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Episode 2 - Mental Load: Terry on trial · Keeping it Real with Erin and Terry

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Welcome to Keeping It Real with Erin and Terry.
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Sponsored by Imperfection by Erin.
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And produced by Magic Door Studio.
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On today's episode, we are gonna talk about the Universal man
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that cannot find anything. We're also gonna talk about blue
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jobs and pink jobs. The phenomenon.
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Has that hit your house? Would it be fair to say?
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You find nothing? Yes, that's fair.
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Terry is on trial. Terry, you're on trial since
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today I met you. Well, I have to admit that I
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can't. I'm going to plead the 5th.
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Can't plead the 5th. Why sorry, is it a universal
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thing with men? I have you here on the sofa.
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So for all the girls listening he is going to break bro code
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like that's. Like bro code what you mean?
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Because I'm going to ask you, what is it and why do men?
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I can't find it, I can't see it. It's there in front.
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Of you listen, I genuinely think I actually have a visual
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impairment. Yeah, I genuinely, I swear on
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the Bible. Like I was looking in that
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drawer for so long and it's like, it's like I can't find one
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and next, well, I look in a three or four time, next one
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just appears. I'm like, is there something
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actually wrong with me? That's a big fat lie because you
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don't go. I look 3 or 4 times and then it
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appears. You go can't find it and Erin
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comes in and then it appears in the freaking place I told you it
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was going to be in the exact spot.
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Oh, there it is. Here.
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Yeah, It's like I it's like I've visually impaired.
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I can't find it. Where did you find that?
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I don't see it. In the place I told you, yeah.
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So this is not the only man I've dated.
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I know that's a shock. Hard to Terry.
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I never told you. Before horror.
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I am horrified right now. I have dated other guys.
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I'm horrified. Stop now.
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Stop you stop now. Oh, stop.
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But keep going with that one. They all can't find things, So
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what is it? Do you know what I think it is
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right? My honest opinion right?
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And I heard it from someone we know as well and a friend and
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not a close friend, but she said men hate to be inconvenienced
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after a certain age. So I think we're only half
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looking since because we don't want to look in particular.
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So basically you want me to be a man?
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Find Jackie is fair. I can't even manage my own life
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half the time. That's what I'm here for.
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So that, oh, just hit that. So that brings us on now to the
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blue jobs and the pink jobs, which, by the way, can cause
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absolute carnage in the house. Yeah, I'm perimenopause.
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Kind of ironic you're wearing a blue jumper right now.
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Well, you know, sometimes I do feel like the blue jobs are on
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me, or if I don't, I have to pretend I'm going to do the blue
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jobs. This is a trick my ladies have
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taught me to. Which ones?
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The Savage No. No, no, Instagram, my followers.
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And Savage. So here's.
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The trick, girls, if you're listening, OK, you take the job,
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you take the tool, you take the powerhose, you take the hammer
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and you put it to the wall and to the test.
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And then he watches you, OK, And he goes, I'll do, I'll do it.
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So if you want something done, do it yourself.
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Until he, Until you. Until you guilt him into doing
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it. Guilt.
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You've only asked tomorrow 700 times.
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OK, there's another tip I'm going to give to our listeners,
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tracking them with the bill. That's a good one.
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In fairness, that is no. Problem.
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I'll guess someone to I'll guess someone to wash this smell of
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urine off my artificial grass. The.
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Smell of what? Urine.
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Oh yeah. That was a big that.
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Was a serious serious Like there was nearly a divorce over there.
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Yeah, because tomorrow was about four months ago.
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Yeah. Tell them what?
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You said and you know what? When I, when I finally did, when
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I finally did the the job, I, I, I just found it so exhilarating.
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That's how I feel after a night with you.
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I finally do the job it feels like.
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Why the hell didn't I just do it a few weeks ago?
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You like me bracelet, by the way.
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Yeah, actually he doesn't forget where that bracelet is.
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So Terry, do you like it? And me were in Lanzarote and it
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was actually horrific weather. And we went to this market and
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Terry's like, look at these bracelets.
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I'm going to get me and Jake these bracelets.
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Terry. Scarlet, France.
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Terry. I love it.
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Well, clearly you love because you haven't taken off your
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wrist. It's a Do you want?
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Me to take the brace. Off.
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Is it because you're like leather straps?
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Do you want a little whip leather strap?
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Terry, is that what you're thinking?
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No, no, I'm pleading the 5th. I'm on trial.
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No, Terry, it looks like a belt on your wrist and.
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What? I have to stop being mean to
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because people are going to be like.
