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Diva Kat Details: Inside the Pressure of Beauty in the Asian Community · The Diva Details

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  Just fearless conversations to help you thrive. Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Kat.
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  Hello, guys. This is Diva Kat. Today, we're going to talk about our Asian community,
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  about how we look, how we dress.
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  We're going to go deep down and dirty. Women after 50s, after 40s,
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  it's all about pressure, right?
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  Let's dive into it. The unspoken pressure with the beauty in our Asian community
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  is very, very big pressure.
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  Our light skin, We're always so insecure about our skin, our eyes, our face.
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  We don't always accept who we are. We don't appreciate what we have.
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  For example, this weekend, I get to spend a lot of time in my community the
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  whole weekend, actually.
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  You know, with all the beauty pageants because of Laos New Year coming up. We have so many, many.
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  The whole conversation in that table is about the light skin,
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  your double eyelids, your wee shave.
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  People will come right out and say, do you have your eyelids done?
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  Let's go do this. Let's go do that. Let's go to Thailand and do this.
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  Let's go to Korea and do a plastic surgery.
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  That was the whole conversation. Instead of asking, hey, how are you doing?
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  You've been well. How's family doing? I know that happened.
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  I think we need to change that. Don't you think? I think in our community,
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  we are so into the social medias now.
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  The Facebook Live has got to go, I think. And we are so hooked on.
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  There's people make TikTok. I mean, myself included. I keep watching this TikTok
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  about people go to Korea to get the plastic surgery.
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  How much it costs, the trouble, the plan out, the game plans.
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  I think we have big expectations on that part.
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  Of our culture, myself included. I want to remind everyone, you know,
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  to step up and step back. We appreciate who we are.
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  We appreciate what we have and appreciate that we are wake up,
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  breathing, alive, healthy, be able to move, be able to take care of family.
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  I think we have to appreciate on that part.
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  Instead of wake up, look at yourself in the mirror. Oh my God,
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  my face got wrinkled. My face gets so puffy.
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  My face, any double chin, I had to look up what should we do about this. That is very, very bad.
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  Asian beauty standard is to look young as an Asian culture.
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  Our Asian beauty. Guys, guess what? We are very fortunate because us Asians,
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  we do not age. We have good skin.
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  We have great complexion. We have a beautiful, small, tiny nose, little eyes.
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  I think it's cute. As you're older, your eyes start to, your eyelids start to
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  fall over your eyeballs. Then you're blocking your vision.
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  Then something has to be done, medically wise. My son and I actually have my
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  eyelid done because one of my eyes, it fall over and make it look like I have
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  one's eyes so small and one's eyes so big.
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  So you know what? I just went ahead and did both eyes. And I'm a victim of that.
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  I loved it. This, I think that's what it's called classic surgery, addiction.
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  You have one, they say the following one's going to come up, which is true.
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  I caught myself, look at myself in the morning, every morning.
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  Look at my eyes, look at my nose. Not that I'm not happy with my nose.
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  I'm not happy with my eyes. But at this point right now, I think we all need
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  to step back, myself included.
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  Talked a lot about get my arms done, get my tummy tuck, get my nose done.
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  But then you won't look like you, right?
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  We should appreciate that our skin, our culture, we have passed it down for years and years.
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  We are very strong. All of those beauty with the skin care, we could take care
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  of it with like the traditional.
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  You could do your regular rice water. You could do your turmeric.
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  You could do your ginseng. You could do your body scrub.
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  All of those you could do on your own without plastic surgery.
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  But the key is, I think we need to...
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  Be consistent. When you're over 50, you say, oh, I'm too old to do this. I'm too old to do that.
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  No, you're never too old to take
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  care of yourself. And self-love is not selfish. That goes to everybody.
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  Especially when you get older, I think you need a lot too. You need to stay
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  healthy, get up, and dress is appropriately a traditional way to dress,
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  which is I love my traditional outfit.
