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Why Do I Feel Pressure to Look Financially Successful at Church? · Becoming Financially Confident

• 0:37
  Have
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  you
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  ever
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  walked
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  into
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  church
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  and
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  felt
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  like
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  you
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  had
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  to
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  look
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  perfect,
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  like
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  your
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  life
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  needed
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  to
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  be
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  together,
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  your
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  finances
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  needed
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  to
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  look
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  stable?
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  Even
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  when
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  being
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  honest,
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  that's
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  not
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  your
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  reality.
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  If
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  you're
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  tired
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  of
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  performing
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  instead
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  of
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  living
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  in
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  truth,
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  today
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  we're
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  going
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  to
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  lift
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  that
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  weight
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  off
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  your
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  shoulders.
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  Going
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  to
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  be
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  a
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  great
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  show
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  today.
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  Hello,
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  friend,
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  Ralph
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  Estep
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  Jr.
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  Here.
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  Welcome
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  to
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  Financially
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  Confident
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  Christian,
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  the
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  show
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  where
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  every
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  day
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  my
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  goal
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  is
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  to
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  help
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  you
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  break
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  that
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  cycle
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  of
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  financial
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  shame
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  and
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  find
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  confidence
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  and
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  man.
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  We
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  have
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  got
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  a
• 1:31
  question
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  today.
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  Today's
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  topic
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  is
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  about
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  why
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  we
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  feel
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  pressure
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  to
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  look
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  financially
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  successful
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  even
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  at
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  church.
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  Let's
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  get
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  right
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  into
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  today's
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  listener
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  question.
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  Ralph
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  I
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  feel
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  this
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  quiet
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  pressure
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  in
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  church
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  to
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  look
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  like
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  I
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  have
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  it
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  all
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  together
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  financially,
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  even
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  when
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  I
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  don't.
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  It's
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  exhausting
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  trying
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  to
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  keep
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  up
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  appearances
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  and
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  measure
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  up
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  to
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  what
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  others
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  seem
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  to
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  have.
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  keep
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  performing
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  or
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  comparing.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  live
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  with
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  honesty,
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  contentment
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  and
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  peace.
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  How
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  do
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  I
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  let
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  go
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  of
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  that
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  pressure
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  and
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  relate
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  to
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  money
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  in
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  a
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  way
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  that
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  feels
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  genuine
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  and
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  grounded?
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  I
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  think
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  you
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  said
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  the
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  part
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  out
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  loud
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  that
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  most
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  people
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  don't
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  say,
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  but
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  a
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  lot
• 2:15
  of
• 2:15
  people
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  feel
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  it.
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  You
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  it,
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  but
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  here's
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  the
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  truth.
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  That
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  pressure
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  you're
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  feeling,
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  that's
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  not
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  coming
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  from
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  God.
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  Your
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  identity
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  is
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  not
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  defined
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  by
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  appearances.
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  I
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  could
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  stop
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  right
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  there
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  because
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  that's
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  the
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  whole
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  answer,
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  isn't
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  it?
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  But
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  your
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  identity
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  is
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  rooted
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  in
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  before
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  God.
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  And
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  that
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  sounds
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  like
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  a
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  great
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  pie
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  in
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  the
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  sky
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  idea,
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  but
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  how
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  do
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  you
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  really
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  change
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  the
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  dynamic
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  here?
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  First
• 2:44
  thing
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  you've
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  got
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  to
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  do,
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  you've
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  got
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  to
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  recognize
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  where
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  the
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  pressure
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  is
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  coming
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  from.
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  Let's
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  name
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  it.
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  The
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  pressure
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  that
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  you're
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  feeling,
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  based
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  on
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  your
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  question
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  today,
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  is
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  coming
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  from
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  three
• 2:55
  things.
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  It's
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  coming
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  from
• 2:57
  comparison
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  of
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  others,
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  assumptions
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  and
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  silent
• 3:00
  expectations.
