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Why You Need To Trust The Timing Of Your Life · Natty Unfiltered

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Foreign.
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Hey, it's Natalia. And welcome back to Nadian Filter
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podcast. The space where we get real about identity,
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confidence and rediscovering yourself beyond
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motherhood. What if delay isn't
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denial, but direction?
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What if things aren't happening to you?
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They are happening for you, just not on
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your timeline. So many of us
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live in this constant rush trying to make everything happen
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now. The success, the business,
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the money, the perfect timing. But what
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if the right time isn't something you chase,
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it's something you grow into?
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Today, I would love to talk about trusting the timing of your life,
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the moments that feel delayed, the dreams that
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feel too far away, and the patience that it
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takes to believe that things are still unfolding exactly
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as they should.
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I've gone through this so
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many times where I question things in my life
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and I question why certain things happen at the certain time.
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What they're not happening at a certain time. Why?
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When I started my business,
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like let's say in real estate, years ago when I was in corporate
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world and I was in it for quite some time
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but I wasn't moving it pace that I wanted to and at some
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point I just needed to give it up because I was
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so busy in the corporate world, I did not have the time
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to dedicate to the real estate business.
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The weekends were not enough. I didn't have
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enough support, I did not have
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enough training. I was basically doing it and learning
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on my own and at some point
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I just needed to give it up because I just did not have enough time
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and it was disappointing. But then years looking back,
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I realized it was not the right time. I'm glad I started.
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I'm glad I got my feet wet in a business because
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then years later when the kids were older
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and I had more time to dedicate,
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I just jumped into
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it and I learned from my experience before which
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it which made it easy to jump back into real
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estate world.
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I look back at it and I
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always say, hey, when I wanted to
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start business in E commerce,
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when I wanted to start business and actually
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consider doing drop shipping and things
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were not just really working out, I was not at the right
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place, it was not the right time.
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And actually I remember years ago I also wanted to start the
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podcast with another friend as I mentioned before in
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one of my earlier episodes and I think the timing was just not right.
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Maybe it was just not the right time to start with
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the person that I wanted to start. Maybe it would have just. We would have
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gone separate ways. Whatever it was at that time,
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I just did not see it. And I see it now. I was not,
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I was not ready. It was not my timing.
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Sometimes we don't realize why things happen don't
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happen. It's just not your time for
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the things to happen.
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Let's get into why trusting your timing doesn't mean
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doing nothing. It means learning to move with life and
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not against it. And sometimes, like we think,
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hey, I want to start something. But as you say that stars
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don't align, it doesn't mean that you still should not keep
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working on it and keep learning about whatever
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that you want to start the business or get into real
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estate or maybe move into different field that you're.
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And now don't put it in the
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back burner. You just still continue to work at it.
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You'll just start maybe a little bit later
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than you want to.
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The illusion of Perfect Timing there's
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never a perfect time. There's only the time you
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decide to start. We tell ourselves, I'll start
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when I have more money, when the kids are older, when things
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come down. But the reality and the truth
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is there's always going to be something. And I'm sure you can relate
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to it now. There's always something that happens in
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your life. A simple thing is that let's say you
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have a day off and you think you're going to relax.
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You, maybe you'll stay home, maybe do some laundry,
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or you just kind of kick back and catch up with your favorite shows
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and things just pop. Maybe you, you know, your kids need you. Maybe you need
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to be driving your kids to different activity. Or maybe they want to
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have play dates. Or maybe your friend calls you
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and say, hey, let's go out for lunch or dinner, whatever it is,
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you planned your day and then things
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just don't happen the way you planned.
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Same thing. You know, in life, you're always going to be
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waiting for that perfect time to start
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working on your dreams. But that
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perfect time just doesn't come because life keeps on moving and
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there's always something that comes up.
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Action creates clarity. You don't wait for the right time.
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You create it by taking the first step.
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So if I still was
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dreaming of doing podcast,
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I would continue to dream. But I took steps.
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I started to learn about
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podcasting, what I needed to do, how do I
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start? And little by little,
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I got what I needed and I just went
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for it. But I took the first step into
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deciding, like, okay, I'm doing it, I need to
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find information,
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how I go about it, how do I record it, what do
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I need to record and let's just go started. I wanted to do video
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podcasting, but you
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know what? I wasn't waiting for the right setup because
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then I would just be holding myself back. So I just decided,
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you know what? I'm not gonna do the video first. I'm just
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going to start, I'm gonna get my feet wet, and then
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later on I'm gonna do a video podcast so that I can post
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it on YouTube. I have, I can have a short clips. But the
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thing is, is that I took a first step and I just started.
