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Toxic Masculinity Has Ruined This Generation · The imuRgency Room

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Dear diary, today I took a good long think into my role as a
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straight man and the patriarchy and how I can and oftentimes do
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make women unsafe and put them in unsafe positions and how
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these behaviors then go on to isolate me from the people I'm
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trying to connect with and make me an undesirable weirdo.
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Nah, scratch that, we'll just ain't.
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Hey guys, it's up to emergency and welcome, welcome back to my
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channel. That was just a skit.
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If you are new here and do not know who I am.
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Today's topic is going to be a little more serious just because
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of the nature of the people and themes that we're referencing.
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And I apologize in advance for the speaking and code that I'm
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going to have to do to keep this video up and not stricken down.
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Today we're talking about DV, toxic masculinity and how it's
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been playing out both in the celebrity mainstage as well as
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what it means to continuously platform men that embody these
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things and how the influence and effects of these behaviors go on
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to impact everyone else. Because of the nature of this
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conversation, I did want to provide some resources for
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anyone that is actually experiencing or know someone
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that is experiencing DV. So resources for that will be
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LinkedIn the description below. But let's get into it.
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What are we talking about? Well, over the past couple of
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months, a lot of things have been coming out about we're very
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prominent celebrity and influencer couples that had seen
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to be fine or at most a little toxic devolve into something
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much, much darker and much, much worse.
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And at least outwardly, there seems to be this trend of very
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successful women being done in the absolute worst ways by their
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ex partners, fiance's, and most notably baby daddies.
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And normally, I wouldn't talk about things that have to do
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with things like celebrity drama.
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But I feel like the occurrence of this happening so often
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back-to-back to back-to-back, as well as the public's response to
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this information coming out is very telling and very concerning
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and something that I feel like we can have a deeper
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conversation about because it's not really about these people
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specifically. I mean, it is.
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I hope all the people that we're talking about today are able to
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get the help that they need and move on and move through to
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better. But more so to do with the
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elephant in the room that is toxic masculinity, jealousy,
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manipulation and the likes that we see so many times in everyday
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relationships. But they're just being
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exemplified in the media by these celebrities because, well,
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I don't think that we should look to celebrities as are like
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moral compass for everything. I do think that it's important
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to keep an eye on the things that we let slide or the
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narratives that we let slide and thus begin to normalize in our
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everyday lives as everyday people.
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Because as we know, things like conservatism, blatantly outward
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racism and misogyny are on the rise.
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And it's important that we call these things up what they are
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and don't allow them to just become the norm.
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Because no, now the first situation to talk about that
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kind of set this whole video in motion for me at least.
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What's the situation between streamer DDG and music artist
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and actress Halle Bailey? Yes, The Little Mermaid.
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So as a quick summary, so we're all on the same page, DDG and
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Halle began publicly dating back in January 2022 where they were
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scene together at an Usher show back when Usher was doing that
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residency. That ironically sparked another
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situation very similar to this. But throughout the entire
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relationship, at least publicly, there have been a lot of lore
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and just a lot of on and offness between the two.
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With one notable moment that stands out being when Dodge
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released a song called Famous that criticized Hallie during
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her press tour of The Little Mermaid, the biggest movie of
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her career that she spent years of her life working on.
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And if you want a little taste of like what was said, some of
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the lyrics include filming a movie.
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Now you kissing on dudes, you know I love you a lot.
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I don't give AF if that S for promo.
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I don't want to see this S no more.
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Why y'all holding hands in the photo?
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You know I'm insecure. That's a no no.
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Which I mean, self-awareness is the first step.
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Then in January 2024, Halle and DDG announced the birth of their
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son, Halo, and from there, there had been some speculation that
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the two had split, with a Rep announcing that they hadn't in a
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statement. And it wasn't until October of
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2020 Fourth and the pair officially confirmed their
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separation in a mutually respecting statement with DDGS
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Instagram story statement stating that after much
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reflection and heartfelt conversations, Halle and I have
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decided to go our separate ways. This decision was not easy, but
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we believe it's the best path forward for both of us.
