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Lessons - The One Connection That 10X'd My Entire Business | Polina Groman - Chief Happiness Officer at Gro International · Success Story with Scott Clary

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  I just want to take a second and thank Cornbread Ham for supporting today's episode.
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  Now Cornbread Ham CBD gummies have been this really nice addition to my wellness toolkit.
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  I don't use them every day just when I want to win wine after those extra busy weeks,
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  but they're perfect for those moments when you want to take the edge off and just find your balance
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  really just shut off from work. Now what makes them special is how Cornbread Ham
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  in delicious watermelon berry and peach flavor. I keep them in my nightstand for those moments when
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  I just need a little extra help relaxing and I love how transparent they are too. Every batch
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  is third party lab tests. It's you know exactly what you're getting and they put together a
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  That's cornbreadhamp.com slash success code success for 30% off your first order of these amazing
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  gummies. In this lessons episode, explore the art of building authentic relationships and
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  redefining value in a fast paced transactional world. Learn why trust takes time, how to embrace
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  bravery and failure and the importance of aligning your strengths to serve others effectively.
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  There's sort of two levels of people that I normally see. These people that are very superficial,
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  that are the first five minutes that I meet you. I want to do a transaction with you and then
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  there's people that put a month of effort into that relationship but then get visibly angry
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  when you don't give them something. There's very few people that are genuinely altruistic people
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  and I don't think it's sorry. I want to rephrase. I don't think there's few people that are
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  altruistic. I think that society, urgency, getting everything immediately in our daily lives
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  has trained people subconsciously to expect results immediately from anything they do,
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  including human relationships, which is absolutely fucking wild. You cannot human, you cannot
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  uber a human relationship, right? You can't hack it. You can't hack it, but people believe that and
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  I think that it actually really well-meaning people just don't understand why it takes an
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  individual who has achieved success, time to trust them, to build something together, to invest in
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  them. It takes a long time before you ever want to do business, especially if you achieve success,
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  you've been burnt by someone to keep along the way. I love that advice. Sorry, I mean to cut you off,
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  it's just a very, I think it's very smart and I see it a lot. I think that this is a really good
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  business strategy and people don't use it, right? So before you invest in doing hermosy style
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  videos, why don't you invest and understand your value, right? Not from an egotistic perspective
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  because everyone is valuable. Every person I genuinely believe this, that whether you believe in
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  God or not, I believe in God. Again, people are very sensitive when you use the word God. I believe
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  that when God made us, He literally took a piece of himself and put that piece into every person.
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  And we can be godly, we can be amazing, we can be caring, we are all those things, but we are
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  taught not to be because that's weak, especially in business, don't show them your weakness,
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  don't show them that you're afraid, don't show them, why not? Why not? But you also have to understand
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  that if I spent 20 years building relationships and I met you over dinner, I'm not opening up my
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  roller dex to you just because you're a woman or just because you know my family member or just
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  because we're connected through, you know, business associates. You also have to not get so
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  visibly disappointed that you don't get what you want because if you genuinely build a relationship,
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  you will have more business. I don't care what you do, then you will know what to do with.
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  And you also have to understand that you have to be brave.
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  Brewery is what separates people that are really successful from those that are trying.
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  You have to be brave to fail. And you have to be brave to tell people that you fail.
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  A lot of times when we turn on social media, we see a glamourized, you know,
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  audited version of someone's life. And we compare ourselves to that version and we feel like
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  in pastors not knowing that that person doesn't drive that Lamborghini, not knowing that that person
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  doesn't have those followers, not knowing that that person doesn't have any of the things that you
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  are comparing yourself to and feeling small next to. Right? So what I found is a lot of times when
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  people want to put out, you know, content, they're emulating someone else's success, they don't even
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  have and they try to become someone else, they're never going to be not because you can't have that
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  car. Of course you can. You can have anything that you want if that's what you really want.
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  But I promise you that once you get whatever you're chasing, you're going to be very unhappy.
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  I promise you that because I've done it at so many levels. The key is really understanding
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  what value do you bring to this world? Genuinely, honestly, maybe your values into
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  maybe your values that you genuinely care. Maybe your value is that you connect people.
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  Maybe you have a combination of these skillsets. Those are really valuable things that people
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  genuinely want. Well, you're trying to sell them your agency services. Why don't you get to know them?
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  Why don't you get to know people as human beings and understand how you could potentially support them?
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  Right. I've developed a business model which is very different than what most coaches and consultants
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  do because they think it's weird. A lot of people think it's weird and they don't think it's
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  scalable because they don't understand it. So I'll break it down here. And if you have any
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  questions, by the way, reach out to me on Instagram because I could speak for 10 hours about this
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  model. This model came from me failing. This model came from me hearing a lot of nose and it came
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  from me investing in a lot of shiny objects. I've invested a lot of money just to understand that
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  a lot of people don't know what they're doing. They're selling you a bunch of nonsense. They're
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  courses they didn't even write or create. They're programs at garbage that I filled with people
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  that are teaching the garbage that they just sold you online. They don't even know the content.
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  Like I've been in masterminds that cost 35,000 dollars where a person couldn't read a balance sheet
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  and they want me to do business with that. 35,000 dollars to get in the room with the right people.
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  I mean, who screened these people? Were they screened for having a pulse? You know what I mean?
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  It's not a knock in anyone. It's you have to start using your discernment, right? And you have
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  to start in the standing like, where are you strong? I promise you you have strength and someone else
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  has that weakness. When you can match those two things, that's where you win. So typically,
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  when I meet a coach consultant or speaker, they have a one-on-one program or a group program.
