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Seasonal D · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Talk Talk Talk to We're just two unapologetically black women
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  Speaker 1: with an opinion to talk.
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  Speaker 2: Ooh what's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for
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  Speaker 2: a new episode and we talked back a show dedicated
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  Speaker 2: to you dreamers and chasers and everybody else.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Today anyway, it's your co host AJ Holiday.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all, It's me Tian Bama. I love y'all once again.
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  Speaker 1: I love you AJ girl.
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  Speaker 2: Thanksgiving just passed. Did you eat a lot?
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  Speaker 1: Girl? I ate everything wasn't nailed to the table. I
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  Speaker 1: went down to Montgomery, Alabama, where my sister lives. She
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  Speaker 1: hosted this year, and I was only supposed to make.
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  Speaker 1: I set everybody up with what they were supposed to do,
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  Speaker 1: and they agreed to it, right, So I made sure
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  Speaker 1: to make my lists very small of what I was
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  Speaker 1: supposed to do. I was supposed to make a potter
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  Speaker 1: rice and some deviled eggs, no mac. Tanisha was insistent
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  Speaker 1: that it was her house and she was making the
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  Speaker 1: mac and cheese this year. Fine, whatever. Before I knew it,
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  Speaker 1: I had tone made the collar greens dressing, rice and gravy,
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  Speaker 1: some meshed potatoes and deviled eggs, and I was helping
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  Speaker 1: her with the mag.
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  Speaker 2: Shame. She tried to show your mac up this year.
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  Speaker 1: She tried, she tried. It wasn't mine. It was good,
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  Speaker 1: but it wasn't mine. You know what I'm saying. You
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  Speaker 1: did anything for the weekend? Oh yeah, we went to
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  Speaker 1: We went to the museum, the Legacy Museum in Montgomery.
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  Speaker 1: It was very I ain't want to be there. I
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  Speaker 1: ran through it. I ain't gonna lie. I ran through it.
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  Speaker 1: That ship was like little chap of horrors. It was
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  Speaker 1: literally like as soon as you walk in the museum,
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  Speaker 1: niggas heads on the ground. What God, Yeah, it was
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  Speaker 1: like they was in the ocean, the people who jumped
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  Speaker 1: off the boats, so all their heads was like down
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  Speaker 1: in the sand and they just was like screaming and
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  Speaker 1: you can hear chains, and I was like, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to put myself through this. They had like jars up.
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  Speaker 1: They literally had people go to the places where we've
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  Speaker 1: known black people were lyched and dig some of the
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  Speaker 1: sand from under the tree and put it in the
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  Speaker 1: jar and bring it there. So she looked there like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: some of their DNA might be in that sand.
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  Speaker 2: What is wrong with people? Like listen, I believe in
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  Speaker 2: with Kraft period, I might do a little something something
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  Speaker 2: that shit sounds crazy as hell to me that y'all
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  Speaker 2: going to take remains from people and bind them in
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  Speaker 2: a jar somewhere in a museum. Y'all doing replications of
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  Speaker 2: people in the sand. That is weird. And that's just
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  Speaker 2: like when we went to Memphis and y'all went to
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  Speaker 2: that goddamn museum.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I not. That's what I said. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: do none of that no more. It's just doesn't I
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  Speaker 1: was like, do y'all feel good now like this? I
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  Speaker 1: feel I feel sad.
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  Speaker 2: I have so much more, greater things that we could
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  Speaker 2: put in a museum about black people.
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  Speaker 1: I swear yeah. I was like, is this our legacy?
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  Speaker 1: Because it's called the Legacy Museum, and what nothing but
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  Speaker 1: black people there?
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  Speaker 2: So it's like, it's not our legacy.
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  Speaker 1: We're living our own trauma. I understand the importantness of
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  Speaker 1: importance of knowing the history, but I don't feel like
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  Speaker 1: that's for us. I think white people should go to
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  Speaker 1: that ship.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, how they do to how they how the
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  Speaker 2: Jewish people do to people when they step overstep their bounds,
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  Speaker 2: they send their ass to the damn the Holocaust Museum.
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  Speaker 2: That's what that's for. That's not for black people. Y'all
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  Speaker 2: have done enough of ciphering O goddamn energy. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 2: now you and I saw in the building circulating looking
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  Speaker 2: at all this crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Name, all this pain. So I ran through that ship,
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  Speaker 1: waiting for everybody outside I left. I ran through that yeah,
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  Speaker 1: straight up, straight up, I ran through that motherfucker. I
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  Speaker 1: sat outside wait on niggas. I was like, I sit
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  Speaker 1: out that bitch like somebody got a newport. That ship
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  Speaker 1: almost driving me to smoke spots. But then we went
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  Speaker 1: down to the river boat and we saw the Harriet
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  Speaker 1: and then the chair was out there. I got a
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  Speaker 1: picture y'all have me holding the folding chair in the
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  Speaker 1: sky like why ya YadA.
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  Speaker 2: Like I've heard of me like that.
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  Speaker 1: That made me feel better, girl. That ship is wild,
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  Speaker 1: no long, it ain't over. So then that night to
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  Speaker 1: the club called Infusions something like that. Montgomery. These niggas
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  Speaker 1: do not dance. The only type of dance they do
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  Speaker 1: is line dancing.
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  Speaker 2: Bitch.
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  Speaker 1: When a song they and they got line dances that
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  Speaker 1: don't nobody know about? That motherfucker to songs, I'm like, damn,
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  Speaker 1: who came up with this and then motherfuckers was honky
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  Speaker 1: talking baby they was but any other thing. Don't nobody dance.
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  Speaker 1: It was only line dancing. That's the only dancing I
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  Speaker 1: seen them do. So you've seen some.
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  Speaker 2: Niggas of gold teeth line dancing.
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  Speaker 1: Line dancing like a mom. Shit had seventeen steps. I
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  Speaker 1: could keep up. Well, I think it about you. We
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  Speaker 1: need to post that video.
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  Speaker 2: Were supposedly was doing that Mia up to.
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  Speaker 1: Me a dance.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 1: I tried to learn that shit over weekend too.
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  Speaker 2: No, I ain't got enough coordination or brain cells for
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  Speaker 2: that shit. Man, I need space for other things too.
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  Speaker 1: Much to remember child.
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  Speaker 2: So this weekend. So this weekend I went to Charleston
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  Speaker 2: and the Thanksgiving Thanksgiving wasn't nothing major.
