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Defining Quality Men Vs Baddies · Boss at Heart : From Pain to Purpose

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SPEAKER_02: What's up with it?
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SPEAKER_02: It's your girl Camgo Crazy, representing Boss at Heart.
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SPEAKER_02: And y'all already know we got another collaboration in the building with yours truly.
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SPEAKER_07: Yes, yes, Point Makers Podcast with the Davis brothers.
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SPEAKER_07: I'm Darrence.
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SPEAKER_07: Demetrius.
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SPEAKER_07: And y'all, we got a special guest, too.
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SPEAKER_07: Special guest.
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SPEAKER_03: Nice and Nicole.
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SPEAKER_07: Yes, she's back.
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SPEAKER_07: She's back.
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SPEAKER_07: Uh, you guys might have seen her on uh, well, you should have seen her if y'all are watching.
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SPEAKER_07: Hey, watching y'all better see her.
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SPEAKER_07: Hey, exactly.
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SPEAKER_07: She was on the previous podcast on the Point Makers podcast with her.
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SPEAKER_07: But we got her back for a real adult discussion today, man.
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SPEAKER_07: So tell them what we're talking about today, Cam.
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SPEAKER_02: All right, y'all.
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SPEAKER_02: Today's conversation, we will be defining quality men versus baddies, okay?
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, this should be interesting.
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SPEAKER_02: You it would, okay?
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SPEAKER_02: And look, for all of you baddies, we know y'all are attractive, but we want to know why y'all not getting commitment and for all of the quality men.
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SPEAKER_02: Is y'all rare or y'all overlooked?
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SPEAKER_02: We ready to talk about it today.
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SPEAKER_07: Let's do it.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, so let's get to it.
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SPEAKER_02: All right, y'all.
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SPEAKER_02: So the first question I had when y'all hear the word baddies, because this is new to me, what do y'all think of?
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SPEAKER_02: Like for real, when y'all hear the word baddies, where do that come from?
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SPEAKER_02: Or what do y'all think?
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SPEAKER_02: A bad bitch.
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SPEAKER_02: A bad bitch?
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SPEAKER_02: And what is a bad bitch?
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SPEAKER_07: That's supposed to be the definition, actually.
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SPEAKER_07: I mean, it's just shorty, shorty.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, bad bitch.
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SPEAKER_02: Um I thought it was Natalie Nunn, shot, shoddy, shoddy clock.
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SPEAKER_02: What is it called?
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SPEAKER_07: The what?
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SPEAKER_03: The scrappy ones.
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SPEAKER_07: Oh, well, um, I think the uh definition is like you said, a a bad bitch.
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SPEAKER_07: Um which are we talking about looks-wise or you know, well, I think that they're talking about looks.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay, so it's what I think.
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SPEAKER_02: Nothing like that.
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SPEAKER_02: So where did baddies come from though?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, did baddies come from back in the day, or did it come from now?
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SPEAKER_02: Because I keep telling y'all, I know it from TV.
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SPEAKER_07: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: Social media.
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SPEAKER_07: And um, it it came from the hip-hop culture, which you know, which we're gonna talk about.
2:04
SPEAKER_07: It's like to me, the hip hop culture is something that we um we rely on too much as a way of like to define us as black people.
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SPEAKER_07: Just fucking music.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: Um, and so now all of a sudden, remember when we always go, because you know, okay, we're older than you guys, but you guys are of the age to know that when we was growing up, music imitated life.
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SPEAKER_07: So you had guys like in WA and everybody talking about what they saw on the streets right now, life is imitating the music, which is fucked up.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that is.
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SPEAKER_02: But what do that, where did baddies come from, though?
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SPEAKER_02: That's why we because we want to get to the quality man, y'all, because we gotta get to y'all next.
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SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: But the baddies, like when I hear of a baddie, I think of somebody with fake hair.
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SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: I think of somebody with an attitude up to here.
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SPEAKER_02: I think of a baddie, shoddy, shoddy clock.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't think I ain't saying it right, Natalie, but y'all know what I'm talking about.
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SPEAKER_02: Always taking shots.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't think of a baddie as a bad female or a bad bitch.
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SPEAKER_02: I think of it as what we're seeing right now on social media, and it's leading our girls to confusion.
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SPEAKER_00: Right.
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SPEAKER_00: Um, well, what you think, bro?
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SPEAKER_00: I mean, I don't know.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm kind of confused because I don't know what the definition of a baddie is.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm thinking is it's um, you know, her profession, does she got her own money, or as they say their own bag or something like that, or she not dependent on no man to take care of her, that make her bad?
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SPEAKER_00: Because if you a baddie just by your looks, that ain't really much.
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SPEAKER_07: Mm-hmm.
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SPEAKER_07: Well, I think what you defined is what they would call a boss chick, boss bitches.
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SPEAKER_07: There you go.
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SPEAKER_07: That's difficult.
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SPEAKER_07: That ain't bad.
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SPEAKER_07: We are okay, girl.
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SPEAKER_07: Baddies ain't bosses.
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SPEAKER_07: We are.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, baddies ain't bosses.
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SPEAKER_02: No, they not.
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SPEAKER_07: Baddies is you know what baddies really are?
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SPEAKER_07: Tim.
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SPEAKER_07: Dollar grabbers.
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unknown: Mm-hmm.
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SPEAKER_02: Pretty much.
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SPEAKER_07: They listen to me sometimes.
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SPEAKER_07: They don't know where it's a little time.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: Of a stripper.
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SPEAKER_07: That ain't really baddie to me, DNA.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, because you would you a nigga ain't never had to toss dollars for a woman to sit on your lap.
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SPEAKER_00: That's not your definition of a bad one.
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SPEAKER_00: That's why I got our girls' lost.
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SPEAKER_00: I thought baddie would be more like an independent woman or something like that, you know.
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SPEAKER_07: Well, actually, bro, you probably wouldn't even use the term baddie to describe a woman anyway.
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unknown: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_05: Not for that, yeah.
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SPEAKER_05: Not baddie.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm like baddie, okay.
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SPEAKER_02: Because back in the day, a woman that was fine or something, she wouldn't let you come up to her and say she's baddie, huh?
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SPEAKER_02: Like back in the day, a woman that was fine or something, she wouldn't let you.
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SPEAKER_02: She'd be like, what?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, I don't, what would you say to a woman back in the day before baddie even?
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SPEAKER_02: You're beautiful.
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SPEAKER_02: That's you feel me, you find attractive.
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SPEAKER_07: Fine as hell, or something like that.
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SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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SPEAKER_00: But they do got like something like a baddie culture, though, right?
4:41
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, and that's what I'm saying.
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SPEAKER_07: It's the, and don't get me wrong, um, because what I'm about to say probably gonna rub a lot of people the wrong way.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay.
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SPEAKER_07: But it's the whole Cardi B.
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SPEAKER_07: So that's bad and a stallion.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, that's baddies.
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SPEAKER_02: For sure, Natalie Nunn.
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SPEAKER_02: Girl, I like you, Natalie, but you the one who got all these girls fighting.
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SPEAKER_02: It was Natalie Nunn from the Bad Girls.
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SPEAKER_02: Is that the girl with the big chin?
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SPEAKER_02: The long chin.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's like as long as the mic, you feel me?
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah, I know you're talking about it.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, she's from Sacramento, she's from California.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, she's from out here.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, but so okay, so we're touching a little bases with the little baddie.
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SPEAKER_02: So we kind of get you all the little girls that's cute and attractive, but really worth nothing too much.
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SPEAKER_02: Not really worth nothing, but I don't have nothing.
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SPEAKER_02: Because a boss chick and a baddie is two different women, so y'all gotta know the difference.
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SPEAKER_06: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: So now, what about the quality men?
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SPEAKER_02: What is a quality man?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, how do we define a- Well, don't ask y'all that.
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SPEAKER_07: What's y'all define a quality man?
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SPEAKER_03: I would say a quality man has values, like um, he has upkeep, he's well groomed, takes care of himself, cares about his family, cares about women in general, just has respect for people, good relationships, friendships, and probably has high values about what they eat, you know, if they smoking, drinking.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: I love that girl.
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SPEAKER_07: I would have to agree.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: You know, um, what about you, Kim?
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SPEAKER_07: What would you say?
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SPEAKER_02: Um, I feel like a quality man for sure is his quality.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, it's his character, how he handles himself, um, for sure, how he takes care of his family.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm starting to see that.
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SPEAKER_02: Like somebody who actually takes pride in taking care of their family and protecting their family and letting it be known if you touch this, you will get hurt.
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SPEAKER_02: I love that.
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SPEAKER_02: And then another, another thing that I'm starting to realize because I'm getting older and dating, a man, to me, a quality man, is somebody that can pick up on our emotions.
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SPEAKER_02: Like a woman's emotions are emotionally intelligent.
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SPEAKER_02: You get what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_02: Like, so if they see us and we kind of, you know how we get like, ah, he can actually look at that and be like, you know what, she just needs to calm down.
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SPEAKER_02: He's not gonna come and jump and argue with me.
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SPEAKER_00: He's actually gonna be intelligent enough to be like, that's a valid point, though, because us as men, we're not supposed to argue with our women.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, you know, we look down on us in our circle as you arguing with your woman, that ain't something you're supposed to do.
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SPEAKER_00: So if I'm sitting there battling with her, that ain't somebody I need to be with, you know.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's gonna make me look small as a man.
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SPEAKER_00: If I'm sitting up here, we chit-chatting back and forth, pingbogging.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, we don't do that in our circle.
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SPEAKER_00: I'm hella serious, bro.
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SPEAKER_07: Serious, but then again, ladies, shit.
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SPEAKER_07: Y'all gotta let the man lead.
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SPEAKER_07: Like, you know, we done talked about, I mean, we done talked about this with you, Nai, and you a few times, can't you?
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SPEAKER_07: You already know.
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SPEAKER_07: Don't pick a man that you don't want to lead you.
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SPEAKER_07: And I don't mean like run you like he's your boss, but in the relationship, you chose this man to be the man.
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SPEAKER_07: If he ain't gonna be the man, why is you even laying up with him?
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SPEAKER_07: Very true.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
7:43
SPEAKER_02: If he can't leave.
7:44
SPEAKER_02: If you can't leave, you can't.
7:45
SPEAKER_02: Sometimes we learn from experience, y'all.
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SPEAKER_02: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, because sometimes we don't got them daddies and them brothers and them uncles and them papaws telling us they would like I tell y'all time and time again, I be real.
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SPEAKER_02: I had to learn through experience what my worth was.
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SPEAKER_02: I really did.
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SPEAKER_02: I didn't even know what a quality man was until it took me to get through it to a man that was unqualified.
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SPEAKER_07: Right.
8:06
SPEAKER_02: And then I started to see, like, oh, this ain't really what I like or what I want or want to be led by.
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SPEAKER_07: Right.
8:11
SPEAKER_07: Right.
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SPEAKER_07: And and and that's that is the truth, you know, because for a lot of women, like, you know, like I told y'all before, I have four daughters, and thank God I've always been there for them.
8:21
SPEAKER_07: Uh-huh.
8:22
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: To instruct them, and if I ever even see them walking into a danger zone, I will, you know, give them my opinion of it.
8:29
SPEAKER_07: They had them bump their heads too, and had to learn, you know, of thank God they don't repeat the same mistakes twice.
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SPEAKER_07: That's one thing I gotta give my daughters, thank God.
8:37
SPEAKER_07: They learn, you know, they learn, yeah, they learn and then like, and you know, they do compare men to me.
8:43
SPEAKER_07: So it's like, uh, you know, like I dad, my uncle wouldn't move like that.
8:48
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
8:49
SPEAKER_07: You know?
8:50
SPEAKER_07: And so that's when if you show them that, then you done.
8:54
SPEAKER_07: They ain't fucking with you.
8:55
SPEAKER_02: And shout out to y'all for being there, for being present.
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SPEAKER_02: That's a quality man, okay?
8:59
SPEAKER_02: Being there, being present.
