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The Psychology of Attraction – Why We’re Drawn to Certain People · The Road Doc Podcast

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  Hey, hello everyone. I am Doctor Mukul.
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  Welcome to the World Dark broadcast.
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  Today's episode is all about the psychology of attraction, why we
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  are drawn to certain people, right?
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  So today we are starting something new, something real
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  relationships, not the fairy tale version of what we see in
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  movies and so on and so forth. But we will focus on what
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  actually happens in our mind, your patterns, your choices, and
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  so on and so forth, right? Have you ever asked yourself
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  like, why? Why, why, why this person or out
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  of millions of trillions of people on this planet is still
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  drawn to certain people again and again, whether you call it
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  love or is it something deeper? Let's just talk about it and
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  figure it out. Alright, Let's just, I'm gonna
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  divide this into few chapters and so on and so forth.
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  So let's deep dive into it. And again, I would like to thank
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  you all for listening in Spotify and other audio platforms.
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  I really appreciate it. We just crossed 20,000 streams
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  and plays for us all which I think it is a great achievement
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  for this podcast since I have started with no expectations
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  literally from zero. Now at least we have certain
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  numbers and we are all over like more than 30 plus countries so
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  far which is really good to start with because when I have
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  started this I got absolute 0 support 0.
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  Like everyone thought like OK this may may not work.
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  And most people like I don't think this is work gonna work
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  and so on. Because, you know, everybody
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  wants a successful person in their life, not the person who
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  try to do something from scratch and build something that is
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  gonna be useful in the long run that no one wants.
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  Because everybody is deep rooted into what you call superficial
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  things and everyone want to run through shortcuts.
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  And I just want many, many, many.
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  So but I took a long marathon kind of a thing which will
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  automatically filters out so many fake people from my life
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  itself. I have put it into the test and
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  I have seen all the deeper results as well.
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  And like you see, number of people in the frame is what the
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  number of support I got from the day one till now.
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  Because superficially they are like, yeah, you do it, you do
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  it. Background, they are like now
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  this is not going to work and so on and so forth.
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  Yeah, that's the thing people. So it can be relationships can
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  be anything. It can be a friendship it can be
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  and you having a girlfriend or boyfriend or parents or so on
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  and so forth. Trust me on this.
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  No one will help you while you are struggling.
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  Everyone will clap once they know who you are.
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  Until then, most people are like, wait, OK, you do your
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  thing, we will support you, blah, blah, blah, superficial.
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  But when it comes to reality, that's the brutal fact.
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  You have to keep that in mind. I mean, wherever you are in
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  life, whatever you are doing, whatever you are going through
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  and so on and so forth, the path is very, very lonely.
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  And that's the price you have to pay to become extraordinarily
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  successful in your life. Because the more higher you go
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  in life, the more lonelier lonelier it becomes.
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  So this is just my advice for anyone who want to try something
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  not so traditional. You wanna do something on your
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  own and you wanna be successful in whatever you do, then be
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  provided for seeing the true colors of everyone in this path.
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  Because it is going to and bound to happen whether you like it or
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  not. It is going to be very bitter.
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  So that is my take on simple advice for people who want to
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  try something. And also never ever expect any
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  kind of support from the closest people and also your own family,
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  especially when you are trying something out-of-the-box.
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  Yeah, even the greatest scientist in the history and
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  some breakthroughs that they have done and all the things so
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  on and so forth, all those people simultaneously went
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  through the similar path and they have realized no one's
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  going to support them or help them until some breakthrough
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  happens. Until that point, everyone will
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  be your enemy, whether you like it or not.
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  So I mean, why I'm telling? I just had a conversation with
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  someone right now and they want to try something and they asked
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  me for the advice. So I just told the exact same
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  thing. And I thought many people will
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  have the same kind of question, whether they are very confused,
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  whether they want to do something in their life very
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  kind of differently and so on and so forth.
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  Because not everyone is bound to the same thing, right?
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  Some people are different, some people are extraordinary, some
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  people are ordinary and some people like this, some people
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  like that and so on and so forth.
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  So all these things we really can't differentiate.
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  Everyone have to self evaluate themselves before jumping into.
