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Why People Delay Action (S5) S17:E5 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone.
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It's great to be with you.
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This is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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All right, everyone.
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life.
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And yeah, the granular topic for today is
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why people delay.
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Why people delay.
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And that is, ladies and gentlemen, it is
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series five, show 17, episode number five.
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The master topic for the week is how
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people actually take control of their life direction.
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Yeah, something a lot of people seem to
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like not want to talk about.
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Hey, everyone.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, passionate
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lifelong learner, and now a published author.
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And it's my privilege and pleasure to be
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with you here today.
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So today's episode is all about something that
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does not look dramatic on the surface, but
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quietly controls everything mysteriously underneath.
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Delay, not failure, not lack of ability, but
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hesitation at the moment of execution.
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Because most people do not lose direction all
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at once.
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They lose it through delay.
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Uncertainty slows decisions.
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Unclear direction reduces immediate action and creates hesitation.
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Before movement begins, lack of clarity creates hesitation.
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When the path is undefined, execution is postponed.
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Too many options cause paralysis.
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Excessive choice reduces focus and slows commitment, fear,
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and delays movement.
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Perceived risk outweighs immediate progress.
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Delay feels safe.
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Inaction provides temporary emotional comfort.
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Waiting lowers risk perception.
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Stillness feels safer than forward motion.
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Overthinking replaces action.
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Analysis becomes a substitute for execution.
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Confusion blocks progress.
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Unclear thinking prevents consistent movement.
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And no urgency equals no movement without pressure
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and action.
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It does not initiate.
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Delay compounds over time, guys.
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Each moment of hesitation strengthens resistance.
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And I think these are important things for
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us to realize and for maybe us to
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understand.
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Because they are definitely very, very, very important,
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guys.
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Yes, they're important.
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So like I said, uncertainty slows our decisions.
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And lack of clarity creates hesitation.
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Too many options create the paralysis and fear
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delays movement.
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Delays often feel safe.
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But the inaction provides the temporary emotional support
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that many people need.
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Waiting lowers the risk perception, guys.
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That's what it is.
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It's a risk perception.
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It's not a win.
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It's a risk perception.
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And stillness feels safe, at least if we're
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talking about action.
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If we're talking about moving forward, it feels
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comfortable.
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And many people don't want to venture out
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into things that are not comfortable.
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Unfortunately, guys, they just want to venture to
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things that are going to be easy, things
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that are going to be easy.
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And I think that's a very interesting thing
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for a lot of people to understand, that
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it's about that whole concept.
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It's about that whole concept.
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So if we can understand this for, let's
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say, just a moment, our life can pivot.
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It can shift.
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Number seven, guys, overthinking replaces action.
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Analysis becomes a substitute for execution.
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Many people want to just keep analyzing things
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day in and day out.
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But they never really get anywhere, OK?
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They just complain.
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So they just go through this paralysis moment,
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a moment that maybe you didn't think was
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possible.
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And maybe other people didn't think was possible.
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But I want to tell you something.
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This moment is something that can define you
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your entire life, not just one time.
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Confusion blocks progress, guys.
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Unclear thinking prevents consistent movement.
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And it's hard for people to identify this,
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because they're like, I never had this problem
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before.
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Or maybe you weren't growing in that manner
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before like you are now.
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Maybe, OK, maybe that's the whole issue.
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I'm just saying, maybe.
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And that could be a very big maybe,
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guys.
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Number eight, confusion blocks progress.
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Unclear thinking prevents consistent movement.
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We can get gridlocked any time.
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But the key is knowing, how do we
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get out of gridlock?
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How do we move forward?
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I think those are hard things for a
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lot of people to realize.
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See, everybody thinks that everyone has the answers.
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But the truth of the matter is, everyone
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doesn't have the answers.
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But they figure it out.
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And the people that have the answers have
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been through a similar situation.
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So they can be, well, very useful knowledge
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mentors for you.
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Number nine, no urgency equals no movement.
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Without pressure, action does not initiate.
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Let me see if I can give an
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example.
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We had a situation a few days ago
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where this happens once in a while.
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Not a lot.
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Where we had somebody that was, well, severely
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behind on their payments to our tech company.
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And by severely behind, I mean we had
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some bills that were past 90 days.
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Even though the 90-day bill was not
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very high, it still was a problem.
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So one of our team members reached out.
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And they said it was hard to pay
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the bill.
