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Leadership with Purpose: A Visionary Conversation | Featuring Greg Riley | S3E6 · Jess Ask

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  Hey, it's your girl, jess You've just entered a safe space for Kingdom
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  so we can keep the conversation going. Now, let's get into this week's
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  episode. So what do you think led to the mistrust? Before you get
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  to that, hey, guys, this is another episode, another edition of
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  Just Ask. I am the guest Greg Riley. But obviously you don't sound
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  like well wit wait, this is a first edition episode that we are trying
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  out and today, well we are trying The podcast is called Just Ask.
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  So Jessica brought on a guest today that would be that would be just Asking
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  now I will I would be talking a little bit as well. But no,
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  before we get into it, because some we got some new people that
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  are joining the community. So if you didn't catch the first episode, right
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  you for one, we're gonna desiate. We gotta make sure we linked this
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  episode to the first episode, because if you didn't catch the first episode,
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  you won't understand why he's a continual not guess because he family and the Jets
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  ask family. So this is why he has the flexibility to do something like
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  this because don't come here talkinson, I'm just ask that's that's gonna be a
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  just no. And can we? And so since were just asking, I
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  know, just our relationship, we always talk about being honest, open and
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  transparent, and I'm learning that vulnerability is a true superpower. It is,
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  so I want to ask permission. Do I have permission to tell the audience
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  why we actually doing this? Do I have that you do? Okay?
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  So the way this came about is Jessica sometimes has anxiety or whatnot of being
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  interviewed. This is a really, really powerful thing. She's a great interviewer
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  as all you have seen from watching the pod, but when she's interviewed sometimes
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  she gets nervous. And the Holy Spirit put it on my heart to help
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  my sister and be like, hey, look, I think that we should
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  do an interview we just asked on your podcast. Let's get you into space
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  that's comfortable and let's break the yoke of rejection. Let's break the yoke of
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  not feeling worried. Let's break the yoke of fear. Because you are beautifully
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  and wonderfully made. Your condition does not have to be your conclusion. You
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  are worthy, you are worth the position right and and sometimes I think that
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  you were just talking about the mistrust piece. I think sometimes the mistrust tricks
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  us out of our spot to where we feel that it was total rejection,
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  but not understanding that rejection is God's protection. Y'all write that down. I
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  will not allow mistrust to trick me out of my spot. I think that's
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  for the people. I will not allow mistrust to trick me out of my
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  spot. And I'm gonna get his quick, short story. Then we're gonna
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  get into the questions. So I was reading, So I'm reading the Book
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  of John right now. And if you if you read the Bible, of
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  course, you know in the four Gospels, you got Peter that denied Jesus
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  the time he did right, And one of the things was long story short.
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  Jesus told Peter to pray because he knew that people was coming. Peter
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  fell asleep, so he did not have the covering of the Holy Spirit to
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  protect his flesh against denying Jesus. So we can see where Peter denied Jesus
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  three times, God could have took that is Peter didn't trust Jesus, or
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  Peter could have took there air is mistrusting the failure because he could have felt
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  he failed Jesus. Right but in that moment when he didn't, when he
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  when he didn't, when he denied Jesus three times. Right after that moment,
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  you see God put Peter in a place to where he was able to
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  write two books for hisself and the Bible, where Peter began to anchor people
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  because he failed forward he was he was able to deny three times, realize
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  he was wrong, see his mistake, and move forward. And I want
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  to run that into you started off by talking about the mistrust piece, So
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  how did you allow mistrust? Okay, where did that come from? Number
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  one? Where did that see come from? And how did that trick you
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  out of your spot by you not feeling like you can trust your village?
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  See the thing about understanding your power, it can also trick you into understanding
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  your opportunity what some people call weaknesses, but I choose to use the word
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  opportunity and so just learning. I would use the word boundaries, learning my
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  boundaries with people and learning my boundaries or relationship, not saying the relationship is
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  good or bad. Boundaries are boundaries, right, I've allowed people in my
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  ear that shouldn't have had the access that they did. So, like for
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  example, for example, my leadership at work has a level of boundaries boundaries
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  like they shouldn't some of them, not all of them. It's a few
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  select people that can connect to me in different areas of my life. But
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  some of those boundaries I might have allowed to bleed into my emotional, spiritual,
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  intellectual boundaries when it should have just been left at work. That's just
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  an example on what I'm seeing. So my mistrust comes from allowing people into
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  areas of my mental capacity that should have never been allowed. So to follow
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  up with the mistrust piece, do you think mistrust factors into a bit of
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  confidence when you're not able to allow yourself to lean on your village? Do
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  you think by having that mistrust do you think it rattles the cage of confidence?
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  I think I think that's a fair statement, but I also think the
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  mistrust of who. So when you think about it, do I trust even
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  myself. So when you talk about confidence, it's in the whole. So
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  now we understand that there's mistrust, But where do I mistrust myself? And
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  now where do I mistrust people? Bishop Moody Van Moody has this book called
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  the I Factor and the People Factor. He brought He took the I think
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  he did the people factor first, but then it brought it reminding himself that
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  he had to do I Factor. Two powerful books, but you can't have
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  one without the other, all right. And so while I believe that is
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  how wherever areas I mistrust myself and I will lack confidence there, And because
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  I lack confidence there, it exudes into the people. And so now it's
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  of where I want to be out of and where I want to do the
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  work and try to trust myself in. If I haven't disciplined or taught people,
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  how taught people my level of confidence in the area, or exuded that
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  and exposed that the people, then I'm in a real revolving door. Because
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  I'm a people person. Expect I love words of affirmation is my go to,
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  like my love language, and so when I'm not getting that or when
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  I experiencing that, then I go back into a sunken place. And so
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  now I'm a revolving door. Instead of being able to say, okay,
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  I just trust myself. I can exude this confidence so much so that I
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  make it believable to other people. But I really don't like I don't really
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  like saying that, And I'm gonna tell you why, because when I hear
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  the word make believable, it almost sounds like I'm trying to finess. And
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  I don't want to be a liar to I don't want a lie to myself
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  and I don't want a lot of people. And so how do I keep
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  that balance of I'm a working process, but it's still exude the confidence that
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  I'm trying to practice. I got something for you with that. So I
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  want to challenge you on the make believable Parti's line to yourself. Okay.
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  So one of the things that we have to think about belief. Belief is
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  a very powerful thing. And one of the statements that I heard growing up
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  a lot was you have to believe to achieve that. Now, when you
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  hear believed to achieve, you think of it when you hear that. What
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  do you think when when you he believed to achieve. What do you think
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  I think about But do you think of positive or do you think of negative?
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  Like I think positive, and I think most of us do. What
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  I have learned is that when you believe that, you achieve that. That's
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  good. When you believe rejection, you achieve rejectile. So so so belief
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  is a It works the same way. If I believe success, I achieve
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  success. So when you say you're trying to make it believable. Once you
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  tell yourself that what you make believe is a lie, you start to believe
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  the lie, and what you accomplish is the lie, not really what you
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  want to accomplish. That's so good. So so you have to you have
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  to actually prep yoursel elf on what you believe in. You gotta challenge yourself
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  because if I don't believe this the truth, I believe this the lie.
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  So you still believing either way it goes you believe in one of the other.
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  So it's a double head coin. So are you believing in your success?
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  Are you believing in your debt? Right? And so and so.
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  I think that that's very important because sometimes we hear these cliches, we hear
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  these mantras, and we think of the positive side, but no one brings
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  to the forefront. That's worked both ways. That's that. That's good because
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  sometimes we can get so hyper focused on the positive, positive, positive,
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  and not realizing the principle. It's a principle at the end of the day.
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  That's why you can have the worldly measures of things and it can work
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  because it's the principle. The same machine you put success in is the same
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  machine you put failing. It's a double headed coin on that. So so
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  like so like, if I'm trying to be success that's for a thing,
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  I can probably also be a failure at it. That's good. It could
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  go either way, right, But it's all about the work I put in
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  on what side of the coin I'm going to get that's good. So if
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  I if I'm what I'm hearing you you say, is that because my focus
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  and even if I'm focused on not feeling because I see the word failure,
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  I end up feeling. It depends on what you believe, because sometimes we
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  start to focus on so much of what we're not getting that we forget to
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  focus on what we are moving towards. That's and that's fact I am so
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  guilty of that I am so guilty that I was thinking today about, you
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  know, nine to five and the opportunity that I have to tell my team
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  good job, and I'm like, why don't Why don't I experience to my
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  team that they're doing a good jobs because I'm scared to feel like I'm focused
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  on not feeling. I'm focused on not breaking down. I'm focused on not
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  doing the things that I feel like people perceive me at to the point where
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  I'm a detriment to my own team. And it's like, it's like,
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  girl, you don't yet they wonder why they don't get kudos. I don't
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  even give myself kudos. One of them actually tells me you're hot on yourself,
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  like you you are hot on yourself. They're more a little bit more
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  mature, but they were like, you're you're hard on yourself. You don't
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  give yourself enough grace, And so what does that look like to the people
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  that I'm looking at leading and that I'm developing. So it's always looking like
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  I don't appreciate them, or I don't I don't value them, I don't
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  I don't see their contributions. So one thing that I even said to myself
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  today, I said, man, for the for the next for the next
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  few moments, for the next days, I'm gonna intentionally practice figuring out a
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  genuinely seeking out what do they think? You know, what do they think
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  I think they're good at because they probably don't. I don't know if they
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  know that I think they're good at anything. And I got a couple of
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  things for you on that. With that right there, what I want to
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  submit to you is do the appreciation challenge, where for the whole month October,
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  every day you find something to appreciate them for, right, and you
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  let them know you're making You're making it known to them right. I think
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  the other thing is too when you're talking about not giving yourself grace. One
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  of the things Holy Spirit been dealing with me in this season its attitude versus
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  aptitude. Come on, break that down. Attitude over aptitude. Attitude is
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  a selter way of thinking that affect one's behavior. Selteric way of thinking.
