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Johnjay and Rich Present: SECOND DATE UPDATE · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: All right, we're getting ready for Second Date Update.
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  Speaker 2: We got Elena on the line of Elena, give us
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  Speaker 2: a little bit about what's going on in your dating world.
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  Speaker 3: I went on a date with this guy and he
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  Speaker 3: was really nice, and I felt like we have really
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  Speaker 3: had a connection. But I just I don't know he
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  Speaker 3: goes to me for some reason. So okay, hope you
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  Speaker 3: can help me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we want to hear your whole story. Okay,
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  Speaker 2: we'll hear it next. Second Date Update starts next with
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  Speaker 2: John Jay and Rich.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe if you ever want to participate in second Ate
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  Speaker 4: Update or wore the Roses or anything else, shoot us
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  Speaker 4: a text, text JJR and tell us a little bit
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  Speaker 4: about why you want to be on the segment, or
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  Speaker 4: shoot us a DM John Jay and Rich on all
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  Speaker 4: our social media.
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  Speaker 2: Elena, good morning, good morning. Hi.
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  Speaker 1: Hi. So you're on second Date Update.
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  Speaker 2: That means you met somebody, you went on a date,
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  Speaker 2: you had a good time, You expected there to be
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  Speaker 2: a second date and there is at one.
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  Speaker 1: Tell us your story.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, First of all, thank you so much for taking
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  Speaker 3: my call. I know you guys like get so many calls,
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  Speaker 3: so I just I feel like I hope that this
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  Speaker 3: one is like good for you guys.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: But so I went on the state with this guy
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  Speaker 3: and we had a really great time. Like dating has
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  Speaker 3: been hard for me lately, but this one was. It
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  Speaker 3: just felt really different. Like he took me to this
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  Speaker 3: seafood restaurant and it was really it was like really popular,
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  Speaker 3: and it was one that I had been thinking about.
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  Speaker 3: So it just felt really like amazing that it was
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  Speaker 3: almost like he knew where I wanted to go. And
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  Speaker 3: also it's like not a cheap place. I was like, oh, wow,
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  Speaker 3: he's going out of his way. He's like spending money
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  Speaker 3: on me. He must really care, you know. It just
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  Speaker 3: felt different. It just felt like a different experience because
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  Speaker 3: I've been ghosted lately and I just thought that this
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  Speaker 3: guy would be different and he didn't seem like he
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  Speaker 3: was going to be that kind of guy. And fortunately,
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  Speaker 3: like I guess, I don't know, he just has been
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  Speaker 3: ghosting me. So I'm calling you because I really want
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  Speaker 3: to know what happened. I don't know, like if I'm
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  Speaker 3: the problem, I mean that could be it. Like I
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  Speaker 3: don't know if I'm doing something that's terrible and I
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  Speaker 3: just don't even know it. But like I just felt
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  Speaker 3: I just felt the connect. I mean, like we were
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  Speaker 3: even talking like we're both you know, we're both the
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  Speaker 3: oldest of four. It's just like everything is seems like
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  Speaker 3: really aligned, you know, and it just felt weird that
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  Speaker 3: he just disappeared. So I just wanted help from you guys. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I wonder if, like, since it was like a pricey
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  Speaker 5: seafood spot, like what if you just went too hard,
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  Speaker 5: Like you're like, like what if the bill wrapped up
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  Speaker 5: to be like six hundred bucks and he was expecting
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  Speaker 5: a three hundred dollars.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I sort of like checked with him before
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  Speaker 3: I like ordered anything that was too crazy, you know. Okay, okay,
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  Speaker 3: like is that fun? You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 1: Then what about the end of the day. Was there
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  Speaker 1: a hookup?
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  Speaker 3: I mean no, but I didn't know if it was trying,
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  Speaker 3: if he was trying to be like keeping it chill,
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  Speaker 3: like he kissed me on the cheek. But I got
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  Speaker 3: a vibe, you know, like we were we still were
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  Speaker 3: talking at that and you know it was like he
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  Speaker 3: didn't want to leave. I got that feeling, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: That's good. Was there any let's do this again chat?