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She's no, no, keep going to them.
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Yeah, no, because I make you look great.
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Actually, I'm not. I should be your PR manager.
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You should be my PR manager. You think you're direct in my
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life now at this point? All right, I'm going to play
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ball with you. You can't.
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Find your key. As the listeners who thinks I
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should remove this from me and I will.
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And who thinks if he removes that, he won't be able to find
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it? And guess what?
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You know why? Because you and Donna will throw
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it out like I know, which is all right with me.
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Close. Now when you see something I
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don't like, all of a sudden it disappears, never to be seen
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again and it's in the bin. Like this one.
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I don't know where that is. Like this one time with your eh
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wife beat our vest so bad. That was a buzz that was only
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doing that for the crack. No, I actually.
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I don't like them anymore. No, and also Terry goes around
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our house with no top on because.
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Obviously I don't anymore. It's in the middle of it is in
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the middle of winter. You still do have your top off.
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All morning. I'm not, I'm not a minute.
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I'm in a bad place. Terry, tell everyone when I met
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you, you had like an A pack and you just go around with your
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top. Off I never had an A pack.
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I had a 5 1/2 pack. Well, it looked like I was in
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love with you, so it looked like A to me.
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You got extra packs with the Love Ice.
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What happened there? I don't know, I woke up on.
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My see the way I took it off you look.
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Actually I miss it now. Just something about now.
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Reverse psychology. I love it.
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So I think it's because you like to be a rocker, isn't it?
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It's OK. Back to the blue.
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See what he just did to me there, girls?
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He literally distracted me about talking about the blue jobs.
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I'm the pink. This is the most exciting trial
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I've ever been on, by the way. Yeah.
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Because you're trying to seduce the judge.
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Oh, look at my bracelet. Oh, yeah, I'm so great.
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Why won't you do the jobs? What is the no?
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Honesty. No.
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Honesty. Yeah.
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No, I'm going. Back.
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I genuinely enjoy doing the once I actually do them, but it's
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like a default in me that I just kind of like not a way like,
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well, you know, the way we're running around that other say
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you're bringing Harry somewhere. You have to go somewhere else
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yourself this time. You know you're I'm out late
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singing. You mean you're do you?
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Want the actual practicalities of the house do not naturally
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come into me head, but once I do them after World war three
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happening in the gaffe, I actually go to myself.
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You know, I actually enjoy doing that Do.
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You Do you think you enjoy making me go to the brink of
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insanity? Do you think that's like a
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little bit of? Your no, because I don't really
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like no offense. You're not really like that.
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Enjoyable to be around when you're like that.
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Why don't you just do it? And then we wouldn't.
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Because I just naturally don't think of it.
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Like, do you know how sexy are when you're doing that stuff
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like that? I'm seeing myself doing a bit of
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housing at the old camera at all, I'd say.
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Is that for you? I can see where she's she might
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be getting that ball. Like that is such a huge lads if
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you are listening to this OK, I don't know if there's men
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listening. Your woman will find you so
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sexually attractive if you don't do those blue jobs like a
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washer. Hold on a second.
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Like perpetual in a second. I'm talking to the lads.
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Do the windows, paint the window sills?
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Wash the grass. Wait, hold on a second now, just
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for one second, I want to start. I just want to open the and the
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topic up a little bit more in relation to blue and paint jobs
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and all. Right now we're getting into all
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this kind of old school stuff. We don't live in the 1950s,
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sixties, 70s anymore, right? And I have noticed a lot when I
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do go to the shop on my own to do the weekly shop occasionally
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because you don't, you have some money, you won't come with me,
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right. A lot of men are out doing the
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shopping now are a lot of a lot of, excuse me, a lot of lads are
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out Wheeling the boogies without with their kids and.
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I don't think my dad ever will to boogies.
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But that's what I'm saying, mine didn't didn't even change.
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So things have changed in so far as flexibility has to be yeah,
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part of the game now. So listen to to call a lot to to
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get straight to the point anytime that you want to power
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wash the garden by all means to. Show me how to power wash the
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garden and you took it off it's. Pretty it's very easy.
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So there is certain things that we can't do.
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You can't solely say that's a blue job, that's a pink job
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because we don't live in the old times anymore.
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Like, you know, yes, there is certain things, obviously, where
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it might be something that you can't lift or something like
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that. I understand that, yeah.
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Now you're trying to back me into a corner and he's actually
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I need to go on. To you know, I'm right.