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They had lost their login.
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We resend it to them.
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That was several weeks ago.
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Then we reached out.
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And we're like, we can't keep reaching out,
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saying, we can't do that.
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So we reached out one more time.
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And this is where we were.
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And we made a decision that if we
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didn't receive payment today, if payment wasn't initiated
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in one of our processing systems, by the
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end of close of business today, we're putting
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them on a support hold.
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Now, we weren't stopping all services like a
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lot of companies will do.
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We put them on a support hold.
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And just like we suspected, they reached out.
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And they had a problem.
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Rude.
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Also did not communicate to the other staff
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members that they were on any type of
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hold.
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Just told them that, you know, we need
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to see, we need to talk to basically
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X to hear from that person.
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And that was a day or so ago.
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So today, they reached out with a question.
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Very polite.
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Listened to it and said, I'd be happy
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to follow up with you on that.
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But I do, and I need to speak
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with such and such first.
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And I think that moment, because, you know,
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we didn't hear anything for a few days
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that the message had gone through.
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Now that this person was the one that
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we'd said, hey, could you tell such and
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such.
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And now they said to me, just want
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to let you know that I did tell
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such and such your message.
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And I knew that when they did that,
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that they were going to then reach out
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with a question.
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That's very polite, courteous.
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Said, you know, I'm happy to help you
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with that and follow up after I get
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to speak with such and such.
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And then the message was, I will let
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that person know.
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And something happened.
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An urgency transpired.
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See, no urgency equals no movement.
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Without pressure, action does not initiate.
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So what happened in that situation is we
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put them on a support hold.
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When we did that, I mean, the systems
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were still running.
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But if they had a question or a
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problem, they were on a support hold.
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And you know what happened a few hours
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after that transpired, once they realized that they
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were on some type of hold?
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We didn't say the word hold.
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But they knew when we said we had
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to speak with someone first.
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Within a few hours, we actually got a
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payment.
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Now it wasn't a full payment, but it
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was a payment.
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And so when we talk about urgency, no
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urgency equals no movement.
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So there became an urgency once they realized
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that they had no more support.
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We weren't nasty about it.
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We weren't rude.
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We weren't obnoxious.
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We weren't demeaning.
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We weren't harassing.
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We just stopped support.
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We didn't stop services, because that would be
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wrong.
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We didn't do that.
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Number 10, guys, delay compounds over time.
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See, each moment of hesitation strengthens more resistance.
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When you hesitate once, then you hesitate again
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and again.
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And before you know it, it becomes this
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big pattern.
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And the pattern actually affects, well, your trajectory
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of moving forward, your attitude, and your level
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of success.
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Time increases resistance.
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Like I said, the longer you wait, the
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harder action feels.
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Number 12, waiting makes it harder.
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Delay builds psychological weight around decisions.
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You know what else builds psychological weight?
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Silence.
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Silence.
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That's pretty cool.
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Silence.
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Silence builds this type of weight, guys.
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Silence builds this type of weight.
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Number 13, guys, action creates clarity.
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Movement reveals answers thinking alone cannot provide.
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So although movement is good and action does
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create the clarity, movement gets the answers that
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thinking alone can't.
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So if you're trying to solve something and
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you're like, oh, I'll think about it for
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a while, but you don't take a step,
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you don't take an action, well, you're not
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going to get a resolution.
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You're not going to get a resolution.
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I think that's an important thing to realize.
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It's important to realize.
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So number 14, guys, is clarity reduces hesitation.
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Understanding removes internal friction.
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When we understand the friction is gone.
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Number 15, decisions, decisions, decisions remove uncertainty.
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Choosing eliminates mental conflict.
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Choosing eliminates the mental conflict.
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You know, somebody said to me, John, well,
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what if you don't choose?
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Well, I got news for you.
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You're actually choosing.
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If you don't choose, you are still choosing.
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That's very wild if you ask me.
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Very, very wild.
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You're still choosing, but you don't choose.
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When you don't decide, you're actually still making
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a decision.
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You know, no communication, guys, is communication.
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I'm not sure if you knew that.
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No communication is communication.
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Movement creates feedback.
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Actions produce real-world information.
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And number 17, feedback pulls confidence.
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Results reinforce belief in the progress that we
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are currently making.
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It's the ROI, guys.
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It's the whole thing of, you know, we'll
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see what we're doing, and then we'll make
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a change.