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  Because
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  all
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  of
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  us,
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  we
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  see
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  what
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  others
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  present
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  and
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  your
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  mind
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  fills
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  in
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  the
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  rest.
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  You
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  see
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  somebody
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  at
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  church
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  and
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  you
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  go,
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  oh,
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  they
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  must
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  be
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  doing
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  better
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  than
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  I
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  am.
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  They
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  must
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  have
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  got
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  it
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  all
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  figured
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  out.
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  But
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  what
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  you
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  don't
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  realize
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  is
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  you're
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  comparing
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  a
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  reality
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  that
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  probably
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  doesn't
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  exist.
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  What
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  you
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  don't
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  know
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  behind
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  the
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  scenes
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  is
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  they're
• 3:27
  jacked
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  up
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  as
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  you
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  are.
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  You
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  might
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  think
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  they
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  got
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  it
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  all
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  together.
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  Let
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  me
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  tell
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  you
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  right
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  now,
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  if
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  you're
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  in
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  church,
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  you
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  don't
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  have
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  it
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  all
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  together.
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  So
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  you
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  got
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  to
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  start
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  by
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  understanding
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  that
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  you're
• 3:40
  trapping
• 3:41
  yourself
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  in
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  this
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  comparison
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  of
• 3:42
  a
• 3:42
  reality,
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  of
• 3:43
  a
• 3:43
  highlight
• 3:44
  reel
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  that
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  doesn't
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  exist
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  but
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  separate
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  your
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  faith
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  from
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  your
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  financial
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  appearance.
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  I'm
• 3:51
  getting
• 3:51
  ready
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  to
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  step
• 3:52
  on
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  some
• 3:52
  toes
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  now.
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  Church
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  is
• 3:54
  not
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  a
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  place
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  to
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  display
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  success.
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  If
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  that's
• 3:58
  why
• 3:58
  you're
• 3:58
  going
• 3:59
  to
• 3:59
  church,
• 3:59
  stay
• 3:59
  home.
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  Church
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  is
• 4:02
  a
• 4:02
  place
• 4:02
  to
• 4:03
  find
• 4:03
  grace.
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  Church
• 4:05
  is
• 4:06
  the
• 4:06
  very
• 4:06
  definition
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  of
• 4:07
  the
• 4:07
  place
• 4:08
  where
• 4:08
  we
• 4:08
  come
• 4:08
  when
• 4:08
  we
• 4:09
  are
• 4:09
  broken.
• 4:12
  When
• 4:12
  you
• 4:12
  walk
• 4:12
  into
• 4:13
  that
• 4:13
  church,
• 4:15
  you're
• 4:15
  broken,
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  you're
• 4:17
  hurting.
• 4:19
  That's
• 4:19
  why
• 4:19
  you're
• 4:19
  there.
• 4:21
  God
• 4:21
  isn't
• 4:22
  measuring
• 4:22
  you
• 4:22
  by
• 4:23
  the
• 4:23
  car
• 4:23
  you
• 4:23
  pulled
• 4:23
  up
• 4:24
  in.
• 4:24
  God
• 4:25
  isn't
• 4:25
  measuring
• 4:25
  by
• 4:26
  you,
• 4:26
  by
• 4:26
  the
• 4:26
  clothes
• 4:27
  you're
• 4:27
  wearing
• 4:27
  or
• 4:27
  the
• 4:27
  lifestyle
• 4:28
  that
• 4:28
  you're
• 4:28
  living.
• 4:30
  God
• 4:30
  could
• 4:30
  care
• 4:31
  less
• 4:31
  about
• 4:31
  any
• 4:31
  of
• 4:32
  those
• 4:32
  things.
• 4:32
  He's
• 4:33
  looking
• 4:33
  right
• 4:33
  into
• 4:33
  your
• 4:34
  heart.
