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People Pleasing and Saying No From September 9th, 2025 · The Radio From Hell Show - Best Of

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  Speaker 1: We get this thing called lifestyle round up, lists, surveys,
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  Speaker 1: and trivia.
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  Speaker 2: Oh.
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  Speaker 3: People love all of those things.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And the survey questions are not bad. The trivia questions,
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  Speaker 1: I think are awful. There are two trivia questions. Which
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  Speaker 1: river is damned by the Hoover dam the Colorado?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, Hoover dam Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Which element makes up ninety percent of the known universe?
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  Speaker 4: It'd be either.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, hydrogen. You're absolutely absolutely right. So that's they seem
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  Speaker 1: too easy to me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it took you a second, but I
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  Speaker 2: knew you'd get it.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just like, couldn't be carbon.
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  Speaker 1: No, So, but the polls are kind of interesting. In
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  Speaker 1: a survey of two thousand US adults, Okay, what is
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  Speaker 1: your favorite v acation destination?
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  Speaker 5: Uh?
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  Speaker 1: Thirty four percent? And then and then you can chime in, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: pick Maui. Oh's a good choice.
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  Speaker 2: Top romantic?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, top romantic. That's specific.
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  Speaker 1: They didn't you know, they didn't specify that before I
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  Speaker 1: read it, so, but I guess that's what they meant.
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  Speaker 5: Top romanticin Oh, I got I got married there.
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  Speaker 3: That's pretty romantic.
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  Speaker 1: Thirty three percent chose Paris, Yes, twenty nine percent picked Rome.
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  Speaker 3: I went to Rome earlier this year. I would agree.
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  Speaker 2: I would.
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  Speaker 1: As for a romantic destination, I would. I would pick
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  Speaker 1: my bedroom.
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  Speaker 4: I wouldn't have.
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  Speaker 1: Really, you don't think that's a romantic I haven't been
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  Speaker 1: to Rome, but I understand it's kind of noisy and dirty.
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  Speaker 4: And yeah, I didn't think romance.
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  Speaker 3: Romance you think, what do you think Paris? When do
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  Speaker 3: you think? You think Paris? But that's a big city, that's.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's it's but it's Paris Is.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Geene.
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  Speaker 4: It's nicer than I.
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  Speaker 3: Haven't been to Paris.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: It's lovely, yeah, I you know, I guess I really
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  Speaker 1: with How about the avenues.
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  Speaker 3: Like here just up the street, Yeah, the avenue.
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  Speaker 1: The romance well no, no, I mean the upper avenues
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  Speaker 1: where the homes are even nicer.
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  Speaker 5: Because when I think romantic destination, I think, you know,
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  Speaker 5: walking hand in hand.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, on a white.
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  Speaker 5: Beach or street like when you have the flu huh
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  Speaker 5: oh my way, yeah oh.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, letsie.
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  Speaker 1: So here beachy locations that people find romantic are beachy
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  Speaker 1: beachy locations that people say a romantic nineteen percent say
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  Speaker 1: cancun mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Thirteen percent said, and I would agree with this. I
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  Speaker 1: love this Costa Rica, that coast You guys haven't been
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  Speaker 1: to coast Roa.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's oh man beautiful.
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  Speaker 4: And I there are Gates.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, Howler monkeys.
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  Speaker 3: Is that romantic? I don't know if that's.
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  Speaker 1: Romance howler monkeys or just monkeys in general. I mean
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  Speaker 1: Carrie monkeys are always, always, always romantic. Gate and the
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  Speaker 1: twelve percent say the British Virgin Islands, yes, now here,
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  Speaker 1: this is this is good for you, Gina and okay.
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  Speaker 1: In a survey of twelve hundred and so anyway adults,
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  Speaker 1: would you describe yourself as a people pleaser? Well, eleven
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  Speaker 1: percent say they definitely would, thirty eight percent probably, thirty
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  Speaker 1: one probably would not, sixteen percent definitely would not, five
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  Speaker 1: percent said huh.
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  Speaker 3: Only eleven percent said definitely.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, definitely a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 5: I I am, but I aspire to not be. I
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  Speaker 5: don't I want to start saying no.
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  Speaker 2: I wish you would, great.
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  Speaker 5: Katie, I, but it's hard when you have put yourself
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  Speaker 5: out as the people pleaser your whole life, people expect that.
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  Speaker 2: Except from you.
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  Speaker 1: What you do is you sort of ease off of it,
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  Speaker 1: so they don't really notice until maybe somebody will know.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Gina hasn't said yes to anything in weeks?
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  Speaker 3: What's wrong with her? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Now you Now, do you think other people would describe
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  Speaker 1: you as a people pleaser?
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  Speaker 2: Nine percent say you ask other people, yes.
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  Speaker 1: Other people definitely would. Thirty three percent said yeah, probably
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  Speaker 1: people would say I'm a people pleaser, twenty nine percent
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  Speaker 1: said probably would not, fifteen percent said definitely would not,
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  Speaker 1: fourteen percent not sure. So I think most people would
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  Speaker 1: say you are a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 3: I think people Yeah, I think people would say, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: People they would I am not a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would think people would not.
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  Speaker 4: I am a gate pleaser.
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  Speaker 1: I would think people would not consider you a people
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  Speaker 1: pleaser now now, which does not make it a bad thing.
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  Speaker 2: It's just now.
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  Speaker 5: I would, on the flip side, say Bill is maybe
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  Speaker 5: more of a people pleaser than you would think he is. Yes, uh,
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  Speaker 5: there are often times there are things here at work, specifically,
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  Speaker 5: or Carrie and I are like no, no, and Bill's like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: all right, it's true.