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That's that's, that's usually our key that she knows I'm right
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in what I'm saying. Because I do think, for
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instance, I'm way better at like, let's say, choosing
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Harry's clothes, yeah. Or maybe looking at.
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You're also an influencer and in fashion, which you are really
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good at. Or maybe like Santi and stuff
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like that. You're not too bad at that, but
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I would be a little bit more projecting.
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You see, you're more, I'll tell you what it is.
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Yeah, you are more on the traditional side which I need
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help with that. Traditional.
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I like Santi stuff, blah blah blah blah.
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I became a father for the first time at 40.
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OK. It was never a big thing in my
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house. To become a father.
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No, the Santi thing. Christmas was not really a big
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issue like my my my my parents grew up when I was very young as
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well, remember. You're by humbug though.
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It's because I'm not used to that kind of enjoyment.
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So that actually led to another big argument at our home around
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Christmas time. And I, he was like, oh, you
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know, yeah, about Christmas. And obviously, you know, he
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didn't have great memories or whatever.
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And. Well, I don't have great
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memories of family life, full stop.
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But I have a great mother, Jesus, she do it for me.
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She's a diamond. But family life in general, I
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don't. I don't have good memories of
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that. But I was like terrier with me,
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like. And I think I'm so I'm so
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consciously caught off from that.
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But you're with me like 11 years.
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I know that, but it's. Had 11 centies with me like.
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I I I also met you when I was what told the.
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How old were you actually? I was told the What are we
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together 12 years now? Yeah, so 36.
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So I had 36 Christmases. Of not like that matching Santi.
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Pajamas. Like genuinely, I never had
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anything like that. Never.
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And look at you now, every year you're in them.
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Match No, but I'm on a serious now.
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The way it's don't be dead, like don't be straight.
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You have to accept that part as well.
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This was all new for me, you know.
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Yeah. So like, a lot of it was alien
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to me. I was like what?
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This is weird but eh, but at the same time enjoyable.
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You really struggled your Christmas the most.
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I I kind of always do. Yeah, I think maybe because they
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were always my tradition and then like traditions in my
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family are. And again, I suppose on on
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social media, what we see, like we didn't have matching pajamas.
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We always had new pajamas. So that was the thing.
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New bed clothes. One thing I love about your your
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side of the family is you, you know, you know, you all know how
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to celebrate occasions really well.
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Yeah, I think as well. Which is something that we
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wouldn't have done so much. We would have, but not to, you
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know, really make someone feel special.
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Special. Do you get me?
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Yeah, like a birthday. Yes, we all come together like.
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Even it's a big deal. I love that, you know what I
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mean, But I never really experienced much of that.
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And you know anyone who? Ever actually get coming from my
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background? You know what I mean?
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Yeah, anyone, whoever comes into our family.
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Again, this is probably a preconceived idea that maybe
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people didn't realize. This about us is we're really
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loyal. Definitely.
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And we're if you're in, you're in takes a while.
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And I'm talking about like my extended family, like aunties,
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uncles, cousins. And remember, like my aunty, she
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actually passed away, but like, she was kind of borderline route
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here for ages, remember, Yeah. They like and then I was I was
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actually doing Curry in a time in the van and the torn out.
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I was court. I was delivering into a place
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where she worked and I bumped into and we got talking and I
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think she just realized, oh, he's just normal.
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He scraped. It doesn't be that they're.
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Really passed the test, Yeah, yeah.
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Passed. It and now your other auntie.
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He was very similar. She texts me the odd time as
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well, just out of out of the blue.
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Yeah. So that's, that's the way our
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family is. So when you come into our family
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into like my mom's side of the family, especially because
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that's who we would have grew up around a lot, they would take it
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in and they like, I'm so close to all my cousins.
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There's some. But I feel like I'm closer to
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your cousins than I am. Meow.
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Yeah. You know.
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Well, and and. As well like.
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Maybe because there's another thing man versus woman I
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sometimes feel, or maybe it's just the people that I'm around.
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Or what I've seen is, is that like at Christmas time and
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stuff, the man nearly goes to the woman's house and the
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woman's family. That.
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Now can I just point out one thing on that right?
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Yeah. And this is one thing that I've
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known as straight. OK.
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Now I'm not saying it's the case in all cases, but I'm saying a
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lot. I've known as straight boy meets
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girl, they start hitting it off boy.
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All of a sudden Dan becomes involved in girls life more and
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leaves his own side of things behind.
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OK. And maybe we'll move towards the
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girls area. Why do you think that is?
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I don't know because I know someone else, a couple that we
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know well, who are exactly the same.