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SPEAKER_00: I do definitely count.
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SPEAKER_00: How you represent with your children, then I was told that a man that got love for his mother, that's a lot of quality.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, then it's like as a man, you're gonna want to do what's right all the time.
9:12
SPEAKER_00: Like, even if I'm mad, I'm still gonna do what I gotta do as a man because you know that's the right thing to do.
9:17
SPEAKER_00: You know, I might not talk to you, I might not want to say nothing to you, but I'm gonna still do what I gotta do as a man.
9:22
SPEAKER_00: Right.
9:22
SPEAKER_00: That's what men do.
9:23
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, men with daughters and how they love their mom.
9:27
SPEAKER_03: It shows you like what kind of value.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, how you take care of your kids.
9:31
SPEAKER_00: Well, I only got one daughter, but I got two sons.
9:34
SPEAKER_00: And you got a lot of nieces that's like your daughters.
9:36
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely.
9:39
SPEAKER_07: Okay, you know, and but to spend time with them.
9:42
SPEAKER_07: But that's the mistake, is that um a lot of men uh-huh think a quality man means you got a few dollars.
9:49
SPEAKER_07: That's what it is, man.
9:50
SPEAKER_00: You can have a few dollars on a bus fair.
9:52
SPEAKER_00: But that don't make you quality though.
9:54
SPEAKER_03: It don't.
9:54
SPEAKER_07: It don't.
9:55
SPEAKER_03: But a lot of us women like to control us because we think that's it, don't make you solid, like all the things that really can't.
10:01
SPEAKER_07: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: We go for the money though, y'all.
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SPEAKER_02: We be going for the money, and that's what we be fucking up at.
10:06
SPEAKER_07: But you know, um, it it's it's a learned behavior.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay.
10:10
SPEAKER_07: You know what I mean?
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SPEAKER_07: Um, you grow up, you got older cousins, sisters, aunts, or whatever, right?
10:16
SPEAKER_07: And uh they pulling up niggas with the fly cars or whatever, right?
10:20
SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: A little girl.
10:22
SPEAKER_07: Of course, you're impressed by it.
10:23
SPEAKER_07: Exactly.
10:24
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: You see your auntie or your big sister come in, she got a few dollars and a new ring and a chain on or something.
10:30
SPEAKER_07: You know, in the ghetto, I mean, those are the same things that drew us as men to the dope game, is what draw y'all to the drug dealers.
10:38
SPEAKER_03: Yes.
10:39
SPEAKER_03: But even when you see your uncles in that same fashion and your father, they drug dealers, they got money, they fit it, like that's what you're attracted to because that's what you've grown up around.
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SPEAKER_02: We accustomed to that.
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SPEAKER_02: And that's why I get upset, because it's like people will bash people for being in the hood, but it's like, this is what we're used to.
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SPEAKER_02: This is what I see.
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SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
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SPEAKER_02: I don't know until I go off to college or to another job force or somewhere to see there's something different if I don't have nobody teaching me that.
11:10
SPEAKER_03: Right.
11:10
SPEAKER_03: That's true.
11:11
SPEAKER_03: But that's still gonna be your familiar to come back to feel at home.
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SPEAKER_02: Until you get old enough and you be like, this ain't it.
11:18
SPEAKER_02: I don't wanna cry.
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SPEAKER_02: Ain't nobody gonna control me with no money.
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SPEAKER_02: You feel me?
11:23
SPEAKER_02: All of that.
11:23
SPEAKER_00: That's I know a lot of dudes that control females with their dodo.
11:27
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
11:27
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's kind of easy for them to do that though.
11:29
SPEAKER_00: But I don't know, I look at it like them dudes, they got a lot of little self-esteem and and like Doug he said, they kind of like thorough ugly.
11:36
SPEAKER_00: They had no women when they was younger, so now they're trying to get some get back because they got a few dollars of a bus for they go use that, you know, monopolize their situation.
11:45
SPEAKER_00: That is crazy.
11:46
SPEAKER_03: I've always been the breadwinner in my situation, so I've never experienced that.
11:52
SPEAKER_03: That's a good thing.
11:53
SPEAKER_03: I feel like it's scary to imagine if you allow a man to lead and then you end up in a fucked up situation, and now you just, you know, like down.
12:05
SPEAKER_03: And so you have to like find balance in between trying to be feminine, but still gotta handle your business and be masculine.
12:12
SPEAKER_03: Make sure you're straight.
12:13
SPEAKER_02: And then y'all say y'all don't be attracted to the masculine women.
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SPEAKER_02: Do y'all think baddie is masculine women?
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SPEAKER_07: Masculine to me.
12:20
SPEAKER_07: What's the what's masculine?
12:20
SPEAKER_07: That's the masculine women that live race.
12:23
SPEAKER_02: Because I don't know, because you know, some dudes that they be going on your podcast that I be seeing this, oh, don't nobody want a masculine woman.
12:29
SPEAKER_02: And like she said, we gotta handle our business.
12:31
SPEAKER_02: It's not that I want to be masculine.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, it's just us handling business, right?
12:36
SPEAKER_07: No, masculine is when you really think you a nigga.
12:38
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, that's what's masculine when you think you can stand toe to toe with me or any other nigga out in the streets instead of standing in your lane as a woman.
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SPEAKER_07: Your lane as a woman may require you to be the breadwinner, you to be the the the caregiver.
12:52
SPEAKER_07: That may be your lane as a woman.
12:54
SPEAKER_07: That's not masculine.
12:55
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, that's just that's just life.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay, you know what I'm saying?
12:58
SPEAKER_07: Masculine is like, you know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: Like you, you where you're not being feminine.
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SPEAKER_07: Not not how you handle your BC, and and this is what I want to say to y'all, right?
13:07
SPEAKER_07: I mean, pretty, I'm pretty sure y'all know this by now, but you can't let no nigga punk you into being what he wants you to be.
13:13
SPEAKER_07: Man, yeah, you know what I'm saying?
13:14
SPEAKER_07: Really?
13:15
SPEAKER_07: I mean, I mean, unless he wants you to be something that's greater than what you are presently on.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_03: Unless they're trying to dumb you down, right?
13:23
SPEAKER_07: Trying to dumb you to see that that's that's where a lot of women fuck up.
13:27
SPEAKER_07: Y'all fuck with them niggas that's really intimidating.
13:30
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
13:30
SPEAKER_07: So they they try you ain't shit.
13:34
SPEAKER_07: And so now, you know, you done heard this shit for two years with the same nigga, kind of start to believe.
13:39
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, he'll break you mentally.
13:40
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, start hitting them in their subconscious.
13:42
SPEAKER_07: Right, right.
13:43
SPEAKER_07: Mental abuse shit.
13:45
SPEAKER_07: So now you now you double up that because see, a lot of niggas, right?
13:50
SPEAKER_07: They they need to control women not by being a man.
13:55
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
13:55
SPEAKER_07: See, now, like us, I'm gonna show you my my my masculinity, how I move as a man.
14:01
SPEAKER_07: Now, if you and I know ain't no bitch in me at all.
14:04
SPEAKER_05: Uh-huh.
14:05
SPEAKER_07: I ain't never ducked a fight, I ain't never ducked the war, I always took care of my kids, all that shit.
14:11
SPEAKER_07: So I ain't never did no bitch ass shit in my life at all because we were raised to be men.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: That's what we were raised to be.
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SPEAKER_07: So if you can't accept our masculinity, our masculinity as men, not trying to boss you around and none of that, but you gotta understand when you deal with a real man of value, there's rules that come with that shit.
14:33
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, and a woman has a place.
14:35
SPEAKER_07: Yes.
14:36
SPEAKER_07: And and you should feel comfortable like this man is about business.
14:40
SPEAKER_07: I can be my and still be the breadwinner or or not, but you still know when I come in this door to my dude, I'm his woman.
14:50
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
14:51
SPEAKER_02: But see, baddies, I don't think they know that.
14:52
SPEAKER_02: No.
14:53
SPEAKER_02: I don't think baddies get that.
14:54
SPEAKER_02: Now, a boss chick, a woman with substance, she's gonna let that.
14:59
SPEAKER_02: She sees you, she like, I know not to play with this man, he's leading, let me follow.
15:03
SPEAKER_06: Right.
15:03
SPEAKER_02: But y'all baddies, are y'all attracted or yeah.
15:08
SPEAKER_02: I'm like, are y'all the ones that can get with the qualified men?
15:11
SPEAKER_02: Because that's what the ones, you know, that's what we out here doing.
15:14
SPEAKER_02: Right, right.
15:14
SPEAKER_02: You get what I'm saying?
15:15
SPEAKER_02: They be chasing the baddies instead of real women that just want to sit back and be led.
15:19
SPEAKER_02: They want the women with the fake hair and the attitude talking all bad and crazy.
15:25
SPEAKER_07: But then, you know, you gotta understand the type of dudes that are attracted to the baddies.
15:31
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, very true.
15:32
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you gotta understand that, right?
15:35
SPEAKER_07: Ain't no nigga that's really about his business.
15:37
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
15:38
SPEAKER_02: Hey, Tim.
15:40
SPEAKER_07: Hey, hey, hey, let me just fill in.
15:42
SPEAKER_02: I know, right?
15:43
SPEAKER_07: But yeah, you know, so like I was saying, though, ain't no dude that's really by this business.
15:48
SPEAKER_07: Won't even waste time with a with a facetious female like that.
15:51
SPEAKER_07: Very true.
15:52
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
15:52
SPEAKER_07: She can be proud, don't get me wrong.
15:54
SPEAKER_07: I love a woman that takes pride in her beauty and all that.
15:58
SPEAKER_07: I understand y'all are gonna take an hour later than I do to get ready.
16:03
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
16:04
SPEAKER_07: I understand that.
16:04
SPEAKER_07: That's why I'm in and out the shower 15 minutes.
16:06
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, with my shit laid out.
16:08
SPEAKER_07: I'm gonna go.
16:08
SPEAKER_07: I'm gonna be downstairs waiting for the house.
16:09
SPEAKER_06: Yeah, we're gonna be downstairs tasting smoking and shit, waiting on y'all to get ready to come down.
16:13
SPEAKER_07: We know that, right?
16:15
SPEAKER_07: But I respect that and I appreciate that because you on my arm, you in my passenger seat.
16:20
SPEAKER_07: That's how you look.
16:21
SPEAKER_07: And you want to represent me as well as yourself.
16:23
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, but you want to represent me to the fullest.
16:26
SPEAKER_07: But it's that attitude that's fucked up because a lot of these dudes that are attracted to the so-called baddies, niggas is tricks.
16:34
SPEAKER_07: They are so really basically what this shit is going back to is pimping and hoing and tricking.
16:38
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
16:39
SPEAKER_07: The baddies is the hoes, the niggas is the tricks, and you know what I'm saying, the system pimping them both.
16:44
SPEAKER_02: Seriously.
16:45
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, seriously, pretty much.
16:47
SPEAKER_07: You know?
16:48
SPEAKER_02: So what about the men, y'all?
16:49
SPEAKER_02: Is the good men overlooked or is just rare?
16:53
SPEAKER_07: Like good men.
16:54
SPEAKER_07: I wouldn't say good men are overlooked.
16:56
SPEAKER_02: Not in well, maybe sometimes.
16:59
SPEAKER_03: Sometimes sometimes they can be looked at as a soda or a square or you know, you know what I mean.
17:05
SPEAKER_07: So yeah, so what would make you view?
17:07
SPEAKER_07: What would make you view a dude as being a sucker?
17:10
SPEAKER_03: I mean, if he's corny, like you know.
17:13
SPEAKER_07: Okay, a cornball.
17:18
SPEAKER_07: Oh, we finna get into it then.
17:20
SPEAKER_07: Uh uh.
17:23
SPEAKER_07: Tell them answer that question.
17:25
SPEAKER_04: No, not answering that question.
17:28
SPEAKER_04: Okay, we're gonna cornball.
17:29
SPEAKER_04: No, it's okay.
17:30
unknown: I'm sorry.
