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10 Hidden Signs of Autism in Adults (NEED TO SEE) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So in this video, I'm discussing A10 different hidden traits of
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  autism in adults that you can now identify.
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  OK, so 10 hidden traits of autism.
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  OK, so the first one is difficulty in recognizing
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  internal states or it's sometimes called alexithymia.
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  Now internal states like how you regulate your emotion of how
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  you're feeling at that moment in time.
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  So somebody on the autism spectrum, especially an adult,
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  may not be able to say, oh, I'm feeling kind of anxious right
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  now, or I'm feeling worried or I'm I should cry at this moment
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  in time. Maybe that'll come at a later
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  point in the day. They may feel really happy, but
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  they may not show it until later on when they're in their home
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  and in a safe setting. This is called Alexithynia.
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  So it's kind of almost like a delay in recognizing internal
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  states, right? That that's kind of one way to
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  do it. Oh, and FYI guys, if you're new
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  around here and you want to learn more about autism, my name
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  is Dan and I have autism in ADHDOCD and dyslexia and I make
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  weekly videos all about this stuff.
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  So if you want to learn more and come along this journey with me,
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  So select the thyme here is something that I actually deal
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  with too. Now, not everybody in the
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  ultimate spectrum is going to have all of these, but most
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  people in the autism spectrum will have at least 50% of these.
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  So it's very interesting to to learn.
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  OK, so #2 is overly rigid morality.
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  And this is kind of like sometimes called black and white
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  thinking. So a person on the autism
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  spectrum will be like thinking only this or that.
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  There'll be no grey area in the middle.
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  So something that would be true or false, which is difficult to
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  understand jokes sometimes with people who are autistic, kind of
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  like may not understand a joke because a joke isn't black or
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  white. You know, sometimes there's
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  ambiguity there. And this thinking of black and
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  white is very interesting. And I had an example of this
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  when I was on a driving awareness course because I, I
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  was driving the wrong speed and the wrong kind of limit.
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  They were talking about gun calibration and how they check
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  speed guns, right? Speed guns tell you a certain
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  speed you're going, blah, blah, blah.
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  So I told them about something called the Heisenberg insurgency
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  principle because I'm a chemist. And I said, well, if an object,
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  if you know how fast an object is going, you can't predict
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  where it is in space. So you can't say that I was
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  going fast in a non fast area of space because there's you can't
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  have both variables if the gun is to be 100% accurate.
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  So to me that's very black and white.
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  But they told me that they have to kind of estimate and have an
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  an average that you probably were going this speed in this
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  place. None of it is kind of very
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  exact. And I was like, this is
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  difficult for me to grasp because in my mind I'm like, it
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  has to either be yes or no. And Heisenberg's uncertainty
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  principles and law of physics. So with autistic individuals, my
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  advice for this, if you're coming across one and this is
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  highlighted to them that they've got back of my thinking, then
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  just say, hey, it's kind of like this and give them another
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  example of like a real life situation.
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  OK, so #3 is a delayed response for timing within conversations
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  similar to how Alexa Thamia works?
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  A person on the autism spectrum may be in a conversation with
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  somebody and that conversation will be going on between maybe
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  you and another person. And then the other person on the
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  autism spectrum will be there. And the person on the autism
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  spectrum will think of an answer and they're thinking about that
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  answer. But they may not respond
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  instantly, which means that when they get home, they may text the
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  answer to somebody or they'll be like, hey, you're not thinking.
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  We were talking about last week. I now have an answer for it.
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  And it comes from 2 reasons. 1 is that the processing of the
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  answer. They want to make sure that they
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  are processing the information correctly and they want to check
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  this and double check it kind of like a almost like an obsessive
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  kind of thing to, to rethink what you've what you've asked or
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  said. And then the other thing is that
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  they want to make sure that the answer that they are creating is
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  going to be correct. They don't just really nearly
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  put out an answer, you know, and, and be like, Oh, that's it.
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  They want to be able to make sure they get that's right.
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  So a delayed in response. And this could happen sometimes
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  with jokes. I get this all the time.
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  Somebody tell me a joke and I'll be like, I'm thinking about it
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  for ages and maybe like a week or sometimes a month later, I'll
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  be like, you know, I'm washing the dishes.
