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Season 2 - Episode 350 - What is real personal growth? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk about real change within ourselves and this little
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  tiny amazing idea that. What does it really mean to work
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  on yourself? Well, most of us think, OK, I've
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  got to get up early. I've got to work out, I've got
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  to drink the right water, I've got to read the right books.
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  I've got to listen to the right podcast.
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  I've got to go to the right classes.
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  I've got to hang around with the right people.
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  There's a list of mile long of successful strategies that
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  people do, and are they real and useful?
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  Yes. Do I teach them?
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  Absolutely, because they are. They do work.
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  But there is one really deep principle in this that I think
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  is often forgotten, and this is you have to stop waiting for
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  other people to change. Now think about that, because
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  the real question is what does it mean to work on yourself?
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  So we have the list we're working on ourselves, but back
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  there, in the way back of our bus, we are still waiting for
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  other people to change. I mean, I don't know about you.
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  In our most intimate relationships, this shows up,
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  happens with my husband. I can sit there and tell you I
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  wait for him to change. And in my waiting for him to
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  change, I don't change certain behaviors that have always been
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  trigger points for us. And I know that I should change
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  them. I can make them better.
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  Do I always make them better? No.
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  Do I try to make them better? Sometimes?
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  Yeah, sure. But I still wait for him to do
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  something. And when he does something, then
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  I can do something. But the truth of the matter is,
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  it's a silly, stupid way to be. And it doesn't help us on any
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  level, because what we end up doing is just messing with our
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  own heads in the process. And that is something that we do
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  not have to do. We do not have to mess with
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  ourselves. What we what we need to do is
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  recognize that we are always, always, always in charge of
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  ourselves. There is no question about that.
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  We are always in charge and no one can make us feel what we do
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  not want to feel. No one can make us think about
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  what we don't want to think about.
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  We are always in charge and we have to stop waiting for other
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  people to make shifts in themselves in order for us to
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  make shifts in our self. We just have to make decisions
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  to do it. And and it is a really
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  irritating concept when you think about it because it always
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  comes back to us. And I've had that question and
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  I've asked that question, what do you mean it really always
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  comes back to us? Yep.
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  It really always comes back to us, and we hate that because we
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  know there has to be that somebody else has to do
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  something. No, nobody else has to do
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  anything. You could, you know, pack up the
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  toys out of your sandbox and go home and play in your own
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  sandbox. And if you don't have a sandbox,
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  you could go find a different sandbox.
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  But we do not have to feel that other people have to change in
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  order for us to be happy or satisfied or anything else.
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  Because the the real reason we're here, in my opinion, is to
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  always experience growth. We are Co creating our worlds.
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  We are here with the universe, with God.
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  We are having this experience and we have the ability to
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  choose. And if we keep choosing to wait
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  for other people to change, it's going to be a bumpy Rd.
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  So rather than choosing to wait for other people to change, we
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  have to make decisions to change ourselves.
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  We have to decide how we want to show up.
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  And recognizing that that little phrase, it's like, you know, it
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  is so profound. I mean, what does it mean to
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  work on yourself? It is to stop waiting for others
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  to change. Wow.
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  It is so like, stops you right in your tracks.
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  So I'm going to ask you to challenge yourself and see,
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  where am I doing this? Where am I actually sitting
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  there waiting for someone else to change instead of taking
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  charge and doing the changing myself?
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  Where are the areas that I need to work on the most?
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  Where are the spots that I have my weaknesses?
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  What is a better way for me to respond?
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  You know, you know, there is, there is a really strong
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  understanding of the fact that when you can take charge of
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  yourself, when you can get back to this place of recognizing
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  that you have a lot of a lot more power than you think you
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  actually have, all of a sudden everything else shifts.
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  Viktor Frankel said between stimulus and response, there's a
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  space. And in that space we get to
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  choose our response. And in our response lies our
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  growth and our freedom. Wow, what a great quote.
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  Right? And that's what this is all
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  about, because we're back to us. But guess what?
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  That's power. That's real power.
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  Nobody else has power over you, my friends, or me.
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  And that's why I continue to do this work.
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  And so should you. OK, my friends, I will see you
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  tomorrow and I hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.