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  Your aptitude is your natural ability to be able to do something. So if
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  your attitude is not right, it blocks your natural ability to be able to
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  even do the thing. That's because your attitude is not in the right place.
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  So what greg, what are you saying. It's all about the way
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  you approach the thing. That's so good. It's all about the way you
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  approach the thing. So let's just say I'm a leader in the business,
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  and I go on to work and I'm coming in, I'm like, oh,
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  I had a long day. Oh I had a long night. Oh
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  the day gonna be so hard. Now I may have the natural ability to
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  get the job done anyway, but because of my attitude, it's going to
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  block my natural ability because now my attitude is gonna take this to my team
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  because I'm the leader. Let me show you what the Lord just showed me.
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  Why you said this. So it's almost like aptitude is the seed.
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  The seed is the seed. So there's a natural the seed gonna be the
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  seed. You can naturally do things. So once you do the if you
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  do the necessary things with your attitude right, So that's the condition. So
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  you nurture it, you water it, you plant it in the right soil,
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  it's gonna grow. But the sea won't be able to grow with the
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  wrong attitude. That's what I just saw you say. That's facts because your
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  attitude is your approach. Your attitude is your approach, and then now you're
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  I have to ask yourself, why am I in this setup way of thinking?
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  It's affecting my behavior, And that's when we get into what consumes your
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  grooms you. Yeah, that's good. What is consuming your mind and grooming
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  your mind to produce that attitude? What are you allowing to your space to
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  produce the attitude? Who are you allowing to your space to produce the attitude?
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  That's good because there's so many times where we get a phone call or
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  we on Instagram and we borrow somebody else trauma and started creating drama in our
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  life because we borrowed that trauma. That's so good. That's so good.
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  Sometimes they don't be nothing wrong it don't you like, why why I got
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  attitude? Or what's what's good? What's what's going on? Like that?
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  And that's sometimes I will say this, I have gotten better desert ate you
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  can because I think I talk to you every day. I think I have
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  gotten better with utilizing and saying hey something is up or hey I'll just randomly
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  text her, I'm like, hey, I love you. Because I have
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  to think on things or what I'm doing good at, like I'm doing good
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  in opening up or better and opening up to people, sharing with people,
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  letting them know that, Okay, I don't know how to put words or
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  language to what I'm thinking or what I'm feeling right now, but just know
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  that I love you and I appreciate you even being accessible to me. I
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  think that's a big step because sometimes without acknowledging thank you, Holy Spirit,
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  without acknowledging that somebody's there the whole, the enemy will try to use and
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  say because he asked for me, nobody loves you, nobody's accessible to you,
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  nobody cares about you. That's why our Monday calls mean a lot to
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  me. Like at first, the enemy tray, I want to tell you,
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  Oh, this is gonna be y'all, doctor Phil, doctor Phild,
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  doctor Phield, doctor Field, doctor Phil. Okay, Paul, do y'all
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  see how unmoved Greg is by. This is how you know he is too
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  used to be like, he didn't move at all. He didn't move it.
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  But there's a rate we'll feed into it. That's how you got to
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  know. But I would say this, it was a time, especially when
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  you left, I did not know you need a tissue. I don't know,
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  just in case there was a time when you left. Yeah, I'm
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  and when I say left, like he didn't leave you like just to be
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  leaving. He got promoted. And I can think about it as far as
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  like when you left, I didn't know where our relationship would be, and
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  so I put a question mark by you unconsciously, you know, coach,
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  My coach has been talking about uh, my coach has been talking about the
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  subconscious versus unconscious. And I unconsciously did that because of the experiences I've had
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  with other people and mainly other leaders who have not been as intentional as you,
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  And so I placed you in a category where you wouldn't do the same
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  of not being interested in me because I didn't benefit you anymore. And those
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  m when you intentionally was like, I don't calling you Monday. It started
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  off with I won't say it was just Mondays because we're talking more than Mondays.
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  But every Monday he's intentional about hey, just how you doing, how's
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  it going? Just checking in it's Monday. And I was like, you
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  know, that's cute. I'm I'm on your checklist. And with somebody that
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  you know battles with their value un self worth, they can be like Oh,
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  that's cute. You know that that's sweet. Right, But then but
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  then when we started getting into the weeds of our relationship and when God really
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  started to be like, no, this is your brother, Like I was
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  like, okay, but what if he don't feel the same. And so
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  when God started allowing you to approach me, you didn't even know this because
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  I didn't share this with you. But when God allowed you to approach me
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  to say, had a little Holy spirit put this on my heart for you?
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  Or hey, just what do you think about this? Or you were
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  very inteentional, like even like y'all when I went to the podcast summing you
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  would think he was going to the podcast someming like it was questions. It
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  was, Okay, we need to go over your notes, we need to
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  do this, like you were just you were invested in me completely and not
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  just as far as just one section of my life. And I was like,
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  Okay, I can really trust him on another level because as you know,
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  vulnerability, We talk about vulnerability and how healthy it is, but just
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  because something's healthy does not mean it's scared not scary. Fact, like that's
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  probably the most one of the most scariest thing, most scared thing that you
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  could do, and that's why God acts for that. Like that, it's
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  an asking of God to say, be vulnerable, be vulnerable with me,
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  show me yourself, show me where you are, And a lot of us
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  don't, even though God can clearly see where we are. We focus on
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  God. Why would I show you what you already know? That's just diminishing
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  me, or that makes me feel bad, or you're too perfect for me
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  to show you or show myself too, Like why would I even put you
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  through that? Like I don't even like myself right now? How would you
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  even like? You know, like things the battles of the mind, And
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  so I think with our relationship or just even we talk, go back to
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  mistrust. It's a mistrust of who I am and a mis under oh,
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  a misunderstanding of who I am too, because if I really understood and trusted
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  what God is doing, then I will understand why the other's capacity level were
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  to the max of what they could offer me in a friendship. You know,
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  that is very powerful. And for our listeners, I want to give
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  you a few things to show you how you can overcome somebody else's doubt.
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  We don't even know they have doubt. Number One, you have to be
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  extremely intentional. It has to be important to you. People don't know how
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  much you know until they know how much you care. That's good. People
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  don't want to know how much you know. They know how much you care,
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  and it shows about how much you care. You have to be intentional.
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  But here's the thing about intentionality. You have to be consistently intentional.
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  That's good. So so by consistently calling every Monday, and watch the is
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  when people doubting you of while you're in their life about if you want something
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  from them. When you consistently called and you finding ways to help them,
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  you're finding ways to serve them. You asking them how you can serve them.
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  Then you get off the phone, they're like, Wow, they really
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  didn't want anything from me. And you have to start asking yourself how many
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  people am I intentionally serving for the betterment of them, not for the betterment
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  of me, for the betterment of them. And the other part to that
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  is if I can be one hundred percent honest with you. Through reading my
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  Bible and getting closer to God and be becoming more intimate, I started to
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  see that Jesus had disciples. He didn't move through on his own. I
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  started to see that Paul didn't travel on his own. I started to see
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  that Moses was able to lean on jet throw sometimes he was able to lean
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  on Aaron. I was able to see that nia Maya glean on the king
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  correct. And I started to ask myself, am I being intentional about building
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  out an inner circle that when I need a calean on that's good? And
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  how do you do that? Do you do that by going and asking them
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  for everything? Or do you do that by serving? And that's why the
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  Bible was the best leadership book in the world, because because by watching nia
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  Maya serve the king, in return, the king gave nia Maya everything he
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  needed to be a king. Because that's the principle of sowing and reaping.
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  Like we try to we try to read from places and me and Coach was
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  just talking about this. We try to reap from places where there's no seed.
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  Oh it's a seed, like it's always a seat. You know what
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  I'm saying. You hadn't even planned to see. You ain't putting nothing in
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  there. You ain't got none in the basket. They put the seed of
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  them in there. You put the seed of you in there moaning something from
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  you that's good, And the problem is you can't produce what you don't have
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  that's good. You can't produce what you don't have, so you have to
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  sew into other people so you can reap that because they can produce things you
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  can't. That's good, right, And so sometimes we're trying so hard to
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  sew for ourselves and not so far. So remember it's a too, it's
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  a two head finger. It's always a seat like either you believe you can't
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  do it, believe you can't. You either planning the seed to help others,
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  or you're planning to see to help yourself. You're planning to see whether
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  the seed good or bad. Is a totally different story. That's good.
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  You are planting a seed. The question is what seed are you planting?