• 4:36
  What's
• 4:36
  in
• 4:36
  your
• 4:37
  heart
• 4:38
  and
• 4:39
  your
• 4:39
  financial
• 4:39
  situation
• 4:40
  doesn't
• 4:40
  change
• 4:41
  your
• 4:41
  standing
• 4:41
  with
• 4:41
  God.
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  So
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  first
• 4:42
  thing,
• 4:43
  stop
• 4:43
  comparing
• 4:44
  yourself.
• 4:46
  God
• 4:46
  could
• 4:46
  care
• 4:46
  less
• 4:47
  about
• 4:47
  those
• 4:47
  things.
• 4:49
  Start
• 4:49
  choosing
• 4:50
  honesty
• 4:50
  over
• 4:51
  performance.
• 4:52
  That
• 4:52
  performance
• 4:52
  you're
• 4:53
  talking
• 4:53
  about
• 4:53
  is
• 4:53
  exhausting.
• 4:54
  You
• 4:55
  know
• 4:55
  why?
• 4:55
  Because
• 4:55
  it's
• 4:55
  not
• 4:56
  sustainable.
• 4:58
  That
• 4:58
  performance
• 4:58
  is
• 4:58
  only
• 4:59
  going
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  last
• 4:59
  so
• 4:59
  long.
• 5:00
  You
• 5:00
  know
• 5:00
  who
• 5:00
  I'm
• 5:00
  talking
• 5:01
  about?
• 5:02
  The
• 5:02
  people
• 5:02
  who
• 5:02
  are
• 5:02
  always
• 5:03
  performing.
• 5:04
  They
• 5:05
  have
• 5:05
  that
• 5:05
  breaking
• 5:05
  point.
• 5:07
  So
• 5:08
  instead
• 5:08
  of
• 5:08
  asking
• 5:09
  yourself,
• 5:09
  hey,
• 5:09
  how
• 5:10
  do
• 5:10
  I
• 5:10
  look
• 5:10
  today?
• 5:12
  Ask
• 5:12
  yourself,
• 5:13
  am
• 5:13
  I
• 5:13
  living
• 5:13
  in
• 5:14
  truth?
• 5:16
  Am
• 5:16
  I
• 5:16
  living
• 5:17
  in
• 5:18
  truth?
• 5:20
  And
• 5:20
  that
• 5:20
  may
• 5:20
  be
• 5:20
  uncomfortable.
• 5:22
  That
• 5:22
  might
• 5:22
  mean
• 5:23
  being
• 5:23
  more
• 5:23
  open
• 5:23
  with
• 5:24
  some
• 5:24
  trusted
• 5:24
  people
• 5:24
  and
• 5:25
  saying,
• 5:25
  people,
• 5:25
  look
• 5:25
  at,
• 5:25
  I'm
• 5:26
  broken,
• 5:26
  dude.
• 5:27
  I'm
• 5:27
  struggling
• 5:28
  here.
• 5:28
  I
• 5:29
  need
• 5:29
  help.
• 5:29
  I
• 5:29
  need
• 5:30
  your
• 5:30
  prayers.
• 5:31
  You
• 5:31
  know,
• 5:31
  the
• 5:31
  person
• 5:32
  in
• 5:32
  church
• 5:32
  is
• 5:32
  always
• 5:32
  saying,
• 5:33
  I
• 5:33
  need
• 5:33
  prayers
• 5:33
  for
• 5:34
  this.
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  need
• 5:34
  prayers
• 5:34
  for
• 5:34
  that.
• 5:35
  I
• 5:35
  love
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  person.
• 5:37
  Because
• 5:37
  they're
• 5:37
  opening
• 5:38
  up.
• 5:38
  That's
• 5:38
  why
• 5:39
  we're
• 5:39
  in
• 5:39
  church.
• 5:39
  We're
• 5:40
  in
• 5:40
  church
• 5:40
  for
• 5:40
  community.
• 5:41
  We're
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  church
• 5:42
  for
• 5:42
  people
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  help
• 5:42
  us.
