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🔥 Episode 30: Why Podcasts and Books Aren't Healing You From Betrayal · Better Because of Divorce

• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm curious if you have ever experienced a betrayal.
• 0:25
  SPEAKER_00: If you have been through a divorce, which I'm assuming you have because you're here, right?
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Then you have experienced some kind of betrayal, or at least that is my way of thinking about it.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_00: So what I mean by that is you felt that violation of trust, right?
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: and the deeply painful aftermath of feeling betrayed in some way.
• 0:47
  SPEAKER_00: And you may have been betrayed by a spouse who had an affair.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: You may just see the betrayal of the marriage vows as betrayal in and of itself because it is, or maybe you feel like you've done the betraying, or you feel like you have somehow betrayed yourself.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: Like maybe you stayed in the relationship too long, or maybe you feel like you betrayed your family.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_00: By leaving the relationship, there's all different kinds of betrayal.
• 1:19
  SPEAKER_00: But if you have experienced betrayal and this kind of violation of trust firsthand, then you have undoubtedly been cut very, very deep.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: That deep, deep wound is lingering.
• 1:35
  SPEAKER_00: It will not heal.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: heal all the way.
• 1:38
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it feels like it starts to heal up a little bit and then it gets ripped wide open again.
• 1:44
  SPEAKER_00: And you have to start that healing process all over.
• 1:47
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe it continues to just ooze and fester and like, oh, instead of getting better, it just gets worse because betrayal hurts.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: It hurts deeply.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: It is like that deep cut and that takes so much time to heal, so much care to heal effectively.
• 2:10
  SPEAKER_00: And betrayal can make you question everything about yourself.
• 2:15
  SPEAKER_00: How could you let this happen?
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_00: About your marriage?
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: Was it ever even real anyway?
• 2:21
  SPEAKER_00: Or was it just one big lie?
• 2:22
  SPEAKER_00: Your ability to heal?
• 2:25
  SPEAKER_00: How do I put my shattered heart back together?
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Your ability to trust other people?
• 2:30
  SPEAKER_00: I will never, Trust another man.
• 2:32
  SPEAKER_00: I felt that and I've heard that so many times.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_00: Your ability to trust yourself.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: How could I have missed all these red flags for so many years?
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes it feels like we will never be okay after a betrayal.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_00: And that makes sense, right?
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_00: It's part of the forced transformation of divorce.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_00: We didn't want it.
• 3:00
  SPEAKER_00: And now we have it.
• 3:03
  SPEAKER_00: And a person who has been betrayed no longer carries this innocence of a person who has not been betrayed.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_00: A person who has experienced betrayal no longer trusts easily and certainly not blindly, whether it's another person or ourselves.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: And if you have been betrayed, you may feel like you'll never trust anybody again.
• 3:30
  SPEAKER_00: Especially not another man.
• 3:32
  SPEAKER_00: Because I mean, look, you can't even trust yourself.
• 3:37
  SPEAKER_00: I was reading an article in Psychology Today and it said that betrayal creates a sense of not being valued.
• 3:47
  SPEAKER_00: And that that is one of the reasons why it hurts so, so badly.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: And it is a real destroyer.
• 3:57
  SPEAKER_00: of self-esteem and confidence, and for good reason.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: And that loss of the ability to trust both ourselves and others, it can be really, really difficult to overcome.
• 4:13
  SPEAKER_00: And it even honestly begs the question, is it even possible to heal from a betrayal like divorce?
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_00: My answer to that question is, It depends.
• 4:29
  SPEAKER_00: You can heal.
• 4:30
  SPEAKER_00: I know that you can.
• 4:33
  SPEAKER_00: I also know that many people never do.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_00: So let's talk about why that is.
• 4:40
  SPEAKER_00: Do you guys know that song, Sitting on the Dock of the Bay?
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_00: It's that Otis Redding song.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I wish I could sing these lyrics for you, but I'm not going to put you through that.
• 4:49
  SPEAKER_00: Instead, I'm just going to read the chorus.
• 4:52
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sitting on the dock of the bay, watching the tide roll away.
• 4:56
  SPEAKER_00: I'm sitting on the dock of the bay, wasting time.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: I love that song.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: It's going to be going through my head the rest of the day.
