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245. Amoila Cesar, BODi Super Trainer & Strength Coach · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Do an affirmation every day until you get goosebumps. Play
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  Speaker 1: a song every single day until it makes you feel alive,
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  Speaker 1: till it brings you joy. Find things that bring you
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  Speaker 1: joy and actually apply them.
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  Speaker 2: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi here. You are listening to episode
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  Speaker 2: two hundred and forty five of Hurdle, a.
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  Speaker 3: Wellness focused podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Reconnect with everyone from your favorite athletes to top experts
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  Speaker 2: and industry CEOs about their highest highs, toughest moments, and
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  Speaker 2: everything in between. We all go through hurdles in life,
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  Speaker 2: and my goal through these discussions is to empower you
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  Speaker 2: to better navigate yours and move with intention so that
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  Speaker 2: you can stride towards your own big potential and of
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  Speaker 2: course have some fun along the way. Today I am
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  Speaker 2: chatting with Ama Caesar. He is a strength and conditioning
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  Speaker 2: coach as well as a body super trainer, and he
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  Speaker 2: is giving us a lowdown on how he got to
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  Speaker 2: this place motivating hundreds of thousands to be their best
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  Speaker 2: selves each and every day. Growing up in West Palm Beach,
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  Speaker 2: raised by a single mother with seven siblings, he shares
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  Speaker 2: how that experience framed him into the man that he
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  Speaker 2: is today, instilling in him resilience, which he was then
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  Speaker 2: able to use as he came into his own as
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  Speaker 2: an athlete. In early twenty fourteen, am while It talks
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  Speaker 2: to me about moving to Los Angeles to pursue his
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  Speaker 2: big dream of working in the fitness world, going from
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  Speaker 2: working at La Fitness as a personal training developer, teaching sales, coaching,
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  Speaker 2: and human interaction to ultimately going out on his own
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  Speaker 2: and landing major clients, becoming one of the top celebrity
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  Speaker 2: and athlete strength and conditioning coaches in the area. And
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  Speaker 2: while It opens up about what it was like to
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  Speaker 2: join Body, the rebrand of Beach Body back in twenty nineteen,
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  Speaker 2: and how that opportunity came with a lot more eyeballs,
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  Speaker 2: and how it felt for him. But what I appreciate
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  Speaker 2: most about this conversation is that is so clear that
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  Speaker 2: this man is so focused on not only helping others,
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  Speaker 2: but doing the work himself. There are so many beautiful
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  Speaker 2: takeaways in here when it comes to trusting the process,
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  Speaker 2: investing in self. How taking the time to invest in
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  Speaker 2: self is not a selfish act at all, And his
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  Speaker 2: best advice for anyone struggling with depression going through the
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  Speaker 2: thick of it and he shares how he himself came
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  Speaker 2: out on the other side of tough times. A huge
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  Speaker 2: thank you, Tom Walla for his time chatting with you
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  Speaker 2: for this episode was an absolute joy. Make sure you
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  Speaker 2: are following along with Hurdle over on social It's at
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  Speaker 2: Hurdle podcast. I am over at Emily a Body and
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  Speaker 2: I would be remiss if I didn't say a huge
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  Speaker 2: congrats to all the ladies that conquered the La Marathon
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  Speaker 2: with Team Hurdle yesterday. It was a major highlight for
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  Speaker 2: me to be able to be there to cheer you on.
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  Speaker 2: You should definitely be proud of yourself for such an
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  Speaker 2: outstanding accomplishment.
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  Speaker 3: And with that, let's get to it. Let's get to
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  Speaker 3: hurdling today. I am chatting with a Walla Caesar.
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  Speaker 2: He is a strength and conditioning coach, a body supertrainer.
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  Speaker 3: How are you doing today?
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  Speaker 1: I'm great, I'm great. How are you?
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  Speaker 3: I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: I'm excited that we were finally able to make this happen.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest with you right off the bat.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a lot of men on the show,
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  Speaker 2: really okay, but I will say the reason why I
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  Speaker 2: and your name came into my inbox, and I was
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  Speaker 2: excited to sit down with you, not only because you
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  Speaker 2: have done some really amazing things. I feel like it's
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  Speaker 2: everyone's still getting used to like this rebrand as Body,
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  Speaker 2: but amazing things with Body formerly known as Beach Body.
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  Speaker 2: And also every once in a while, when I put
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  Speaker 2: some some question boxes into the social media universe asking
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  Speaker 2: people who they want me to chat with, your name
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  Speaker 2: comes in.
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  Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 3: People want to know more about you. I would be remiss.
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  Speaker 2: I know that I just touched on the Beach Body rebranding,
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  Speaker 2: So talk to us a little bit about that shift
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  Speaker 2: and how that's been going.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's I love the shift. I think
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  Speaker 1: it's we're at a place in our career and our
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  Speaker 1: the business where we've realized that the name beach Body
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  Speaker 1: does not fit anymore, doesn't fit for our messaging, hasn't
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  Speaker 1: fit for our messaging for years now, and we thought
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  Speaker 1: about getting away from this image of having having to
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  Speaker 1: have this beach Body to look great. Now, it's all
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  Speaker 1: about your health esteem, which is basically what body is
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  Speaker 1: all about. Now, It's about come as you are, Come
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  Speaker 1: wherever you are. We want to meet you wherever you
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  Speaker 1: are and help you. So I think I love the
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  Speaker 1: message change. It's been this way for the past four
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  Speaker 1: and a half years, five years since I've been a
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  Speaker 1: part of Beach Body. I'm one of the newest supertrainers.
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  Speaker 1: But I love where the company's going. I love the
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  Speaker 1: messaging that we're providing and the complete shift. This is
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  Speaker 1: completely different.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, I mean, i'd be remiss.
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  Speaker 2: You said it three and a half four years prime
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  Speaker 2: pandemic career, big moment for you. So what was that like,
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  Speaker 2: having the intersection of a complete shift in life as
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  Speaker 2: we know it and also taking on this massive new journey.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the shift the loan was probably if
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  Speaker 1: I sit back and I look back at life, that
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  Speaker 1: whole pandemic was a great experience and it's still now.
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  Speaker 1: Like I say, it's a great experience, but it was
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  Speaker 1: such a learning experience for me just personally as my
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  Speaker 1: self development, as I was becoming who I am now.
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  Speaker 1: I think that shift was very important for me and
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  Speaker 1: basically how the whole pandemic and everything, even with my
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  Speaker 1: body was such a huge shift. We had a lot
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  Speaker 1: of customers, a lot of people that were coming that
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  Speaker 1: were stuck at home. They were just wanting to work out,
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  Speaker 1: and they were coming across our body platform. So it
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  Speaker 1: was a huge surge of audience, a surge of people
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  Speaker 1: coming in. So it was a it was a it
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  Speaker 1: was a shift for me, it was a shift for
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  Speaker 1: the company, it was a shift for you know, just
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  Speaker 1: the work that we were doing. So it was really
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  Speaker 1: awesome to see that huge push. But I think for
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  Speaker 1: me personally, it was just a really great time for
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  Speaker 1: me to slow down. I had been working for so long,
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  Speaker 1: and having a year to myself a little longer than
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  Speaker 1: that was really good for me and and just my growth.