17:31
SPEAKER_04: I'm trying to get my mind here.
17:32
SPEAKER_04: Hi, everybody.
17:33
SPEAKER_04: I apologize.
17:35
SPEAKER_04: My good friend passed.
17:37
SPEAKER_04: I'm sorry, J Mola, who got killed on first Friday at the club.
17:42
SPEAKER_04: So I do apologize for being late, I'm sorry.
17:44
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, no, we said our condolences but uh cornball intro, right?
17:48
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, cornball intro.
17:50
SPEAKER_04: So you asked, what is the cornball?
17:51
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, yeah.
17:52
SPEAKER_02: Or quality man overlooked.
17:56
SPEAKER_04: So is quality man rare or overlooked?
17:58
SPEAKER_04: Quality man is very much so overlooked because they fall into the category of high value man.
18:04
SPEAKER_04: They're not a high value man yet, but they're overlooked because they have boundaries and they have principles, and they so-called boring.
18:13
SPEAKER_04: A quality man has a nine to five job, he's tired when he comes home.
18:17
SPEAKER_04: He don't have time for your shenanigans in this period.
18:21
SPEAKER_04: So they're pretty much laid back.
18:24
SPEAKER_04: Um they pretty much put it in.
18:27
SPEAKER_04: And they want a family.
18:29
SPEAKER_04: Like they consider cornballs, but they really not.
18:32
SPEAKER_04: And they're just overlooked by women that have these high standards for men and want this wild party life and want their life to be furnished.
18:44
SPEAKER_04: And so if you think like that, you're not gonna want a man with a nine to five.
18:49
SPEAKER_04: You're not gonna want a man that's good to you that take care of your kids.
18:54
SPEAKER_04: Because in actuality, you see that those men are overlooked and they're dogged and cheated on.
19:01
SPEAKER_02: She came with a great point of view on that.
19:04
SPEAKER_04: They're very much dogged and cheated on.
19:06
SPEAKER_04: Because if you see on especially social media today, and we love on this platform, shout out to point makers, shout out to Kevin, shout out to you, that social media.
19:16
SPEAKER_04: We always gotta go back to social media, how all the good men are coming home catching their women in bed with somebody else.
19:24
SPEAKER_04: Uh they're cheating on their man, all the women have side pieces.
19:30
SPEAKER_04: And it's true, it's just a fact.
19:32
SPEAKER_07: But um, okay, this is why I'm gonna ask like as a woman the things that she said that are being done, I don't make you feel fucked up as a woman.
19:45
SPEAKER_02: No, it does.
19:47
SPEAKER_07: I mean, personally, that doesn't diminish.
19:50
SPEAKER_03: Really, for those men that are good men, I don't feel no type.
19:53
SPEAKER_03: No, no, no.
19:54
SPEAKER_07: I mean by by by spreading yourself big.
19:56
SPEAKER_02: I don't feel no type way.
19:58
SPEAKER_02: I feel the only reason why I feel fucked up is because it's somebody that's really trying to be genuine with somebody and they really taking them for granted.
20:05
SPEAKER_03: Definitely.
20:05
SPEAKER_02: That's the only reason why.
20:06
SPEAKER_02: Because it's like it's some people that really be wanting to be in love.
20:10
SPEAKER_02: And like you say, they going home doing the boring things, but they being faithful.
20:14
SPEAKER_02: And I guess to us women, sometimes we like that's boring, it's not excitement, and we go look for excitement.
20:20
SPEAKER_02: It is boring.
20:21
SPEAKER_02: And that's why I say it's fucked up because it's some guys that do wanna, but I don't know.
20:25
SPEAKER_02: Sometimes the dudes, y'all gotta understand too, when y'all are at home and y'all doing what y'all want to do, we still want a little bit of uh uh excitement.
20:33
SPEAKER_02: Like take me out on a date.
20:35
SPEAKER_02: Like it was something.
20:36
SPEAKER_02: Like it can't just be fully just we come home every day, and I know you're tired, I'm tired, but we gotta remember why we got into this.
20:42
SPEAKER_07: Oh no, no, no.
20:43
SPEAKER_07: You you you gotta you gotta date and plan special things with your woman to keep the relationship fresh.
20:50
SPEAKER_07: And I don't even mean to keep her from cheating, but you I mean, shit, she if even if she doesn't work at home with the kids, that's a job.
20:58
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
20:58
SPEAKER_07: That's stressful.
20:59
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
21:00
SPEAKER_07: So just like we as men need a stress relief, which may be sitting at a board with our sports bar with our homies or smoking, we don't wear what with some shit, you know, you shouldn't do at a certain age.
21:11
SPEAKER_02: Or not a strip club, right?
21:12
SPEAKER_07: Oh no.
21:13
SPEAKER_02: Okay, okay.
21:15
SPEAKER_04: Can I just re-interject there?
21:17
SPEAKER_04: Uh you said, and Cam said, keep the relationship fresh and keep it open and keep it good, right?
21:22
SPEAKER_04: So you have side women like me that help you keep your relationship.
21:27
SPEAKER_04: That's why I don't feel you laughing and you know this is real.
21:31
SPEAKER_04: I'm serious, and I'ma just keep it a stack all the way.
21:34
SPEAKER_04: Relationships go dead because people don't value their partners.
21:38
SPEAKER_04: They find flaws in their partners and they listen to their girlfriends about their partners, or the guys listen to their friends about their women.
21:48
SPEAKER_04: So that's why women like me exist.
21:51
SPEAKER_04: If you have a value high value man that you can't keep up with and that you can't please even a good man or take care of them.
22:00
SPEAKER_04: That's why m women like me are raised.
22:03
SPEAKER_04: Because when if you have a woman like me as a sneaky leak or a side piece to your man, he's always gonna be happy and I'm gonna make sure of that.
22:12
SPEAKER_04: And I don't have to deal with the drama.
22:14
SPEAKER_04: You have to deal with that.
22:15
SPEAKER_04: So yeah, if you're missing key components in your relationship and you see your man outside stressed out, non-relieved, best believe it's women out there waiting for your man to come outside like that.
22:29
SPEAKER_02: Oh, yeah, please believe that.
22:31
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but what about the woman?
22:32
SPEAKER_02: Does she, after a while, get tired of being a side chick or not?
22:35
SPEAKER_04: No, why would you get tired of being a side chick?
22:38
SPEAKER_04: Side chicks are taken care of.
22:40
SPEAKER_04: I have diamond ring on my finger and then I have to do nothing to get it because I know the value of a man and I know how to please him.
22:50
SPEAKER_04: Pleasing a man doesn't always mean you have to spread yourself thin and sleep with a man.
22:55
SPEAKER_04: You can just encourage him.
22:57
SPEAKER_04: You could cook for him, you could love on him.
22:59
SPEAKER_04: You don't always have to sleep with him.
23:02
SPEAKER_04: You don't have to do that.
23:02
SPEAKER_04: I was raised by a pimp, so I know what men desire and what they want.
23:07
SPEAKER_04: And best believe I will look into the camera.
23:10
SPEAKER_04: If you are lacking and you have a man that loves you and is good to you, you better watch out.
23:16
SPEAKER_04: Because there's a woman out there ready.
23:20
SPEAKER_02: No, I mean, this is the honest truth.
23:23
SPEAKER_02: I mean, I don't know.
23:25
SPEAKER_02: Okay, the truth in y'all know it's the truth.
23:27
SPEAKER_02: But would y'all get married?
23:29
SPEAKER_02: Okay, so would you consider yourself a baddie?
23:31
SPEAKER_02: Hell no, I'm a boss.
23:32
SPEAKER_02: Okay, a boss.
23:34
SPEAKER_02: Okay, that's what we were trying to figure out.
23:36
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely not.
23:37
SPEAKER_04: Baddies are uh it's another word for bums.
23:41
SPEAKER_04: But let me say this.
23:42
SPEAKER_04: I don't wanna, I don't, I'm building a brand and I don't want y'all ladies to get mad.
23:48
SPEAKER_04: But baddies is not a job.
23:52
SPEAKER_04: And women have made it a job to be a baddie, and they will tell you, well, what do you do?
23:57
SPEAKER_04: I'm a baddie, which is fine.
23:59
SPEAKER_04: Your looks, your personalities, but can you pray?
24:02
SPEAKER_04: Can you cook?
24:04
SPEAKER_04: Do you take care of your man?
24:06
SPEAKER_04: What are you doing?
24:09
SPEAKER_04: That's all they can do is fight.
24:11
SPEAKER_07: They can't really do that.
24:12
SPEAKER_07: All they're doing is yanking each other's weeds out.
24:14
SPEAKER_01: So baddie is another word for a rat.
24:19
SPEAKER_07: Yes.
24:19
SPEAKER_07: I've seen that on Instagram.
24:20
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, no, no.
24:21
SPEAKER_07: So, so before you got here, we asked these two young ladies.
24:26
SPEAKER_07: Now we're gonna ask you.
24:27
SPEAKER_07: Right.
24:28
SPEAKER_07: What would you really describe a high value man to be?
24:31
SPEAKER_07: Is the finances involved or is it his character?
24:34
SPEAKER_04: Again, you have to remember I was raised by a pimp, so I have a different value.
24:40
SPEAKER_04: For society, they put a bracket on high value men.
24:44
SPEAKER_06: Not a society, you me.
24:46
SPEAKER_04: I think a high value man is a man that takes care of his family.
24:51
SPEAKER_04: If he has a wife, loves on his wife.
24:54
SPEAKER_04: I don't care about the money bracket.
24:56
SPEAKER_04: With a high value man, it's a$10,000 a month money bracket.
25:00
SPEAKER_04: You can be a dope dealer and be a high value man.
25:03
SPEAKER_04: You can be a scammer and be a high value man.
25:06
SPEAKER_04: It's just that's what it is.
25:07
SPEAKER_04: It all depends on what category.
25:09
SPEAKER_04: But in high value men, they they run around the same circle.
25:13
SPEAKER_04: You don't see high value men with men that are broke and homeless and don't have it together.
25:19
SPEAKER_04: You just don't.
25:21
SPEAKER_04: You see high value men with a plan, they look good, they smell good.
25:26
SPEAKER_04: And I'm not necessarily has to say they have to have a six-figure, but when I come in here, I'm around some high-value men.
25:33
SPEAKER_04: You got my man's over here on the camera that take care of his family.
25:37
SPEAKER_04: He didn't cancel out a couple of times because his wifey needed to be taken care of.
25:41
SPEAKER_04: That's high value to me.
25:43
SPEAKER_04: Right.
25:43
SPEAKER_04: And you guys come in here, like I said last time, smelling good, looking good, that's high value.
25:48
SPEAKER_04: So this bullshit that social media came up with, rest in peace, Kevin.
25:56
SPEAKER_04: Oh my God.
25:56
SPEAKER_04: Um Kevin Samuels?
25:58
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, Kevin Samuels.
25:59
SPEAKER_04: Rest in peace, Kevin Samuels, but he just put um all men in a bracket of high value men, and I don't I don't believe that.
26:08
SPEAKER_07: See, now what you saying, I'm I'm feeling that because that's the way, that's basically what we said too earlier.
26:14
SPEAKER_07: And when you see the show when the playback, you'll see that.
26:16
SPEAKER_07: Absolutely.
26:17
SPEAKER_07: But um, my thing is like to me, the the false persona of a of a high value man that's been put out there by people like Kevin Sanders, he's a bunch of niggas who got emotional scars from dealing with women.
26:30
SPEAKER_07: So you got your bag together, now you shitting on it.
26:32
SPEAKER_07: That's the way I see it.
26:33
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, it was men that was rejected by women.
26:36
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, beautiful women that could not execute a beautiful woman that's for him.
26:42
SPEAKER_04: So, like you said, now his bag, now he kept it for revenge.
26:46
SPEAKER_07: Because one thing, me and my brother, one of our favorite slogans when we was youngsters, we was in the street.
26:52
SPEAKER_07: Our game is sharper when we broke.
26:54
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
26:54
SPEAKER_00: It is.