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  That is the reason why I am including that advice here and I
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  hope you get my point there. OK, right, just I am saying 11
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  line. Be prepared.
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  You wanna find out so many fake people in your life just they
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  pretend they wanna be with you or they like you and so on and
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  so forth. They will be just there.
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  The moment you get with the rooted reality, all the fake
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  people will be filtered out just like that and you will, you will
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  be even surprised. God I thought you know this
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  person very well or you know this person like this and so on
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  and so forth. Then you will realize you know
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  nothing then. That's why I think the old
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  saying will be there like when difficult times comes to a
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  person, it's not because the person is a bad person or
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  anything, rather it reveals the people around them or surrounded
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  by them is worthwhile travelling to the next chapter or not.
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  Because what I have done personally was I have a
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  different kind of thinking and all these things.
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  I tried to pull some of the close friends towards up but
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  instead what just happened was they are trying to pull me down
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  South whether I like it or not. I have to cut them off at some
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  point. Because you will have a
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  conversation, you will tell them they will not understand because
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  their mindset is completely different and they just want XYZ
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  in their life and this is part in their life.
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  That's when friendships, relationships, all those things
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  will fade away. What kind of whatever it might
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  be, it will fade away because they will not understand.
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  When you have a different sort of visions, keep that in mind.
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  Specially for men. I know my most audience are men
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  between 20s to 35 and I know for this thing because most
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  difficult audience to please are not actually women, are actually
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  men. Because men have this tendency
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  that they will never ever listen, specially in their 20s
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  and 30s until somewhere around 40s can, I think.
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  But surprisingly, my audience are mostly men.
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  Like almost 95% are men. I am.
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  So based on that, I can tell that if you are a guy, if you
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  are a man, I suggest you go through every podcast and listen
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  to it or watch it. Understand in a deeper sense why
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  I am telling what I am telling. I think it is.
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  It is going to resonate to you a lot in various forms and I am
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  going to give you exactly what you are looking for in this
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  episode as well. So let's just dive into
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  attraction is not random kind of a thing.
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  Let's just dive into that. Your brain is not actually
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  falling for all the people that you see like it is specifically
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  you get attracted based on your past experiences, emotional
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  familiarities, psychological patterns.
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  Like basically what I am telling is you do not attract what you
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  want. You attract basically what you
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  feel familiar. How many people have seen that?
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  Like even though that other person is a toxic person, other
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  person is a, you know that the fact that this other person is
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  not your match and so on and so forth, but you still end up
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  being attracted to that same person again and again and
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  again. Like every time you have a part
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  pattern, like once you go go through the journey of it, you
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  will understand that you are falling for the same pattern.
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  There will be that, like I said, the three points before, there
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  will be the same thing again and again.
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  You are going to fall right, Like you might think you want
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  this kind of traits and that person, that kind of traits and
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  that person, but you will still choose the wrong thing that is
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  there. You have to understand that and
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  that is why I am telling that you don't attract what you want.
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  You attract what feels mostly familiar that sees the reason
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  why woman or man, they choose wrong partners and suffer for
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  life and they get divorced and they go through lot of trauma,
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  pain, toxicity and what not. You just name it.
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  They will go through all those things, they will suffer a lot
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  and they will still choose the wrong persons again and again
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  because of that. No, I mean, the surprising fact
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  of that is very even to me, it is very surprising even in our
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  doctor community. So I have seen a lot that they
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  know that other person is not worthwhile, their compatibility
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  and stuff, but yet they still choose that wrong person.
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  They still be in the toxic relationships and then they
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  still follow that thing and so on and so forth and so on and so
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  forth. If you listen to those stories,
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  right, Not just doctors in general, everybody else as well.
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  But why I am telling doctors as like in society, they treat
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  doctors in a different way because they are highly
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  intellectual. All those things, yes, true, but
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  these intellectuals are only for books.
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  In reality, most people will. Because I have seen so much of
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  evidence in this community, because I have been in, I am a
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  doctors. I have been in this community
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  for very long. I do understand why because the
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  stress levels are very different and the pressure levels are very
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  different and so on and so forth.
