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Get Your Sexy Back & Beyond · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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Hey, hey, hey, and welcome to Terry Messenger's Genius Zone.
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And I know you hear me say this every week that boy do we have a
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magnificent line up for you. But I am not joking when I say
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that every time you listen to our podcast, you are going to
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grow exponentially. You're going to learn so much
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information, but you know, this is the one podcast where you're
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also going to experience high profile modalities that are
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going to change the trajectory of your life.
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So stay to the end because we always have something super
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special. But with no further ado, I am
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about to bring on the female version of Les Brown.
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And in case you don't know Les Brown, this is an inspirational,
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powerful speaker who can raise the energy of the room.
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Now Valerie is here. This is the beautiful Valerie
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and she is here to speak into your life about being the woman
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that you truly deserve to be. Now, this is about the time of
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your life and I know for men, if you're listening to this, you
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are going to take a great deal away from this because I am sure
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that you have a significant woman in your life.
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So this is about when you get to that crossroads.
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You kind of look to the left and you look to the right and you
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wonder where to next. What is going to happen in my
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life? You are going through your
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hitting menopause. You feel that pain of
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uncertainty, feeling like you are literally losing your mojo,
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your purpose. And yet where this is going to
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be extra spectacular and the men will benefit from the
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visualization, The Cave visualization that you're going
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to get at the end, you are going to benefit because you're going
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to find out how this pain becomes your power, becomes your
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crown, becomes your wisdom, becomes your liberation.
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And so you can change that chaos that happens in our lives when
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we're just so uncertain, and we can change that chaos into the
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most incredible life. So with no further ado, I bring
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to you the amazing Valerie Jacqueline Ritchie.
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Hello, Valerie. Hello Terry, Thank you for
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having me. Well, you are absolutely
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welcome, beautiful lady. And you know, I always love to
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start like a movie because a movie is not a great movie
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unless it has a really spicy element of where there's a dark
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night of the soul, there's this massive challenge.
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And in your case, you went to the doctor you were trying to
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conceive at the right age of 42 just to be hit up with, told you
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were menopausal. Would you like to tell us the
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story, how that impacted you, what that felt like?
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And you know, what happens in a woman's life, you know, to a lot
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of people when they hit that kind of part of their life.
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Yes, I believe that this stage in my life has made me who I am
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today. When I went into that doctor's
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office and I went in with hope that you know fertility results
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were going to say yes, you might be struggle to get pregnant, but
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at the same time, you know there was hope.
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It never crossed my mind. The words she used.
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Your results are in your post menopausal now.
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In that instant, I was like, what do you mean host?
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And it hit me. It was like a slap in the face.
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I don't only just you know, we got into relationship.
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We were going for it. We didn't have children at all.
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This was a moment to put us 2 together.
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When that doctor said those words, it ripped me apart.
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I actually but didn't realise how much I actually wanted a
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child until she said those words.
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And she continued to talk but I didn't hear anything.
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All I could think was I'm never going to be a mother.
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Never. And the crazy thing is when she
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said post menopausal I thought, well how could I possibly be?
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How did I get to that stage and actually not know?
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I was post menopausal, you know, I know about menopause, but post
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means it's gone, it's over. You know, that time to have a
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child is is completely gone. And when I walked out of the
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doctor's the tears just came. The tears just run.
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I actually don't know how I drove and then I told my my
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partner and he just held me and then he had to drive and Take Me
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Home. But all I could think about was
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why me? Why am I the only one that this
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has happened to? You know, I went inside my head.
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I, I just looked at all the thoughts of that this I'm never
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going to be pregnant. I'm never going to have that
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belly. I'm never going to produce.
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I'm never going to bring a child into the world.
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And to me, it was like, what was the point?
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And it wasn't what was the point of living?
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It was just what was the point of like, well, who am I?
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What's, you know, what's yeah, what's my identity?
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I don't know who I am. And that threw up so much chaos
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in my life because I started to look at myself in like, well,
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why am I here? What is my purpose?
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And I honest, I honestly believe that that brought about my
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purpose, that brought about that I needed to share my story.
