkedIn and this can be articles or post, but I really
- 12:48forced myself to post several times a week.
- 12:51I aim for every day. If I only land half the time,
- 12:54that's still 3 to 4 posts a week and that's great for the
- 12:57algorithm. I also tagged thought leaders in
- 13:00my posts and one particular post went, I would say lightly viral.
- 13:05When the the giant of my industry of psychological
- 13:08safety, Doctor Amy Edmondson from Harvard, she engaged with
- 13:11that post and that blew up and reached a large number of people
- 13:15I've never reached before. I also add my ideal client
- 13:19profile on LinkedIn almost every single day.
- 13:22So I send about 200 to 300 invitations a week.
- 13:26When people accept, I send them a message expressing my
- 13:29appreciation. I also engage with their content
- 13:33organically for a few weeks, commenting, adding thoughtful
- 13:36notes, and then after a while when that might be reciprocated
- 13:41or there's some consistency in them liking my comments, I will
- 13:44reach out again and ask for a 15 minute phone call.
- 13:47I've tried 2 messages for this, one being just to get to know
- 13:51each other and the other one being to ask them some questions
- 13:54for thought leadership that I'm writing that has had quite a bit
- 13:58of success. There was I think a four week
- 14:01period alone where I was able to speak with ACEO of a life
- 14:05sciences company, a vice president of a life sciences
- 14:08company, and a vice president of a financial services firm.
- 14:12And a couple of those were actually very recognizable
- 14:14brands. So that was very effective.
- 14:17And then to go a little deeper into the third bucket of
- 14:20business development, I really recommend reaching out to
- 14:24professional associations where your ideal client is gathering.
- 14:27So for me personally, my ideal client, those include leaders in
- 14:32HR and the people in culture space.
- 14:34And so I'm a member of an organization called Troop HR.
- 14:38It's an incredible community of HR leaders and I engage with
- 14:43that community every single day. They have a platform online and
- 14:47I engage with that platform by posting on different forums
- 14:51Ioffer insight and advice. I've done a webinar for them.
- 14:55I meet one-on-one with people that join and are brand new and
- 14:58I would say this is an incredibly reliable source of
- 15:01one-on-one phone calls with my ICP.
- 15:04I think I have probably 4 calls a week just from this Troop HR
- 15:08community, so those 3 approaches have been incredibly effective
- 15:12and I've been tracking my average to my ICP over time.
- 15:16I would love to share the progress, if that.
- 15:17Is perfect. Thank you.
- 15:20So I've been tracking the percentage of calls that are
- 15:23with my ICP and when I started in February, about 8% of my
- 15:28calls were with that ideal client profile, the leaders in
- 15:31HR March, it was actually 0%. So I somehow stepped backwards,
- 15:36but now four months later, over 75% of my phone calls are with
- 15:41my ideal client profile and I really believe that's because
- 15:45I'm following your guidance very closely.
- 15:47So I believe contact with the market is the only thing that
- 15:51counts. one-on-one calls with your ideal clients is
- 15:55everything. Everything else must be limited.
- 15:58That's really helped me build that pipeline.
- 16:01Wow, it's so incredible. And I love, I mean, you're
- 16:04obviously tracking the data, you know, where every state, how
- 16:08many are in each stage. So you're tracking using a CRM,
- 16:11right? I mean, there's such value in
- 16:13measuring your efforts and it takes some extra time, but it's
- 16:17where it. Was, you know, it's so funny, it
- 16:19doesn't take as much time as you might think.
- 16:21I wanted to do this level of tracking, but was a little
- 16:24swamped with client delivery. And then one afternoon,
- 16:26afternoon, I really forced myself to add this structure.
- 16:30I think it took me maybe 10 or 15 minutes to track that data.
- 16:33And that looked like scanning my calendar and just counting the
- 16:36number of calls I had and the number of calls that were with
- 16:39leaders that I needed to reach in the people in culture space.
- 16:42So I really recommend for folks to start tracking those numbers.
- 16:47Even if you set aside 20 minutes at the end of every month,
- 16:49that's all it really takes. And if you were to ask me
- 16:53subjectively, how are my business development efforts
- 16:56going, I think that as business owners, we struggle with
- 17:01confidence, with questioning ourselves.