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  Speaker 3: At the end of the day, I think, so, I mean,
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  Speaker 3: like I remember it that way. I mean, I don't know,
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  Speaker 3: maybe I'm remembering something wrong. I guess like I could be,
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  Speaker 3: but like it felt like you know, I I tried
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  Speaker 3: to express it, but I don't want to come off
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  Speaker 3: to like best spread or too intense or something, so
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  Speaker 3: I just kind of left it a little open. But
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  Speaker 3: he seemed to be into it and like he wanted
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  Speaker 3: to see me again, if that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Okay, well, how long ago was this?
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  Speaker 6: It was?
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  Speaker 3: It was two weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, what's his name?
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  Speaker 6: Toby?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we're gonna call Toby. We're gonna find out why
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  Speaker 2: he's blowing you off. All right, So you just hang
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  Speaker 2: tight and you stay on the line with us. You
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  Speaker 2: jump in when you want to.
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  Speaker 1: Let us get on home. Get it on the hole first. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So second date update continues next with John Jay Rich.
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  Speaker 5: Sing I don't mean.
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  Speaker 2: John Day and Rich were in the middle of the
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  Speaker 2: second date update, Elena went on a date.
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  Speaker 1: We told me. I forgot how they met? Did she say?
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  Speaker 1: How they how'd you guys meet? How'd you guys meet?
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  Speaker 6: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: I mean it was just an.
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  Speaker 2: App you know happens a lot of those apps. Yeah, anyway,
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  Speaker 2: went on a date two weeks ago. He took you
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  Speaker 2: to an expensive seafood restaurant. Expensive. At the end of
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  Speaker 2: the date, he gave you like a little kiss, looked
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  Speaker 2: like he wanted to see you again, just on the
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  Speaker 2: cheek type of deal, right, Yeah, Yeah, and you really
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  Speaker 2: liked him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, he just felt like different. It just felt like
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  Speaker 3: a better date, like we had more of a connection.
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  Speaker 3: He seemed like a different type of guy, different than
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  Speaker 3: like a lot of the guys I've seen lately who
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  Speaker 3: ghosted me.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, a lot of other guys have ghosted you.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, like not a lot. I'm not going on
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  Speaker 3: like a.
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  Speaker 7: Lot, okay, but like how.
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  Speaker 5: Many though on app rich?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I try to push myself to go on
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  Speaker 3: at least one day to month because it's hard for
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  Speaker 3: me to get up the you know, I just I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to do it too much. But I also,
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  Speaker 3: like I want to get out.
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  Speaker 5: There, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Right, So Toby ghosted you, and you said other guys
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  Speaker 2: have ghosted you when we hang out with Toby, would
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  Speaker 2: you like this to call the other people to find
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  Speaker 2: out there's a common denominator They all ghosted you for
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  Speaker 2: the same reason.
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  Speaker 8: Did you tell Toby this fact, because like if you
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  Speaker 8: were open about that, like, oh, everyone keeps ghosting me,
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  Speaker 8: he made it, may you know, set out a different
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  Speaker 8: vibe of who you may be.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I guess. I asked him if that it
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  Speaker 3: happened to him at all he's and he said it
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  Speaker 3: did before. We didn't get too deep into it, like
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  Speaker 3: I mentioned it, but I didn't say like a lot
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  Speaker 3: of guys or I just said that I didn't like ghosting.
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  Speaker 3: I guess, yeah, I think that's fair because that it
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  Speaker 3: happened to me in the past like a.
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  Speaker 2: Delight kind of quirky and fun I keep every time
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  Speaker 2: I sleep with someone, I get ghosted.
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  Speaker 5: It's happened like fifteen times Toby.