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  That's good, right because when we start it, like you said, so
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  I can, I can. I can keep that fact because once you start
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  watering and growing, you're calling yourself an orange, but it's real an apple,
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  and then I can't even trust you. Yeah, but like you told
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  me, you was an orange, but you're an apple, Like it's different.
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  And then then you know to take it to take it a step further,
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  to take it a step further. Right, a seed cannot cultivate itself.
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  That's good, let's break that down. So so so if I take
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  if I take an apple seed and not put it in the ground, it
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  don't water itself. It don't bring yourself heat. It don't know what's soil
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  to put itself in. So when you only thinking about yourself, you're trying
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  to water yourself, You're trying to figure out what's soire to put yourself in.
• 25:30
  You're trying to produce things that you can't produce on your own. Nothing
• 25:36
  produces itself on its own. Everything has a processing. Everything has a process,
• 25:42
  and you have to follow that process, right. And so it's like
• 25:48
  what I started to learn one of my superpowers is serving people. And everybody's
• 25:53
  serving looks different. My serving is through my heart, through my voice,
• 25:59
  through my mind. Mine that that's the way I'm able to serve and help
• 26:03
  people. You have to figure out what's your way to serve and how you
• 26:07
  can add. My written the Leadership Book, and it was talking about leaders
• 26:10
  have to add value, but you can't add what you don't have. That's
• 26:14
  good, and I think another point so that we can't compare the level of
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  SERVI to because the way I serve is gonna make room for me and the
• 26:26
  places where God needs me the most, that's where it's gonna lead to my
• 26:30
  assignment. I've been in rooms where and I'll be transparent, I've been in
• 26:34
  places and positions where it's like, well, why they getting to do stuff?
• 26:38
  But I'm definitely like not like that no more, because I learned,
• 26:41
  babe, when you when your home, sometimes they don't want him. Okay,
• 26:45
  sometimes sometimes it look a little different, you know, because when when
• 26:51
  God literally calls you to serve and he's like, no, this is this
• 26:55
  is not an option, this is a mandate, and it's like, this
• 26:57
  is the expectancy to for your next level. This ain't just being nice,
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  This ain't being just I think we talked about this a few weeks ago.
• 27:06
  This ain't just being helpful to Serving is serving? Like it's a serving is
• 27:10
  sacrificed that man, Come on, bro, Like serving is sacrificed. If
• 27:14
  like literally you not you're serving on the note that you're not getting anything back,
• 27:19
  man, let's go there. You should be serving on the note that
• 27:22
  you're not getting anything. Yes, Otherwise it's not serving. It's not serving.
• 27:26
  Let's talk about that for a sick is networking. Let's talk about this
• 27:30
  for a second. You brought up the Monday cause, right, So I
• 27:36
  probably call five or six different people every Monday. I know. I thought
• 27:41
  it's intentional, right, But but here we go about like survy and not
• 27:45
  expect anything in return. How many how many people you think call me on
• 27:51
  the random day of the week and ask me how I'm doing? One?
• 27:55
  See, it's not that many, right, And and the thing and the
• 27:57
  thing about it, what I'm getting at it is it's not even it's not
• 28:00
  even me acxing for that. It's literally to point out what you see it,
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  right, Like, that's my time, that's my energy, that's my
• 28:07
  intellect, that's what God put inside of me. And what people fail to
• 28:11
  realize is when you ask somebody how they're doing, they genuinely, they genuinely
• 28:14
  tell you. Depending on what they tell you can actually drain you. Right.
• 28:18
  So I'm putting myself in a position to be drainking, right and so
• 28:23
  and so here's the thing that you have to realize. When somebody pour that
• 28:26
  on you and you have the aptitude to pour into them and fill them up.
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  Well, if you pouring and feel somebody else up, then your level
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  is okay. So so that's why what consumes you grooms you. It's so
• 28:41
  important because then you got to get back around to the point of how how
• 28:47
  do you feel somebody else's cup up when your cup is going down? How
• 28:51
  do you get back to be refeeled without feeling resentment? But that's that's part
• 28:56
  of that's so powerful because just knowing your story, Greg, it's like you
• 29:00
  weren't able to do that, Okay, can I can? I? All
• 29:07
  right? So what I've witnessed with your transition and you developing spiritually, right
• 29:11
  you guys, Greg is very like I don't know if you can tell or
• 29:17
  not. And if you're not following him, what is it? I am
• 29:19
  Greg Riley? I am yeah, I am Greg Raley On Instagram he's posting
• 29:23
  consistently those nuggets that he drops daily, Like I listened to the Man of
• 29:27
  God and I'll be like, man, why can't articulate like that? Like
• 29:33
  it was so influent. It's like, what consumes you groomed you? Like
• 29:36
  I want to you know, we want to do you know what I'm saying,
• 29:38
  But like he's highly intelligent. And the reason why he's so intelligent he
• 29:42
  liked he and he's a reader. Like I won't say he likes to read,
• 29:47
  because I think your wife got you beat well. She likes to She
• 29:52
  does love to read. I read to apply. He don't. Just he's
• 29:56
  not an averag reason like I'm just reading fun. He reads to apply,
• 29:59
  like you said. But Capricial, baby, she probably on her hundred book
• 30:03
  for this year, So shout out to CAPRICI. But what I realized is
• 30:10
  because he is a reader and he appreciates that art and sometimes your intellect us
• 30:22
  well, let me start over. Sometimes us as believing we have to watch
• 30:25
  how much intellect we have versus the Holy Spirit. And I've watched him developed
• 30:30
  a healthy and mature outlook and discipline for understanding this intellect can go only as
• 30:40
  far as Holy Spirit allows it to. And so I appreciate your development on
• 30:47
  at first because I can see why probably why I even saw that, because
• 30:51
  I've been with you for some years now, and so what was this was
• 30:56
  okay, this was something, this is a good exa album. This was
• 30:57
  something that I told Greg. He he went to a leadership meeting one time
• 31:04
  he alright, know a going He went to a leadership meeting one time,
• 31:07
  and then those leadership meetings kind of last maybe a couple of days, a
• 31:12
  day and a half or whatnot. And then every time he would come back
• 31:15
  from these leadership meetings, all of a sudden, it's a let me try
• 31:19
  this type of thing, like i'ma I'm gonna figure it out. And I
• 31:22
  made a comment to him to the degree of all of a sudden, like
• 31:26
  every time you come from these these meetings, that's when you want to do
• 31:30
  something like and then it lasts for like what not long? And so when
• 31:36
  I challenged him on that, that challenge, that that that set him like,
• 31:38
  okay, let me reevaluate. And that's when he was starting to integrate
• 31:44
  the Word of God more into it and allowed Holy Spirit, which he didn't
• 31:48
  really understand that that was that was who it was at the time. He
• 31:52
  allowed all his spirit to start dealing with his intellect. So now you have
• 31:56
  somebody where because it make books since because rich dad, poor dad said it,
• 32:01
  or because these other great books, not knocking the books, But now
• 32:07
  I can apply the intellect based on the Holy Spirit and not because of the
• 32:12
  need of my greatness not because the need of my Ford movement. And so
• 32:15
  I've seen you developed from intellect movement to Holy spirit movement. Man, that's
• 32:22
  powerful. I really appreciate that and I received it, and I think that
• 32:31
  I think that you know, going through proverbs ring proverbs, and it tells
• 32:37
  you that basically unapplied knowledge brings pride. Like when you when you're reading and
• 32:43
  you gain notice intellect which is not applying it, it brings pride. And
• 32:46
  another piece of this is as a leader that leads people, that develops people,
• 32:54
  there's a mindset. Coach, I have to live what I speak.
• 33:00
  What you just you Yeah, I'm a leadership development in mindset. Oh period.
• 33:05
  So we take it calls, we take it callsactions. So like,
• 33:10
  what was one of the challenging things when you you know, I know,
• 33:15
  I know a lot of people go to church and you may you may hear
• 33:19
  a lot of preachers that preach hope, which is which is very beneficial,
• 33:22
  right, And if you read your Bible, you would see that that even
• 33:27
  Jesus spoke in parables, because parables what drew people in. If you went
• 33:30
  in and just talking about Leviticus five nine said this, he'll probably lose you.
• 33:35
  So Jesus knew that right. But but what I'm getting at is there's
• 33:38
  a lot of parts in the Bible that's extremely convicting. And when I started
• 33:44
  reading about leaders in the Bible and what that looked like, it convicted me.
• 33:49
  So when you get into Titus and you get into Timothy and it's talking
• 33:52
  about what a leader looks like, it sa you have to be beyond reproach.
• 33:57
  That means you have to be blameless. That mean your character has to
• 34:00
  be in a position where nobody can smear your name. And and if you
• 34:07
  are leading people and you're not living right outside of your job, you're putting
• 34:14
  yourself in position for your name to be smeared and for you to be a
• 34:19
  blame. That's so good and so and so like when you when you really
• 34:23
  start to understand that concept, it challenges you in so many places and in
• 34:31
  your in your flesh becomes more recognizable because because if you really accept the calling
• 34:43
  of leadership, literahire is not a position, it's a calling. If you
• 34:45
  really accept the call of leadership, you start to understand that leadership is a
• 34:52
  blessing and a burden. It's a blessing to be able to leave people.