- 17:02We're signing up for this. And if you were to ask me that,
- 17:06I might say, you know, I'm, I'm concerned that this won't work
- 17:09or I'm not really sure. I'm doing my best.
- 17:11But when I see the numbers and see that I have gone from 8% one
- 17:16month, 0% to 76%, it forces me to realize, OK, things are going
- 17:21very well. This will work out just fine.
- 17:24So I really recommend tracking the numbers.
- 17:27Yeah, any kind of a way. And I've done many strategies of
- 17:30this to go myself tangibly either how well it's going,
- 17:35things I've accomplished, right. It's like as you said, as a
- 17:38business owner, we get lots of feedback out there that isn't so
- 17:42doesn't feel so good, right? Lots of nose rejections advice,
- 17:45all that kind of stuff. And so having those internal
- 17:48ways to remind ourselves like, hey, I'm doing a pretty good job
- 17:51here, right? Like I'm, you know, I'm doing
- 17:53just fine. It's.
- 17:54So important, especially when we think around, when we think
- 17:57about hope and the hope for our businesses to succeed.
- 18:02It really helps me to realize, you know, I speak to 30 to 40
- 18:06people a month for my business. Of those 30 to 40, what percent
- 18:11will lead to closed opportunities?
- 18:13I'm still not sure yet. I'm still tracking those
- 18:15numbers. But when I look at the volume, I
- 18:18know that over time I will close more opportunities.
- 18:21So on those tough days where you're thinking I just don't
- 18:24know when the next opportunity will close, I just don't know
- 18:27when the next check will come. Look at the volume of your calls
- 18:31and if it's that higher volume, it's inevitable you will land
- 18:34more opportunities. Yeah, amazing.
- 18:38The context that you're adding as far as you said new
- 18:41connections every single week, every month.
- 18:44Where are you getting that list from?
- 18:46Of contacts to add? That's a great question.
- 18:49So I am currently using LinkedIn Sales Navigator.
- 18:53I'm newer to the tool, so I'm not sure that I'm leveraging it
- 18:56to the extent that I could, but what I begin with is the
- 18:59recommended connections or the recommended leads.
- 19:03I always go to that list. I've been able to refine the
- 19:06algorithm over time to remember that I'm interested in C-Suite
- 19:10and vice presidents in the people and culture functions at
- 19:14larger mid size companies in innovation cultures and
- 19:19knowledge work. So that could be life sciences,
- 19:22it could be consulting, professional services,
- 19:24technology, and overtime the algorithm seems to learn that
- 19:28that's who I'm wanting to reach out to.
- 19:30And those are the recommended leads that it offers.
- 19:33Yeah, amazing. So and then as far as the
- 19:35content, you said you aim to post every day, sometimes get 3
- 19:38to 4 times a week. I know we have our own
- 19:41philosophy on this, but how are you coming up with what you want
- 19:45to post about that builds that thought leadership and gets you,
- 19:49you know, that awareness and trust with those new contacts?
- 19:52I love that question. If I were to sit down and try to
- 19:56come up with thought leadership every morning, it would be so
- 19:59challenging. I have tried that several times.
- 20:02What I've realized. Works really well for me is I
- 20:05wait for moments of inspiration or moments when I've had a
- 20:09really exciting conversation with somebody or I feel a lot of
- 20:13energy around a topic. And I will open an AI app, I
- 20:17like Otter AI, and I will just do a brain dump on my own and
- 20:22just verbally get out all of the thoughts that are swirling in my
- 20:25head, all of the ideas, all of my beliefs and assertions and
- 20:29recommendations based on that conversation.
- 20:32And then I feed that transcript into ChatGPT.
- 20:35I've trained a model to review my transcripts and basically
- 20:39make incoherence coherent to look for the themes within that
- 20:44and then I will create a prompt around generating thought
- 20:49leadership. Typically once I see the themes,
- 20:51then I'm able to say, OK, I want, I want to make a post that
- 20:54makes this statement. And so I will review a few
- 20:57options with that in mind and then I'll take the best option.
- 21:01I'll edit it heavily. I want it to sound like me and
- 21:04feel like me. And then I do one more round of
- 21:06refinement before I post it. So that's the process that I
- 21:09follow. Typically with one really good
- 21:12brain dump, I can get a week of content from that and I like to
- 21:15do different content pillars. So I will focus for a time on
- 21:19leadership coaching. I will focus for a time on team
- 21:22effectiveness and selling the CEO on investing in team
- 21:27effectiveness strategies because that's often a pain point for
- 21:30leaders in HR. And I find that sticking to
- 21:33those content buckets can be very helpful to organize my
- 21:36thoughts, but still cover all of the areas of interest that my
- 21:39clients have. Yeah, amazing.