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I cherish the time that we spent together and the love that we've
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shared. Despite the changes in our
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relationship, our love for each other remains deep been true.
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We are still best friends and adore each other.
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As we focus on our individual journeys and our roles as Co
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parents. We cherish the bond that we've
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built in beautiful ones we've shared.
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As we navigate this transition, we ask for your understanding
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and support. Thank you for your love and
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encouragement. Which is a very well worded
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statement and will lead you to believe that this story was over
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and tied nicely with the bow. But if you've been giving up
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over the past couple of months, you know that the story does not
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actually end there. And actually, that statement
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couldn't be further from the actual truth.
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In March of 2025, DDG began taking his custody issues over
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his kid to social media with him claiming that he doesn't like to
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put his business on social media.
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Telling his viewers on March 8th that he just wants to see his
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son and that's it and saying that he wants to be a dad.
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Just plain and simple. Implying that he has not seen
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his son in a while and he's not able to see his son.
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Which created a lot of controversy and a lot of anti
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Halle sentiments online with people saying things like oh
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she's keeping his son from him and running all these
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narratives. But all will be revealed in May
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when Halle Bailey was granted A restraining order against DDG,
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which included and revealed allegations of multiple acts of
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violence, stating that DDG had been physically, verbally,
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emotionally and financially towards her throughout and after
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their relationship in a specific incident detailed in the
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documents. That really unfortunately has
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become a large part of this whole discourse.
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And the fact that this is a discourse at all is wild and not
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just judgement towards DDG because, you know, this was like
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the court case and it's really hard to file or shedding order
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and get it approved unless you actually have like some
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substantial evidence going. But you know, you need to hear
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an R there. This specific incident occurred
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in January where Haley claims that she was strapping Halo into
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his car seat while DDG was repeatedly insulting her with
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her stating that we then fought each other wrestling and tesling
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and at one point Daryl DDG was pulling my hair.
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He then slammed my face on the steering wheel causing my tooth
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to get chipped and I then stopped fighting back as I was
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in a lot of pain. And actually as a result of
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this, some news outlets actually did go ahead and post some of
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the pictures from the case files, which kind of feels like
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an invasion of privacy, which honestly can be a whole separate
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discussion. Like why do people we need those
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photos to even shred up a crumb of empathy?
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We will never know. And on the other side, why would
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we let the court of public opinion sway things so much?
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It means so much more than actual physical evidence.
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I don't know. Other instances that were also
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just as harmful included in the claim include allegedly berating
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her and smashing her Ring camera once he realized that he was
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being recorded, him entering her home when she wasn't there to
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photograph her bed, and accused her of sleeping with other men
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and slamming a car door on her when she was holding her son.
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Another request was for DDG to stop using social media to
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badmouth her. These millions of followers
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stating that he claims I am withholding our son and that I
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am with other men. As a result, I then receive
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threats and hate on social media.
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And in response to all this, in June 2025, DDG filed an
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emergency motion requesting the court to block Hallie Bailey
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from traveling internationally with her son, claiming that she
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was an emotional and physical risk and requested sole custody.
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With the evidence of this being a series of texts that he
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claimed to be alarming. And as a result, that motion was
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swiftly denied. And if you actually seen the
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text, they read as a crash out of someone who has been pushed
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to and over the edge, like someone who has been deeply
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emotionally hurt, which is pretty in line for her
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accusations of being physically and emotionally.
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And the thing about all this is that it is still actively
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happening in real time. As of June 24th, they're
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competing. Permanent restraining orders
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will be reviewed. I think 1 component of this
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that's really interesting is the fact that is that that last
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point in request made by Hallie. Hallie makes so much sense
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considering the fact that DDG has been a long time YouTube and
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streamer, and he himself claims to know the impact of social
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media and how to manipulate a narrative to create and control
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Internet beef. How to win Internet beef?
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The best thing you can do is crack their this they homies.
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This can be family members, friends doesn't matter.
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Diss their homies that is the main thing you have to do.
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No Internet beef have ever resorted in to anybody.