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  That which normal people might have very hard time even
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  understanding and comprehending those things which I am not
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  going to talk a lot about that. But when it comes to average
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  human being, they have to unlock so many different levels of why
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  and what and how. And then after going through lot
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  of paint of the city and so on and so forth, they will realize
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  the fact that they made a wrong choice and they have to move on
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  in a whole different ways. That is the fact whether they
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  like it or not. So yeah, that is why I am just
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  telling you even the highly intellectual smart people are
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  making wrong choices. I have seen it, I have not.
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  They have ruined their lives as well.
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  I have seen that too. So yeah, just giving an brief
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  example so that normal human being will make even more
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  mistakes that because they do not have any idea how things
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  works and nobody knows. But still things going to happen
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  in such a way that it's very hard to even explain certain
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  things to those peoples per person or whatever.
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  But believe it or not, that's the truth.
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  And they always end up in the same loop of the toxic cycles.
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  They know that it is wrong but they still do that enjoying the
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  toxicity because they will see this is the thing and there is
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  something called pain rate. Why God place pain in human body
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  is simply because the more you get hurt the more and more and
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  more and more you get hurt. That's when you will realize.
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  Until then you will not realize. That's why pain exist for some
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  reason. I mean its correlating.
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  I am just trying to correlate here so you can understand much
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  better. Let's talk about familiarity,
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  like so-called as like let's just say comfort.
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  Even if it is toxic, like if you grew up around emotionally
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  distance people or it can be your family members and so on,
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  you may naturally get attracted to emotionally unavailable
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  people or toxic people. The definition of toxic.
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  I think you already know that very well, so I don't need to go
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  through it. Like they always choose the
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  chaotic person rather than a calm persons because brain
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  always comes to confuses and it just chooses you chaos than the
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  safe thing. That's why you see most women
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  end up with a toxic person. Yeah, you might have wondered
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  many, many times like these two are a couple.
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  What, how how is this even possible?
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  Are either a guy or a girl, someone will be like craziest
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  crazy and the other one will be too old.
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  We have seen this. I mean, many of you have
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  naturally seen this pattern already and they still try to.
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  One person will go through all the pain, the other person will
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  simply don't know what they are doing and so on and so forth.
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  Yeah, that's why sometimes for those people, peace feels like
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  strange because chaos feels like home.
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  That's why they were who deep rooted into that kind of
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  attachment thing that comes with the family trauma for sure and
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  their experiences and so on and so forth as well too.
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  Now do not ask me how to change that.
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  No one will change until they wanted to change, specially if
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  they are in adults. So do not yeah, I know some
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  women have this tendency or some men have this tendency like I
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  can change this person, I can do my best.
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  They will realize that that person will never change because
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  if they want to change, how much time do you think it will take
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  for them to actually change? Nobody knows.
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  But roughly, let's just say 90 days if they really want to
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  change actively, if they keep efforts and so on, but they
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  won't. You know why I no need to go
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  deep into that. So let's just go on to the next
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  thing called the role of validation, because this is this
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  is where people are drawn to who they are validate their words or
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  trigger or insecurities that chase feeling right, often not
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  love. They know that, but seeking
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  approval. They want that approval from
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  that person because if if you have seen this pattern,
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  especially with girls or a lot, if someone chases them
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  constantly, they think they are in love or they think they are
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  special and that's the loop they create, isn't it?
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  Now I am going to tell why these people will always fall into
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  that thing, right? Most women usually focuses on
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  their safety, financial safety. If you have seen the recent
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  Instagram memories or in social media, they have seen these
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  things right? These are very funny.
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  If you go and ask any woman right and then give them to give
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  them the opportunity to speak what how you want your partner
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  or how they all go with the same parameters like 6 feet tall, 6
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  figure salary blah blah blah and so on and so forth.
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  Let us just be very realistic people.
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  If I am giving a if conditions that if a woman wants XYZ which
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  is not a wrong thing. I am not saying it is a wrong
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  thing to have that. But let us just look at the
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  actual statistics. How many people are specially,
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  specially if you are in your 20s or early 30s and so on and so
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  forth. What is the probability of you
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  reaching to that point and being happy?
