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Dear Banya: No Loofah, No Sponge · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: So before you get into today's Dear Bonya, we just
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  Speaker 1: wanted to let you know that we pre recorded this
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  Speaker 1: last week before the fires in La broke out. It
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  Speaker 1: was originally going to air last week, but we decided
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  Speaker 1: to hold off as everyone was dealing with the devastation
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  Speaker 1: here in La.
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  Speaker 2: We referenced today's date being January ninth, so we wanted
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  Speaker 2: you to keep that in mind before you listen.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, We love you, We love you.
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  Speaker 2: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Scrub but Dub.
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  Speaker 2: Dub Wow, you know what happens on Mars.
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  Speaker 3: Keep it tight, you guys, keep it tight. I'm going
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  Speaker 3: to not make it tight.
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  Speaker 1: There was some intimate eye contact there with you, Mark
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  Speaker 1: during that scrub Dub Dub A Dear BONDI episode.
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  Speaker 3: That guys trying to keep it tight.
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  Speaker 4: Out Number one episode was very long, by the way,
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  Speaker 4: probably one of our longer what.
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  Speaker 1: You say that it was right, maybe at an hour.
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  Speaker 4: An hour, but yeah, quite.
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  Speaker 1: An hour, yeah, like barely under and our episodes used
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  Speaker 1: to be like an hour and fifteen minutes, Like I
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  Speaker 1: feel like at at the beginning.
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  Speaker 4: But it's so fun.
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  Speaker 3: It is when the time flies. It's like what is time?
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  Speaker 1: What is time?
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  Speaker 3: But a number?
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  Speaker 4: You know?
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  Speaker 3: But if you're enjoying thyself, why put a time stamp on it?
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  Speaker 2: And That's what I'm doing right now. I'm enjoying my life.
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  Speaker 2: I'm enjoying my time.
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  Speaker 4: Taking sunny on three mile walks.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Actually I need to get out soon so that
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  Speaker 3: I could take.
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  Speaker 1: For my uh because.
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  Speaker 2: A community accountability activity.
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  Speaker 3: I've been doing good. I've been doing it every day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, how have the how's the community been doing really good?
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  Speaker 2: There's like a couple people, like a good handful that
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  Speaker 2: I've been posting every single day.
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  Speaker 1: I know. So proud of you guys.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks, I'm proud of us too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: We have some hard hitting questions and advice that we
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  Speaker 1: need to get to, so why not start now?
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  Speaker 4: All right? Banya? This is from V dear beca Tanya Marketistern.
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  Speaker 4: I was just in a relationship for rom of three
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  Speaker 4: years with someone who I thought was the love of
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  Speaker 4: my life, only to have my heart broken from coming
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  Speaker 4: across texts from his brother on his iPad, essentially saying
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  Speaker 4: he doesn't love me anymore. We were supposed to leave
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  Speaker 4: the following morning to go back to my parents for Christmas,
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  Speaker 4: which led to us parting ways and me going to
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  Speaker 4: my family and him going to his. He called me
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  Speaker 4: a day later and told me, no, he does love me,
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  Speaker 4: but due to me being an anxious attachment style and
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  Speaker 4: him being an avoidant anxious, we clashed a lot. He
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  Speaker 4: said that, really, well, we never thought our relationship was beautiful.
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  Speaker 4: I helped him get sober over a year and a
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  Speaker 4: half of work, and he became a new man and
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  Speaker 4: the man I had fallen in love with all over again.
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  Speaker 4: We've talked since, and he suggested doing couple's therapy, but
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  Speaker 4: his main concern is he doesn't know if he would
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  Speaker 4: hurt me again like this if he got back together
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  Speaker 4: with me. And he's now done this to me twice,
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  Speaker 4: both times in which he did get better, and both
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  Speaker 4: substance abuse related. But I don't know if I can
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  Speaker 4: take this pain a fourth time. So I told him
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  Speaker 4: if he's not confident, he also to let me go.
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  Speaker 4: His mom reached out to me, told me I'm his
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  Speaker 4: best friend and her own son is a mess and
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  Speaker 4: she hopes he can figure himself out. But he's really conflicted.
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  Speaker 4: She told me not to wait for him, and I
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  Speaker 4: don't want to. I'm moving back home to take some
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  Speaker 4: time with my family, to recoup and try to move on.
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  Speaker 4: But let's say down the road he did come back
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  Speaker 4: to me and fixed everything. Do I hear him out?
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  Speaker 4: Any words of wisdom or advice? Tanya, you kind of
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  Speaker 4: dealt with this. We broke up with Robbie and got
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  Speaker 4: back together a few months later. How did you cope?
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  Speaker 4: Any advice you can offer be appreciated. You all are
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  Speaker 4: the lights that helped my morning commutes better, So thank
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  Speaker 4: you for all you do.
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  Speaker 1: You know, here's the thing. Tell me if if after
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  Speaker 1: the trigger of it, when you and Robbie split for
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  Speaker 1: a moment, if if y'all had gotten back together and
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  Speaker 1: then another another time went by, amount of time went by,
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  Speaker 1: and then he did it, he did it again, I
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  Speaker 1: would be so adamant about you not getting back together
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  Speaker 1: with him, because I was pretty adamant about the first time.
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  Speaker 1: I was pretty much like, what are we doing? He
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  Speaker 1: ain't and I was wrong, you know, it was like
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  Speaker 1: you knew what was right. But I think that ultimately,
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  Speaker 1: if he kept doing things that made you feel that way,
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  Speaker 1: I would be very very much like, do not get
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  Speaker 1: back with this man?
