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Sex Unlocked: Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Let's talk about sex baby, Hello sexies. O MG, I
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  Speaker 1: cannot believe we are here. I have been sitting on
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  Speaker 1: this idea because we all know that I love to
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  Speaker 1: talk about sex and some people get a little nervous
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  Speaker 1: about it, and I'm still perplexed on why. And it's
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  Speaker 1: usually women who get a little uncomfortable with other women
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  Speaker 1: talking about sex. So when I thought about this idea,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, who else is comfortable talking about sex?
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  Speaker 1: Who I find so fun, so sexy, so interesting. That
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  Speaker 1: could be my fucking co host who's also endearing as
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  Speaker 1: it gets. So I have my co host, Sally Carson.
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  Speaker 2: Hello sex.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm so excited to be here.
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  Speaker 2: Are you nervous at all?
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  Speaker 3: I'm a little nervous. I mean I've never really done
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  Speaker 3: anything like this before.
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  Speaker 2: But you've been on podcasts.
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  Speaker 3: I've been on podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Well, we're going to get to know each other
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  Speaker 2: quite well, like we know each other, but we're about
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  Speaker 2: to know each other. I know.
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  Speaker 3: When when I first heard it was you as like
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  Speaker 3: immediately yes, I think I like she my publicist like
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  Speaker 3: called me and I was in Mexico and she said, like,
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  Speaker 3: would you want to do a podcast with Lala? And
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  Speaker 3: I was.
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  Speaker 1: Like, are you like Lala Anthony?
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  Speaker 3: I was like yeah, he was literally like me, Like
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  Speaker 3: I was shocked, and I mean it was just.
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  Speaker 2: It's just so meant to be. I've watched you on TV.
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  Speaker 1: We've obviously connected met, but like there's just something about
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  Speaker 1: you where when you're on camera, you're so authentically yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You're so cute, You're hottest buck, you have no problem
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  Speaker 1: talking about sex.
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  Speaker 2: Does your mama watch the show Girl? Yes?
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  Speaker 3: My mom is My mom is getting tagged. Thank god,
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  Speaker 3: I have the best family in the whole wide world,
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  Speaker 3: because like my mom gets tagged online right now saying
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  Speaker 3: like she's your daughter likes to eat ass? Oh yeah?
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  Speaker 3: And she I mean she's like.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't love it, but.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, I mean, that's my daughter. She can't stop
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  Speaker 3: her from talking.
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  Speaker 2: About her mouth.
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  Speaker 1: Do you like to eat ass or does it have
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  Speaker 1: to be like a really comfortable situation.
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  Speaker 2: Or depending on the alcohol.
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  Speaker 3: Depending on the entire situation. I think, Okay, yeah, but no,
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  Speaker 3: I don't. I don't like prefer like, I don't like
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  Speaker 3: eating ass. I just like if it makes my man happy,
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  Speaker 3: I'm all about I'm a pleaser. Oh yeah, So like wow,
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  Speaker 3: my man is like, I am really into this. I'm like, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'll try it.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, you're a bag of fun.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I haven't done anything that crazy.
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  Speaker 1: But before we deep dive into all the all the
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  Speaker 1: sexy talk, because I also have like a rapid fire
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  Speaker 1: game that I want to play you before you were
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  Speaker 1: on Southern Charm.
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  Speaker 3: You're like born and raised there right Greenville to like
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  Speaker 3: three hours outside.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, and I mean you how did you get
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  Speaker 2: on the back? Was it bachelor? Bachelor?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Bachelor?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. So I was engaged and he I was twenty.
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  Speaker 2: Four, oh shit, a baby.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and he was one of my surgeons, like at
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  Speaker 3: the hospital I worked at in Virginia, and he you know,
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  Speaker 3: fell in love quickly, got engaged. And then a girl
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  Speaker 3: DMed me twenty nine days before my wedding and she
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  Speaker 3: was like, hey, girl, I've been hanging out with your Beyonce.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh perfect.
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  Speaker 2: Did you believe her?
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  Speaker 3: Not at first, but then she told me that he
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  Speaker 3: was wearing jeans and flip flops and I was like, Yep,
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  Speaker 3: that's that's a man.
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  Speaker 2: Doesn't everybody where you live where jeans and flip flops?
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  Speaker 3: Not jeans not pants and flip flops. I cannot get
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  Speaker 3: down with that.
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  Speaker 1: But shorts and flip flops, yeah, that's so. If they're
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  Speaker 1: in shorts and flip flops, you'll eat ass.
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  Speaker 2: But if it's jeans and flip flops, we'reing for me.
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  Speaker 3: I know, go, I don't know. I mean, I was
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  Speaker 3: engaged to the guy, but yeah, I mean canceled the wedding.
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  Speaker 3: And then the Bachelor called me a week later and
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  Speaker 3: they were like, we want you. We heard your story
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, how they couldn't tell me.