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Every version of you deserve a chance,
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even the imperfect one. Start with
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what you have. And that's exactly what I did because
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I said, how long am I gonna be waiting? I wanted to do
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podcast. Oh my gosh, what, five years
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ago. And that just. I put
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it out of my mind. And then in the last six months,
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I just been thinking more and more about it. And you know
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what I said? Even if it's not going to be perfect, I'm going to start.
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I'm going to start and I'm just going to learn.
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I'm going to learn as I go along.
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And if I make mistakes, I make mistakes.
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That's okay. That's how I'm going to learn.
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So when I started the, you know, the podcast, when I
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started my online business, I wasn't completely ready.
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But looking back, that version of
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me needed to begin in order to become who I am now.
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And I continue to evolve, I continue to learn,
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I continue to pivot.
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The right time starts when you stop waiting for perfection and
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start moving with the purpose. And you need to know what your
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purpose is when things aren't
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working. How do you know if it's not working
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because it's the wrong path or
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because it's just not your time yet? We live in the world
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of instant gratification. If results don't show up in the
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week, we think it's not meant to be. But timing
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has a written. So when I started in
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social media, and I'm not talking about like, you know, influencing and
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also influencing, but when I started in digital marketing, affiliate marketing,
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you know, I first wanted to, like, I didn't want anybody sort of to know
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about it. Like, I wanted to have a clean slate because
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I knew there was something new. I didn't want to have the judgment.
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I didn't want to have people that I
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know look at the video and judging and kind
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of just.
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I guess it was my kind of issue because I wanted to perfect
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it. And I Guess in a
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way suck at it and then learn from
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my mistakes before anybody
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was gonna, you know, see the videos. But then I, you know, it's like
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I started it, and I had some people that I knew,
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no knew or. And know just pop
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up on their feet and they're like, oh, I saw your video, and inside
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of me I'm like, I cringe. I'm like, oh, my goodness. And, you know,
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they gave me props. And people that, you know, they.
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They said, hey, I give you props for starting
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it. I wouldn't have been able to do it, but I want
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to see where it goes. And inside of
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me is like, wow, I'm happy that I
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started. And I, you know, it's like,
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it's. It takes a lot of guts and a
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lot of, I guess, confidence and just
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pushing through it and push it forward to
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put yourself out there. And, you know, I did it and I
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wanted to grow my accounts, and of course, I wanted to succeed and have
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thousands followers right off the bat. But the
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reality is, is that some people pop
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off right off the beginning, and for some, it just
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takes time. And that's something that I know that I had to come
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in terms with and just be okay with it.
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The universe, God, life,
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whatever you believe, believe in,
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sometimes delays things because you're not
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ready yet. You're being refined, not rejected.
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And that's something that I had to
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tell myself over and over and over and
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over. To this day, I still have to tell myself that I'm not being rejected.
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I need to better myself. I need to better my
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craft. I have to refine myself. I need to pivot.
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And the success that I want at the level
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that I want will come because I'm not willing to
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give up, and I'm not going to give up. You don't give up
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because it's hard. You pause,
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reframe, and pivot with intention.
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Sometimes you're planting seeds in the season that's not
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ready to bloom yet, but that doesn't mean the seeds are
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dead. As we plant
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seeds in the spring for
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the flowers, for the fruits to come and
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start blooming at the, you know, at the right time in the,
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in the, you know, in the summer, in the late, you know, spring, we do
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it much earlier. But you starting, you planting
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the seeds, and then you see
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your hard work that you've been putting in,
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and that's something to this day, I have to constantly remind myself
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and stay on path and know that
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where I'm going is great. And I'm doing it
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because I love it. And I want to show others
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and other moms that you can do it.
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Put your fears away. Who says that you cannot do
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it? Who said that you cannot start a podcast? Who says that you cannot start
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business? Who says that you cannot redefine
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yourself, that you cannot dress a certain way, that you
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know, don't ever put yourself in the box. Anything and everything is possible.
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And as long as you do it with love and passion
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and you want to serve others and you want to show what's possible,
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then why the heck not? Who says that you cannot
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do it? And most importantly,
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you need to surround yourself with people that believe in you,
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who uplifts you, who on days
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where you feel like crap and you feel like you want to give up,
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and you do have this comparison with others who
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you feel like look prettier or more successful than you,
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that they can knock some sense into you and say,
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hey, you are beautiful inside
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and out, you're capable of doing what you said to
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do, and you just need to keep on going.
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Those friends need to be your cheerleaders. And when
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you doubt yourself and you feel,
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you feel down, you feel like nothing
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is moving, you feel like doors are not opening,
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you can actually go to those
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people and maybe it could be just even one person,
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they can knock the sense out of you. Because we're
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so used to see the, the instant gratification.
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And in business not, that just does not happen.
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It takes time.
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And that's what you need to remember. You need to
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ask yourself, am I still passionate about the mission
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even without the instant reward?
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If yes, keep going. If not,
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then pivot gracefully. Sometimes timing
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doesn't test your dream. It tests your patience.