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And unfortunately, when it comes to situations like this,
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reducing very serious things like DV, like any form of abuse
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to an Internet beef is incredibly harmful, dangerous,
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and insensitive to people that are.
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We're actually on the receiving end of all that.
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Because when you think about things like Internet beefs, the
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resolution for an Internet beef is to either get over it or to
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be cancelled when the real life resolution for allegations as
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serious as these in the real world is time in prison.
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So by minimizing the levity of the issue, we're not only
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minimizing the repercussions of this, but also making the actual
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response to this when if and when there is any alleged
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response to this legally seem over over the top and
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dramaticize. And like how he is doing too
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much despite the actual court process going down in the court
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of law and not the court of public opinion.
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Because right now Haley is receiving threats and hate for
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assumptions and ideas of her that either DDG or his fans have
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been putting out, which is actually the craziest work.
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And again, I have to say the courts have granted Haley this
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restraining order, deeming the evidence damning enough to
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warrant the restraining order. Yet she's the one experiencing a
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lot of the public repercussion. Which really makes you wonder,
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why do men and the Internet just hate women?
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And that's just one example. Then you have things like the
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Tory lanes and Megan the Scion drama where you have example of
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woman being harmed by man, the courts supporting the fact that
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woman was harmed by man, yet the public claiming that the woman
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is lying and crazy and making things up and out to get the
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black man when that's not necessarily the case of what's
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going on here. And if you've been anywhere
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online, you've most definitely heard of this go down.
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But just as a summary for those that happened in 2020, Tory Lane
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Megan Thee Stallion in the foot after a party at Kylie Jenner's.
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And in the original police statement, she said that she cut
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her foot with glass. And this is kind of where the
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Internet court of opinion makes her out to seem like a liar that
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she was changing her story. But she has explained an article
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is why she did that. It stated in the motor article
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that in her video, Megan admitted that she did not tell
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the cops what happened, explaining she thought that the
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LAPD was aggressive while recognizing that she should have
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been upfront immediately. I didn't get cut by no glass.
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But let me tell you why they're saying that when the police
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came, they came because the neighbors called the police.
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The police come. I'm scared all this S going on
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with the police. I didn't want to D word.
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I didn't want the police to shoot me in case there was a N
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word with a in the car with me. Essentially implying that
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despite what the court of public opinion is saying about how
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Megan and the courts are out to get a Black man, Megan actively
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in that situation was trying to protect Tori.
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Because, mind you, this was 2020, during the height of the
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Black Lives Matter movement with increasingly heightened tensions
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between Black people and the police.
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And her being aware of that and being aware enough of like, what
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this would look like and what could possibly happen to her and
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to Tori. Has she said that?
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Yeah, there's a black guy with a gun in the car who just shot me
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like, you know, like, think. And despite Tori being found
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guilty, she continuously has to deal with the repercussions of
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this as if she did something wrong herself.
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Because in the court of the public opinion, AKA the court of
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Mostly Men, Megan is claiming to be everything but a child of the
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God. Like the jokes that are made at
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her expense at live appearances and online to the rappers who
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used to be her friends and peers supporting Lanes publicly to
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this day. People like Drake, the baby,
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Chris Brown, etcetera, etcetera. Like every situation in which
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Megan is in, despite her being a victim of that specific
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situation, she's treated as the villain, the perpetrator, and
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the one at fault for this. While Tory being guilty in the
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court of law, in the court of public opinion has done nothing
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wrong. Are we seeing a trend here?
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And the Tory and Meg stuff comes up specifically because recently
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Tory did get odd 14 times in prison for more people to come
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forward in his fence to free him.
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You people like Amber Rose, like Republican senators, Republican
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representatives, Kanye and Drake all coming together to like
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rally for this man to be freed. Which is interesting because
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when we think of intersectionality, it's very
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strange to have MAGA and some male rappers come together at
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the expense of violence against a black woman.
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And we'll get more into that when we talk about how all of
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this kind of relates to the alt right pipeline a little later in
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the video. But they think, for one, this is
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a interesting and not in the fun way, but interesting comparison,
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especially when we see the role that media has and how this all
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plays out. Because the media that you can
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OK, really quickly. Last case study example that we
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need to talk about is the recent happenings between Sky Jackson.