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  You could get it very, very flattering myself, and I love it.
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  And especially with our skin care and our jewelry, with anti-aging skin care
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  out there, our body just made for those.
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  And we appreciate it. So you don't need to nip-tip and just let it be.
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  But lately, the cosmetic surgery among Asian women is a big, like, hot topic.
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  Go overseas, go back to Thailand, do the eyelid, go back to Korea,
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  do the whole plastic surgery done. go to Japan is very, very high rise now.
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  Yeah, the cosmetic procedure is actually sky high when people go to overseas.
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  I have to suggest so before you go, you need to study those facilities.
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  What do they have? What do they do? You might come back with just one kidney.
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  That's what I'm trying to say.
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  So what's common about women over 50 when they go get it done without stereotype?
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  They had their whole face done. I know one woman, I came back,
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  I could not recognize her. It looks very pretty though.
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  If I don't know her before, people who just met her, it's actually very,
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  very, she's a very pretty woman. Especially with her no eyes and no nose.
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  People, just don't go crazy. Before you go, I suggest you study.
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  And I'm sure everyone will already know, you know, before they go,
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  they do all their research.
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  What thing that had to be done, what the shape looks like, all the facilities, is it safe enough?
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  All of those had to be studied and done before you go, if you decided to go.
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  And do not let no one shame yourself to do it.
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  You have to want to do it and you have to be clear about it.
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  To me, I would not do, if I'm going to do plastic surgery, I'm going to do right
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  at home. I'm not going through that far. Just in case anything happens. You never know.
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  When you go under anesthesia, anything possible. I would not go overseas to do it.
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  But then again, my husband, my family probably would not do it.
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  Yeah, just don't be ashamed to it. Make sure you do your research. Do what you have done.
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  See what the outcome looks like. See before and after.
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  The facelift option, the non-invasive surgery, cosmetic treatment.
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  It's so much to do out
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  there to avoid all that i think we still have
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  time for women after 50 when you start doing try to research for the non-invasive
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  part first i heard microneedling is very good for your skin i'm i mean myself
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  going to try to do that with my underarm because i'm very insecure about my
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  underarm but microneedling is supposedly have very good successful.
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  It takes time, but it's going to get there, right? You don't want to look too traumatic to do it.
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  But if you feel comfortable, you have enough fun, you have a gut to do it, then I'm all for it.
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  Let's talk about the natural or not.
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  Let's talk about the transparency, the judgment, the self-love.
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  When us get together, the first one, we say, oh, wow, you get skinny. You can look better.
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  Instead of, hi, how are you? How are your family doing? How kids are doing?
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  No, I think we need to change the way we approach each other.
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  Aging gracefully versus aging intentionally are two different things.
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  You're aging gracefully, you look healthy, you look refreshed.
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  But aging intentionally, that's another whole scenario.
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  People who have a lot of stress, people who have a lot of depletion,
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  we cannot judge them by that.
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  And everyone wants to wake up, be healthy, be looking beautiful.
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  But it's not always that way.
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  The plastic surgery, I think, should be the last resort. I'm all about get your facial regularly.
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  Should you keep it privately or should you keep it openly talked about it?
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  But I do have people approach me, ask me about it. And I just tell them,
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  you know, I have my facial regularly and my eyelid done.
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  And I take care of myself. Every morning, I put a mask on. If you want to know
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  about the beauty routine, there's so many out there to do your own research.
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  For me, I need to accept who I am and we all need to accept who we are.
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  We all need to accept how we look, how we age.
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  Stay healthy. All I want right now, just stay healthy. I love Botox.
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  But everybody telling me that Botox is, you know, especially diva Mia,
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  it's all about all natural.
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  Laters, you could age and let your Botox help. But don't do too much of it because
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  otherwise your face gets freezed up.
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  I see people do like their face, it turns to be like cement.
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  To me, plastic surgery is the last resort.
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  If you could go naturally, you could go non-invasive, just go for it.