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I'm not going to say who they are, obviously, but it's exactly
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the same thing. Yeah, I think for most.
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But I think it's because girls like the security of having
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their mothers close to them. Yeah, we rely.
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On where sons like I was living our home when I was 19.
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Yeah, I'm young. Do you know what I mean?
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No, I was on a path of whatever distress, self destruction, if
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you want to call it that boat. At the same time, I left my home
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kind of early. Sons, I would say, tend to do
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that easier than than girls do, Johnny.
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Yeah, I think, I think that's if that's a fairpoint.
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Definitely. I also think, I also think
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somebody made this real valid point was I know this is
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probably deeper than what we thought it was going to be, but
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I think we're going there to. Put the main thing is Terry's no
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longer on trial. See that?
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Well, didn't we? See how we done that?
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He's really good. You should be a politician.
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Fall for Terry. You know yourself.
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OK, so somebody made this real valid point to us during the
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day. Yeah.
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Men from the time they're like boys, most of the time have been
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told what to do by women, whether it's a like a teacher,
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grown up, their mammy like. So when they marry a wife,
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sometimes they feel again that the wife is telling them what to
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do. You have a real issue.
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With the authoritarian figure, yeah, yeah.
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But it's only true to their own work.
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Spiritual walk on myself. I've realized that that comes
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from childhood. Like so now I thought this was
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real funny right? I hate when Terry walks on the
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carpet after being Hilbert. Like just for 24 hours.
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The cleaners after being here. Can we not keep the health
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clean? OK, we've seen as you're getting
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into that kind of thing. No, no, I hate about you.
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When you leave, you leave. Yeah, she was right in the
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doorway. You take them off and leave them
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in doorway. Who even does that?
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The person that would bring them up the stairs, when they go up
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the stairs, I leave them up the stairs.
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So the person that's walking up the stairs broke my shoes.
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That is the biggest fat. If Margaret couldn't hear me
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now, I would be saying the big effing ward, because that's a
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lie. Yeah, it's not a lie.
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Right. Do you know what I'm going to do
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for next week? I'm moving nothing belong to
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you. I'm I'm going to move my own
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stuff. I lived in a bed suit for years.
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We can tell which I won't court and open.
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You know what I mean? What court and open?
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Yet another ick he's actually opened the one court and.
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Yeah, and you know what? I.
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Actually came home from a healing retreat when I met
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Harry. Thank God because I'd have been
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like, I'm out here. And folks, here we are 12 years
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later. Yeah, yeah, I blame.
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That I blame, I mean. They seduce me into calmness.
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Admit it. I do love you.
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I loved you from the moment I met you, but I was probably very
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calm after doing my healing retreat.
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Very calm but delusional possibly.
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Possibly you know, with the one curtain no, So Terry by default,
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if I ask him to do something will go no.
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So I was on me Instagram must have been doing a video and
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Terry walked in and I said, take your shoes off because the
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cleaner had been there. Just keep the carpet clean and
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straight away without even taking a breath.
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Terry goes no and then we follow her row Ha ha ha.
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Terry says no and then takes his shoes off straight away.
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Yeah, I do that, Yeah. Do you know who else I notice
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does that? Taylor, probably, yeah, because
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she's, what? A child, basically.
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No, she's 25. You're nearly 50.
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Going on 25. Going on five sometimes and then
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what is the other one that you do?
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Oh, so this is my answer, girls to him now, Terry, this is
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happening. So we can do it your way or my
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way and you can say yeah, and you're going to have the best
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time and it's going to be for the greater good.
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What do you want to do? I sometimes I don't like to do
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that. You're telling me?
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I like to dig in. You like to anime me?
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I I like to dig in just for the crack, yeah.
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There's another universal thing with men.
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Or is it just the men Aaron has chosen whore life that actually
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like anime? That Aaron chose.
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Yeah, I know, I was obviously traumatized too.
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But why do men like to annoy their partner?
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She's still on purpose. Not all the time, but sometimes
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yes, but not all the time. I think we are quite annoying
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naturally. Men.
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I think we annoy us. Do I know?
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I think the dynamic is that you annoy us and we annoy you.
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Why do we like each other? It's just the way the universe
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works, I think. Because we like that.
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Can't live with them, can't live without them.
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True. And why do you think like
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certain people make the call and others don't?
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Because I think you get to a stage in your life when the it's
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down to time and that this is my own thing, like.
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Get to the stage in your life where, like all options, where
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you. Find where you find right, you
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find right and one of my rant and my my rant room members that
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say this as well. Like what the fuck else we gonna
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do? Know what I mean?
