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Is It Over When a Narcissist Blocks You? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So if a narcissist blocks you, does that mean that it's over?
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  Like, what is like, does that mean that you can sleep
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  peacefully at night knowing that it's all over and done with?
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  You ain't got to worry about them no more.
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  This is it. What does it mean when a
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  narcissist blocks you? Right.
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  That's what we're talking about today.
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  Of course. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
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  myself and I give you the inside look at the mind of a
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  narcissist. And yeah, we're going to hop
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  right into it. The old blocking, the old
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  blocking narcissist. Now, if you have any
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  familiarity, familiarity with narcissistic abuse, then you
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  know most people will tell you that when the relationship ends
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  and you're trying to go no contact, then you should block
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  the narcissist, right? If possible, if y'all don't have
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  kids, if y'all don't have any type of connections, like
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  blocking them could help you heal.
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  But what you don't hear a lot about is what happens when a
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  narcissist blocks you, when they just, when they block you, what
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  does that mean? What the hell is going on in
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  their minds? Is it all over and done with?
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  When they block you? Is blocking on from their end?
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  Is that the exclamation point at the end of the relationship?
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  Now, if a narcissist blocks you, it can go a few different ways,
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  right? So could it mean that they're
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  absolutely done with you? Yeah, it could mean that.
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  Let's be real, if they block you, it could absolutely mean
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  that they're that the relationship is over and done
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  with. You ain't got to worry about
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  them no more. But this is it.
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  This is done. There's nothing else you got to
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  worry about like they're finished.
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  Whatever the case may be, that's what it could mean, right?
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  But always a but isn't it old, big, old, big, old butt, big,
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  old butt. That's not going to be the truth
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  all the time, right? There are a big sector of
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  narcissists that will block you to be done with you, right?
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  They're because they that's all they know how to do.
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  They'll block you be done with you because they don't want you
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  to see what they have going on. There's a few different reasons,
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  right? They they'll block you because
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  they have a new supply and they don't want you to see the new
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  supply, right? They'll block you because they
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  had, because they're moving or they're smear.
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  They're they're putting this smear campaign on you on
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  Instagram or Facebook or wherever they at, they, they,
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  they'll, they'll be on Reddit smearing you.
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  They'll have a whole Reddit thread with your name and be
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  smear, be lying and smearing the hell out of you.
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  It could be like a subreddit of a smear campaign, right?
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  What they, of what they're doing and what they're saying to other
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  people about you. That could absolutely be true.
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  What's going on? Because there are, like I said,
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  there are a big sector of narcissistic people out there
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  that do feel this way. They absolutely have that
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  mentality that they need to block you in order to so you
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  can't see anything because they're completely done with
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  you, right? They they don't want you to see
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  what they have going on. You're just blocked and whatnot.
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  And so, yeah, let's be real, sometimes, yeah, the
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  relationship doesn't even have to be over for them to block
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  you. Some of y'all might still be
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  with your narcissistic partner right now and living with them
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  and married with them and be blocked in the same household
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  they got you blocked because you too knows it.
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  Facebook ruins our relationship. Let's just like you don't.
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  We don't need to look we married.
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  We don't need to be friends on Facebook.
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  What are you talking about? We don't need to follow each
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  other on Instagram just because we're married.
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  That's childish. Why we we don't need to share.
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  We don't need TikTok. We don't need to follow each
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  other on TikTok because that's what why we don't need each
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  other. Snapchats what the hell are we
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  doing? We don't need that.
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  That's that's for other people. We don't need that.
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  Sometimes you'll be with them and blocked because more than
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  likely they're hiding something. Now you might on an off chance
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  you might get a narcissist that's not into social media
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  which you know to each their own but come on some of them be
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  hiding stuff. Why y'all living with them?
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  They be hiding you. They be hiding everything.
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  Look, you be blocked. You the only person in their
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  family or your family that's blocked.
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  Well, sometimes, sometimes they go through and block your whole
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  family. But yeah, they be blocking you
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  to hide stuff. They want to hide things, they
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  don't want you to see what's actually going on.
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  So yeah, sometimes you'll be with them and blocked in the
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  same household. And does this happen to of quite
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  a few people? Yeah, it does.
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  There are a lot of people out there who get blocked while
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  y'all living together. That sucks, right?
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  You know what I mean? When you get blocked where you
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  live with this person, it does suck.
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  So I say that to say this right here.
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  If you're dealing with a narcissistic person, blocking
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  doesn't always mean to end because sometimes they block you
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  so you. Can't block.
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  Them like sometimes they will absolutely block you so that
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  they have the power and control over the situation.
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  Because if I'm because they know if you block them, if you block
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  me, it is very, it's going to be harder for me to contact you,
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  right? So I need to be the one who
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  blocks you first. So I block you.
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  That means I can unblock you at any time, message you, peek at
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  your stuff if it's public and block you again.
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  You, you might be none the wiser, right?
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  But Facebook is different. Facebook don't like you playing
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  those games because so Facebook, if you block somebody, unblock
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  them, you got, I think you got to wait 48 hours to reblock
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  them. And then if you catch them, you
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  can block them, which they would hate, but this is what goes on
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  like they want to block you so they could be in control of
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  everything they do. If I block you for if a
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  narcissist blocks you first, does that mean that they're
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  done? No, not absolutely, absolutely
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  not. It doesn't mean that they're
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  done because I gave you the example earlier that you can be
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  living with this person and blocked.
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  Y'all can be living together and be blocked.