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  Speaker 3: So I would agree.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I would echo your sentiment. However, I
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  Speaker 2: do feel like when you have a history with someone
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  Speaker 2: and you so badly want it to be that person,
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  Speaker 2: that you kind of look past all that stuff, and like,
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  Speaker 2: my only conc is if you listen to what other
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  Speaker 2: people think, and let's say people are telling you don't
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  Speaker 2: get back together with him, don't get back together with him,
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  Speaker 2: and then you don't get back together with him, and
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  Speaker 2: then let's just say he was the love of your life,
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  Speaker 2: and then in twenty years you totally regret it because
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  Speaker 2: you're like, he was my guy. Would you rather that
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  Speaker 2: happen or would you rather follow your heart and do
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  Speaker 2: what your heart's telling you. Maybe you get hurt again,
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  Speaker 2: but at least you don't look back on your life
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  Speaker 2: regretting doing something that wasn't what you wanted to do.
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  Speaker 1: I guess the thing is, though, it's like, if it's
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  Speaker 1: gonna happen a fourth time, is it gonna happen a
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  Speaker 1: fifth time? Like when you set your standard higher that
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  Speaker 1: you deserve better?
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  Speaker 3: Right?
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  Speaker 2: When is that point? Is it after two? Is it
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  Speaker 2: after three? Is it after four?
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  Speaker 3: And after one.
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  Speaker 1: Think she's reached that point because she said, I don't
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  Speaker 1: want to. She said, I don't want she said, she
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  Speaker 1: also told me not to wait on him. His mom
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  Speaker 1: told her not to wait on him, and she said, which,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to. So she's already made a decision
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  Speaker 1: where she's like, knows that she should probably move on
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  Speaker 1: and that it's not gonna get better or be her forever.
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  Speaker 1: But she's like you said, he's familiar, he's her best friend.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe a compromise, Maybe there's a compromise, because she says,
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  Speaker 2: do I hear him out. Maybe you give him a
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  Speaker 2: certain amount of time, you say, come back to me
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  Speaker 2: in six months and I'll hear you out. So then
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  Speaker 2: that that shows that like he's really committed, he will
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  Speaker 2: respect your wishes and if he really wants you, he'll
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  Speaker 2: wait those six months and he'll come back and he'll
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  Speaker 2: explain it.
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  Speaker 1: But I think you'll go no contact, no contact. You
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  Speaker 1: have to like you're not there's no way to be
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  Speaker 1: middle of the road on you.
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  Speaker 2: Have to mentally be like that door is shut. In
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  Speaker 2: six months, I'll hear him out.
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  Speaker 1: It's not locked, it's not a shut, it's shut. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's not locked. Maybe you won't walk it.
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  Speaker 3: You can in six months, okay, and hear him out.
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  Speaker 1: I just think that you know what you like, I
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  Speaker 1: know what your heart is wanting to do. It's like
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  Speaker 1: your head that's wanting you to stay back because you
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  Speaker 1: love him and you want him to reach his potential
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  Speaker 1: and be the person that you think he can be.
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  Speaker 1: But I also I think you know that you're going
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  Speaker 1: to continually be disappointed.
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  Speaker 3: Hard to say.
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  Speaker 1: I say you shut the door. I say you take
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  Speaker 1: time for yourself, get make yourself better, go to therapy,
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  Speaker 1: work on your anxious attachment style, and work on being
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  Speaker 1: the best and healthiest version of you with your family.
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  Speaker 1: And then if you feel ready and assert set a
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  Speaker 1: certain amount of time that you both go no contact,
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  Speaker 1: then you can give them a chance. But you also
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  Speaker 1: might meet someone better.
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  Speaker 4: And you deserve someone you deserve, not a work in progress,
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  Speaker 4: somebody you don't have to fix y and somebody that's
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  Speaker 4: not going to be sure about you. You deserve someone
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  Speaker 4: who is sure about you and is already fully formed.
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  Speaker 1: He's already concerned, he doesn't want to hurt you again.
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  Speaker 1: He's already like setting it up that he's going to.
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  Speaker 3: Hurt you again.
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  Speaker 4: You can do better. There are so many dudes out there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I can say with full confidence that I have
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  Speaker 2: never gone to Robbie and said I'm scared I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to hurt you, like never once. Right, Yes, I'm saying
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  Speaker 2: him at some point or like you know, like I
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  Speaker 2: may have hurt him in certain fights or whatever, but like,
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  Speaker 2: I've never said those words.
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  Speaker 4: Who knows him better than anyone in the entire world.
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  Speaker 4: His mom, his mom, and you're his mom, is saying
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  Speaker 4: to you.
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  Speaker 1: He's a mess.
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  Speaker 4: Go run.
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  Speaker 1: You're better than that.
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  Speaker 4: You gotta go.
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  Speaker 1: That's speaking volumes because moms and their sons.
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  Speaker 2: Lomy wants to keep the baby boy single, doesn't want him,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and.
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  Speaker 1: Even more for her to get out.
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  Speaker 4: Next from anonymous, Hi, bead on your macciest. My brother
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  Speaker 4: and I have been best friends, especially as adults, but
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  Speaker 4: our relationship is now strained because of his girlfriend. After
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  Speaker 4: I got engaged to my now fiance, Hurricane Helene disrupted
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  Speaker 4: my life. I had to move it, had a lot
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  Speaker 4: of stress during what should have been a joyful time.