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: That is a great song for relaxing too, for a long weekend, like the one we've got coming up.
• 5:13
  SPEAKER_00: I see somebody in the chair with a beer, maybe a fishing pole, right?
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_00: And they're just loving wasting time and looking at the water.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: But let's imagine...
• 5:25
  SPEAKER_00: that you are not on a vacation.
• 5:26
  SPEAKER_00: Behind you on dry land is the worst life you can imagine.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: You do not feel valued in that life.
• 5:37
  SPEAKER_00: You feel completely rejected all of the time.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_00: Things are not going well with your children.
• 5:43
  SPEAKER_00: You're lonely and you just feel like you'll sit on that dock forever before you'll ever go back on dry land to that specific life.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_00: But you're sitting on the dock of the bay and across the bay is an island and on that island or on that dry land that you can see is your new life.
• 6:09
  SPEAKER_00: And you sit there on the dock and you realize, huh, all I have to do to get that new life I see over there, the one that I actually want is to get in the water and swim.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_00: But you don't know how to swim.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_00: And you are afraid that you won't make it across the bay.
• 6:31
  SPEAKER_00: And plus, don't sharks live in that water too?
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_00: And jellyfish and all these scary things in that water.
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so now you have this scary life behind you, the life you don't want.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: And you can see the life you do want, but in the middle is more fear.
• 6:46
  SPEAKER_00: You've got two choices here.
• 6:49
  SPEAKER_00: You can sit on that dock and waste time.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: All you want.
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: When I say choice, you can do it.
• 6:55
  SPEAKER_00: You're an adult.
• 6:57
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you sit on that dock and you start reading.
• 7:00
  SPEAKER_00: You read books about how to swim.
• 7:02
  SPEAKER_00: You're learning how other people swam to cross the bay.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: You are reading about how to fight off sharks.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: You are reading about when jellyfish are most likely to be in the water.
• 7:15
  SPEAKER_00: And you keep thinking, if I read enough and I consume enough information, then eventually I'll know how to do it too.
• 7:22
  SPEAKER_00: I'll know how to swim too.
• 7:24
  SPEAKER_00: And all this time behind you is the cloud of that horrible life just lingering right there where the dock meets the land.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: And that's scary too.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: And you're not going back.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: So you're stuck.
• 7:38
  SPEAKER_00: You're stuck on the end of the dock, literally wasting time.
• 7:42
  SPEAKER_00: And you're not sure what to do about it.
• 7:46
  SPEAKER_00: That's one choice.
• 7:48
  SPEAKER_00: The other choice is get in the water and figure out how to swim.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: Healing after divorce is exactly the same way.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: And sadly, many women feel like they're taking all of the right steps towards healing.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_00: And yet they also feel like they're going nowhere fast.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: They say, I'm stuck.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what to do next.
• 8:10
  SPEAKER_00: And they are literally, but completely accidentally wasting time.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_00: Healing after betrayal requires more than posting on Facebook, scrolling on Facebook, nodding along and listening to podcasts.
• 8:25
  SPEAKER_00: Even this one, attending free classes, going to webinars, reading self-help books.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_00: It just requires more than that.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: It requires action.
• 8:36
  SPEAKER_00: Bold, fierce, massive action.
• 8:39
  SPEAKER_00: It requires getting in the lake and learning to swim no matter what.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_00: All right, so let me slow down and just kind of back my way out of this a little bit and tell you exactly what I mean.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_00: So there are two types of action.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: One type of action is passive and one type is called massive action, or we can just call it fierce action.
• 9:02
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action means that you are sitting on the dock.
• 9:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're stuck and you're wondering why.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_00: It means that you're doing things that feel right, like reading or But have you ever done this?
• 9:14
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so guilty.
• 9:16
  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever read a self-help book and at the end of the chapter, there's an exercise and the author is like, do not keep reading until you complete the exercises.
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, oh, I'll do it later.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you flip to the next chapter.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: That's passive action.
• 9:32
  SPEAKER_00: Whereas if you stop and you really work through the exercises, that's fierce action or massive action.
• 9:44
  SPEAKER_00: Social media, passive action.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: We're scrolling, we're reading, maybe we're commenting, liking, but we're not really learning and then doing what we're learning, right?