• 5:43
  That's
• 5:43
  the
• 5:43
  secret
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  it.
• 5:46
  Stop
• 5:47
  overextending
• 5:48
  yourself
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  keep
• 5:49
  up
• 5:49
  with
• 5:49
  other
• 5:49
  people.
• 5:51
  Let
• 5:51
  go
• 5:51
  of
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  need
• 5:52
  to
• 5:52
  impress.
• 5:54
  That's
• 5:54
  the
• 5:55
  stuff
• 5:55
  that's
• 5:55
  driving
• 5:55
  you
• 5:56
  crazy.
• 5:58
  Because
• 5:59
  when
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  can
• 5:59
  be
• 5:59
  honest
• 6:00
  with
• 6:00
  yourself,
• 6:00
  then
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  will
• 6:01
  find
• 6:01
  peace.
• 6:05
  But
• 6:05
  you
• 6:05
  gotta
• 6:05
  really
• 6:06
  define
• 6:06
  what
• 6:06
  together
• 6:06
  really
• 6:07
  looks
• 6:07
  like.
• 6:10
  You
• 6:10
  use
• 6:10
  the
• 6:10
  term
• 6:11
  in
• 6:11
  your
• 6:11
  question,
• 6:11
  Having
• 6:11
  it
• 6:12
  all
• 6:12
  together.
• 6:12
  What
• 6:12
  does
• 6:12
  it
• 6:13
  actually
• 6:13
  look
• 6:13
  like?
• 6:15
  It's
• 6:15
  not
• 6:15
  some
• 6:16
  perfect
• 6:16
  spreadsheet.
• 6:17
  It's
• 6:17
  not
• 6:17
  zero
• 6:18
  debt.
• 6:19
  It's
• 6:19
  not
• 6:20
  everything
• 6:20
  finally
• 6:21
  working.
• 6:22
  It
• 6:22
  looks
• 6:23
  like
• 6:23
  this.
• 6:23
  Let
• 6:23
  me
• 6:23
  paint
• 6:23
  a
• 6:23
  picture
• 6:24
  for
• 6:24
  you.
• 6:25
  Here's
• 6:25
  what
• 6:25
  it
• 6:25
  looks
• 6:26
  like.
• 6:26
  Someone
• 6:26
  sitting
• 6:26
  at
• 6:27
  their
• 6:27
  kitchen
• 6:27
  table.
• 6:28
  Just
• 6:28
  picture
• 6:29
  this.
• 6:29
  Late
• 6:29
  at
• 6:29
  night,
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  kids
• 6:30
  are
• 6:30
  in
• 6:30
  bed.
• 6:31
  House
• 6:31
  is
• 6:32
  quiet.
• 6:34
  They
• 6:34
  got
• 6:34
  their
• 6:34
  phone
• 6:34
  in
• 6:35
  their
• 6:35
  hand.
• 6:35
  And
• 6:35
  for
• 6:35
  a
• 6:36
  second,
• 6:37
  they
• 6:37
  don't
• 6:37
  even
• 6:38
  want
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  look
• 6:39
  because
• 6:40
  they
• 6:40
  already
• 6:40
  feel
• 6:40
  behind.
• 6:42
  They
• 6:42
  already
• 6:43
  feel
• 6:43
  like
• 6:43
  they
• 6:43
  should
• 6:43
  have
• 6:43
  done
• 6:44
  better,
• 6:46
  but
• 6:46
  this
• 6:46
  time
• 6:46
  they
• 6:47
  don't
• 6:47
  close
• 6:47
  that
• 6:47
  app.
• 6:48
  They
• 6:49
  don't
• 6:49
  avoid
• 6:49
  it.
• 6:50
  They
• 6:50
  don't
• 6:50
  say,
• 6:51
  I'll
• 6:51
  deal
• 6:51
  with
• 6:51
  that
• 6:51
  later.