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  Speaker 4: I invited my brother's girlfriend to get her hair and
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  Speaker 4: makeup done for my wedding, but She accused me of
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  Speaker 4: only inviting her to meet a quota, which isn't true.
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  Speaker 4: She has made hurtful comments, including saying she's enjoying watching
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  Speaker 4: me deal with my hurricane related challenges, which I addressed
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  Speaker 4: with my brother. He was initially apologetic, but later became
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  Speaker 4: defensive and accused me of being passive, aggressive, and unkind
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  Speaker 4: to her, which I feel is unfair. His girlfriend has
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  Speaker 4: ignored my attempts to address the situation maturely and has
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  Speaker 4: continued to make nice slash nasty remarks, leaving me feeling
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  Speaker 4: hurt and unsupported. My parents think I should get over it,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm struggling with how to move forward without damaging
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  Speaker 4: my relationships with my family. Love you, guys, and thank you.
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  Speaker 4: To be continued, well hopefully not.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is brutal.
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  Speaker 4: Sucks when your sibling dates somebody that you don't like.
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  Speaker 4: Yes it sucks.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, here's the thing. But there's nothing that you
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  Speaker 2: can do about it. So you have to just set boundaries.
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  Speaker 2: That's literally all you can do.
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  Speaker 1: But what are the boundaries because she's really close with
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  Speaker 1: her brother, So how do you set a boundary?
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  Speaker 3: You know, you just have to do it.
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  Speaker 1: Dude, does she do it with him and just say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: I am having.
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  Speaker 2: Like not an external boundary, it's an internal boundary. So
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  Speaker 2: maybe you don't hang out with them all the time.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you just hang out with them when all your
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  Speaker 2: family is there. Do you know what I mean, Like
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  Speaker 2: you need to help yourself having a conversation with your
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  Speaker 2: brother about this. It's not gonna go well nope, I
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  Speaker 2: don't think. So you either need to let this and
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  Speaker 2: this girlfriend might become the fiance, might become the wife,
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  Speaker 2: and then so on and so forth. So you have
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  Speaker 2: to internally set this boundary and maybe you just hang
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  Speaker 2: out with them when you hold all your family's together.
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  Speaker 2: But it's a conversation that it's just not going to
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  Speaker 2: go well.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so and your family telling you to get over
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  Speaker 1: it makes me feel like you don't have anyone no
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  Speaker 1: on your side. So I think that I'm with Tanya.
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  Speaker 1: I think you when you have to have family get togethers,
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  Speaker 1: when you're around her, you can be cordial, but you
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  Speaker 1: don't have to like interact with her directly or as
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  Speaker 1: little as you need to. But I think maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: just that you aren't going to have the same relationship
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  Speaker 1: with him moving forward and it's just like a unfortunately
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  Speaker 1: something that happens in life.
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  Speaker 4: And maybe you will someday, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe he'll have a moment where he's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this girl, Maybe he'll take off his rose colored glasses
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  Speaker 1: and see her.
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  Speaker 2: Family dynamics are so tricky, and I don't know one
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  Speaker 2: person that doesn't have some sort of like weird family
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  Speaker 2: dynamic situation and annoying this and annoying that, a person
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  Speaker 2: that doesn't want this, A sibling that makes everything about that,
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  Speaker 2: like you know what I mean, Like everybody has, every
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  Speaker 2: family has their own stuff. So it's like these internal
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  Speaker 2: boundaries are life changing.
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  Speaker 1: You have to have them.
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  Speaker 3: You have to have them.
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  Speaker 4: Good luck or he might marry her. Either way, keep
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  Speaker 4: some different instant.
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  Speaker 3: Her then the boundaries. You're lucky you made those boundaries.
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  Speaker 1: My home is that he doesn't marry her. But my
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  Speaker 1: other hope is that you find peace even if he does.
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  Speaker 4: And when you're around her, which you will be killer
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  Speaker 4: with kindness, Yes, just be the nicest, friendliest. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 4: you look great.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so happy you got your makeup and hair done
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  Speaker 1: to meet my quota.
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  Speaker 4: That's so weird. Hey, let's take a break.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, Yeah, let's do it, because when we come back,
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  Speaker 1: we have a coworker who is caught talking. All right,
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  Speaker 1: we are back this one's juicy work things since.
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  Speaker 4: Jucy Anonymous again. Hi, I'm back a tidy market instant
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  Speaker 4: day one scrubber here. I love the podcast and I'm
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  Speaker 4: looking for my own advice. Today I walked past my
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  Speaker 4: coworker's computer while she was in the bathroom in a
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  Speaker 4: shared office space and her team's messages were open. I
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  Speaker 4: noticed a message on the screen to Inhern, my other coworker.
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  Speaker 4: I inadvertently read part of the first line of the
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  Speaker 4: message as I was walking out of the office, and
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  Speaker 4: while I cannot one hundred percent confirm without reading the rest,
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  Speaker 4: I think it was about me. I've been feeling some
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  Speaker 4: distance lightly between her and myself. Was unsure why it
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  Speaker 4: would really hurt my feelings to know these two were
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  Speaker 4: talking about me behind my back. For a background, we're
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  Speaker 4: a small office. We work in healthcare. We use dark
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  Speaker 4: humor to cope with burnout. Generally, I'm an anxious person
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  Speaker 4: and typically think the worst and think that everyone hates me.