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So feedback builds the confidence.
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Results reinforces the belief in the progress.
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So feedback gets us to, you know, get
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more confidence to do something, but then the
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results we have reinforce the belief in the
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progress.
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So let's say you were studying for a
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test, okay?
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And the feedback you're getting from studying is
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building your confidence that you are understanding this.
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But the results of what you studied for
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or the grade, that reinforces the belief in
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the progress you've already made.
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Number 18, guys, confidence speeds action.
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Repetition strengthens execution ability.
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Whoa, that's very high, guys, very high.
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Action reduces fear.
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Exposure weakens imagined risk.
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Exposure weakens imagined risk.
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You know, sometimes we make the situation worse
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than what it really is, right?
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We create the cynical umbrella.
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And it's like the more we think about
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that negativeness, the more that that becomes the
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reality.
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I mean, that's just the truth, guys.
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That's no magic.
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What we think about, we bring about.
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Wherever our thoughts go in our head, that
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is where the energy is going to flow.
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Nowhere else.
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That's where the energy is going to flow.
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Like I said, nowhere else.
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That's important, guys.
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Definitely, definitely important.
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Definitely important.
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As I said, number 18 is confidence speeding
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action.
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Repetition strengthens the execution ability.
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Think about that for a moment.
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So when you're confident about something, you can
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move to it faster.
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Number 19, action reduces fear.
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What's fear?
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False evidence appearing real.
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Exposure weakens imagined risk.
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That's what it is.
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It's imagined.
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Number 20, guys, delay increases doubt.
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Delay increases doubt.
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An activity magnifies uncertainty over time.
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Doubt creates stagnation.
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Hesitation becomes a repeating cycle.
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Becomes a repeating cycle.
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One that you're like, where the heck did
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this come from?
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How did this even transpire, right?
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How and when and where?
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I think that's an important thing to understand
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that very much.
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Because see, if you don't understand it, then
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you're probably going to be like, why is
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this happening to me?
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Why is this happening to me?
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It's hard to understand.
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Number 20, delay increases the doubt.
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As I said, inactivity magnifies it and the
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uncertainty that we have over time.
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So 21 is doubt creates stagnation.
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Hesitation becomes a repeating cycle.
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And I say this again to you because
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when a doubt comes in your head, it
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repeats.
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Probably say to me, why am I saying
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this again?
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If you know the first time I said
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these first three sentences, you probably didn't hear
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them and they probably went over your head.
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So these three I want to say again
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on purpose.
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Yeah.
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And I'm repeating this again.
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Stagnation reinforces delay.
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Inactivity trains the mind to remain inactive.
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That's the new part.
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Inactivity trains the mind to remain inactive.
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Not because it wants to, but because it's
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growing into a pattern.
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Number 23, guys, movement breaks the cycle.
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Even small actions disrupt any amount of inertia.
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Any amount of inertia.
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Not a small amount, but any amount of
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inertia.
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Number 24, guys, small action starts momentum.
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Initiation matters more than the scale, number 24.
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So if you initiate and you do something
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consistently, guess what?
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You're going to earn the respect of others.
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You're going to move further on your path
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to your success.
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And you're going to move away from hesitation,
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stagnation.
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That's important, guys.
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That small action makes a difference.
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Number 25, guys, momentum reduces thinking.
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And flow, flow replaces hesitation.
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You know, if you're trying to get somewhere,
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and you're like, ah, I don't know how
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to get started, the best thing to do
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is to just start.
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You know, you might not be right, but
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hey, you're going to start.
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And that's better than a lot of other
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people.
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If you could take the consistent action, you
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want to learn a language every day?
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Put in 20 or 30 minutes every single
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day.
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You'll learn a language in a year or
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two.
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But most people don't realize, or most people,
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I should say, don't want to make the
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commitment.
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They don't want to make the commitment.
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Not because they can't, but because their brain
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and subconscious puts other thoughts like, you know,
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this is a waste of time.
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I'm never going to get anywhere.
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What if I don't learn?
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All these, you know, ridiculous things.
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Ridiculous things.
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Number 26, guys.
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Progress builds clarity.
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Understanding it accelerates the decision-making.
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Understanding it accelerates the decision-making process.
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Understanding.
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Knowing how something operates.
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Knowing how something will go.
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And expectation.
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You know, I remember when I was younger
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and I always wanted to go on a
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ride.