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I absolutely cannot agree with you more because God brings a
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breakthrough and rises people to the next level following the
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biggest adversity of their lives and those people who can face
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adversity and hence the show and what this show is all about.
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Because this is your story, but there are people out there with
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their own story. And it's a story of pain.
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It's a a story of uncertainty. It's a story of chaos where your
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life just gets turned upside down.
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And, you know, this is where the people that can be awake, that
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can wake up and understand exactly that there is a higher
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purpose. This is the story behind your
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glory. But it doesn't stop there
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because redundancy came for you as well.
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And there must have been a point where this does happen as well.
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And you can open this up where people do reach that point in
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their career where they're going.
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Is this really what I want? And, and I think you really hit
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the nail on the head by, you know, asking the questions, who
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am I? You know, and it doesn't have to
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be a woman who can't have a child.
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It can be for a person going through any kind of crisis in
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their life, you know, where they end up.
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One of my podcasts, a man was saying it was holding onto a
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bridge, ready to let go, asking who am I?
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Why am I here? So, you know, obviously you've
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met with that redundancy, but so many people meet with that
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crossroads of what they're doing.
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Can you open up that pain and and what happened through there?
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Yeah. So I've been in education for 30
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years, loved it, loved being in front of my students as I went
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up the ladder, so to speak. I, you know, became a senior
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lecturer and the senior lecturer position meant you were moving
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away from being in front of your students and you were doing more
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admin work, managerial work, which was great.
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However, my passion is education and I love educating and became
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the time when redundancy was on the table and it was an
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opportunity for do I take the redundancy or do I try and stay
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and do something that I was losing my passion for.
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I chose the redundancy because again it meant that it was
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leading me to where I needed to be.
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That was no longer who I was and I needed to find who I was meant
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to be. And it is a big, massive change
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in a life because if you spent 30 years doing the sort of like
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the same thing, you identify as that person that is, you know,
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you forget that you're actually the me.
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It's who am I not the role that I've been doing for 30 odd
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years. So that again threw up that
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chaos of identity that looking in a mirror, thinking who is the
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person in front of me? Who am I?
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What is my next stage? How am I going to step up and do
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something that really fulfills me, engages my passion again,
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lights me up, brings on the shine and delivers what I am
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here to do? And that redundancy took me into
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that dark, yes, but we as all know from darkness there was
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always light and I had to step forward into that light.
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And that's what the redundancy did for me.
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I I feel that there's people that need to hear that because
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that right there, there are so many people caught in the golden
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handcuffs where they feel that they're too old so they start
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telling themselves these stories.
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I'm at an age now. What else is there for me?
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They're kind of handcuffed because of the money.
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And yet you hear stories of people that got a redundancy and
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were absolutely devastated just to find that it was the inroad
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to one of the greatest things that was to happen for them.
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And you know, what you know becomes of them as a result.
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It's like, you know, the jigsaw puzzle and not making sense and
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everything, you know, pieces missing and then all of a sudden
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it all comes together. So what was it that you did
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that, you know, converted you to?
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You know, obviously I can see how the teacher, the preacher,
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the mentor and the speaker is truly all really all roads lead
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to to 1. So what did you do to embark on
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that? So when you decided, right, I am
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going to be, you know, this motivational speaker, I am going
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to create a program and I love it.
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Get your sexy back and beyond. I love, love, love that.
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And I think both men and women can hear that too.
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So tell us your steps. What was the transition?
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And, you know, did you just wake up one day and say I'm going to
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become a coach? You don't tell us about that.
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Well, The funny thing is as I before I was made redundant, I
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was looking into coaching and it is a natural thing because I did
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coaching when I was in my job. My background's in sports, so I
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had the sports coaching aspect anyway, but I was thinking of a
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sideline to do alongside my job and it was the coaching element
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and I looked into it and I decided, you know, that's ideal
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for me. The thing with coaching is you
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need coaching. You know, every coach needs
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coaching, so you can't just do it without being coached.
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So as part of this chaotic period of my life, because it
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was almost like knock on effects that was just hitting me.