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  Speaker 4: So what would you all do? Confess that I briefly
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  Speaker 4: read something she left open? On a computer that I
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  Speaker 4: believe could be about me and ask if we need
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  Speaker 4: to clear the air and clear anything up, or should
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  Speaker 4: I leave it alone. I appreciate your advice and your
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  Speaker 4: weekly entertainment.
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  Speaker 3: I know where I stand. Oh what it alone?
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  Speaker 1: Okay? So the reason I agree with you, Typically I
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  Speaker 1: would say I would just have a conversation because sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it's just easier to like squash it. But because she
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  Speaker 1: said I'm an anxious person and typically think the worst
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  Speaker 1: and that everyone hates me, I think you might be
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  Speaker 1: overthinking something very selware.
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  Speaker 4: Though I really appreciate the.
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  Speaker 1: Self awareness, but I think you might make something bigger
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  Speaker 1: and feel more.
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  Speaker 3: Awkward, and you're going to feel so much more awkward.
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  Speaker 1: I think if you start noticing, like if it happens again,
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  Speaker 1: or you like have confirmation that they're talking about you,
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  Speaker 1: then I think you bring it to her and say, like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: is there something going on? I just want to like
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation about it because I'm you know, I'm
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  Speaker 1: anxious and I think everyone hates me, and.
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  Speaker 2: I had this conversation before you at work. I don't
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  Speaker 2: need to say with Mark, no.
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  Speaker 4: You thought someone here hated you?
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  Speaker 2: No, No, I don't think anybody hates me, but I think,
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  Speaker 2: like I can pick up on vibes, and I was
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  Speaker 2: getting like weird vibes, and so I like pulled her
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  Speaker 2: aside and was like, hey.
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  Speaker 4: Know what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there's something going on and you were very close.
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  Speaker 4: Now it's my understanding.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, okay, yeah, but you have to be ready
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  Speaker 3: for like I don't. I don't know. It's hard to
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  Speaker 3: explain because she said what she said.
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  Speaker 1: But well for you, So why wouldn't you encourage anonymous
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  Speaker 1: to do that?
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  Speaker 3: Because she has to say that she was snooping.
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  Speaker 4: And she's not undred percent sure what right mine was.
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  Speaker 1: I've like I had to tell Haley I was snooping
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  Speaker 1: and to have a conversation about something. And I was
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  Speaker 1: like I wouldn't have been able to sleep if we
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  Speaker 1: didn't have it, and she was like.
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  Speaker 3: True, I snooped and found some things too.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like you just have to say, yeah. I
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  Speaker 1: was walking back and I took a little peak.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, Hi, this stuff better.
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  Speaker 4: No, leave it alone. You got leave it alone.
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  Speaker 1: I think I think leave it alone. If something else
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  Speaker 1: happened and you have confirmation that it's about you, you
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation about.
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  Speaker 5: It, And let me just say a warning to all
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  Speaker 5: those out there that want to be talking some smack.
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  Speaker 6: On the team's platform. Employer can seal that stuff. This
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  Speaker 6: happened to a oh text people, or that.
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  Speaker 4: Happened to me. The slack happened to remember a year
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: or two ago. Yes, a guy we work with here
• 16:10
  Speaker 4: and don't anymore called me an ass hat. Yes, yeah,
• 16:15
  Speaker 4: and he wasn't joking, like he was really frustrated with
• 16:17
  Speaker 4: something I had done.
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: Accident.
• 16:20
  Speaker 4: It was sent.
• 16:21
  Speaker 6: It was sent in a in a group that Mark
• 16:23
  Speaker 6: is not a part of, but Mike can see.
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: But I didn't go looking for it, like I did
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: a search looking for something in slack because you can
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: search keywords and slack. And that conversation came up, and
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: I was like, oh, this is weird. Oh this happened today,
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: so it's a weird coincidence. And so I, since I'm
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: now in that group because you don't have to be invited,
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: I responded to that, Hey, guys, just so you know
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: everyone can read this, so cooler. Yeah, that was weird. Yeah.
• 16:52
  Speaker 5: A friend of ours was a talking smack of her
• 16:54
  Speaker 5: email and someone the person they're talking about happened to
• 16:57
  Speaker 5: see it on the screen and went to the boss
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: and they pulled all the emails and everyone.
• 17:02
  Speaker 6: Got in a lot of trouble. You should be talk
• 17:03
  Speaker 6: about people hunt to back anyway. It's just not bad,
• 17:05
  Speaker 6: you know. Yeah, yeah, nobody ever does that. I've never
• 17:07
  Speaker 6: done it.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: I never do that. Yeah, no, no, no, But slack
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: is not good.
• 17:14
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 17:16
  Speaker 6: You know who's in charge of the slack me. I
• 17:19
  Speaker 6: can see it all.
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: You can see everything.
• 17:23
  Speaker 5: I'm just I'm just saying, if you want to talk
• 17:25
  Speaker 5: to some maac, you should do it in person or
• 17:26
  Speaker 5: on your personal phone.
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: I don't I can't see. I don't look at these things.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: But this is a mouth is the whitest I've ever
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: seen it right now.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: I mean I'm not talking about but I've said some
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: very intimate things on Slack.
• 17:38
  Speaker 6: Yeah, and this is a like work provided platform.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Very intimate, very intimate. Who Sierra Sam intimate?
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: You're you're an open book.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: So I mean true in your dropbox nudes have been Yeah,
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I'm not I'm not using Slack anymore.