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Yes, Sky Jackson from Jesse and her baby daddy.
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You're Yerke. If you're not caught up with Sky
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Jackson's life, these next few words may sound very jarring to
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you. But Sky Jackson announced her
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pregnancy in November of 2024, whose identity was kept secret
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under wraps for a while. And from what we know of her in
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Yerke Yerke's relationship, it has always been tumultuous and
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in the public eye, with Sky being arrested for domestic
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battery at Universal Studios Hollywood, which those charges
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were later dropped as a misunderstanding.
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She's also filed for a restraining order against her
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child's father. And reports from that
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restraining order are actually really jarring.
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So if I haven't already, here's like click content warning
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because the topics here are a little triggering.
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So if you want to skip until after, here's the timestamp for
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that. But the report from the
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restraining order includes a six month period and I'm going to
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read this directly so I make sure that I don't misspeak on
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any of this. Again, read between the lines
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because I can't say all of these things for contact guideline
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reasons, but there was a six month period where you would
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consistently choke her or slap her head in a wall at least once
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a week. He also threatened to UN alive
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her or have her be gun alive multiple times on different
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occasions, even threatening her mother.
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And lastly threatened to release revenge corn, which is a lot.
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And my heart goes out to sky because that is traumatizing at
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the very least, especially considering that she was
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pregnant. Going through all of this like
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that is actually terrible and one of the comments online from
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this are not as hateful as the previous two examples.
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A lot of the comments do turn on Sky asking why she would be with
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them, how they even got together, how she allowed the
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relationship to continue, putting the onus of her on her.
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As if there weren't many reasons that we just went through why it
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would not be easy to leave a situation like that, especially
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one that is consistently threatening your life.
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So let's take a step back and look at all these situations
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from a macro scale. In each of these scenarios, we
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do have to ask, why are the women in these situations always
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persecuted for speaking up, taking legal action, or just
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doing something about people against them?
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As you can probably imagine, the comments in these types of
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posts, articles, videos, whatever would have you.
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I read it with things like, why didn't she leave earlier?
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She's lying, she's ruining her career, she's crazy.
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She knew what she was getting into.
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A lot of these projections that are put on women who are already
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in these situations, Like I'm sure if you scroll through some
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of the comments on this video, you're going to see something
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like that as well. Like really truly, why are
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general audiences, specifically men, often times men, so quick
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to side with a man who presents no evidence to deny a woman's
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claims, especially when she actually does have of evidence
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pointing to his guilt? And why isn't the first instinct
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to blame the abuser for the abuse and instead blame the
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abuse on the abuse? Like people may say like
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innocent until proven guilty, but when it comes to situations
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like this, the innocent are often presumed to be guilty 1st
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and have to earn their innocence in the court of public opinion.
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And even then, it's very unlikely that that ever actually
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happens. And it brings us to a larger
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conversation like we were talking about before.
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Like like, this isn't just about celebrities, I promise.
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But like if rich, famous, well known and well loved women can
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go through DB in real time and have the case be publicly
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followed and people still back the abuse, what message does
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that send to women and other victims who don't have a massive
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fan base, tons of expendable money to spend in court in
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abundance of other resources in their corner?
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And on the other side, what message is that sending to other
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abuse who also don't have those resources but are doing these
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things without the fear of having to deal with public
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scrutiny? Like just something to think
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about. According to the CDC, one in
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four women and one in seven men will experience physical
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violence by their intimate partner at some point during
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their lifetimes. About one in three women and
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nearly one in six men experience some form of schmexual violence
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during their lifetimes. Intimate partner violence,
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schmexual violence, and stalking are high, with intimate partner
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violence occurring in over 10 million people each year.
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And these reports are just from people who report it, which is
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only a fraction of the time it is actually experienced or
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occurs, meaning that it's a lot more commonplace than we may
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think. Now let's move on to this next
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section of the video that kind of addresses the conversation
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and potential title of this video.