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You know, as much as I might have wanted to ignore something,
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every time I got another hit, it was like come on now, move
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forward, move forward. So I decided to go into the
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coaching and I took some time out from the teaching, you know,
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from moving from the redundancy into the coaching because I
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needed to ground myself and find myself and figure out different
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things about myself. So I moved into the coaching and
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one of the things that I found because I am a midlife woman,
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that resonated with me because I've been through these ups and
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downs, chaotic times of being a midlife woman.
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It spoke to me that those are the my ideal target audience, my
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ideal clients, the people that I wanted to speak to and inspire
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to take charge of their lives. And I didn't want to do it in a
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way where we normally have like the grown method and you're
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setting your goals and so forth and do it in a sort of
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traditional way. I wanted to add a bit more spice
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to it because being a midlife woman, it's not just about
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menopause. And I always like to say there
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is more to life than menopause because there's so much that
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hits us all, maybe maybe all at the same time.
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So I like to do my coaching based on what the woman is
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showing me, but from a holistic point of view.
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So we're touching on many parameters of coaching and my
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coaching methods vary depending on who's in front of me.
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And like I said, my background is sports, health, fitness, so I
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might do from that side as well. But I have spirituality and I
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love to embody that. And I do believe as what I call
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myself the Crone Goddess. And the Crone Goddess is that
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powerful, wise woman that accepts who she is, believes in
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herself, celebrates who she is now and let go of all those
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chains that held, you know, that held us back.
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So I come from that Chrome goddess point.
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So you're using the wisdom that you already have within you,
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dive deep into the strengths and acknowledges your strengths
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along the way. Look at your challenges that
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you've had and look at them in a way that shows actually, if I've
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got through that challenge, I'm here, I've got through that
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challenge, I'm here. All those challenges we
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sometimes take for granted, you know, we naturally take for
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granted things that have happened in our life because
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we've moved on. And especially women.
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Women tend to take everything on board.
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We have that natural nurturing nature, but there's also
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societal expectation that we should be that.
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And then because of those expectations, we give
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everything. And to me, the first person we
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should give to is ourselves. And so in my coaching, I love to
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promote that. So therefore this is an
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opportunity for a woman to actually look at herself and
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maybe for the very first time, which can be scary, but look at
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really deep who she is and then take that on board and then
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start to be herself truly. Be herself, yeah.
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And. Through my coaching, that's what
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I do. I love that.
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And and you know, while you know, the spell check wanted to
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come up with crown goddess, it's very much Crone spelled Crone.
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So what does Crone actually mean?
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So I take it from the Triple Goddess and it represents a
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stage in our lives. Triple Goddess, you have the
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maiden, you have the mother and you have the Crone.
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Back in the day the Crone was the grandmother and if you think
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about it, as children we always looked up to the grandmother
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because the grandmother knew everything.
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The grandmother had a different take on life.
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We looked at mum and mum might be frustrated and had so many
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different things going on, but when we looked at the
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grandmother she tended to be calm, powerful, wise.
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We would ask questions and she had something to give us.
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And in natural fact the grandmother has been there, worn
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the T-shirt, done everything. So it's a stage in a woman's
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life which she reaches, but it's when you step into it and
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celebrate it and go, you know, I've reached that Crone Goddess
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stage where you fully accept who you are and you turn selfishness
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into selflessness because then you're filling yourself.
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And you can give a hell of a lot more than you possibly think.
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Because we always say we give a lot.
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But if you're not giving to yourself, how much are you
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actually giving? Yeah, exactly.
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You know, my husband had has this saying you cannot give away
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anything you haven't got. Now I'm going to have to address
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the elephant in the room. Otherwise my listeners just will
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not be happy about this. And of course, if we especially
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get women who weren't able to have children for whatever one
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reason or the other, or a person who is going through an early
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menopause, like what happened with you, we do understand that,
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you know, when we can embrace all the things that happen in
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our life, whether we made-up, like obviously you made-up in
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your mind probably from when you were a little girl, that the
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fairy Princess story was that being a mother was the thing,
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right? And yet not everybody.