- 21:42As far as tools that you've used, are you using a CRM?
- 21:47You mentioned ChatGPT and Otter. Any other tools you're using?
- 21:51Yes, tooling is something I'm thinking a lot about because my
- 21:55goodness, the subscriptions really add up over time.
- 21:57But right now I'm using Chachi PT.
- 22:00I'm doing I think the $20.00 a month level, not the 200,
- 22:03although I heard the 201 is exceptional so maybe that's a
- 22:07potential investment. And within chachi PT, I am
- 22:11working on training agentic advisors specifically to do a
- 22:15few different things. I'm working on a business coach
- 22:18advisor where this Chachi PT would basically offer solutions
- 22:23and insights and coaching to me around the business in terms of
- 22:27mindset work and taking bold, consistent action.
- 22:31I'm working on a CEO GPT, which is all about helping me to think
- 22:35strategically and be that thought partner because when
- 22:38you're on your own, it can get a little lonely.
- 22:40I'm also working on a GPT that is specific to the delivery of
- 22:45my work. So I have my own framework.
- 22:47I have my own assessment tool, I've pulled in academic research
- 22:51industry best practices into a bulk of knowledge work related
- 22:56to the work that I do. And so I'm training a GPT on my
- 22:59work. And then finally, I'm also using
- 23:02a GPT as a VA admin assistant, still working on that one.
- 23:07So I have 4 different GPTS supporting me in my business.
- 23:10That's the tool that I'm using for for that is ChatGPT.
- 23:14I also in terms of the CRM, I am using one page CRM.
- 23:18I think it's maybe 3035 a month if I'm not mistaken.
- 23:22It's been very helpful. It's been created specifically
- 23:25for solopreneurs in mind, so it's very intuitive.
- 23:29I really like the tool. That's also where I track my
- 23:31pipeline and I have a pipeline for client opportunities.
- 23:35I have a pipeline for potential partnerships and collaborations.
- 23:39I also have a pipeline for speaking opportunities.
- 23:42And then finally, other tools that I'm using Riverside for
- 23:45podcasts. I am using Otter AI for
- 23:49transcription and then I'm also using Score app to build out
- 23:53assessments so that my ideal clients can take assessments to
- 23:58assess the health and effectiveness of their teams,
- 24:01their employee engagement efforts and then receive a
- 24:03diagnostic and I in return receive their e-mail address.
- 24:06Cool, and you're going to be using Mylands shortly for
- 24:11content. Yes, I cannot wait.
- 24:13I am so excited to be one of your first users.
- 24:16That tool will be amazing because like I said, with
- 24:18thought leadership, if you're going to sit down and start
- 24:21writing, it's extremely challenging and the tool that
- 24:24you're developing, and I can't wait to see the way that it
- 24:26provides value in this area, especially around those
- 24:28different content pillars. Yeah, amazing.
- 24:32I want to dive a little bit into the emotional side of things.
- 24:34So you talked about, you mentioned it twice around, you
- 24:39have the normal fears and anxieties that everyone else
- 24:41does and that manifests in many different ways.
- 24:44And one of the biggest ways is the non needle moving
- 24:47activities, right? As you said, the only thing that
- 24:49really matters is talking to clients, one-on-one
- 24:52conversations, but people spend all those time with logos and
- 24:55websites and business plans and everything behind the scenes
- 24:59when none of that moves the needle.
- 25:01And of course the shows up in other ways too.
- 25:03But how have you navigated the normal fear and insecurity and
- 25:08anxiety that comes with going out on your own for the first
- 25:11time and doing it anyway? Because you're doing it bigger
- 25:14and faster than most people, than 99% of people, I'd say.
- 25:18So how are you? How are you doing?
- 25:19Wow. Thank you.