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  Speaker 2: Someone submitted you. Yeah, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: So I fly out there and then I was like,
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  Speaker 3: what the hell am I doing? I was on my
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  Speaker 3: bachelorette party a month before this, Oh my god, and
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  Speaker 3: I was it was the weekend we were supposed to
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  Speaker 3: get married, like when we started filming The Bachelor. So
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I want to leave, and the producers
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  Speaker 3: are like, you can't leave. You have to break up
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  Speaker 3: with your boyfriend first, and I'm like, I don't even
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  Speaker 3: know who the bachelor is. He's my boyfriend now, so
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  Speaker 3: they make me go and here like and there's twenty
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  Speaker 3: six other people that are dating him before we're meeting
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  Speaker 3: him exactly, and I was like, this is weird, but
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  Speaker 3: okay if it gets me out of here. And then
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  Speaker 3: he offered me a rose and I was like, no,
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  Speaker 3: I want to go home. And then I got back
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  Speaker 3: together with my ex, the one that cheated, Yes, and
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  Speaker 3: he cheated on me again. So then I went on
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  Speaker 3: Bachelor in Paradise. Oh, and then I left because I
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  Speaker 3: got bullied. So what does they bully you about him?
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  Speaker 2: About him?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? And I didn't want his name brought up just
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  Speaker 3: because of his career and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, I mean like so nice.
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  Speaker 3: Well you google his name and it used to be
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  Speaker 3: all these medical papers and now it's like, who is
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  Speaker 3: Sally's ex?
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  Speaker 2: Isn't that such a wonderful thing?
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  Speaker 1: It is now my fiance is also known as Lala
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  Speaker 1: Ken's ex fiance. Good, it's a wonderful and like all
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  Speaker 1: that hard work and that's all your known exactly.
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  Speaker 3: It's great.
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  Speaker 2: It is great.
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  Speaker 3: Right, we got our payback?
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  Speaker 2: Did you? What was the age difference?
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  Speaker 3: He was forty two?
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  Speaker 2: Wow?
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  Speaker 3: Yes? Okay he was older? And how he was like hot?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? How was the sex with him terrible? Really?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 2: What are we doing?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, but that was I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: was young, and like I didn't really I hadn't really
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  Speaker 3: experienced much that happened. Yeah, So like I was just
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  Speaker 3: I didn't really know what was out there. I mean
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  Speaker 3: now I'm like, oh my god, it would not have ground.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because that's what age does and experiences, and
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  Speaker 1: you realize, like what you're missing out on?
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  Speaker 2: Do you sober sex?
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  Speaker 1: For me, Like, I hadn't had sober sex ever until
• 6:14
  Speaker 1: I broke up with my fiance really yeah, this was
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  Speaker 1: five years ago, Okay, but I got sober in the relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Like I met him and I was deep in my
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  Speaker 1: like we were gearing up to become like an alcoholic
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  Speaker 1: and member of AA. But then when I was out
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  Speaker 1: of the relationship, I was so nervous to go out
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  Speaker 1: and date.
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  Speaker 2: And I've spoken about this before.
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  Speaker 1: And I met this guy and it was actually filmed
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  Speaker 1: on vander Pump Rules. But I met this guy, and
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  Speaker 1: I mean, we're in freaking Lake Havasu.
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  Speaker 2: It's like no one who is my type.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it was like these men were just like
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  Speaker 1: dropped into the bar for me.
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  Speaker 2: God heard my prayer.
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  Speaker 1: And I thought it was gonna be like a one
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  Speaker 1: night stand. Could not sleep in the bed that night
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  Speaker 1: because apparently when I'm sober and having sex, I turned
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  Speaker 1: into a squorter. So that was fun to realize.
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  Speaker 3: You didn't know.
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  Speaker 2: No, I had no idea. I just thought some women
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  Speaker 2: were squorters and some I don't.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like I thought that too. Are you talking about
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  Speaker 3: this yesterday? I have one time in my life, Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: one time.
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  Speaker 2: It's only been with this guy that it's happened to me.
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  Speaker 3: He maybe does he like it because some guys know
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  Speaker 3: how to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, he know how to do it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because like there was just one guy in Nashville
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  Speaker 3: that I have history with and he like I stole
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  Speaker 3: my stomach and like happened, and I was so freaked out.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I don't even know what just happened.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's fucking amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But I was at a dinner with a group of
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  Speaker 1: girlfriends the other night and we were talking about scorting,
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  Speaker 1: and I was convinced, along with my other friend Natalie,
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  Speaker 1: that it is not pea And then the other guy
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  Speaker 1: we were with was like, definitely, absolutely, and Natalie and
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  Speaker 1: I were like, no, it doesn't come out of the
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  Speaker 1: pea hole, comes out of where the penis goes the vagina. No,
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  Speaker 1: so we googled it and it was like I was
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  Speaker 1: shocked and disgusted and repulsed by myself. Okay, So, scientific
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  Speaker 1: and medical research shows that scorting is primarily the involuntary
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  Speaker 1: expulsion of diluted urine from the bladder, often mixed with
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  Speaker 1: secretions from the scheme's glands.
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  Speaker 2: The female prostates, Okay, while it contains chemical.