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  Speaker 2: So how do you make time to take care of you,
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  Speaker 2: because obviously you're so focused on bettering the people in
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  Speaker 2: your network, in your community, So what does taking care
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  Speaker 2: of you look like?
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  Speaker 1: Taking care of me is saying no. It's very simple
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  Speaker 1: as that, And that was one of the hardest things
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  Speaker 1: for me is, you know, I want to service and
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  Speaker 1: help people so much, but learning how to say no
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  Speaker 1: and also listening to my body, listening to where I
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  Speaker 1: am and respecting where I am. If I am in
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  Speaker 1: a vulnerable place or a mood swing or wherever I am,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to honor how I feel and I think
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  Speaker 1: a lot of times I would push my feelings to
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  Speaker 1: the side so I could just work, work, work, and
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  Speaker 1: that is that's not conducive for me. That ends up
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  Speaker 1: affecting my work, That ended up affecting the relationships that
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  Speaker 1: I had with people that I work with, and things
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  Speaker 1: just started to become a routine and I wasn't really
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  Speaker 1: finding the love that I've had. So just me being
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  Speaker 1: able to say no to certain things, but also separating
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  Speaker 1: myself and creating boundaries for me was very very important
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  Speaker 1: for me and for self reflection, reflecting a lot more so.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I do a lot of things where I
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  Speaker 1: go for a hike. I'll spend maybe an hour or
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  Speaker 1: two hours hiking. That's time for me to be alone,
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  Speaker 1: being my body, being my mind. I will hang out
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  Speaker 1: with friends and family more. I find that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: being around people that love me and that pour into
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  Speaker 1: me is really important for me. Opposed to trying to
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  Speaker 1: grow in my career or trying to be at this event,
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  Speaker 1: It's more about spending time with the people that I
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  Speaker 1: love and people that I cherish.
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  Speaker 2: So do you remember when you adopted this no to
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  Speaker 2: others saying yes to my self mindset?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think two years ago, two three years ago,
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  Speaker 1: after I had joined body it was a surge in
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  Speaker 1: my career. I was traveling all around and I needed
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  Speaker 1: to find a tool, I needed to find an escape.
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  Speaker 1: But I also did and realize at the time it's fun.
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  Speaker 1: You think you're living a life, you're doing all this,
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  Speaker 1: but it's pulling you away from who you are and
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  Speaker 1: what you like. And so I say, two years ago,
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  Speaker 1: there was a switch where I had everything in the
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  Speaker 1: world and I wasn't happy. I felt like I accomplished
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  Speaker 1: a lot of things in my career. I accomplished a
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  Speaker 1: lot of things in my personal life and my career life,
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  Speaker 1: but personally there was this gap. And so two years
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  Speaker 1: ago I took the time. I started speaking to people,
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  Speaker 1: I started on betterhelp, and that was like the gateway
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  Speaker 1: for me diving even further into who I am. And
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  Speaker 1: now I'm like doing healing, spiritual healing, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: trying different things just to tap into who I am
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  Speaker 1: a little bit more. But it was two years ago,
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  Speaker 1: two years ago. I can't tell you what day when
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  Speaker 1: I just woke up and I was tired of feeling
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  Speaker 1: the way I felt, and I knew I needed to
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  Speaker 1: do something about it. So two years ago it was
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  Speaker 1: when I started.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks for sharing that it's a blessing and a curse.
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  Speaker 2: Often what we see in the highlight reel of social media, right,
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  Speaker 2: because sometimes you open up something like Instagram and you'll
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  Speaker 2: see a photo and maybe the first thought in your head,
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  Speaker 2: for some reason or another, is like, there's no suffering
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  Speaker 2: in that person, like, look how happy they are? Right,
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  Speaker 2: And so for you to have that awareness and share
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  Speaker 2: about your journey, I think it's really thought provoking and
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  Speaker 2: helpful for so many who they themselves are going through
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  Speaker 2: something similar.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was important. I got to a point where
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  Speaker 1: I literally couldn't have conversations with people like I already
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  Speaker 1: had the answer before they were even going to say it,
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  Speaker 1: and it was so robotic. It was I was not
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  Speaker 1: allowing people to speak. I wasn't really connecting, I wasn't listening,
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  Speaker 1: and so, you know, taking that time, I really felt
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  Speaker 1: so disconnected from myself, you know, and my memory was bad.
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  Speaker 1: People tell me they told me something. I was like, really,
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  Speaker 1: you told me that, And I thought it was age,
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  Speaker 1: But then I'm realizing it's not age. I'm young, I'm healthy,
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  Speaker 1: I'm move around I'm just not connecting. I'm not slowing down,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not listening, And so me slowing down was really
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  Speaker 1: important for me and me actually, you know, just really
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  Speaker 1: trying to take the time to listen. Like listening is
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  Speaker 1: a skill, happiness is a skill. I would say that
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  Speaker 1: was probably one of the best advice that I've ever got,
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  Speaker 1: was happiness is a skill. Just like weight training, we
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  Speaker 1: have to learn how to learn how to lift weights
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  Speaker 1: and get strong, you have to learn how to be happy.
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  Speaker 1: And so once I started sharpening and doing certain things
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  Speaker 1: like walking my inner monologue of how I talk to myself,
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  Speaker 1: the way I show up for my friends and my family,
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  Speaker 1: it's this skill that I started sharpening, and it just
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  Speaker 1: really helped me get out of a place that I
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  Speaker 1: was in a couple of years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that happiness is a skill is a really beautiful,
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  Speaker 2: beautiful sentiment. And also, so many myself included, can totally
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  Speaker 2: relate to this concept of being physically present somewhere but
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  Speaker 2: not being mentally emotionally present somewhere. And every day I
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  Speaker 2: have this pul check with myself and I'm like, are
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  Speaker 2: you where your feet are?
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  Speaker 3: And if you're not, what is stopping that from happening.
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  Speaker 2: What's going on in there that you need to process, feel,
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  Speaker 2: get through so that you too can enjoy the day
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  Speaker 2: to day. Right, I would be remiss if I didn't
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  Speaker 2: wind it back a little bit to get a better
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  Speaker 2: understanding of maybe what made you happy when you were younger,
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  Speaker 2: because today we see this body supertrainer, but this didn't
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  Speaker 2: just happen overnight.
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  Speaker 3: So have you always been a superactive guy?
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  Speaker 1: Always? When I was a kid, I ran track, played basketball.
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  Speaker 1: What always made me happy was community. And as I
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  Speaker 1: got older, I realized that was the key to everything.
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  Speaker 1: Was basketball. It was community played after school. Most of
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  Speaker 1: my friends came from sports, so I meet so many
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  Speaker 1: people through sport and played. And I realized as I
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  Speaker 1: got older, when you work and you're so busy and
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  Speaker 1: you only set aside a certain time to build to
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  Speaker 1: the gym and this, and that you're moving like one
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  Speaker 1: hundred miles per hour, that you lose part of your community.
