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Unmasking Phobias: Understanding Irrational Fears and Finding a Path to Recovery · The Well-Built Life

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome back to the Well Built Life. I
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  am really glad you are here today. This is a
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  Grab a drink, get comfortable, and let's dive into today's conversation.
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  Today we are tackling the grand theater of the absurd,
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  that is the human psyche, specifically the delightful realm of phobias.
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  Now we all know fear. It is that sensible, evolutionary
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  alarm system that keeps us from walking into traffic or
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  petting a stray grizzly bear. That is standard operating procedure.
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  But then there are phobias, those magnificent, illogical and frankly
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  hilarious manifestations of the brain deciding that a harmless chicken
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  or the number thirteen is a herald of the apocalypse.
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  According to various digital repositories of human knowledge, a phobia
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  is not just being a bit jumpy, It is a profound,
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  disproportionate reaction to a stimulus that poses roughly the same
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  threat as a decorative throw pillow. While a normal person
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  might feel a healthy, fleeting flutter of nerves while standing
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  on a tall ladder, someone with a phobia might treat
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  the second floor of a department store like an active warzone.
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  It is a classic study in the grotesque, where the
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  perceived danger is entirely untethered from reality. The sheer scale
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  of this phenomenon is quite frankly staggering. Internet based research
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  indicates that these disorders are the most prevalent psychiatric conditions,
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  affecting roughly ten percent of the general population. It is
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  a truly fascinating, if somewhat grim statistic. We are talking
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  about millions of people living in states of high alert
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  over things that, in a strictly logical universe should not
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  be raising an eyebrow. Whether it is the paralyzing dread
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  of clowns, the utter terror of lists, or the meta
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  level anxiety of fearing the fear itself, these conditions manage
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  to turn mundane existence into a complex, high stake strama.
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  It is a curious form of internal sabotage. The irony,
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  of course, is that the more we try to avoid
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  these imagined threats, the more we feed the beast. From
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  the perspective of clinical classification, these are just quirks. They
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  are disruptive, persistent, and often deeply isolating experiences. We are
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  essentially watching the human mind engage in a bit of
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  self inflicted tragicomic theater, where the protagonist is terrified of
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  the stage lights. It is a bizarre, deeply human condition
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  that deserves a closer look, if only to appreciate how
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  spectacularly our internal wiring can go off the rails when
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  faced with nothing at all. If we venture deeper into
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  this cabinet of human curiosities, we find that the art
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  architecture of fear is surprisingly structured, despite being fundamentally nonsensical.
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  According to data harvested from various digital repositories, our anxieties
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  tend to cluster into neat, albeit ridiculous, little bins. The
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  primary classification system suggests we are terrified of things that crawl,
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  things that loom, or things that might Heaven forbid prick us.
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  It is a source of profound amusement that a creature
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  capable of splitting the atom can be brought to its
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  knees by a common house spider or a slightly aggressive chicken.
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  This is the realm of specific phobias, where the stimulus
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  is often as trivial as a list or the number thirteen,
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  yet the physiological revolt is nothing short of operatic. From
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  the perspective of Internet based clinical summaries, these fears are
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  categorized into five distinct buckets animals, the natural environment, blood
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  and needles, situational triggers, and a catch all category for
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  the truly bizarre. It is a bit of a tragic farce. Really.
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  One might find themselves paralyzed by the mere thought of
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  a clown or the onset of nightfall, all while their
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  internal alarm system screams as if they were being hunted
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  by a prehistoric predator rather than a balloon animal. The
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  absurdity of it all is palpable. We have evolved to survive,
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  yet we spend our limited time on earth crafting elaborate
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  avoidant strategies to ensure we never have to encounter a
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  needle or step onto an airplane. Then we have the
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  more complex social centric varieties. A gorphobia, for instance, turns
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  the entire world outside one's front door into a hostile,
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  inescapable void. It is a masterful display of self imposed
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  house arrest. Meanwhile, social phobia elevates the simple act of
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  existing in the presence of others into a high stakes
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  performance review where the subject is convinced they are destined
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  to fail. According to various online health archives, this is
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  not merely being shy. It is as an agonizing weak's
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  long ordeal of anticipation and dread, even for mundane tasks
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  like consuming a sandwich in public. The sheer ironic vanity
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  of believing that everyone is watching, judging, and waiting for
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  our inevitable collapse is quite the feet of the human ego.