26:55
SPEAKER_00: Because when I'm getting money, I ain't got time for that shit.
26:57
SPEAKER_07: I ain't got time to chase women and all that when I'm getting money because I'm chasing money.
27:00
SPEAKER_07: When I'm broke, my mind is working, my game is strong because I gotta, I gotta manipulate, I gotta move, you know what I'm saying?
27:06
SPEAKER_07: So guys who I feel as though um lead with their wallet are not quality men for me.
27:13
SPEAKER_07: I don't give a fuck if you make a million dollars a month.
27:14
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
27:15
SPEAKER_07: You still a bitch in my book.
27:16
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
27:17
SPEAKER_07: That's how I feel.
27:18
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
27:19
SPEAKER_07: Because I've never had to go out of my way to impress a woman.
27:25
SPEAKER_07: Not and I'm in my 50s now.
27:27
SPEAKER_07: It's never happened.
27:28
SPEAKER_07: Um there was a big block of time where I didn't even approach women.
27:32
SPEAKER_07: They approached me.
27:33
SPEAKER_07: That's how I knew it was real.
27:34
SPEAKER_07: Okay, she really owned me like that because she came and got at me.
27:37
SPEAKER_07: I mean, they would see that I, you know, I peeped them, I checked them out, I gave them a look like, okay, yeah, you cute or you fine or whatever.
27:43
SPEAKER_07: And then they took it from there because I wasn't pursuing.
27:46
SPEAKER_07: I gave them the look and I turned the other way.
27:47
SPEAKER_07: Talk to my brother.
27:48
SPEAKER_07: Okay, she she fine, and then we still talking.
27:51
SPEAKER_07: They like, damn, what the fuck, you know.
27:53
SPEAKER_07: I I'm telling you, it was times we would make women go in the bathroom and check themselves to make sure they was looking right.
27:58
SPEAKER_07: If they swole, what the hell was going on?
28:00
SPEAKER_07: Because we didn't approach them.
28:01
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, we saw you.
28:03
SPEAKER_07: We saw you, yeah.
28:04
SPEAKER_07: Of course we saw you, but we weren't approaching you.
28:07
SPEAKER_04: But that's the whole game, too.
28:08
SPEAKER_07: Huh?
28:09
SPEAKER_04: Women want the men that they can't have, and women want the men that don't approach them.
28:13
SPEAKER_04: Exactly.
28:14
SPEAKER_04: Those are the men that get the attention.
28:16
SPEAKER_04: So you guys had the blueprint.
28:18
SPEAKER_06: Exactly.
28:18
SPEAKER_06: That's what I'm trying to say.
28:20
SPEAKER_02: And it all confidence, though.
28:22
SPEAKER_02: But it starts with the confidence.
28:23
SPEAKER_02: Like you say, he's sitting here, he like I'm confident enough not to know.
28:27
SPEAKER_07: Right.
28:27
SPEAKER_02: I'm sitting here, and that's what makes people.
28:29
SPEAKER_07: You know, and and and see, yeah, the whole baddie.
28:32
SPEAKER_07: Because to me, you asked me the truth.
28:34
SPEAKER_07: This baddies belong with these wannabe high value dudes.
28:38
SPEAKER_07: They wannabe.
28:39
SPEAKER_02: So it's baddies' wifey material.
28:41
SPEAKER_02: Fuck no, now we can't say that now.
28:44
SPEAKER_04: You think so?
28:45
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
28:46
SPEAKER_04: I'm gonna tell you why.
28:47
SPEAKER_04: Can we take it a little bit back?
28:48
SPEAKER_04: Of course.
28:49
SPEAKER_04: In the Bible, there was a preacher that the Lord told to go get your wife off of a corner.
28:57
SPEAKER_04: She was a prostitute, and he was a big time preacher at the time in the Bible.
29:04
SPEAKER_04: So, why do you think that God would tell that preacher to go get that prostitute woman and marry her?
29:11
SPEAKER_07: Okay, well, let me.
29:12
SPEAKER_04: It's been happening for a long time.
29:14
SPEAKER_04: No, no, no, no.
29:14
SPEAKER_07: I'm gonna give you some game, right?
29:15
SPEAKER_07: Because prostitutes they get married.
29:17
SPEAKER_07: No, I done this.
29:18
SPEAKER_07: I done did some pimping, right?
29:19
SPEAKER_02: I done just yeah, no, because the ones that's born don't, y'all overlook boring women too.
29:23
SPEAKER_02: Like, do y'all really want uh regular women or excitement?
29:27
SPEAKER_07: I'm gonna tell you.
29:27
SPEAKER_07: Uh-huh.
29:28
SPEAKER_07: Listen, I'm gonna tell you, right?
29:29
SPEAKER_07: Listen, I'm gonna tell you.
29:34
SPEAKER_07: Some women were prostitutes by circumstance.
29:38
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, they were forced into it.
29:39
SPEAKER_07: It was forced into it or manipulated into it.
29:42
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, not a lot of them really just said, you know what?
29:45
SPEAKER_07: I want to sell my ass.
29:46
SPEAKER_07: I mean, that you know it don't happen like that.
29:50
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
29:50
SPEAKER_07: It's a circumstance where sometimes they back is against it.
29:53
SPEAKER_07: Well, nowadays, though.
29:55
SPEAKER_07: No, that's nowadays.
29:56
SPEAKER_07: We talked, she said take it back.
29:57
SPEAKER_07: So I'm taking it back.
29:59
SPEAKER_07: Now they just doing it because they're national.
30:03
SPEAKER_07: They're throwing it everywhere.
30:04
SPEAKER_07: Why should I work when I could I can fuck a couple of dudes and get a couple thousand a month?
30:08
SPEAKER_07: And I got these quality men about the pay.
30:10
SPEAKER_07: Right.
30:10
SPEAKER_07: You know, so um, and I think like like um we talked about it before.
30:16
SPEAKER_07: A woman can redeem herself.
30:18
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
30:19
SPEAKER_07: It's gonna take some years of self-years.
30:22
SPEAKER_07: No, it takes years.
30:24
SPEAKER_07: You can't, you can't you can't go through all that shit and six months later say I'm redeemed.
30:28
SPEAKER_07: No, that that's not back on the world.
30:29
SPEAKER_04: You don't really gotta redeem yourself in so many different cities and countries in this.
30:33
SPEAKER_04: But that's not redeemed like.
30:42
SPEAKER_07: I'm talking about from the inside out.
30:43
SPEAKER_07: I got it.
30:43
SPEAKER_07: Because like like we talked about before, our sexual parts are different.
30:47
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
30:48
SPEAKER_07: Mine's external, it can be washed off, right?
30:50
SPEAKER_07: You know, a little alcohol, baby wiping.
30:53
SPEAKER_07: Y'all's internal, that nigga's in you.
30:55
SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
30:55
SPEAKER_07: So you gotta get all these niggas out before you can say that I'm internally healed.
31:01
SPEAKER_07: How do you get that out?
31:03
SPEAKER_07: It takes years of looking.
31:09
SPEAKER_07: Hell no.
31:10
SPEAKER_07: I can leave any woman I done have kids by.
31:12
SPEAKER_04: No, no, we talking about dirt and we talking about energy.
31:15
SPEAKER_07: No, I'm talking about no for real.
31:17
SPEAKER_07: Like what I'm saying is, okay, this is this is why I'm asking.
31:19
SPEAKER_07: It's the difference.
31:20
SPEAKER_07: But this is why I'm asking.
31:22
SPEAKER_07: How many times y'all done laid up with a dirty, no good piece of shit ass nigga because the sex was good?
31:27
SPEAKER_07: A lot.
31:28
SPEAKER_07: A lot.
31:28
SPEAKER_07: Then most of the time that's what the fucking relationship is based on.
31:31
SPEAKER_07: But women?
31:32
SPEAKER_01: Okay, but no, hold on, hold on.
31:34
SPEAKER_07: Let me finish.
31:34
SPEAKER_07: Let me finish, Dan.
31:37
SPEAKER_07: We can have sex, we can have the wildest sex, we can have the wildest sex with a woman in the world, right?
31:41
SPEAKER_07: Get our ass up and never call her until we horny again.
31:44
SPEAKER_07: Y'all can't do that.
31:45
SPEAKER_07: That's what I said.
31:45
SPEAKER_07: It's a difference.
31:46
SPEAKER_02: But every man ain't giving us slingy dinghy like women can.
31:50
SPEAKER_02: But after a while.
31:54
SPEAKER_07: Come on, nah, nah.
31:55
SPEAKER_07: Come on, man.
31:55
SPEAKER_07: But it takes a while for you to get to that point, though, right?
31:58
SPEAKER_07: Tell the truth.
31:59
SPEAKER_04: To get to what point?
32:00
SPEAKER_07: To the point where you can have sex with a nigga and then leave him alone because you know he ain't no good for nothing but sex.
32:05
SPEAKER_07: Y'all done been through hella boyfriends since high school because the sex was good and the nigga wasn't shit.
32:11
SPEAKER_07: Let's just be real.
32:12
SPEAKER_04: Just like you said, the prostitute was grown to be a prostitute, and she maybe could have been born into it.
32:17
SPEAKER_04: If I'm raised by a pimp, you think I'ma have feelings about a man I'm sleeping with?
32:22
SPEAKER_04: I can knock you in the alley, put you out of my car, and go on about my way.
32:27
SPEAKER_04: Just like you could do it.
32:28
SPEAKER_07: So you never kept a man based on sex alone, knowing he wasn't good.
32:33
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely, but he has something going too.
32:35
SPEAKER_04: Best believe he was there for a check or something.
32:39
SPEAKER_07: But that's still that's that's not a quality.
32:43
SPEAKER_07: That's a benefactor.
32:43
SPEAKER_04: I knew I was gonna get my own.
32:47
SPEAKER_00: But that's a sexual benefactor.
32:49
SPEAKER_02: Like she said, that back is getting broke.
32:51
SPEAKER_00: The woman will be married broke, but she'll still fuck with this no good ass nigga because the sex is good.
32:57
SPEAKER_00: But she still got her hug.
32:59
SPEAKER_00: But she's still been fucking with this no good ass nigga.
33:04
SPEAKER_02: But listen, y'all, y'all gotta understand women like, and y'all, this is a whole nother, we like to have an orgasm.
33:09
SPEAKER_02: Like, why y'all don't think we won't, it's not that an everyday thing, but it's some guys that will not do that today, women.
33:16
SPEAKER_03: It's some that don't do it, yeah, or they won't even take the time to even try.
33:20
SPEAKER_02: So it's not that we it's like we sitting at home with these baby ass kids, we cooking the dinner, we smelling your feet, it stink.
33:27
SPEAKER_02: We appreciate you coming home.
33:29
SPEAKER_02: All you gotta do is just make me come at least once, at least use a toy.
33:32
SPEAKER_02: Y'all don't even want to use a toy.
33:34
SPEAKER_02: Y'all don't even oh, I'm better than a toy.
33:36
SPEAKER_04: Don't get quiet.
33:40
SPEAKER_04: Okay, but just because you was blessed in that area, it is women and men that are struggling in that.
33:45
SPEAKER_02: That's really frustrating.
33:47
SPEAKER_04: If you have a small penis, let's just clear the air.
33:52
SPEAKER_04: That's a problem.
33:53
SPEAKER_04: Yes, okay.
33:54
SPEAKER_04: But you got some men that have penises and know how to please their women.
34:01
SPEAKER_04: I've seen it, I've been there, done that.
34:03
SPEAKER_04: And you have some men that are trifling and lazy and won't please their woman.
34:10
SPEAKER_04: Women have to be sexually, mentally, and physically.
34:15
SPEAKER_04: And if you're missing that, you're getting cheated the fuck on.
34:19
SPEAKER_07: Okay, so then why don't you tell the dude what you like and what would make you have an organization?
34:25
SPEAKER_04: I can't wait for this.
34:26
SPEAKER_04: He ain't gonna be like, Okay, so how do we say that?