• 6:53
  They
• 6:53
  take
• 6:53
  a
• 6:53
  breath
• 6:55
  and
• 6:55
  they
• 6:55
  look
• 6:56
  and
• 6:56
  they
• 6:56
  see
• 6:56
  the
• 6:57
  number
• 6:57
  they
• 6:57
  don't
• 6:57
  like.
• 6:59
  But
• 7:00
  they
• 7:00
  don't
• 7:00
  run
• 7:00
  from
• 7:00
  it
• 7:00
  either.
• 7:02
  They
• 7:03
  say,
• 7:03
  okay,
• 7:03
  this
• 7:04
  is
• 7:04
  where
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  am.
• 7:05
  Not
• 7:05
  where
• 7:05
  I
• 7:06
  wish
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  was,
• 7:06
  not
• 7:07
  where
• 7:07
  I
• 7:07
  pretend
• 7:07
  to
• 7:08
  be.
• 7:08
  This
• 7:08
  is
• 7:09
  where
• 7:09
  I
• 7:09
  am,
• 7:10
  actually.
• 7:12
  And
• 7:12
  in
• 7:12
  that
• 7:13
  moment,
• 7:13
  something
• 7:13
  shifts.
• 7:15
  The
• 7:15
  numbers
• 7:15
  didn't
• 7:16
  change.
• 7:17
  The
• 7:17
  situation's
• 7:18
  not
• 7:18
  going
• 7:18
  to
• 7:19
  change
• 7:19
  magically.
• 7:19
  But
• 7:20
  they
• 7:20
  changed.
• 7:22
  Because
• 7:22
  now
• 7:22
  they're
• 7:23
  not
• 7:23
  hiding
• 7:23
  anymore.
• 7:24
  They're
• 7:25
  not
• 7:25
  guessing
• 7:25
  anymore.
• 7:27
  They're
• 7:27
  not
• 7:27
  pretending
• 7:28
  anymore.
• 7:29
  They
• 7:30
  make
• 7:30
  one
• 7:30
  small
• 7:30
  decision.
• 7:32
  Maybe
• 7:32
  they
• 7:32
  move
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  little
• 7:33
  money.
• 7:34
  Maybe
• 7:34
  they
• 7:34
  decide
• 7:35
  to
• 7:35
  wait
• 7:35
  on
• 7:35
  something.
• 7:36
  Maybe
• 7:37
  they
• 7:37
  just
• 7:37
  say,
• 7:37
  I'm
• 7:38
  going
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  check
• 7:38
  this
• 7:38
  again
• 7:39
  next
• 7:39
  week.
• 7:40
  That's
• 7:41
  it.
• 7:42
  Nothing
• 7:43
  dramatic,
• 7:44
  nothing
• 7:45
  flashy,
• 7:47
  but
• 7:47
  just
• 7:47
  that.
• 7:49
  See,
• 7:49
  that's
• 7:49
  what
• 7:50
  having
• 7:50
  it
• 7:50
  all
• 7:50
  together
• 7:51
  looks
• 7:51
  like
• 7:51
  in
• 7:51
  reality.
• 7:53
  Not
• 7:53
  perfect,
• 7:54
  not
• 7:55
  polished,
• 7:56
  not
• 7:56
  finished.
• 7:58
  Just
• 7:58
  honest,
• 8:00
  steady
• 8:00
  and
• 8:01
  willing
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  take
• 8:01
  the
• 8:02
  next
• 8:02
  step.
• 8:04
  You
• 8:04
  don't
• 8:04
  have
• 8:04
  to
• 8:04
  have
• 8:05
  everything
• 8:05
  figured
• 8:05
  out.
• 8:07
  You
• 8:07
  just
• 8:08
  have
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  start
• 8:08
  moving
• 8:08
  forward.