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  Because most people who reach to that point were never happy in
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  life ever. Whether you like it or not.
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  That's the truth because I have talked with many people who make
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  good amount of money. They are very empty inside and
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  they are mentally gone a long time ago.
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  Basically we can say they are dead inside and smiling on the
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  outside. I have seen them a lot.
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  The people will say money will buy you happiness and all those
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  things. True to an extent, yes, I agree
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  on that. But really money will give you
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  100% of happiness. I don't think so, may be around
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  90%. Yeah sure the 10% is still will
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  be their lapse no matter what. But yeah I still agree on money
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  will definitely give you happiness but the amount of
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  expectations people have these days is crazy.
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  Like I am not just blaming one gender here like the other way
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  around as well. They have like crazy
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  expectations and I have even seen that some people are saying
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  like 01 profession we never date is gonna be what doctors And I
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  was actually laughing looking at that.
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  The reason is first of all, no doctor will choose you whether
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  you are a guy or a woman. No one will choose you because
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  the amount of craziness we deal every single day.
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  Being a doctor is not that easy. Just for you something normal
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  is, for us it is not so. So stop stop stop saying 1
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  profession I am not gonna date is gonna be a doctors.
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  First of all doctors will never give you a chance to date them
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  first. Get that into your mind whether
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  you are rich and poor because the number of divorce rates are
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  very high in doctor community. Whether you believe it or not,
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  most people will get divorce so quick especially here in
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  surgical branches. You also screw because that is
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  the life they have and a normal person can't understand that
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  unless you are into medical profession until then.
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  So I just want to clarify this, whenever this video becomes
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  viral, you know people will understand that doctors are not
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  interested to date normal people no matter whether you gonna give
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  them a tons of money and so on and so forth because it is more
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  of a mental piece doctors are looking for because money part.
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  I know definitely at one point or another they will make good
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  amount of money for sure, no doubt about that.
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  But the trauma they deal every single day is crazy that not
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  everyone can share life with them and survive.
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  Because I'm superficial on paper.
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  This guy is a doctor or this woman is a doctor.
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  All these are good when you get married to that person, when I
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  travel their life, the conversations you will have at
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  the dinner table will be mind blowing if you are a non medical
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  professional person. So think about that.
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  I just want to clarify that because I have seen those things
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  a lot and I felt it was like, I mean, someone has to say that I
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  did that. So yeah, now let's move on to
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  physical versus emotional attraction, because men are
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  visual beings, OK? Whether women accept it or not,
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  that secondary, we keep makeup, we keep this, we keep that, we
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  keep lipstick for us to feel happy, good, blah, blah.
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  OK, OK, OK, OK, OK. We put some blush and all those
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  things not for the man to gauge but for us.
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  But the truth is all these makeup products, all these
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  things and all those things are literally created to attract
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  males. Go into scientific part, you
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  will understand the blush thing. That is basically saying that
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  that woman is kind of interested in you specially.
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  I mean, if you are fair enough, you will naturally get the
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  reddish thing because you feel naturally want to connect with
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  that person and that happens naturally actually.
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  But now people intentionally put all those things right.
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  I am not blaming anybody but the whole concept is that that is
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  you do not believe that, right? I will give another example.
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  When you go to a mall specially and observe a mall, first thing
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  you gonna observe specifically. I mean, I do not know about
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  India, but most Southeast Asian countries, if you go to any mall
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  or any drug stores, medical stores or whatever, you will
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  understand one thing. And even in pharmacies, I have
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  seen that especially in Southeast Asian countries, the
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  core entry of it is all about women products.
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  It is all about like beauty. It is all about like, is that
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  look, whitening creams, everything about them, right?
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  Why? Why?
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  Have you ever wondered why? Why?
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  Why, why? I will give you one simple
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  answer. I am not going to blame anybody,
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  but I am going to give you a simple answer.
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  The reason is very simple. Whether women agreed or not,
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  that's completely different story.
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  That's the the truth is men will not care how they are looking,
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  how they are thing and this stuff.
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  But most women do not all, but most women do.
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  They want to look in a certain way.