34:29
SPEAKER_07: Baby by like this.
34:30
SPEAKER_07: That's just like we would.
34:32
unknown: Oh, yeah.
34:32
SPEAKER_07: Every dude don't listen to that.
34:33
SPEAKER_07: Okay, I feel good there.
34:35
SPEAKER_02: Everybody like this with this.
34:36
SPEAKER_02: But y'all go with y'all's pride and ego.
34:38
SPEAKER_02: If a woman tried, because I'd have my relationship and I didn't say it in the nicest way ever, or maybe could we use this to I ain't about to use that.
34:46
SPEAKER_02: Then it's like them.
34:47
SPEAKER_02: How can I talk to you?
34:48
SPEAKER_02: You feel me like them?
34:50
SPEAKER_02: Just help me with something.
34:55
SPEAKER_07: You know, you you gotta go there sometime.
34:57
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, I didn't baby fire, I just shut down.
35:00
SPEAKER_03: He doesn't want something else to have to please you.
35:03
SPEAKER_02: Mm-hmm.
35:03
SPEAKER_03: It's easy.
35:04
SPEAKER_02: And y'all already know too, y'all.
35:05
SPEAKER_02: I gotta get y'all to candy.
35:06
SPEAKER_07: Well, I mean, if if if you sit down and you explain that what's doing ain't what y'all doing ain't working, and he don't wanna uh participate, then you gotta figure out your next move.
35:19
SPEAKER_03: You gotta figure it out.
35:20
SPEAKER_03: But we're talking about sex, so we might as well.
35:22
SPEAKER_02: You feel me?
35:23
SPEAKER_02: Oh, I got this sperm girl, the big one.
35:25
SPEAKER_02: You feel me?
35:26
SPEAKER_02: Y'all know because I'm representing this is promoting adopt candies too, y'all.
35:29
SPEAKER_02: We're talking about it, so I'm getting you feel me, okay?
35:32
SPEAKER_07: The woman's torso here.
35:33
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, we got the breasts.
35:36
SPEAKER_04: We got the sperm with nuts in the back.
35:38
SPEAKER_02: Yes, baby.
35:39
SPEAKER_02: So edible.
35:40
SPEAKER_02: If y'all need any events, I just have to can we just go back just a little bit?
35:48
SPEAKER_04: Naiesha.
35:49
SPEAKER_04: Hi, Naiesha.
35:50
SPEAKER_04: Hi.
35:51
SPEAKER_04: Um, just a little bit.
35:53
SPEAKER_04: High value me.
35:54
SPEAKER_04: Um So I'm from East Oakland.
35:59
SPEAKER_04: I was born and raised in the hood, okay?
36:01
SPEAKER_04: So we don't really get to see that many husbands.
36:04
SPEAKER_04: So my grandmother, a five husband, Mary's a pantheon.
36:09
SPEAKER_04: But he was high value, but he was a panther.
36:12
SPEAKER_04: So that's what I saw growing up.
36:13
SPEAKER_04: And my mom liked it.
36:17
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
36:18
SPEAKER_04: So the high value man I see is tough daddy rappers.
36:28
SPEAKER_04: I'm just saying, all of these billionaires that's now getting tied up in this bullshit.
36:33
SPEAKER_04: And I have to see that on TV and social media.
36:37
SPEAKER_04: So then you have all these high value men that's perverts, molesters, rapers.
36:43
SPEAKER_04: So why aren't we talking about, and I'm not talking about here, just in society, that high value men, because they have money and because they're making six figures a year, that they don't have to have good characteristics.
36:55
SPEAKER_04: That was the love, they fucking family.
36:58
SPEAKER_07: That was the drawing chance.
37:00
SPEAKER_07: You weren't here when we said that.
37:01
SPEAKER_04: That's so relaxed.
37:03
SPEAKER_07: That's what they said when I asked them.
37:05
SPEAKER_07: I said somebody that's emotionally intelligent.
37:07
SPEAKER_04: They don't have it.
37:08
SPEAKER_04: Shout out to the people.
37:09
SPEAKER_07: Because the thing about it is, like, um, y'all really put the uh the label on with a high value man.
37:17
SPEAKER_01: Who is y'all?
37:18
SPEAKER_07: Women.
37:19
SPEAKER_07: Because I'm gonna tell you why.
37:20
SPEAKER_07: Remember, we had the conversation um about well, no, well, we did have the conversation, but me and my brother just did it on a uh previous podcast.
37:29
SPEAKER_05: I heard about it.
37:30
SPEAKER_07: It's gonna take the one where we said it's gonna take a woman, a bunch of money, a bunch of time, bunch of energy to try to build a man when his whole intention is to be noticed by other women in the first fucking place.
37:41
SPEAKER_07: He just used her as a he's gonna use anybody who's there to help him do that because that's a man's intention is to draw attention from women to himself, especially if he's not a man who's used to getting it.
37:54
SPEAKER_07: And used to getting it is different than getting it by who you really want it from.
37:58
SPEAKER_07: See, that's two different things.
37:59
SPEAKER_04: I agree.
38:00
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
38:01
SPEAKER_07: Like a lot of niggas, you know, they they they butt ugly, got the afro beards and changed their facial features with that, and the women fuck with them, you know what I'm saying, on based on that, right?
38:10
SPEAKER_07: Right.
38:10
SPEAKER_07: But nigga, let's be real.
38:12
SPEAKER_07: If the woman tell you, nigga, because you accidentally shaved your shit off, don't come home until you grow the beard back, you ugly.
38:17
unknown: Yeah.
38:17
SPEAKER_07: Let's just be real.
38:19
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
38:20
SPEAKER_07: So you ain't getting attention from who you want.
38:22
SPEAKER_07: Like the woman, like I I had to ask a motherfucker before.
38:25
SPEAKER_07: Like, you know, we had an argument.
38:26
SPEAKER_07: My brother, we was talking to some relatives of ours, and you know, niggas, you know, niggas in our family getting money.
38:31
SPEAKER_07: So a lot of niggas in the family think that's the the alpha and the omega of any situation is the paper, right?
38:37
SPEAKER_07: So we like, so we like, okay, nigga, let's plan a trip where we all go somewhere.
38:41
SPEAKER_07: No jewelry, no designer clothes, no nothing, and see who really knocked the most.
38:50
SPEAKER_02: Oh, okay.
38:51
SPEAKER_07: Hell no, they didn't do it.
38:52
SPEAKER_07: They know what it was.
38:53
SPEAKER_07: They knew what it was because I had a I had a relative ask me, what is it, what is it that I do to attract women of other races?
39:00
SPEAKER_07: Nigga, be yourself.
39:02
SPEAKER_02: That's it.
39:02
SPEAKER_02: That's it.
39:03
SPEAKER_02: That's really it.
39:04
SPEAKER_02: That's the key for real.
39:05
SPEAKER_02: You can feel it in the case.
39:07
SPEAKER_07: Be yourself because he was frustrated with coming up with the baddies.
39:10
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
39:11
SPEAKER_07: Like, yeah, that's all I can get.
39:13
SPEAKER_07: He ready to go buy the chick we go get her.
39:15
SPEAKER_07: That's what you present, nigga.
39:16
SPEAKER_07: That's what you present.
39:17
SPEAKER_07: You leading with the material shit.
39:19
SPEAKER_07: So that's what's written on that side.
39:21
SPEAKER_07: You ain't finna get no woman that that that's probably born into more money than you got, nigga, with this shit, because that shit don't impress her.
39:27
SPEAKER_02: So I have a question.
39:28
SPEAKER_02: Oh, okay.
39:29
SPEAKER_05: Go ahead.
39:29
SPEAKER_02: Oh, no, I was gonna ask y'all.
39:30
SPEAKER_02: So, do the quality men really want an average chick or do y'all want excitement?
39:36
SPEAKER_02: Like, what is it?
39:37
SPEAKER_07: Okay, what quality men are you talking about?
39:39
SPEAKER_07: Real quality men or the status quo quality?
39:42
SPEAKER_02: I guess the status quo that we're going by, right?
39:43
SPEAKER_07: Status quo quality men wants a wife with her barefoot in the kitchen at home who minds all the scruples of a lady, but you going out tricking with the baddies.
39:53
SPEAKER_02: So they still want the excitement outside?
39:55
SPEAKER_07: No, they want the look.
39:57
SPEAKER_07: They want the look.
39:57
SPEAKER_07: They want the look.
39:58
SPEAKER_07: Okay.
39:59
SPEAKER_07: That's what they want.
40:01
SPEAKER_07: That's what they want.
40:02
SPEAKER_07: They want the look.
40:03
SPEAKER_04: But they want you to be a certain type of woman.
40:05
SPEAKER_07: Because it's a fantasy to them.
40:06
SPEAKER_07: Because most of the time, like I said, if you dealing with y'all women, and I mean y'all individually, yeah, we know.
40:13
SPEAKER_07: Dealing with women, especially confident, beautiful women, shit is a full-time contact sport.
40:18
SPEAKER_07: That shit ain't easy.
40:19
SPEAKER_07: That's some shit you had to be doing at 12 years old.
40:21
SPEAKER_07: You can't crawl off the porch at 27 talking about I'm finna fuck with bad people.
40:25
SPEAKER_07: That's why the women are good.
40:26
SPEAKER_07: That's why the men are murdering the women.
40:28
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you finna give work.
40:29
SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
40:32
SPEAKER_07: You gotta go through the heartbreak.
40:33
SPEAKER_07: You gotta go through being in the fifth grade talking about this your girlfriend, then you see her kissing another little boy or something and running off.
40:39
SPEAKER_07: You gotta go through that shit.
40:41
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you can't jump off the porch and try to pick the baddest women in the world, nigga at 30 years old and thinking you're gonna survive that.
40:48
SPEAKER_00: It's gonna help you mold you into a man.
40:50
SPEAKER_02: Absolutely early off, right?
40:52
SPEAKER_02: It builds character.
40:52
SPEAKER_02: That dude DJ Academic, I don't know if y'all know him.
40:55
SPEAKER_02: He reminds me of somebody that's like that.
40:56
SPEAKER_02: That just got money, but now all of a sudden he's look at him no pin.
41:02
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I see him, he looked like a little turtle.
41:04
SPEAKER_07: He looked like Stuart the Rat.
41:06
SPEAKER_07: Stuart Little.
41:08
SPEAKER_07: Uh-huh.
41:08
SPEAKER_07: You know, NC.
41:11
SPEAKER_07: Hey, but you know, I'm gonna keep it 100 though.
41:14
SPEAKER_07: A lot of women get mad if we had this discussion when like they get mad at me and my brother, but it's the fucking truth.
41:19
SPEAKER_07: Looks are the first fucking thing you see in a person.
41:22
SPEAKER_07: Before you know if they're a good person or not, it is, you attracted by sight.
41:26
SPEAKER_07: Let's just be real.
41:27
SPEAKER_07: Yes, it's the truth.
41:28
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
41:28
SPEAKER_07: Motherfuckers don't want to face that.
41:30
SPEAKER_07: Let's just be real.
41:31
SPEAKER_07: And if you as a woman ain't going after what you really are truly attracted to, then you're fucking settling.
41:37
SPEAKER_07: It's the truth.
41:38
SPEAKER_03: And it's hard to look past it.
41:40
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, but a lot of women be settling though.
41:42
SPEAKER_00: That's what they do.
41:43
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
41:44
SPEAKER_04: Because they don't have they don't have the security of themselves.
41:49
SPEAKER_04: Women settle because they don't think they're good enough, because they have flaws, because they have insecurities that nobody knows about but them because they don't say nothing.
42:00
SPEAKER_04: And then you have women that go get their body done, go get their shit together, and then come back like the men do shit on niggas.
42:07
SPEAKER_04: Then you got the women that change their whole everything to present themselves as a high value woman.
42:16
SPEAKER_04: When a man looks at you, he already knows exactly what you are.
42:20
SPEAKER_04: You can have your body done, you can have the labels on, you can have all of that.
42:25
SPEAKER_04: When a man looks at you, he knows exactly what category is what you mean.