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  Speaker 1: It's just we barely cooked food.
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  Speaker 2: For real, man, really, and I really don't need to
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  Speaker 2: eat anyway. She cooked like turkey wings and shit, I
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  Speaker 2: made a mac, so I had mac and caligarens. That's it.
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  Speaker 2: But and Friday night, so our schools are high schools,
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  Speaker 2: they had like alumni games, like basketball games. Four high schools.
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  Speaker 2: It was lit. And then the high schools that I
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  Speaker 2: went to in West Ashley, they had like an alumni
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  Speaker 2: party Saturday night, so it was nice to see people
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't seen in years acting stupid, acting up. And
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  Speaker 2: then we went to a little hood spot after that,
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  Speaker 2: so it was a little outside weekend for the most part.
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  Speaker 2: I ain't see no my fucking heads in the sand.
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  Speaker 1: Right, you went to a black school, I said, I
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  Speaker 1: sound right, we went to a black school.
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  Speaker 2: We don't have a well, I guess you could. You
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  Speaker 2: might consider North Charleston High School a black school. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: North Charleston would be a black school. But no, I'm
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  Speaker 2: from West Ashley, so the schools was mixed. So the
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  Speaker 2: two high schools we had St. Andrews in Middleton, they
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  Speaker 2: ended up merging my last year of high school, well
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  Speaker 2: last two years of high school. But they always was
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  Speaker 2: like rivals, so they played against each other. Then No
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  Speaker 2: Choleston Downtown played against each other, and then the winners
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  Speaker 2: had to play each other.
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  Speaker 1: So it was cool. You. I feel like black schools
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  Speaker 1: always get together for some shit. My school was predominantly white.
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  Speaker 1: I ain't seen the motherfucker since I graduated. We had nothing.
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  Speaker 2: It's so weird that, Yeah, we didn't go to all
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  Speaker 2: all white schools or all black schools. But only the
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  Speaker 2: black people was outside for these things, So maybe maybe
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  Speaker 2: the game was only maybe we're the only one that
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  Speaker 2: actually put these stuff together. Because I'm gonna tell you,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I mentioned this before when we did
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  Speaker 2: our ten year high school re union, I didn't realize
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  Speaker 2: how racist the white people were that we went to
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  Speaker 2: school with. When I tell you, like the black people
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  Speaker 2: planned the reunion, it was really really, really nice, top notch,
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  Speaker 2: even if the principal of school came. But like I said,
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  Speaker 2: we came from two different high schools, so Middleton was
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  Speaker 2: more of the honky tongue school, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: The Sandrews, like we all raised together, the black and
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  Speaker 2: white people. The white people from Middleton were so racist
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  Speaker 2: when we were planning this goddamn reunion. They're like, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know any of these people. They went and had
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  Speaker 2: them a beach day.
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  Speaker 1: Girl.
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  Speaker 2: They didn't even come to the reunion. Well, welcome to
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  Speaker 2: South Carolina. So ooh, girl, isn't it anyway? That was
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  Speaker 2: my weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Child.
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  Speaker 2: Let's take a break right quick and get into this
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  Speaker 2: stupid internet news. All right, y'all, we back and ingle disaster.
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  Speaker 2: What we know, all y'all, seen King and t I
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  Speaker 2: arguing over the weekend. Tiny too oh tiny was there
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  Speaker 2: too right to? I can't hear a little voice in
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  Speaker 2: the background, just that fucking spoiled as bratt. Okay, it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna come a day when you got to put hands
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  Speaker 2: on one of your kids, at least one, it's going
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  Speaker 2: to give you hell.
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  Speaker 1: And he's that kid. He is one of the children.
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  Speaker 1: He is entitled. He's just not a nice young man period.
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  Speaker 1: He's not nice to his parents, how he presents on
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  Speaker 1: social media, it's just not becoming. They named him King.
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  Speaker 1: That's where they fucked up, because he probably already got
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  Speaker 1: a complex about superiority to people with that name. Ship.
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  Speaker 1: They need to like cut him off financially so he
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  Speaker 1: can be humbled.
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  Speaker 2: I think no, I don't think they need to. I
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  Speaker 2: think he needs to go to therapy. I went to
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  Speaker 2: his page because I have I had a theory in
• 10:01
  Speaker 2: my mind about what was going on with him, and
• 10:03
  Speaker 2: I do think he has some mental health that she
• 10:05
  Speaker 2: was going on. I went to this page and this
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: is I went further back than the last few days,
• 10:10
  Speaker 2: so I can see, like what his comments usually look like.
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  Speaker 2: The amount of people that was calling that boy ugly
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  Speaker 2: and saying little weird things about him was overwhelming. And
• 10:21
  Speaker 2: it's just me looking at it. Yeah, right, So imagine
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  Speaker 2: being the recipient of these comments daily when you just
• 10:28
  Speaker 2: try to live Breathe he has, He definitely has a complex,
• 10:32
  Speaker 2: multiple of them, and the Internet play a big role
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  Speaker 2: in that. Yeah, Like, and how do you while everybody
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  Speaker 2: you know he looks different, We're just going to say
• 10:42
  Speaker 2: that he does look different.
• 10:44
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 10:44
  Speaker 2: I don't think the drags help, you know, he makes
• 10:48
  Speaker 2: me just get a little regular color haircut.
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: But I think, all right, So I think these young
• 10:53
  Speaker 1: people have like social anxieties that we didn't have, and
• 10:58
  Speaker 1: you know, not in the amount that has it. And
• 11:00
  Speaker 1: I really think that they be hiding under that hair
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  Speaker 1: and that's why they grow it down in their face
• 11:05
  Speaker 1: so they can hide under it. Why is your hair
• 11:09
  Speaker 1: in your face like that? It's I think it's the
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  Speaker 1: place to hide. Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: So now me, if that were my child, we'd be
• 11:16
  Speaker 2: going to therapy because now your TI's son, right, You're
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  Speaker 2: trying to now, you know, have your own separate identity
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  Speaker 2: from your parents, and look how you're being received by
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  Speaker 2: the world.
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  Speaker 1: But I think cutting him off from money and excess
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  Speaker 1: is a form of therapy because he wants to. It's
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  Speaker 1: an exercise because you feel like you struggle and may
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  Speaker 1: I won't say he don't have no traumas, because just
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  Speaker 1: because you have money doesn't mean that you don't see
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  Speaker 1: trauma growing up. Right, we all have things that happen
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  Speaker 1: to us, whether we're poor or rich. But you want
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  Speaker 1: to be hood so bad, I'm gonna give you an
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to feel it in away in a significant way.