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  Speaker 3: Markers of p where does it come out?
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  Speaker 1: I thought it came out of the vagina hole that
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  Speaker 1: the penis enters, but it comes out of the peele.
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  Speaker 2: I'm disgusted. And now you're saying that he pushed on
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  Speaker 2: your stomach. It's like, oh, yeah, that's pee.
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  Speaker 3: I think I was googling it after it happened to me,
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  Speaker 3: and it's like it's totally normal, and like you're fine,
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  Speaker 3: don't be embarrassed about it. It's very natural that I
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  Speaker 3: was like mortified.
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  Speaker 2: What did he do while he was fingering?
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  Speaker 3: No, we were having sex.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, oh, okay, I was fully like spraying his
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  Speaker 1: face when it happened.
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  Speaker 2: Like he seemed fine with it. He seemed fine with
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure he was. I would not be fine with it,
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  Speaker 2: especially now knowing what it is.
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  Speaker 3: Can you imagine does a man standing up in the
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  Speaker 3: bed and just peeing all over you? So I feel
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  Speaker 3: like that's.
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  Speaker 2: That's called the golden shower. Yeah, I'm not into that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not into that at all. No, I was in
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  Speaker 2: high school.
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  Speaker 1: I was totally fine with it, really yeah, and I
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  Speaker 1: would like put ice up there and have sex. It
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  Speaker 1: was like weird, like the things that I was like
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  Speaker 1: down for back in the day, like high school, a
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  Speaker 1: little inappropriate and weird. Yeah, why do you think that
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  Speaker 1: it's such a taboo thing, like when a woman talks
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  Speaker 1: about sex still to this day, Like men are fine
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  Speaker 1: with us talking about sex, but I find that other
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  Speaker 1: women they get extremely judgmental anytime I've spoken about sex,
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  Speaker 1: even you with the comment section we like your daughter
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  Speaker 1: like to eat ass, It's like and okay, yeah, Like
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  Speaker 1: I don't understand why.
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  Speaker 3: Those are the people that are probably not getting any
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  Speaker 3: They're unhappy.
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  Speaker 2: Right, you know, like like just missionary style and.
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  Speaker 3: It's yeah, and it's boring and not fun, or they're
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  Speaker 3: just like really conservative like with that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 3: I just never have been like I've always lived my
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  Speaker 3: life out loud, and I've never been embarrassed about like
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  Speaker 3: things that I'm into.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's great. I do too, And when people
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  Speaker 1: say things to me like your daughter is going to
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  Speaker 1: like hear you talk about these things. One damn like
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  Speaker 1: she probably will. I didn't appropriate age, but yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: I would rather her come to me and talk to
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  Speaker 1: me about all the experiences I've had so she can
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  Speaker 1: go out into the world and like live her best life.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, is that horrible? No, Because I feel like I
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  Speaker 3: was having not as great of sex I am now
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  Speaker 3: because I wasn't talking about it right like back when
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  Speaker 3: I was like younger, and now like I feel comfortable
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  Speaker 3: communicating like what I want, what I like, what I
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  Speaker 3: don't like, and then I've had way better sex life
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  Speaker 3: from it that part.
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  Speaker 1: I think Also when you're in like a partnership, I
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  Speaker 1: think that there's also that element of like I can't
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  Speaker 1: tell them that, like I don't like what they're doing
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  Speaker 1: because I don't want to hurt their feelings.
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  Speaker 2: You have to be compatible when.
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  Speaker 1: It comes to the intimacy, yes, because yes, I feel
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  Speaker 1: like when you get into a partnership, my biggest thing
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  Speaker 1: is you have to have the foundation of like friendship,
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  Speaker 1: right because that's gonna be what sustains you throughout. But
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  Speaker 1: I mean, like, if you don't amber who I do
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  Speaker 1: an unlikely affair with.
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  Speaker 2: She said it perfectly.
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  Speaker 1: When a man fingers me and it's soft, it's like
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  Speaker 1: I need you to finger me like you're angry with me.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean that's crazy. I don't like a.
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  Speaker 1: Jack camera, so you would have to tell your guy
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  Speaker 1: don't finger me like you're angry.
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  Speaker 3: Like some people do that and I'm like, the fuck
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  Speaker 3: are you trying to find in there?
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  Speaker 2: It's nothing in there, Like I don't like it's crazy
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  Speaker 2: trying to find it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Like I don't like that, like the aggressive like
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  Speaker 3: because like that doesn't please me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So I guess everyone's different and she liked different.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like finger me like I've upset you. Wow,
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: See I don't like that.
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  Speaker 2: Do you like being like spanked and all that shu?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, every time.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna stay choked, weren't you You're gonna stay choked?
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  Speaker 2: Love it.
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  Speaker 3: But it depends. Like the guy I was just telling
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  Speaker 3: you about really good sex, yeah, didn't do any of that.
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  Speaker 2: It was more soft.
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  Speaker 3: It was more soft, So I like, I think it
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  Speaker 3: just depends on the situation because I can go either
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  Speaker 3: way like you can.