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We're still working on it like why we continue to platform and
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allow these problematic and toxic forms of masculinity and
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men to proliferate in our society.
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And this specifically relates to we talk about this often the
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loneliness epidemic, but specifically the male loneliness
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epidemic. And while we see these toxic
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behaviors and the toxic forms of masculinity embraced, left
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unchecked and flourish in our society.
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And this is a little section like to call the 100 men versus
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accountability challenge. And the main point of this all
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is the concept of as men holding each other accountable versus
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just genuinely excusing behaviors.
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Because a lot of comments in support of these toxic manner or
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toxic ideologies are often either one, just straight up
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misogynistic or two, just make excuses for said behavior.
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Saying things like he must have had a reason to act this way
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because, you know, be crazy because somehow that excuses
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violence and abuse. And I think there is this real
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issue of like not showing up for each other and holding each
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other accountable for the stuff that is going on.
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Because if even you as a man does not believe in behaving
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that way, don't believe in toxic masculinity, and are actively on
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your journey to reestablish your terms and conditions with
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masculinity and what that means for you.
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Which I think all men should do because I think there are so
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many different ways to express your masculinity and to be a man
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and to do all that outside of the typical red pill like gym
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alpha misogynist bro way. You can't claim to be this
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righteous healed king example of healed masculinity if your
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friends are some of the most diabolical men on the planet and
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you just let them continue to be sub.
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Like it's OK to sometimes check your friends on some OK yeah
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that was weird or you shouldn't do that or interrogate people
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why they believe that way. And again, I'm saying this right
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now. I know I have a mostly female
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audience. The girls and gays are up over
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here. This is not for y'all.
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I'm not saying any of this should be for y'all because
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truly y'all have been through enough.
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I'm talking about men checking their male friends because you
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are the company you keep. And as men not showing up for
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each other in substantive ways, taking pride in that, having bad
18:57
views on women and then being shocked when you inevitably end
19:00
up friendless and with no romantic prospects should not be
19:03
a foreign concept. Because like, yeah, if you are
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terrible to your dating pool and inseparable to your peers to be
19:09
around, of course you're going to be lonely and not really have
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real connection with people. Like not wanting to disclose
19:15
problematic beliefs. And it's gotten to the point
19:17
where like, a lot of times, instead of actually doing the
19:19
work and becoming a better person, a lot of men are
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choosing to not want to disclose their problematic beliefs out of
19:25
fear of scaring women. Yeah, you being misogynistic is
19:27
going to scare the house. I'm sorry, in our day and age,
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it's undeniable that politics can play a huge role in who you
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are as a person, your morals, your beliefs, the way you live
19:36
your life. And I know that there are some
19:38
people that are of the belief that you can have major
19:40
political differences with your significant other, that it
19:43
doesn't mean anything, that y'all know each other's hearts
19:45
and you're still just people. But I think at the point that we
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are in society right now, being on completely different sides of
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the aisle means that you are supporting and believe in two
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completely different ways of life.
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And maybe this is just a shortcoming of myself and not
19:57
being able to see how that could work, but it does not seem.
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Like, you can really make that work right now.
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Like, yeah, having some differences is completely fine.
20:05
But like, when you have fundamental disconnects for what
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you value in human rights and human life, I don't know.
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Like, I understand wanting the traditional life, I guess.
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But if you think that women deserve to have less rights,
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then don't be surprised when no one wants to date you.
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Like, I don't know what to say. And I think we are at the very
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beginning stages of having men wake up and see this.
20:26
And while I guess we're seeing some people change for the
20:28
better and change their views and stances on things, we also
20:31
are seeing a lot of men that instead of doing internal work
20:35
reflecting and looking within as to why they believe that some
20:38
groups deserve more restrictions, less rights,
20:41
freedoms, etcetera, etcetera. They instead begin to lie or be
20:44
vague about what their belief systems are or political
20:47
ideologies to be that sort of wolf in sheep's clothing a lot
20:50
hooking the woman, getting them to like you.