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Is born that way. And I also say to others because
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everything is about a perceptual shift.
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And so you know, oh, you say you don't have children, but in
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actual fact, you're you know, I'm not talking about you
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directly because I have to address the elephant in the
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room, but you know the teacher well, you've got tons of
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students, you have plenty of children.
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So actually nothing is missing. Everything is filled with
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equilibrium. So being that you were
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menopause, did you have children?
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And what was your take on whether you did or you didn't?
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If you didn't, you know, what's your new belief system around
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that? So when I entered the Chrome
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stage and I looked at it and I thought well, well, to the
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mother bit, but it actually made me reflect on that role of
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mother. And I interpret mother as a
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thing that we all have because it's about your nurturing side
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doing my students and my children, my nephew and nieces
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are my children. I've always had the mother and
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it took that reflective part of my life to realise actually the
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mother was always there and I love that.
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I am still the mother. I'm a godmother, I'm a fantastic
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auntie. I radiate mother because people
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come to me and I love that. So I had to look at it from a
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different point of view. Mother to me isn't the fact that
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you have given birth and you have a child in your life that
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you cared for directly. Mother is in US innately.
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It's what we do, you know, it could be you could take it into
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business and birth in a new business that is your almost
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like your baby. You know, I've had furry babies,
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you know, type cherish, you know, so I looked at mother in a
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completely different way, because if you just focus on the
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the birthing or, you know, the physical side of producing or
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fostering or adopting and you just miss and you say you can't
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do that. It's almost like closing a part
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of you that has always been open.
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And I really truly believe, even though it's hard and it might
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take a bit of time, you always have that mother within you.
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You always have. To refrain them.
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I, I, I really needed to know that because, you know, it
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wouldn't be fair to my listeners to be listening to this show to
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knowing that, you know, whether did she have children, what
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happened there? And, you know, stick around
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because what's going to happen is we are going to go on a
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journey with this beautiful lady to do a cave visualization.
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So just to remind everyone out there.
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So we've talked about the chaos factor.
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We've talked about, you know, the perceptual positioning of
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being able to turn your perception around about your
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situation, and that includes your age.
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You don't have to see your age as something that is, you know,
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truly a deficit. In fact, you can see it as
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wisdom. You can see it as a blessing.
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You can see it as something beyond because that's that's
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what everything in this show is all about, the genius zone.
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It's about being able to turn, you know, that bold adversity
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into gold. And so that is really what it's
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all about. So now we're going to talk
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about, obviously, you know, I can see.
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And for those of you out there that are sort of feeling like
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you're in that chaos, you know, this lady is your lady to speak
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to because she's going to really be able to help you to look in
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the mirror and literally discover who you are.
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But what this is all about is this is about being able to
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switch and change the trajectory of your life by really moving
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what you perceive is going wrong in your life to changing it into
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actually the possibilities of your glory.
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So we've talked about the Crone, the goddess wisdom, the
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obviously the element of, you know, chaotic midlife crisis and
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what that brings to the table. And now let's get into the juicy
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part. This is the method.
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And you know, I love this because, you know, I love to
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look at people in their genius zone and go, you know what, what
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you thought that you took for granted that you once did.
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Like, you know, maybe you did art or maybe you did sport, or
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maybe you're a teacher, or maybe you love to go on stage.
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It's interesting where you can bring all of those qualities to
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the center of your life and really come to the conclusion
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that, you know, this is who I am and we're going to talk about
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mirror work. So mirror work, what do you say?
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Louise Hay was huge on this, but can you go into a little bit of
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depth for our listeners that listen to this podcast and tell
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us what Mirror Work is all about and what that person can do for
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themself? Yeah, so I like to do mirror
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work. And if you think about it, when
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you stand in front of a mirror, what do you actually see?
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Because often enough when I'm speaking to my clients and I say
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look into the mirror, they now tell me about their facial
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features, the lines, you know, how they look.
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And I'm saying, no, look into the mirror and see you.