• 18:01
  Speaker 4: Classic moment Also anonymous high ladies. Both of you were
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: in such happy relationships and you seem to have such
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: healthy routines. I want to know what major steps you
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: took to get there. I'm twenty five and feeling pretty
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: lonely these days. My deepest friendships are from college in
• 18:14
  Speaker 4: high school, which is great in some ways, but in
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: other ways, I just feel like I have none close
• 18:17
  Speaker 4: to me who sees me as the person I am
• 18:19
  Speaker 4: today rather than my high school self. Was there ever
• 18:22
  Speaker 4: a time you felt really alone, like after a breakup
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: or moving to a new place, and what did you
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: do to get out of that rut and find your people?
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: Thank you?
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: Twenty five's tough. I found twenty five to be.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Tough quarter life crisis and less about.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: That, but like it's an age where for me, all
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: of my friends from high school and college were getting
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: married and like having kids or had just gotten married
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: and having kids, and I was so far from that
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: that I would like I would fly out for baby showers,
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: I'd fly out for bridle things, bridle this, bridle that,
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: and I would fly home alone back to LA and
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: I was like very sad about it.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: I remember the Yeah, like I'd be really really like
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: sad about it.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: And I think because I so badly wanted that for
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: my life, you know what I mean, Like I wanted
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: to find my partner, but it just wasn't happening for
• 19:12
  Speaker 2: me for some reason, which is why Like now that
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: I'm here, it's like even more special. But but I
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: remember in that time being like really.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Sad, so weird. I remember why I'm like not sad.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: I remember coming back from going to a shower or something,
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: and You're like, I'm feeling so sad right now. Like
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm not in the same I'm
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: not in the place that I thought I would be
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: at this age. Like I like vividly remember a conversation
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: with you about that. Yeah, And I think it is
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: a weird time your mid twenties. You're like kind of
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: trying to figure out your career. Like you're still kind
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: of out of like the college age. You're trying to
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: You're you're wanting to feel established, but you're still so young. Yeah,
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: you're feeling like you should, especially depending on where you're
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: from in the country specifically, there's like this cultural where
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: I was from, everyone was like getting married or engaged
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: fresh out of college and then having kids and it
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: was kind of like whoa.
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: And like here's the thing, what I realized is like
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: there's pros and cons to literally everything in life. There's
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: pros to getting married young and having kids young. There's
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: cons to getting married young and having kids young. There's
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: pros to getting married later in life. There's you know
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: what I mean, Like, there's pros and cons to both sides.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: And I just feel like you don't see that at
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: twenty five, you know what I mean? You just see
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: the cons of the path that you're on for some reason, you.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Know what I mean.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: That's the wisdom that comes with age, as cliche as
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: that is, and I try to impart that to my daughters,
• 20:46
  Speaker 4: that everything is going to work out exactly the way
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: it's supposed to work out. And then that happened for you, Yeah,
• 20:51
  Speaker 4: and that happened for you, It happened for all of us.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: But we've all had those moments, where is it going
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: to happen for me? What's going to happen to me?
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: It's all going to work out just fine. It may
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: not be what you plan, not it being right, but
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: when you get into your fifties and sixties, you realize,
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: you know, that all worked out just fine.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Because then I have people who were like in
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: their forties who were like, I wish I would have
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: gotten married in my twenties because I would not have
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: married this person.
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's like it's just you just there's.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Good and bad in everything, and I just feel like
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: twenty five is a yeah, tough age.
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: Twenty five was the year I went on The Bachelor,
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: and it was like such a time of my life
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: while I was like very much like why not. And
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: it's so funny because I remember being younger and thinking
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: like by twenty five, I'll be married with two kids,
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: and next thing I knew, I'm going on a reality
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: show like trying to get validated by a rose.
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: It was like I couldn't have thought of a different
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: way that my life would go. And then I went
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: on and the reason that I was able to meet
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Haley is because I went on the show. Yeah, and
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: I met you know, I met people that led me
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: to Haley. And it's like sometimes what Mark said is
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: so true, Like everything that is supposed to happen is
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: going to happen because that's how life works.
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: Everything that's meant for you will find you. Yes, and
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: also your dreams change, Like if you could talk to
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: teenage Becca right now, she would say to you, well,
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: am I married? Do I have to cant? And you'd
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: say absolutely not. And they'd be like, oh no, you'd say, no,
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: you don't get here. I would be the case. Everything
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: changes as you know, I try to you know, my
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: kids have big dreams. Are teenagers, right, They have big dreams,
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, all your dreams are not going to
• 22:25
  Speaker 4: come true. But that's because dreams changed throughout the years
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: and that's okay, and that's how it should be and
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: that's a beautiful thing. Yeah.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Anyway, but what she was saying also she's feeling like
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: really alone, like she doesn't have friends.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: I feel like, no, we have. I think we have.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: But I feel like also finding friends that are in
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: similar seasons of life too, is like really important, because
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: I like, I really nourished new friendships that I met,
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: you know, later on in life, but that that that
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: really became Those were my pivotal years, you know what
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: I mean. And so I think finding people in the
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: same season of life is also really important too.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like finding groups and like going to like places
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: where you can find a community that people have the
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: same interest because you are in that phase of life
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: where there's that two roads and if you're you want
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: to find people who are on the same road as
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you because you getting to experience life with friends and
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: experiences is like the best thing ever. I am so
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: obsessed with Haley and I love our relationship and being
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: in a relationship with her. And I also had such
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: a great time before I met Haley because I was
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: I had relationships outside of a romantic relationship that were
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: so meaningful. So I think finding those those people is
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: crucial for you right now. Yeah, to make an effort
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: to do.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: That, definitely, But don't take Beca because she's mine.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm I'm tied up. I got a lot, I
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: got a lot, a lot of people to please support.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: Well, we've got some lighter ones with should we take
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: a break? Absolutely?