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  I'm like I get it now I get the joke because that's the delayed
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  response. I just want to interject in this
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  video here to let you know that confidence is one of the main
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  issues that holds autistic individuals back from their full
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  potential. This is why I write a course
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  which is the Chaos to confidence in 90 Days of Blueprint, which
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  means I can take an autistic person from complete chaos to
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  being very confident and acing their life.
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  So if you're an artistic adult and you want access to this
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  program, you can check it out. The link is in description and
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  down below. Or you can go to the
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  aspyworld.com/C 2C right now, the number 2 and get access to
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  this program. OK, so #4 is deep attachment to
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  routines, even if they're a bit unproductive Because autistic
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  people love routines because there's obsessive compulsive
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  disorder that comes with autism. I have that.
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  But also there's like just an obsession to want to be
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  routinely based. So maybe the autistic person or
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  the person that you expect that could be autistic will love
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  routines that could be showering at the same time every day and
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  they have to get it done. Even if you say, Oh well, the
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  boiler's broken. We got no hot water, they'd
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  still shower with the cold water.
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  Even if it's unproductive, they'll still do it because it's
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  a routine that they're comfortable with.
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  Why? Because we are comfortable as
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  authentic individuals with predictability of routine.
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  We love, we love to think that OK, this is going to happen and
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  this is going to happen next and yadda yadda yadda.
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  And we know that it's comfortable.
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  The unpredictability of life is enough struggle and stress for
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  us. We like to have things that we
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  can feel comfortable to regulate ourselves and feel uncomfortable
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  in. And that is typically what that
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  is. OK, so #5 is really interesting.
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  This is all to do with social conventions.
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  Now an autistic person may stand too close to another person in
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  the conversation, like the unaware of personal space, one
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  may say. And by doing this, they don't
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  know how far away it is down to. So sometimes, like you could be
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  having a conversation with an assisted person and they could
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  walk away. They could be in another room.
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  But and I used to get in trouble with this all the time.
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  Like my ex-girlfriend used to really kind of always bring it
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  up. You're like, you're walking away
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  and I'm talking to you and I'm like, yeah, I'm I'm still
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  listening, but I didn't know what the convention was.
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  Where should I be? Jerry sat next to them.
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  Jerry sat in front of them. It's a it's a big deal, right?
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  So if you know somebody speculate is autistic and
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  they're doing this, this is a good indication that they may
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  have an autism special condition.
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  And just by the way, guys, like I'm not diagnosing people here.
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  I'm just giving you the insight from my perspective of what I
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  know to help you. OK.
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  So number six is unusual speaking patterns.
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  This is fascinating. Autism in its kind of core is a
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  communication disorder, right? And so the brain processes
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  information that is communicating to then
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  reciprocate communication outwards with difficulties.
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  So some autistic individuals cannot speak or they are mute
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  and some selective mute. But sometimes autistic
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  individuals will have issues with the way in which they
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  pronounce words or even communicate a word or a speech
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  pattern. And this comes from the fact
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  that they're trying to process what they're saying at the same
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  time as they're saying it. And their brain is also
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  processing 1001 things at the same time.
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  So it, it leaves for sometimes stuttering, stammering, saying
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  words wrong, and also how the autistic person learned the word
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  to add into the lexicon of that library of words that they use
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  all the time. Sometimes if they've heard the
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  word wrong, they'll always remember it as the word wrong
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  and they will produce that every time they speak.
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  So a lot of people don't know this, but I'm not American, I'm
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  actually UK, I'm British, right? So but I learnt to speak mainly
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  all the words of my lexicon by watching American TV and
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  American speakers. So I have a transatlantic
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  accent, which means I'm kind of sound American.
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  But if you're, if you're American, you're watching this,
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  you're going to be like, wait, that's such a British accent.
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  But a lot of people here in the UK think I'm American.
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  So there you go. OK #7 is exhaustion after social
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  events Now autistic individuals when they're in social settings,
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  it could be a party or like a football game or some kind of
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  event where there's more than maybe a handful of people there.
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  This is a social gathering could even be going out to the store,
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  right? This is still a social
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  gathering. Now autistic individuals will
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  have so many internal things going on like the sounds, the
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  smells, the the lights, the the temperature, people's
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  conversations, other people's conversations, the sound of
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  other people talking 2 rooms away.
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  All of this is getting processed at this moment in time.