20:52
And then while y'all are like months in soft launching the
20:55
fact that revealing that you are a red pilled conservative man
20:57
that voted for Trump to your very liberal girlfriend, right?
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And we know this happens, but we've been seeing this play out
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on the mainstage, AKA on reality dating shows.
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Like you're watching the current season of Love Island USA or saw
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the past season of Love is Blind.
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Essentially in the last season of Love Is Blind season 8, which
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took place in Minnesota. Mind you, so many of the men on
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that show skirted around their political beliefs, their
21:19
affiliations, their ideologies, or just sat on the fence for a
21:22
lot of it before they secured the actual marriage status
21:24
because they knew that if they were honest and upfront about
21:26
it, it would be a turn off for a lot of women.
21:28
Again, not saying that all women really feel the same way,
21:31
believe the same way, or care about all these things in the
21:33
same way. But speaking specifically to the
21:35
couple, Sarah and Ben, Sarah specifically said that it
21:38
mattered to her to have a partner that cared about things
21:40
like BLM and LGBTQIA plus rights.
21:43
And Ben gave a less than careful answer as he assured her that he
21:47
would learn more for her and that he didn't know much about
21:50
it despite being from Minnesota where everything with George
21:53
Floyd happened and a lot of the major protests happened.
21:57
And of course, spoilers for the rest of the season if you're
21:59
ever planning on watching all this blind season 8 at this
22:01
point. Eventually she brought these
22:02
things up later in the relationship and the guy just
22:04
seemed really unengaged with her politics and her beliefs.
22:08
And she ultimately decided that she couldn't marry someone with
22:10
vastly different political beliefs like that.
22:13
And there are other examples of couples in that season that
22:15
could not get married because of the difference in political
22:17
views that weren't expressed outright.
22:19
With like Devin and Virginia having the man be very sketchy
22:21
about his politics and not very clear about where he stood and
22:25
kind of uninterested when it comes to things like abortion
22:27
rights. To the point where like Virginia
22:29
had to make it clear through reunion that I will be very
22:31
clear about my views. IA 100% support the LGBTQ
22:34
community. I also believe that women should
22:36
have the decision to choose if they want to have an abortion or
22:38
not. I also believe that different
22:39
religion should be valued. Then you have examples from like
22:41
this recent season of Love is Blind that's airing right now.
22:44
People like Austin who had cut a lot of Flack for being a alleged
22:48
Trump supporter and otherwise kind of a Republican guy going
22:51
for girls and being in relationships with girls that
22:53
out of the villa would likely not support or date him because
22:57
of his views. And I think while he's been in
22:59
the villa, whoever is running his account has been removing
23:01
some of his TikTok likes and reposts because people of TikTok
23:04
have been finding a lot of his reposts and likes to be kind of
23:07
problematic and reposting things that are a little like, it's
23:10
just kind of dishonest and manipulative.
23:11
Like, you know, the beliefs that you have are unappealing to the
23:15
women that you want to date. So you're not going to tell them
23:17
that you have these beliefs until you have them.
23:19
And then there's a whole other topic about how often times when
23:22
it comes to things like controversy online, either
23:24
online or offline, really when it comes down to abusers or men
23:29
that have done wrong, a strategy that is often used is using
23:33
women as PR for men's terrible behaviors.
23:36
And there are examples of this. You have examples like streamer
23:39
cooking with Kaya who came on streamer to defend DDG against
23:42
the news of the restraining order against Hallie with her
23:45
saying things like DDG has always been good to me and he's
23:48
really genuine but. DD is actually a genuine nice
23:51
person. Like to do like some kind of
23:53
character repair or PR in the court of public opinion.
23:56
Like going live to say that a man, it was a very public DV
24:00
case with proof, evidence and a filed restraining order coming
24:03
from the mother of his child. To then go on and say that he's
24:06
been good to you personally and helps you out personally with
24:09
your career is a choice. And also this is the guy that
24:12
y'all are defending. Like it just gets to the point
24:14
where you have to turn off the stream and log off.