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  They're trying to do the omnipresent thing. They're making money and they are burned out.
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  They can't take it anymore. They just don't know what else they could do. They're doing it. They're
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  investing. They're going to masterminds, which suck. They are spending time with the people that
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  are more successful than that are just selling them more things that they don't need. And they're like,
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  like, how do I not kill what I've built? But I don't want to live like this anymore. And I've
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  lived like that. Maybe years. And you just feel like there's no way out because you work so hard
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  to build to where you are that you're not willing just to say, oh, fuck it. I'll just destroy it.
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  Like, you can't. You feel guilty for spending the time for being away from your family
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  for, you know, maybe firing people that are depending on you and their families. So you
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  constantly are like, I'm so miserable here. It's like being in a relationship that you hate,
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  but you feel guilty because you stay for the kids. And I've been in both of these business and
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  personal relationships. And I could tell you that it sucks being in this place. It sucks feeling
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  like you're stuck. So my model is a love child finding love for myself and understanding how to
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  use your strength to get paid. You don't need to get paid for what you do. You can get paid for
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  who you are. And I'll say that again, because it's really confusing to people. You don't need to
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  get paid for what you do. You can get paid for who you are. But you have to be very specific and
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  intentional with how you support people. How do you serve people? A lot of people don't like
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  the word. I'm not a servant. I'm, you know, I'm an influencer or I'm a founder or that's fine.
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  Whatever you want to call it, what value do you bring to someone and are you willing to guarantee
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  a result? Most people's answers know. And by guarantee a result, I don't mean pay me 30,000
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  dollars. And if it doesn't work out, I'll work with you for free. That's not guaranteeing a result.
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  Because if you didn't work out, what I want to continue working with you, right? So what I've
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  developed is an intensive model. If someone will spend two days with you as a coaching and consultant
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  and take your nine months program and get one specific result from you in two days,
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  they don't want to go anywhere. They're sold. That's the KPI that you found. That's the carrot.
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  I just want to take a second and thank Cornbread Ham for supporting today's episode. Now,
• 9:31
  Cornbread Ham CBD gummies have been this really nice addition to my wellness toolkit.
• 9:37
  I don't use them every day just when I want to win wine after those extra busy weeks,
• 9:42
  but they're perfect for those moments when you want to take the edge off and just find your balance
• 9:47
  really just shut off from work. And what makes them special is how Cornbread Ham crafts them.
• 9:51
  They only use a flower of USDA organic hand plants. That's the best part. For the purest,
• 9:57
  most potent experience, no fillers, no artificial fluff, just clean, full spectrum goodness in
• 10:04
  delicious watermelon, berry, and peach flavor. I keep them in my nightstand for those moments when
• 10:08
  I just need a little extra help relaxing. And I love how transparent they are too. Every batch
• 10:13
  is third party lab tests. It's you know exactly what you're getting. And they put together a
• 10:16
  special offer for all success story podcast listeners. All listeners can save 30% off their first
• 10:22
  order. Just head to cornbreadhemp.com slash success and use code success at checkout. That's
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  cornbreadhemp.com slash success code success for 30% off your first order of these amazing gummies.
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  So how does it work? Simple. There's many, many ways to skin this cat. But let's,
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  and by the way, we don't skin cats because people are really sensitive.
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  You'll be surprised how many stages are spoken. I don't know. I would say something like the skin
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  of cat and the people will be like, oh my god, your races against cats will be like, what?
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  There's such a thing as oh my god. This races against cats. Yes. Yes. I was called the races
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  against cats and a bunch of other things. So now every time that I'm just being myself, I will do,
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  I will do a sensitivity check in for those that are very sensitive. Okay. Fair.
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  Anyways, moving on. So if you're a fitness coach and you tell people, here's my promise to you.
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  Eat all the pasta you want. Eat all the drink all the wine you want to lose 30 pounds in 90 days.
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  If I listen to this, I'll be like, yeah, right. No way. But if I like pasta,
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  there's a part of me that'll be like, what if, like what, what if like I want to try it?
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  I will pay you, but I will start having buyers remorse the second that I hit pay.
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  And I will start telling myself, you know what? It's probably full of shit. I'm probably crazy
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  thinking that this is going to work. So you're living in the program already thinking it to scan.
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  But if it works, oh my god, I'm going to be so excited. I'm going to tell all my friends.
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  Something that happens during activation, if your stuff really works, right? The second someone
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  loses that first pound, they're sold. They're like, oh my god, I have to tell everyone that I know
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  I have been drinking wine and I've lost weight. Whatever this person told me to do their method
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  actually works like I cannot believe it. I thought it was a scam. People start telling everybody
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  that they know because most of the times it doesn't work. So if you're an expert and you know what
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  you're doing and your method actually works, this doesn't work for beginners. You have to already
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  be really good at what you do. You have to have really happy clients. You have to have
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  real social proof, not for other people for yourself. You have to know that you're good at this
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  thing because otherwise it will not work, right? So activation, the second you activated someone,
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  they raised their hand and they say how do I work with you further? It's natural. People don't want
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  to invest in coaches, consultants or masterminds. I know it's a big, when I say that people like
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  what do you mean it's a huge industry, people get burned all the time. There's more bad than good.
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  I come from the view growing up that they're all scams. Thanks for tuning in. If you found this
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  to dive deeper into this conversation, check out the links in the description to watch the full
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