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We're at the stage of our lives where who else had put up for
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us, gentlemen? So basically you're telling the
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world that you just chose me because you no.
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No, you get to a stage where Erin.
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McGregor was your last option. No, that's not what I'm saying.
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What I'm saying is, who else would put up with us?
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Well, I actually don't know who would put up with you.
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I'm actually just putting that out there to the same.
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I actually think they're gonna call like me, Saint Aaron.
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And I also, I also think as well that after a certain amount of
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time of being together, men and women in any way in general just
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annoy each other dynamically. Now I do think it grows because.
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Use like to, but use that you use like things a certain way
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and then we don't do them that certain way.
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Yeah, like you. You don't like the island being
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messy, so you tidy up the message.
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I have to say I hate I can't look at chaos too long.
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Now the only area you don't like chaos is on the Ireland.
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So you didn't realize I'd done this last week?
20:47
This is back to the Like Terry game.
20:49
I. Realize you do it all the time,
20:50
I just don't give you a hard time about a sweetheart.
20:52
That is a lie, because this is what I'd done on my menopause
20:55
rant. OK, yeah, so the urine smell out
20:59
the back. We've caught that already.
21:01
Do you think I'm the one having to piss out the back?
21:04
No, I wouldn't surprise me because you might be able to
21:06
find the. House yeah, 1 is training.
21:08
Where do you want them to piss? Do you want to put a little
21:12
doggy toilet out the back in the corner?
21:14
We can make loads. Of money Anyone makes doggy
21:16
toilets, please get in touch. Yeah, you probably wouldn't
21:19
flush it or wipe after anyway. Who's going to clean the toilet?
21:22
The rain would. Who's going to clean the toilet?
21:25
You have to clean the toilet. I'll deal with the power washer
21:27
and down the grass. Exactly.
21:29
You don't do it. OK, so Terry was out doing the
21:32
grass right after like literally me losing my shit outside.
21:36
That's fine. I'm starting to like D Simmer
21:38
now at this stage. But I came in and I still was
21:41
angry. So when I'm angry like that, I'm
21:43
starting to look around at other things that make me angry
21:45
because I'm on the roll now. So let's start looking.
21:47
Around you do. Then you locked me out.
21:49
I didn't do that actually I don't that by accidental our
21:52
habit. So I noticed that everything
21:54
from the island that you hate being messy, you move from the
21:58
island onto the kitchen table. So on spite.
22:02
I do that. I moved it all back onto the
22:04
island. I do that.
22:06
And said fuck, you know you won't put.
22:07
On no, I do. I like meet the.
22:09
I like the islands clean. Help what can it be clean if you
22:12
just move it from like literally 10 feet the.
22:15
Island. Is to the left and the table is
22:18
to the right. It's my priorities.
22:19
That's why I like the island is to be clean, because when I walk
22:22
into the kitchen, the first thing I see.
22:25
Remember the time I absolutely lost my shit because we were
22:27
only in a new house? No, you never did that before.
22:29
We are only in a new house, right?
22:31
And yeah, actually, people are like, this is really bad, but
22:34
I'm just giving it like, 12 years together, OK?
22:36
This is just like a roundup of all the funny things.
22:39
So when I'm periodical, like when I'm near that time of
22:43
month, I get very particular about how my house looks OK,
22:47
especially we had only got a new extension and the new chairs and
22:52
the new table and they were a lot of money, OK.
22:55
And Terry wouldn't see that the sofa has three legs and it's
22:59
smelly, so he wouldn't care about that where I would.
23:02
So I wanted I want the chairs to look as good and clean forever,
23:06
OK? Yeah, but you, you don't want
23:08
anyone to live in the gaffe. Great.
23:11
Well then. Hover buy another house and have
23:14
that as your show house. You buy another house and you
23:16
have as a show house you should. Just live in your gram room, no?
23:20
Because that's work. Just respect.
23:24
Just respect, right? The home.
23:27
Right. I'm gonna kick one back at you
23:28
now, right? Right now on trial.
23:31
Gonna zip this up. So this is what Erin?
23:34
Does, by the way, this is what Erin does, by the way, right?
23:39
She ring me after getting ready to go out.
23:41
Yeah. And she go, the house is upside
23:44
down. That was about 7 years ago.
23:46
That's about yesterday. No, it's about 7:00.
23:49
Because I don't do that to you anymore.
23:50
Do to Donnie. Because, Donna, How?
23:52
You do it to me all the time. The house is upside down.