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  Speaker 1: Do you find the do you have sober sex? Yes
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  Speaker 1: in the mornings, Okay, do you find that when you're
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  Speaker 1: sober you want more like lovey dovey?
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  Speaker 3: Probably?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? More?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think I just like go after like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, the vibe, Like some guys you know, are
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  Speaker 3: like softer mint, you know. And then there's other guys
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  Speaker 3: that are just like I look at them and I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: I want to be choked.
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  Speaker 2: You want to turn into fucking Jane and Tarzan. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I get that.
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  Speaker 3: And they have to have that look. I mean, hmmm,
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I do know exactly what you're fucking right there.
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  Speaker 3: Some guys that I'm like, wow, you know, you're just
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  Speaker 3: such a like soft emotional like sweet man. And then
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  Speaker 3: another guy I look at and I'm like, take me down,
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  Speaker 3: take me down, take me now. Can I tell you
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  Speaker 3: the other thing though, when it comes to take me down?
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  Speaker 1: For sure, But when I like, if I'm with a
• 13:48
  Speaker 1: dude and we're doing our thing, like before we go
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  Speaker 1: do something right, like I've got my clippings ready to
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  Speaker 1: go and I have my mouth down there. If you
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  Speaker 1: fucking touch my head, I'm giving you.
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  Speaker 2: Teeth yeah, Oh, so you hate it if I don't
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  Speaker 2: have my weave in.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're good.
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  Speaker 2: Bob me up and down like bobbing for an apple.
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: When my extensions are in.
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  Speaker 3: Don't touch me.
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  Speaker 2: Don't touch my fucking head.
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  Speaker 3: Did you tell them that?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? Okay. I literally will come up and be like,
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  Speaker 2: you touch my head again with my weave in, you're
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: getting teeth. Yeah, don't do that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Then when the weave comes.
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  Speaker 3: Out, you're like, yeah, go time, Yeah, throw me around.
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  Speaker 3: I can't get mine out though, I have to deal
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  Speaker 3: with it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, yours are like attached to the head.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. So then sometimes you know when they start because
• 14:40
  Speaker 3: sometimes I like a good hair pool ouch, And when
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  Speaker 3: they do that, my extensions sometimes come out and I'm like,
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: you can't do that. It's rbing my hair out.
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  Speaker 2: See, so you too have to sometimes say you don't
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  Speaker 2: do that.
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  Speaker 3: I never, But then I'm like, so good, lose the weave.
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  Speaker 2: See we can't get all out it. Tomorrow she comes
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: out with like the most like scraggly extensions you've ever
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  Speaker 2: seen in your life. They're like you look a little different,
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: a little different this morning.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, go to sleep at end and wake up before.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: You're I can tell you're fun. How about chicks? You
• 15:15
  Speaker 2: ever hooked up with the chick?
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  Speaker 3: So we actually talked about it like this season. But
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: I went to Canada, okay, and I hooked up with
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  Speaker 3: my first girl.
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  Speaker 2: Just a ransom ago two months ago.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, first time?
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  Speaker 1: I yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean we were just like making out in the
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  Speaker 3: hot tub.
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  Speaker 2: She was hot, Okay.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, okay, this is great, and then I
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  Speaker 3: could not get myself to go down.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Did she go down? Wow?
• 15:44
  Speaker 3: So but like you know, we were making out with
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: the guy too, Like a guy was like.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: So it was like a threesome type of situation kind.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: Of not like f one, right, but he just watched.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah kind of that's all they're good for sometimes.
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: But it was great.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: I mean I was could you do it sober?
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah? I think so. But I think that that's when
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: I knew, like, okay, I'm very straight.
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, but some people do try to put women in
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: boxes like that, well not just women, I think men
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: and women. If you are able to hook up with
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: the same sex, they automatically certain people want to label
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: you as by And I've hooked up with many women,
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: but I don't believe myself to be bisexual because I
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: couldn't be in a relationship with a woman exactly.
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I see that.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, some people feel more comfortable like putting a label
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: on it, like you're bisexual, you can hook up with chicks.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: For me, I'm like, I'm a straight person. I have
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: hooked up with chicks.
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: I would hook up with chicks, but because it wouldn't
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: go past the hookup.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: Like, I don't think I'm bisexual? Is that what it's called? Vicurious?
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: But you're some curious about like no woman like you
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: know that?
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: You no? Like y curious seems like something where you
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: go out and you hook up with chick and it's.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: Like you're trying to to figure out your sexuality.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah I'm not trying to figure it out. You already know.
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: Yes, I don't know what it's called because I'm the
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: same like I would, I would do it again, but
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: I would never be in a relationship one.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: So being the definition being bi curious refers to a
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: person who is open to exploring or experiment experimenting with
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: sexual romantic attractions to genders other than ones they are
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: typically drawn to. Okay, so maybe I am, yeah, exploring
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: and experimenting, though I've explored, I've experimented. That's like the
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: first one. But if it happens multiple times, like I
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: know that I want to end up with a man,
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I'm not.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: I'm not curious. I'm not.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: I'm thirty six years old. Yeah, Like the experimental phase for.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: Me is over.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Is over, Like you've done it well, unless it comes
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: to anal.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: I've never done anal before.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Girl.