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  Speaker 1: Not just yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But then their son might end up in prison. They
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  Speaker 2: might he might end up in prison. You know what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying, trying to get it out the mud in
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  Speaker 2: the bando. You know what I'm saying, Like, if I
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  Speaker 2: have the means, I'm never gonna make my child struggle.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
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  Speaker 1: I'll try to if he if he gonna end up
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  Speaker 1: in jail because you cutting off his money, he go
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  Speaker 1: in jail with money, what's the train of thought that's
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  Speaker 1: gonna make you go do some dumb ship like that
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  Speaker 1: that you wouldn't do it with the money.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I just could. I just wouldn't do that.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that that's to me. That's not where
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  Speaker 2: I was starting and I think the Internet wants to
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  Speaker 2: see that. I think people want to see him have
• 12:40
  Speaker 2: nothing right because we elevate people and then we all not.
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  Speaker 2: When I say we, I'm talking about the collective because
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  Speaker 2: this is never my mind, my state of mind, and
• 12:49
  Speaker 2: when I think about people like black people love to
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  Speaker 2: elevate a motherfucker and also simultaneously be the person to
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  Speaker 2: bring them down. It's not my job to humble anybody.
• 12:57
  Speaker 2: It's not any any one.
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  Speaker 1: Of our jobs to hum No, it's his parents job,
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about. It's his parents' job, and
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  Speaker 1: I think they missed the mark with that with him,
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  Speaker 1: Like he needs to learn some humility, but.
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  Speaker 2: All other kids are good, all other kids like he
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  Speaker 2: needs to learn balance. But there's something else at played.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. It's not just about him wanting
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  Speaker 2: to be bad. He's acting out for Okay, So here's
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  Speaker 2: what the document says. It says a lot. They were
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  Speaker 2: at the Falcons game, so he's embarrassing in them, embarrassing
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  Speaker 2: them at a fucking football game. Shit win Sideways, King
• 13:33
  Speaker 2: started arguing with his parents. Voices intentions continue to rise
• 13:37
  Speaker 2: as two sides yell at each other so what it
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: says is that a crowd of people can be heard
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  Speaker 2: teasing King saying he had a silver spoon in his mouth,
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: but he barked back, yelling it wasn't true. His mother
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: attempted to remind him of his wealthy upbringing as a child.
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: Toddy then mentioned that the only reason King loved going
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: over to his grand grandmother's house was not so that
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: he could run around with his hood raft friends, but
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: because he because she allowed him to suck and spacify
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: into leave as well. The nineteen year old appeared to
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: be offended, claiming that his parents were trying to hide
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  Speaker 2: the fact that he was really in the streets doing
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: all the things, and the two of them tried to
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  Speaker 2: stare him away from At one point, TI could be
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  Speaker 2: her yelling nigga, nigga, you ain't. You are an embarrassment
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  Speaker 2: to your family. You are an ambassament. Later King of
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: to your exactly Later, King appeared to pose an obscured
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  Speaker 2: photo from behind a car wheel. He added the next text,
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  Speaker 2: I stand on business, don't give a fuck who you are.
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  Speaker 1: So you feel like this nigga who stands on business
• 14:46
  Speaker 1: don't give a fuck who you are? Probably in the
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  Speaker 1: car that his parents had provided him should not be
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: taught given an exercise in getting money for yourself.
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  Speaker 2: And even his own daddy clin in him. It says
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  Speaker 2: early this month t I couldn't help but clown his son,
• 15:02
  Speaker 2: King Harris over the latter's new teeth.
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  Speaker 1: What.
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  Speaker 2: During an appearance on the Baller Alert Show, King was
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: asked about his newly white and teeth those are not
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: just newly white. And he went to somebody cheap to
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: get them chip lit things.
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: And because I haven't seen a lot of people come
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: back with him, begins teeth in their mouth. And you
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: gotta act like you don't notice.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: When I know, hold on when you just said that,
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: you gotta act like you don't notice when I tell you,
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: I know so many people who got them things in
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: their mouth, and I can't help but stare at them
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: when they talk.
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: You gotta act like you don't see that ship about
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: to jump out their face. Yeah.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: So more of the story is he need his ask well,
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: but he also needs their man. He going through it.
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  Speaker 1: He going through it. He needs therapy and he needs
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: some financial humility exercises.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't think that's the way, but anyway, a
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  Speaker 2: long couple.
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  Speaker 1: With therapy, that they don't have to come from a
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  Speaker 1: dark angry place. It ain't gonna come from a dark
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  Speaker 1: angry place like what cut you off? No, it's like
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  Speaker 1: more like we want you to experience life without the
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: financial help that that your family provides you, so you
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  Speaker 1: can understand how privileged you really have been. Because there's
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: a disconnect somewhere. It don't have to be man, It
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: don't say put him on the street, but he might
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: end up there.
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  Speaker 2: He might not even have the wherewithal to create something
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  Speaker 2: out of nothing, you know what I'm saying, But because
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: he has been so privileged and spoiled, like you know what,
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  Speaker 2: I like, that's.
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  Speaker 1: Heat kid, give him like take. He probably still live
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: at home. I mean I don't.
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  Speaker 2: We don't know how he living though, what the setup is.
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  Speaker 1: You know, she's only nineteen years old. He's only nineteen
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  Speaker 1: years old. I doubt that he's got his own place,
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  Speaker 1: so it an't way he got to pay rent nowhere.
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  Speaker 1: Just a kid, He's just a kid. Parents take, That's
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, giving their kids allowance all the time,
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  Speaker 1: And why is it any different for king When they misbehaved,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: they get cut off from their allowance. I don't understand
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  Speaker 1: why it's any different from him.
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  Speaker 3: From him M I feel I have a lot of
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: I think I have a lot of empathy for King
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: because I've seen how people be talking to him and
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: then you're at a football game and people chanting shit.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: At you, like what the fuck?
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Like, why is that even happening?
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: How did he cause that to happen? Did he cause
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: it to happen? Or was he's talking shit to somebody?
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Like why is that happening?
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  Speaker 1: I think it's been his social media persona that he gives,
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: entitled little ship. That's what he gives.
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  Speaker 2: All right, let's move on from King a little badass.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Anyway, We're gonna pray finally, we love you, my young boy.