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And when I talk about this, I'm talking about looking straight
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into your own eyes and look deep into your own eyes and only your
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eyes. And then I asked them, tell me
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what you see. Now, this can be very, very hard
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because most people actually don't look into their own eyes.
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They just see the outside, you know?
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But if you can look into your own eyes and get deep into your
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soul and then tell me what you see, that's an important thing.
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And I ask questions, like tell me what you see.
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What does that person see? What is she saying?
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Does she like the person that she sees?
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What does she like about the person?
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Tell me the good stuff. And it makes them think.
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And it can be a very emotional thing because it might be the
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first time they've ever done it. I also get them to use their
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name because I think that's important.
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You know? What's Valerie saying?
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You know, they come up well, she's saying, I said, who's she?
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Use your name. So if you're going to do it, you
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know, say for me, it's like Valerie says that I'm looking
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great because such a fault or Valerie loves you.
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My eyes and she said they're beautiful, They're brown,
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they're big, they're very expressive.
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Valerie loves the way that when she smiles, it can be crooked.
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It's cheeky. It's a big cheesy grin, you
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know, and things like that. And you're actually asking the
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question of yourself, but you're continuing looking into your own
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eyes. And I know when you're asking
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those questions, we start to dart and I bring them back.
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Keep looking, keep looking, keep looking.
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Oh, so you're with them? Are you actually with them when
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they're doing the mirror work? Yes, because you know, it's to
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keep them looking into their own eyes because we have that
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natural looking away bit and I get them back, get them back and
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it and it's it takes time. So this isn't like a quick 5
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minute practice. It's a longer practice.
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It could be, you know, about 30 minutes of practice, and that's
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a long time. So yeah, but it's a long.
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But it's not like do your makeup while you're doing it.
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You're sort of going beyond that because when you're doing your
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makeup, you're sort of you're you're sort of bettering
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yourself. But when you're looking in the
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mirror and you're looking into your eyes, you're usually
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looking into one eye. Is that right?
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And then you're, you're seeing yourself for who you really are.
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So it's not about, oh, I'm going to cover up that freckle or oh,
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I'm going to put some, you know, mascara on my eyes.
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It's, it's a depth of the way that you look and having that
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person. It's amazing when someone is
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standing with you, actually how you see yourself differently.
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You, you suddenly see yourself as that person and then you're
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encouraging for that gratitude, which runs into the gratitude
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that you are also talking about, you know, journaling like you
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talked about how you mastered. And I know that a lot of
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personal development coaches talk about this, but maybe we
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can go into a little bit more detail.
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So you're talking about looking into the mirror, looking into
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your eyes, perhaps concentrating on one eye and expressing what
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you love about that person and what that deep appreciation is.
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So then would you suggest to write that down afterwards or
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how would you propose to people to do that?
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Because it's a lot got to take in and it can be very emotional.
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And I've had women cry because, you know, sometimes the words
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that they come out with is I actually love the person in
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front of me. And that is the important thing
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because we need to get to that stage where they're loving who's
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in front. I also believe that writing it
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down is clearing it. You're getting it out of your
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system and you get it in down on paper and you just write.
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You don't need to think about the full start, the full
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sentences or anything. It's just a case of saying,
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right, tell me how you feel, and then just write and just keep
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writing. And it's given the time to do
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that and just keep writing. No faults.
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Just get it out of your head. Yes, yes.
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It's just a. Double.
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It's a double method that comes out because you're seeing it.
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You might be crying with it, you're really feeling it, but
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then you're writing it down because then it's out of your
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head. It's something you could
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actually look at later as well. You can read through how you
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actually felt about seeing yourself.
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So it's almost like you're downloading, isn't it?
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You're, you're literally downloading.
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So you're, you're getting it from whatever's in your head.
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And I often say, look, do this if you can't sleep at night, get
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it all down on paper. Just put every thought down and
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let it come out. Because what happens is you are
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literally freeing up space in your head.
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You are literally expanding your consciousness by doing this.
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But I'm going to draw on the part that I am really, really
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looking forward to, which is the inner child cave visualisation.