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  Let's talk about the East Missouet, how Asian facial anatomy changes after the
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  surgery. Us, the Western beauty clinic, don't always understand our Asian voice structures.
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  I think that's why we all like to go to overseas to take care of ourselves.
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  And we get sensitive about our eyelids, our jawlines, need to be reshaping.
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  The non-vasive treatment, that actually works.
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  Our Asian skin is actually opened up. We don't scar easily and we don't age
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  easily. We don't get burned easily.
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  The laser actually works. You don't need to, the rise of ultra therapy,
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  the red light therapy, the thread lift actually is very famous right now.
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  The refined micro-needling in Asian beauty is actually very on the rise.
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  Our skincare, the Asian skincare, it's actually very good.
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  Search about it. You can get all of those. It's very cheap on Amazon.
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  But just do it consistently.
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  The non-invasive facelift Asian skin, which is the thread left in Asian women,
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  I've heard a lot about it. And I actually look at the video.
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  It looks scary. I have to tell you that. Eyelids is, this conversation is coming up a lot.
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  The eyelids, unfortunately, we cannot do it natural way.
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  We have to go through what they call the eyelid surgery. After you're older,
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  your skin's sagging and your eyes, your eye is the first thing people see.
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  That's why it's more noticeable. That's why people are more focused on the eyelid than everywhere else.
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  Facial contouring, the real-life surgery, the search for ideal jaw, your neck lift.
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  Actually, they have exercise about that.
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  There's a YouTube coming out about yoga on your face. You should try to look it up.
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  It only takes 15 minutes. It's just like when you're watching your TV in the
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  evening, you're wide down.
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  Try that before you go for surgery. You know, same thing with your below chin.
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  Same thing with your arm. I just heard that the arm tighten up, the leg tighten.
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  There's a new thing coming up. It's called micro-needling.
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  You could get that from Amazon. You could use that procedure to work on yourself.
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  I mean, try everything else before that. But obviously plastic surgery is an easy thing.
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  If you get it right, the tummy tuck, the breast lift, the body sculpture,
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  it's happening after you turn 50, you post-menopause, that's going to happen.
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  I would try the natural way first before I go on to under the knife.
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  What I'm trying to say is that under the knife is very risky.
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  For your eyelid, just try the natural way. Right now, I'm working on my eyes
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  lid and my lower. I do the eye cream.
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  I do the eyes mask first thing in the morning. The ice cold ice mat actually
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  felt really good when you first wake up.
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  You know, the ice mask for your eyes and the face mask for your face.
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  I kept mine in the refrigerator.
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  Put it on as soon as I wake up. It actually helped me wake up.
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  For the non-invasive skin tighten, you could use the ultra-therapy,
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  thermos, and another thing is micro-nailing that I mentioned it before.
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  It's actually very popular. But you have to do consistency. That's the key word,
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  consistency. Your neck and your lower facelift is like the second underneath the jawline.
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  I mean myself having one. I just ordered this thing called red light therapy.
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  It's like a little instrument. It's like fit perfectly underneath your chins.
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  Turn it up and vibrating and smooth up and down.
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  It's bigger. And I'm going to do it under my eyes as well. I'm going to do it around my cheek.
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  Actually, it's going to be good. I am working on it. Right now,
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  I want to be able to using my hand to help me to get up. That's why I practice yoga every day, ladies.
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  Yoga every day. 15 minutes, that's all you need in the morning.
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  Your self-love, it's okay.
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  15 minutes to 30 minutes a day for yourself. Pick the time the first thing you wake up.
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  I wake up early, an hour for everybody else just to take care of myself.
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  Do your whole skin routine, do your meditating, do your face,
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  do your yoga, you do your stretching, and that's how it works.
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  I want you to take away where you are enough and you are healthy. This is
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  Diva Cats, let me know whether you have any questions or any suggestions.
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  Stay healthy, guy, and be fabulous. Talk to you soon. Bye.
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