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  Speaker 4: Conversely, Katie says that she's gotten better at saying no
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  Speaker 4: since getting this job.
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  Speaker 5: No you haven't, I need to though, because what I'm
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  Speaker 5: feeling like my time is more valuable than I have
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  Speaker 5: given it credit for and the more and every day
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  Speaker 5: you're losing more of it, you know.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm I'm endeavoring to be more selfish with my.
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  Speaker 1: Is it important to you that you feel that people
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  Speaker 1: like you?
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  Speaker 5: It's important for me to feel like people think I
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  Speaker 5: am easy to deal with.
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  Speaker 3: M Well, gene is not a problem.
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  Speaker 2: That's I like to think. I like to think that
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  Speaker 2: people like me.
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  Speaker 3: I don't care if people like me, and I think.
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  Speaker 2: I really care if people like me or not.
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  Speaker 3: I want people to think, uh uh, I'm not a.
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  Speaker 1: Problem too much. I care too much whether people like
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  Speaker 1: me or not. Right, Carrie, I think you've even said
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  Speaker 1: that to me before.
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  Speaker 4: I have accused you of being a little too I
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  Speaker 4: don't want to use the word naive, but.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not quite right, not quite right, but I
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  Speaker 1: know what you mean. Go along, Yeah, just willing to
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  Speaker 1: say okay, I'll go along with that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, just unearned trust, unearned trust that long to get
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  Speaker 5: along there.
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  Speaker 3: We have had.
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  Speaker 5: Instances where we're like, I can't believe Bill is going
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  Speaker 5: thinks that's no, that's not okay, Bill, because they're not
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  Speaker 5: good people.
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  Speaker 3: This is not a good situation. And you're like, no, no,
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure they're fine. No, they're not.
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  Speaker 2: I'm willing. I want.
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  Speaker 1: I want to, I do, I really do want to
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  Speaker 1: believe the best in everyone. That's somebody that almost everyone
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  Speaker 1: has a good quality somewhere.
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  Speaker 4: But then I have to keep reminding him he works
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  Speaker 4: in radio.
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  Speaker 2: You think they would have been.
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  Speaker 1: Now, yeah, people pleaser?
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  Speaker 2: Not I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think I'm a people pleaser, but I think
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  Speaker 1: maybe it's the same thing.
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  Speaker 2: That I want people to like me please.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't care if people.
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  Speaker 1: Well, But but then you wouldn't be a people pleaser.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't care if people like you, then what
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  Speaker 1: the hell do you Why do you keep trying to
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  Speaker 1: please them?
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  Speaker 3: Because it's easier.
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  Speaker 5: It's easier, harder to say no, because then you have
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  Speaker 5: to justify why you're saying no.
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  Speaker 4: Not after you say no a few times.
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  Speaker 3: It really stop asking.
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  Speaker 2: It's really easy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just easier to do whatever it is.
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  Speaker 4: I have gotten better at saying no, and I used
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  Speaker 4: to try to make up excuses as to why I
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  Speaker 4: wouldn't do something. I don't even bother with that.
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  Speaker 3: Are you okay, just saying no, I'm leaving it at that.
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  Speaker 4: I just will say no, I'm not interested.
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  Speaker 1: I've even heard carry ad. They'll say, But why say
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  Speaker 1: because I don't want to?
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  Speaker 5: I can't because I I cater to everybody else and
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  Speaker 5: what they want to do.
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  Speaker 3: It's never what I want to do. That's a weird
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  Speaker 3: place to be.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's a place, a place where a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people are, and you should fight your way.
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  Speaker 4: Out of the start out with this one. I'm just
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  Speaker 4: not interested.
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  Speaker 3: Why aren't you interested?
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  Speaker 4: I'm just not.
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  Speaker 1: It must be a fa that you answer that with. Well,
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  Speaker 1: I know it must be some kind of failing in
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  Speaker 1: me that I'm just not interested in you or your
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  Speaker 1: agenda or anything that you have to say. But that's
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  Speaker 1: probably a failing in me, not that you're boring. It's
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  Speaker 1: a failing in me that I can't I can't really
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  Speaker 1: apprehend and understand why you think you're interesting, because you're not.
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  Speaker 2: At least to me.
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  Speaker 5: My opinion and my comfort and my wants are always
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  Speaker 5: the last on my mind, and I'm tired of that.
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  Speaker 2: But that's see, that's not true.
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  Speaker 3: What do you mean that's not true?
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  Speaker 1: Because you think that they're always the first thing on
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  Speaker 1: your mind, and you because that's the first thing, that's
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  Speaker 1: the first thing that pops into your mind.
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  Speaker 2: Is No, I don't want to do that. I don't
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  Speaker 2: think we should do that. Okay, well, but.
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  Speaker 5: But if we don't, we're going to hear about it,
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  Speaker 5: so I guess we'll just do it.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just not interested.
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  Speaker 2: It's not interested.
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  Speaker 1: I know, I know it sounds interesting to you, but
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  Speaker 1: it isn't interesting to them.
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  Speaker 3: Well then is it that putting them down? Yes, that's
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  Speaker 3: the part I have.
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  Speaker 2: As a matter of fact.
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  Speaker 1: Almost anything you think is interesting, I think is not interesting,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't want to have anything to do with it.
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  Speaker 4: It's just not for me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah that's good.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's for people like you, not me.
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  Speaker 3: It's uh yeah, I'm really going to try.
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  Speaker 2: Well, all right, I really am. All right.
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  Speaker 1: You want me to not today, You want me to
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  Speaker 1: point out when when you when you don't.
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  Speaker 5: Next time I tell you I'm going to do something,
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  Speaker 5: and you're going to say why are you doing that?
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  Speaker 3: And I'm going to say, well, because I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I should. That's the