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But before we go into that, I'm going to talk about picture work
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and get you to go into a little bit of detail about what is
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picture work. Yeah.
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So with picture work, I get a client to, say, gather 20
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pictures of themselves where they're actually smiling in the
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picture. And the picture is from the age
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of four to five to where they are now.
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And what I get them to do is explain what was happening at
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that time. Now, some people might not have
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many pictures where they're actually smiling or appear
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happy, and this helps them to sort of rediscover what was
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happening at that time. So for instance, you might have
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a picture of you and your parents and you're smiling,
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you're happy. It might be a birthday party,
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you're smiling or happy. And I want you to get back into
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those memories so that you understand what made you happy.
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Why were you smiling in the pictures?
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Now, I've had a client before that didn't really have any
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pictures until near the end, you know, later in life.
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And she had that picture, but she could explain to me why
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she's smiling then and why she wasn't smiling all this time.
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And it made her think of the things that was going on in her
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life. Ultimately I I get them to
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choose a picture of themself. Probably.
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About, you know, 6 or 7 where they're smiling and frame the
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picture and keep it beside themselves because then they can
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look at that inner child. They can look at that child
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picture. I've got one myself.
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And it was funny because I didn't like taking the pictures
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of myself. And, you know, yeah, I'll jump
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in a camera, but I didn't like to see the result.
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And that particular picture I would never display.
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And I did this myself. I would never display that
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picture. Now I have this picture framed
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and on my desk, and I see it every day.
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And it's a reminder of that child who's smiling that had the
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world at her feet, wanted so much.
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And it brings it back to you. It lifts you.
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So that exploration of the pictures shows the journey that
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you've been going on, Those happy moments.
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And if we could embrace those happy moments because like I
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said, we sometimes take our lives for granted.
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We forget about these things. But if we can bring those happy
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moments into the presence, we can see what made us happy, and
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then maybe we can take what made us happy forward.
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So it's important you know, a little bit of picture work.
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That is absolutely amazing guys. If you are wanting to really tap
35:38
inside yourself and get your sexy back, you can get in
35:43
contact with this beautiful lady.
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You can get in contact with Valerie.
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You'll see in the show notes. Now imagine you are collating
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these pictures and what these pictures are about is it is
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exploring those happy moments that are anchoring something
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very, very powerful into your muscle.
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Now what we're going to do next is a meditation, a closed eye
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meditation, going back to your inner child and going back and
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giving that inner child the wisdom.
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And imagine if you could go back in time and change the future.
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So if you are driving, maybe you would like to pause this and
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come back to it after. But let's get ready for our
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closed eye visualisation. OK, So I'm going to hand over to
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you, Valerie, for this. And if you'd like to preface it
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like, so let's say I'm your client and I'm here and I'm
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obviously wanting to perhaps step out of some of the
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limitations that's going on in my life.
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And I understand that a lot of the, I guess the Achilles heels,
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the negative triggers that are popping up really, not just
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really around what's going on in the here and now, but what has
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come from my inner child. So I guess we all have something
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that we really want to try and conquer.
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So maybe you could preface that a little bit better or expand on
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that and I'm going to hand over to you.
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So if you think that when you go back into your childhood and you
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think about maybe a happy moment and you want to go back to that
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happy moment, that child had expectations, that child was
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free, That child wanted something a lot more.
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And this is an opportunity to talk to your inner child to see
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where you are now, you know, and have you helped that inner
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child, you know, have you achieved what that inner child
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wanted? So this isn't about blame or
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anything or negativity. This is just a chat with your
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inner child to see where you are now.
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So if you're ready, it's just about taking a bit of relaxation
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and just stepping into meeting your inner child.
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So when we start off, I would like you to close your eyes,
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take a deep breath and breathe out.
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And I want you to feel relaxed and calm.
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You're in a safe environment. You're relaxed and calm.
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Now the position that you're going to be in is you're going
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to be entering a forest and you're going to feel what the
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forest is like, feel what's beneath your feet.
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Listen to the sounds, the smells.
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Think about what you can hear. Is it the birds singing?