42:31
SPEAKER_04: I don't know how they do it, I don't know how y'all do it.
42:35
SPEAKER_04: But I have a girlfriend.
42:40
SPEAKER_04: And I just realized that my friend is insecure.
42:43
SPEAKER_04: So all her kids bother ain't shit.
42:46
SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, how is this?
42:48
SPEAKER_04: You you wear the labels in the friend, you bad, you thick, you you beautiful.
42:53
SPEAKER_04: But I just realized that my friend is really retarded.
42:58
SPEAKER_04: It's really something wrong with her.
43:00
SPEAKER_02: You want us to answer that question.
43:04
SPEAKER_04: Do you guys know where to put a woman in what category off top?
43:09
SPEAKER_04: I would like to hear that too.
43:12
SPEAKER_07: Okay, you want to start it off?
43:13
SPEAKER_07: Go ahead.
43:14
SPEAKER_07: I'm gonna tell you why.
43:15
SPEAKER_07: Dealing with me, any woman that deal with me.
43:18
SPEAKER_07: Okay, I feel as though I'm alpha male, king of the hill, whatever you want to call it, right?
43:24
SPEAKER_07: I can prove it if you want me to, but it it it might be some bloodshed involved.
43:28
SPEAKER_05: Right.
43:28
SPEAKER_07: But I'm that nigga.
43:30
SPEAKER_05: Right.
43:30
SPEAKER_07: You fuck with that nigga, act like you fuck with that nigga.
43:33
SPEAKER_07: Nose up, blinders on.
43:35
SPEAKER_07: Now you walking around looking like you choose, you're you're a bird.
43:39
SPEAKER_07: You're a bird.
43:40
SPEAKER_07: Because you you confident the strut tells it all.
43:43
SPEAKER_05: Yes.
43:44
SPEAKER_07: The confidence strut in a woman is what's gonna draw me to your ass.
43:48
SPEAKER_07: It's that strut.
43:49
SPEAKER_07: Her nose is high.
43:50
SPEAKER_07: She she knows she that bitch.
43:52
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, that's true.
43:53
SPEAKER_07: I don't want nobody who don't know that.
43:56
SPEAKER_07: I got friends and relatives that don't want that.
43:58
SPEAKER_06: Yeah, man.
43:59
SPEAKER_06: Y'all.
44:00
SPEAKER_06: You and me always fuck with women that think they all that.
44:02
SPEAKER_02: What the fuck are we supposed to do?
44:05
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
44:06
SPEAKER_00: Maybe uh subtle.
44:07
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
44:08
SPEAKER_02: And it's not cocky, it's confidence, right?
44:10
SPEAKER_02: I want a confident woman.
44:11
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
44:11
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
44:12
SPEAKER_02: No woman that thinks she's beneath me.
44:14
SPEAKER_00: Nah.
44:15
SPEAKER_00: She's supposed to be by myself.
44:16
SPEAKER_00: Some quality men want the women to feel like they can be.
44:19
SPEAKER_07: She's supposed to be by the men.
44:20
SPEAKER_00: Oh, okay.
44:20
SPEAKER_07: Because they are baby should have money if I'm just a good earner.
44:23
SPEAKER_07: He's just a good earner.
44:24
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, and he's not beating down.
44:26
SPEAKER_07: I don't want no woman that thinks she's beneath me.
44:28
SPEAKER_07: You're on my side.
44:29
SPEAKER_07: You can't do that.
44:30
SPEAKER_07: You're on my side, baby.
44:31
SPEAKER_07: That's gonna cost me.
44:33
SPEAKER_07: Like I never understood the whole terminology with pimps.
44:36
SPEAKER_07: Have your woman walk behind you.
44:37
SPEAKER_07: How you gonna protect the stupid ass if she's behind you?
44:39
SPEAKER_07: You ain't got eyes in the back of your head.
44:41
SPEAKER_07: But nigga comes from behind you and snatch her ass if you already gone.
44:44
SPEAKER_07: You're supposed to be in front of you so you can see everything that's coming.
44:47
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
44:48
SPEAKER_07: So I never understood that.
44:49
SPEAKER_04: That's that old school.
44:51
SPEAKER_07: But I never understood that logic, though.
44:53
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
44:54
SPEAKER_07: But that's that's the shatter of woman's confidence.
44:57
SPEAKER_07: Pretty mad.
44:57
SPEAKER_07: But that's what happens.
44:59
SPEAKER_07: You know what happens.
45:03
SPEAKER_07: No, because then she's vulnerable to any nigga.
45:06
SPEAKER_07: If her self-esteem is low, she's vulnerable to any nigga, any nigga that might that might have been given blowjobs on the side on the low to go get him a bitly.
45:14
SPEAKER_07: Now he can have your bitch because her self-esteem is low.
45:17
SPEAKER_02: And she needs somebody.
45:18
SPEAKER_02: And she she needs somebody to boost her self-esteem.
45:20
SPEAKER_04: Stuart.
45:20
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
45:21
SPEAKER_02: So who y'all think choose um works in a relationship?
45:24
SPEAKER_02: Men or women?
45:25
SPEAKER_02: Like who choose the most?
45:26
SPEAKER_02: Like the work.
45:27
SPEAKER_02: What you mean choose?
45:27
SPEAKER_02: So basically that's what I have wrote down.
45:29
SPEAKER_00: Probably both, in a sense, though.
45:31
SPEAKER_00: Because a lot of women be choosing just somebody.
45:35
SPEAKER_03: I think women, like who choose, yeah, who choose the wrong part of it?
45:38
SPEAKER_03: That's what I got wrote down.
45:40
SPEAKER_03: I mean, I just feel like for one, a lot of times you don't really get what you think you're gonna get.
45:46
SPEAKER_03: Like, you know, it's a whole facade, and they sweet and smooth and nice, and you know, they got values, and then all of a sudden they wake up one day and once everything gets together.
46:00
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, and that's true because, like I said, men who are used to women, rather.
46:07
SPEAKER_07: Um, you could differentiate.
46:09
SPEAKER_07: Because then it always goes back to this.
46:12
SPEAKER_07: It does, though, Tim, I'm I'm not being cocky or over-arrogant, but I'm just being honest, right?
46:18
SPEAKER_07: You because y'all, women are complex.
46:21
SPEAKER_07: Men are really basically kind of like the same.
46:24
SPEAKER_07: Some niggas like big titties, some niggas like big ass, some niggas like cute face, some niggas like little girls.
46:30
SPEAKER_04: Little skinny skinny women.
46:32
SPEAKER_07: So we're basically the same.
46:34
SPEAKER_07: You like what you like.
46:35
SPEAKER_07: Women, y'all could be swayed and it and and convinced to like some shit that you really don't like.
46:40
SPEAKER_04: Let me tell you who did that.
46:42
SPEAKER_04: COVID.
46:45
SPEAKER_04: Who did that?
46:46
SPEAKER_05: Really?
46:46
SPEAKER_04: The niggas was when COVID hit and the pandemic came, the niggas was able to trick us now.
46:52
unknown: How?
46:53
SPEAKER_04: And we didn't know who really had the bag and who didn't.
46:56
SPEAKER_07: Oh, with the people.
47:00
SPEAKER_04: Everybody had the bag.
47:01
SPEAKER_04: Because everybody had a bag.
47:03
SPEAKER_04: Right.
47:03
SPEAKER_04: So you got women having me babies by men that really didn't have it, that had it for the pandemic, and now you on your ass.
47:13
unknown: Right.
47:13
SPEAKER_04: So we pick, or I say for myself, I pick a man I like men that nobody likes.
47:22
SPEAKER_04: And I'm not saying women.
47:24
SPEAKER_04: I like the man that all the all the women But I like the man that all the niggas don't.
47:32
SPEAKER_04: Can you let me?
47:33
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, oh yeah, I definitely understand it.
47:35
SPEAKER_04: I like to watch my man walk in the door and all the women just be like this.
47:40
SPEAKER_04: Who the fuck is that?
47:43
SPEAKER_04: And then I like when my man walk in the door, all the niggas like, oh, here come this nigga.
47:47
SPEAKER_07: See, we them niggas.
47:49
SPEAKER_07: See, we we them niggas.
47:51
SPEAKER_07: Oh, here the brothers come here.
47:53
SPEAKER_07: Hey, y'all good tonight, man.
47:54
SPEAKER_07: Y'all right?
47:55
SPEAKER_07: You know, they checking in, make sure we ain't coming in there hunting nigga down.
47:58
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
47:59
SPEAKER_07: But it's crazy.
48:00
SPEAKER_07: But yeah, but that's the truth, you know.
48:02
SPEAKER_07: And and I would say, like, now to piggyback off what now I was saying, yeah, women, because y'all do y'all niggas, it's easy for a nigga to fool y'all.
48:10
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because women choose niggas off of money most of the time.
48:13
SPEAKER_07: And and what they and and other shit too.
48:16
SPEAKER_07: Like, like we said before, it's easy for you to make a woman think you that guy.
48:21
SPEAKER_05: Yeah.
48:21
SPEAKER_07: You know how?
48:22
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, be around a bunch of people that like you.
48:24
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, be around people that love you.
48:25
SPEAKER_07: Be around your friends.
48:26
SPEAKER_07: That's not true.
48:27
SPEAKER_07: She could put it like this.
48:30
SPEAKER_07: Y'all from Oakland.
48:31
SPEAKER_07: We from Hunter's Point, you from Richmond, right?
48:32
SPEAKER_07: We all from some dangerous ass places.
48:35
SPEAKER_02: All right, okay.
48:36
SPEAKER_02: We all from danger zones, right?
48:38
SPEAKER_02: All right.
48:38
SPEAKER_07: So now this is what I'm gonna say, right?
48:41
SPEAKER_07: Now, if a man can navigate in one of them danger zones you from, and everybody knowing love him, you convinced he's solid.
48:48
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
48:49
SPEAKER_02: Pretty nice.
48:50
SPEAKER_02: But no, but hold on, hold on.
48:52
SPEAKER_07: Without nobody being cooked.
48:53
SPEAKER_07: All right, but let me finish.
48:54
SPEAKER_00: Take him out of that.
48:55
SPEAKER_07: Take that nigga out that element.
48:56
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
48:56
SPEAKER_07: And watch him turn into a poodle.
48:58
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, take the nigga from Richmond and put him in Hunter's Points.
49:00
SPEAKER_07: Or take the Hunter's Point nigga, put him in Oakland.
49:01
SPEAKER_07: Or the Oakland nigga put him in Colorado and see if that nigga chest still out.
49:05
SPEAKER_07: See if that nigga chest still out.
49:07
SPEAKER_07: Or is this nigga scared?
49:09
SPEAKER_00: No, baby, don't pull up in the liquor store.
49:10
SPEAKER_00: Too many niggas there and shit like that.
49:12
SPEAKER_00: Or he's gonna walk around the club or he gonna come with his wall on the club.
49:15
SPEAKER_07: Nah, I had a I had a chick do that to me in Richmond, right?
49:18
SPEAKER_07: One time, right?
49:18
SPEAKER_07: We was in Richmond and um I smoked cigarettes at the time.
49:21
SPEAKER_07: So I was like, man, let me go get some cigarettes and a book to throw my weed.
49:25
SPEAKER_07: So she's from the city too.
49:26
SPEAKER_07: So she pulls up in the store in Richmond, and it's all the niggas standing in the front.
49:30
SPEAKER_07: She admittedly swings out the light, I go off.
49:32
SPEAKER_07: What the fuck you doing?
49:33
SPEAKER_07: You see how them niggas, them niggas don't know me.
49:36
unknown: Yeah.
49:36
SPEAKER_07: You're gonna pull this motherfucking car over, get out the couple stuff, y'all.
49:40
SPEAKER_07: Hey, what's up, OG?
49:41
SPEAKER_07: Walk my ass in the store.
49:42
SPEAKER_07: Yeah.
49:42
SPEAKER_07: Fuck you mean.
49:43
SPEAKER_07: Simple.
