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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Do Yourself A Favor & Let It Go · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: What is going on? Emily Abody?
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  Speaker 2: Here? You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle.
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  Speaker 2: Can I tell you about what happened this weekend? A
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  Speaker 2: lot of things happened last weekend, my birthday to be
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  Speaker 2: one of them. I was able to celebrate with so
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  Speaker 2: many of my dearest and closest friends, and I had
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  Speaker 2: such a nice time spending time with my people. And
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  Speaker 2: right before I walked into the first bit of celebration,
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  Speaker 2: I had recently arrived back in New York City from
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  Speaker 2: a quick red eye and I didn't get much sleep.
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  Speaker 2: I came home, I napped an hour and a half
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  Speaker 2: and then I woke up and met one of my
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  Speaker 2: dearest friends, Ashley, for breakfast. And it was as I
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  Speaker 2: was walking out the door headed for breakfast, that I
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  Speaker 2: realized I left my Apple Watch on the plane. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like sad? What's a sad? Trombone? Inserts trombone here to
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  Speaker 2: say that, I was like the ultimate uh, would be
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  Speaker 2: like the biggest understatement. I immediately filed the paperwork on
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  Speaker 2: the Delta website, and when I went to look on
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  Speaker 2: find my on my iPhone where my Apple Watch was connected,
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  Speaker 2: I saw that my watch had rudely taken a trip
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  Speaker 2: all the way from JFK within the span of five
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  Speaker 2: hours since I landed to Orlando. I wasn't laughing when
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  Speaker 2: I realized all this. In fact, I was like, you
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  Speaker 2: are so silly, What a silly human. I used words
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  Speaker 2: that weren't as nice as silly. And I arrived at
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  Speaker 2: breakfast after or going through the motions of handling the
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  Speaker 2: fact that I lost my iPhone, and I sat down
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  Speaker 2: and I was really frustrated, and I knew that this
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  Speaker 2: wasn't how I wanted to start a weekend that I
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  Speaker 2: had been looking forward to for a while now.
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  Speaker 1: And it was in that moment that I made a choice.
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  Speaker 2: And I understand there is privilege within this choice for me,
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  Speaker 2: but my choice in that moment was not to let
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  Speaker 2: a bad minute make for a bad day. My choice
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  Speaker 2: in that moment was let go of the things that
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  Speaker 2: you cannot control. Because being angry and upset and throwing
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  Speaker 2: a tantrum over the fact that my Apple Watch was
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  Speaker 2: perhaps never to be found spoiler alert, it is now
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  Speaker 2: in Alabama. It is certainly never coming back to me,
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  Speaker 2: and I am letting this go in the universe. But
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  Speaker 2: I made the decision to do what serves me. I
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  Speaker 2: asked myself this question a lot, and it's a question
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  Speaker 2: that my life coach asks me. What's best for Emily?
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  Speaker 2: How do I want to feel and what is within
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  Speaker 2: my control role to feel that way? How do you
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  Speaker 2: want to feel and what is within your control to
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  Speaker 2: feel that way. It's easier said than done when your
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  Speaker 2: feelings are heightened around a certain situation. To walk away
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  Speaker 2: and lean toward a perspective and attitude, a mood that
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  Speaker 2: serves you more. That is entirely understandable. But I know
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  Speaker 2: for a fact that throwing a temper tantrum about that.
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  Speaker 2: Watch for the better part of a day, when I
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  Speaker 2: was getting to spend time with people that are close
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  Speaker 2: to me, people that were traveling to see me, I
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  Speaker 2: was about to usher in a new chapter, and I
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  Speaker 2: know how I wanted to approach all of that, and
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't with a post on my face. Easier said
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  Speaker 2: than done, right, But think about this how it applies
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  Speaker 2: to other things that you have going on in your life.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you got an email today that really bothered you,
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  Speaker 2: or perhaps you wanted to go for a rum this
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  Speaker 2: morning and felt like junk. It is up to you
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  Speaker 2: to not let that one thing ruin the other twenty
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  Speaker 2: three hours in your day. Twenty three hours and fifty
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  Speaker 2: nine minutes. Maybe right, Do not let one bad moment
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  Speaker 2: make for a bad day. My question for you this week,
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  Speaker 2: what do you want to let go of right now?
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  Speaker 2: What's one thing that you're kind of bugging out about
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  Speaker 2: that you will just be better off if you'll let
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  Speaker 2: it go?
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, Emily. My name is Julie and I'm from Monkton,
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  Speaker 3: New Brunswick in Canada. I've been a big fan of
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  Speaker 3: the show since twenty twenty and I especially love five
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  Speaker 3: Minute Friday in my morning routine to finish the week.
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  Speaker 3: My question for you, You've met and interviewed so many
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  Speaker 3: brilliant and inspiring people over the course of your career.
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  Speaker 3: Is there a piece of advice, a takeaway, or a
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  Speaker 3: lesson that is stuck with you the most? And if so,
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  Speaker 3: can you share it with us? Thank you so much, Emily,
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  Speaker 3: Take care and happy Friday to everyone listening.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for listening all the way from Canada.
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  Speaker 2: Advice some of my favorite from six plus years of podcasting.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, there's a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Something I always come back to is a nugget from
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  Speaker 2: Jacqueline Johnson. She was episode one and ninety eight of
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  Speaker 2: the show, and in that episode she talked to me
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  Speaker 2: about how rejection is often redirection. I'll say that again,
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  Speaker 2: rejection is redirection, meaning that these things that aren't happening
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  Speaker 2: as you had hoped, they're happening so that something better
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  Speaker 2: can come through the door. They're happening so that you
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  Speaker 2: get something that is even better for you, something that's
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  Speaker 2: hard to really hold on to, an embrace in the moment.
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  Speaker 2: Rejection is redirection. Episode one ninety eight. Jacqueline is the
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  Speaker 2: founder of Creating Cultivate. Another really great nugget of advice
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  Speaker 2: came from doctor Michael Gervai. He's a hyperfund arms psychologist.
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  Speaker 2: He was episode one fifty one of the show, and
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  Speaker 2: he talked to me so beautifully about having control over
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  Speaker 2: your inner voice, exercising control over your inner voice, and
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  Speaker 2: having compassion for the thoughts that may come up, knowing
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  Speaker 2: that you are not your thoughts. He told me that
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  Speaker 2: awareness of your inner dialogue is so important that you
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  Speaker 2: can adjust and then come back to the now. So
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  Speaker 2: having awareness over what's going on in your head allows
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  Speaker 2: you to then respond instead of react I'll say that
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  Speaker 2: one more time, respond instead of react. A response is
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  Speaker 2: something more likely than not that you're a little bit
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  Speaker 2: more proud of than perhaps your gut reactions. So knowing
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  Speaker 2: what's going on in your inner voice and developing a relationship,
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  Speaker 2: a compassionate relationship with that inner voice is going to
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  Speaker 2: be that helps you be more present in the now
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  Speaker 2: and respond in a way that makes you proud. I
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  Speaker 2: could go on with lessons from this show all day,
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  Speaker 2: but those are just a couple of places to start.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to link those episodes in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: Again.
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  Speaker 2: I'm always looking for listener questions and I would love
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  Speaker 2: to answer yours on an upcoming episode of Five Minute Friday.
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  Speaker 2: The link to leave me a voice message is in
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  Speaker 2: the show notes. Make sure to follow along over on
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  Speaker 2: social It's at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Another Hurdle Conquered. Catch you guys next time.