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: Y'all listen, if you are on dating websites hinge uh
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: plenty of fish.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: What's the other one?
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I know?
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm dam give me another talking about you know.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: I know, because I ain't got no money. There's hinge
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: plenty of fish, tender, there's rayah.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: That's how I want to get on. Riya bitch, do
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: you ever get on?
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: No, they won't let me on. I don't think I
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: think it's on Riyah. I deleted that app. I got
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: mad because it's been months the fuck.
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: So black people think, oh yeah, black people meet. So
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: apparently there's this thing called food Digger. This article says
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: food Digger scam. Beware of new scam on dating apps
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: like tender Bumble and Hinge.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Y'all.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: So apparently the restaurants, the restaurants are using bots and
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: they're on these dating websites. They are courting women and
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: men via the app setting up dates. You get to
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: the restaurant waiting on your date. Your date never shows.
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: Your mindset is like, well shit, I'm here already, let
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: me go ahead and eat. The date unfollows you, unmatches
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: with you on the dating app, and now you're spending
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: money at least, you know, food and a couple of
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: drinks because now you're depressed. They need a fucking ass fud.
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: Listen, and you sitting at the Cheesecake Factor like I
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: didn't even want to come here another basket of prouderad.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: That's fucked up. That's real, fucked up. People is just
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: doing anything for money right now, y'all just have to
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: be careful out here, because when the restaurants is date
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: fishing you to get you to come in there and
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: eat is crazy.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like what like I would have never ever like
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: who the fuck is in their marketing department that thought
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: about that ship.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Like imagine Red Loss to be a real charming with
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: you in the app so you could go have channar
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: baby biscuits. It's crazy, Red Loss of Like, so where
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: are you from?
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: Bro?
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: That's crazy, that's fucking crazy.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: They need they ask what so the restaurants that like, say,
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: for in.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: You like to eat, so what you like to eat?
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: But they're not like on the apps as Red Lobster
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: like they're on the app.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's really Red Lobster, but it's a person.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: It's a buy right. Yep.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: That's terrible.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: I really love people. I really love Red Lobster. We
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: should meet there.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Did you see that video of Red Lobster had like
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: some maggots in the food?
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: Oh no, let's grows.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I like a lot of them too. I
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: like a lot of maggots. I don't really like eating
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: out no more. Man, everything the price of everything is
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: going up and then equality is going down.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: But yeah, but in the same breath the food. I
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: remember when it used to be cheaper to go to
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: the grocery store than to go out to eat. And
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: that's a lot in the case, y'all.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: So, did I know everybody pretty much watched Squid Squid Games?
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: I think what year was that?
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Was? That the high it was? It was like right
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: before right when Coach started.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, twenty twenty maybe twenty twenty one. Squid Games came
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: out so right now, and I saw it when I
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: was scrolling through Netflix the other day. Now they have
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: a real life challenge, like a real life challenge, Square
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: Games Challenge on Netflix right now.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: You couldn't get me to sign up for that shit.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not. And apparently the players want compensation for injuries.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Did y'all not watch the movie, right, y'all? Lucky, y'all
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: ain't dead. Stupid ass took y'all out there and put
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: on that green dicky suit. No, it's a sweat suit.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: Is it green or orange? It's green? Oh?
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, and it says contestants on Netflix Squid
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: Game the challenge are seeking compensation for alleged injuries, including
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: hypothermia and nerve damage sustained during filming. Represented by Express Solicitors,
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: they claim poor health and safety standards are on set.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: The game, based on the South Korean drama Squid Game,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: involved players standing still for extended periods and cold temperatures.
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: Netflix and Studio Lambert, the co producers emphasize contestants welfare,
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: denying serious injuries. So how are you going to tell
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: somebody and get fucked up during this game? I mean,
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: and essentially it is a job, So why would you
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: not be able to get some type of workers compensation?
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: But they need to check the contract that they signed
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: when they signed up for this fucking challenge where people
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: actually were dying on the movie.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what woud y'all expect? I don't understand you could
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: like we're doing a real squid games. Would you like
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: to sign up? No, niggas die, I'm not playing that game.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I might you would. I can see you right now.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: Number four fifty six, Oh yo? Good? I four five six?
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: I like three six nine?
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: No you like six ' nine?
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: I don't like six nine? Actually? Do you like it?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: I don't know's I can't enjoy it. If I got
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: a word, I like to see my cuchigain eight.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: I do not like like why y'all to do this?
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: And that at the same time, like, what is happening?
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: It's not enjoyable for real, yang, y'all. So that sence
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: for the week, y'all.
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: So on Sunday, I was laying in bed and I
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: was just like I had this pensive spirit. I was melancholy.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what to call it. I just
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: was not feeling my joy yourself at all. It felt
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: real low. I was feeling mindy bad. I was feeling
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: real down like Sophia from Color. And I was like thinking,
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: like does it have something to do with the season?
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people are suffering from
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: seasonal to pre so I wanted us to get into
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: the conversation of what that is and how we can
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: cope as black people are all people can use these tools,
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: but this was specific to black people because I am Black.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: So I have seven ways to cope with seasonal depression.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: So after this break, we'll get into it. And where I.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: So, Tam, what exactly is seasonal depression? Do we know
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: exactly what it is?
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: All right? So? Seasonal depression, also known as seasonal effective
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: disorder SAD, is the acronym for it is a mood
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: disorder characterized by depression that occurs at the same time
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: every year. Typically it's when during the climate change, when
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: there's less sunlight. Typically people aren't typically depressed during the summertime.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: It's usually when it's colder. And I think for you know,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: African Americans, you know, we already have a vitamin D
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: deficiency because we are we have melanin and it blocks
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: out the sun more than others. So that vitamin D,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important for us to add
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: it to our diet during the winter months because I
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: think that does help with seasonal depression. I'm not sure though.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: But no that I mean that makes sense yet because
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: black people do our son, I mean, excuse me, our son,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: that is our son, Okay, it is literally for us,
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: and that's why. And it winter times, black people may
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: be a little bit more depressed because you know, we
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: white people can stand the coal a little bit more
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: than we can. It's just a known fact, okay.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: And so.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, man, get you a good ass
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: vitamin D and and add it beef up on it,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: because I mean, I feel like, I feel like black
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: we should already be taking some extra vitamin.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: D and not penis. Not penis girls. I know it's
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: a busual listening. I get vitamin D every night.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: Not that when it's cold outside, No, I feel it.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: I feel it because I feel.