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  They want to have certain color, texture, beauty, because the
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  reason is very simple. Again, you will come back to the
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  same point that men or visual beings, men get attracted to
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  what they see visually. So in order to gain their
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  attention, all these things exist.
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  I know most women don't agree on that and because of may be their
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  ego and so on and so forth. But that's, that's truth.
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  See, I mean just think logically.
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  If you put something on your face, you will feel like you
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  will feel good. Really.
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  I am just asking. I mean, you can really wonder.
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  Really. You think you will feel good to
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  put something on it, to advance something?
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  It's basically attraction, dude. They are trying to attract
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  something. The way they trust, the way they
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  do all those things, the way they behave, cute and all those
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  things. Why do you think they do all
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  those things? To get your attention.
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  Yeah, to get male attention. That is why they do it.
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  Most people want agree on that. I know because I had this same
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  conversations with a women before and they know that is the
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  truth. But they just no wanna agree on
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  that because women wants validation.
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  Most of them, not all but most of them definitely wants
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  validation and also compliments and that is why they mostly try
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  to first try to pull physical attraction as the thing and
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  after that they will look for emotional attraction in that
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  person. That is the reason why they make
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  lots of mistakes and choose wrong persons.
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  Because most women checklist will be like this.
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  That guy should be 6 feet, 6 feet blah blah blah.
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  Fair skin texture, good family background, nothing wrong with
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  all those things, having expectations, but one thing they
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  will miss out in the beginning is that they will not check for
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  emotional availability or emotional attachment, all those
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  things. Once they travel with that
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  person a lot and lot and lot, then they will understand all
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  these physical attributes are nothing.
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  They will vanish after some time and then they will fall for
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  emotionally stable person or someone who is very stable.
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  That's why the most beautiful or most beauty ish kind of a woman
• 29:49
  will fall for the dumb guy because the dumb guy have money.
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  I mean, I do not want to give or name any celebrities for that
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  example. You already know, you look
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  around, wherever you are in the world, you will understand most
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  beautiful women fall for the most dumb person based on looks
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  and stuff. Yeah, that's one way out.
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  I am not blaming it. It's the fact that's how it
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  exists, so accept it. So that's why I am.
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  All I want to say to men is basically whether you are
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  physically attractive or not, all these things keep that side.
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  Try to make good amount of money in ethical ways as possible so
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  that you will have a lot of choices to make on later part.
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  This is for guys. So make good amount of money.
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  Do not fall for this honey traps so that you can be peaceful, you
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  can have the life you want and you can enjoy your own money
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  because at that point the once you need to reach that point, it
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  will definitely take like 30 years of age for an average
• 31:15
  human being to come to that point, especially for guys.
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  So don't worry. Don't worry everything in life
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  happens for a reason whether you like it or not.
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  Nothing goes out of hand. So just relax, just relax
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  because I am not saying women are wrong because women have
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  some biological clock that they need to match to have children
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  and so on and so forth. So that is why they do that.
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  They are going through so much of hormonal changes every single
• 31:50
  month. So I am not blaming them, rather
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  just understand that you have a different thing to focus on and
• 31:58
  women have a different thing to focus on and that is how nature
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  works. Accept that and move on.
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  That is all I am trying to say. That is why attraction will
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  start with eyes. But the real corruption actually
• 32:10
  stays in the mind. So accept it.
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  Accept it pro accept it. So opposite sources similarity.
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  Let us move it. Yes, this is the thing.
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  Opposites do attract. Sure yeah opposites.
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  I mean 1 is too good, one is too bad kind of a thing and
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  initially that is the thing they get attracted to.
• 32:38
  But in the long run because opposite creates spark initially
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  but after that you will realize similarities will bring more
• 32:55
  stability. Crazy is not it?
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  That is true. Because most people who end up
• 33:04
  having a lovely, good, great life after marriage or whatever
• 33:09
  is basically they have certain similarities or certain
• 33:13
  grounding points they both have and they meet there and from
• 33:19
  there they will try to navigate. And those are the things that
• 33:25
  stay for a very long, long time, whether you like it or not.
• 33:30
  That is that because I have seen so much of evidence so far.