• 8:10
  But
• 8:11
  remember
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  anchor
• 8:12
  your
• 8:12
  worth
• 8:13
  in
• 8:13
  God,
• 8:13
  not
• 8:14
  comparison.
• 8:16
  Let's
• 8:16
  bring
• 8:16
  this
• 8:16
  to
• 8:17
  the
• 8:17
  core,
• 8:18
  because
• 8:18
  I
• 8:19
  think
• 8:19
  what
• 8:19
  you're
• 8:19
  really
• 8:19
  alluding
• 8:20
  to
• 8:20
  today
• 8:20
  is
• 8:21
  comparison.
• 8:22
  Comparison
• 8:23
  is
• 8:23
  always
• 8:24
  going
• 8:24
  to
• 8:24
  steal
• 8:24
  your
• 8:25
  peace.
• 8:26
  Because
• 8:27
  guess
• 8:27
  what?
• 8:27
  You're
• 8:27
  not
• 8:27
  that
• 8:28
  other
• 8:28
  person.
• 8:29
  You're
• 8:29
  not
• 8:29
  their
• 8:29
  experiences.
• 8:30
  You're
• 8:30
  not
• 8:30
  what
• 8:31
  they
• 8:31
  are.
• 8:32
  And
• 8:32
  if
• 8:33
  that's
• 8:33
  where
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  think
• 8:33
  you're
• 8:33
  going
• 8:33
  to
• 8:34
  find
• 8:34
  your
• 8:34
  identity.
• 8:34
  You're
• 8:35
  always
• 8:35
  going
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  be
• 8:35
  short.
• 8:37
  But
• 8:37
  when
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  identify
• 8:39
  yourself
• 8:39
  rooted
• 8:40
  in
• 8:40
  God,
• 8:41
  you
• 8:41
  don't
• 8:41
  need
• 8:41
  to
• 8:42
  prove
• 8:42
  anything.
• 8:44
  You
• 8:44
  don't
• 8:44
  have
• 8:44
  anybody
• 8:45
  to
• 8:45
  impress.
• 8:46
  You
• 8:47
  don't
• 8:47
  have
• 8:47
  to
• 8:47
  perform.
• 8:47
  You
• 8:48
  don't
• 8:48
  have
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  measure
• 8:48
  up.
• 8:49
  Guess
• 8:49
  what?
• 8:50
  In
• 8:50
  God's
• 8:50
  eyes,
• 8:50
  you're
• 8:50
  already
• 8:51
  known.
• 8:52
  You're
• 8:52
  already
• 8:52
  loved.
• 8:54
  And
• 8:54
  hear
• 8:54
  me,
• 8:55
  you
• 8:56
  are
• 8:56
  already
• 8:56
  enough
• 8:59
  friend.
• 9:00
  You
• 9:00
  don't
• 9:00
  have
• 9:00
  to
• 9:00
  look
• 9:00
  successful
• 9:01
  to
• 9:01
  be
• 9:01
  spiritually
• 9:02
  secure.
• 9:03
  You
• 9:04
  just
• 9:04
  don't.
• 9:06
  So
• 9:06
  here's
• 9:06
  your
• 9:06
  win
• 9:06
  for
• 9:07
  today.
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  want
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  to
• 9:09
  really
• 9:09
  think
• 9:09
  about
• 9:09
  this.
• 9:10
  Identify
• 9:11
  one
• 9:11
  area
• 9:11
  where
• 9:12
  you've
• 9:12
  been
• 9:12
  performing.
• 9:14
  Just
• 9:14
  take
• 9:14
  a
• 9:14
  second,
• 9:15
  think,
• 9:15
  where
• 9:15
  have
• 9:15
  I
• 9:15
  been
• 9:16
  performing?
• 9:17
  Where
• 9:18
  have
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  been
• 9:18
  misleading
• 9:19
  myself?
• 9:21
  And
• 9:21
  in
• 9:22
  those
• 9:22
  things,
• 9:22
  choose
• 9:22
  honesty
• 9:23
  instead.