23:55
You said it to me last night. That's so you'll help me.
23:57
Upside down. Yeah, so we'll.
23:59
And because I'm so easy going laid by 30 no problem love.
24:04
I said that to you World War three.
24:06
Yeah a little imprint of a of a runner in the carpet slaughter.
24:11
But yeah, does blade and an atomic bomb of makeup after
24:17
going on up at the top room. I'm working.
24:19
You're not the only one that can say that I'm working.
24:22
I actually I'm I'm tick tock now.
24:24
I've to go to work. That's me working.
24:27
I think you should get me a studio.
24:29
I'd love to get you a studio by me.
24:32
Lovely. Yeah, Now right back, back.
24:34
To the job I had OK me on trial. You on trial so and by the way,
24:40
before we get to the losing point of me losing it, there's
24:44
been about like 100 things of like, hey Terry, you know, can
24:49
we just not put the jackets on the very first chair in the
24:54
brand new extension. So when you open the door and
24:57
you're saying, hey everyone, here's my new extension, you
25:00
don't want to see Terry's black jacket that's rotten and she'll
25:03
be in the bin, but whatever. That you wear all the time when
25:05
you're cold. Because it is warm, I'll give
25:06
you that. It's an ugly jacket and he said
25:08
it's warm and that's why you wear.
25:09
Only about that jacket. It's a beautiful jacket.
25:11
Tell the truth. No, it is a great jacket.
25:14
You don't like my style either, by the way.
25:17
Carry on anyway. OK, we'll get into that next.
25:19
So the jacket, OK, is trown on the chair.
25:23
So every time I'm like Terry, can we just put it on the
25:25
utility room? In the utility room, you know
25:28
the coat hangers that we have in the utility room, that's where
25:31
they're for they're. Not coat hangers, actually their
25:33
handles on presses. No, I got rid of the coat
25:35
hangers. Too many coats in the back of
25:36
the door because people weren't putting their coats away.
25:40
I forgot we had. That we did have that.
25:41
So at the time, I made it really easy and appealing to you to go
25:47
into the utility room and hang it on the coat hanger.
25:50
OK, Nope, Nope, Nope. So one night.
25:54
I lived in a bed suit for years. What?
25:59
Would you do if you had no excuse?
26:00
And I wouldn't mind as Matt is so particular like his ma is.
26:03
So she's way more house private. Me so most of the time now.
26:07
So most of the time now girls, I have just succumbed to it and I
26:12
just closed my eyes because the reality is, is like mentally
26:16
obviously I don't close my eyes physically.
26:17
The reality is is I'll end up fighting with you all the time
26:21
and everyone that lives in the house or I'll end up like if I
26:25
go onto a clean and spray I will end up wiping the counter about
26:29
7 times and I'm like I give up. So it actually becomes obsessive
26:32
to me. Tell them how you know when I'm
26:34
anxious or something's wrong with me.
26:35
You start cleaning incessantly. Whatever I was going through
26:39
when you already came in, you're like what's wrong?
26:42
Nothing, what's wrong? Do you want to talk about?
26:44
No Aaron, you've cleaned that press 7 times.
26:52
Makes me feel good. Should try it.
26:53
Whatever you want to do yourself.
26:55
Right. What would our blue jobs do we
26:58
think Terry should do for Aaron? Yeah.
27:01
Yeah, put it in the comments. Put it in the comments.
27:04
And that, listen, go easy. Yeah, I'm a nice guy.
27:08
I think he should clean my car. I lived in a bedsit for years.
27:18
You know, I'm actually not a bad car cleaner.
27:24
Now, funny enough, I actually got this thing off team you.
27:27
Yeah, it's it's a game changer. It's a it's a little Hoover.
27:31
You pull over into your cigarette lighter and you just
27:33
Hoover the carriage. You go, I'll try on yours.
27:36
I'll treat you. I'll treat you.
27:37
No, I do have one. If you treat me, I'll treat you.
27:42
Next party might be glown. It's a family show.
27:45
You might How do you know? You don't even have any viewers
27:47
yet. You don't know what it is.
27:48
This is a family show. Could be anything, chair, could
27:51
be anything. Yeah, true.
27:53
You could be treating me tomorrow.
27:54
Walk more blue. Here, here.
27:59
Look, here's another list of blue jobs I found for you.
28:01
Congratulations. I kind of love the jobs, but I'm
28:05
not a traditional wife, am I in my sense?
28:08
Like I can cook, but I don't particularly like cooking.