• 9:57
  SPEAKER_00: We're just feeling like we're getting somewhere.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: Another example is listening to podcasts and then maybe like I pose a question at the end.
• 10:08
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe like, oh, that's a good question, but you don't sit down and spend time with it.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: And really answer the question and figure out how it applies to you.
• 10:15
  SPEAKER_00: That's passive action.
• 10:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's really, really tricky, that passive action, because it makes us feel like we're doing something.
• 10:25
  SPEAKER_00: It makes us feel like we're making progress.
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_00: And when you're sitting on the dock of the bay reading about how to swim, because you need to know how to swim, then you feel like you're doing something.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: it feels like you're in control of the situation.
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_00: It feels like you're taking control, taking charge because your brain is convinced that you are changing your behavior through learning, through passive action.
• 10:54
  SPEAKER_00: And then it rewards us, boom, dopamine hit.
• 10:58
  SPEAKER_00: And you keep reading because your brain's like, yeah, we got this.
• 11:03
  SPEAKER_00: But passive action keeps you on the end of the dock.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: It keeps you in your comfort zone where you don't have to face the life behind you or the one across the lake.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to listen to a podcast when you're driving to work.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to order a book from Amazon and read it before bed.
• 11:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to tell everybody how painful your divorce was.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to scroll and post on Facebook.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_00: And when it's easy, it's passive.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk.
• 11:33
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk of failure.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk of embarrassment.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk of discomfort.
• 11:38
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk of vulnerability.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's no risk of shark attack, jellyfish sting or drowning.
• 11:47
  SPEAKER_00: When it's easy, you know you're taking passive action.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_00: You're not healing.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_00: You're sitting on the dock, wasting your precious time, your precious life, when you could be learning how to swim so you can get yourself across that bay.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_00: Does this mean that I think you should stop listening to podcasts and stop reading books and stop learning and stop sharing your story?
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: Heck no.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: You should do all of those things.
• 12:16
  SPEAKER_00: They're all important tools that can assist you with taking the action you need to take in order to heal.
• 12:22
  SPEAKER_00: But I do want you to stop being surprised that just listening and reading is not and consuming information is not getting you where you want to be.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: I do want you to stop thinking that staying in your comfort zone will transform your life into the one you want.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_00: because it will not.
• 12:46
  SPEAKER_00: A life that is better because of your divorce requires transformation.
• 12:52
  SPEAKER_00: And that means it requires a thorough and dramatic change to your very character.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, think about it.
• 13:01
  SPEAKER_00: You're not the same person that you were before this whole divorce thing started.
• 13:05
  SPEAKER_00: You're entirely different.
• 13:07
  SPEAKER_00: You are transformed.
• 13:11
  SPEAKER_00: Transforming so that your life is better because of divorce takes the same kind of massive action and you will never get that dramatic change by staying in your comfort zone.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: What does create transformation?
• 13:27
  SPEAKER_00: What does create a life that is better because of divorce?
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: What does get you to the other side of the bay?
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: Tony Robbins says it this way.
• 13:38
  SPEAKER_00: He says, by changing nothing, nothing changes.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action is the cure all.
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_00: One of my clients says it even more simply.
• 13:49
  SPEAKER_00: She says, I'm just doing it scared.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_00: Doing it scared.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: So if you feel like you've been trying all the things to heal and move forward or just feel better, just feel a little bit better.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_00: And yet every time you feel like you take one step forward, you get better.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_00: Push 10 steps back, then it's very likely you have fallen victim to the ruse of passive action.
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_00: The way forward is massive action, doing it scared, getting off the dock, getting into the water, and swimming.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, here's the thing about massive action.
• 14:30
  SPEAKER_00: It's not easy.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's messy.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: It's uncomfortable at times.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to walk you through this lens.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: Divorce was uncomfortable, right?
• 14:43
  SPEAKER_00: It was messy.
• 14:44
  SPEAKER_00: It required massive action to get out of that marriage.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: Or if you're in the process, it's requiring messy action and you don't know maybe what's next for your future.
• 14:55
  SPEAKER_00: But guess what?