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: Like when it's yeah, I like when it's I like
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: the summertime. I like to go sit out in the
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: grass and just you know, absorb the sun. And in
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: the winter, I mean the sun is still out, but
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: it's like cold.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: I'm not sitting outside. I'd be feeling like more said,
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: even like at night. And I think it's because my
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: bed is empty every night and I reminded that I'm alone. No,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: I'm not. Do you have sads?
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: Is that really sads? Which is the the seasonal depression
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: or is it something else? Uh?
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: No, it's really it is because I've read that it
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: could increase at night during the nighttime.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: That you're if you think about adam, like think about beers,
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: they say, animals who end up having to hibernate by themselves,
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: they usually die. Like you are supposed to be partnered up,
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: especially in the winter, especially in the winter months, like
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: humans just sophisticated animals. So where's your partner, you know,
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: to help you? Because hugs safe lives, rubbing feet on
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: the nigga feet safe lives right.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Why I ain't got that, I don't know, because I
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: can't just invite somebody to my bed, you know, and
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I don't want to just be in someone else's bed.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: You know. It has to be right because you fucking
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: around and have the wrong nigga. Then you be sad
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: because you rob you know, you know at your house.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: It really said five dollars out of your pocketbook while
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: you had right.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: All that bullshit, because now you really said, now you
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: got seasonal depression and you're missing money? Like that ain't cool?
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: TV gone, I got my I got my eyes set
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: on one person. But I'm gonna talk about it in
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: my therapy session because I feel like I be too
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: excited about these niggas when I like them and they
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: be noticing likes. Am I thirsty?
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: Is it?
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: Given? Thirst? And running like a nigga off?
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: Unfortunately, we have to play a game with men. Sometimes
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: some men will match your energy, but others it's like
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: you have to act like you despise them niggas for
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: them to fall in love with you. And I just
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: don't have that type of time. Yeah, I kind't have
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: that type of time. And in the minute you stop answering
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: the phone, and a minute you stop responding immediately, then
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: they start ramping it up on you. Those are niggas
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: you gotta stay away from because they they got mental issues.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Now they trying to love bomb you and shit when
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: you've removed your energy from them.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: Should I feel a way if I'm having a text
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: conversation with someone and they just stop responding abruptly, Yes,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: nobody does.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: That to somebody they like they want to make sure
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: you know these times.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: Just come back when like a day later, finishing the conversation.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: That's wold well if you in the stages of trying
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: to get to know somebody like via text is never
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: the way anyway, Like why we're not on the phone,
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: because once you're don't talk for like thirty minutes an hour.
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: I really don't need to be texting no more for
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: the day. I've already gotten out everything I need to
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: say to you on the phone. Call men who like
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: the text, women who like the text they have they
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: don't like conversation. I like to converse me too.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: I like to be on the phone, So don't fucking
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: start a conversation with me via text. And then as
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: I'm responding, you just stop responding.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: That's so rude, because it might be flying, driving, all
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: type of shit be going on, That's what I'm saying,
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: And just call and have a conversation right quick when
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: you get a moment.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: Then that way it won't be no text balls dropped.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: All right, So let me get into this list, you guys.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: The first way, there's a therapist named Harris, and this
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: is from isy in live dot com. And the first
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: thing for you to do, it's feel your feelings. So
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: Harris suggests spending intentional time to acknowledge and assess your feelings,
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: but don't wallow in them. Black women don't often give
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: themselves permission to feel tender emotions because they are often
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: encouraged to be strong. Share your feelings, whether it be
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: with friends and family or therapists. Make sure that you
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: aren't suffering in silence. Now that's a lot of people. Yeah,
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: people don't even know how to identify what they feel,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: and they just walk around feeling miserable and not saying shit.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: Because we've been taught to cope, cope with everything.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: And that's why I put on I mean, we are
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: not licensed therapists, but I think I give pretty good
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: advice and I'm definitely a good listening air. That's why
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I put on the story, like if anybody want to chat,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: this is what we're talking about. If anybody need to talk,
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: just to get people out, like because people DMS stuff
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: all the time. But maybe they didn't see the story
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: so they can could have could have called in and
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: had a conversation right quick to us, how you feeling shit,
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: How you getting through sads right now?
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's nos on it through right now?
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Yoh yeah. So then the list goes on to say
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: what we already said, reach for your vitamin D. Y'all. Guys,
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: they have h one called black Girl Vitamin D. Y'all
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: should check that one out. Uh, specific to your black body,
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: created by other black women. So try that. But we're
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: gonna move on from that one. Move your body, so
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: this is an important one.
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: I think that's why I got sad right now. I
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: am not moving my fucking body.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Physical activities such as exercise has shown the decreased symptoms
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: of depression. Exercise benefits your brain by increasing memory, relieving stress,
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: and improving your sleep, all things that can be beneficial
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: to improving your daily function. So y'all get y'all ass
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: up and go to that gym. You got in the
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: gym in your apartment complex. But you don't have no
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: not to take your ass over there. Yo, it's a
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: bitch listening Dan, she's talking to me. I do gotta
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: give me this month, even if you.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Just got some ten pound weights, just do some of
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: her calisthetics. Yeah, I'm gonna do a workout today.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: I like work out today. I went back to spend.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: I had took like literally a month off and gain
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: half of my way back just in a month. So
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: I went back and I really enjoyed it. I did
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: twelve miles on that bike, and that night I did
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: sleep a lot more peacefully than the other night. So
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: gotta get yourself physically active, or if.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: You got a man. If you got a man, stop
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: being a pillow princess and ride that dick. Okay, get
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: some cardio in. I literally wear my fitbit when I'm
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: riding dick okay, because I like to count calories. I
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: like to see how many calories I've burned, and you
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: can actually burn a lot of calories having sex.
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was what that. But you're right,
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: You're absolutely right if you.
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: But they are just you know how you can select
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: your exercise. They need to add sex to it? Why
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: sex in on that? I gotta just indoor physical activity.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: Because how you're gonna like decide like a bitch a
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: lay on her back and say, yeah, I burned seven
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: had the calories.
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: That's why I said, ride dick. Okay, you gotta get
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: up and ride it.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: You can imagine your app have it ride dick as
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: an option. Imagine it.
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: It's just sex. Just put sex.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: But sex isn't always exercise.