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: Wait, let's talk about it. I want to do the
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: rapid fire. Your favorite position to.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Orgasm probably me on top because I'm in control.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: M I would say, me on top or from behind?
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: I see, I can't come from behind. Mind.
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: There's just something about the position, Like I think, what
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: happens when I'm on top, it's because you're getting all
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: the right places right, Like I need to share the
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: pressures there from behind. For me, when I get off
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: that way.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: It's like the mental of like my ass in the air,
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean?
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: Ever encountered a micro penis?
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: Actually no, not like a clinical like not like not
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: a diagnose, not like a diagnose, Like I see micro
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: penises because I work in the hospital. Oh no, yeah,
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: Like I see all the things, but I mean I
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: see everything.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: You see everything.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: You see everything, but I've never encountered never encountered one. No,
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: but there is someone that is in my friend group
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: that is rumored death one. I'm not gonna blast them, but.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: They're telling me off of the podcast. I have to
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: I must know.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll tell you.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, Ever queafed then wanted to vanish?
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: No?
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Have you queathed during sex before?
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Have you wanted to vanish after air in there?
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: I'm like no, Like that's like y'all's fault.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: There are certain things that if a man freaks out
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: about it, I'm like, you're a.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: Little fucking bitch boy.
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: That gives me the ick.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: It gives me such an ick.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: Like and if a man is like intimidated by my vibrator,
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: like literally grow up.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I have that question. How do you
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: feel about the vibrators? I love vibrator bringing it into
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: the bedroom with a man.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: I don't necessarily need to, yeah, like because I feel
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: like I have good sex, Like I know what I want,
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: like whatever. But sometimes it's just fun.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: I think it's fun to have toys. Yeah, because when
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: you're sleeping with the same person over and over again,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: like you have to do something to spice it up.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Sometimes I think that's when it comes into play. Yeah,
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: but like a man like my ex was really intimate,
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: Like if I wouldn't use my vibrator when he's like
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: out of town, he like did not like it? What? Yeah,
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: like he did not like it. That is so crazy
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: to me, jealous, like thinking that the vibe the vibrator
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: was giving me better organizasms than him, which it was.
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: I was doing it to myself, So he was right.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: He pinpointed it perfectly, he did.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: But what if a guy that you're with, you're out
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: of town and he jacks off?
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: I don't do you care? I know, I don't care either.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: I don't.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like, do what you gotta do, buddy.
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: So that's a weird subject for me because one of
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: my exes was order line like porn.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I'm sessed.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Yes, when you are like having a moment with yourself,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: self care, self love, do you need to watch porn?
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: I don't need to, but I do, and weirdly tell
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: me I love lesbian porn.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: We're so on the same wavelength and that's actually very
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: very common.
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: Really, Yes, I just think a man is just like gross.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: I do too.
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: I usually so your your search bar is like lesbian, yes,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: very much, Like, yeah, that's kind of that's me too.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: I love it.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: There is this girl and I think her name is
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: Sammy s on porn Hub, and she's like got the
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: most banging body, and I always put her into my
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: search bar really yeah, And I think she makes it
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: with her boyfriend because it's always the same tattooed arm,
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, whatever is happening with this couple is
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: just working?
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: No, it's s a m y.
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: I feel like, yeah, I mean mine's always like some
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: girl given a massage.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, we watched the same porn. We watched
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: the exact same porn. Yeah, that's her. Wait wait, wait, wait,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: she's the one. I'm obsessed with her. You have to.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: And she's got like this giant she's got a little
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: alien tattoo in between her boobs, yes, and then from
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: behind she's got this giant lion tattoo.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: Okay, yes, she's smoking, she's so hot. But you and
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: I are definitely looking up the same shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: that's her.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Go oh my god, you can google anything dirtiest thing
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: you've ever said during sex. That's a hard one for
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: me because I don't I I like dirtiest.
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Ye, I don't know what a dirtiest one would be.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: I mean, like.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: I got I mean, I wouldn't call this dirty though,
• 22:40
  Speaker 3: saying like, you know, telling them on their little slut.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah that's not Yeah, that's dirty, right, I don't think
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: that's that's pretty much as dark and deep as I'm
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: going to. But dirty talk for me, like the man can.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: Quickly give me the ache depending on what he says,
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah, I get it quick. Yeah, Like
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: I can talk about me being your little dirty sledge
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: the moment he says, are you my dirty little SLEDG,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I'm like, get the fuck.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: I've had that, And I don't like that.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: I don't either let me steer the ship. Yeah yeah, no,
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: please don't say that to me.
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: No.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: And also I hate it when like the dude this
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: position for a man during like a four play moment,
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: this position when he's laying like this and does this
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: and touches himself.
