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Festive Hypnosis to Move On From a Previous Relationship · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  created for a client that had left a relationship but still
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  felt certain emotional attachments.
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  And it was coming up to the festive season and they really
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  wanted to feel that they'd got over their acts.
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  They weren't together. They had separated, they'd split
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  up. But at the same time, there was
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  a fear, a fear that that emotional connection would still
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  draw them back in. So what you're going to hear in
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  this hypnosis session is utilizing some of the festive
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  symbols like trees and lights and decorations as a way of
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  framing the past as the past. And what can happen is that
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  sometimes things are in the past, but they can be felt
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  differently in the moment. And PTSD is a good example of
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  that. Someone can feel really
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  traumatized in a moment for something that happened a decade
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  ago. So therefore it's still possible
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  to feel certain emotions like connection, even if logically
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  and intellectually you know that that relationship doesn't work
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  and and it isn't what you hoped it would be.
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  And this uses a, a way of framing submodalities.
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  If you're familiar with NLP, one of the ways in which you can
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  shift emotions is by changing the subpundalities.
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  So a memory quite often is taken from a first person perspective.
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  The moment you disassociate and change the colour and change the
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  distance, it tends to dial the emotion all the way down.
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  So there's a way of framing memories, like black and white
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  photos seen as a distance. That's quite helpful.
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  But also they wanted to feel that this previous relationship
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  was irretrievably broken, that it couldn't get back together
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  again. So there is a metaphor of a
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  glass souvenir, a glass object breaking, shattering into lots
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  of different pieces. That's going on.
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  And then there's future pacing of seeing a desirable future
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  where they're happy, but also that their ex has moved on too.
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  And that gives them a sense of closure.
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  So there's a bit going on here. I think it would be most useful
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  if you still have feelings for an ex relationship that will
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  enable you to get more value from this.
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  But at the same time, it might just be that there's emotions
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  not for a previous relationship, but for something else.
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  And that might be a connection to a dream or an idea or a goal
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  or an ambition that you know you've decided you don't want to
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  pursue anymore. But there's a bit that wonders,
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  like what if, what could have been?
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  In which case it could be useful for that too.
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  Obviously this was created for a very specific individual, and
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  not all of the suggestions will correlate with you.
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  Hone into the ones that resonate.
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  Ignore anything that don't, but if you do feel like a bespoke
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  session built around your individual circumstances and
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  needs could be helpful, there will be a link in the show notes
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  where you can schedule that free consultation call to explore
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  working with me. For now though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in and as you
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  breathe in, breathe in a slow, long, relaxing breath and as you
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  exhale just allow yourself to release any tension around your
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  eyelids and in that outward breath just allow your.
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  Eyes to close. Enabling you to drift off to a
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  place of calm, peaceful tranquility.
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  And when you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, just allow
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  yourself to release whatever you're holding on to.
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  Any sadness, any frustration, any overwhelm, any any
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  heaviness, just allow it to leave your body in that outward
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  breath. Just imagine being in a cosy
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  lounge surrounded by festive decorations.
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  I want you to imagine Christmas cards and Christmas lights, a
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  tree. I want you to imagine all the
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  things that you would normally decorate your home with.
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  And maybe there's a feeling of coziness in this room.
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  Perhaps you could imagine a soft, cozy couch.
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  Maybe there's a warmth. In the air.
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  And maybe you can even imagine the sound of festive music or
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  Carol singers. But just allow yourself to sink
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  into this feeling of festivity. And I want you to imagine not
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  too far away are the lights. Those festive lights of Reds and
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  Blues and greens. Maybe.
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  Maybe they're around a tree or maybe hanging the side of a wall
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  or up on the ceiling. But I want you to find one
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  colour of light that seems to hold your attention.
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  Just focus on that light intently.
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  And sometimes when you focus on light, it starts to blur.
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  It's still there, but your eyes defocus.
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  And I wonder, as you drift into that warm glow of that
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  particular colour of Christmas light, and maybe it twinkles or
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  flickers or holds steady. But imagine.
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  As you breathe in and breathe out, your focus deepens,
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  enabling you to drift into a place, a place within your
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  imagination. What if staring into that light
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  makes you think of all the different lights connected?
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  Maybe it's possible to think of your memories as shimmering
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  lights on a line that goes backwards.
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  What if each light holds a memory, each twinkle guiding you
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  further into a place of calm and quiet reflection.
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  With every breath you take, feel yourself relaxing more and more.
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  The lights begin to blur slightly and their glow creates
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  a soft haze. And as you focus on a light, or
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  many lights, you might notice how they seem to stretch time,
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  as if pulling you gently into a slower, calmer rhythm of the
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  present moment. And that initial light, the one
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  that got your attention, it's glow, feels special.
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  Livid holds the key to a journey through time, a journey into
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  acceptance, and as you continue to breathe deeply, the world
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  around you becomes quieter, softer, and you find yourself
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  ready. To begin this.
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  Journey. And as you stare into the light,
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  imagine it takes you back into the past, and that past is
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  filled with black and white photographs.
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  Each picture is a snapshot of a moment in a previous
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  relationship, moments frozen in time, but they're all black and
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  white, and they're all still images.
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  And as you observe them, feel that you're looking at them from
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  a distance, not close. Feel like they're far away,
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  black and white and still, like an impartial viewer watching the
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  life of someone that looks like you.
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  See yourself perhaps, perhaps in these photos, smiling or lost in
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  a moment, but it now feels like you're disconnected from that
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  version of you. You know it was you, but this is
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  you from the past, and you're not that person anymore.