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  Speaker 2: Toby's like, I'm ghosted all r We're gonna get him
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  Speaker 2: on the phone, okay, so hold.
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  Speaker 1: On, hold on, give up.
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  Speaker 5: Hello, Hi is Toby there?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, this is Toby.
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  Speaker 5: Hey, my name's Peyton. I'm with John Jaye Rich and
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  Speaker 5: we just wanted to talk to you on the radio
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  Speaker 5: really quickly if you got time this morning the radio.
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  Speaker 6: Uh sure, Hey, So here's the deal.
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  Speaker 2: We were talking to this really nice girl we're getting
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  Speaker 2: into relationships and daty and talking about being ghosted, you know,
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  Speaker 2: and this woman calls us up and says she's been
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  Speaker 2: ghosted a couple of times and the most recent is you, Toby.
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  Speaker 1: So we were like, tell us about the date. She
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  Speaker 1: told us about the date.
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  Speaker 2: They were like, you know, we're gonna call him and
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  Speaker 2: we want to hear from you, Toby, your words of
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  Speaker 2: why you ghosted Elena about two weeks ago.
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  Speaker 6: Ah, yes, I uh, I do remember.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 6: I feel bad because she's she's honestly, she's really sweet.
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  Speaker 6: But the truth is she she came off like lacking confidence.
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  Speaker 6: You know, people that are just overly apologetic for for
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  Speaker 6: everything that they do. Like the whole day, she kept
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  Speaker 6: putting herself down, saying things like, oh, I'm probably boring you,
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  Speaker 6: or oh you probably don't really like me, you know,
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  Speaker 6: and I get nervousness, Like I get that it's a
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  Speaker 6: first day, and she was nervous, but I mean she
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  Speaker 6: was even apologizing for everything that she ordered and and
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  Speaker 6: the way she was talking.
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  Speaker 1: You know, It's just.
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  Speaker 6: It was a lot for.
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  Speaker 1: Me that kind of makes sense to be around someone.
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  Speaker 1: Let's do that all the time, because.
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  Speaker 5: It's like a pity party all the time.
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  Speaker 8: And.
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  Speaker 7: She's probably nervous, you know, so that was probably a
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  Speaker 7: nervous Do you.
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  Speaker 5: Think that maybe like she was just shy though, Toby,
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  Speaker 5: like that could be a thing too.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, well, I mean, like that's what I'm saying. First,
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  Speaker 6: you know, I thought it was you know, nerves, like
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  Speaker 6: you know, like y'all said, being you know, she's feeling shy.
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  Speaker 6: I get that, Like I totally understand that, but like
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  Speaker 6: after a while, like you know, an hour into the date,
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  Speaker 6: then it was just feeling sad. Like I'm not trying
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  Speaker 6: to be mean, but I like a woman who's confident,
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  Speaker 6: you know, who knows her worth, and I just didn't
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  Speaker 6: get that from her at all. Like I mean, it
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  Speaker 6: was just, like y'all said, like a pity party, and
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  Speaker 6: it was sitting with somebody to me and like like
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  Speaker 6: I don't I'm not trying to judge her, but like
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  Speaker 6: just sitting with somebody that has like no self esteem
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  Speaker 6: or no internal self work.
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  Speaker 8: I feel like what's more sad about this is that
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  Speaker 8: the fact that you ghosted her probably made that insecurity
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  Speaker 8: even worse.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's so true, Kyle.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, And yeah, I I'll eat that. I accept that
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  Speaker 6: that that was not the best way to go about it.
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  Speaker 6: But I just honestly, I didn't really know how to
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  Speaker 6: how to say what I just said.
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  Speaker 2: Well, not only that, but she's actually also listening. She's
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  Speaker 2: like on the line, Elena is still there.
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  Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I'm here. Look sorry, I uh, I'm here.
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  Speaker 3: I just look, I don't think. I don't know. I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 8: I didn't don't apologize, Elena.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, be you girl.
