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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: On Taking Up Space & Shooting Your Shot · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to another
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  Speaker 1: installment of five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I'm on cloud
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  Speaker 1: nine right now, and I need to soak in this
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  Speaker 1: moment because I just got back from the most wonderful
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  Speaker 1: morning afternoon and.
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  Speaker 2: I'm feeling really full. It started I'm in La.
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  Speaker 1: For those of you that are following along at home
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  Speaker 1: and listening to me, I'm in La. And this morning
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  Speaker 1: we had an La based Hurdler's meetup and we went
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  Speaker 1: for a little jog and then got back to Bluestone
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  Speaker 1: Lane and drank coffee and macha and iced chiese and
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  Speaker 1: a croissants and oh my gosh, it's just so awesome
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  Speaker 1: to be able to get back to community and back
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  Speaker 1: to one another right And it blows my mind that
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  Speaker 1: anyone who has.
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  Speaker 2: Given me their ears for so long like that.
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  Speaker 1: People I can travel and people want to show up,
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  Speaker 1: and you guys want to run with me and talk
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  Speaker 1: and connect, and I just feel so so lucky. Something
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  Speaker 1: that happened after that was that I then went to
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  Speaker 1: go record on my favorite podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It's this thrice weekly.
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  Speaker 1: Show called Group Chat, and they talk about entertainment and
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  Speaker 1: politics and entrepreneurship and sports and just a lot of
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  Speaker 1: topics that I'm super interested in. I've had one of
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  Speaker 1: the guys from the show, de Murphy, on the show before.
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  Speaker 2: I'll link his episode in the show notes here, but.
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  Speaker 1: I had him on the show before I knew I
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  Speaker 1: was coming to town, and so I was literally sitting
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  Speaker 1: in I believe, the Salt Lake City Airport the other
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  Speaker 1: day when I was at this moment where I was like,
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  Speaker 1: they record three times a week, They're definitely going to
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  Speaker 1: be recording while I'm in town. I'm gonna shoot my
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  Speaker 1: shot and see if I can come in on part
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  Speaker 1: of an episode. And so I messaged d he welcomed
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  Speaker 1: me with open arms to the show. I totally freaked out.
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  Speaker 1: I texted my friend Dara, who introduced me to group
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  Speaker 1: chat years ago, and was like, oh my god, you
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  Speaker 1: are going to die.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going on group Chat.
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  Speaker 1: I went on group Chat and we talked about health
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  Speaker 1: and wellness and just me and you know, if you
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  Speaker 1: should or shouldn't invest in a pel time, like so
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  Speaker 1: much good stuff and they are just hilarious guys. I
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  Speaker 1: felt so grateful to have the opportunity to go there,
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  Speaker 1: and the takeaway and why I'm telling you all this
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  Speaker 1: for this week's Five Minute Friday is that that was
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  Speaker 1: a total As I said before, the phrase shoot your
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  Speaker 1: shot moment. I thought when I made that ask, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, what's the worst that's going to happen? And
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  Speaker 1: the worst that could happen was that he was like.
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  Speaker 2: Eh, maybe not.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't make those big asks, if you don't
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  Speaker 1: go for what you want, then you're not going to
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  Speaker 1: get what you want. My question for you is why
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  Speaker 1: are you playing things so safe? What is it that
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  Speaker 1: you're scared of? And what is it that you really
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  Speaker 1: want to go after that you're holding yourself back from.
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  Speaker 1: I kind of rushed to the prompt on this one.
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  Speaker 1: The prompt obviously from this story. What is one big
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  Speaker 1: thing that you want that you have been kind of
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  Speaker 1: timid on. What is one big thing that you could
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  Speaker 1: go after right now this weekend that you've been stallin on,
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  Speaker 1: and why are you in stalling on it?
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  Speaker 2: Go for it?
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  Speaker 1: I will say this in the meeting this morning, I
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  Speaker 1: did a crowd sourcing on the highlights of the week
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  Speaker 1: segment of Five Minute Friday, and it seems as though
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  Speaker 1: these highlights of the week may be better served if
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  Speaker 1: only served in the newsletter. It sounds as though the
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  Speaker 1: hurdlers don't really love the highlights of the week, but
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  Speaker 1: they love that they love the stories of five Minute Friday.
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to skip highlights of the week in this
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  Speaker 1: five Minute Friday because of that feedback from this morning.
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  Speaker 1: But I would love more feedback because it helps me
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  Speaker 1: bring you content that you really like. So shoot me
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  Speaker 1: a DM a lot. How do you DM me about
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  Speaker 1: the next thing I'm going to talk to you about
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  Speaker 1: right now? It and the feedback is really helpful, So
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  Speaker 1: let me know how you feel about highlights of the week,
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  Speaker 1: if you want them in the episodes, if you only
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  Speaker 1: want them in the Weekly Hurdle, and if you're not
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  Speaker 1: subscribed to the Weekly Hurdle, make sure you're subscribed. The
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  Speaker 1: next thing I'm going to talk to you about the
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle journal Challenge. Another journal Conquered is the appropriate name
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  Speaker 1: for it.