- 25:21That's a great question. One thing that you said that
- 25:24stuck out to me was how easy it is to become distracted with
- 25:29working internally almost invisibly in the quest to start
- 25:34a business. And I think that is something
- 25:36that independent consultants really need to keep an eye on
- 25:40because, you know, reaching out to potential collaboration
- 25:43partners, working on documents privately, those things feel
- 25:48very productive. But it's a bit of an illusion
- 25:51because like we said, to fill the pipeline, you need potential
- 25:55clients, potential opportunities, even the
- 25:58collaboration partners, although it can feel really productive to
- 26:01get on a call and and learn what someone does and share what you
- 26:04do, those don't lead to opportunities very often, at
- 26:08least in my experience. And it can be a bit of an
- 26:11illusion that you're making progress getting your name out
- 26:13there, but it's not client facing.
- 26:15So I really like that you mentioned those examples because
- 26:19that is a common pitfall. But I'd like to answer more
- 26:22thoughtfully your question around emotional regulation and
- 26:26resilience. I do think that that's been a
- 26:29major differentiator in the progress that I've been able to
- 26:32make in just a few months because I'm willing to
- 26:34experience and manage the discomfort that comes with being
- 26:38a business owner. What, whether that's rejection,
- 26:41disappointment, anxiety around outreach.
- 26:44And a lot of this is because I practice mindfulness strategies.
- 26:49And one of them that works really well for me is allowing
- 26:53myself to experience the physical sensations of emotions
- 26:57without suppressing them or brushing them under the rug.
- 27:00And I have a belief that these emotions are like visitors or
- 27:04old friends. They're welcome to come at any
- 27:05time, but they won't stay forever.
- 27:08And so I will take a moment to bring my awareness to the parts
- 27:12of my body that are uncomfortable.
- 27:13For example, with anxiety, I have a tightness in my chest, a
- 27:16tightness in my throat. I'll take a moment and just
- 27:19place my hand on my chest, my hand on my throat, and I breathe
- 27:22deeply and I remind myself I can survive these sensations.
- 27:27These emotions are just sensations.
- 27:29I Will Survive this. And because I don't let things
- 27:33bottle up and I don't brush them under the rug, they just wash
- 27:37right over me. It's like a storm, you know,
- 27:39moving through your neighborhood.
- 27:40The sky looks dark and stormy, but then it moves on through and
- 27:44it's sunny again. That's how it feels for me.
- 27:47And I remind myself, you know, these emotions, it's not an
- 27:50actual sign that I'm not ready to take action.
- 27:53They're just signals that I need to take care of my nervous
- 27:56system. These brains are not designed to
- 27:59help us be entrepreneurs. They're designed to keep us
- 28:01alive. And they work so hard to keep us
- 28:03alive. So I will say to my brain, thank
- 28:06you, you are working so hard to keep me alive.
- 28:08And I love you for that. But we're going to be fine.
- 28:11We need to go run a business now.
- 28:13Yeah. Wow.
- 28:14Where did you learn that? In a few places, but mostly from
- 28:18my dad. My dad is really into
- 28:20mindfulness and meditation. He grew up in an environment
- 28:23where emotions, where he wasn't really allowed to have emotions
- 28:25it, it was not safe. And he has worked so hard
- 28:30through his life to change so much in just one generation.
- 28:34And a big part of that is around creating safety in our home,
- 28:38creating safety within his emotions, within himself.
- 28:41And I've learned a lot through him.
- 28:43We also, as a family, went to meditation seminar when I was
- 28:47about, I think, 12 or 13. And that was an awakening for
- 28:53me. We were introduced to the
- 28:54concept of metacognition, which is thinking about what you're
- 28:58thinking about. And I remember kind of walking
- 29:01through my adolescence with this awareness of, oh, wow, I can
- 29:05think about what I think about. And these thoughts are not
- 29:08actually me. I'm separate from them and I can
- 29:11sort through them and consider them, but I have this internal
- 29:16locus of control that can choose what I do regardless of what is
- 29:20coming up in terms of thoughts and emotions.
- 29:22So long way of answering that. I would say some early formative
- 29:26experiences, my own spiritual beliefs, and just really
- 29:30practicing every day or as best as I can, mindfulness and
- 29:34meditation. Wow.
- 29:36It's beautiful and you know, it's also interesting.
- 29:38A lot of a lot of our work sometimes is to work through
- 29:41what our parents conditioned us to believe or think or just how
- 29:46we are our conditioning. And so it's really beautiful to
- 29:49hear someone share like such a such a powerful experience that
- 29:54they learned from their father. Thank you, thank you so much.