49:44
SPEAKER_07: Simple.
49:45
SPEAKER_07: Bought what I needed to buy.
49:47
SPEAKER_07: I mean, I ain't no dummy.
49:48
SPEAKER_07: I didn't have no all this shit and pulled out a thousand dollars or nothing, but I know how to navigate the motherfucking dinner.
49:54
SPEAKER_02: The confidence period when you're walking in.
49:56
SPEAKER_04: And and women know that uh women that pay attention, not all women pay attention.
50:02
SPEAKER_02: Not at all.
50:02
SPEAKER_04: But the women that pay attention know the energy of a man as soon as you walk in the door.
50:09
SPEAKER_04: I don't get I don't care if your shoes is ran over, you can be an electrician.
50:13
SPEAKER_04: You can have on a jumpsuit.
50:15
SPEAKER_04: But it's something about that energy when a man walks through the door to where I know I say it, I see it.
50:22
SPEAKER_03: It's a confidence.
50:24
SPEAKER_03: It is.
50:25
SPEAKER_04: So it's a confidence.
50:26
SPEAKER_04: Um so not all ladies pick it from the pocket.
50:30
SPEAKER_07: Right, right.
50:31
SPEAKER_07: So that's all it is.
50:36
SPEAKER_03: Definitely.
50:37
SPEAKER_03: You gotta have some sort of drive about yourself.
50:45
SPEAKER_00: You gotta you know, have some type of vision, you know, what are you trying to do with your life?
50:48
SPEAKER_00: I mean, if it's just business or you know, it's something social.
50:52
SPEAKER_00: You gotta have some type of goals to be looking forward to, because you don't have no goals, you just gonna fall back on anything, you know.
50:58
SPEAKER_00: We gotta have always had something that we're looking forward to, what we're trying to do with our life.
51:02
SPEAKER_00: We wanna be better the next day than we was yesterday.
51:04
SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
51:06
SPEAKER_00: So you don't want no nothing ass bitch that ain't trying to do nothing.
51:09
SPEAKER_00: Just sitting up on our ass talking to her girlfriends all day.
51:13
SPEAKER_02: Mm-hmm.
51:14
SPEAKER_02: Calling your business.
51:15
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
51:15
SPEAKER_02: And I was gonna say gold is important to me, man.
51:18
SPEAKER_00: She better go get her own.
51:20
SPEAKER_00: You know what I'm saying?
51:21
SPEAKER_00: We can try to get something together, yeah.
51:23
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, baddies want your shit, okay?
51:25
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, that's right.
51:25
SPEAKER_02: That's what a boss chick is gonna get her own and help.
51:28
SPEAKER_04: But a baddie's gonna be like, Can I say something about uh high value?
51:33
SPEAKER_04: I've always been able to get them, but I'm because I was not raised.
51:45
SPEAKER_04: So I can wear how I can get a high value man find out my background and find out how I was raised and who I really am.
51:57
SPEAKER_04: And he like, little mommy going on about your business.
52:00
SPEAKER_04: So I've been done and left.
52:03
SPEAKER_07: But so were you interested in keeping?
52:07
SPEAKER_04: It was nothing I could do.
52:09
SPEAKER_07: No, no, no, no, I'm saying with you were you interested in keeping what?
52:12
SPEAKER_04: Of course I loved him.
52:14
SPEAKER_04: It was the only man I ever been faithful to in my life.
52:17
SPEAKER_07: So did he notice?
52:19
SPEAKER_04: I told him.
52:20
SPEAKER_04: But my background did not clear me as a high value woman.
52:24
SPEAKER_04: See, now that's so I had to look.
52:27
SPEAKER_04: I was okay.
52:28
SPEAKER_04: Maybe my knees a little knocked, but he he was okay with that.
52:32
SPEAKER_04: But when it came I'm telling you, but when it came time to my background and running my background check, uh-huh, oh, I'm not high value quality.
52:42
SPEAKER_02: But but would disqualify you.
52:46
SPEAKER_02: Like I said, keep it real, Nancy.
52:48
SPEAKER_02: What disqualify you from being qualified from a man.
52:51
SPEAKER_03: For a man is how many you men have been with you, how many bodies you can with.
52:55
SPEAKER_02: Your appearance, okay, your background and disqualify the women.
53:00
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, uh, how you how you look around, right?
53:04
SPEAKER_04: Your reputation, what he said.
53:06
SPEAKER_04: If you all in a nigga face all the time and you're not focused, yo, the way you speak, how you carry yourself.
53:13
SPEAKER_04: Absolutely.
53:14
SPEAKER_04: You can leave the family.
53:15
SPEAKER_07: Do y'all want to hear from us?
53:16
SPEAKER_02: Yes.
53:17
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
53:18
SPEAKER_02: So none of those qualifies.
53:20
SPEAKER_07: What disqualifies a woman.
53:23
SPEAKER_02: Or a man, too.
53:24
SPEAKER_02: It could be either one.
53:24
SPEAKER_00: What disqualifies you from being.
53:26
SPEAKER_00: You know, how she talked to you.
53:28
SPEAKER_00: You know, you don't want to be battling with no woman, like how we said earlier.
53:31
SPEAKER_00: You know, you don't want to have no combative ass woman.
53:34
SPEAKER_00: You don't want a woman that's loud, that's over-talkative, you know, like she talks so loud that she's gonna get you into a wreck when you go out, and she got this big ass mouth, and you know, because you know how we is, you know, that might trigger something like that.
53:47
SPEAKER_00: She's so boisterous that she ya, all that rah rah.
53:50
SPEAKER_00: That'd disqualify you.
53:52
SPEAKER_00: Plus, the bodies that you got, that could do that too though.
53:54
SPEAKER_07: The not be no bodies, sexual partners.
54:00
SPEAKER_04: Oh, the body.
54:01
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, the body count.
54:02
SPEAKER_02: Body count.
54:03
SPEAKER_04: Oh, I might be okay.
54:05
SPEAKER_02: But what disqualify the men?
54:06
SPEAKER_02: No, no, hold on.
54:07
SPEAKER_02: Let me let me know.
54:08
SPEAKER_07: Y'all gotta tell us that's let's hear what qualified Okay, now I'm gonna tell you, now pick back on what little brother said.
54:14
SPEAKER_07: Number one, what he said is is actually true.
54:17
SPEAKER_07: Y'all be wanting niggas like us with the charisma, the courage, the gangster shit, and all of that.
54:23
SPEAKER_07: Also with the business aspect.
54:25
SPEAKER_07: We all from the ghetto.
54:26
SPEAKER_07: So that's really what you desire, a man that can balance all of that, right?
54:31
SPEAKER_07: You can't you can't do all this with no nigga that's known to shoot because he's gonna kill something behind your ass.
54:36
SPEAKER_00: Exactly.
54:36
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
54:37
SPEAKER_07: So you gotta, it's your job to protect him by standing with your mouth and your actions and your actions, you know what I'm saying?
54:45
SPEAKER_07: Like, you know, and and like you said, the body count thing, right?
54:48
SPEAKER_07: Sometimes it ain't all about the numbers, about the quality of niggas you have.
54:52
SPEAKER_07: So, how you gonna know a real nigga when you ain't slept with nothing with peons?
54:55
SPEAKER_04: I ain't even fucking with bums in the hands.
54:57
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
54:58
SPEAKER_07: So now you you know what I'm saying, all of a sudden you you treating this real man like the peons that you used to, exactly.
55:04
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you know what I'm saying?
55:05
SPEAKER_07: And he ain't going for that.
55:06
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
55:07
SPEAKER_07: That that's disrespectful.
55:08
SPEAKER_07: And my favorite thing is, you know, not favorite thing, but one of my most known slogans is don't give me less in this relationship than you gave a lesser nigga.
55:19
SPEAKER_07: Exactly.
55:20
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, how you gonna offer me, how you gonna offer me two pieces of chicken and you gave this piece of shit ass nigga a whole quarter chicken?
55:29
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
55:30
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I'm just saying, but how she qualified, but how I'm saying once you know, yeah, that's how I'm gonna say because what if she don't know?
55:36
SPEAKER_02: Because she went around the middle.
55:37
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I didn't know for a long time.
55:39
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I gotta keep it though.
55:40
SPEAKER_02: I didn't do that.
55:41
SPEAKER_07: I'm saying once you know I'm that dude, by me proving it.
55:45
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, by me proving it though.
55:46
SPEAKER_07: Not not by what I look like or what I'm driving, but by you been with me a year, 18 months.
55:52
SPEAKER_07: And your character and my character has been flawless, and I've shown you that I am who and what I say I am.
55:59
SPEAKER_07: You gotta respect that.
56:00
SPEAKER_07: Respect my gangster.
56:02
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
56:03
SPEAKER_07: Give me give me what I need out of this relationship, and you and the sky's the limit for you.
56:07
SPEAKER_02: Or you ain't gonna have no woman on the side ready to come on the outside and play.
56:12
SPEAKER_04: Exactly.
56:13
SPEAKER_04: But let me say this, one one other thing.
56:16
SPEAKER_04: If you like, like, and I hate to keep going back to the way I was raised, but those are the men I've always chosen because I used to be a scammer.
56:25
SPEAKER_04: So you had to be less than nothing.
56:27
SPEAKER_04: You couldn't be the boss and I'm the boss or you couldn't think highly of yourself because that means I can't send you to do what I want you to do.
56:36
SPEAKER_04: So those are the men that I chose.
56:38
SPEAKER_04: Okay.
56:39
SPEAKER_04: And because I chose those men, that's on my rapture.
56:43
SPEAKER_04: I never told nobody why I chose them.
56:46
SPEAKER_04: I never told people why I picked that men with low self-esteem so I can maneuver because I never was faithful.
56:53
SPEAKER_04: Real men is not gonna deal with an unfaithful female.
56:56
SPEAKER_07: Well, that's what we're not saying.
56:58
SPEAKER_04: High value men don't want to deal with that.
57:00
SPEAKER_07: Listen to what I'm saying, please, man.
57:03
SPEAKER_07: Okay.
57:03
SPEAKER_07: Now, like I was saying earlier, that's where the the the waiting game for y'all as women come in.
57:10
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you got to clear that up.
57:12
SPEAKER_07: So if if it does come up, that was 15 years ago.
57:15
SPEAKER_07: You know how young I was then?
57:17
SPEAKER_07: You know how much I learned in those 15 years past my last mistake like that?
57:22
SPEAKER_07: Nigga, bring up something in the last six months.
57:24
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
57:25
SPEAKER_04: Nah, I can say that.
57:25
SPEAKER_04: That's what I'm saying.
57:26
SPEAKER_07: So because we all we harder this far chick.
57:31
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
57:32
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, but it's when you continue it that it's a habit instead of a mistake.
57:36
SPEAKER_02: Because they can't hold you to your past.
57:38
SPEAKER_02: Right.
57:38
SPEAKER_07: They can't hold you to that if you grew from it.
57:41
SPEAKER_07: You know, if you grew from it, and I, you know, and it took me a while to learn that myself.
57:46
SPEAKER_07: I ain't gonna lie.
57:47
SPEAKER_07: The reputation was big on me because you know, I'm a nigga.
57:51
SPEAKER_07: You know, that's how I was until it's like, well, shit, at this age, everybody got a pass now.
57:56
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, they do, you know.
57:57
SPEAKER_07: So what I'm gonna do, go get a 17-year-old.
57:59
SPEAKER_07: I ain't R.
57:59
SPEAKER_07: Kelly.
58:00
SPEAKER_02: That's what they want.
58:01
SPEAKER_02: You know what I'm saying?
58:01
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, free get them 14, emerging.
58:03
SPEAKER_07: So, you know, I mean, so now I gotta deal with the past, the the fucked up baby daddy that she thought was the man and all that on.
58:11
SPEAKER_07: I gotta deal with that.
58:12
SPEAKER_07: But what is you presenting to me now?
58:14
SPEAKER_07: Exactly.
58:15
SPEAKER_07: Oh, yeah, I got one.
58:18
SPEAKER_07: What?