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  Speaker 1: And so I would say that community was key for
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  Speaker 1: me and that made me happy when I was younger,
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  Speaker 1: hanging out with friends, not thinking about time. Time to
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  Speaker 1: me was just this made up construct. It's just I
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  Speaker 1: don't believe in time. Everything was slow, and so I
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  Speaker 1: would say community living in a moment, not having bills.
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  Speaker 1: That makes anybody happy, right, just living that life and
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  Speaker 1: living care free in a sense. And so as I
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  Speaker 1: become an adult, I'll try to live free. And I
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  Speaker 1: think the whole goal is is to live free, pain free,
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  Speaker 1: mental free, financially free. And so you know, as I
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  Speaker 1: continue to keep traveling down my journeys, the one thing
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  Speaker 1: that I'm trying to do is allocate more time to
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  Speaker 1: do the things that I love. And that doesn't necessarily
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  Speaker 1: mean always chasing after my career. It could just be
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  Speaker 1: seriously like sitting in silence and being happy about sitting
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  Speaker 1: in silence and being And I think if you can
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  Speaker 1: be content, there's a difference, Like I'm lazy now and
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  Speaker 1: I love it. It's a choice, it's a choice, and
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  Speaker 1: that choice was powerful for me because there's a difference
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  Speaker 1: between being lazy and choosing to be lazy. And choosing
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  Speaker 1: to be lazy for me was being a homebody, being present,
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  Speaker 1: being happy about the choice that I've made, and not
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  Speaker 1: like dwelling over like, oh, I need to be working
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  Speaker 1: and grinding eight hours a day because the world tells
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  Speaker 1: you that you need to be on overdrive and just
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  Speaker 1: actually doing what I can do and what I love
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  Speaker 1: to do in this time that I get to do this.
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  Speaker 2: And so I was reading a little bit about your
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  Speaker 2: upbringing and you grew up in West Palm Beach, raised
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  Speaker 2: by a single mom with seven siblings. So it's it's
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  Speaker 2: interesting to me that you say no bills is a
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  Speaker 2: great way to be right. But I'm sure that with
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  Speaker 2: seven siblings and a single mom, money was definitely something
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  Speaker 2: you had to be aware of from a young age.
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  Speaker 1: At a young age, I mean, we grew up extremely poor.
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  Speaker 1: Be honest, growing up, roaches are waking you up in
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  Speaker 1: the morning, there's no alarm. I or have moments of that.
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  Speaker 1: But even though I had I'll say this, I had
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  Speaker 1: a great childhood. It was challenging, but I don't I
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't change it. I think it made me to who
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  Speaker 1: I am, and it also makes me appreciate who I
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  Speaker 1: am even more. And but yeah, my mother raised all
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  Speaker 1: these bad kids. You know, four in the house, but
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  Speaker 1: we total total over seven. Four of us lived in
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  Speaker 1: our home and she did as best as she could.
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  Speaker 1: And that was true strength for me. And seeing that
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  Speaker 1: seeing my mom get up and do that every single
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  Speaker 1: day as a single mother, trying to make the best.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't eat out. We always had home cooked meals.
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  Speaker 1: So to me, that's a blessing. You could come home,
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  Speaker 1: you can cook. You didn't rely on McDonald's, you didn't
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  Speaker 1: rely on like junk food and like, so I you know,
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  Speaker 1: I look at my childhood like I had a lot
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  Speaker 1: of blessings even then the hard times, and so I
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  Speaker 1: cherish those moments.
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  Speaker 2: Now when you think about middle school, high school, college,
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  Speaker 2: how did that resiliency really shape your pursuit of your athleticism.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if I can watch my mom work two jobs
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  Speaker 1: and raise kids, I should never complain about practice. I
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  Speaker 1: should never complain about having to get in shape. Right,
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  Speaker 1: Number one, it's fun for me to work out and
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  Speaker 1: to play sports. That was fun for me. So at
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  Speaker 1: the young age, for me, hard work was easy for me.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't. It wasn't this thing I had to like
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  Speaker 1: muscle myself up to. I was always disciplined at a
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  Speaker 1: young age. I was always active, so I was always out.
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  Speaker 1: So by the time I got into like conditioning and
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  Speaker 1: working out, I was kind of already ahead of the curve.
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  Speaker 1: But my toughness really comes from Lenora Lee Jones, and
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  Speaker 1: my father. His name's am Wala. He came over here
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  Speaker 1: from Haiti. He took a boat here, he illegally came here,
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  Speaker 1: and he brought ten other people with him. And I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if you know how that works, but not
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  Speaker 1: everyone makes it when they come from other countries and
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  Speaker 1: they're looking for refugee here. So when I think about
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  Speaker 1: just what my parents had to go through, I can
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  Speaker 1: never complain. I can't. And they did a very great
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  Speaker 1: job at making our lives as comfortable as possible, even
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  Speaker 1: though we had to go through a lot. But I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't always this way years ago. I never looked at
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  Speaker 1: life like this. I never saw the bright side of things.
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  Speaker 1: I was always angry and me. As I got older,
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  Speaker 1: doing the work and just looking within myself, I started
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  Speaker 1: to find like, no, these were important moments in your
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  Speaker 1: life that made you who you are, and like, don't
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  Speaker 1: be ashamed of that, be proud of that.
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  Speaker 3: I hate to interrupt you about what changed.
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  Speaker 1: I think when you hold anger inside of your heart,
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  Speaker 1: when you feel like anger is like hot cold in
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  Speaker 1: your hand, it's only so long you can hold it.