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, get away.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Get away from me, like you're never touching me with it.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: So enjoy that. So disgusting sex tapes in or out?
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: And I'm into what about naked pictures I recently just
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: started sending.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: I like naked.
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: I sometimes even just take them for myself, Like if
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: I I do the same thing, if I think I
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: look good in the mirror, I'm like, might need this
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: one day?
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: Have you seen that?
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I think?
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: Is it a meme? Who am I? But this girl no,
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: it's like an Instagram rail and this girl's being blackmail
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: with naked photos.
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: And he sends her the photos and she's like, oh,
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: this is me pre kids. She's like, please don't send it,
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: and she like takes a sip of her wine. She's like,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: please fucking release them.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: Literally, I have.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: It's so funny because I have. I'm gonna show you this.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: Like they could get out. I'm like, you're welcome. Then
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: I wish my motherfucker would.
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: Literally, That's how I mean. This TikTok that I'm about
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: to show you is exactly how I feel about it.
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: I'm like, don't threaten me with that.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: Don't threaten me with never.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to send you a nude. They don't
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: think I look hot in I'm on.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: The same wavelength.
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: Release it, release it, release it.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: And don't blur my face. You don't need to let
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: them know.
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: Here it is is that when you're starting to leak
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: your nudes and they're like you can tell everybody.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: That's so good, that's so good. Well, your body's banging.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: Your body is slamming.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Biggest turn on, I would say, like initially confidence, just
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: like coming in and just taking care of you, you know,
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: just like knowing exactly what you're doing. Yeah, for the man.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: And then if you call me baby, I'm fucking done.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: Really, oh my god.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I have to be into it. There have
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: been men who call me pet names and I'm like, please,
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: don't fucking do that. Wow.
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: Is there any pet names you like?
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: It depends on the guy.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah, there's like there's a
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: man that calls me mommy.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: With an eye. Yeah, you love it.
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: I love it.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: I'll get how many people are on your roster right.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: Now, like sexy roster?
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like sleeping with like I'm not speaking with anyone
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: right now really yeah, which is new for me. Okay,
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: But I mean, like I have guys that I'm talking
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: to that you haven't slept with.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: Lives in Denver, one lives in La. Yeah, well no,
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: I've slept with one in La.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: I love this.
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: But Charleston is just gross.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: And I feel like everyone knows everybody, like if you've
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: slept with them, they've slept with like twelve other people
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: that you know.
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: So I'm moving very like cautiously in Charleston. But I'll recycle.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, I recycle too. Comfortability is everything exactly?
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: So if like, if I'm like really needing something, like
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: I have some guys I can text.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: And then the long distance though, do you feel like
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: it's gonna go anywhere with the guys you're just talking to?
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: No?
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: I mean I wish, but like I'm not moving away
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: from Charleston, like I'm not, and.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: I don't think they're gonna move to you will they know?
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: Like what is there to do in Charleston?
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: I mean I love Charleston. I mean there's I'm on
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: a boat usually.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but your life is there, Like if the guy
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: in La like what could he possibly do in Charleston?
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Is he in the entertainment world? Yeah?
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: See you could be on Southern charm or not into it?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: All right?
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: You said spanking is a big one. You love being spanked? Yes,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: depends on the mood for me? Is anal on the
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: table for a one night stand. Okay, you like ANAL
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: but one night stand?
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not like I don't like love it. One
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: night stand. Okay, this is crazy, but I have had
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: ANAL on a one night on my only one night stand.
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: What You've only had one one night stand ever? And
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: you let him?
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: I don't know what. Wow, I don't know why. I
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: don't know why. Okay, but it just kind of happened
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: and it was great.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: Like I think that's not the only time you've ever
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: done ANAL though, No, no, god no, I've never done
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: it ever.
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: You need to try it, really, yes, because it's like
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: a different orgasm. Really, it feels just more intense.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: Okay, how do I prepare for that? Though?
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: My eggs that I did it for five years, loved it,
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: so like that's how I got comfortable.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Doing it, doesn't it? Don't you have to like kind
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: of prepare for that though.
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: I mean I've actually one of my friends gave me
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: an in am at once because I was like, I
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: know he's gonna want to.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: Okay, so you recommend myself out?
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah? And then I mean not every time, but definitely
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: fingers first, Yeah, because I'm a tight little lady right there,
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: like like anything you know.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you would have first time.
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: I also I feel like I would have to be
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: very very comfortable with the person.
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: Absolutely. Yeah. I don't do it with anyone now, Like
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: I would never do it with like a one night
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: stand or anyone that I'm not comfortable with.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: You had to have been blitzed.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: I was on the one night stand absolutely, because it
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: wasn't even like phasing me, like I was like, whatever,
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: let's go, let's do it.
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: What were you blitzed on? Tequila? No vodka? That'll do
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: it to you. Yeah, that'll do it too.
• 29:04
  Speaker 1: You. Now I think I could have maybe I used
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: to have one night stands. I don't know that I
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: could do it now I couldn't.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: I mean like I couldn't. I can't believe I did then,
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: Like I I have to be like I have to
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: like know you or at least know about you. You
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: can't just like come over yeah and go to a
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: bar and run into a guy and like just go home.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Do you have a condom drawer?