• 34:57
  But it's a burden because it's extremely difficult to And I heard a podcast where
• 35:01
  great leader sat this of the day. He said, think about leadership as
• 35:06
  a boat in the ocean, and when you look at that boat, it
• 35:09
  leaves like water on two sides. And when leadership, you're gonna leave two
• 35:15
  wakes. One is people, one is results. If you got great results
• 35:20
  but your people don't like you, you're not a good leader. If you
• 35:22
  got great people but you don't have great results, you're still not a great
• 35:24
  leader. Right, So you have to be able to marry the two.
• 35:29
  And that's the difficulty. And then the last part of this is it's extremely
• 35:35
  somebody can go teach leadership, but can you actually do leadership? Listen,
• 35:40
  like that's that's a whole different can of wine. That is it is.
• 35:45
  And I want you to kind of break that down because what I've seen you
• 35:50
  do in nine to five outside of ninety five, like especially inside of matter
• 35:55
  five when I say flip'll know y'all know them HDDV of cert scenarios where they
• 36:05
  had his abandoned house and they flip it and make it look like a mansion,
• 36:09
  and the value go up like twenty two hundred thousand percent. This man
• 36:14
  right, you got the juice, okay, like bus like people. People
• 36:21
  really trust him with his business. I have a customer to they's day.
• 36:23
  I ain't gonna ain't no names out a custo to this day. He literally
• 36:28
  told me he couldn't make the move that I needed him to make for my
• 36:31
  business without talking to Greg. I was like, are we serious? But
• 36:37
  I respect that though, because everybody got their lane and you dominate your lane
• 36:42
  like had hands down. But can we get into like what that looks like
• 36:46
  for a leader to be able to be able to produce people, make people
• 36:54
  I don't even want to say happy, because will make them feel cared for,
• 37:00
  make them feel like good people, and then also balance the great results
• 37:08
  the first thing. And anybody that follow me, you go to my page,
• 37:13
  you will hear me say, that's a lot vision all leaders, you're
• 37:15
  not a leader with our vision. Moses had a vision, Jesus had a
• 37:21
  vision, God had a vision, and your many you had a vision,
• 37:23
  Paul had a vision. Find me a leader that didn't have a vision.
• 37:27
  I challenge you find any organization, any church, any gang that does not
• 37:32
  have a vision, any school, I challenge you with our vision, people
• 37:37
  will perish. That's Bible. So first thing first is you you have to
• 37:43
  have a vision, and then from their vision, you gotta develop your goals.
• 37:46
  So a vision, your GPA's goals is the high way to get you
• 37:50
  there, right, and they have to be clear, So you have to
• 37:52
  produce clarity within the vision and within the goals. Then you have to understand
• 37:58
  why are we trying to achieve this? So now that's the mission, right,
• 38:01
  And then we get into the core values. And so with core values,
• 38:06
  it's a framework for core values. As a leader, what are your
• 38:09
  core values? Can you articulate them? And are you living them? That's
• 38:14
  good? So so when your team see you, can they tell you,
• 38:16
  oh, yeah, these are this person's core values because I see them do
• 38:20
  it every day now I see them talk about it. And then, last,
• 38:22
  but not least, confidence, Are you confident enough in your vision?
• 38:28
  Do you believe enough in your vision that even if your team do not believe
• 38:31
  that, they are willing to borrow some of your confidence to achieve the vision.
• 38:37
  Because when you first walk into this situation, they don't know you,
• 38:40
  they don't and then they probably don't want to be there. So it's a
• 38:45
  it's a level of I don't think this can happen, and it's a lot
• 38:49
  to go into it. But so we got vision, mission core values right,
• 38:54
  and then I want to make sure. I want to make sure in
• 38:58
  confidence. So got vision, Mission core values, Confidence. I'm gonna give
• 39:04
  you two more, and I'm gonna give you a lot of steff and give
• 39:06
  you two more empathy and listening. That's good. Like you have to go
• 39:10
  in and be empathetic to the situation at hand, because it's people in there,
• 39:15
  not robots. So you have to go in there and be empathetic,
• 39:19
  and you have to listen. And once you go in and be empathetic and
• 39:22
  you listen, you get them the vision. And now you sit down and
• 39:27
  you ask them, so, what are your goals? What's important to you?
• 39:29
  Where you want to be? You make it about them. When I
• 39:32
  go into these situations, I make it about them. I don't make it
• 39:35
  about me, because, like I tell them, I was good for what
• 39:38
  I came, I can be good when I leave. That's like, I
• 39:42
  know how to do this and I'm gonna be successful with this. But it
• 39:45
  ain't about me, It's about you. I want to get you promoted where
• 39:50
  you want to be, What do you want? What do you want to
• 39:52
  provide for your family? How can I best help you? So let me
• 39:57
  let me ask you this with the sig so, one of your quotes is
• 40:04
  as a leader, it may not be your fault, but it's your responsibility.
• 40:08
  That's my mentor quote. I don't want to still it be oh okay,
• 40:10
  shout out to your mentor, but you said so. But with that
• 40:19
  quote, and what I think about without leadership and a person that's developing in
• 40:23
  their own own leadership, what do you say to the person that has feel
• 40:28
  like they've exhausted all measures with a team member or somebody that they're working with,
• 40:35
  and how much I know it's our responsibility, but how do they manage
• 40:39
  that without feeling defeated? So normally when this happens, it's a couple of
• 40:46
  things. Normally it's a miscommunication and that employee may not understand what you communicate,
• 40:55
  and the leader probably can do a good job of hearing with the employee.
• 41:00
  Really was saying because because like we have to be honest with ourselves,
• 41:05
  right, Like if you ask somebody a questions, they not gonna tell you
• 41:08
  everything. So you got to hear what they're saying, but you got to
• 41:12
  hear what they are saying, and you got to meet them there. So
• 41:15
  now it's a challenge because okay, so now we have to And I think
• 41:21
  this is a perfect perfect question for kingdom entrepreneurs and creators because we're not we're
• 41:29
  not just kingdom entrepreneurs and creators for ourselves, like whether we lead at a
• 41:32
  nine to five where we lead in our own entities. I think it's important
• 41:37
  to realize we can't. For one, we can't run away from the assignments
• 41:43
  of God because we're gonna get that assignment again in a new form, like
• 41:45
  I've learned that the hard way, and so like even with that being said,
• 41:50
  even being able to listen properly and at active active listening, because sometimes
• 41:55
  we just say, okay, let me check like we were talking about earlier,
• 41:58
  check this off the list. I think it's important to understand when we
• 42:01
  when we're not just entrepreneurs, we're not just creatives, but we are kingdom
• 42:07
  creators and kingdom entrepreneurs. That means we have kingdom before everything. So we
• 42:13
  have to go back to our kingdom routs, right, we have to go
• 42:15
  back to our kingdom territories. We have to go back to our kingdom upbringing
• 42:21
  without being like all hyper spiritual about it. So now as a leader,
• 42:25
  I think it's challenging as a kingdom leader, I think it's challenging us to
• 42:30
  say, okay, am my, what ear am I listening with? And
• 42:34
  I tell you something else too, Like I really skipped a big part in
• 42:38
  all of this, And viewers, I please forgive me. You cannot develop
• 42:45
  someone if you have not developed yourself. That's good and so and so the
• 42:51
  real shift in all of these is your self development. Like, that's the
• 42:57
  real shift. You're not going to be able to have that empathy because you
• 43:01
  haven't developed the ability to have that empathy. You haven't set with yourself enough
• 43:07
  to be okay to hear what you're doing is not working without becoming offended.
• 43:12
  Wow, Because you think you are doing everything right and you think they are
• 43:17
  doing everything wrong. So you still in a place where you think they the
• 43:22
  problem. You're not in a position where you can actually acknowledge the fact that
• 43:27
  you may have messed up too, and some breakdown in your leadership may actually
• 43:31
  lead to their breakdown as well. Yes, it's not all your fault,
• 43:36
  but it's still your responsibility. But as a leader, have you taken the
• 43:39
  time to develop to it When your team come at you and it may not
• 43:44
  sound the way you wanted to, Are you able to eat the meat and
• 43:49
  spit out the bones or do you take everything they say it's the meat and
• 43:52
  you just eat it and you put it inside of you and now you become
• 43:55
  extremely offended. Right, So that's what makes leadership so tough, because because
• 44:04
  you have to develop in a way where you can receive what they are saying
• 44:12
  to be able to even hear yea with any ear to be to be an
• 44:16
  effective leader. Because sometimes what happens is we ask a question, but we
• 44:22
  got a predetermined answer in our minds, and so by the time they answer,
• 44:28
  we already coming back with a response because we already knew what we wanted
• 44:32
  to say regardless of their answer. That's so good and I think, I
• 44:37
  think also to that point because we got to keep kingdom in there because our
• 44:45
  mindset should be different. Right, So if we're doing if we're doing the
• 44:49
  work we're that some people call it supping with the Lord. If we're if
• 44:53
  we're having our devotional time, if we're having a quiet space with God,
• 44:58
  God and already dealt with us in your life about with somebody telling us it
• 45:02
  just it just hurts when we ain't dealt with with the Lord first, exactly
• 45:07
  because you got to sit with yourself. And it goes back to what you
• 45:09
  said earlier about the grace. And what I want to ask you is why
• 45:14
  you don't feel you have the space to give yourself grace? H That is
• 45:22
  a good question. Why do I feel like I don't have the space to
• 45:27
  give myself grace? You know what? I think that it goes back to
• 45:37
  the people thing. But I also think that how can I say this?