• 9:24
  Just
• 9:25
  one
• 9:25
  step,
• 9:26
  just
• 9:26
  one
• 9:26
  shift.
• 9:27
  Because
• 9:28
  when
• 9:28
  you
• 9:28
  can
• 9:28
  do
• 9:28
  that,
• 9:29
  that's
• 9:29
  when
• 9:29
  you'll
• 9:30
  actually
• 9:30
  find
• 9:30
  freedom.
• 9:32
  Let's
• 9:32
  look
• 9:32
  to
• 9:33
  the
• 9:33
  Bible
• 9:33
  for
• 9:33
  some
• 9:34
  reassurance.
• 9:34
  We're
• 9:35
  going
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  go
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  1st
• 9:35
  Samuel,
• 9:36
  chapter
• 9:36
  16,
• 9:37
  verse
• 9:37
  7.
• 9:39
  The
• 9:39
  Lord
• 9:39
  does
• 9:40
  not
• 9:40
  look
• 9:40
  at
• 9:40
  the
• 9:40
  things
• 9:41
  people
• 9:41
  look
• 9:41
  at.
• 9:42
  People
• 9:43
  look
• 9:43
  at
• 9:43
  the
• 9:43
  outward
• 9:44
  appearance,
• 9:45
  but
• 9:45
  the
• 9:46
  Lord
• 9:46
  looks
• 9:46
  at
• 9:46
  the
• 9:46
  heart.
• 9:48
  Drop
• 9:49
  the
• 9:49
  microphone.
• 9:51
  But
• 9:51
  that's
• 9:52
  what
• 9:52
  we're
• 9:52
  talking
• 9:52
  about
• 9:52
  today,
• 9:52
  right?
• 9:54
  God
• 9:54
  is
• 9:54
  not
• 9:55
  concerned
• 9:55
  with
• 9:55
  how
• 9:55
  your
• 9:55
  life
• 9:56
  appears
• 9:56
  to
• 9:56
  others.
• 9:56
  Guess
• 9:57
  what?
• 9:57
  He
• 9:57
  already
• 9:57
  knows.
• 9:58
  God
• 9:59
  knows
• 9:59
  what's
• 9:59
  going
• 10:00
  on.
• 10:00
  You're
• 10:00
  not
• 10:00
  lying
• 10:01
  to
• 10:01
  anybody
• 10:01
  but
• 10:01
  yourself.
• 10:04
  He
• 10:04
  cares
• 10:04
  about
• 10:04
  your
• 10:05
  heart.
• 10:07
  That's
• 10:07
  what
• 10:07
  really
• 10:08
  matters.
• 10:09
  How
• 10:10
  about
• 10:10
  we
• 10:10
  pray
• 10:10
  right
• 10:10
  now
• 10:10
  together?
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  think
• 10:11
  we
• 10:11
  need
• 10:11
  a
• 10:11
  prayer
• 10:12
  together
• 10:12
  today.
• 10:13
  Heavenly
• 10:13
  Father,
• 10:14
  I
• 10:15
  just
• 10:15
  lift
• 10:15
  up
• 10:15
  my
• 10:16
  friend
• 10:16
  who
• 10:16
  feels
• 10:16
  the
• 10:16
  pressure
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  perform.
• 10:18
  Lord,
• 10:19
  I
• 10:19
  felt
• 10:19
  that
• 10:19
  pressure
• 10:20
  before.
• 10:21
  And
• 10:22
  Lord,
• 10:22
  you
• 10:22
  see
• 10:22
  our
• 10:22
  hearts,
• 10:24
  you
• 10:24
  see
• 10:24
  our
• 10:24
  desires
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  live
• 10:25
  honestly
• 10:26
  in
• 10:26
  the
• 10:26
  fine
• 10:26
  peace.