- 29:57I, I got so lucky with my parents.
- 29:59I have to say. I got so lucky with them.
- 30:00And I'm trying to, you know, continue to weave that thread
- 30:04with my daughter. She's 16 months old now, but in
- 30:08the morning, so she's very young, but we like to do a
- 30:10little bit of yoga together. She can do downward dog.
- 30:12And in the morning I ask her if she wants to meditate with me
- 30:15and she'll breathe really deeply.
- 30:17And so of course, it's a little early, but I so, so wish for her
- 30:21to also just learn to be at peace with herself, be at peace
- 30:25with her emotions. You know, a large part of this
- 30:28too is that if we are not regulating our emotions, they
- 30:32will demand our attention anyways and they will find a way
- 30:36to do that. And so although I think
- 30:38sometimes there's a misconception that the these
- 30:42concepts are kind of fluffy or touchy feely, which there's
- 30:45nothing wrong with that. I actually see this as a
- 30:48distinct competitive advantage because the time that I could be
- 30:52spending fighting with myself, being dysregulated in my nervous
- 30:57system, being distracted because I have emotions that are not
- 31:00being dealt with, all of that time and energy is freed up for
- 31:04other things. So it alleviates a lot of
- 31:06cognitive float if I just take a moment, go through my
- 31:10mindfulness strategies, regulate myself.
- 31:12So I would encourage you, if you're listening to this and
- 31:15you're thinking that's a little squishy, I don't know if that's
- 31:17really my thing. This might actually be the
- 31:19competitive advantage you've been looking for.
- 31:22And I'm going to take you a step further, Ellie, because it's,
- 31:26yes, you're not spending time, you know, fighting your emotions
- 31:29and all that kind of stuff. But I'm a, I'm a believer that
- 31:31our subconscious, if we're pushing down the emotion, if
- 31:35we're not processing in the in a really healthy way like you're
- 31:37describing, it's going to hold us back in so many ways that we
- 31:42don't even realize from right not doing the thing that our
- 31:47business truly needs from us. Yes.
- 31:49And so it's not only a competitive advantage, I think
- 31:52in the way that you're describing, I think it's a
- 31:55requirement to be a successful business owner and actually feel
- 32:00good and aligned and powerful and grounded as we build our
- 32:05business to be practicing in whatever way.
- 32:08I love what you describe, but whatever method works for you as
- 32:11an individual so that you are processing and making space for
- 32:16everything that does come up. Because I think just like
- 32:18romantic relationships, running a business is one of the best
- 32:21way to see like what all your triggers are and all your stuff
- 32:24is, right? It brings up so much.
- 32:27And if we don't process and handle it well, yeah, it's going
- 32:29to, it's going to come out, and not in a pretty way.
- 32:32Wow. You know, it's so fascinating
- 32:34what you're describing. I haven't even really thought
- 32:37about it in those terms. And I, I, yes, I completely
- 32:41agree. I've even had, you know,
- 32:42memories from childhood come up around, you know, social
- 32:46awkwardness, trying to fit in, finding my way among my
- 32:50classmates. I've had really specific
- 32:52memories come up as I built my business.
- 32:55And some of that, the echo of my childhood has gotten louder
- 33:00suddenly. And I think it's because of what
- 33:02you're describing around how deep this work is.
- 33:06And I mean, truly, if you were to tell me that emotional
- 33:09regulation and mindfulness was the main thing I would lean on
- 33:13as a business owner versus technical knowledge, I would
- 33:15have never believed you. I don't know, maybe because I'm
- 33:18interested in this, but I really didn't think that was what was
- 33:21going to happen for me. But truly, like you said, our
- 33:24subconscious, I mean, if we do not believe that we will achieve
- 33:29a certain outcome or we're not capable of it or we don't
- 33:31deserve that outcome, that comes through and all of our work.
- 33:36I've seen emails on days where I remembered, you know, it was a
- 33:39really tough day. I found out about an opportunity
- 33:42loss or personally, a tough day. I've remembered those days and
- 33:47I've seen messages that I've sent and I can see a distinct
- 33:50difference in terms of the confidence, the warmth, the
- 33:53boldness with which I recommend the next step versus days where
- 33:57I feel very aligned and feel very much like myself.