• 45:47
  So when we make covenants, we make covenants with ourselves like I'll never do
• 45:55
  this, I'll never do that, I'll like for someone women, I'll never
• 46:00
  allow on a man, I'll never X, Y and Z, and we
• 46:05
  never never never, never never in. And then once we break that covenant,
• 46:08
  now we diminish ourselves. Now we feel like we're you know, unusable.
• 46:16
  That's so good, like we're waste. And so I think that because
• 46:22
  I can remember what I've done, what I've been through my that's so good.
• 46:31
  The memory and the release of certain things or the lack of the thereof
• 46:37
  of the release could tear down the bit of availability of the self grace.
• 46:45
  And so I think that the training that I've had and this and this is
• 46:53
  this is I'm about to tap into something that I'm thinking about. So even
• 46:58
  if you're if you're pa parent, if you are a leader, but especially
• 47:02
  a parent, because that's our first sign of leadership, right, that's the
• 47:06
  first leadership what we experienced. We have to be mindful of how we teach
• 47:10
  our children to deal with monumental moments, whether good or bad, but especially
• 47:22
  the bad ones or especially the ones that afflict us. Right. Why I
• 47:27
  say that is because I'm not saying that I was taught wrong or anything like
• 47:32
  that. But I'm sensing this is what I'm saying, He's not dealing with
• 47:36
  this with me right now, but I'm sensing once I get to the root
• 47:39
  of why I don't have grace with myself, it's something that I felt like
• 47:45
  my father or my mother didn't forgive me for and so they made they say
• 47:49
  I should feel bad for it. Taping man Lisen, what you're saying is
• 47:55
  extremely powerful. And I had this revelation that the trauma in our life brings
• 48:01
  to drama in our life. That's so good. And what I started to
• 48:07
  what God made me see trauma as is if we had so water, If
• 48:13
  you have a leak in your roof, right, water finds any space that
• 48:17
  has air. That's so good. Right. So if I have a leaky
• 48:22
  roof and it started leaking, let's just say five years ago, and it
• 48:24
  leaks every day for five years. Now, the first couple of years,
• 48:30
  I may not even know that it's leaking because I can't see it. But
• 48:32
  over time it may be a brown spot. Then the water gets heavier and
• 48:37
  heavier and the roof fall in. That's trauma. So the trauma that was
• 48:42
  inflicted upon you at five, six, seven, eight years old is dripping.
• 48:46
  And now you thirty, you twenty five, you twenty six, you
• 48:51
  thirty seven. That trauma been dripping for twenty five years. So at some
• 48:54
  point the trigger gonna come up and the roof gonna fall in, right,
• 48:59
  and now you're trying to figure out why you're know how to deal with this
• 49:01
  was because you have you have undealt with trauma that's now causing their drama.
• 49:07
  And that leaky bucket is now that leaky roof has not falling in, and
• 49:12
  now you gotta go back and replace the whole roof. And I think,
• 49:15
  I think that is where we have to to start the topic of going to
• 49:21
  therapy. We got we got to get out this taboo mindset that we can
• 49:23
  handle ourselves. That's what we do therapy. We may get a life coach,
• 49:29
  we talked our pastor we do all these things because it's so and it
• 49:35
  is so much to go into it. You know, I can't say that
• 49:39
  my evolution was all me. I can't say that I did this on my
• 49:45
  own, if I'm being completely honest with you. My wife had a huge
• 49:49
  rollingness because the man that I was I could not remain. So I had
• 49:55
  to transform into a different version of me until more revolutionized more modern version of
• 50:04
  me for what she needed to create safe spaces that she needed. And what
• 50:09
  that did was that made me get closer to God because I understood that I
• 50:15
  could not do this on my own. I understand that I cannot handle this
• 50:21
  marriage on my own. I cannot run this on my own. My flesh
• 50:24
  is not strong enough. And so through that evolution, right, well,
• 50:30
  it's why it's so important about what you read, what you listen to who
• 50:35
  you around and who you trust is so important because that evolution that can't through
• 50:38
  my marriage pours out into my job. It pours out into my leadership at
• 50:44
  work. Because how I live at home and how I'm a leader at home,
• 50:49
  I can now transfer some of them same principles to work and vice versa,
• 50:53
  because because I am looking to live a certain way, because I am
• 50:58
  a leadership position, and the last thing you want to do is be saying
• 51:02
  one thing, so it keeps so it challenges you to keep growing. And
• 51:08
  so what I would say is what I would say is I would like to
• 51:14
  see people take on that challenge and stop being afraid. I was in therapy
• 51:19
  for about a year. I'm in life coaching right now. Like I have
• 51:22
  a life coach that I meet with every Sunday. Right I'm being very intentional
• 51:29
  about building out in a circle that I can lean on, the people that
• 51:32
  I can talk to. One of the things that was extremely difficult for me
• 51:36
  to ask for help. Yeah, you know that, I know, right,
• 51:40
  And I tell you I asked you that question about space and grace because
• 51:45
  that was one of my biggest struggles for the first up teen years of my
• 51:47
  life. I am extremely ambitious, but my number one self sabotaged is hyperachieving.
• 51:57
  So now my greatest strength can become my great weekns. Yeah right,
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  And it's like I'm so ambitious that when I don't achieve this impossible goal,
• 52:08
  I feel like a failure. Well, I had to start extending myself grace
• 52:15
  so I wouldn't stay in that position. Yeah, because what grace allows you
• 52:20
  to do is almost thank you, Holy Spirit. When I say thank you,
• 52:23
  Holy Spirit, I'm not apologetic about it because when things just drop in
• 52:28
  your mind like you got, you gotta say thank you because it could have
• 52:30
  dropped in anybody else man for one, And to the fact that he would
• 52:34
  share knowledge with you, like it's it's so powerful. So I literally just
• 52:38
  saw, like it's interesting that we keep using water right water, And what
• 52:46
  I what I'm seeing right now is like you jumping into an area where you
• 52:54
  see no nothing that could save you, right, Like you're thinking that you
• 52:59
  can swim, but then once you drown one time, you're afraid to go
• 53:02
  back deep. So Grace is that that life jacket. Grace is that place
• 53:07
  to where you can get back to shore. Grace is that place where you
• 53:09
  can say, okay, let me get myself back together, and I can
• 53:13
  try again. Almost start listen, because I have to remember the platform,
• 53:22
  because if I was on another platform, I would have started speaking in another
• 53:25
  another language. Okay, but grace is that life jacket to take you the
• 53:30
  shore so you can catch your breath and try again. Grace does not allow
• 53:37
  you to stay put. It does not make you settle in a place to
• 53:40
  where you say, okay, Grace got me out of it. I'm not
• 53:45
  gonna try to swim again. No grace says okay, let me, let's
• 53:49
  put this life jacket on. Let me let me be the life say it.
• 53:52
  Let me swim out to you. Let me get you the shore,
• 53:53
  catch your breath, you know what to do. You might have bumped your
• 53:57
  head on the rock. You might hopefully you up your hand on the rock,
• 54:00
  but you might have done something that has set you back or made you
• 54:05
  even start over, or made you lean on the rock that you that you
• 54:08
  bumped your hand on, whatever that looks like. It's grace allows you to
• 54:13
  catch your breath so you can continue to swim, so you can continue to
• 54:16
  practice your strokes, so you can continue to meet the next get it to
• 54:21
  the next destination or make us get to the gold that you're trying to meet.
• 54:25
  Sometimes we use grace as a crutch to not do Sometimes we can use
• 54:30
  grace and say, oh I got I got grace here, so I'm just
• 54:34
  scared to do this again, or grace here so I'm just gonna keep messing
• 54:37
  up in this area, or grace, I'm gonna use grace as a crutch.
• 54:40
  And that's not what grace is to get put set us back afoot to
• 54:45
  where God wants us to be. M I want to ask some dealth.
• 54:49
  Let's go be talking about water. Let's go deep, Go deep. I
• 54:52
  pulled up the biblical definition of grace. I'm glad you did it. God's
• 54:57
  grace is usually defined as un deserved favor. Grace cannot be ironed. It
• 55:06
  is freely given. It's one of the promises that come along with believing in
• 55:09
  God. We don't earn grace. He freely gives us grace. Say that
• 55:15
  last part again, is one of the promises that would that we are given
• 55:17
  by God if we believe, if we believe, if we believe, because
• 55:22
  grace, you cannot earn grace. He gives you grace. So so even
• 55:29
  in the time where you feel you are feeling, give yourself some undeserved favor.