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  So it doesn't. Blocking doesn't mean the
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  relationship is over. Sometimes y'all still together
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  and they're blocking you to hide things like, so sometimes if
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  y'all break up and you break up with them, yeah, they'll block
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  you first on everything so that they can control the if they're
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  not done with you, they can control the flow of
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  communication. Because if I block you, that,
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  like I said, if I block you, that means so many different
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  things. Like if I block you, I'm in
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  control. I really, really am.
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  If I block you, I'm truly the one that's in control.
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  And what can you do about it? Nothing, I mean, some, some
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  platforms you can go and find them and block them back, right,
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  But not all the time. That doesn't always happen like
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  that, right. So most times in these
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  scenarios, in these situations, you are the one right here.
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  That's like I said, you, this should be in control.
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  But until I say, if you want to be done with them and they block
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  you first, they're going to be in control.
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  They're going they're going to feel like they're in control
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  because you have to be ready. Because if they do, on the off
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  chance that they do unblock you in messages, you have to be
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  ready to block them back. I know some of y'all are not at
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  that point yet because you want some closure.
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  You want to keep the door open just in case they change for
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  some reason. I get it.
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  But they're not going to change their behaviors.
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  The blocking stuff like I said in the beginning is a power
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  trip. Sometimes it look sometimes they
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  block you to punish you. Like the blocking me blocking
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  you or the narcissist blocking you is literally put them
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  putting you on some type of punishment because they feel
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  like you've done something wrong.
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  Like I'm putting you on punishment because I feel like
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  you've done something wrong to me.
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  Like you either went like sometimes you went through my
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  Instagram DMS and saw me, saw what I was doing.
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  So now I'm going to block you. You saw me doing something, you
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  saw me liking somebody's pictures or whatever on
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  Facebook. Now you're going to block me.
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  Now I'm going to block you. You see what I'm saying?
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  To punish you. Blocking sometimes is punishment
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  for to hold you accountable for something that I have done.
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  Yeah, I can put it on to you. I can blame you for it.
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  But at the end of the day, I'm holding you accountable for
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  something that I myself have absolutely done.
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  And that's a tough cookie to swap, a tough pill to swallow
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  when you're dealing with an abusive, manipulative,
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  narcissistic person. I think we all attested it right
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  there. When you're dealing with
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  somebody that has this type of mentality, it's very difficult
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  because there is a very childish thing on their end.
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  They will block you for childish reasons.
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  You're blocking them to heal. They'll block you for childish
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  reasons because you, you ask questions about who this person
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  is that they follow and they're leaving heart eyes and eggplants
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  and Peaches and water, the water, the splash emojis under
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  their pictures and stuff like that.
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  Like who's that? Who's who's that person right
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  that you just followed? And they'll be like, wow, you so
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  insecure. Let me go ahead and block you.
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  This doesn't cause any more issues in our relationship.
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  Like yeah, blocking does not solve the issue.
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  If you're living with somebody that has you blocked on social
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  media, it might be time for you to make some decisions, right?
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  I'm not telling you to leave, but you something is going on
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  behind the scenes. But I know what somebody all
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  going to say. Well, Lee, I'm not the
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  narcissist and I have them blocked and what what should I
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  do? I have them blocked on social
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  media because they always try to make issues and they're going
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  around telling me to block my parents, block my mom, block my
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  dad, block my brother. So I just feel like blocking
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  them just puts me let's me have that piece blocking.
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  If you have to block your narcissistic part of why you're
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  living together, that's not really solve any issues.
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  That's like putting a Band-Aid on a gunshot wound, right?
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  The, the, it's still there. It's still bleeding.
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  It's just like covered. It's like it's like for
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  decoration. The problem still exists, right?
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  The problem is absolutely still there.
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  It's just being covered up by something.
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  So but narcissistic people, they think that they're solving the
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  issues when they're blocking you.
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  Like if I block you first. I solved the issue of
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  communication. I solved the issue of wondering
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  whether or not I still have some type of access to you.
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  I solved the issue of maybe you seen what I have going on on my
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  social media stuff like you see what I'm doing, you see who I'm
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  talking to, you see that I have a new supply.
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  The new supply might be your brother, might be your sister,
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  might be your best friend. You know what I'm saying?
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  The new supply can be so many different people.
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  That is crazy. It really is.
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  So that's why I'm just telling people in these situations like
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  you're dealing with a narcissistic person and they
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  have you blocked or they blocked you.
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  It doesn't necessarily mean that it's the end because sooner or
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  later they could absolutely, absolutely unblock you at any
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  time and then start to message you, try to get back into your
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  life, send you pictures, tell you that they miss you like.
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  I miss you. I know I got you black.
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  Hey, I'm just going to unblock you for the day because I miss
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  you. I really wish things didn't end
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  the way they did in and I miss you so much.
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  You don't have to text me back. I'm blocking you.
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  I'm going to after I send this. I'm blocking you again.
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  I just need to let you know how I feel.
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  Bye. Bloop, they'll send it, make
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  sure it's delivered and then block you.
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  Sometimes they'll do that type of stuff, y'all, It is a very
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  childish dynamic. It's very childish to deal with
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  somebody like this. It's very difficult to deal with
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  somebody that has such a childish mentality, right?
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  Especially if you have kid, if you're raising a kid or kids
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  with somebody that's childish, it's an extremely tough and
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  endeavor to take on because they're going to keep doing this
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  stuff and stuff. They'll block your kids, right?
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  They'll block the kids if they say, if they feel like it's
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  necessary. So to answer the question, is it
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  over if they block you? Not necessarily.
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  Sometimes very, I think very rarely it is.
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  I don't see very rarely. I think sometimes it is.
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  But most times they block you because they still want some
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  type of access. They still want some type of
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  control. They want to have the power over
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