- 34:00So you're right, it comes through in everything that we
- 34:02do. I know for me, and there's a lot
- 34:05of successful people that are, they're very analytical and we
- 34:10think a lot, right? We're kind of like analyzers in
- 34:13a lot of senses of the word. And So what I've learned is that
- 34:17the overthinking that I developed and I'm going to say
- 34:20over, I'm going to own the overthinking is a response to
- 34:24not wanting to feel the feelings, right?
- 34:27Feel the feelings if not enough or anxiety or grief or sadness
- 34:31or frustration, whatever it is. And so I intellectualize the
- 34:34feelings versus letting myself feel.
- 34:36And it's actually been a practice for myself, whether
- 34:39it's in business or whether it's in anywhere else in my life of
- 34:42when that feeling comes, don't try and figure out where it's
- 34:45coming from or what caused it or what does it mean.
- 34:48It's like just as you said, take a second.
- 34:51I do the same thing. I put a hand over my chest or
- 34:53whatever. I'm feeling it and I just think,
- 34:55OK, you have permission to feel. Wow, I love that.
- 34:59It's, you know, it's so funny, I see parallels to and what you're
- 35:02describing with launching my business, but also becoming a
- 35:06mom. And becoming a mom was what it
- 35:08took for me to launch my business.
- 35:10And I think a huge part of that was motherhood forced me to
- 35:15learn how to surrender. Before motherhood, before
- 35:18pregnancy, even I did not know how to surrender.
- 35:21I would my way through challenges.
- 35:23I thought if I just put in the right input, I will get the
- 35:26right output. I could.
- 35:28Even if I wasn't the smartest in the room, I felt like I could
- 35:30work harder than anybody in the room and that's how I would get
- 35:33the results. And with pregnancy and
- 35:36motherhood, the paradigm shifted so completely where I could not
- 35:42control outcomes. I could not control what this
- 35:45infant would do if this infant would sleep by doing the right
- 35:48inputs. And I finally learned to just
- 35:52surrender and to be completely unattached to particular
- 35:56outcomes and just enjoy the moment for what it was and find
- 36:00the gift that I could find in that day, regardless of the
- 36:03circumstances that were happening around me.
- 36:06And I, I don't want to make motherhood sound too
- 36:09challenging. It's the most beautiful thing
- 36:11I've ever experienced in my life.
- 36:12But you know, it's not easy. And on those hard days, I am
- 36:16just so grateful for the gift of surrender.
- 36:19And I've really brought that into my journey as a business
- 36:23owner. You might not think surrendering
- 36:25is is the way to grow your business, but I think what I'm
- 36:28describing is that non attachment to the outcome.
- 36:31I will do something brave and bold and reach out to a leader
- 36:35or really put myself out there. And I know that no matter the
- 36:39outcome, I'm going to be fine. And I just surrender to the
- 36:43possibility of whatever may happen.
- 36:46And I'm so grateful for the peace and bravery that Mother
- 36:51has given me, because that gift of surrender, I don't think I
- 36:54would have discovered it any other way.
- 36:56And I could not run my business without it.
- 36:59The letting go of the outcome or being unattached is the perfect
- 37:02word. It ends up being a paradox in my
- 37:05experience to I'm going to give it my all right.
- 37:09It doesn't mean I'm not going to try hard or care or people are
- 37:13like, how do I, you know, how do I care if I'm unattached, right?
- 37:16Or what does that mean? And, and it to me, it is a
- 37:18paradox. Like I'm going to give it
- 37:20everything I got to build a successful business, find new
- 37:23clients, do proper marketing. I'm going to work.
- 37:25I'm still going to work hard and I'm going to care and I'm going
- 37:29to be unattached. I'm going to surrender.
- 37:30I'm going to let it play out how it's meant to play out, knowing
- 37:34I gave it my all. And if it doesn't play out how I
- 37:38want it to, great. Then it's feedback for me.
- 37:40I iterate, I learn, I grow, I figure it out for next time,
- 37:44right? It's all a journey, which is a
- 37:47bit of a cliche, but the the I don't know.
- 37:49I'm curious if you thought about that paradox of giving it my all
- 37:52and being unattached. Yes.
- 37:54And so when you, when you were saying that, an image came to my
- 37:58mind. I, I remember when I was a
- 38:00child, I loved playing with water to live down the lake.
- 38:02And I would often scoop up water in my hands.