• 55:34
  Mm hmm, give yourself. It's hard for a doer, though,
• 55:39
  and that's coming from a doer. That's that's hard for a doer. Like
• 55:43
  when I my I'm a doer and I execute and then I execute wrong and
• 55:47
  I fail? Why do I deserve grace with it? Because what and at
• 55:52
  this I understand that from what I'm talking about from a physical standpoint, why
• 55:57
  I deserve? Make it practical? Why do I deserve when I'm a doer
• 56:00
  and that's what I identify as. When I'm the doer and I mess up,
• 56:05
  When I'm the doer and it's not working and I'm feeling in an area,
• 56:09
  why do I deserve to give myself grace for something that I'm I'm not
• 56:15
  executed, Like I struggle with that just being a doer, Like, how
• 56:22
  do I give myself grace? There? Let me give you this question,
• 56:24
  answer this, feel me, how does it work for you in that area
• 56:28
  when you don't give yourself grace? You just came for my need. I
• 56:34
  just want to know, like, how does it work when you don't give
• 56:36
  yourself grace? You did do you do you become a better executor? Do
• 56:39
  you become a better doer? I just I just you just said that grace
• 56:44
  is this float that gives us this device to pull us up, so juggler,
• 56:47
  So I just want to know, like, when you in that situation
• 56:53
  and you are not giving yourself grace, how are you taking that floating?
• 56:58
  How are you resetting so you can hand execute? Because when our car get
• 57:02
  into an accident, we take it to the body shop to get it fixed.
• 57:07
  How are you putting yourself in a position to get you to get to
• 57:08
  get fixed so you can you can rearrange some things to get back on the
• 57:13
  road. If you're not giving yourself the grace, that's why it's undeserved,
• 57:15
  favored. Nobody said you deserve the grace. Mh, you have to.
• 57:20
  That's why definition is so important. Yeah, that's why definition is so important.
• 57:23
  Like it's hard for you to give yourself there grace because you think you
• 57:27
  deserve it. It's undeserving, Like it's undeserved. What you just said,
• 57:34
  there's a ray you said, you just have to receive it. So now
• 57:37
  I'm telling myself that I can only receive what I do deserve so that's another
• 57:43
  thing. So if you okay, So if you everything I feel like operates
• 57:47
  in a pattern, right, and so when you see in one area that
• 57:52
  you don't do or receive, it's a consistency. And so now it's like,
• 57:57
  okay, that's why it makes sense. The other day I had to
• 58:00
  tell when I was I was seeking, y'all. Oh, I was seeking
• 58:02
  as a doll, and the Holy Spirit made me receive an instacart blessing from
• 58:08
  somebody I literally just met, like not too long ago, maybe a few
• 58:13
  months, literally just met the woman to God, and she was persistent about,
• 58:17
  you know, hey, if you need anything, I'm not I don't
• 58:21
  even live here. I don't I'm not only live by you. But what
• 58:23
  I can do is utilize the tools to get you instacart. So I was
• 58:28
  like, no, it's okay, you know, I'm good. I mean
• 58:30
  I'm not good, but I'm good. Like I'm good. The Holy Spirit
• 58:35
  was like, it's okay to receive from and I was like, you know
• 58:37
  what, so I have to practice receiving. So as I practiced receiving,
• 58:43
  shit, as I practice receiving, because it's practice, right, If I
• 58:50
  practice receiving, then I can receive the greater things right, and that I
• 58:54
  felt like that was major for me because you know that was groceries, like
• 59:00
  you know I'm saying, and then it's also a pride thing. It's like,
• 59:04
  I don't want nobody think I don't have nothing. You know what I'm
• 59:06
  saying, Like you have to break that. I don't want nobody think I'm
• 59:08
  broke. If we tap into that, if we tap, listen, let's
• 59:14
  tap because I think I think they safe way perfectly to my next just ask
• 59:17
  questions, Oh do we got another question? So when we when we say,
• 59:22
  when you said, I don't want nobody to think I'm broke, let's
• 59:27
  tap into that. How does how does two things? Well, I mus
• 59:32
  start one. Then we're gonna go to let me get some it's gonna be
• 59:37
  deep. How does comparison? How do you feel comparison hinders our growth because
• 59:52
  it allows me to be in your lane more than it allows me to be
• 59:54
  in mind Because if I'm focused on what you're doing, then I can't focus
• 59:58
  on what God wants me to do. What do you think leads to that?
• 1:00:02
  What do you think leads to focusing so much on what somebody else doing
• 1:00:08
  that I ignore the aptitude and the gifts that God has bestowed upon me.
• 1:00:15
  M what do I think that leads to it? What do you think?
• 1:00:22
  Like? How do you think we get there? Like? Why why am
• 1:00:27
  I focused more on you than I am on me? Like how do we
• 1:00:29
  even get to that point? What leads to that? Because I'm more believerd
• 1:00:34
  somettimes I can believe in you more I believe in myself. So and the
• 1:00:39
  way I do that, the way that's done is because, like you say,
• 1:00:43
  lack of company, it's left Like I said, for me, words
• 1:00:46
  of affirmation whatever. I rely probably too much on what people say about me,
• 1:00:51
  you know, and so if I'm hearing it or it sounds better and
• 1:00:54
  I'm not getting it, was like, well, just because and that's something
• 1:00:58
  I've had to be delivered from. Just because Desiree might get a shout out
• 1:01:02
  for like, oh she take good pictures. Girl, you don't even take
• 1:01:05
  pictures, Like you're not a photographer. Like you might have an eye for
• 1:01:08
  a good quality stuff, but you don't do live sit up like I literally
• 1:01:13
  have had to not to because this is my girl, baby, I ain't
• 1:01:16
  trying to be in her lane. I've done a great job at staying in
• 1:01:21
  my lane about this podcast. But back in the day, I had,
• 1:01:25
  you know, an issue where you know, and I think, if I
• 1:01:30
  can think about it, I think that might even come from high school a
• 1:01:32
  little bit. Just me and Kendall talked about this, you know, under
• 1:01:37
  when you don't now hindsight, because I understand my level of calling and her
• 1:01:43
  level of calling and the impact that she had. The Lord was trying to
• 1:01:46
  show us, Okay, she's gonna be amongst peers, She's gonna be heavily
• 1:01:52
  amongst peers. I'm gonna be heavily amongst leaders. But they understand that.
• 1:01:55
  I just understood that I wasn't liked by my peers. So I'm comparing the
• 1:02:00
  love of love and affection and the and not to say Kendall was in loved
• 1:02:05
  by leaders, like leaders loved her. But she was like, oh,
• 1:02:07
  Dad, I always like you and and you favored this. And then I'm
• 1:02:13
  like, I don't see that, Like I really begive giving these folks the
• 1:02:16
  business. I remember one of my one of my English teachers, I gave
• 1:02:22
  him a business about the grade that he gave me. I challenged his decision
• 1:02:27
  on this, like I've been like this so it's like when I didn't just
• 1:02:31
  appreciate that, So there's a lack of appreciation for where I am right and
• 1:02:37
  thinking that God gave somebody a better gift or better calling or better annoyting,
• 1:02:44
  not realizing that there was a development piece to everybody. So if I stayed
• 1:02:47
  in my lane and I allowed myself to be developed in that place, then
• 1:02:51
  there would be nothing to compare it to because I'm not I don't do what
• 1:02:53
  you do. I'm not called to where you call. And even if you're
• 1:02:58
  in a quote unquote lane that I'm in, Like let's talk about speaking,
• 1:03:01
  let's talk about ministry, let's talk about marketplace, let's talk about the creative
• 1:03:05
  space. There's still a voice and a people, a people that are attached
• 1:03:09
  to my DNA, so I don't have to compete. That's good. So
• 1:03:16
  this is good. This is good. I got another follow up, you
• 1:03:20
  know before you go on there. Whilere we talking about that, the world
• 1:03:22
  is literally like he's been delivering is people, pleasing the fear of man.
• 1:03:28
  He's literally been delivering me and healing me through that, through that process,
• 1:03:34
  and sometimes you don't realize where you are or how far you've come until you've
• 1:03:38
  been presented with the situation. Right. So I was somewhere and I was
• 1:03:42
  on a team of photographers. It was like two of us, and the
• 1:03:47
  person who was holding the gathering had mentioned about another something we do recurringly,
• 1:03:52
  and the person who had brought us in to do the pictures was like,
• 1:03:58
  oh, yeah, we got an event coming up that and they called the
• 1:04:00
  other ladies young the other young lady's name, like, oh yeah, make
• 1:04:03
  sure you know you get da da da da da, And so the the
• 1:04:08
  the broken person automatically almost started rising up like, well, dang, we
• 1:04:12
  a team, wa Wayne, call my name. My stuff ain't good enough
• 1:04:15
  to catch X, Y and Z. That's what I heard, right,
• 1:04:16
  That was that's what I heard. But the heal of me was like,
• 1:04:18
  yeah, no, that ain't even what that is. Like, both of
• 1:04:23
  you are very gifted. Both of you have different and this is this is
• 1:04:26
  truth, like we have different styles of shooting and things of that nature.
• 1:04:29
  They weren't saying you weren't good enough, right, They literally just look because
• 1:04:31
  that's what they saw at the moment. That that's that part at the moment.
• 1:04:38
  Enough so when people don't call on us, we think they were not
• 1:04:41
  good. And then it's like, girl, do you really want to be
• 1:04:44
  burnt out? Like do you really? Do you? Do you really want
• 1:04:47
  to do everything? Like that we got to act. Do you really want
• 1:04:50
  to do everything? So now you're trying to be God. Now you're trying
• 1:04:55
  to be the creative God. Now you're trying to be the entrepreneur God.
• 1:04:57
  Now you're trying to be marketplace God. Now you're trying to be ministry Like
• 1:05:00
  it says you shall have no gods before me. That it makes it very
• 1:05:04
  clear in that. So that's why the wages watch is the wages of sin
• 1:05:09
  is death. I feel my help coming. The wages of sin is death.