24:16
I never had a problem with cooking with Kaya and I'm also
24:18
not shocked that she's like standing up and defending DDG
24:22
right now. Like why are y'all shocked that
24:24
somebody who's built their platform off the backs of being
24:27
a pygmy to is going to be a pygmy to it?
24:30
So I'm not mad at her. I don't feel no ways about her.
24:33
I just feel bad for her because to keep this platform that she
24:36
built, she has to continue to be this person.
24:38
She has to continue to pander to.
24:40
She has to continue to be this hypersexualized version of
24:43
herself or else her platform will come crumbling down because
24:46
it's not built on the back of people actually liking her.
24:49
It's built on the backs of them liking, if you know what I mean.
24:53
I feel bad for any woman who finds themselves in this red
24:56
pill manosphere and like builds their platform off this like red
25:00
pill and sell fan base because there will become a day when
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they definitely remind her that she is a black woman.
25:06
Who's she going to fall back on? She's not going to have anybody
25:09
to fall back on. She's not going to have anybody
25:10
to catch her because her entire platform, her entire fan base
25:14
will turn on her in the drop of a hat.
25:16
And honestly, this creator makes a great point about the fallacy
25:19
of the pic me in a sense that the pic me could never really be
25:22
1 the boys. Because inevitably when the girl
25:24
does something that is deemed worthy of judgement for the rest
25:26
of the guys that she's been defending or trying to pander up
25:29
to the same way that they have treated all the other women that
25:31
the pygmy has gone to. Then add on and dogpile on top
25:34
of will be done to her and she'll be left stranded.
25:36
It's similar to the whole male loneliness thing.
25:38
Like no one's going to be in your corner because you're
25:39
actively working against people. That would be you have people
25:42
like Amber Rose going to defend Tory lanes going on things like
25:45
News Nation a call for him to be freed and pardoned.
25:47
Like it really just is trying to paint an area like being like,
25:50
see, yes, you have a woman in here saying that this man that's
25:53
been accused and convicted of something horrible to another
25:56
woman was good to her and she thinks that he's not bad.
25:59
Therefore what he did to that woman is absolved because he
26:02
wasn't bad to every single woman.
26:03
And all this really just makes me think like, why?
26:05
Why are we here? Why are we here?
26:08
I mean, I know why we're here, misogyny and patriarchy.
26:10
But like, why are people going to bat so hard for these people
26:14
that one, they don't know, two, don't know them, and three, are
26:18
actually convicted or in the process of having legal
26:21
processions for the terrible things that they have been
26:24
documented to do to their partners and people that they're
26:26
supposed to love. And my theory for this is that
26:28
by and large, people, often men, are afraid to hold these other
26:32
men accountable and to truly see their actions for what they are.
26:35
Because for one, they built a pair of social relationship with
26:37
them the same way as any other standom has.
26:40
And I've watched them for a long time growing up with them,
26:43
listen to their music, whatever, what have you.
26:44
They have this weird sort of loyalty where they see
26:46
themselves often times in these public figures.
26:49
So to call out the problematic behavior of these people that
26:51
they've idolized or see themselves in or project
26:54
themselves upon what also mean to some extent, they would have
26:57
to acknowledge and accept the fact that that they could
26:59
potentially share some of those traits, belief systems.
27:02
And the fact that they are OK with that going on and still
27:05
supporting them. Like to condemn and implicate
27:06
these people they're looking up to would also mean that they
27:09
would have to condemn and implicate themselves to some
27:11
degree, which I think is a hard thing to do and something that a
27:13
lot of people just don't want to do.
27:15
Because it's easier to subscribe to the narrative that these
27:17
women want to put these famous and successful black men down
27:20
versus the fact that they need to be accountable for their
27:23
actions. And last one I'll make for this
27:24
video is sort of just like a question like, do these toxic
27:27
men, the people that we've been talking about and the people
27:29
that are in the public eye that have these very public cases
27:32
know that they are actively being drivers in the alt right
27:35
pipeline right now? Like, are they aware that that's
27:37
what they're doing? Because I, I guess I get on one
27:39
hand wanting to protect your image and not wanting to seem
27:42
like you did all the bad stuff that you did do.