• 14:57
  SPEAKER_00: Despite that discomfort and the not knowing you are still here and that divorce process moved forward or is still moving forward.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_00: Uncomfortable.
• 15:10
  SPEAKER_00: and all the ways still moving.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_00: So you recognize that you can do it and that there must be something better, but are you willing to go back into that place of messy action and the unknowns and take that action required to go get it, to make the bold, fierce moves, to have the uncomfortable conversations, to find and face and feel your emotions, to journal through your pain every single day, to hire the coach.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_00: Let's talk about that last one.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_00: What if you're in the water by yourself and you're trying to learn how to swim and you're exhausted and you're like waving your arms and you sink and you come up and then you go back to the shallow end and you stand up and you catch your breath and you're like, okay, I'm gonna try again.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_00: And somebody walks up on the shore with a life jacket.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: And they say, hey, are you okay?
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: It looks like you could use a hand figuring out how to swim or get out of the water.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_00: What are you, the person who does not want to go back to the land for any reason and can see the new life across the bay, going to say to the person who is offering you a life vest?
• 16:32
  SPEAKER_00: No, thanks.
• 16:33
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just going to keep doing it on my own.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_00: I'm just going to keep exhausting myself until I figure out how to swim because I know if enough time passes, I'm going to figure it out.
• 16:43
  SPEAKER_00: Is that your answer?
• 16:44
  SPEAKER_00: Are you going to be like, oh, my God?
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_00: Yes.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad you're here.
• 16:48
  SPEAKER_00: Give me the life jacket.
• 16:50
  SPEAKER_00: I never thought about a life jacket.
• 16:52
  SPEAKER_00: That'll hold me up.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_00: Now, all I have to do is kick.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: I don't have to know how to swim.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_00: I just have to kick my way to the other side.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: And then that person says, hey, would you like for me to swim across the bay with you?
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_00: I can show you some strategies to get to the other side and, you know, we'll avoid the jellyfish and the sharks together.
• 17:15
  SPEAKER_00: And you say, I never thought of that either.
• 17:18
  SPEAKER_00: I thought I had to do this all by myself.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: You mean you've done this before?
• 17:23
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I know where the sharks and the jellyfish are.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_00: And you say, wow, I'm so glad you showed up.
• 17:31
  SPEAKER_00: When can we start swimming?
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: You just changed my life by showing me this different approach.
• 17:37
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how to thank you enough.
• 17:41
  SPEAKER_00: And the person puts the life jacket on you and says, let's start down.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_00: There's no time like the present.
• 17:48
  SPEAKER_00: And the two of you kick your way across the bay.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody drowns.
• 17:53
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody gets bit by a shark.
• 17:55
  SPEAKER_00: Nobody gets stung by a jellyfish.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: And even though the distance is intimidating, you make it to the other side.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_00: That's what a good coach does.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_00: They swim the bay with you.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: If you're on the fence, you need to hire the coach.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: Coaches are trained to help people transform.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_00: I am trained extensively to help people create the transformations in their lives that they desire the most.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: But for so many people, the choice to accept that life jacket and the partner on the journey is just shoved aside because it sounds different.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_00: It sounds just as scary as swimming across the water.
• 18:42
  SPEAKER_00: And they may think I have to do it by myself or I'm weak.
• 18:47
  SPEAKER_00: Only people who are weak get help.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: And meanwhile, those who have accepted the life jacket have buzzed unscathed across the lake.
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: They got rid of the obstacle of not knowing how to swim.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_00: They just took care of it.
• 19:05
  SPEAKER_00: Now they're on the other side, discovering exactly who they are and who they want to become.
• 19:12
  SPEAKER_00: imagining and then creating the futures that they desire the lives they desire they're making their imagination and their future their reality they're building stronger and stronger relationships with their adult children They're healing.
• 19:26
  SPEAKER_00: They're trusting themselves again.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: They're learning to trust other people.
• 19:30
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe they're even thinking about dating.
• 19:32
  SPEAKER_00: They're more confident.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: They have more energy.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: They are doing things to protect and take care of their bodies.