• 10:28
  And
• 10:28
  Lord,
• 10:28
  right
• 10:29
  now
• 10:29
  I
• 10:29
  ask
• 10:29
  you
• 10:29
  to
• 10:29
  help
• 10:30
  us
• 10:30
  to
• 10:30
  remove
• 10:30
  that
• 10:30
  weight
• 10:31
  of
• 10:31
  comparison
• 10:31
  that
• 10:32
  we
• 10:32
  all
• 10:32
  find
• 10:32
  ourselves
• 10:33
  trapped
• 10:33
  in,
• 10:34
  or
• 10:34
  at
• 10:35
  least
• 10:35
  that
• 10:35
  need
• 10:35
  for
• 10:35
  us
• 10:35
  to
• 10:36
  impress
• 10:38
  and
• 10:38
  replace
• 10:38
  that
• 10:39
  pressure
• 10:39
  with
• 10:39
  freedom
• 10:40
  that's
• 10:40
  found
• 10:40
  only
• 10:40
  in
• 10:41
  you.
• 10:42
  Lord,
• 10:42
  help
• 10:43
  us
• 10:43
  all
• 10:43
  to
• 10:43
  see
• 10:43
  ourselves
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  way
• 10:44
  you
• 10:44
  see
• 10:45
  us,
• 10:46
  not
• 10:46
  defined
• 10:47
  by
• 10:47
  appearances,
• 10:48
  but
• 10:48
  actually
• 10:49
  grounded
• 10:49
  in
• 10:49
  your
• 10:50
  love.
• 10:51
  Give
• 10:51
  us
• 10:52
  all
• 10:52
  courage
• 10:52
  to
• 10:52
  live
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  truth
• 10:55
  and
• 10:55
  peace
• 10:56
  in
• 10:56
  who
• 10:56
  we
• 10:56
  are,
• 10:57
  in
• 10:57
  you.
• 10:57
  Because
• 10:58
  that's
• 10:58
  all
• 10:58
  that
• 10:58
  really
• 10:58
  matters
• 10:59
  in
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  end.
• 11:00
  And
• 11:00
  I
• 11:01
  assist
• 11:01
  in
• 11:01
  Jesus
• 11:02
  name.
• 11:03
  Amen.
• 11:06
  Friend.
• 11:06
  You
• 11:06
  don't
• 11:06
  need
• 11:07
  to
• 11:07
  perform
• 11:07
  for
• 11:07
  people.
• 11:09
  You're
• 11:09
  already
• 11:10
  accepted
• 11:10
  by
• 11:10
  God.
• 11:12
  And
• 11:13
  if
• 11:13
  you're
• 11:13
  ready
• 11:13
  to
• 11:13
  let
• 11:13
  go
• 11:14
  of
• 11:14
  comparison
• 11:15
  and
• 11:15
  you
• 11:15
  want
• 11:15
  to
• 11:15
  live
• 11:16
  more
• 11:16
  honestly
• 11:16
  with
• 11:16
  your
• 11:17
  finances,
• 11:18
  why
• 11:18
  don't
• 11:18
  you
• 11:18
  share
• 11:18
  what's
• 11:19
  going
• 11:19
  on
• 11:19
  in
• 11:19
  your
• 11:19
  life?
• 11:20
  Maybe
• 11:20
  you've
• 11:21
  got
• 11:21
  something
• 11:21
  you're
• 11:21
  struggling
• 11:22
  with,
• 11:22
  or
• 11:22
  maybe
• 11:22
  you've
• 11:22
  got
• 11:23
  a
• 11:23
  story
• 11:23
  of
• 11:23
  triumphantness,
• 11:24
  something
• 11:25
  that's
• 11:25
  worked
• 11:25
  for
• 11:25
  you.
• 11:25
  I
• 11:26
  would
• 11:26
  love
• 11:26
  to
• 11:26
  hear
• 11:26
  your
• 11:26
  story.
• 11:27
  I'd
• 11:27
  love
• 11:27
  to
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