• 34:36
  Speaker 2: Yes, it is, even with laying on your back, like
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: the breathing. All of that causes you to burn calories,
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: even if you know are not the one.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: Actually, I know some bitches they burned not a liquor
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: calorie laying there getting humped by a nigga breathing in
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: their faith bill, get off, get off, all right? So
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: it says, take advantage of natural light.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Avoid me up and open the windows, y'all. Yeah, open
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: your blinds.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Avoid being cooped up indoors all day. If you can
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: do your best to go out as much as you
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: can during the daylight hours, A quick walk around the
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: block may help. Elevate your mood, clear your mind, and
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: give extra bit of energy. Many of us are home
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: more than ever before, so to decrease the likelihood of
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: cabin fever, make sure to step outside, even if it's
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: for five to ten minutes.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so even if it's coal outside, like, just go out.
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: The sun is still out right, So like twelve o'clock
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: is when the sun is the hottest. Usually between like
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: twelve and three right now, because it is getting dark
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: at five forty five. Yeah, I know, yeah, maybe maybe
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: even earlier than that, ten between ten and two. Go outside,
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: can't you get?
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: Like I've seen where people had like artificial sun lamps
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: that's like the UV, like, yeah, to get put it
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: in your room and just lay up under it.
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: I remember, I have a skin disease called pity yourized rosia.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: It don't bother me anymore.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: When I stopped being chicken, I don't have the issues
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: no more. But I used to go to the tanning bed,
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: and that shit gave me hives. Tanning bed, yes, so
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: I'm allergic to that fake light. So what you was
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: doing there, I was in the tanning bed. That's all
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: I did is went there with a bathy suit on
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: and for what turn the tanna bed on. It helps
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: your skin, It helps the skin heel.
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: Oh from the sign. Yeah that's.
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it wasn't helping me. That shit gave me
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: fucking hives on top of the other skin is shoe
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: I got. Now I'm fucking itching from UV allergy.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: I guess you couldn't get me to get my whole
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: body under their fingernail light. That ain't the light for
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: your whole I would like sticking my hands in that
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: motherfucking thing.
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: Oh, the sauna, even if you know, even if you
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: don't work out, go to the sauna, just like that's
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: the heat, the steam and all that. That should make
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: you feel good too. A you do burn calories in
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: the sauna. Yeah, so it's like a little tiny little
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: workout and it might make you feel better too, sleep
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: better for sure.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: I love the song, dude.
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so do like thirty minutes in the sauna if
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: you can. You might have to step out and breathe
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: a little bit and come back.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: The problem with the sauna is Black women we have
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: like this relationship with our hair in exercise that just
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: has been like unhealthy.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Man. I don't think they just give a fuck no more.
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: Everybody will look fine now. Man, y'all care about hair?
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: Y'all still care about y'all hair? I do y'all snatches
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: fucking wig off?
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Man, you got them a wig, But if you got
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: clippings and you got like a silk press, it's like
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: fucked up. Now. I'm getting some braces today. I'm getting
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: some brace today for that very reason, because I want
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: to lose at least ten pounds before the new year,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: if possible, before the new year. So we'll see, all right,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: next one, write it out. Harris suggests taking inventory of
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: your thoughts and emotions by journaling, recognize your triggers, and
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: possibly log in the time of day in which you
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: experience a decline and mood and energy. This way you
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: can be proactive and self care and mindset.
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: I gotta get better at it. Writing down. I know
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: your ass, write down every fucking thing, y'all. When we
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: first started this podcast, this bitch ain't have no computer, y'all.
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: Tammy letter used to be like.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: Hold on, let me go get I had an iPad.
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: Let me go get my computer. It'll be the notepad.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: She gotta run to the car again, I write it down.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I still I prefer it instead.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: That's a good practice. That's a good practice because when
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: I write, my hand hurts. It's like it's an exercise
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: for me. God damn. But you start oing good then
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: to get bad.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Y'all. I see she sent me a video on her
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: jacking off, and she's a jackar master and never risks
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: be working. But now you can't write?
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: What what are you doing to.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Somebody else on this life? Listen for the record.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: I never said this bitch send her nothing. Nah. I've
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: seen her doing some ship, but she ain't never seen
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: me doing nothing.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: I have, lie, black girl, you see remember you. I
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna say it, but you. First of all, I
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: see you do some things.
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: Lie.
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: Oh you forgot see how forget? I remember? But now
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: you can't write? Get your pay and paper.
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, niggas women do this type of ship too, right,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: y'all think y'all are only trifling ones out here?
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Get trifling too. I'm not trifling. I just I didn't.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: I clicked on the face time. It was like, but
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: I you're returned, all right? The last the next one
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: is set a realistic sleep schedule. Y'all, Stop scrolling all
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: night and take your ass to beg why is this
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: talking to me? Because it's you. I'm looking directly at
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: you saying that, because I be getting memes and videos
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: from this bit two thirty in the morning of a
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: fat lady shaking her ass during the water dance and
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: talking about this, you girl? Fuck you going to sleep?
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: Make me all up in LA with this big old
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: bookie huge as fuck? Is she talking about this? You girl?
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Go to sleep?
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: I need to go to sleep. I literally have Instagram
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: set for two hours a day that I always be
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: taking the timer off.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: You might as well just cut that shit off.
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: I have my sleep timer. When my phone goes on
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: D and D at nine forty five, I be turning
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: that off. And then I just stay up till one
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: or two o'clock in the morning. And shit is fucking ridiculous.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: And it's a known fact. It's a scientific fact that
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: women need more sleep than men. So I gotta find
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: a way to get some rest. Man, I never get
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: first of all, and then when I do, like leave
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: everything off, it just so takes me a long time
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: to actually fall asleep. And I don't want to do
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: no melotone or none of that shit. Weed weed helps.
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why you be going to sleep. Yeah, I
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: for sure. I love my little weed and edibles going crazy.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: I last night I put on andre three thousands albums.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: I listen. It sounds every night. It don't matter every night.
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you what you need to try. Try
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: brown noise, y'all, if you're not at night, go on
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: YouTube and put in brown noise and it just sounds
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: like it's not white noise, like the one from the
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: TV is brown. I don't know what the difference is,
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: but it works. It helped me fall asleep. And I
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: even have an app.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: I have an app I paid eighty four ninety nine
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: a year for. It's called Sinctuition, and that helps. But
• 42:24
  Speaker 2: you know, I have a new I've been using the
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: Beats headphones and them should be doing something in my ear,
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: so I'll be wanting to fall asleep with them in
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: my brain.