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  Speaker 1: And it was really destroying all of my relationships. I
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  Speaker 1: was angry at my parents growing up. I was angry
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: that I didn't have a formal dinner where everybody sat
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: around the table, And I was angry that I've been
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: in relationships and I always saw how they had healthier
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: relationships with their parents and their siblings. I grew up
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: with a large family, but we weren't close. It its survival,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: the fittest type energy in there, like we're trying to
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: make it. We're trying to figure out how to get
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: out of this. So we didn't grow up too tight.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: But I got tired of, you know, being angry about
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: where I was and how I felt about my mom
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: and my dad, And then I started to look into
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: put myselves in their shoes. If my father came here,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: can barely speak English and he's working two jobs, he's
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: trying to do as best as he can, why am
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: I mad at him that he didn't make it to
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: my basketball practices that he ended up paying for the
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: shoes and the clothes that I was wearing, Like, why
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: am I mad? And so it took a lot of
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: work for me to find this inner piece where I
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: can accept and love my family and my parents for
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: who they are And once I looked within myself opposed
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to like making excuses, it was easier and I'm not
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: you know, it was easier for me to accept how
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I grew up. It's easier for me now to reflect.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I always say that the reflection as the fertilizer for growth.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: If I didn't have that ability to reflect and look back, like,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: I couldn't see this, and I couldn't help people and
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: motivate people to get out of sunken places. And we
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: carry our traumas. Our body is full of trauma. We
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: hold our traumas and that holds us back, and they're
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: like grimlins. And these grimlins started adding up and it
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: just started affecting me in other areas. And once I
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: learned to let go and I learned to love a
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: little bit more, that helped me. And it's still I'm
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: not perfect. I'm still trying. We're all trying.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: It's understandable that you felt that way. How could you
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: not right, especially from a young age. It's not like
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: we're just all born with this innate level of wisdom
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: learning how to navigate our past trauma and it's all
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: smooth sailing, you know. It's it's so awesome to hear
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: you talk about anger with this really deep level of
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: self reflection. I feel like lately I've been doing a
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: lot of work myself, kind of trying to understand how
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: my anger at times is happening for me, and that,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: in fact, it can be the thing or the part
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: of me that loves me the most. It's this thing
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: that it knows when you're being mistreated, it knows when
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: you're being neglected, it knows when you're being disrespected, and
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: it then signals that you have to step out of
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: this place that doesn't do you justice and into something
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: that is better for yourself, better for your future. But
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: in the moment, Jesus, that is hard to be okay with.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: It's hard. You know, my family, I'm a brother who's
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: still caring trauma and he doesn't I know where it
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: comes from. It's crazy, I know, but he doesn't know
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: where it comes from. And I feel he's going down
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: this journey and you know, I know he's going to
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: find it. But you know, just like you said, like
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: you know, this journey is about the work that we're
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: constantly doing on ourselves. It doesn't matter if you're in
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: the best shape of your life. The greatest motivational speaker
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: in the world. You're constantly working. If you are, the
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: mountain will always be you. You always have to get
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: over that. And so I learned that I'm going to
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: always be a perpetual student. I'm always going to constantly learn.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: I'm always going to immerse myself in discovering who I am,
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: my roots, and that helps me become a better trainer.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: I'm a better trainer because of that. I can speak
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: to you because I'm talking to myself. And so the
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: more work that I do on myself, the better communicator
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: I become. And what I do for a living, communication
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: is key. Can you convey this message and have someone
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: connect with you? And so I always look at my
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: own troubles, my own hurdles. I have plenty of them
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: that I'm trying to get over or that I have
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: gotten over. And that's just the way of life.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: The meltain is you. That's a takeaway there.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: You spoke just briefly now about the struggle of knowing
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: someone that you care about is harboring anger, dealing with trauma,
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: and you want to support them. For someone who is
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: listening to this and can really relate to that sentiment.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: What advice would you offer them to do that?
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: Number One, be kind to yourself because when you don't
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: realize that anger is gonna, it's gonna there's backlash, it
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: comes back to you. And so, but also to ask
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: yourself why. I was like, I ask myself, why am
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I angry? And then I answer that, and then I
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: ask another why, and then I just keep asking these
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: whys until I get to the very core of it,
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: and it's like almost figuring out, Like it's like finding
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: your why, Like why why do I want to be
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: a trader right because I want to help people? Why
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: do I want to help people? And so then when
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: I started asking these whys like why am I angry
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: because my dad wasn't there? Or well, why wasn't my
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: dad there? My dad was working? Why was my dad
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: working to provide? Then you start to ask and then
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: you then you reflect and then you try to put
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: yourself in their shoes and then that helps. And so,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: but also always look within you before pointing a finger
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: at somebody, just look within you. How can I handle
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: this situation better? And that's where true growth is if
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: we can work on ourselves first and alone, and we
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: just keep polishing ourselves, the world will be a better place.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: And so the best advice I can give is look within.
• 23:19
  Speaker 3: Look within, look within.
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: Well, you said that better communication skills make.
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: You better at what you do.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: What you do being training and helping people live healthier
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: and happier life something that I truly resonate with. I
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: know that you really started this work deeply in twenty thirteen,
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: twenty fourteen. So in twenty fourteen you moved to Los Angeles.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: Put us in your shoes. What's going on for you?
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: At that time?
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Eight hundred bucks in my pocket. Moved to Los Angeles,
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I had nothing. I was living on my brother's girlfriend couch.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: Not my brother's couch. We were staying with his girlfriend.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: So it was my back was against the wall. At
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: that time, I just realized that I grew up. I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: was always a good a like a CB student, but
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: I never really like applied myself. So moving to Los Angeles,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: I really had to apply myself. There was no I
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: couldn't accept to see Los Angeles. To see is a
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: horrible f and so in trying to survive out in
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Los Angeles, So me moving out to LA was the
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: greatest shift that I ever had. And what I learned
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: from that was I learned how to talk to people.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: I learned how to motivate. I learned how to be
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: disciplined because I had to be disciplined. I can't rely
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: on like my fast food check from college. I can't
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: rely on like these little odd out jobs that I
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: was doing. I don't know if you ever had financial
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: hate from college, and so for me, I had to
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: become an adult and I couldn't rely on those things anymore.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: So I really learned a lot about myself. I worked
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: at La Fitness. I started at La Fitness. I was
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: a personal training director, so I was helping trainers learn
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: how to sell. Then I jumped over the Equinox for
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: a few months, and then I left Equalox and I
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: got into private training. And it was right when I
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: got into private training that was the biggest leak for me,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: is when I learned to love myself, have some self
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: respect for myself, and I felt like I had some
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: foot in the game and I had a little bit
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: of skin in the game. And I knew then that
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: I could become a great trainer. And I've never worried
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: about training. I was always great at that I loved learning.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: The hardest part was expanding and being able to provide
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: for myself but also be authentic and not just chase
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: a dollar but actually, like really try to help people.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: And so trying to do both of those in Los
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Angeles was tough. But after a while, you know, I
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: got to a place where I felt comfortable.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: So what was the catalyst that made you decide to
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: leave that brief stint at Equinox and go out on
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: your own as a private trainer.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Well, when they wanted me to just pick up weights
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: with the blue shirt, you know, you gotta wear the
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: blue shirt pick up ways and then they charging like
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: one hundred and something dollars a session. At that time,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: LA Fitness sessions were like thirty something bucks half an hour,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: twenty five minutes, then it can go up to seventy
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: bucks if it was an hour. So the shift was man,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: people were paying over one hundred dollars for a training
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: session really, And if I'm being honest, it's like, well,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: I need to invest in myself like that, and I
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: need to see if I can get out here and
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: maybe inspire clients that could Because at that time I
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: was from Florida training sessions were like forty bucks, fifty bucks,
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: sixty bucks. I didn't know that people had money like that,
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: and so I felt confident enough to be able to
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: go out into the real world. I like to call
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: it is really getting out there and being a private trainer.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: And once I learned that I am worth that, and
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: my knowledge says that, and the results say that, and
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: my clients say that, it was easier for me to
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: be able to do that. But I didn't think I was.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: I didn't. It was hard for me to imagine that.
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and again, big transition, totally understandable. That overwhelmed creeps
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: in that gremlin, as you stated, creeps in. What was
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: the most difficult part for you taking that leap the uncertainty?