28:11
But I I would walk that. Yeah, I listen, I can, I can put
28:14
a meal there. I wouldn't be, you know, very
28:17
creative in cooking. That's because you lived in a
28:20
bed set and you're out on your own since you're 19.
28:22
Thank you. Finally, now you're getting it
28:24
12 years later. Those stuff, that's why you can
28:27
suck. You know when I had Taylor and I
28:30
couldn't actually open an egg? Actually, I'm actually pretty
28:34
good at all the eggs. Actually couldn't open my egg
28:36
and I, you know, I couldn't buy an egg either because obviously
28:39
I was spoiled by my man. Boiling an egg is is a skill.
28:43
It is a skill. It is who can make a good egg.
28:46
It's three to four, I think, for a runy 1 is it?
28:48
I'll make his toast into little soldiers.
28:50
You're actually an amazing that's that is something that
28:54
absolutely. Looks like it's actually.
28:56
It's actually one of my proudest, eh, achievements.
28:59
Well, you should be really proud of that and he absolutely
29:02
idolizes it. And you're an amazing stepdad to
29:04
Taylor as well. Thanks very much.
29:06
Sometimes I think they're like the same person.
29:08
Me and Tay are literally father and daughter.
29:12
There's no. Doubt.
29:12
Funny, I'm like yous are. Literally personality the same
29:18
it's like. Headstrong.
29:20
It's not even funny, isn't it? No, so, so similar.
29:22
Like, you know. Yes.
29:25
So it's actually so funny how you're not obviously Taylor's
29:31
biological dad, but you're so is are so similar in certain areas
29:36
and she really confides in you. Probably you're like the good
29:39
cop versus me, the bad cop. Yeah, well, I want to.
29:42
I want, I want her to be able to come to me and not be afraid to
29:47
say stuff because I was always afraid to say stuff to.
29:50
Your dad. My I will.
29:51
I didn't say anything to my dad. Like it's just no way.
29:56
Like I could say the odd thing even like it was a different
30:00
kind of it. Was different back.
30:02
Then yeah, different generation, different.
30:03
How do you say everything to my model?
30:05
Yeah. My mom's younger than your
30:07
model. Yeah, but also I was out of the
30:12
house very quick. I didn't talk to much many
30:14
people when I was younger. Do you know what I mean?
30:17
Actually, here's another thing that you didn't talk to people
30:21
much. Terry is like the mayor of
30:24
Lucan, so he knows everyone in super value.
30:28
In dorms in Tesco's, he makes friends with everyone.
30:32
It's called networking and. Oh, it's so funny.
30:36
And he's like, oh, that's it's not Mary, but just saying that's
30:38
Mary up the road. They they talk to me because I
30:41
give off that energy. You're a fake nice guy.
30:48
No, I do be delighted to get out of the house how he is.
30:53
I know he went to Super Queen. I'm not messing about four or
30:55
five times a day. The the most I went to is five
30:57
times in Monday. That was to get wait me he.
30:59
Actually told me the other day, because we're doing a different
31:01
regime where I shop and as you probably know, if you're
31:03
watching us on the socials, right, where do you?
31:05
Do those soldiers? Right, they actually told me in
31:08
super value they miss me stopping I'm missing.
31:12
So we're two people did not all them obviously.
31:14
That's a lot of people here. Two people, said Two people.
31:17
A lot of people like, you know, for the chats.
31:19
He is very friendly. You could kind of bring Terry
31:22
anywhere. That's what I also love about
31:25
you. You're kind of like you listen
31:28
to what you have to say. So even though you might take me
31:30
to the edge where I lose my shit about something, what if I have
31:34
an issue and I go to you with it and I say this is this, you'll
31:40
take on board? But the way I look at it is
31:41
this. If you're actually losing it
31:43
that much over something, well, that don't mean something to
31:45
you. And I think so.
31:48
I kind of have a duty to look at it, you know what I mean?
31:51
That's cute. Seeing as I'm your life partner
31:55
and by the way, sorry just for for the record as well, you are
31:58
an amazing mother. Thanks, yeah that makes me
32:02
uncomfortable. No, but if if we know you're not
32:05
a crack, yeah, we what we deal with.
32:07
We're Hardy and all and. Our son has profound autism.
32:12
In case it's your first time, listen.
32:13
He is I, I am a lot more better at dealing with it now.
32:18
We'll see in the early days when we didn't know what we were
32:20
doing what, what waters we were navigating, all that kind of
32:23
stuff, you used to literally dig us out of the hole every time I
32:27
would be ready to just default mode, run out the door and never
32:32
come back. You know what I mean?