58:19
SPEAKER_04: I don't know if I could do three.
58:20
SPEAKER_04: I got a year in, but I'm not gonna be able to do one, you can do two, you can do two.
58:24
SPEAKER_04: Come on, I gotta do it.
58:26
SPEAKER_07: But if you can do one, you can do two, you can do three.
58:29
SPEAKER_07: You can do it.
58:29
SPEAKER_07: I can get rid of the one of my toys.
58:32
SPEAKER_07: Yeah, I'm gonna do it.
58:36
SPEAKER_04: No, you think so?
58:37
SPEAKER_04: No.
58:38
SPEAKER_04: What about for you?
58:39
SPEAKER_04: Was it easy for you after my first year?
58:41
SPEAKER_04: Not after the year.
58:44
SPEAKER_03: Well, you're gonna be frustrated.
58:45
SPEAKER_04: You don't want to hold here when I say I'm on my year right now and I want some dick so bad.
58:50
SPEAKER_02: I use a toy.
58:51
SPEAKER_04: And I did it the year because I never used a toy before.
58:55
SPEAKER_04: I happened to have flesh in my mouth, fill it.
58:58
SPEAKER_04: Okay, no plastic.
59:01
SPEAKER_04: No, I just wanted to know my vagina.
59:03
SPEAKER_04: I need to hand.
59:06
SPEAKER_04: That's it.
59:07
SPEAKER_04: I don't know what's the deal though.
59:08
SPEAKER_04: Just shout out to Rose.
59:10
SPEAKER_04: Shout out to the room.
59:11
SPEAKER_04: It's whoever made it.
59:12
SPEAKER_04: You feel me?
59:13
SPEAKER_04: Sponsored me.
59:14
SPEAKER_04: I need gloves.
59:16
SPEAKER_07: So, what disqualifies a man from being quality?
59:20
SPEAKER_02: Um, just a guy that lies a lot.
59:22
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna tell you that right there.
59:24
SPEAKER_02: A guy that lies and a guy that do not put his family first.
59:28
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna tell you that right now.
59:29
SPEAKER_02: Like you can carry yourself, you can do all that.
59:31
SPEAKER_02: But I feel like you're gonna disqualify yourself if your kids is at home hungry, your wife is doing everything by herself, and you somewhere in the club having such a good time.
59:40
SPEAKER_02: That's me.
59:41
SPEAKER_02: That's my opinion.
59:42
SPEAKER_02: You know, that's gonna disqualify you.
59:44
SPEAKER_02: You gotta put your people first, your family first.
59:46
SPEAKER_03: I think right now I'm struggling with the men that like always need something or want something or feel like you're obligated to give them something because you're with them, you know, and it's like money money.
1:00:02
SPEAKER_03: Yes.
1:00:04
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
1:00:05
SPEAKER_03: No, no, no, that'll disqualify yourself.
1:00:07
SPEAKER_03: Niggas still do it.
1:00:08
SPEAKER_03: They're gonna disqualify yourself.
1:00:09
SPEAKER_03: They still beg.
1:00:11
SPEAKER_04: Mine's just you think you the princess.
1:00:13
SPEAKER_04: I'm the princess.
1:00:14
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, enterprise girls are and that's what they're doing.
1:00:17
SPEAKER_02: Hold on, what kind of thing are you riding with you a princess?
1:00:20
SPEAKER_04: It seems like I have an industry friend uh that I used to deal with, and they be wanting attention.
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SPEAKER_07: Okay.
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SPEAKER_07: But you can't do it.
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SPEAKER_07: Go ahead, Cam, go ahead, Cammy.
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SPEAKER_04: They be wanting attention.
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SPEAKER_04: And they be wanting to be the prize, but I'm the prize, I'm the woman.
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SPEAKER_04: Let me be the woman and you be the man.
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SPEAKER_02: You talked about this before, y'all.
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SPEAKER_04: I we did, but I we still said how long ago was that?
1:00:47
SPEAKER_02: Well, a few months.
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SPEAKER_02: But we still say the woman is the prize.
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SPEAKER_04: I'm talking about the last time I've been here.
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SPEAKER_04: Some months.
1:00:52
SPEAKER_04: It's been some months.
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SPEAKER_04: That's probably how I've been able to keep my ear strong because I can't.
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SPEAKER_04: That early.
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SPEAKER_07: But Cam, let me let me tell you something though.
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SPEAKER_07: Um, like Cam said on that last podcast, she didn't like the verbiage was used as a man being a prize.
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SPEAKER_07: I get that.
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SPEAKER_07: Does sound a little funny.
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SPEAKER_07: But in our actuality, y'all, like I said, they think men lie, women lie, numbers don't lie.
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SPEAKER_05: Okay.
1:01:21
SPEAKER_07: It's seven to eight women to each man out here.
1:01:25
SPEAKER_07: We can pick damn near a dime a dozen, like the like the like the thing says.
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SPEAKER_03: You are the prize.
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SPEAKER_03: But then you can pick a woman.
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SPEAKER_07: But you can pick a wrong partner too.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, you can, but what I'm saying is, for women, y'all might blow the only chance you got at a real man.
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SPEAKER_07: I did that.
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SPEAKER_07: Because other than that, you finna get fuckboys.
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SPEAKER_02: I didn't know.
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SPEAKER_02: So many of them.
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SPEAKER_02: So many fairies.
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SPEAKER_02: I was a fairy.
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SPEAKER_03: It's probably like one real man to every hundred fake ones.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
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SPEAKER_02: So yeah, y'all, you already know, y'all, we're getting closer to ending it right now.
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SPEAKER_02: So before we end this, what advice do y'all want to give anybody that just keep dating wrong?
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SPEAKER_02: Any advice?
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SPEAKER_04: Um, so I'm gonna look at the camera.
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SPEAKER_04: Uh, the advice that I have for woman or man that feel like you date wrong, I call it my pick or stick is broken.
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SPEAKER_04: Just take some time for yourself.
1:02:19
SPEAKER_04: Do self-care on yourself, feel like my diet said.
1:02:23
SPEAKER_04: Um I've I'm a year, and ladies, I don't know if you can do that, and fellas, I don't know if you can do it, but you kinda gotta reboot your whole life.
1:02:31
SPEAKER_04: You gotta think differently, you gotta eat differently, and you gotta do self-care for yourself, and that's just where I'm at.
1:02:38
SPEAKER_04: And once you do that, I think your aura and your personality and who you become will attract the person.
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SPEAKER_03: Yes.
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SPEAKER_03: Um, I would say the best advice I received the last time I was here um is to take your time, get yourself together.
1:02:55
SPEAKER_03: Um, anything you need to do, your house, your credit, your job, your finances, your self-care, and then you can attract the man that you need instead of trying to chase a man while your shit fucked up.
1:03:08
SPEAKER_03: And then you get a fucked up nigga pretty much.
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SPEAKER_03: There you go.
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SPEAKER_03: Seriously.
1:03:14
SPEAKER_02: And then minds is like they said, love on yourself.
1:03:17
SPEAKER_02: If you keep picking the wrong person, hold yourself accountable.
1:03:21
SPEAKER_02: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: Go just like you say, take a time back and just chill out.
1:03:25
SPEAKER_02: It's okay to recharge, reboot, and get to it in a later, like later.
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SPEAKER_02: You get what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_02: Just give yourself some time.
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SPEAKER_02: That's all I'm gonna say.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, don't date again, don't rush, and figure out what you really like.
1:03:38
SPEAKER_02: And don't let nobody else tell you what you like.
1:03:41
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I would say something similar to that, because you gotta be patient and stuff.
1:03:45
SPEAKER_00: You know, just don't keep jumping in and out of relationships, then you gotta know you as yourself.
1:03:50
SPEAKER_00: And then if you ain't happy with yourself, you ain't gonna be able to make nobody else happy.
1:03:54
SPEAKER_00: So don't keep jumping in and out of relationships.
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SPEAKER_00: Get to know somebody first before you even make a real commitment with them.
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SPEAKER_00: Cause I know a lot of people that they just meet these people, next thing you know, they straight committed with them.
1:04:05
SPEAKER_00: They got these altered lifestyles going on, and then when you find out, then it'll be a wreck, your feelings be hurt.
1:04:11
SPEAKER_00: So, you know, get to know yourself first, know what you want for you, then you'll be able to expand and help somebody else out.
1:04:17
SPEAKER_00: Cause if you ain't got no love for yourself, then you can't love nobody else.
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SPEAKER_07: And this is true.
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SPEAKER_07: And what I would say is um, you know, everybody walks around with this false sense of confidence.
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SPEAKER_07: I'm that nigga, I'm this bitch.
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SPEAKER_07: You feel that way, stop saying.
1:04:31
SPEAKER_07: Go after what you really want in life as a partner.
1:04:34
SPEAKER_07: And if you can't get it, then don't do shit until you get it.
1:04:38
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
1:04:39
SPEAKER_07: It's as simple as that.
1:04:40
SPEAKER_07: And I'm saying this especially for late, like I said, for men, men gonna do what men do.
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SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
1:04:46
SPEAKER_07: I mean, we ain't gonna stop that.
1:04:48
SPEAKER_07: But I'm just saying for women, y'all gotta stop building up these numbers on bullshit niggas.
1:04:53
SPEAKER_07: It comes a time when you gotta be like, you know what, I'm cutting the whole water off until I find him.
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SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
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SPEAKER_07: And that's the whole thing.
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SPEAKER_07: Because if you really that confident in yourself, like you that woman, and you the one, and you deserve this, that, and the third, why would you say, I'ma eat healthy, I'ma drink my water, I'ma exercise, but I'm gonna fuck a dirty nigga.
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SPEAKER_02: Amen.
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SPEAKER_02: Boom.
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SPEAKER_02: That doesn't gonna work.
1:05:16
SPEAKER_02: Don't make sense.
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SPEAKER_02: You nailed it.
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SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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SPEAKER_07: Make it make sense.
1:05:21
SPEAKER_02: So, yes, y'all.
1:05:22
SPEAKER_02: We are here, we are coming to an end.
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SPEAKER_02: And like you said, did you have anything else?
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SPEAKER_02: Uh, nah, no.
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SPEAKER_02: Nah, because you just nailed it.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, I swear to God, like, stop.
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SPEAKER_07: No, it is what it is.
1:05:34
SPEAKER_07: Like, you know, I'm just saying, you know, go after, like me, I'm gonna go.
1:05:37
SPEAKER_07: We all make mistakes.
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SPEAKER_07: Have I picked the wrong woman a time or two?
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SPEAKER_07: Fuck yeah.
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SPEAKER_07: I'm not gonna sit and say, oh no, I hit I hit 7 Eleven on every road.
1:05:45
SPEAKER_07: No, that's a goddamn lie.
1:05:46
SPEAKER_07: But I learned from that shit.
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SPEAKER_07: Yeah, yeah.
1:05:48
SPEAKER_07: You know what I'm saying?
1:05:49
SPEAKER_07: I learned from that shit.
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SPEAKER_07: So now I'm targeting who I want, what I want, and what I want you to do.
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SPEAKER_07: Can you fulfill that?
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SPEAKER_07: I don't need no woman to take care of me.
1:05:58
SPEAKER_07: I take care of myself.
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SPEAKER_07: But I I need you to be able to take care of me in ways that a woman is supposed to.
1:06:03
SPEAKER_07: And I ain't talking about sex.
1:06:05
SPEAKER_07: I'm talking about as a whole lady is supposed to treat a man of the caliber that I feel I am.
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SPEAKER_02: Yep.
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SPEAKER_07: No, and I ain't settling for nothing less.
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SPEAKER_02: Period.
1:06:14
SPEAKER_02: So you guys, money do not make you a qualified man.
1:06:18
SPEAKER_02: And being a baddie will not be, will not make you a wife material.
1:06:23
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1:06:26
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1:06:33
SPEAKER_02: All right, Tom.
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SPEAKER_02: We love y'all.
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SPEAKER_07: Love y'all.
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SPEAKER_07: Have a good one.