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  It is a darkly humorous contradiction. We crave connection, yet
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  we build fortresses of anxiety to keep the world at
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  arm's length. This persistent, irrational preoccupation suggests that our brains
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  are not necessarily wired for logic, but rather for the
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  most spectacular kind of internal sabotage. We treat the trivial
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  as if it were fatal, turning our daily lives into
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  a stage play where the script is written entirely by
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  our own, often unhinged imagination. This internal sabotage naturally escalates
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  from mere anxious thoughts into the full blown theater of
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  the absurd reality we call a phobia. It is truly
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  a marvel of human evolution that we have managed to
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  survive the perils of the wild, only to find ourselves
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  paralyzed by the mere sight of a chicken or a
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  perfectly innocent list. According to widespread digital records, roughly one
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  in ten of us is currently navigating this landscape of
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  irrational dread, turning mundane existence into a high stake's obstacle course.
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  It is a delightfully grotesque irony that, while we pride
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  ourselves on being the apex of biological complexity, our nervous
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  systems are prone to firing off existential alarms because of
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  a number, a clown or a slightly dark hallway. The
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  physical manifestations of this hysteria are equally spectacular in their
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  lack of logic. When the brain decides a spider is
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  a harbinger of doom, the body obliges with a symphony
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  of trembling, drenching sweats, and a heart rate that suggests
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  you are being hunted by a predator rather than simply
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  standing near a harmless arachnid. This is not just a
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  nervous tick. It is a full scale mutiny of the
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  autonomic nervous system. As reported by very global data repositories,
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  these reactions are profoundly disproportionate to the actual threat, creating
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  a scenario of slapstick tragedy where the sufferer goes to heroic,
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  often ridiculous length to avoid an object that possesses zero
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  capability to harm them. The origins of these specialized nightmares
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  remain a subject of intense, often cynical speculation. From the
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  perspective of modern clinical literature, we are looking at a
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  messy cocktail of genetic predisposition and traumatic history. If your
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  ancestors were particularly good at being terrified of the wrong things,
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  there is a distinct possibility you have inherited that same
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  glitchy software. It is a rather bleak heritage to pass down,
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  is it not beyond the genetic lottery? A single poorly
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  managed encounter with a hostile creature or a traumatic event
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  can rewire one's entire behavioral blueprint. It is a dark
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  comedy of errors, really, where a bad afternoon in childhood
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  can manifest as a lifelongating inability to board an airplane
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  or enter a public square. The distinction between a reasonable
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  caution and this brand of systemic neurosis is measured entirely
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  by how much of your life you are willing to
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  incinerate to avoid your bogeyman. If you are nervous on
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  a ladder, you are merely a functional human with a
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  healthy respect for gravity. If you refuse to enter any
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  building with more than one story because you might encounter
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  a flight of stairs, you have successfully crossed the threshold
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  into the absurd. It is a fascinating, if somewhat pathetic,
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  testament to our capacity for self imposed exile, trading the
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  vast potential of the world for the suffocating, yet oddly
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  comforting confines of our own, carefully curated phobias. So how
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  do we dismantle these magnificent fortresses of irrationality we have
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  spent so much time constructing. It is a bit of
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  a dark comedy, really, the idea that we must pay
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  someone to help us realize that the spider in the
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  corner of the room is not in fact an apex
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  predator plotting our demas. According to various digital repositories of
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  psychiatric wisdom, the gold standard for This sort of deprogramming
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  is cognitive behavioral therapy. It is essentially a process of
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  calling your own bluff. You sit down, you examine your thoughts,
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  and you eventually realize that your brain has been churning
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  out a rather substandard screenplay of catastrophic events. You learn
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  to recognize that your fear is not a prophetic warning,
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  but merely a glitch in your internal alarm system, one
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  that is currently screaming at full volume because you dared
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  to look at a pigeon the wrong way. Beyond just
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  talking through the absurdity of it all, if you are
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  terrified of heights, we do not throw you off a
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  roof and hope for the best. Instead, we start with
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  something truly hilarious, like looking at a picture of a ladder,
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  and we slowly work our way up to actually standing
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  on a step stool. It is a slow, methodical march
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  toward normalcy, stripping away the layers of your phobic performance
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  art until you are left left with the mundane reality
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  of the situation. Data circulating through global networks suggests that
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  this gradual exposure is remarkably effective at convincing your nervous
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  system that you are not, in fact dying every time
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  you encounter a feared stimulus. The entire process is a
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  masterclass in irony. Really, we spend years meticulously curating these terrors,
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  treating them like precious, fragile heirlooms, only to find that
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  the cure is just a tedious exercise in repetition and logic.
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  It is almost disappointing how quickly the monsters vanish once
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  you stop feeding them your undivided attention. Whether you are
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  battling a fear of the number thirteen or the paralyzing
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  dread of a social interaction, the path to recovery is
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  paved with the boring, repetitive work of proving to yourself
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  that you are safe. It is not glamorous, it is
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  not cinematic, and it certainly lacks the dramatic flare of
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  a full blown panic attack. But it works. That brings
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