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Confronting Fear: Taking That First Step Towards Change · Start Your Comeback: Rebuilding after Divorce, Empty Nest, and Loss of Spouse

• 0:00
  Speaker 1: Is there a major life transition benching you?
• 0:02
  Speaker 1: I know you may be asking what's next?
• 0:06
  Speaker 1: What's my purpose?
• 0:07
  Speaker 1: What if?
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: Because I've asked those too.
• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Start your Comeback Podcast.
• 0:14
  Speaker 1: I'm Toni Thrash, a certified life coach, and I want to share the tools and practical steps to help you create a winning game plan to move into your new adventure.
• 0:25
  Speaker 1: Hi, welcome back.
• 0:57
  Speaker 1: You are listening to episode 53.
• 1:00
  Speaker 1: The last few weeks, I've been talking about the sound of you.
• 1:05
  Speaker 1: In the first week, I urged you to begin the practice of listening to you for the first 20 minutes of your day.
• 1:13
  Speaker 1: In week two, we talked about what we need to let go of, whether it is a person, job, relationship or whatever it may be relationship or whatever it may be.
• 1:27
  Speaker 1: Then, last week, I gave you some guidelines on how to map your next move to get off the bench and right back into your game of life.
• 1:32
  Speaker 1: These steps are so important for you to clear your head and make a sound game plan.
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: And now, today, I want to talk to you about it's time to make a move.
• 1:45
  Speaker 1: You see, this final step is the most critical and hardest to implement.
• 1:50
  Speaker 1: You must make a move.
• 1:51
  Speaker 1: Why, you ask.
• 1:53
  Speaker 1: Well, this is the step that requires action and it makes the transition real.
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: You can dream about it, you can plan about it, but until you take that step it's not real.
• 2:06
  Speaker 1: Here's the thing you may have already made the big decision and now you're stuck in the limbo state of not knowing what's next.
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: All the other steps before are building up to the plan to move through this, and now the only obstacle left in your way is fear.
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: Fear is a real thing.
• 2:26
  Speaker 1: Fear automatically kicks in and says I can't do this, I can't walk through this.
• 2:33
  Speaker 1: What if none of this works?
• 2:36
  Speaker 1: I know what it is like to be scared to death and unable to make the move.
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: It was the hardest thing I've ever done.
• 2:43
  Speaker 1: I remember that day that I walked into a counseling session and told my then husband I filed for divorce.
• 2:52
  Speaker 1: I was shaking on the inside so much I couldn't believe those words actually came out of my mouth.
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: The details are for another time, but just trust me when I say it was a long process.
• 3:06
  Speaker 1: I listened to me finally, because I had not listened to myself ever before.
• 3:12
  Speaker 1: I had mapped it out Now.
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: It didn't go as smoothly as what I wanted it to, but I did let go of what I could no longer control.
• 3:23
  Speaker 1: I had been in a state of limbo for so long trying to make a game plan and I mean, I was terrified.
• 3:30
  Speaker 1: But I decided to take that step and make my move.
• 3:34
  Speaker 1: And all the while, fear was whispering in my ears and nipping at my heels every single day.
• 3:41
  Speaker 1: Every single day, I thought I would never make it through.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: I've learned since then to let fear be the losing opponent.
• 3:55
  Speaker 1: I'm living proof that you can make the move even when you are hesitant about the next step you mapped out.
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: You just have to take a step mapped out.
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: You just have to take a step.
• 4:05
  Speaker 1: One step, heck, even a half of a step is forward.
• 4:08
  Speaker 1: Do not let fear keep you from moving forward.
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: You will make it through.
• 4:17
  Speaker 1: It will not be easy and that first step is the hardest, but the movement in the right direction will bring such a sense of relief.
• 4:23
  Speaker 1: The right direction will bring such a sense of relief.
• 4:28
  Speaker 1: You are simply moving and not staying stagnant.
• 4:29
  Speaker 1: Every single day I took felt like I would pass out from fear.
• 4:32
  Speaker 1: I know, friend, I know and I get it.
• 4:37
  Speaker 1: It doesn't matter if you're in shock, if you're in limbo and you're still trying to wade your way through the mess or you're beginning to start the re-entry process.
• 4:49
  Speaker 1: Every single one of those steps will be laced with new fear.
• 4:55
  Speaker 1: But if you are in any of these stages, I would love to have a chat, because before very long you will be making that next step of your journey.
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: The best part is, you won't be alone.
• 5:08
  Speaker 1: You know, and I know, someone who's in transition.
• 5:12
  Speaker 1: I would love it if you would share this episode with them.
• 5:15
  Speaker 1: Just today, a client was referred who is just beginning her journey of divorce.
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: You need a voice that has walked this path before and knows what's next.
• 5:28
  Speaker 1: Take the step, do it afraid.
• 5:29
  Speaker 1: Don't back down from the plan that you've mapped out to get to the rest of your life and get off of that bench.
• 5:38
  Speaker 1: You can do it.
• 5:39
  Speaker 1: If I can do it, I know you can do it.
• 5:42
  Speaker 1: That's it for this time.
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: I would love to hear from you If you've implemented any of these steps from the Sound of you series, and what has worked and what hasn't worked.
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: Would you be so kind as to reach out and let me know if you've done any of those so I can tweak a surprise that I've been working on now for a minute?
• 6:01
  Speaker 1: I would love to know and have your input, but until next time, take the step.
• 6:08
  Speaker 1: I'll see you next week.
• 6:10
  Speaker 1: Hey, thanks for listening.
• 6:11
  Speaker 1: I don't take it for granted that you're here.
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: You didn't listen by mistake.
• 6:15
  Speaker 1: If you want to reach out, you can DM me on Instagram at Tony Thrash Until next week.
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: Remember, there's still time left on the clock.
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: Let's get you off the bench to start your comeback.
• 6:28
  Speaker 1: I want to give a special shout out to Country Club for the original music.
• 6:32
  Speaker 1: You can find them on Instagram at Country Club.
• 6:36
  Speaker 1: You.