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe they're losing weight.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's peace.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: There's joy.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_00: It's returned to their life.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: They're excited to wake up and they are not defined by their divorce and what happened during divorce.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: Those people are real.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: They are my clients.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: Our brains are so sneaky.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: They will tell us all day long, read that book, listen to that podcast.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_00: And it knows full well that it's keeping you in your comfort zone and a place of ease.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then it's like, here's some dopamine.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_00: Good job.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, well, why am I still stuck?
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_00: And it says, read some more and I'll give you more.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'll give you more reward.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: More reward.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_00: And you're like, yeah, but I'm still stuck.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_00: We haven't gone anywhere.
• 20:26
  SPEAKER_00: The crazy part is that same brain that will tell you not to do the things that feel a little bit uncomfortable in the moment will help you figure out how to do the uncomfortable things when you overrule your brain and say, no, we're going to do it anyway.
• 20:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I understand that you think I don't know how.
• 20:53
  SPEAKER_00: but we'll figure it out together.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_00: And that same exact brain will stand up with you and say, okay, whatever you want to do.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: And it will start working to find solutions for the life that you want to live.
• 21:08
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action, sitting on the dock, reading about how to swim.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action, getting in the water, accepting help, clearing out that obstacle and get across the bay.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action.
• 21:21
  SPEAKER_00: Waiting for time to pass so you will miraculously heal.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: Getting the tools and the support you need so that healing starts right now, wherever you are in your journey.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action.
• 21:34
  SPEAKER_00: Listening to this podcast.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_00: I'm so glad that you are here today listening.
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: That makes me very happy.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action.
• 21:41
  SPEAKER_00: When it ends, scheduling a private call with me to see what's possible for you.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action.
• 21:48
  SPEAKER_00: Listening to other people get coached after this content today.
• 21:52
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_00: Getting coached after the content.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: Passive action.
• 21:56
  SPEAKER_00: Reading about, admiring, and cheering on other people and their results.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: Massive action.
• 22:05
  SPEAKER_00: Saying, I'm all in too.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: Even though it's scary, I don't know how I'm going to pay for it.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how it works.
• 22:10
  SPEAKER_00: I can't swim.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_00: But those other people figured it out and I'm going for it because I'm worth it too.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: You guys, the coolest thing of all, and I'm being very sincere in this, is that it's a choice.
• 22:25
  SPEAKER_00: All of this that I'm talking about is a choice for you.
• 22:30
  SPEAKER_00: You are free to choose the path that you want.
• 22:33
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to sit on the end of the dock and stay in your comfort zone for the rest of your life, with one life bearing down on you that you don't want and the other one just across the bay, then no worries.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: You get to do that.
• 22:56
  SPEAKER_00: That's a choice that you can make as long as you feel good about your choice.
• 23:00
  SPEAKER_00: There's nothing wrong with it.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: You are also free to choose massive action.
• 23:06
  SPEAKER_00: And not everybody wants to do that.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: But when you do, Your unbelievable, amazing, unimaginable results for you and for the people you love are right there, right across the water.
• 23:25
  SPEAKER_00: So my question for you is, which way will you go?
• 23:30
  SPEAKER_00: Which way will you choose to go today?
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: Will you stay in the comfort of discomfort or will you go for discomfort that leads to an amazing new life?
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: It's up to you.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: Will you say yes to the life jacket and the partner who will swim the journey with you?
• 23:51
  SPEAKER_00: Or will you say, I think I'm good right here, but thank you so much for being a decent human who asks me if I need help.
• 24:01
  SPEAKER_00: I appreciate you.
• 24:04
  SPEAKER_00: If you are that fierce woman who wants that amazing new life, or if you're the woman who wants to feel like you're a fierce woman, but you might need a little boost, to get moving in that direction, then you and I need to talk right away.
• 24:21
  SPEAKER_00: My private coaching practice is accepting new clients right now.
• 24:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I want to find out if you're a good fit for one of those spots.
• 24:31
  SPEAKER_00: I want to find out if you want a partner to swim the bay with you and start taking massive action to create the life that you can see and but that you're really hesitant to go and get because there's sharks in that water and you can't swim and jellyfish stings are really painful.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_00: If you want to talk privately, all you have to do is email me, julie at juliesteadcoaching.com and we'll connect.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: That's not so scary, is it?
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: And until then, guys, I want you to stay fierce and take care.