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: No?
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: I feel like I used to have one.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: Now I don't need one because everything has to be
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: so thought out. It's like, well, I have my kids,
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: and it's but you know, so like to have a
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: condom drawer. It's like I don't really need because it's
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: never on a whim anymore.
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: Can you hate a condom? I'm not gonna lie.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: We all do, babe, but we have to be safe.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: I know there's a lot of stuff out there. Every
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: time I use a condom, I hate. It does something
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: to me. You have to wear condoms, I know, or
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: he does.
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: When people are like, no, it's.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Kew about method, I'm like, no, no, no, I'm not
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: worried about the baby aspect.
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: I'm worried about the other shit.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: No, I am too, especially in Darlsan.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: Really.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's like maybe you should have the condom drawing.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: I should probably have a condom draw And you know what,
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: I'm not taking home enough, Like it's not justified for
• 30:21
  Speaker 3: me to do that right now because like I'm really
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: not sleeping with a lot of people.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just wild.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like men should just be if they're
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: like sexually active, they should just be carrying condoms around.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: I agree. I agree with that.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: And you have to be very careful about who your
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: baby daddy is. That is like a whole different yeah,
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I can't even think about that, like what you did,
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: and it looks like you were scared.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: She's like, she's like, I'm good.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: I'm thinking all the guys that I like are in
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: my past. I'm like, oh my god, if that would
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: have happened, I would have that would have been horrible.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: What about music on or off? In what song?
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: Either? No specific song.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I lost my virginity to Lollipop by Lil Wayne, You're
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: kidding and a red condom and he like pulled it
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: off after and he was like, that's all you and
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: I thought I was just like bleeding to death and
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: started crying. Yeah, it was intense. Were you seventeen? How
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: old were you sixteen?
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Fine with your boyfriend? Or was it just boyfriend?
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Same?
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: How long did it last? That not the same, but yeah, okay,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: so similar to mine. I met him like seventeen and
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: we broke up when I was twenty.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that was like got into like a five year relationship.
• 31:51
  Speaker 3: That's the one that got away.
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: Oh is he married?
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: No?
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: Actually, so sad he has a girlfriend. All my friends
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: are like, you need to go and text him, and
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm not touching that. Like this guy's happy,
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: it's finally happy. I would wreck his world right now
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: with the state of mind that I'm in.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: You feel like you have a lot of toxic traits
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: right now.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I do. I need to like heal this before
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: I can like really commit to someone.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: I think, you know, I was actually talking to a
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: friend about this today because I have many toxic traits
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: and I have a lot of trauma. And I was
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: talking to a therapist on my podcast with Amber and
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: I was like, I feel like I've done all of
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: this work over the past, you know, four and a
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: half five years, and what I'm worried about, or I'm
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: asking you should I be worried about If I've met
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: someone and I notice things start coming up for me,
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: does that mean I haven't done enough work? And she said,
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: you can only do so much work on yourself before
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: someone else needs to come into the picture and start.
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: Healing those wounds that you have.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's always been my biggest fear that I
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: will meet someone who's just completely wonderful and I will
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: fuck it up with my toxic traits and my trauma.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: So I totally get your comment.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: That's how I am.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like it could be the most perfect guy.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll try. I'll find a way to like something.
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: To Savatah, what is that? I don't know. I mean,
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: this man called me the day before I got engaged
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: because my best friend told him that.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: The one that got away.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: Yes, you're talking. Yeah, my best friend told him like, hey,
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: he's planning on proposing just so you know, want he
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: want you to be shocked online or whatever. He facetied
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: me and I answered, and he was like, if it's
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: a ring you're looking for, I'll buy you one tomorrow. Like,
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: do not marry this man? And I was like, I'm
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: in du deep. It's the last time I ever talked
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: about Oh that is heartbreaking. That's like a movie. So sad.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: And now he is happy and I.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: See his brothers every once in a while, but yeah,
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: he's happy. He seems happy at least. Yeah, I know,
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: you can't fuck it up. That's so sad. I'm so sorry. Okay,
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: I think about them all the time.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: Oh that is the worst.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: But we're not I mean, we probably wouldn't work anyways,
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: if like we got back together.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: I know, because you have a you have like this
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: vision in your mind of what it would be like,
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: but then you actually get into it and you're like,
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: the reality sinks in and it's completely different than what
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: you think.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: It's going to be. Also, he's just like he would
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: hate all the drama that surrounds me in my life.
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: It's going to take a very special person to come
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: into your world and be able to separate reality from reality. Absolutely,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I know, trust me, Like we're kind of it's hard.
• 34:34
  Speaker 3: Hard, is like crazy just because I'm on reality TV. Yeah,
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: so I feel like it honestly, Like people are like,
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: this is going to widen your pool of people, and
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: I'm like, no, this has made it harder for me
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: to date.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: It does because most people don't want their business out
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: there like that.