• 1:05:13
  So the wages of me, of me trying to be a dominant figure
• 1:05:17
  in an area, trying to do everything is see the sin or the way.
• 1:05:23
  The wage for that is comparison. And so now I'm dealing with comparison
• 1:05:28
  because what I paid for because you get a payment, like you get your
• 1:05:32
  reward for your payment for the I don't say reward, but you get a
• 1:05:35
  result from from what you put into. So if I'm putting into, like
• 1:05:40
  I gotta do everything, I gotta be this dude, I gotta keep motivate.
• 1:05:42
  I gotta do. Then, now my energy and my assets have gone
• 1:05:46
  into a place where now I'm having comparison and rejection issues. Let's let's go
• 1:05:53
  there. So with this comparison, when we when we think about comparison and
• 1:05:58
  we think about being in other people lanes, do you think this leads to
• 1:06:02
  imposter syndrome? Oh? It does? It does? It does? Bad?
• 1:06:08
  Before we get into that, explain the poster syndrome for the people.
• 1:06:12
  Well, just I'm going to let you explain imposta syndrome because you were in
• 1:06:15
  school for this and you probably did a paper on it or something. No
• 1:06:18
  I want No, I haven't. I haven't done a paper for I think
• 1:06:25
  I want you to explain it because you're more eloquent in soul in this area.
• 1:06:29
  So what I know to be in posta syndrome is you posing to be
• 1:06:34
  somebody you're not right in your mind, in your mind. And I haven't
• 1:06:41
  dug too deep an imposter syndrome to look up definitions and really take a deep
• 1:06:45
  dive. But my interpretation would be that's why I brought it up with a
• 1:06:50
  comparison thing. If I'm comparing Okay, desire had a perfect example with the
• 1:06:55
  photos, right, if I'm comparing that they chose her because I think she's
• 1:07:00
  better than me. Now I'm gonna start trying to shoot the way she shooting.
• 1:07:03
  That's good. So now I'm trying to be her instead of being me.
• 1:07:09
  Yeah, that's trick of to DEVI and watch this so a practical awareness
• 1:07:13
  piece that the Holy Spirit just dropped in my head. If we start off
• 1:07:16
  statements as am I really this feeling blank? So if you're saying, am
• 1:07:21
  I really good? Am I? Am I really a good photographer? Am
• 1:07:25
  I really good hairstylist? Am I a really a good writer? Then you're
• 1:07:30
  you probably deal with the imposter syndrome. If you're questioning your ability to do
• 1:07:34
  something when you actually do it, that that is a sign, a simpler
• 1:07:41
  sign of the imposter syndrome. And the what it does is the enemy gets
• 1:07:45
  into your mindset and say you're performing, but it's like you ain't really doing
• 1:07:50
  this you finishing it? Are you using chat GPT? Are you using like
• 1:07:55
  for one Jackie Jack GPT helps the efficiency or something. Y'all y'all gonna use
• 1:08:00
  that TVT because he helped me on a website the other day. But just
• 1:08:04
  because you're using the tools and what's what God has allowed man to create on
• 1:08:10
  certain sins like the website. I remember old uh uh. In the old
• 1:08:14
  and older days when I was growing up, they was like, oh the
• 1:08:16
  internet bad, the Internet bad. No, the internet is not bad.
• 1:08:19
  What some men have placed on the Internet is vulgar and manipulative of and bad
• 1:08:26
  that the use of it can be bad. But the actual Internet is not
• 1:08:30
  bad. It's a resource. And so sometimes the enemy could act like you're
• 1:08:34
  not a good resource because the things that we've done, the places that we
• 1:08:39
  the things that we've experienced, places we've gone, the the the caves we've
• 1:08:44
  hit in hitting in come on, I think that was a prophetly lodger that
• 1:08:46
  went heat in the cave like they they he can really think take us back
• 1:08:51
  to our darkest place and say you really not there. You really is like
• 1:08:56
  even though you are producing and you're producing, well you're really not that you're
• 1:09:00
  this and this is why. No, And the greatest part is great the
• 1:09:04
  negro don't even give us or why. He just say no, you really
• 1:09:08
  did, and just reason plays it in our memory. You know that is
• 1:09:13
  that is extremely powerful because sometimes you can be producing fruit from a treat.
• 1:09:18
  It's not even yours. You're producing in the lane you don't supposed to supposed
• 1:09:26
  to be in. You think that just because you're producing, that it's good
• 1:09:31
  for you. And some people don't understand that the devil can help you produce
• 1:09:35
  too, and so and so sometimes you got to ask yourself, what's your
• 1:09:42
  motive behind why you want to produce? Because God is after your heart and
• 1:09:47
  your mind and so and so we have to get down to that motive of
• 1:09:53
  why we're producing and what we're really doing this for, and then you could
• 1:09:57
  begin to understand who you're producing. Four and a lot of times we produce
• 1:10:01
  because it's self soothing. And I mean we're innately selfish as humans. Right
• 1:10:08
  when you think about a baby, and you think about a two three year
• 1:10:11
  old and you get them a toy and take it away, it is no,
• 1:10:13
  it's mine. They start crying. Well, you have adults, it's
• 1:10:15
  the same way. The toys just change as we get older. Greg,
• 1:10:20
  I promise you this Mike stands forn to just fly across. I'm just saying,
• 1:10:25
  like the toys just change as we get older, and sometimes the toys
• 1:10:30
  become people. We become possessive over certain people, and when those people leave
• 1:10:33
  our life, we cry like a baby. Okay, we can't go into
• 1:10:35
  that. Okay, we can't go Well, I just I just want to
• 1:10:41
  What I really want to get across here is is that that imposter syndrome is
• 1:10:46
  the trick of the devil, and they will have you in the lane producing
• 1:10:50
  and still feeling empty because you didn't supposed to be there. Nowhay, whoa
• 1:10:57
  whoa and so and so and so comparison is the thief of joy. You
• 1:11:02
  compared yourself so much, and you studied somebody to where you became the carbon
• 1:11:08
  copy and you followed the playbook when you were supposed to be the blueprint.
• 1:11:14
  Greg, I'm sorry that was probably so loud. Greg, Okay, okay,
• 1:11:20
  I'm trying to Greg. You just said something so powerful because this is
• 1:11:29
  the this is space to talk about that. Because being a creative, when
• 1:11:32
  we think about creation, the Lord literally took he was the first creative and
• 1:11:42
  made everything. No, I want you to break it down. He literally
• 1:11:45
  took nothing and made it everything. He literally took an attribute, which is
• 1:11:51
  love. And I want you to think about it because if you go back
• 1:11:56
  to the first, you go back to the first you look at the you
• 1:12:00
  look at the Word, and you see where the relationship of the Trinity,
• 1:12:03
  which is God, God, the Father, got the Son and the Holy
• 1:12:06
  Spirit. So you looking at this and out they loved each other so much
• 1:12:13
  that they wanted to create. So creators have the strong ability to love.
• 1:12:20
  So you're thinking, oh, I don't know what has coming from. Thank
• 1:12:24
  you. I do know where's coming from. Thank you Lord. When we
• 1:12:27
  when we people try to say you're selfish, or that you have the inability
• 1:12:31
  to love and produce, or that's a lie, because literally, the Trinity
• 1:12:35
  showed us that because we love so much that we have the ability to create.
• 1:12:42
  That's what creation, That's how creation was started. That's that's number one
• 1:12:45
  thing. But the fact that God was able to take take a void and
• 1:12:51
  make it just like appeer like that is so profound. And when we're told
• 1:12:59
  the I that we're we're not able to do that, that that makes us
• 1:13:05
  feel like imposters too. That that really that really makes us feel like it
• 1:13:10
  impossible. I had another point. Yeah, I ain't gonna lie because it
• 1:13:13
  was in my head, but I started started thinking about some other stuff.
• 1:13:15
  But we have to really think and take things back to the word. That's
• 1:13:18
  why it's important to take things back to the word, back to to what
• 1:13:26
  God says about about it. And so what what was your last point?
• 1:13:29
  That's what I gotta get my point. Let's go ahead. I'm gonna give
• 1:13:31
  you. I'm gonna give you this to chew on. This is gonna probably
• 1:13:33
  help your point. Jesus was the blueprint. That's where I was going.
• 1:13:40
  That's that's where I was going. So now when we think about the blueprint,
• 1:13:44
  that's the word I was looking for. Thank you. So now when
• 1:13:46
  we think about the blueprint, as creatives in a creative space, we battle
• 1:13:51
  with because everybody else is not doing it? Should we? But we're called
• 1:13:59
  to create. We have to think about the creator started with the void from
• 1:14:04
  nothing. But here's the other piece of that. Right. I had to
• 1:14:11
  grapple with this and we might have spoken about this on the last podcast.
• 1:14:14
  The same day you plant the seed, not the same day you eat the
• 1:14:16
  fruit. Correct. And what you start to see is that some of the
• 1:14:23
  promises in the Bible that we made the Abraham then become fully realized until Jesus
• 1:14:29
  died on the cross. Correct. So to your point about the space and
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  being a creator. Sometimes you have to be okay with being the person that
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  it may not pop for You may be the seed that plant that and put
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  it in the world. Somebody else we may take it and run with it
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  and blow it up. But can you be okay with letting somebody else stand
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  on your shoulders and you don't get the glory? And so that's where you
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  have to start to kill their flesh. That's what it devil get on you,
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  the imposter syndrome, and that's when you start running somebody else land with
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  the playbook and without the blueprints. But that's also understanding who you are.