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: But I used to when I need to give me
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: another set of wired headphones, because with the wired headphones,
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: I would plug it in and just listen to sinc Tuition.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: I'll be out of there.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: Just don't even use headphones, just put on put it on.
• 42:50
  Speaker 2: Yet sometimes I do speak mm hmm.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah we gotta have betters. Yeah, me too, scrolling.
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: Don't let me get on tick talk. I'll be watching
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: bitches cook, watching how to fold. I do not know
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: how to fold a fitish sheet. Still, do y'all know
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: how to really fold the finish sheet I just put.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can fool it, but it's so it's not
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: gonna look as neat as the top sheet.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: It don't never look good. My shit be like in
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: a neat little ball in the club. Stupid y'all. If
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: y'all know how to fold the fish sheet, please send
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: me a video, because I can't do that shit. It
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: be pissing me off, all right. The last one is
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: choose joy. So you need to find happiness by any
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: means necessary. Everything isn't all sad and dying during this time.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: Be intentional and finding things that you do enjoy about
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: this time? Is it snuggling underwarm blankets? Is it pump
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: pumpkin spice lattes? Is it fall? Is it holiday? Decre Like?
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: Whatever you delight in, do more of that. So you
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: have to choose to be happy, and I mean just
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: try to. But what if you like to eat well,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: then eat, but in moderation eat find good things to eat,
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: find healthier ways to enjoy food.
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: I have started eating olives like a lot.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: Well, I like all ofves.
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I never knew I like them.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: Do you like dirty martinis? No? I love Oh you
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: gotta try it if you like all.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Well, now, but that's vodka, right mm hmm.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: Well you don't have to have it. You can get
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: it made. Yeah, you can get it made different. It
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: doesn't have to be vodka. But I'll give me a
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: nice little kettle warmar dirty martini extra. I like my
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: extra dirty making extra dirty stir with and you can
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: get the blue cheese olives with it.
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: Oh, girl, girl, listen, I'd be going to Whole Foods
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: to getting them alives. You know how expensive that fucking
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: bar is. Yeah, that those blue cheese. They have a
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: ranch one too.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: Oh that sound good?
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: Why is this happening? But yeah, I never knew all
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: of this was that good.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: Olives is a good snack. Damn. I mean they hire
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: in sodium though, so you gotta be careful. But I
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: know so I.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: Did one of those little things with like maybe about
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: fifteen of them in there. That's five dollars.
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's expensive.
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: And I'll eat that whole shit.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: But fifteen hours ain't bad. You know that's not bad
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: versus fifteen cookies.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: I never eat no fifteen cookies. Bit you're running out.
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I'm saying you, I'll easily run through a sleeve of
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: oreoles chilling on the couch.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: I don't eat orioles no more ever since I've seen
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: his TikTok video. Well, actually I hadn't been eating them
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: before then because they just don't taste the same anymore
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: to me. But they have some I'm singing the video.
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: They were pointing out how the orioles have these sadist
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: symbols on them, said, what's true?
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Oreosy, you know how to ruin a good snack for me?
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: I'm helping. Look, you know yours. You know your oreoles
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: got the devil in them? Like is evil?
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: God, damn, Listen, everything is not what we think.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: That's just it.
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of the veil has
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: been lifted. So a lot of people notice the ship
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: that they didn't notice before.
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: That's it. You could have just kept that one and
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: let me just have my oreos. So like sometimes ignorance
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: ignorance can be blissed.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: Let me see what else I can ruin for you,
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: because you can lose them ten pounds by New Year's.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: No, girlshav the fuck up. We about to go to commercial.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: We'll be right back, y'all.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: So we have a Somebody commented on the post. It
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: says it's coming. I'm getting sick of myself that that
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: New Year New meat stigmas engraves in my mind. I'm
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: working on being okay in the now. Stop overplanning, overthinking,
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: and overly growing. I'm not a I'm not a GMO plant,
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: So why am I forcing myself to be one? Thanks
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: for listening.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Who said that?
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: It's me Auntie Energy I n e er.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: I like, hey, hey, Auntie, I oh, I agree. Stop.
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: We don't pat ourselves on the back and of for
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: what we already doing. Yeah, sometimes y'all beat yourself up
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: for not getting nothing done. Sometimes it's okay to just
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: not do shit. You know you do already do so much.
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: Just not do shit sometimes, and don't beat yourself up
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: about it. Shit fucking clothes, they'll get folded.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. See that's the thing that we
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: can't do. You can't let your space get messy, because
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: that's how your mind then starts to feel.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: If you go one day without folding some clothes, you'll
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: be it ain't gonna it, ain't there bad.
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: But if you depressed, one day turns into two, two
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: days turns into three. I think you remember that movie
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: with a guy took the pill and he got like
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: real smart.
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: The first thing he did was clean up his home.
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. You got to keep the house clean, no
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: matter what. No matter what, y'all keep your house clean.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: No, I disagree. If you need a break, break bitch,
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: whenever it is clean or not clean. If you need
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: a break, if you're tired, you just don't feel like it,
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: don't fucking do it till you can't, till you can't.
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: When a person is depressed, you're saying and telling them
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: to do some shit when they can you might. I
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: didn't say, God, force yourself to keep the space clean
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: at least man.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: No, we're we're talking about we're talking about what Auntie said,
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: and she said, you know, giving herself to she don't
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: have to grow so fast out growing and doing no.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: But she was more talking about, you know, thinking about
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: the next year and resolutions and things you gotta do
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: like that. Stuff can't cause you anxiety thinking about the
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: future oftentimes, so live in the now. What I'm saying
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: is in order to even plan or do anything, you
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: got to keep a clean space. You just you have to.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: I agree to me. But if you want to take
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: a break, take it.
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: Nobody's saying not take a break, Tommy. Of course, that's
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: all I wanted two days, but that turns into a
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: week for some people.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying is if you need a break,
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: take it. That's all I'm saying.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that can turn into a whole two weeks of
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: ship on your floor, stuff in the closet, all and disarray.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: Your kitchen ain't clean.
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: Day too.
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: That's that's become a thing on social media. These I
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: call them hoiters because that's what the house looks like.
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: House hod girl, Listen, I don't care. Hoiter.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: That's not what.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: It's a hoiter.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's a hoarder.
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: Hoiter. That's my dialect. Okay, I know how to spell hoiter.
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: This is how it's. This is how I'm gonna pronounce it.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: I say a lot of words, you say a lot
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: of words that may not be correct and because of
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: a dialect. Okay, so the hoiters, Okay, British.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: They have these videos.