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: The biggest part for me was I can't fail. If
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: I fail, I'm going back home. And if I go
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: back home, I'll never let this down. And I couldn't.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: And so it was, you know, being able to provide
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: for myself. Mind you, When I left I graduated college,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: I stayed with moms for like six months and then
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: I moved to Los Angeles. So I never really like
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: lived on my own. I never really even had real
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: bills in my life. I was a kid for such
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: a long time, and so, you know, being able to
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: go out here and have to learn how to be
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: a man, pay taxes, apply for a place like a
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: lot of this stuff was.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: New for me, Amlla, don't I know it.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I literally filed my return today and it was it
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: was a tough day for me.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: If I'm beyond.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Agril fourteenth every year on the got I don't, I
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: wait till the very right. And these are the things
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: you learn as you grow. And I'm you know, being
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: a trainer is not just collecting. You actually have to
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: learn how to grow and be a business and LLC
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: and and learn all this and then you have employees,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: now have employees, and it's just this is just a
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: different world that I ever I even I'd never thought
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: that I would ever be here doing stuff like this.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: So well, don't jump around though, because we didn't go
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: from like, I'm so intimidated.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: I'm so scared I'm going to go out on my
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: own too.
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: Also, I have employees within the same few sentences, So
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: talk to us about when you felt like you really
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: started to gain traction doing this on your own.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: Uh, it started two thousand and seventeen, twenty eighteen, I
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: started a lot of high profile clients reaching out to me.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: I started getting invested into the NBA. I worked with
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: a lot of NBA clients, and so at that time
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: I started training a lot of players. That summer, I
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: had like ten NBA players, And obviously that just showed that, okay,
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: obviously worries going around that I'm great at what I do,
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: but I also can't keep spreading myself thin. So I
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: started learning how to monetize my time but also delegate
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: things to people to make life easier for me. And
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: so it was twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen. My first client
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: that helped me get notoriety was Julius Randall. At the time,
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: he was playing for the Lakers, and so if you're
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: a Lakers fan, everybody just loves Julius. And so that
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: was like the beginning to this trajectory that took off.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: And from there, you know, work just kept coming at
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: me every couple of weeks, just a new opportunity and
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: new job, and I couldn't handle it myself. So I
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: to learn how to I need a manager. I need
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: someone to handle the schedule. I know, my grimlins organization
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: is one of them. I am not great at scheduling, calendars, preparation,
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: so all the things that were bad, and I knew
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: that I wasn't great at I had to hire people
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: to and so, and believe it or not, most people
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: that makes them afraid to do that. But for me,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I actually leaned into that and that helped me expand
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: even further. And so just tapping into the areas that
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: I wasn't great at.
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  Speaker 2: holds on to tasks. There are certain things that I
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  Speaker 2: know I'm completely incapable of, Like I am no photographer,
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  Speaker 2: I am not an accountant, Like these are things that
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  Speaker 3: And so I'm like, I'm so okay doing this thing.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm out for it doesn't work because what ends
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  Speaker 1: up happening is I like I won't get it done.
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  Speaker 1: It's like this analysis paralysis, Like you analyze. I'm an
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  Speaker 1: overthinker by the way. I overthink everything, so sometimes I
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  Speaker 1: hold myself from actually getting it done. It'll take me
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  Speaker 1: took someone two months. So once I recognize that, and
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  Speaker 1: especially when you get opportunities, they come, they come real quick.
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  Speaker 1: So I wanted to capitalize off of as much as
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  Speaker 1: I could, So I just had to. I had to
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  Speaker 1: hire an assistant to help me with my schedule. I
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: had to hire a videographer. I got tired of wasting
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  Speaker 1: time cropping up this camera here. And then a manager
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: helped me really just kind of manage my life. And
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: I think the best hire for me was the help
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  Speaker 1: my Like. That was another hire that I thought was
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  Speaker 1: really great for me, even though he doesn't work for me.
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  Speaker 1: But it is one of those things that I really
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: helped me identify some of my trouble areas, and so
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: I just got better from that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just getting better, just getting better asking for help,
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  Speaker 2: you don't regret it in the slightest. So what did
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  Speaker 2: you start to see as a direct result of bringing
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  Speaker 2: other people into the fold.
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: Well, I got back time. I got time back, and
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  Speaker 1: I think that's something we never did back. There's three
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  Speaker 1: things we don't want to waste, gas, money, and time, right,
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  Speaker 1: And so I got my time back and that was
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  Speaker 1: big because then I could start seeing family. I could.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: I had left the West Coast and I wasn't able
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: to see my father, and my father had been sick.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: So I think that was the biggest thing for me. Obviously,
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: when you expand, the goal is is that your money expands.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: So I was very fortunate that that actually happened. And
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: then my biggest joy is being able to help help
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: people and put people in positions. Videographer the person that's
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: been with me for five years now. We started basically
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: together on everything, and he was living with his mom
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: and now he has his own place, and so like
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: just the team that I'm working with, these are people
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: that I see myself if I work with anyone, I
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: see myself working with them for the rest of my life.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: So if I go into business like body, all the
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: jobs that I do, my goal is to work with
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: you for the rest of my life. So now everyone
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: that I work with, I'm seeing them flourish, and to me,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: that makes me excited. If my friends aren't flourishing and
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: they're not taking off, and that I still have more
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: work to do, and so as long as they're successful,
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: that I'm happy. So that was the biggest thing seeing
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: everyone grow from.
• 36:45
  Speaker 3: This from the get go.
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: Where were you when you first heard from them that
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: they were interested in working with you.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: I was. I was in Los Angeles and the owner
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: DM me on my Instagram and his name is Daichler,
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: and I read it, and you know, he was talking
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: about a program that he's beach Body basically created a
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: company called beast Body. At the time, I had no
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: clue about Beachbody. I didn't know what beach Body was.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: And then I ignored the email. I mean not the email,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: but the DM. I ignored it. I was like, I
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: don't know this.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: It is not so funny that the craziest, like most
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: ridiculous business opportunities just come through as like on social media.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: All of my business, like every one of my clients,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: and I don't want to name drop, but I have
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: a lot of high profile clients and they all come
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: from Instagram. Never received a formal email ever or anything.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: It all comes from Instagram. So he writes me, I
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: ignore it. Then we have a mutual friend. The mutual
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: friend is a physical therapist. He reaches out to me
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: and he's like, hey, I sent a friend your way.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: He was looking for a new trainer. You might want
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: to open that. I think it'll change your life. And
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: I was like really, And then he explained that Beach
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: Body is the Unbrella company company two programs such as
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: P ninety X Insanity and so then that hit me
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, okay, it sounds okay. I
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: know what this is. And so then I reached out.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: We tall it. Then he had been following me for
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: a year. I had no clue, and he was watching
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: the work that I was doing with the Lakers, watching
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: the work that I was doing with some of my
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: private clients, and he loved what he saw, loved the personality.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I think you have to have a personality when you're
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: an on camera trainer and from there we just had
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: you know, back and forth dialogue and I wasn't sure
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: at the time, and there was an opening where I
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: had a lot of space in my schedule and we
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: went out did a trial run and from there that's
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: how I became supertrainer. So I was excited. I had
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: no clue. I'm happy that my friend told me because
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: I would have never.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: You said I think it'll change your life. Would you
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: say it's changed your life?