27:45
But on like a macro scale, like you'll have to know that the
27:48
impact that this is having on your audiences or the audiences
27:51
of people that are defending, talking about or making
27:55
dissenting statements towards these victims are driving droves
27:59
and droves of people, specifically young people down
28:01
the alt right pipeline. Because this is how it starts.
28:03
It's the insullification of online audiences.
28:06
Like every form of media has like an alt right pipeline.
28:09
It's been best documented with YouTube because it's been a
28:11
platform that's been around for a while, but it's happening on
28:14
every platform. Like you have many people,
28:15
especially men that have noticed.
28:17
But as you watch more suggested videos on topics like these, the
28:20
more right leaning they get, whether or how that's your
28:22
political ideology or not. There was actually an article
28:24
talking about YouTube red Pilling back in 2019 that shared
28:28
a story of a guy named Caleb Kane who was an ex alt right
28:30
person who was a lost and confused liberal arts college
28:33
dropout who didn't know his place in the world and got
28:36
sucked into alt right beliefs through YouTube.
28:37
He claimed it was something akin to a rabbit hole and that's
28:39
where he began to get brainwashed by far right YouTube
28:43
personalities, he's quoted as saying.
28:45
I just kept falling deeper and deeper into this and it appealed
28:47
to me because it made me feel a sense of belonging.
28:50
Oh, do we see the connection here with the male loneliness
28:54
epidemic, how this also is a cyclical driver into the all
28:57
right pipeline. Despite it being a scary and
29:00
hateful place, it's still going down that pipeline and being
29:03
with those people did give him a sense of community.
29:05
Like YouTube as a platform has a history of like having red pill
29:09
content and leading men down this all right pipeline.
29:11
But this is now being seen extended to places like
29:14
streamers on Twitch, Kik, whatever would have you, and
29:17
places like Twitter being the new frontier of radicalization.
29:20
Like of course, you feel like the in Group and have a sense of
29:23
longing when streamers are live all the time and sometimes with
29:25
other friends and other streamers.
29:27
It's almost like performing the essence of community of
29:30
friendship, seeing people all be in a group of friends to live
29:33
vicariously through them. But what happens oftentimes,
29:35
especially when it is streamers that are being a part of these
29:39
very serious cases is that it makes people adopt A lot of
29:42
these dog whistles and soft launching alt right ideas like
29:45
women being liars, going out to take down men, other forms of
29:47
misogyny and passing, as well as showing examples of like women
29:51
only being on stream streams as props and other forms of soft
29:53
core content that are shown on these streams.
29:56
Now think back to the people who are surrounding these men,
29:58
right? Let's think about DDJ right now
30:00
because he's recently been a professor on Streamer
30:02
University. He's friends with a lot of other
30:03
huge streamers and he's very tapped in.
30:06
And a lot of the content that they put out, whether that be
30:08
the clips or the actual streams, put out a lot of dog whistles or
30:10
at least are a soft launch into a lot of alt right ideology like
30:14
we've been talking about. So I think it does come down
30:16
like men who use misogynistic, homophobic language use women as
30:19
props and actual guest stars defending known abusers,
30:23
signaling that like the media got them wrong or like they're
30:26
trying to paint him out to be the bad guy when he's not
30:28
creating this form of hero out of someone who has done wrong by
30:32
people to viewers. Young, impressionable viewers
30:35
has sort of started to become the norm.
30:37
And whether these streamers, influencers, public figures are
30:40
not mean to, they are guiding other young men into this
30:42
ideology or at least serving as a launching pad.
30:45
Like, I mean, like, look what happened with Pewdiepie's
30:46
audience, you know? And I guess the close, this is
30:48
all to say that I think we need to be really intentional about
30:51
the conversation that we're having and the people that we
30:53
continue the platform and give our energy to.
30:55
Because I think if this goes unchecked, we're setting some
30:57
very dangerous precedents and moving ourselves further and
31:00
further back in terms of resources, injustice for
31:03
survivors of abuse and young impressionable audiences.
31:06
But yeah, I feel like I'd be upped enough now.
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31:09
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31:10
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