- 38:05And I was amazed at how if I tried to hold the water really
- 38:08tight, it would just run through my fingers.
- 38:11But if I just scooped the water and gently held it, it would
- 38:14stay in my palm. And that image always kind of
- 38:17stuck with me. And I think it's it's a way to
- 38:20visualize what you're describing right now, which is when you
- 38:23cling to the outcome, when you try to force it, you don't
- 38:27necessarily get the result that you're looking for, But when you
- 38:30just gently hold possibility for the outcome, ironically, you
- 38:35might get it. That's been my experience at
- 38:37least. And so how do you do that in
- 38:40practice? Because it's like, we really
- 38:42want these things. I really want that client.
- 38:44I really want the money coming in.
- 38:46Maybe I need the money coming in to put food on the table,
- 38:48support my family. You mentioned supporting your
- 38:50family. Like there's things that we
- 38:52really want. So how do we hold the
- 38:55possibility loosely like that cup of water versus squeezing
- 38:59it, which is of course the thing that makes us lose it.
- 39:02I would say get aligned with your core objectives.
- 39:08So instead of hustling and overworking and trying to burn
- 39:12the candle at both ends, really think about who is it I'm trying
- 39:15to reach, what value am I trying to offer them?
- 39:19And align all of your efforts to that.
- 39:21If anything is outside of that scope, it should fall off the
- 39:24list and that frees up your capacity to focus on the most
- 39:28high impact, high value activities.
- 39:32And then within that, one thing that I really love to do is to
- 39:35remind myself of the value of my work.
- 39:38So I will write out quantitative improvements that I bring to
- 39:41clients. I had one particular engagement
- 39:44where we delivered $4.5 million of added value across 18 months,
- 39:50no additional investments. And the reason I bring that up
- 39:53is that when I get on calls, instead of really working myself
- 39:57up with angst and insecurity, I remind myself I could bring this
- 40:02person $3,000,000 a year in value.
- 40:04I have something valuable to offer them.
- 40:06And with that, I can feel myself physically unclenched and find a
- 40:10greater degree of ease. So I remind myself of the value
- 40:13of this work and then this. The third component I would say
- 40:17is making sure that you were aligning.
- 40:20Your outreach in your calendar to support the growth of your
- 40:22business. So identifying what is the
- 40:25number of calls that you feel you need to have on your
- 40:27calendar. For me, every week I try to get
- 40:296 to 8 booked, about 25% to 50 get cancelled.
- 40:34So I end up with the right number that I can handle for my
- 40:36capacity. So there are specific practices
- 40:39I follow to grow my business. And I know that if I see the
- 40:43calendar, I see I have the calls booked, I know my value.
- 40:47I know I'm reaching the right people with the right message.
- 40:50That is where I can kind of loosen my grip a bit and just
- 40:53trust that opportunity will come and kind of hold the water in my
- 40:56palm. I can sit back, just be myself,
- 41:00follow through on my commitments for the week because I know I've
- 41:03created the architecture for this business to thrive.
- 41:07I can't squeeze it all out in one day.
- 41:09Yeah, what I'm hearing is really focusing on the process, right?
- 41:14It's like I'm going to do the activities, I'm going to post on
- 41:16LinkedIn, I'm going to do my outreach, I'm going to follow
- 41:18up. I'm going to comment on their
- 41:19stuff. I'm going to engage with them.
- 41:21I'm going to offer them, right. Well, you talked about a 15
- 41:24minute, you know, adding to a thought leadership post, right?
- 41:27I'm going to do the things I know overtime in aggregate are
- 41:31successful, not necessarily this one or this one or this one, but
- 41:35like in aggregate. And then trust.
- 41:39I'm really going to like that's the surrender piece is like I'm
- 41:41going to trust that my activities, right?
- 41:45And kind of the universe is rigged in my favor kind of
- 41:48experience, right? Like this is going to work out
- 41:50not in every micro moment, but in the macro experience.
- 41:54Yes, exactly. And it it will work out.
- 41:56It might not look like what you thought it would look like, but
- 41:59that doesn't mean it won't happen, Right.
- 42:02You have to leave a little bit of that room for magic, in my
- 42:04opinion. But I I do trust that it will
- 42:07work out. I do trust that over time, if I
- 42:09make these commitments, I make these, you know, decisions to
- 42:12structure my day in this way, to take bold action, to imperfectly
- 42:17commit, I believe it will work out.