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  Speaker 8: Listen, Toby, you were the one who was scared and
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  Speaker 8: so you ghosted.
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  Speaker 1: You should have called me back. That's you need to say, Lena.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. This isn't full enough. I mean, look,
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  Speaker 3: I will just say that, like Toby, I feel like
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  Speaker 3: we had a really good time. I mean, if I
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  Speaker 3: was on the same date you were like. No, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not confident, but I liked you. I thought you liked
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  Speaker 3: me too. And yeah, I'm guess. I guess I'm kind
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  Speaker 3: of by and like awkward, and I don't really like
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  Speaker 3: to I don't want to bother anybody, you know, Like,
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to overstend, like we were at an
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  Speaker 3: expensive place, you know what I mean. I don't want
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  Speaker 3: to take all your money on a first date, then
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  Speaker 3: you would definitely ghast me. You know, I just I
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  Speaker 3: thought you liked me too, you know, I I don't
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  Speaker 3: want you really can't give me a.
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  Speaker 6: Chance here, Like I mean, Elena, look, you're you're super
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  Speaker 6: sweet and I hear you, but like you and even now,
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  Speaker 6: it's just you're like even the host, Like honestly, if
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  Speaker 6: you had come at me like the host just said,
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  Speaker 6: or like you know, just hey, why do you you know, unapologetic,
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  Speaker 6: I would have probably even been more receptive to another date.
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  Speaker 6: But like, you know, you just I think you need
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  Speaker 6: to work on, you know, just your own self esteem
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  Speaker 6: and self worth and being confident and uh not apologizing.
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  Speaker 5: Like you had me until you're like you need to
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  Speaker 5: work on first of fall, Elena, Like you gotta love
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  Speaker 5: yourself before you can love anyone else. And I think
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  Speaker 5: your confidence probably stems from that. But you're great with
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  Speaker 5: how you are, and do not beg this man to
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  Speaker 5: give you another chance. Obviously he's not the one for you.
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  Speaker 5: Because a man who's gonna shower you and show he's
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  Speaker 5: gonna build up your confidence and not tell you what
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  Speaker 5: you need to change about yourself when you just met
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  Speaker 5: this guy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I feel like he's just kind of saying
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  Speaker 3: I'm pathetic or something and I'm not.
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  Speaker 8: Really.
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  Speaker 7: No, you sound you sound quirky, but that's cool. Just
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  Speaker 7: keep the quirkiness because the guy is gonna just love
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  Speaker 7: that because it's so different.
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  Speaker 5: It's just not a match. He's not the one for you.
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  Speaker 5: You seem great, Yeah, but don't let nobody tell you
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  Speaker 5: how to be you.
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  Speaker 8: But you can also see how it's been discouraging having
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  Speaker 8: people you know, like reject you over and over again.
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  Speaker 8: But he did say one thing, right, you should know
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  Speaker 8: you're worth and you're worth a lot more than that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, thanks, guys, I just do I need to change something?
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  Speaker 5: No, be you be to grue to you, and then
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  Speaker 5: everything else will fall into place exactly how it's supposed
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  Speaker 5: to do.
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  Speaker 1: Alrighty Lena, goodbye, Toby. Thanks for up in on the
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  Speaker 1: air with us.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, no problem, thanks, No, by all right, Elena.
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  Speaker 1: What's your advice, Peyton, move onward and upward?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, be positive, love yourself and you'll be good.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Elena?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I will try not to apologize as much and
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  Speaker 3: just I don't know own who I am.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, next day that works, but I.
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  Speaker 3: Am worthwhile and I totally understand that, and yes, this
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  Speaker 3: one is just not a match.
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  Speaker 7: You're right the next day. Try not to say sorry
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  Speaker 7: even one time on the whole date.
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  Speaker 1: Even if you spill stuff on him. Don't even sorry
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  Speaker 1: to go look what you did? All right, thanks Elena?
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  Speaker 1: All right that second update. J Rich