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: It has drastically changed my life. It is, It's made
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: my family proud, It's made me happy. Or I love
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: this job. The fact that I get to work with
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: thousands to millions of people and changing their lives and
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: seeing their messages, and it just hits so home to
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: me and every person that I work with. I love
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: what I do. No one can ever tell you that
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: I don't love this. I will go beyond for anyone,
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: and just seeing how so many people want to learn
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: and get better is what I love. I love. If
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: the company doesn't have a great community, I don't want
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: to be a part of it. The community with Body
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: is so amazing. We host these live workouts all across
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: the world every year. We'll have about twelve live workouts,
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: so I get to travel all across the world and
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: get to meet everyone that presses played and those are
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: my memorable things. That I love the most is just
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: being able to interact with people. So it has changed
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: my life. It's amazing.
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: You mentioned even from a young age that community was
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: important to you.
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: Why is that?
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: Why is community such a cornerstone for everything that you are?
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: Well? Community just helps you stay grounded and also community
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: is a place where you can express yourself, but also
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: you find life minded people. I don't know if you've
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: ever been in this world and you ever felt alone,
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: and you can be alone in this world and you
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: can be alone in your thoughts. And so when I
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: have people that I can that I see myself in
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: or or if I can talk to I can interact with,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I come to life like there's so many colors in
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: life and just someone's story might inspire me. And so
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: community is so important for you. I you know, I
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: I went through a dark phase in my life where
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was dark until I started doing
• 40:46
  Speaker 1: the work. I had like social anxiety. I didn't like
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: being around people, and I don't know where that came from.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: But if I would see someone and I could feel
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: that they wanted to talk to me, I would hit
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: a U turn without them knowing. And so I don't
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: know where that came from. But once I started like
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: finding a community that was like minded with me, that
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: loved to work out, that loved to help, then it
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: just helped me like interact with people better. And it's
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: just like it's like healing. It's healing power in a community.
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: So we all have our tribe, you know, it takes
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: a village, and having people that we can rely on,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: that we can talk to, that we can vent to,
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: that we can reflect to, is important far sanity.
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: So and me with a timeline on that dark moment
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: for you.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: That was shortly, I will say maybe a year after Body.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of great things about Body, but there
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: was one thing that really it just magnified some things
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: that I was going through in my own life, having
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: to deal with you know, a lot of people talking
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: to you, a lot of people looking up to you,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: a lot of people you ever, you know, imposter syndrome
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: is you know, you go through these places in your
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: life like am I worth this? Am I worthy of this?
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: If you go deeper into my life. You know, even
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: though my mother did raise me, there's two I have
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: two mothers. So I left my home at thirteen, and
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: I left my house. I ran away and my Italian mother,
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: Tanny Petranton, she raised me since I was thirteen years old,
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: So there's more to like my childhood. So I came
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: with a lot of baggage. I came with this, I'm
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: not worth it, my mother let me walk. I'm not
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: worth it. I'm not worth it. I'm not worth it.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: And then then I became a trainer. Am I worth it?
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: I'm not worth it? Am I worth one hundred dollars
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: in a session? Am I worth being a supertrainer? Am I
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: worth being your trainer? So it only expanded and and
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: it shed a light on like the insecurities that I
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: had in my own life. And then it became a prisoner.
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: I became a prisoner of my own name because then, y'all,
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: you got to be perfect all the time, and now
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: you got to be this motivator and you can't make mistakes.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: So I just went through a lot of lows, up
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: and downs throughout that phase. And then it was also
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: affecting the relationships around me, because when you start doing
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: better for yourself, people around you not necessarily want the
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: same for you. And I just I kind of dealt
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: with a lot of that, which was unfortunate. And so
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: I would say a year after Beach Body, Yeah, went
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: through that dark dase and I had to pull myself
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: out of it. And I went through a lot, man,
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: I was, I was, I'll be honest, I was getting
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: high all the time. I was escaping. Like, there was
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: like hurdles I had to go through, And I say, Hi, marijuana, guys,
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I don't do anything else.
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: God, man, it's legal where you're at.
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: It legal.
• 43:38
  Speaker 3: It's legal where I'm at. Shoot, they're selling it down
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: the street from my apartment.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Now, that was a hurdle for me because then I
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: started using it as a way to escape, and that
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: was the big issue for me, and I had to
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: learn how to If someone ever told you that marijuana's
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: not addicted, they lie. Let y'all know that right now.
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: So I think it's the feeling, right, just with alcohol, right,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: It's the opportunity to numb. However it is that you
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: may be feeling or just go into this altered state
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: where maybe your problems or your troubles just don't feel
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: as grand joyce as they did before.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: There were a lot of things that kind of opened
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: up my mind that kind of made me realize that
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: I have to like dive into myself. The trauma didn't
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: start with me have better relationships with my parents. My
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: mother passed away rest in Pease, so nor she passed
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: away and twenty twenty sixteen. So that was hard. That
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: was hard to adjust too, because there was a lot
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: of things that weren't said that I wish was said,
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: and there were things that were said that I wish
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: wasn't said. And so you know, a lot of the
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: things that I was going through really stemmed from childhood
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: and you know, just trying to trying to find the
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: best way way to handle it. So just expanding and
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: opening up my mind too, Okay, okay, look within myself
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: a little bit more.
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: So, Yeah, yeah, thank you for sharing that.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: I This is definitely a conversation that is modeled behavior
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: in how powerful vulnerability can be. Now you've spoken so
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: beautifully about the work that you're doing, the work that
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: you've done. Were there individuals in your life that modeled
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: that level of vulnerability to help you get more comfortable
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: with it.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Unfortunately, no, there weren't any men in my life that
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: helped me. But I really say I had some healthy
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: relationships and it started with the relationships that I had.
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: So I an ex girlfriend, it would it is a
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: great relationship. We really like opened up and communicated, and
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: I also saw like, man, I really want to be
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: the best that I can be for her. But me
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: being my best I had to deal with some things.
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: And so she, you know, she popped the light on it,
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: and from there I just started doing the work. But
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: I would say I didn't have any role models growing
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: up that I could look in and I could see
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: myself or because I also didn't open up and I
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: didn't have these conversations with the men around me. But
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: I would say very vulnerable for me anytime I got
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: in relationships and I saw some of my my flaws,
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: and I, like I said, at one point in your life,
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: you get tired of feeling the way you feel, and
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: at one point you're either going to change it or
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: you accept it. And I had to change it and
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: I wanted to be better. So it started from my
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: relationships and that helped me really kind of be who
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: I am, right now and still continue to try to
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: be better.