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And my dad would always say, you know,
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John, you really should watch the ride first
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and make sure you like it before you
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just get on because you might not know
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what it's actually doing if you've never seen
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an operation.
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And that was a very good point because
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at that time I didn't really want to
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go on stuff that went upside down and
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I wasn't really doing roller coasters back then.
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But I can tell you that that piece
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of advice has stayed with me my entire
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life.
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And that is that you need to sometimes
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observe something in its full capacity, its full
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operating sense.
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All right.
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Number 27, clarity drives the speed.
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Understanding it accelerates it.
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So what I mean by this is that
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when you start to get clarity about something,
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when you start to know the way to
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do something, you get better and you get
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faster at it.
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Number 28, guys, number 28, speed creates results.
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Consistent action compounds the outcomes.
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So we know a speed creates better results
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from learning, but it compounds the outcomes that
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we can have.
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That's pretty cool.
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Okay.
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Number 29, results reduce hesitation.
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Proof replaces uncertainty.
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Results reduce hesitation and proof replaces uncertainty.
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Anytime you have proof, everybody's like, oh yeah,
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of course that's the right way to do
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it.
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And number 30, guys, action resets everything.
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Movement changes direction entirely the moment that you
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decide to act.
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The moment you decide to act, action changes
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everything.
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Everything.
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Action changes everything.
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Action changes everything.
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And that everything is something you might be
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saying, well, gee, that's not me.
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Sure, it can be.
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People see other people, they're like, you know
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what, that's not me.
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I can never do that.
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And like I said, what Einstein said a
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long time ago, if you believe you can't,
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you're right.
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And if you believe you can, guess what,
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ladies and gentlemen, you are also right.
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So ladies and gentlemen, here is the shift.
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Most people will miss this.
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It's like a blink of an eye.
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They believe that they need clarity before they
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can take action.
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Clarity is good, but don't think you need
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to sit home all day or sit on
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the bench and not play the game because
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you're not clear about what to do.
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You can still take action and you can
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learn from it.
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There was a guy's shirt that I saw
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about a week ago at school and it
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said, don't let the fear, let's talk about
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baseball.
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Don't let the fear of striking out keep
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you from playing the game.
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Let me say that again.
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Don't let the fear of striking out keep
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you from playing the game.
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Don't let the fear of striking out keep
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you from playing the game.
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We could translate that into life.
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Don't let the fear of taking a risk
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keep you out of the opportunity space.
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You don't let risks give you a fear
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that you should never take a risk.
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I think that's a very important thing.
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And so action is the key.
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You do not need to think your way
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into progress.
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You move your way into understanding.
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And once movement begins, everything just changes.
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Thinking becomes clear.
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Decisions become faster.
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Fear becomes smaller or completely eliminated.
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Directions become visible.
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So the real question ladies and gentlemen is
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not what should I do?
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Which a lot of you are probably asking.
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The real question is what can I do
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right now?
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So again, not what should I do, but
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what can I do right now?
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Because that answer is where momentum begins.
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And momentum is what changes direction.
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For more insights, ladies and gentlemen, I invite
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you to visit BelieveMeAchieved.com.
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You know why?
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Because your life does not change when thinking
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increases.
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It changes when movement begins.
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And you may be thinking right now, I've
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got a challenge and I've got to get
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through it.
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Okay.
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So what can you do right now to
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take a step toward that direction?
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Well, I can't do a lot of things.
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I didn't ask you what you can't do.
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I asked you what's one step you can
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do.
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Let me see if I can give you
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an example.
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Maybe you want to learn to cook desserts.
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And maybe you don't know the foggiest thing
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about mise en place or how to measure
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anything like that.
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But what you do know is temperature.
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You know temperature's important.
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You know how to set your oven and
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things like that.
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So work with what you do know and
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build upon that.
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Build upon that.
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I think when we understand these things and
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we get clear about what's going on in
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our life and we recognize that your life
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does not change when thinking increases.
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It only changes when movement begins.
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And that's when we get intentional about our
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life and our desire to be successful.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Please be sure to check out BelieveMeAchieved.com.
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Don't forget to check out the website and
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all the great stuff like the new GSM
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Academy, which you can find off of the
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link tree.
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I hope you have a great rest of
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your day or evening.
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And remember ladies and gentlemen, if you want
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change, you have to start moving.
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Have a good one everyone and be well.