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, now I'm will.
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: Saying people who you want to date don't want them.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: No. And every time I go on watch Robins Live
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: or I run into like and Yet Bravo CON's like,
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: would you ever date someone in the Bravo universe?
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, no, would you not? No?
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah you would because you're like you you have like
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: really hot and tall men on your show where you
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: can like I haven't ever.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: I haven't been on a show where the people that
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: are there are what I could be into. You know,
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: I feel like they're also like relationship.
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: But that's then, Yeah, that ship has sailed for me
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: with the Southern Drona boys.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: Though. Have you ever started your period during sex?
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: And did the guy get aicked?
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: No?
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: Or if the if the guy got picked by period,
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: I would be itcked.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I was really young the only time that that had
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: happened to me. Because most of the men who I
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: have been with, if I'm on my period, they're like, okay, well,
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: let's just get in the shower, like do it on
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: fucking rubber, like.
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck.
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: Some guys are like I'll still go down yeah, which,
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: by the way, all right, okay.
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: But this guy, he was a football player. He took
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: me out to Seattle and we sleep together. He busts
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: in probably thirty six seconds. Okay, so we're done whatever,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: and he's like, I can't go out like that. We
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: have to go one more time, like I have to
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: show you. And I was like, all right, like such
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: a weird thing to say, too, Like where you trying?
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: If this is about me and you want to get
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: me off, then by all means, let's go because that
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: would be not more about him, but it was more
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: like he wanted to like prove to me, well the
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: second go around, the tiniest bit, the tiniest bit, and
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: I was coming off of my period. Yeah, yeah, and
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: he lost his fucking mind to the next day he
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: goes to practice.
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: I like washed the sheets.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: It like was not a big deal, but he made
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: it such a big deal that like I started getting
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: a migraine because I was so in my head about it.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: He comes back home, we like have a day together,
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: get in the bed. Keep in mind, this man has
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: a wound on his arm that he has wrapped up.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: We're laying in the bed and there's like a dot
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: of blood and he goes, you couldn't get that out,
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: And I was like, look at your fucking arm right now,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: that most likely is coming from you.
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: I'm just laying here, like, what the fuck do you mean?
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: I was so rosed out by it. Yes, at that
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: point then I got pissed. Yeah, Like it started with
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: a shame and I was like in my early twenties.
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: And what he say?
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: He just like sat there, he just sat there. I
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: was like, I cannot wait to get away from you.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: Tomorrow and then when I've landed back in Utah, he
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: had texted me and was like, I'd really like to
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: bring you out again. I'm like, honestly, like I'm so
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: scarred by the interaction that we had after that happened
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: that like, I don't ever need to see you again.
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: Also, can we talk about the fact so you traveled
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: to see him, he flew you out? Yeah, that terrifies me. Well,
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: like I'm stuck, like I have a lot of guys
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: that have been like out here, let's do this, and
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: I've never met them before, and I'm like, what if
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: I get there and I hate you?
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: Well, I had met him before, Oh yeah, I had
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: met him.
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: Most people traveled when for someone that you don't you've
• 38:18
  Speaker 3: never met.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: I've never traveled for someone that I've never met. But
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: even though, like as i've gotten older, because I'm a
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: control freak, now i'm very funny. If a guy offers
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: to fly me out, I'm like, you're not flying me anywhere.
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: Just tell me when to come and I'll book my ticket.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: Even if he has a house, it's like I'm not
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: staying there. I'll stay at a hotel because God forbid.
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: And if I don't even use the hotel and I
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: stay with you the whole time. Great, I love that,
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: but I need to know that I have an escape
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: plan if this does not go the way I want
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: it to go.
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: Craig helped me escape a lot. Like I flew out
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: to see man first time have done it. I was terrified,
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: you've never met him before.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: Ye, and.
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: I wanted to leave so bad, and Craig happened to
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: be there, And can you say where you were? I
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: was in Missouri, okay, but I was like, Craig, I
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: just want to.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: Go, and Okaig rescued you nice, so sweet.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: I know He's like, let's get you the fuck out here.
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: This is like.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: Not that long ago.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: So even with your guys, is little whatever last season
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: is still swooping in if you need him.
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Craig's one of Craig's a great one in
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: my life. I love that for you, He's great. We
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: have our moments, but we fight like brothers sister. I
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: feel like like we'll get.
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: Like drunk and just scream at each other and then
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: totally come back to Oh that's the best. Some call
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: it toxic. I call it an evolved relationship. How do
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: you feel about our first podcast together.
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: I love it. I feel like I'm not I don't
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: even feel like I have a microphone, but I.
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: Know that's the best though. We are just talking.
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: Thank you, my loves for listening to the first episode
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: of Sex Unlocked right into our DMS because I want
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: to talk about it all Let's like take the stigma
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: away from women talking about sex.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: Like women who talk about.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: Sex, they're not whoores, they're not sluts. We're just a
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: bunch of women exchanging information. All right, Sally, I love
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: you baby, all right.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: Bye guy Bye.