• 33:35
  I think that is. But everyone life is different.
• 33:38
  There is no fixated kind of what you call fixative kind of
• 33:47
  formula or anything. You have to try it out and you
• 33:50
  have to figure it out for sure. So this is my favorite part
• 33:56
  about this. Timing really matters more than
• 34:01
  people admit. Men, whether you like it or not.
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  Like you have heard this phrases like a lots of time, like right
• 34:11
  person or wrong time still did it work?
• 34:17
  Emotional chemistry or readiness versus their chemistry and they
• 34:23
  have like they have good chemistry but one person is not
• 34:26
  emotionally ready that breaks up the whole thing.
• 34:31
  That is why I am telling attraction will be definitely
• 34:34
  bring you together but your timing decides whether you can
• 34:40
  stay there for quite long time and that is the reason why most
• 34:45
  people get attracted at the beginning and then after
• 34:48
  sometime they separate naturally they drift apart.
• 34:54
  That is why attraction is. But it is not the forever thing
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  unfortunately very hard to hear. I know many people will bleed
• 35:05
  from their ears but truth being said, fat being said, whether
• 35:12
  you like it or not, you will understand that.
• 35:16
  So that is why I want to tell people that attraction is not
• 35:22
  magic, it is just memory patterns, biology, emotions.
• 35:28
  You mix all this together and then you will you will come to
• 35:32
  that point. So the real question is not why
• 35:37
  am I attracted to them? The real question is what is
• 35:42
  inside me that is choosing this specific type of person.
• 35:47
  This is the hardest question you have to answer yourself.
• 35:51
  Do not ask me for this answer because I am not expect in all
• 35:54
  those things. I am just trying to navigate
• 35:59
  through life. I am also learning a lot along
• 36:01
  the way. So you answer yourself honestly,
• 36:04
  like what is inside you that's specifically choosing all this
• 36:08
  kind of patterns and so on and so forth.
• 36:11
  Then you will get the answer, I hope.
• 36:13
  Don't expect me to get to give you answer here.
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  So no, I even don't know about that.
• 36:20
  So answer yourself and let me know if you know the answer,
• 36:25
  because we all we all go have that specific type of patterns
• 36:29
  that we attract specific type of people in general.
• 36:34
  And then we realize, oops, oh, this is not the right choice.
• 36:39
  And then you learn sometimes you will might like, Hey, it worked
• 36:45
  thing like that. So that's why I want to deal
• 36:48
  with it. I'm just keeping this episode an
• 36:50
  open ending kind of a thing so that you have any stories that
• 36:56
  work with your didn't work so on and so forth.
• 37:00
  Just kindly let me know in the comment section what is your
• 37:04
  experience about it and how sometimes you know, it feels
• 37:08
  like, wow, this is a great connection and then you will
• 37:12
  understand absolutely not why the hell did we entered in this
• 37:17
  kind of a situation and so on and so forth.
• 37:22
  So anyways, I had fun recording this episode and I would like to
• 37:27
  thank you all for joining me in this episode.
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  My name is Doctor Mukund, the Roadblock podcast.
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  I'll catch you up soon and kindly give your suggestions in
• 37:40
  the comments. I would like to read your
• 37:42
  stories as well. I'm very grateful for our 20,000
• 37:46
  plays in audio platforms and thank you so much for your
• 37:52
  continuous support and we will come with many more and until
• 37:59
  then take care bye. And again I am telling you, do
• 38:05
  not ask for the answers because I have no idea either.
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  But all I know is science here, how things works, that's it.
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  People will, I know people will comment like so what's the
• 38:19
  answer? What's the answer?
• 38:20
  I don't know. I don't know my answer.
• 38:24
  If you know, let me know. All I know is this is how it's
• 38:28
  happening so far based on evidence.
• 38:30
  That's all I need at this point of time because there is no
• 38:35
  definitive answers or definitive solutions for this problems.
• 38:39
  So if it work for you, let me know.
• 38:41
  If it didn't, also let me know. We will figure out together in
• 38:46
  the comment section. Thank you, Thank you.
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  Bye bye. Bye bye.
• 38:49
  Take care.