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  Speaker 2: It's coming.
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  Speaker 1: I talked about it last week. I got a ton
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  Speaker 1: of messages. Here's how it's going to work. Starting on
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  Speaker 1: July twelfth, I'm going to send out three dedicated emails
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  Speaker 1: each week about a thirty day journaling challenge. These entries
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  Speaker 1: will be all about self exploration, asking yourself a lot
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  Speaker 1: of questions and thought prompts similar to the ones that
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  Speaker 1: I pose to you in these five minute Friday episodes.
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  Speaker 1: And like I said, three times a week now, because
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  Speaker 1: I want you to stay accountable, because I want you
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  Speaker 1: to get in on the challenge, you are going to
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  Speaker 1: have to. It's going to cost you twenty dollars. For
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  Speaker 1: everyone who signs up for the Journaling Challenge, you will
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  Speaker 1: get again three emails a week, which means twelve emails total,
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  Speaker 1: all with journaling prompts. You're also going to get a
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  Speaker 1: special twenty five percent off discount to Barren fig. This
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  Speaker 1: discount is only available to individuals who sign up for
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  Speaker 1: the challenge. So I'm going to be outlining all of
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  Speaker 1: this in this week's Weekly Hurdle. I'm also going to
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  Speaker 1: put a link to sign up in the show notes.
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  Speaker 1: To sign up, you will subscribe for a one time
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  Speaker 1: month to the Weekly Hurdle newsletter, and that's going to
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  Speaker 1: be your entry free and then only those subscribers will
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  Speaker 1: be the subscribers that get this special journaling newsletter another
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  Speaker 1: journal Conquered Challenge newsletter in your inbox.
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  Speaker 2: If you have any questions.
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  Speaker 1: Feel free to reach out to me, you know the
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  Speaker 1: email at Hello at hurdle dot us. I'm so excited
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  Speaker 1: to be journaling with you. I definitely need this kick
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  Speaker 1: in the butt, and it sounds by all the dms
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  Speaker 1: and the emails that you guys are interested in it
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  Speaker 1: as well.
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  Speaker 2: And now for a listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi Emily, my name's Amy. I'm living in New York
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  Speaker 3: and I love the podcast. I'm training for my first
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  Speaker 3: marathon and I'm wondering if you have any advice on
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  Speaker 3: dealing with the loneliness that comes with marathon training. I
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  Speaker 3: know it's a really rewarding opportunity cost as you've discussed,
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  Speaker 3: but sometimes I struggle with being that person who misses
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  Speaker 3: out or has to say no. None of my immediate
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  Speaker 3: friends are runners, and sometimes they don't really understand why
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  Speaker 3: I can't do a night out. So any tips are appreciated.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, Oh Amy, I know this feeling very well. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: it can definitely get a little bit lonely. What I
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  Speaker 1: will say, You're living in New York City, and the
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  Speaker 1: great thing about New York City is that there is
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  Speaker 1: a really big running community. So if you're not yet
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  Speaker 1: involved in a local run club. I would certainly encourage
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  Speaker 1: you to check out the opportunities and the options that
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  Speaker 1: are within the New York area and also find a
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  Speaker 1: way outside of seeking out a run group to commiserate
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  Speaker 1: with and to share these feelings with, to different types
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  Speaker 1: of plans that maybe you weren't making before. So whereas
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  Speaker 1: maybe beforehand you wouldn't have asked a friend to get
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  Speaker 1: together for dinner at like six o'clock usually on a Friday,
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  Speaker 1: and you might be like, hey, let's go to dinner
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  Speaker 1: at eight. Well, now that's not something that you're really
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  Speaker 1: interested in. See if you can find some friends that
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  Speaker 1: are willing to kind of cater to this new shtick
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  Speaker 1: that you have going on and reiterate to them that
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  Speaker 1: it's really important to you that you want to make
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  Speaker 1: time for them. You want to keep these relationships, but
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  Speaker 1: you also have this big goal and you would really
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  Speaker 1: appreciate their help in supporting you as you go after
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  Speaker 1: this goal. Again, that really important piece to that puzzle
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  Speaker 1: right there, is explaining to the people that you care
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  Speaker 1: about and that care about you that this thing is
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  Speaker 1: really important to you, but so are they, and that yes,
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  Speaker 1: if you figure out the right balance, there is ways
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  Speaker 1: to incorporate both. Of course, if you're looking for a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more community, you know we got you. Head
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  Speaker 1: on over to the Super Secret Hurdler's Facebook group on
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  Speaker 1: Facebook and we will be there to cheer you on
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  Speaker 1: with open arms. That's it for this week. Peace out,
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  Speaker 1: Los Angeles. Thank you so much for the fun times.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so appreciative of you and so thankful for the
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  Speaker 1: happiness that this trip has brought me. Follow along on
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  Speaker 1: Instagram at Hurdle Podcast, I'm over at Emila Badi another
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  Speaker 1: hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.