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, mentioned that you were able to get out of
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: that dark period for you. Aside from the power of
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: know which we talked about earlier, what else would you
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: say really helped you break through that barrier to the
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: other side.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: What I would say the biggest change for me was
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: my inner monologue, the way I speak to myself. I
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: didn't realize I had a bad relationship with myself. So
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: your internal world will be your external world the way
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: you You'll just trouble or find you or things will
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: never go your way. Because if you wake up and like, nah,
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: I'm not feeling good, Today's gonna be a crappy day.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: Guess what's gonna happen? You have a crappy day. And
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: there was a point where, like I told you earlier,
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: I'm an overthinker, So if anything went wrong in my life,
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: I overthought it so much to the point I started
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: getting sick, to the point where I had a cold.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: And there was a point I had a cold for
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: like three weeks straight and I was like, what is
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: going on? Didn't have COVID, I couldn't figure it out.
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: And I realize it's just from the overthinking. So once
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I realize I have the power to make myself sick,
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: and that means I have the power to make myself strong,
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: And so I change my inner monologue. I wake up,
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: my morning routines are different. The way I talk to myself.
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: It's like an incantation that I have over myself. I
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: cast a spell like today's going to be a great day.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: I'm amazing, life's great, things are just. And then that
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: I feel it to the point I get goosebumps across
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: my body and I feel alive. And then once I
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: started changing the way I spoke to myself, and I
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: saw the power behind that. You know, my training change.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you. When you go through a dark place
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: and you got to pull yourself out of it, and
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: you find the strength to pull yourself out of it,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: everything changes. The way you look at the world changes,
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: the way you talk to people changes, the way everything
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: that you do changes. And so that is the key
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: to me, is the way I speak to myself. I
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: gotta love myself. I have to love myself because the
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: world's gonna hate you no matter what. So find a
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: way to love yourself. And once that happened, now people
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: around me are loving people. My circle has completely changed
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: and I don't have I wouldn't say I don't have
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: the energy of a patience, but I don't have any
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: negativity around me. And I also learned how to distance
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: myself from things as well. And if it doesn't serve
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: me respectfully, that doesn't mean that I'm being selfish. I
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: just have to protect this temple my mind, my body,
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: my spirit. And once I started doing that, like life
• 49:30
  Speaker 1: is so much better, And it really came from the mind.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: You're completely allowed to be selfish right in the pursuit
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: of that positivity, in the pursuit of you being your
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: best self, you then draw back what you are putting
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: into the world, so you are that positive energy and
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: then you'll be met with that positive energy back.
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: Yes, And it's literally how it works. And like I,
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: if anyone's struggling right now going through that, try it,
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: try it, Try it for a week, try it right now.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: Just like tell yourself, you know what I'm saying, I'm amazing.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: It could be your affirmation, it could be your mantras,
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: it can be this code of ethic that you live by.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: But anytime you find yourself dipping, you know, have that moment.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: And it's good to have these these little mantras around
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: or just these little sayings that you love that way
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: that you know it can remind yourself. Like I always say,
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: I'm built for this. I'm built for this, like regardless
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: of what pressure, it is, built for this. And so
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: like finding little things that help you is very important.
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: And if you're in a dark place, try that, try that. Definitely,
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: go for a walk, take time for yourself.
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: Code of ethics that you live by. What is part
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: of your code of ethects?
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so for me, there's one thing within the small
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: things your strength lives. So that's just one of my
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: like little mantras that I hold because it's like being
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: faithful to the process. Like I gotta be faithful to
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: the process, surrendered to the outcome. Be faithful to the process,
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: surrendered to the outcome. As long as I'm constantly doing
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: the work trying to get better at myself, I know
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: life is going to be good. I'm going to be
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: in alignment. I'm gonna walk. So my code of ethic is,
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: you know, be good to myself, love myself, eat well.
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: Move doesn't have to be exercise and just move, you know,
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: speak to my loved ones, call them more. If there's
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: a thought on my mind, If someone's on my mind,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: give them a call, don't wait. If just little things
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: like that throughout the day, like and it makes you happy,
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: it's a skill. It's like I have this bias. You know,
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: it's biased, but it's it's it's important, Like I tell
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: myself these things, or if I tell somebody. So I
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: had a problem, like I said earlier, with smoking. So
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: then when my friends would see me, they're like, Yo,
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: how's the we going. I'm like doing better. I'm off
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: the week I was being biased, right, I'm lying a little.
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: But then what ended up happening was I had to
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: man up to those words, and I kept saying that.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: I kept saying that. I kept saying that, and that
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: helped me get away from it because I want to
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: be better, so I have to do better, and so
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: you know, just doing a little, small little things throughout
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: the day to make me happy. Also not to desire
• 52:25
  Speaker 1: too much. You know, we desire so many things and
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: then we don't achieve it, and then we're not happy.
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: And like I've learned to come be at peace with
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: what's for me is what's for me, and if it's
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: not for me, I'm okay with that. But when I
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: would desire all these things, it felt like I was
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: signing a contract with myself. Until I got it, I
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: will never be happy. And once I learned that, you know,
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: I didn't look for the body. I didn't look for
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: these job opportunities. They came, but they all came from
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  Speaker 1: my habits and my rituals. And as long as I
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  Speaker 1: have good, healthy habits and rituals, I know everything works
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  Speaker 1: out from there.
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  Speaker 2: Hit me with a couple of the habits in your
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  Speaker 2: life that you cannot imagine your routine without.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, get up my information in the morning, So in
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  Speaker 1: the morning practice so when I wake up, basically, i'll
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  Speaker 1: play and my informations are different, right, it could be
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  Speaker 1: different every day. I'll play some music that just makes
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  Speaker 1: me happy. I look good, I look slagged like just
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  Speaker 1: certain things. Right, it's just funny. It's funny. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: have to be serious. I don't have to take myself serious.
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  Speaker 1: But I just do things that like make me feel
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  Speaker 1: light throughout the day. Then I'll always work out in
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  Speaker 1: the morning. I always work out in the morning. I
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  Speaker 1: can't miss it. If there's some days that I miss it.
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  Speaker 1: I'll work out after, but working out is important for me.
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  Speaker 1: I take a cold shower. A cold shower every single
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  Speaker 1: day has been game changer for me because then it
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  Speaker 1: helps me just kind of stay in this this relax
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  Speaker 1: and this this different state of mind. My food is
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  Speaker 1: always clean. I always make sure I'm eating pretty clean.
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  Speaker 1: Like I said, you know, I'll check in on my
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  Speaker 1: dad first thing in the morning, like Pops, what you're
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  Speaker 1: up to, how you doing. We'll talk and then I
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  Speaker 1: can move on about my day. And so from there,
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  Speaker 1: if it's a book that I want to read, if
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  Speaker 1: it's programming that I have to do, if it's filming,
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  Speaker 1: I just I'm in a better mind space for it
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  Speaker 1: to do it because I did the important things and
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  Speaker 1: my habits and rituals before I can go on throughout
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  Speaker 1: my day.
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  Speaker 2: Putting on the oxygen mask. Before you help everybody else.
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  Speaker 2: I get it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a big morning routine person.
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  Speaker 2: You spoke a little bit earlier about navigating the challenges
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  Speaker 2: that go hand in hand with being a pretty public person,
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  Speaker 2: with joining the Body family and gaining a larger following. Now,
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  Speaker 2: these people that come to your social media and they
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  Speaker 2: see a supertrainer, creator of all these great programs. When
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  Speaker 2: you while to look in the mirror, what is it
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  Speaker 2: that you see looking back at you.