- 42:19And so I am able to surrender with that trust.
- 42:23Yeah, yeah. Amazing.
- 42:26You're perfect business in six months.
- 42:29So like end of the year we're exactly at six months right into
- 42:31the year by December 31st, 2025. What is your perfect business
- 42:37look like? So funny you say that.
- 42:39I wrote it out yesterday. So my perfect visit.
- 42:42I like to do reflection quarterly and monthly.
- 42:44I like to do a look back and then planning.
- 42:48So last week, excuse me, yesterday was my quarterly
- 42:51review of my monthly review. So that's why I wrote this out.
- 42:54So by the end of the year, I hope to find 2 clients that are
- 42:59ready to commit to a retainer, strategic advisory retainer for
- 43:02an ongoing period. I also hope to find four
- 43:07additional coaching clients as well.
- 43:09I'm really excited to be doing a collaboration with an incredible
- 43:13coach who has a PhD in leadership transformation.
- 43:17She's, she's running a coaching program that's about seven
- 43:20months long. And so I'll be joining her on
- 43:22that as an additional coach. So that will be a lot of my
- 43:27bandwidth and a really interesting opportunity for the
- 43:29rest of the year. And so in addition to that and
- 43:32my existing client work, that's what I'm hoping to build is four
- 43:35additional coaching clients and two advisory retainers.
- 43:38But in terms of, you know, looking at it from the bigger
- 43:41picture, I would say just to feel the sense of meaning is
- 43:45wonderful. And I hope to just continue
- 43:47feeling that when I became a mom and made a commitment that any
- 43:52time away from my daughter needed to be fulfilling,
- 43:56financially fulfilling, emotionally fulfilling, if I was
- 43:58going to be away from her. It had to really add to the life
- 44:01of my family, not take away from it.
- 44:04And I am so grateful that that's already become a reality.
- 44:08And I hope to just continue feeling really fulfilled and
- 44:11engaged and continue earning to provide for my family.
- 44:15Before we wrap up, I did not ask how long, how much time per week
- 44:20do you spend on these business development activities?
- 44:23That's a great question. I would say that it ranges.
- 44:27I think I spend between 8 to 15 hours a week on business
- 44:30development. So it is a lot.
- 44:32I would say this is probably not sustainable long term if you
- 44:36have a very high volume of client work.
- 44:38But for me personally, I believe that this is a necessary
- 44:42commitment to build a very robust pipeline, which is my
- 44:45goal. So in the future, I do think I
- 44:48could probably and around the 8 hour mark and be OK with that or
- 44:53at some point I do hope to make investments to free up capacity
- 44:57and that could be a virtual assistant.
- 44:59I really hope to work with my Lance in terms of thought
- 45:01leadership and LinkedIn growth. So I do believe making those
- 45:05initial investments would be very important to free up
- 45:07capacity for the work that only I can do in my business.
- 45:11But right now it's it's a lot, but it's doable.
- 45:14Awesome. Did you get our last episode on
- 45:17on virtual assistants? I don't know.
- 45:18Yes. I did.
- 45:19It was so good. Thank you so much for that.
- 45:21Yeah. And we and we have a great
- 45:23company that we've used to to find them.
- 45:25And yeah, I've been working over years to find that really
- 45:30effective balance of how to work with them.
- 45:32And I've it's gotten to a good place now.
- 45:34So amazing. If our audience wants to find
- 45:38you, where can they find you? What's the easiest way?
- 45:41Yes, you can find me on LinkedIn.
- 45:43I'm Ellie Holbert. I would love to hear from you.
- 45:46I'm just amazed by the community that's, you know, formed around
- 45:49independent consulting. So please do reach out and say
- 45:52hello. That would make my day.
- 45:54You can find me there. Awesome, and we'll link your
- 45:56LinkedIn as well so people can easily find you.
- 45:58Ellie, thank you so much. I really, really enjoy it.
- 46:00I could talk to you forever. I could talk to you forever,
- 46:03yeah. Thanks for being here and
- 46:04sharing just everything with the audience today.
- 46:06Yeah. Thank you so much, Bradley.
- 46:08Thank you so much for all you do.
- 46:09It's you're, you're changing more than you could now.
- 46:12So please keep at it. Thank you.
- 46:14Thanks Ellie.