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: All right, we are back with some hard hitting finale.
• 24:23
  Speaker 4: I like these final ones. These are my favorite ones
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: in the Dear Bonias. It's the last question is Emily
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: E M M A L E E. By the way,
• 24:31
  Speaker 4: Emily a lot of letters. Can the girls please do
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: another truth or drinks?
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: So?
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: And can we please ask Tanya if she has actually
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: started washing her feet in the shower since Robbie asked
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: her to, I have to know this debate has always
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: made me laugh so hard. Love you all more than
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: I can put into words. You've all been so kind
• 24:48
  Speaker 4: when I've met you in this podcast has brought me
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: joyce since day one. Emily, that's lovely. Well, Tanya, you
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: wash my feet.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: But it's so funny actually, So we literally just had
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: this conversation over New Year as I asked, like our
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: friend group, I go, do you guys, how many showers
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: do you take a day?
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: Because I was convinced everybody takes two? Yeah, most people
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: take one.
• 25:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, most people take one.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think most people take one. The crucial thing
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: is that you take the night shower.
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: No no, no, no no no, it's morning.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Shower for people, so they'd get dirty with out door
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: they have outside air on them.
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: Outside air in their beds.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: Yes, I did an informal poll, and I actually maybe
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: would like the scrubbers to.
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: Chime in on this. Are you a morning shower a
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: night shower?
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: Because I too thought, okay, if you're only taking one,
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: you're defa taking the night Oh no, no, no, no,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: it's the morning. Because you can't go around people not
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: having shower, but you can get into your bed like
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: who cares?
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: I know, But.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: Anyways, I get in the shower, I wash my hot spots,
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: my arm pits, my vagina, my butt, and my feet spot.
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: I don't think I like hot spots, but basically do
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: is you added feed to your list of hot spots?
• 26:02
  Speaker 4: And when you do what you do one at a time,
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: like you're standing and you lift one up or is
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: there a sitting or is there a crouching or a
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: lead with the feet.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: That's why it's so annoying because you do one at
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: a time. I put one up on the thing, I
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: wash it.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: What is the thing? It's like a little little ben.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't say it's a bench, but it's like a
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: little indent where like the shampoos go can't really.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: So it's low because our shampoo is like almost did
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: eye like, yeah.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: No, no, it's it's lower. It's lower.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: But I wouldn't say you can't sit on it. It's
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: not like a bench, but it's just a little indent.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: I put my foot there. I wash it with in
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: between my toes.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: Like that in between your toes with just your hands
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: or right hands, no loof and no spote, No, that's
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: another conversation.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: And then I washed the other one and then out
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: quick two minutes.
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: So legs go unwashed, unwashed, back, unwashed, unwashed belly, unwashed ears.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: Sometimes when I wash my hair, I'll wash my hair,
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: so maybe like two or three times a week.
• 27:00
  Speaker 4: Facial washing is a separate thing.
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: Every day, every day, morning and night. The face gets yeah, yeah, but.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: No, I'm just listening learning.
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: I find this all fashioned.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Really, I wash every inch of my body two times
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: a day, once a day. I washed my face every
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: single Well, it depends on if I'm.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: See how the story changes.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: What I don't what today I try today? No, No,
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: I wash my face. I washed my face when I
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: wake up, Okay, And and then like if I'm if
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: I'm going somewhere where I'm like getting dressed up, like
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: I'll shower like today, I shower like body shower, not
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: hair right right right, and then tonight I'll shower right.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: But I wish everything when I shower. Washing my hair
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: feels excessive, probably not great. My skin's very drying.
• 27:50
  Speaker 4: Arms, back, How do you get the back?
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: I will so I do this, and I do this, so.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: That does She's reaching off her shoulder around.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: So do you want to hear my whole? Okay? Yeah,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: So when I first get in the shower or the bath,
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: I do my back first, my upper back and behind
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: my ears, my neck that. Yeah, and I use my
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: like I have face washed that I use for that
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: because I want that all to be like clean and
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: like like use the same stuff on my face behind
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: my ears, and then I do the rest of my
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: body all the way down behind your ears and then
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: my face.
• 28:31
  Speaker 4: So top to your top to bottom. Yeah, start with
• 28:34
  Speaker 4: the ears, and.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: You know, I start with the neck and back and
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: then down and then do my face, but you work.
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: Your way down, yes, okay. And you do wash your
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: feet specifically, yes, yes, bottoms and tops between the toes. Yes,
• 28:47
  Speaker 4: I see any kind of lufah sponge or anything.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: I alternate lufah. But like after loofah gets to a
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: certain place, then I don't want to use anything of
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: them my hands because it's like is this collect thing
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: like bacteria. I don't do that on my imaginal though.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: I don't use a loofa down there okay, yeah, yeah.
• 29:11
  Speaker 4: Okay, wow, I hope this clear thing.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Showers are not meant to be enjoyed. They're like mechanicals.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: It's so enjoyable. He's like, oh my god, if you
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: have if you take a if you become a bath person,
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: A bath is like the best thing in the world.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Like I could literally make dinner, do the dishes, and
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: like walk the dog while you shower.
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: I luxuriate in the shower.