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  And to be in that situation, it takes a lot for the autistic
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  person to kind of come and regulate and be there and do the
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  supposed to do right. So when they get home, they're
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  going to feel exhausted. They're going to have almost
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  like a social hangover. They're going to feel hungover
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  from the social event. And it could actually come in
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  many phones. Like they could also have a lot
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  of items to do, like phoning a lot of different people, or it
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  could be doing a lot of different tasks in the house.
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  Not, you know, not physically exhausting, but they will feel
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  exhausted within that. Now, what's interesting about
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  autistic individuals is that sometimes they don't even
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  recognize this in themselves and they need to try and limit that.
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  So if you know an autistic person, or if this sounds like
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  the person you know that they get exhausted after social
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  interaction, then try to get them to limit the amount of
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  social interaction that they putting themselves out into
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  because you want to make sure that they're safe and healthy
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  and well. OK, so #8 also is a social one.
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  This is using imitation as a way to talk or to be socially
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  accepted or a social tool. So they could pick up words from
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  another person or or see if a person doing a joke or a phrase
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  and then copy that and imitate it in a social convention.
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  Or if you're talking to somebody who has a an Australian accent,
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  the autistic person may take on the Australian person's accent
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  to imitate them because they feel like that's the social tool
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  to use. It's a very interesting concept
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  that happens quite a lot, and sometimes a lot of people think
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  it's echolalia, which is kind of like repeating something you've
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  heard. But actually in this specific
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  instance, this is repeating a line from somebody else because
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  you think that that's what other people want to hear.
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  This is fascinating and it just shows you the insight to how
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  difficult it is for autistic individuals like myself to be in
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  social situations when we haven't prepared for it.
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  OK, so #9 is something really interesting.
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  Now this is a comorbidity, meaning it's something that Co
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  occurs with autism, which is sensory processing disorder.
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  But more importantly, this is more of like a hidden one,
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  right? And this is extreme sensitivity
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  to maybe fabrics, tags on clothing or temperatures.
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  Now I am extremely sensitive to temperatures and it usually I
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  feel too hot all the time. I'm always too hot.
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  Even in the winter I'll have a fan going in my bedroom to cool
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  me down. I never sleep in pajamas and I
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  just find things I'm just too hot all the time, especially
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  when I'm doing something of say if I'm going to do DIY project
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  or I have to help the kids doing something like I, I just start
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  sweating straight away. So there's a funny thing like
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  whenever I'm like hanging shelves up, I have to do it in
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  my underpants because like I get too hot, right?
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  Like the, the, the whole thing gets it gets temperature lift.
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  But also having like, you know, those tags on the back of your
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  shirts, Like, I don't have it in this one, but autistic
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  individuals will be like, oh, you know, trying to take their
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  shirt off, but to to stop the tag touching them.
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  And especially non verbal autistic individuals because
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  they'll be like, ah, you know, the tags that we started taking.
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  How do you communicate that? So autistic individuals will
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  probably cut the tags off all of their clothes.
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  And you'll see this as like a hidden kind of trait of autism.
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  So that is super interesting and also a good indicator that the
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  person has a sensory processing issues, which is comorbid with
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  autism. OK, so #10 is literal thinking
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  and taking things like sarcasm literally at face value.
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  Like an autistic person will take everything you say
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  literally. And even down to, and this is
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  what's really interesting, even down to this used to happen to
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  me all the time, Someone telling me a story about an interaction
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  that they had in the store or the school or something.
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  And they'd be like, so, so down. I'm like, yeah.
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  And they're like, hey, so I went to the store and I was talking
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  to my friend and all of a sudden I was like, whoa, somebody
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  pushed into me with a shopping cart.
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  When they say the word whoa, I'm like, whoa, what is it?
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  What is it like? I feel like then right then and
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  there, they're saying whoa to me like they have an issue right
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  then and there. I can't understand that.
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  It's in the concept of the story.
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  No matter how much I prepare myself, I can't overcome this.
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  And I've tried many ways, but everything that somebody tells
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  me I take at face value, even the emotions in a story that
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  they are telling me. And this is fascinating.
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  Autistic individuals are very literal in the thinking process
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  and the way that they understand verbal communication and
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  commands that you've sent them. Forget about texting somebody a
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  joke. If they're on the autism special
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  means texting them a sarcastic joke.
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  They ain't never going to get it right, but sometimes I suppose
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  maybe if they learn that joke or learn that concept, it's a
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  potential. Now if you have anything to add,
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  pop in a comment down below. I'd love to hear from you and
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  I'll see you in the next one. Guys, peace.
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  Peace.