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  Speaker 1: That's a great question. I see a kid still learning,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and I'm proud about that. As a coach,
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  Speaker 1: you think you have to know it all. And once
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  Speaker 1: I learned that no one knows it all, and no
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  Speaker 1: one is that much smarter or that much this, it
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  Speaker 1: was easier for me to kind of like let go
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  Speaker 1: of the reins a little bit and kind of live
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  Speaker 1: a little bit. I felt like I was living like
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  Speaker 1: a very constipated life because everything was so like I
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  Speaker 1: would live a little, I'll stop, I'll live a little,
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  Speaker 1: I'll stop, And now I'm just letting life just flow.
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  Speaker 1: And so what I see in myself is this young
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  Speaker 1: kid that's still trying to learn get better every single day,
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  Speaker 1: who is always I'm always going to respect you, always
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  Speaker 1: always going to show respect. I'm always going to have empathy.
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  Speaker 1: And I think empathy and respect is very important. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's what I see it myself more than anything,
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  Speaker 1: and I just want to be better. I know that,
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  Speaker 1: you know, it's important for who I am as a person,
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  Speaker 1: as a man, and I know that as long as
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  Speaker 1: I'm constantly doing that work, I'm going to be great.
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  Speaker 1: It just has to be as long as I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: the work. So, like I said earlier, it's just being
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  Speaker 1: faithful to whatever that is for me and staying faithful
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  Speaker 1: to that.
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  Speaker 3: What excites you right now?
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  Speaker 1: What excites me? Everything excites me, So like the programming,
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  Speaker 1: everything that I'm doing right now excites me. The work
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  Speaker 1: that I'm doing right now with my clients excite me.
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  Speaker 1: Being able, even if it's like being able to just
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  Speaker 1: go to the beach, I get excited for that right
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  Speaker 1: because these are choices that I get to make. And
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  Speaker 1: I hope everyone at a point in their lives take
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  Speaker 1: control of their lives. And one of the best ways
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  Speaker 1: that helped me was just getting more disciplined. And once
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  Speaker 1: I got more disciplined, paradoxically, it allowed me to have
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  Speaker 1: more freedom. And so that's something that was important for me.
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  Speaker 1: And it can be a meal and I'm excited. I
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  Speaker 1: just want to be like a pupp I want to
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  Speaker 1: be a dog, a happy little puppy that's just excited
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  Speaker 1: you came home. So like everything in my life now
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  Speaker 1: excites me. If I get an opportunity to work with
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  Speaker 1: anyone that excites me, doesn't matter what level it's at.
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  Speaker 1: So I think everything.
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  Speaker 2: Right now discipline being a game changer for those that
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  Speaker 2: struggle with it. What's one small actionable tip that you
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  Speaker 2: can offer to help them home in on that scale?
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  Speaker 1: Right? Five minute actions five minutes, doesn't matter what it
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  Speaker 1: is you want to you you want to read, and
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  Speaker 1: you don't have the time to read. Read for five minutes,
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  Speaker 1: and guess what happens. What ends up happening. It happened,
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  Speaker 1: never fails. Once I read five minutes and I'm I'm
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  Speaker 1: continuing to keep reading, and I get the ball rolling.
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  Speaker 1: You know, breaking their nurser is the hardest part. So
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  Speaker 1: you know, learning to take these five minute actions. It
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  Speaker 1: could be working out, it can be talking, making a call,
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  Speaker 1: whatever you've been dreading to do. If you give it
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  Speaker 1: five minutes, I promise you it'll start. You'll just do it.
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  Speaker 1: So those are things that I'm very disciplined about, and
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  Speaker 1: those are things that I always do regardless. And also
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  Speaker 1: I'm graceful about myself. If I don't finish that book,
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  Speaker 1: it's cool as long as I started it, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: continuing to do this and keep going forward and break
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  Speaker 1: the inertia. I'm going to be great about it. Life
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  Speaker 1: is not linear. It's curvature. It's like stocks. It goes
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  Speaker 1: up and down. But as long as it's still going up,
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  Speaker 1: then I know I'm winning. And so that's how I
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  Speaker 1: look at my life.
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  Speaker 3: I love that. All Right, we're winding down here right now.
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  Speaker 2: You have a chance to offer yourself a piece of advice.
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  Speaker 3: Let's set yourself up back.
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  Speaker 2: At that dark period around about a year after joining body.
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  Speaker 2: You have an opportunity, knowing what you know now, to
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  Speaker 2: offer yourself a piece of advice. Going through that dark time,
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  Speaker 2: What do you tell yourself?
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  Speaker 1: Tell myself everything's gonna be okay. Tell myself that I'm happy.
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  Speaker 1: And if I'm sad, it's okay. It's okay to be sad.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay. Honor those feelings, but don't stay there, and
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  Speaker 1: the moment you get tired of being there, do something
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  Speaker 1: about it. I think we think that we're just going
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  Speaker 1: to be wake up one day and be happy. That
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: does not happen. Like that doesn't matter. If you hit
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: the lotto and you make millions, you'll never be happy
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  Speaker 1: unless you apply skills and so for me, I thought
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  Speaker 1: that one day, once I became this, I would be happy.
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  Speaker 1: That didn't happen for me, So then I had to
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: learn what happiness actually means. And happiness for me is
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  Speaker 1: I'm an overthinker, so I want to be a clear thinker.
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  Speaker 1: So once I became a clear thinker and I was
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  Speaker 1: able to stop living in the past and the future.
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  Speaker 1: That helps so young me or depress me. It's okay,
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: honor where you are. But again, if you're super tired
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: of it and tired of being there, then you got
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: to do something about it, because it's not just going
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: to go away, but also get up, call your family,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: go for a walk, nature's therapy, Eat good because how
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: you eat will affect your mood. And move just constantly,
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: keep moving. And what ends up happening is you work
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: yourself out of these dark places. Or do an affirmation
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  Speaker 1: every day until you get goosebumps. Play a song every
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: single day until it makes you feel alive, till it
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  Speaker 1: brings you joy. Find things that bring you joy and
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: actually apply them. And that's the advice that I will give.
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  Speaker 2: Find things that bring you join. I'm so happy that
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  Speaker 2: we're able to make this happen. For the hurdlers that
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: don't yet follow along with you, give us the info.
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  Speaker 3: How do they do that? How do you keep up
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 3: with you?
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  Speaker 1: You can follow me on on Instagram or my website.
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  Speaker 1: My Name'smala dot Caesar at dot com on my website,
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  Speaker 1: or you can just do Amala Caesar on Instagram and
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  Speaker 1: you'll be able to find me. No one has my
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: name but my father, so if you just type in
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: my first name, you'll find it. Promise you that so.
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  Speaker 3: Easy, peasy.
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  Speaker 2: I'm over at Emileybody at Hurdle Podcast Another hurdle concord.
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  Speaker 3: Catch you guys next time