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: How often do you use a towel?
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: A good question before you watch it or get a
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: new one.
• 29:43
  Speaker 6: Yeah, so.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I would say I use it. I would say two
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: to three times.
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: Well, if I'm counting both my showers, so that would
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: be twice a day, three day, So I use it
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: six times.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so three like three days.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 30:05
  Speaker 6: So I used to be a one and done wow
• 30:07
  Speaker 6: every shower, and then I like.
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: A tissue box of towels over there.
• 30:10
  Speaker 5: And then I moved out of my parents' house to
• 30:14
  Speaker 5: pay for my those coins got to be pretty steep.
• 30:17
  Speaker 5: But now I'm doing, Uh, I do once a day,
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: one towel a day, so like I use it in
• 30:22
  Speaker 5: the morning and at night, and then I ditch that towel.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's quite impressed. Yeah, a lot of model laundry.
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: What about you mark?
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: Which part of this are we discussing the towels.
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: Really, whatever you want to share here.
• 30:35
  Speaker 4: You know what's sad. I'm not sure how often the
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: towels get washed.
• 30:38
  Speaker 6: It's man, I'm sorry. How often does one appear?
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: But it's every once in a while, it's gone, and
• 30:47
  Speaker 4: then it's back shortly thereafter. Sometimes I'll collect them and
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: bring them down. But I don't know that we have
• 30:52
  Speaker 4: a regular schedule on that. I'm not sure if it's
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: every three days, four days, I'm not I'm not sure,
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: but I don't But whatever whatever we do is right.
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: I'm fine with it.
• 31:01
  Speaker 5: Because there was a thing on the internet a few
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: years ago about how men will dry their genitals and
• 31:05
  Speaker 5: then use that on their face, like the next day
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: the same and saying the towel forgets about it.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: But I think the same till as Robbie my genitals.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: Oh I have genitals right?
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, the towel when you get out, I
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: dry my bag, dry my butt like I.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: Dry all the things. And then the next day I
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: don't remember what that is, and it was right on
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: my face.
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: That's so gross.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: I never thought of it like that. I am disgusted
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: with myself.
• 31:37
  Speaker 6: I've just been sitting there collecting.
• 31:39
  Speaker 4: You can't overthink these things because you can only do
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  Speaker 4: so much.
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  Speaker 3: I have to do it every day now. I have
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: to wash my towel every day.
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  Speaker 4: No, you don't. Life too short.
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  Speaker 1: You could have a handtel to get a lot of
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: towels and then.
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  Speaker 3: You're I'm going to do that. I feels like a lot,
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  Speaker 3: but I'm gonna have two towels now.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: No, I just feel clean enough that I don't think.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: I'm not worried about that. I'm getting all the shower.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like the cleanest.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: But like, how clean can your butt crack it?
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: I don't know about mine? I don't know. Actually, yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: let's round this out with Tammy.
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  Speaker 4: All right, Tammy says Hi Beckat on your market Eastern. First,
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: I want to start off by saying, how about you
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: guys make me laugh? I started listening to the podcast
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: from the beginning of listening to the podcast in the
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: beginning again, and every episode I'm laughing. I told my
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: mom about you guys, and she's been loving listening to
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: you as well. It's always the best listening to the
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: four of you. As I've been listening to old episodes,
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: I wanted to see if you guys could bring back
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: those fun games used to play, like Jeopardy or doing
• 32:58
  Speaker 4: prank calls to listeners were really fun. Those are probably illegal,
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  Speaker 4: but still I love you all and I can't wait
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  Speaker 4: to see our girl Tanya marry her red Star this year.
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  Speaker 4: From a Day One listener, Tammy and her.
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  Speaker 3: Mom, Tammy and Tammy's mom.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, Yeah, we should bring back those games. Those are fun.
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  Speaker 4: The Jeopardy schedule a lot of work. But if you
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: guys want games, I'll do games you don't.
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  Speaker 2: Have to do.
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  Speaker 1: We were doing them like off you were put to
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: work on those. I was we could do like one
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  Speaker 1: every you know, throwing a.
• 33:37
  Speaker 4: Quarter it's a quarter well, and the ones like Celerity
• 33:40
  Speaker 4: birthday game in the high Low game we can do
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  Speaker 4: any time you want. I'm always ready for those.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: The game I played last night is we played like
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: a second of like a Taylor Slift song to see
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: who could get fun. Taylor Banks got it.
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  Speaker 3: I imagine you guys.
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: It was the craziest thing. It'd be like a note
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  Speaker 1: and she she would just and it'd be a song.
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  Speaker 2: Yea deep cut, deep cut. Wait, can we play one
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: birthday game?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah? By the way, A game I'd like to recommend
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  Speaker 4: to you is a board game called The Chameleon. We
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: played it a lot over the holidays and it is
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: very fun.
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  Speaker 1: Of a chameleon, I mean sorry, I love a good
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  Speaker 1: board game.
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  Speaker 4: Go through where everybody in the room, you know, the
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: category is fast food restaurants, and everyone in the room,
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  Speaker 4: everyone in the circle we played with like eight people
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  Speaker 4: knows it's McDonald except for one person that's the chameleon.
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  Speaker 4: And each person gives a word that implies that they
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: know as McDonald's, like say burger, nuggets, fries, whatever, And
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: then at the end you all discuss which of you
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: was full of it because somebody's got to fake it
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: because they don't know what it is. But if the
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: other people who do know what are too obvious arches Ronald,
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  Speaker 4: it's so obvious that the chameleon is going to figure
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: it out and they're going to be able to give
• 34:52
  Speaker 4: a legit clue.