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: Now these women are like the cars are nasty, the
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: houses are nasty, and they like they posted videos cleaning
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: it like did you make your shit get that nasty
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: so you can make a video like content cleaning it up.
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: I follow this one black lady. She is actually a
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: therapist and her home got really really really out of
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: control because she was depressed, and she's posted making videos
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: to her like getting rid of all the clutter and
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: the nasty because it was a lot of nasty going on,
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: and people were in the videos judging all the perfect
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: people judging her life, and she was like, you know,
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: I I'm sorry, I'm not perfect, like y'all, I went
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: through a rough patch. This is me getting out of it.
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: And then a lot of people align with her, like,
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: you know, I applaud you for showing your reality to us.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: So everybody got they own shit. But I'm not saying
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: let your house go. I'm just saying, if you need
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: to take a day to not, take a day to
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: not there's nothing wrong with that. Either. Some people got
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: their hand. They played soul full, they juggling, they single mothers,
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: they juggling kids, job, sick parents, all these things, and
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: then they come home and they see a polo clothes,
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: clean clothes on the bed, fucking clothes for a night.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: It's okay, No, you're not gonna die if the clothes
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: don't get folded tonight. Give yourself some grace. You're already
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: a superhero. Shit mm fuck it.
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah for one day?
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, hold on.
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: Hodsds hoarders, hoiters, No hoarders, hoarders, hoarders, not no hois.
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: It's a hoiter. What what o the extra land at
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: my bus?
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: Hoarders not hoiterss hoarders hoarders. You're saying hoiters is horders,
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: So what it's the same thing. It's not.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: It's not bitch's goddamn inionaires hoiters.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: No, it's hoards.
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: What you want, y'all like betting You're like, you're like
• 52:51
  Speaker 2: hoarders whore because see that's the that's the part she likes.
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: She's like, that's what you deflected from the word.
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: Like that, that you're a hoarder, aarder and you're a hoarder.
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I am a hoarder of clothing.
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: No, I'm a hoarder of hair products and mail.
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: Mail. Yes, oh that ship out never make it in
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: my house, especially the bills. I ain't opening that fuck that.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: That should be a short in the car. That should
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: be going to the trash at the mailbox, like, bitch,
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: you know what I need to pay? Why are y'all
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: talking to me? Are y'all sending me a paper mail?
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: Y'all are wasting paper where you you don't give a
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: fuck about the environment. That'd be the final notices you're
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: getting mail.
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: Now that email you fifty eleven times, that's the final notice.
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: Mail that can go to hell. That's all I'm saying. Hey,
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: you boys, nothing give you, raggedy motherfuck is nothing. Now
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: I'm joking, I'm gonna pay my student loans. I fuck
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: with you, Sally.
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: Now, I'm fucking Sally because they ain't forgive none of
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: my shit. Yeh, look I probably don't have enough qualifying payments.
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans. Okay, that shit is a burden.
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: It is on our generation.
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: They doing so much to help, like the party and
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: stuff we had this weekend, that is to give out scholarships.
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: That's nice for the graduating class of twenty twenty four
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: from high school. Dog, we ain't have no help for
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: our generation. We just got all of these fucking student loans.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: That is calling me causing me sad.
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: It's causing you said, it's definitely causing me some saying
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: that shit though a seasonal. That shit all year long.
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: Bhind that shit.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans, man, y'all fuck them bills. If
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: you don't clean, at least listen fucking.
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: The Fuck them bills and fuck them clothes. Fuck all
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: that shit. Fuck them kids. Know I'm call CPS on you. Now.
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: Don't do that. Girl.
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: Fuck them kids for a day. Girl, if you a
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: single parent, go drop them damn kids off to the
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: gam granny house. Okay, once they on the porch, they
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: ain't gonna do nothing.
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: Just don't leave them somewhere. Now, Fuck them kids. We
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: talk bad to no. Make sure it's safe though. I mean,
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: you can drop them off the grandma, but don't be
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: dropping them off the grandma and grandma don't know that's
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: fucked up. I don't see the video of that where
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: they girl want to leave her kids with her grandma.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: She just wanted with her mama because she want to
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: be free.
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: Man, that postpartum depression is real. It might even get
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: any even worse during the summertime, during the winter sormery,
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: when you don't have support. Yeah, sometimes like that's the
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: best thing to do us as opposed to killing the ass,
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: because women be killing their kids out here because they're overwhelmed.
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: They don't have any support, they don't have any help.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: So if I got to drop them, if you got
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: to drop me, because I mean, listen, I'm about to
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: have a baby by my goddamn self. Because if a
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: nigga leave you better take your kid with you and
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: this child support check. You're gonna leave me with a baby,
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: Yes the fuck I will. If a nigga thinks he's
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: about to leave me with a kid, you're sadly mistaken,
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: my nigga. This baby started in you, This baby came
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: out of you first, and you think you're just gonna
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: leave the seed in me and walk away go with
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: your daddy.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: What am I do with two more keys? What am
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: I do with keys? You should have.
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: Thought about that before you got pregnant. Nigga should have
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: thought about that shit. I remember one of my homegirls. Man,
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: we used to work at the same job and she
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: had a baby, young girl, she was younger than me,
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: and she had the baby. She kept missing work. I'm like, listen,
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: you gotta lose your job. Your baby daddy don't work nowhere,
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: his mom doesn't work anywhere. If you won't drop that
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: baby off on the porch and call him from the car,
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: she ended up losing her job. Damn you had you
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: have child care. You shouldn't be trying to figure out
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: how you're gonna work and take care of your kid
• 57:25
  Speaker 2: and watch your kid. When you have you have support.
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you just have to nudge people a little bit.
• 57:30
  Speaker 2: Drop that fucking baby off.
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: Shit, not that fucking drop that fucking baby off. Just
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: get the fuck up out of here, y'all.
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: If you have see those depression, seek therapy, go to
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: go talk to somebody.
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: Call me, y'a can call you. Yeah, it might cost
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: you a couple of dollars, but look, we should have.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: Did a little Thanksgiving, little Thanksgiving discount code or something
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: for the New Year years.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: Maybe we can implement that.
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hit us up. You know, I'm not a
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: licensed therapist, but I'm like, oh, we do.
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna give you any real
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: solid advice outside of the last, but you gonna laugh, bitch.
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: That's all I can saying. That might help a little bit.
• 58:21
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