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Is it the wind rustling through the trees?
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And you feel the crunch of the grass?
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What's underneath you? Twigs.
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And as you're walking through the forest, you see a cave ahead
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of you. It's a dark cave, but it's safe.
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You enter The Cave, listening, hearing the sounds.
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You can hear some water when you're approaching The Cave,
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breathe in and smell the damp hair of the cage you enter.
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It becomes dark, you look it damp, and as you're moving
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forward you're stepping with surety each footstep you feel.
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A pull, A pull towards something or someone inside.
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You are relaxed. You can feel that pull, the
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wanting, the urge, and you know you're about to meet your inner
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child. Now walk slowly, keep entering,
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keep exploring, look around. What do you see?
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Get that picture. Can you see what's in front of
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you? You're moving into The Cave.
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It appears dark at 1st and as you enter notice there's a
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little gap at the top bringing in a little light and as you
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look up and then you follow the light down you see a child about
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6 or 7 and you realise that child is you.
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She turns to you and she welcomes you.
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She says hi, I'm you. She reaches out and you take her
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hand. You feel the contact.
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It's warm, it's welcoming, and she leads you further into The
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Cave. This is your opportunity to ask
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questions, to ask questions to your inner child.
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Am I doing what you wanted to me to do?
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How do you feel about what we've done?
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Are you happy You're asking these questions because you want
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to know the answers? And she's playful.
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She's skipping along. It lifts you.
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You'll start feeling playful yourself.
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She answers your questions, She tells you what you want to know.
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Listen to the answers, remember the answers.
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And as she takes you further into The Cave, you're skipping,
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you're laughing. You can hear her voice as she's
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playing. She's reminding you of the
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playful things that you used to do, all the joy that you had and
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the fun times that you experience.
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She looks at you and she tells you I love you, you are me and I
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am you. You are doing well.
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She then leads you further in and shows you a mirror and she
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says look in the mirror. Who do you sing?
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And as you look in the mirror you see your 80 year old self
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and your 80 year old self stares back at you.
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She looks happy, she looks peaceful.
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She looks full of joy. Because she is, because that is
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who you are. Your inner child says, remember,
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this is you become you. Then she takes you away from
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that mirror and leads you back towards the entrance.
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She says I'm going to let you go now, but I am always here.
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You can always come back. Just remember you and I and I
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and you and I love you and you are doing well.
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You thank your inner child. And then you step out of The
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Cave and into the light. And as you walk down the path
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out of the forest, you remember what she said.
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You remember it and you take it forward because you know your 80
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year old self is waiting. Breathe in and breathe out and
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again breathe in and breathe out, and in your own time, open
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your eyes. Oh, wow, that was so
45:52
spectacular. My gosh, I love that.
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And what I'm going to say, what I'm going to say to all the
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listeners out there, is that you want to share this and you want
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to keep this and save this because whenever you need it,
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you can come back to that. Because that was a very
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generous, powerful piece. And I myself feel so good I
46:22
nearly fell asleep. I will tell you, I thought, hang
46:25
on a minute, I'm meant to be the show host here, so.
46:28
And I can tell you because of the work that I do as a trainer,
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the inner child on one side and the older person, the 80 year
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old on the other is very powerful.
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That is a very, very powerful metaphor right there because you
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are just bridging that gap. And it's it's also taking you
46:53
out of whatever is confining and restricting you, but it's not
46:59
only giving you wisdom, but it's also giving you the ability to
47:03
heal yourself. So I just want to thank you so
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much, Valerie. But it wouldn't be fair for me
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to say, even though you've shared so much, is there
47:13
anything you would want to say to your client, that person who
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is absolutely praying for your service?
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What would be your last words to them?
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Words of encouragement? I would say look into the
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mirror, look into your eyes and tell yourself it's time for me
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and that means being self full, putting yourself first.
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Well, boom. Amen.
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Thank you so much and thank you for listening to the show.
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And I am so grateful for everything you have just brought
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to our listeners and to Terry Messenger's genius.
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Sorry, my pleasure.