• 34:53
  Speaker 3: But who how do you pick the chameleon?
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: It's just it's it's randomly chosen. It's delt.
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  Speaker 3: Does sound funny?
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  Speaker 4: Really fun.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: We played a lot of fish Bowl over the break,
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: which was I love fish. Yeah, the bonding experience really
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  Speaker 2: is yeah.
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  Speaker 4: All right, here we go. Let's look at I messed
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  Speaker 4: it up. Let's look at today's birthdays. Today is January ninth,
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  Speaker 4: twenty twenty five. We're gonna start with Neded dough Brev,
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  Speaker 4: nined do Brev, Vampire Diaries and whatnot. Tanya, you will begin.
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: How old is Nina dough Brev today?
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  Speaker 3: She is thirty four? Becca thirty no younger older?
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: Well, it depends if we want all three of you.
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  Speaker 4: I can't. Oh, okay, so thirty four.
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  Speaker 6: Thirty eight, thirty six, she is thirty five.
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: Tanya gets it because Easton went over. That is the tiebreaker.
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: One point for Tanya. Next up, Princess Kate Middleton has
• 35:49
  Speaker 4: a birthday today. How old is she?
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  Speaker 3: She's forty three?
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: Do you know that? Or you're just gussing?
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: Well, she is forty three?
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: That one really good on the rundown.
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: How do you know that? Sean Paul, Sean Paul Gifted
• 36:03
  Speaker 4: reggaetone rapper, Sean Paul Eastern You can start with this one.
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  Speaker 4: Shut up.
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  Speaker 6: He's forty two, forty.
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  Speaker 1: Two, Tanya, fifty five, fifty five, Beca fifty one.
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  Speaker 4: Fifty one is he's fifty two now fifty one. Becca
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  Speaker 4: wins that one. How about Dave Matthews. Everybody loves Dave Matthews.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: How old is Dave Matthews? Becca, you start this one.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to say he's Dave Matthews is probably forty eight.
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: Forty eight. On Dave Matthews Easton, I'm saying he's fifty
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  Speaker 4: one fifty one, Tanya, fifty eight fifty seven.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: That's one for Tanya, right, Dave Matthews man right along.
• 36:41
  Speaker 4: We'll have some birthdays tomorrow, because that's about it for today.
• 36:44
  Speaker 4: But Renee Rap How old is Renee Wrap today? Tanya?
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  Speaker 4: Twenty four twenty four, Becca.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to say twenty six.
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: Twenty six, twenty seven, twenty seven today she turns twenty five,
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: which is a tough age we learned to Tanya gets
• 37:01
  Speaker 4: that one because she went under. She's got a nice lead,
• 37:03
  Speaker 4: and let's see if anybody can catch up. Catchup. Andrea Swift,
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  Speaker 4: that's right, the mother of Taylor Eastern Okay.
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  Speaker 6: Andrea Swift is.
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  Speaker 4: Sixty nine sixty nine, Tanya sixty five sixty five. Becca,
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  Speaker 4: she is sixty six. Another one for Tanya. My goodness,
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: she is really on it. How it's so true, holds
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  Speaker 4: Rod Stewart today tomorrow. Rod Stewart start, Yeah, that's right,
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  Speaker 4: I'll throw it out. That's okay, we can move on.
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: We're going to Saturday.
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  Speaker 6: Mary J.
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  Speaker 4: Blige, Tanya sixty sixty, fifty nine east fifty five. She
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: is fifty three four today, fifty four to the Easton
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  Speaker 4: gets that one. Very nice. I'll do a couple more
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: here you would be with your guests.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: I was like, well, she's a whit older than I'm
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: going day.
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: I'm going to Sunday. Oh, okay, Zane Malick, Zane Malick.
• 38:13
  Speaker 4: How old is here today? Former member of One Direction
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  Speaker 4: Becca thirty two thirty two is correct? Very you know,
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: so One directioners. How about Jeff Bezos, the guy who
• 38:23
  Speaker 4: owns Amazon, one of the richest men in the world.
• 38:26
  Speaker 4: How old is he today? Let's go with Easton. Jeff
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: Bezos is fifty eight, Tanya sixty five six sixty two
• 38:38
  Speaker 4: sixty one. So Becca gets that one, and let's go
• 38:42
  Speaker 4: with Sunday is a birthday for Oh, this is a
• 38:47
  Speaker 4: good one. The woman of the Hour, one of the
• 38:51
  Speaker 4: most talked about people in America over the last month,
• 38:54
  Speaker 4: Cynthia Arrivo, How old is Cynthia Arrivo. As of yesterday,
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: we're gonna start this one with Easton.
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  Speaker 6: Cynthia Rivo is thirty.
• 39:09
  Speaker 4: Three, okay, Tanya thirty five, Becca thirty four. Another one
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: for Tanya thirty eight today. Wow, so we just did
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: ten celebrities. Tony, you got six, Becca three Easton one
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: way to go town. Very nice. It's a celebrity birthday game.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: You're the nine baby, You're ready.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: You're ready for that.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: Well, on that note, a Tania victory to start the
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: year with the year of the nine.
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: Right, that's the.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: End of the episode.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: Gotta go.
• 39:41
  Speaker 4: I'm afraid.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: So it's afraid.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: So what I'm saying now to continued, we love you
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  Speaker 3: some enjoying ch