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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just-The Illusion of Materialism: A Path to Contentment 7.28.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  Three that's where he closes on page 27, but these three give
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  him pretty shoots the middle one about being Mahmir 100% as
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  difficult to keep and the concept is more important than
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  anything else. And that is the concept of
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  having the right tone to Allah hood, which means not just
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  trying to wiggle your way out instead of really accepting when
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  Allah, as we said time we've learned this, we said the point
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  is that if a person never had cold food on Shabbat ever, then
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  there's a little bit of a problem there.
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  Not that you have an offer, but it never ended up happening that
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  they were on vacation and things didn't work out or they were
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  somewhere on a show and and it wasn't perfect and they still
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  somehow had perfect food. It probably indicates that
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  they're always they're always using a titium.
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  Exactly. And that's a contrast to the
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  concept of having a tone of pretty sure when it comes out of
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  high, it's a difficult one. That's application there.
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  The other two are the 1st and the 3rd.
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  The first one is a pity chute when he's obscene.
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  When it comes to physical things, again, there too the
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  concept is key and that is absorbing the idea that I'm not
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  so dependent on every material item out there.
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  I'm not so busy with it, which that too is attainable and
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  extremely valuable, as we'll see.
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  And the third one, which was yesterday, was the social but
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  independent mindset. And that as well.
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  I think it's something that's more a state of mind than
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  anything else. And that is I'm social, I hang
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  out with people, I have friends, I go to weddings and schmooze, I
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  go to gatherings and all that. And I think we're longing
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  people. That my mind is the same mind
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  everyone else. But at the same time I have, I
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  have a thing that I'm OK being alone from time to time and I
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  think on my own and develop my own independence.
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  That was 3. And let's see, on page 298, he
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  delves into the first one, which being potash from material
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  things. And it tells you the how.
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  Now again, these words that you'll see now sound like they
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  come out of a mousse, sarge mousse and yeshiva.
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  But you'll see we all believe the exact same thing.
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  Hinne adede ka mukhar. Look not at the pre shoot, the
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  clear path, the chosen path for a person to be less dependent on
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  material things, who she is. Tequila Adam big riut TA TA
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  nugot halda maze a person analyzes and believes on the
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  give you that means the the the meaninglessness, the nothingness
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  of TA nugem in this world. OPP ito Tam meets a rat's mom
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  and how you know as well as the great evils that likely that's
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  not the word they use preeto Tam they use.
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  I get the exact English words for a person to reflect on the
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  deficient nature of the pleasures of this world and
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  their loneliness and then had a hotel could a lot she could a
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  vote leave a lead. Maham and the great evils that
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  are likely to develop for a person being busy with material
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  as explained the fact that our nature pulls us toward these
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  things. Archie is Teresco car Co-op
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  vitak pulola fishelman until it takes a lot of work to hold
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  yourself back from any sort of physical pleasure.
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  Hoopi tui Hain I am. It's as scheduled as it comes.
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  It's all coming from your eyes playing tricks on you.
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  And if team bin Maria de varin. I should have told Varev de hora
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  Our eyes pull us in. Laura's in on the things that
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  seem to be good. The entire world of material is
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  our ears, our eyes, our nose, whatever our touch, whatever it
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  is pulling, pulling us in closer Hua pitui it is that appeasement
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  chigaram lacheta rishon chia SE which causes cineva domination.
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  Que duta katuf at the bazook states that Aisha, the woman saw
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  Kitova Islamabad. The tree was good to eat the
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  Kitava Elaine aim it was pleasure to the ice.
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  Now the point of saying is the eyes of our keshit Pereira ada.
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  When a person realizes hyota tovaho kazev ligamri that it's
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  all a sketch, MI dumain, it's all dumion, it's all comple
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  illusion. O Belize shumat Madonna, it's
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  all illusory. Any real endurance la rabo en
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  mitio que la Viva de me menu and the bed is pretty much coming
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  from that seemingly good vadai shamas.
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  He will definitely be turned away from these concepts and not
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  be interested as well. Let's explain what this means.
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  What this means is person's job. You look at the world we live in
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  today. What kind of role this
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  advertising play? Tremendous.
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  Forget it. All right, Unbelievable.
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  What kind of role do things that we see play in our months or we
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  see what we imagine or we picture what we hear or are
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  enticed to see? All this is guiding the whole
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  world, literally. It's guiding so much of the
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  world, whether it be advertisements and the old
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  fashioned way, billboards and TV ads and radio ads, or it's all
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  different things that pop up in your phone, all different things
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  that are catchy that pull you in.
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  It's it's our life is filled with this.
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  Now. You look behind it and you
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  realize that I know, we know, it's all 100% a sketch.
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  The entire world of pulling us in and luring us and it's all a
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  sketch. Whether it be advertisements and
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  things or it would be being busy with certain material items,
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  they're all a sketch. There's zero reality to any of
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  it. The whole world of TV, the whole
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  world of show business, the whole world of movies is all
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  fake. We know that it's all fake now.