32:34
Or you used to be able to comfort them, bring them down.
32:39
You knew how to you, you know how to do that, where I'm
32:42
learning how to do that now and I know how to do a lot better
32:44
now and I'm able to do it now. But before you, you actually
32:47
showed me how to do that. Yeah.
32:49
And I think again, I suppose this is another area of our
32:54
relationship which I think is really important for everybody's
32:57
relationship, whether it's a friendship or, you know, a
33:00
marriage or a boyfriend, girlfriend, girlfriend,
33:02
girlfriend, bye, bye. Whatever you need to assess
33:05
what's not working. So every now and again we will
33:08
come together and we will be like, it's not working.
33:12
And sometimes it's just because someone has a perception of
33:16
something. For instance, I walk a lot and
33:23
sometimes Terry wouldn't see that.
33:27
Am I right in saying that? Yeah, it's easy not to see it
33:30
because it's on the phone and like most of us use our phones
33:34
for, we'll say, leisurely. Yeah.
33:37
I know it's more cotton, more now work driven before it would
33:42
have been like. Yeah.
33:46
So what I would then like obviously went through a stage
33:50
where like, let's sit down, let's chat about it.
33:52
And it was like everything that I do is always for my family.
33:56
I always want to like provide for my family, support my family
34:01
and move us to the next stage, whatever that may be, whatever
34:07
that looks like. I feel like that is something
34:11
that is on me is to make sure we're OK and the ship is
34:14
driving. But.
34:15
What you have to realize as well as as the man in the
34:18
relationship, it's important for the man to be part of that
34:21
driving and direction too. 100% and.
34:25
Sometimes you find it hard to let go of that.
34:29
Yeah, I understand where where it comes from, obviously, but
34:34
you have to remember this way. I had to tell you before you
34:37
used to refer to a lot of stuff as my, my, my or me, me, me.
34:41
I'm like on You're not on your own in this house, I'm in it
34:43
with you. Yeah.
34:45
Do you know what I mean? That's what I and I know here.
34:48
I think we've gone past that now and we are 100% shoulder to
34:53
shoulder driving the ship together.
34:56
Yeah, and we reassess things and.
34:58
You have your strong points, I have my strong points, I have my
35:01
weak points, you have your weak points, but it works perfectly
35:04
for us. Yeah.
35:05
So our pink jobs and our blue jobs, they might in be the
35:08
traditional sense sometimes, but I can't do my blue or pink jobs
35:13
without Terry, and Terry can't do them without me 400%.
35:17
And sometimes in today's society it can look different and men
35:23
can find that difficult. Like here's what for you, right,
35:26
And I want to say this for for people watching as well.
35:30
And I like I am a singing 54 to five nights a week.
35:38
Get a real job, Terry. I'm not saying.
35:41
Slagging because that's what everyone always said I'm saying.
35:42
That because I'm letting people know how much I walk, I'm
35:47
letting people know that you are actually sitting in the house
35:50
minding our son while that's going on.
35:54
Yeah, we've made a lot of compromises in.
35:56
Which is life every weekend and Jordan the week.
36:00
So there's a lot of times where you're sitting now at night time
36:02
where most couples are watching the telly to get out.
36:05
We're not. Yeah, you know what I mean.
36:06
Like, yeah. And that has to be taken it.
36:09
That's not the easiest of things to to manage either.
36:12
Like you know. That's why I love walking with
36:14
Terry. That's why I was like trying to
36:16
be like, let's, you know, walk together this way.
36:19
The podcast came because we genuinely actually have great
36:22
time. We enjoy, you see, and this is
36:25
where it came in to where you're at breaking point.
36:28
I don't want to be in this anymore.
36:29
Well, hold on a minute. Let's reevaluate the situation.
36:33
Take all the stresses of life, everyday life.
36:36
However, take Harry over, take walk over all that kind of
36:40
stuff. When all of that is gone and
36:42
it's just me and you, we do we enjoy our comp each other's
36:46
company. Yes, we love it.
36:48
Yeah, and that's what I've found.
36:51
And we don't have enough time together.
36:54
Yeah, but it's sometimes, you know what it that's OK as well
36:58
because it can go down the other way when you're spending too
37:02
much time to get it. You can start, get money
37:04
shoulders, Wick, you know what I mean?
37:05
So it's just to find the balance, you know?
37:07
And I think that is going to lead us into next week's podcast
37:11
where we're going to be talking about finances, roles and
37:17
health, managing skills and how today's society is really
37:21
affected by the way everybody has to walk, male and females.