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And oh boy, it is going to test
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your patience. You know, it's like kids, they test your patients on
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a daily basis and they see how much they can get away with.
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And they keep on asking the same question,
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hoping to hear the answer they want to hear.
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And you stick to your guns and you say,
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no, you can't do this now. No, you cannot do it.
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No, you can go to your friend's house, you have to clean your room,
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you have to do your homework. You can't do this now.
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They are being persistent because they want to push as
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far as they can and they're testing your patience.
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And same thing with when you starting something, you working
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on something, it is going to. Your dreams
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are going to test you and
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see how badly you want it.
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Life, seasons and divine timing.
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Just like the nature, your life has seasons where it's
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Planting, growing, blooming,
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resting, motherhood, business,
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healing, they're all move through cycles.
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You cannot rush the season. You can't start
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something and go from A
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to Z in the matter of like 30
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seconds. Maybe this is your
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season to learn, to build quietly, to plan routes that
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will hold you when basically the winds come.
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Here's the quote. You don't force spring to come early,
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you prepare for it. And same thing in business
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and life. You start planting your seeds,
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you start learning, you, you evolve and
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then you see the success of
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what you've been doing and planting and working towards.
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When I wanted to start podcast and also work,
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get into digital marketing, it didn't happen overnight.
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I needed to plan, I needed to learn it. I need to, I needed to
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get comfortable in sort
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of my next step in life, in my next chapter in life.
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I didn't just jump into it without zero
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knowledge.
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I took baby steps to
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get to where I am now. And I still have ways
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to go and so much to learn.
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You have to remember, if it's not happening yet, it doesn't mean
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it won't. It just means the pieces are still aligning
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behind the scenes. And you do have to be patient.
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Patient. But you need to work towards
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your dreams and continue to
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push yourself through it.
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You might not have enough time in a day,
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but you make the time. You make the time for your dreams.
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Like, if you want to work out
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and feel good, it's not about just looking good, but feeling good.
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You will make that time. I said okay.
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If I can't really go out and get the workout outside of the house,
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I'm going to work. I'm going to wake up early in the morning
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to get my workout in. I'm going to
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wake up and sometimes it's tough when the sun is not
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still up. I wake up, it's so dark outside.
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But I, even if, if I, even if I put in 20 minutes of workout
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before the chaos starts, with getting kids
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lunches ready, getting breakfast ready, getting myself ready,
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getting all the kids, you know, like if they forget something,
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their, their backpacks and oh my God,
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walking out of the house with so
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much stuff on my shoulders.
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But that's what I'm doing it for myself because
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this is what I want. And this is.
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Even if I have to wake up early and not
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sleep in for extra half an hour. That's what I wanted to do.
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So the timing of your life is perfectly designed for your
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story, no one else's. You are on your
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timeline,
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trusting the timing doesn't mean sitting still, it means taking align
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action and releasing control over how fast results show
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up. Now when I finally,
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like in a way kind of had to let go of controlling the outcome and
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I just needed to focus on enjoying the process,
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then I started to see the doors opening up little
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by little. And I've always been told like
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don't concentrate on the number of followers or the likes
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or like the comments. If you enjoy what
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you are doing then everything else is just going
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to come. Don't stress yourself on that instant
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gratification. And even if you're not seeing the results and you
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just as long as it comes from your heart, you love what you do.
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It's going to come across, people are going to feel it.
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You show up, do your part and
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let life handle the rest. I know sometimes, I know a
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lot of times it's very tough to do, but once
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you start doing it, you are going to start seeing the results.
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Momentum doesn't come from knowing, it comes from doing.
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You can't control when things bloom, but you can control how
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faithfully you water the seeds. And that's
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what you need to do with your business
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and your dream.
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So I just want you to know the timing isn't just about
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luck, it's about alignment. The right opportunities show
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up when you're ready to hold them. So I'm
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asking you to just keep on showing up, keep trusting and
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keep believing that what's meant for you is already
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making its way.
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I know that it's hard to believe that. And again
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I have to tell you, I have to tell myself this every
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single time, every single time I doubt myself
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every single time. I don't see the results that I want to see.
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I have to keep on telling this to myself. I need to share it
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with my close friends or friend.
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And I need that constant reminder.
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And if union did come, constant reminder,
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then have that friend. And I will remind
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you that you just need to keep showing up.
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Trust the process and most importantly,
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believe in yourself. Believe in the right
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timing. But you just need to start.
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I just want to thank you for tuning into the N Filtered
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podcast. I hope this episode hit home
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for you. If it did, save it, share it and
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pass it along to another mom who needs to hear this reminder.
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And always remember that your story, your pace,
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your lane is enough. Keep rediscovering
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who you are because you're worth every bit of
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it. Thank you so
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much for tuning in. Until next time.