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  And all the advertisements out there are all based on luring
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  you in. If they would give you
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  advertisements based on the art called facts, right, you'd be
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  boring. It would be boring and not and
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  not attractive and nothing. That's exactly.
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  It's all about luring us in and it's all about seeing these
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  internal likes. And now what his point is, is
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  that a person, if they want to be Portish, Portish is top level
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  over here. It sounds like a very high
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  spiritual role. The way to do that is recognize
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  that everything that you and I know is a sketch is really a
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  sketch. That's all it is.
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  Now question is this if we know this is a?
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  Sketch perception, right? Everything in this role is so is
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  based on that. Now, if we know these things are
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  a sketch, why do we fall for them?
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  I thought about this last night and preparing this.
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  We all know it's a sketch. It's not like we're, you know,
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  17 years old. We fall for these things or, or
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  we go for the gimmicks or we don't.
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  Exactly. The reason, and this is a deeper
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  challenge is that we is 3 reasons why I think some people
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  fall for these things because they really believe it's
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  reality. Those are the people who need to
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  be punished. Other people fall over these
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  things because they need a distraction.
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  They just life is too much. They need a distraction, so they
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  allow themselves to go for the excitement of the upcoming item
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  even though they know it's fake. That guy, it's more challenging
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  to convince him to be Paresh because he knows it's nothing
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  and he still falls for it. He allows his brain to go down a
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  road of fakeness because he needs that to be part of his
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  real reality. Because his current reality is
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  not so awesome, right? I don't think the person even
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  sees it, the marketing they do. You don't even know that they're
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  doing it to you. The market.
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  Yeah, you don't even know what they're doing it to without you,
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  even without anything, you were. You've been there.
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  You've been Doopy for 1000 times.
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  You've got excited about something that was nothing.
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  How many times have we gotten excited in any form about the
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  upcoming? I used to be when I was younger.
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  The upcoming movie, it's going to be the next in the series.
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  You'd wait four months and the back.
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  Yeah, the next four months have a little bit of excitement
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  because something is coming. And then it came.
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  What was it? At best an hour and a half.
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  That's all it was. Maybe he knows the two hours.
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  That's all it was done. All right.
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  And the excitement's gone and you look back, OK, maybe you had
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  a good time. Even if you did, was it worth
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  four months? Was it worth that anticipation
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  that it be a book or a movie or some new season I'm about to get
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  involved in or whatever it is that's coming, it's exciting,
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  that's in the future. All of that is illusion, and
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  people allow themselves to be duped because they need a
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  distraction for that person. It may not be direct reliance on
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  material, but it is tilting toward, and it's a problem in
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  and of itself. Then you have other people,
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  other people as the most problematic people who really
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  believe it. People really go for these
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  things, get excited about these illusions, who look at the
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  Titans and say I wish I had that.
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  They really wish they really imagined their world with the
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  happy world with that watch or their perfect world with that
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  vacation, whatever it may be that they see.
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  And it sounds so childish and so immature, but there's a reason
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  they spend millions and billions of dollars on all this.
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  How much money has been put into the advertisement?
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  All right, all the illusion that people believe in, if you even
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  move over to politics, all right, right now this guy, his
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  entire lure is illusion, doesn't make any sense and has no shot.
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  It won't help a single soul. But it's lure is an illusion.
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  And it's something about an illusion that you can't even
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  touch. You can't even pop the bubble.
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  That's how big it is, that's how exciting it is.
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  That's how much you can drive. People measure noon, right?
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  And that is something and it takes away if a person falls
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  into that trap person relies on that, gets involved in those
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  things. Forget about pretty shoot,
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  forget about being a person in control because he's so
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  dependent on that attractive world.
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  There's really nothing. This is this point.
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  All right? Do we see it?
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  We're seeing the kids because they really believe it.
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  And you see in adults because they want the distraction.
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  That's the point a person has to get very clear how quick and
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  small and fake it's entire what we look at is You have to get
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  that into your system. Everything you're seeing in the
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  world, it's rough, it's tough to take, but it's reality.
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  Everything you're seeing and hearing, at least a big
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  percentage of it, is all fake. It's all phony.
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  It's all nothing. When you you know, you absorb
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  that, you let go of things much more maybe.
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  Is that clear or no? Yeah, no, it's very clear.
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  But it gives you this like when you're like that, it also gives
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  you this, this attitude towards life, which is also not, of
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  course not great. It's like you're above
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  everything and I don't know. It's OK.
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  I'll give you an example. When it comes to cynical, it was
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  a time that when COVID started, OK, I remember this debate.
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  I'm assuming COVID started. So obviously some people were in
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  extremely and other people were very cynical.
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  I remember at the time they called those people and these
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  Shivses and they called those people who were cynical Balghyva
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  Hordy. Why did they call them Hordy?