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  Each photograph is free of emotion, drained of its colours,
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  drained of its intensity. That moment loses its power over
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  you and you simply see the moments for what they were.
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  Experiences neutral and detached, allow any memory of
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  that relationship to appear as a black and white photo and notice
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  how the emotions tied to these memories fade further and
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  further. The emotions are dialed down,
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  but the wisdom and experiences and insight is dialled all the
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  way up. Allow yourself to extract the
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  lessons and the understanding and feel that the emotions are
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  just far, far away in your past. And maybe there's a particular
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  memory that was more intense. And as you see that photo, take
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  in that moment, still seeing yourself like someone else, as
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  you realise that positive memories were just one part of
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  the past. There were many other memories
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  of arguments, disagreements, promises made but not kept.
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  This isn't you looking back with rose tinted glasses as to all
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  the best moments and what could have been.
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  Consider this more, dissecting the past to see it for what it
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  really was. A relationship that lacked some
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  of the intensity and passion. Someone that didn't quite have
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  the qualities to make you feel as valued or as important as you
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  wanted. Feel that as you go into the
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  past, you're seeing it for exactly what it was.
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  Each memory you see is one of many, and it feels like you from
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  a long, long time ago extract the value from the past without
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  any desire to live there. The grip of these moments
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  lessons and fades with every breath you take, and
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  I want you to imagine standing in front of a single beautiful
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  glass ornament. The ornament might be a large
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  ornament of a person, but it could also represent a symbol
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  that represented that relationship.
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  Could even be a glass ornament of a a house, a promise of the
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  future, even a piece of furniture.
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  Everything you shared, every plan, every memory, every dream
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  feel like it was linked into that glass ornament.
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  And from a distance, the glass ornament looks perfect and
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  precious and desirable. But on closer inspection you
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  realise that the ornament is cracked.
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  Chipped, maybe a severe crack all the way through.
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  That it was the idea of the future that appealed, not it's
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  probability and not the reality. And maybe you see that structure
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  as only ever being temporary. It was no longer capable of
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  holding the shape or the weight of what it once did.
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  I want you to imagine holding that ornament in your hands and
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  breathe in a feeling of clear intention.
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  And as you breathe out, allow yourself to drop that glass
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  ornament that represented that previous relationship.
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  Allow it to shatter into 1000 tiny pieces, fragments
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  scattering across the floor. And you watch as the pieces
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  glisten for a moment, realising that this can never be repaired.
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  It can never be what it was, and what it was was never what it
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  was intended to be. You were holding onto a dream,
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  not a reality. And allow that dream to shatter,
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  giving you all the pieces, the ingredients as to something that
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  would be desirable for you in your future.
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  Allow yourself to sweep up those tiny pieces, gently throwing
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  them away. But as you do, you feel no
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  sadness, no loss. Instead, imagine feeling an
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  incredible sense of relief, of freedom.
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  The ornament is no longer something to hold onto.
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  It's simply a part of your past, something that served its
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  purpose. I don't want you to imagine your
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  ex partner as someone you just used to date and imagine them in
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  their future, maybe two or three years in the future in a new
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  relationship. See them being happy in that new
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  relationship and you can be happy for them.
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  You can be happy that they found someone for them and trusting
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  that you will find someone for you.
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  And as you see them in their future, get a sense of absolute
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  clarity. That is not a future that you
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  want. You want a future that is
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  desirable for you and may have echoes of what you used to want.
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  But like anything else, it changes, evolves.
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  As you see those fragments, perhaps in the bottom of a a
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  tray or a bin or a box, you feel a great sense of clarity.
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  You see that the plans you once made were not wasted.
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  They were reconnaissance, guiding you to understand what
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  truly matters to you. Those plans were practice
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  insight, showing you the values, desires and dreams that you can
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  now carry forward into a future where you thrive.
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  So imagine standing before a vibrant, glowing Christmas tree
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  where it's lights now represent your future, bright, colourful
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  and full of possibility. And beneath the tree are gifts
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  wrapped in shimmering paper. Each gift contains a lesson
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  learned, a piece of wisdom from your past relationship.
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  So imagine opening the gifts 1 by 1, discovering new insights
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  about yourself, your strength, your resilience, your ability to
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  love and be loved the way you need to.
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  And these lessons fill you with gratitude, knowing they will
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  help you make better decisions, wiser choices.
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  These lessons are gifts, valuable gifts designed to
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  improve your future. So when you think of your ex
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  partner, that's what they are, simply a person you used to
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  date. The presence in your life was
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  real, but it's now over finished, irretrievably broken
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  like that shattered glass ornament that you've already
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  swept away. And over the next few days and
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  weeks, if their name ever does come up, you may be surprised to
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  notice how naturally you described them in the past
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  tense. Someone who was important but is
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  no longer. Someone who helped you but is no
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  longer part of your story. With each thought, they recede
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  further into the distance, becoming a part of your past.
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  A chapter closed, the story complete.
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  And as you stare into the glowing Christmas lights, you
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  imagine your future. A new chapter, but a new chapter
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  free of the baggage of the past and yet infused with the wisdom
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  and clarity it gave you. You feel lighter, clearer, and
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  more excited about the life you are building.
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  And as the lights begin to fade, you find yourself being called
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  to the present moment, the here and now, feeling that you've
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  psychologically moved on, getting a sense of closure.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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  your toes, connecting fully into the here and now.
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  As I count, from 1:00 to 10:00, you will awaken, but you will
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  awaken at the point where you're unconscious.
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  Let's close that chapter, putting your ex firmly in the
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  past. Starting to count 123 Waking up
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  456, More alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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