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Marriage Moment: What is your love saying? · Mountain Mover's Prayer

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  Speaker 1: Hi, this is doctor Juel Williams here with our marriage moment.
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  Speaker 2: Got a quick scripture First Corinthians thirteen and one. All
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  Speaker 2: of us have heard this.
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  Speaker 1: It's if I could speak in all languages of earth
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  Speaker 1: and angels, but didn't love others, I would only be
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  Speaker 1: a noisy gong, gong or clanging symbol. That entire chapter,
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  Speaker 1: when you read it, talks to you and tells us
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  Speaker 1: about what love is.
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  Speaker 2: But from a marriage perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Why that is so important as this this until you
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  Speaker 1: and I take the time to learn the love language
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  Speaker 1: of our spouse so that what we speak to them
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  Speaker 1: it penetrates their hearts. It's something that they can see,
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  Speaker 1: that's something that they can feel. If we're doing anything else,
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  Speaker 1: guess what, we're just making noise.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to be in your marriage just making noise.
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  Speaker 1: You want your sound to do something. You want your
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  Speaker 1: sound to encourage your mate. You want your sound to
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  Speaker 1: lift your made up. You want your sound to protect
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  Speaker 1: and cover your mate.
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  Speaker 2: So we don't want to do We don't want.
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  Speaker 1: To just I did love you the way I feel,
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  Speaker 1: but I need to learn to love you the way
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  Speaker 1: you need.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all know I'm a storyteller. So let me tell you
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  Speaker 2: the story. My husband and I.
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  Speaker 1: I told you we've been married for forty two years.
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  Speaker 1: I know, y'all, like, girl, you don't even look like
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  Speaker 1: you've been that old. Thank you so much for the compliment.
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  Speaker 1: But let me say this. First of all, my husband
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  Speaker 1: and I had to learn because we were young. We were
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  Speaker 1: like twenty when we got I was twenty when I
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  Speaker 1: got married, so I didn't know what I was doing.
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  Speaker 2: But this is what I had to learn. I had
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  Speaker 2: to learn how to.
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  Speaker 1: Know what was important to him. He had to learn
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  Speaker 1: or know what was important to me. So that meant
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  Speaker 1: we had to learn to speak to each other. What
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  Speaker 1: we used to would do when we would go places.
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  Speaker 1: If he said something or I said something, that heard
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  Speaker 1: each other. And while we were out we didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to have no big argument, but we had a little
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  Speaker 1: cold word when.
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  Speaker 2: We would say, you dropped a brick on me.
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  Speaker 1: We wouldn't say it what anybody else could hear. Only
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  Speaker 1: that person, only my husband could hear, so that.
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  Speaker 2: That already he already knew. When when we got home
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  Speaker 2: we were gonna sit down and talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna tell him what it was. Also, because
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  Speaker 1: I at least let him know I was hurt in
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  Speaker 1: the moment. That kind of de escalated it. So I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't ready to, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Snap, So we were able to sit down and talk.
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  Speaker 1: He was already ready to have conversation because he knew
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  Speaker 1: it was coming, so it didn't catch him off guard.
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  Speaker 2: I told you that for this reason, when I go
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  Speaker 2: back to that scripture.
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  Speaker 1: About love, we want to make sure that the way
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  Speaker 1: we love each other is in a way that's encouraging,
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  Speaker 1: that's building, that honors them, that sees him and gives
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  Speaker 1: him the best of me vice versa. So I just
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  Speaker 1: want to encourage somebody today. Don't just be a noisy
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  Speaker 1: a symbol. Don't just be making sound in your marriage.
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  Speaker 1: Make your words count. Don't fight to be right, fight
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  Speaker 1: and don't fight against each other.
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  Speaker 2: Let's fight together. So even if we have a.
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  Speaker 1: Disagreement, you be able to tell your spouse what's the
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  Speaker 1: brick that he dropped on you? And you tell him
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  Speaker 1: what's the brick he drops on you, and then you
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  Speaker 1: discuss it and get to what you do that breakdown
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  Speaker 1: so that brick can't hit you anymore.
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  Speaker 2: I'm doctor Joel Williams just.
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  Speaker 1: Wanted to come and give you this marriage moment as
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  Speaker 1: always when I tell you, and I'll have a great
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  Speaker 1: day on purpose.
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  Speaker 2: Bye bye