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  But they said you think you're above it.
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  Like you know there's a reality in front of you and you think
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  you're above it and it's true. And when there is a reality, and
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  if that was a reality, and I still don't know if there is a
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  reality and you think you're above it, there is definitely
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  elements of Benimi dot that can come out from that.
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  And if a guy makes fun of everything that walks 'cause he
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  says it's all sketch, it's all phony, everything you sing is
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  fake, then he's at a risk of becoming a Bulgava.
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  It's true. But specifically the illusion of
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  advertisements and the illusion of all the things that are
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  colour in front of our eyes, all those things.
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  To not believe in those things, it is to be someone who's
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  honest. It has to be someone who's lived
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  through it, someone who knows the truth.
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  That's not so much cava, that's more a person who's seen
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  reality. You know, by all right, has any
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  restaurant been worth a week's worth of talk?
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  Has any steak you ever had been worth all that time, all that
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  conversation? Has any vacation?
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  Vacation has additional components like like relaxation,
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  I got it, and time with your wife and stuff like that.
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  Those are all great, but the beach itself, the sand, was that
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  anything, something that you can go crazy over?
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  It's the. World of marketing.
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  It's all talk and it's all marketing and it's all in our
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  minds and it's all things that people spend their entire day,
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  week, month thinking about that future and then it comes, then
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  it passes and it's gone. Yes, there are additional
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  components. All these things is the
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  summertime deal Beel handle or maybe not the house or the
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  beach, but it could be the relaxation is and it could be
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  the time where your family is you have to pick through.
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  But the the the material alone. There is no way anyone can say
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  any specific material item is worth everything is our bill.
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  I know there's nothing out there that is no food, no action, no
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  trip, nothing is worth right nothing.
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  It's not possible because all material, I mean all material is
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  fake. So instead, why then are we
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  chasing? We're chasing because they did a
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  very good job because the colors get applied, the advertisers get
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  clearer, they feel more like real life.
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  Life itself gets more stressful. We therefore like that new life
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  and that nearing lies. The challenge that a person has
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  to realize when it comes to being a potation, to be a
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  potation is a person who's not so busy with material.
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  And the challenge is see if what it is, see the world around you,
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  what it really is. And that is phony, fake and
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  sketch. So we're just looking for an
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  escape and that item or that place or that food gives us that
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  temporary. We are so so if that's what
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  we're looking, then our original attraction to the illusion is
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  not really coming from a bad place.
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  It's more coming from stress over here.
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  But you are still going toward that illusion.
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  Got to figure it out. And there are other people who
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  simply in into these things into the worst guys into I know
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  foodies are foodies, but a guy's into steak and he talks about
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  steak all the time. Problem.
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  We know the problem. A guy is into certain trips and
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  all they do is all year is focusing on those trips.
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  We also know the problem a person who talks about that
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  specific car all the time. It I was thinking about the
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  other day. I realized, you know the time my
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  my kiss is the car. I realized the car originally
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  was a means transportation, which means it's with the avatar
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  stock, the like to be settled. You have to move, you need to be
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  able to get there. You can use your car.
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  Let's make it as comfortable as possible.
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  Right started off. As a horse, it started off
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  exactly as a way to get there, which means it's definitely
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  better to be here or another place than it needs to be on the
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  road. Then it became somehow, and they
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  did a good move on this one. Then it became an engine itself.
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  Even in itself, the car or something wasn't.
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  Which means you enjoy, you're supposed to enjoy being in the
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  car one second. It's like saying I enjoy first
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  class. We all love first class.
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  Would you rather be at home or be on the plane?
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  First class, we still know you had to be at home.
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  They're eventually going to get to a point they can make the
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  plane so cool and you want to be on the plane just to fly.
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  That's what they're trying to do with the car and that's the
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  illusion. And that is an indication of how
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  far the illusion goes, right? The same the issue to a degree
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  with a restaurant, reality is to a degree, homemade food is
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  better than a restaurant. You don't have to wait.
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  It's made to your taste. You wife loves me.
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  You like all those things. That restaurant has a lot of
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  components that are good as the ambiance has.
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  Getting out has all those things.
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  But to say All in all that experience is better than the
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  natural experience is because they spun our mind good.
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  I got it. There's a lot of reasons why we
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  need to go a lot of reasons, but let's be real and understand
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  there is built a lot on the talk on the on the old other things,
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  which is therefore are taking us away from the reality of life.
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  The more person I'm not trying to tell you to be simple.
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  No, I'm not trying to tell you never go out or never go on
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  vacation or not you have a nice car.
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  You have to do all those things but recognize what they are.
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  Don't see them as to be on all the foodies, the trip guys or
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  the people that are obsessed over cars.
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  Those people took a little too far according to his mindset,
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  and for them to be Oresh is trouble.
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  All right, That's the idea I heard about.