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  That comes with identity, like a builder. A builder doesn't necessarily mean you
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  build it and you hold on to it. A builder, you build it.
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  You may lay you may lay a few foundational pieces here, but then
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  you may you have to move on. You utilize the team, You utilize
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  restraint team, come in and get busy. Listen Jones, try out to
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  Jones Global, Richard don't Richard don't construct nothing. That's why I think that's
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  so amazing about his business in particular, like being able to be in the
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  transportation industry, like I get that we get an opportunity to talk to some
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  amazing people and talking to Jones like, well, I'm understanding he contract everything.
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  Why because he is the visionary. The visionary, it's already hard to
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  be able to explain what you see. So you think that God gonna give
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  you the burden of actually having to execute all of that. Oh, this
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  is so good. Think about Solomon David. David would talk about a tabernacle
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  or temple. I think it's which want fact check me on that, but
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  we would talk about we gonna just call it a building. But he would
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  talk about creating this space for God. I think it was a tabernac if
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  I'm not mistaken. And he had very detailed instructions on how he wanted.
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  Well, David died, but because David was wise enough to share his vision,
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  Solomon was the executor of the vision. And this is part of legacy.
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  That's part of what we missed in legacy building. That's why we continuously
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  have broken generations of lack of wealth and lack of financial of financial stability.
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  Thank you, lack of knowledge. Because we see stuff, but we think
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  we got to execute it and execute it then, So now it's the Okay,
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  God, when I see something, when did this happen? Who do
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  I need to share it with? It's all about proper strategizing, because if
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  David never shared his vision with Solomon or even whoever he shared it with,
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  Solomon wouldn't have been able to pick up that vision and run. What's the
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  scripture that says, write the vision and make it, make it play so
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  that they can run with it? Right? I never we stick on that
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  write the vision, make it playing. That's so selfish, that's so selfish
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  of just keep saying, right the vision, make it plain. Because there
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  is a day that's attached to your vision. I'm about to go to church,
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  but it's a day that's attached to your vision. So you're discrediting the
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  work that they have to do. They need the visionary. The visionary is
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  needed not to perform, but to supply what's needed for the execution. And
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  just created the person you have to become to be able to put people in
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  position to execute the vision. That because because you have to become the person
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  that can put the people in position to execute the vision. And so and
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  so just as we as we as we wrap up, I'm sorry, I
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  just I just looked it up. Two and two, it says, And
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  the Lord answered me and said, write the vision and make it plain upon
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  tablets that he may run that readeth it. For the vision is yet for
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  an appointed time. But at the end it shall speak and not lie.
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  Though it terry, wait for it, because it will surely come and will
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  not terry. That's so good. Let's uh, before we wrap up,
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  we're gonna do a different close held Wait. Before we were at we're talked
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  about vision. You know, you literally asked me, how do I go
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  in and do what I do? What's the first thing I told you?
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  You know, as a leader, you have to have vision, and you
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  have to have the ability to get people to buy into your vision. And
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  as a leader, not only do you have to have vision, you have
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  to be convicted by your vision. You have to be convicted by your vision
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  that you believe in your vision relentlessly, because you know where your vision came
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  from. You have to be passionate about your vision. You have to understand
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  your purpose within that vision. So they can't be willing to run with it
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  because because you got a vision, I mean I'm gonna take off running.
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  I'm sorry if somebody take off, running out of community. I'm taking all
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  ready to because somebody so it's like it's like you have to you have to
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  really think about what that what that Bob verse saying, Write it down,
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  make it play on tablets so somebody can see it being work with it,
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  run with it. But what conviction do you have behind their vision? What's
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  the purpose of their vision? What is their vision accomplishing? When we go
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  to the book in the Amaya and we see him get the vision to rebuild
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  Jerusalem, he went and made that vision important to everybody else. He went
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  and showed them the value of them being a part of that vision. He
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  showed them the they And one of the things I do not want to miss
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  here, and I want to make sure I get this out because it's something
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  that I most definitely struggle with. When you get the vision, when you
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  make it plain, when God put the pieces together and you ask keep the
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  vision, don't forget to celebrate that. Wow, that's good. That's something
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  I struggle with, right And as I was struggling with it, and as
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  I brought it to the forefront and my life, coach and call Holy Spirit
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  to me back in the Amaya again for like the tenth time this year and
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  what I saw. When you go reading Near Maya, you will see it.
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  In the first few chapters Near Maya talking about the building, building it
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  out, getting everything done. But the rest of the book is talking about
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  the celebration after they rebuild the all. God gave them permission to celebrate.
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  Oh, you have permission to celebrate your vision. You have permission to celebrate
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  the execution. You are worthy, You are beautifully and wonderfully made. And
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  I need you to believe it. You have to believe it. To achieve
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  you got to see yourself there. For you be yourself there. Your mind
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  turns into a movie theater. When you close your eyes, you can see
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  their vision and you can just see it run across your face. I need
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  you to blee that vision. You gotta breathe liking to that vision. You
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  gotta bleed that vision with everything inside of you. And when you accomplish that
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  vision, when you execute that vision, when you become that person to make
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  that vision come to fruition, you gotta celebrate, or else you may feel
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  that it was worth this whoa, or you'll feel like a slave, feel
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  like a slave to the vision. But really, but see but see,
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  but see when really God was trying to give you something to help you birth
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  because you was to con do it to begin to make this happen. And
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  for those of us that don't know what to can do, it is it's
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  the it's it's the thing that carry the electric current. So you're like,
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  can come on, m So somebody has to bring the energy for the light
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  swish to come on. You just don't flip the switch and make it happen.
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  It's things and wires behind that wall that makes that happen. They can
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  hold the electric charge. See, you are the can't do it. It's
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  able to hold the electric charge of the Holy Spirit to get everybody else to
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  come on, right and so and so you you you have to you have
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  to accept it in And what I was saying when I was like, you
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  know, as we close, a couple of things that I wanted people to
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  take away was grace, give yourself grace. Comparison is a thief of joy
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  and it plays into the trick of the devil because they leaves it to the
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  Aposta syndrome. And now you start producing the areas where you feel empty.
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  Wow, you didne made all this money and you feel like you're empty.
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  That's because you're not producing where God wants you to produce. You're producing where
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  you wanted to produce. You're producing with your comparison wanted you to produce.
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  You're producing what your fear wanted you to produce. You were so fearful of
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  being the blueprint that you became the playbook and so and so you thought that
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  because it felt hard. You thought because nobody believed in it right away,
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  you see, and you allowed that to make you the playbook. And you
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  win and did something that everybody else wanted you to do because you saw Mama
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  do it, you saw Daddy do it. Now you want to do it,
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  but that ain't really what you want to do. I'm talking to somebody
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  right now. I need you to believe in you. I need you to
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  go after you. I need you to chase the heart of God, become
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  intimate, understand where he wants you to be, not where you want you
• 1:24:06
  to be. It's different. See, I didn't want to be in leadership.
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  I wanted to go be the best salesman that I can be. I
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  didn't even want to manage people. Jessica come into the branch her Mama prophesying
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  to me, telling me I'm gonna build communities. I thought God was talking
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  about property, you know, he was talking about his people. I wanted
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  to be the real estate mogul where I have all this apartment complace and build
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  this. God said, no, son, say your property and build a
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  community of people that I want you to build an inner circle. And I
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  want you to be to con do it, to deliver what I need you
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  to deliver. It's different, man, it's different. And it's hard to
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  accept because because you you have a picture of where you want to go,
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  and God has a destiny of where you're going to go. Man, agreed,
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  we went there fast like it was like and and I just I just
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  want people to to truly understand that everything you want is on the other side
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  of the hall. And none of this is going to be easy. It's
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  never going to be easy. You have to be willing to kill your flesh
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  every day. You have to go after the after the heart of God.
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  Man, and you and you gotta give yourself their grace. You have to
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  develop your vision, you have to get those core values, you have to
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  live them. And you gotta show empathy to people. Man, and Lee
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  will love, Lee will love that. That's maybe that that song that that
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  thing go look I mean love Greg, it's it's can I take my Can
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  I take my seat? So the next Greg is always a pleasure to have
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  you on. Grateful for you man, Grateful to have you the community,
• 1:26:08
  Grateful to have you as a continued family member on the podcast. Y'all,
• 1:26:14
  y'all gonna be seeing more. We have to do. You know what we
• 1:26:15
  have to do. We have to do a live That'll be dangerous though,
• 1:26:19
  because we're gonna see yall comments and oh that's that's a whole nother because we
• 1:26:27
  got everybody, everybody oil it and everybody oiler. We might have to do
• 1:26:30
  a Monday segment with Greg. We gonna we have to work that out.
• 1:26:35
  So Greg reminded people of how they can connect with you. When can they
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  start your your mindset coaching classes? What is that? What does that look
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  like? What you got coming up? Yeah? So the website is I
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  Thank you again, Thank you, Thank you for the opportunity to come
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