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DLHS Hour 2 | Do you allow other people to spank your children · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: The question that we're asking ladies and gentlemen.
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  Speaker 2: Woman is accused of overreacting because she told her mother
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  Speaker 2: in law that she could not spank her unruly too
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  Speaker 2: unruly toddler. Do you allow other people to spank your children?
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  Speaker 2: I think it's unreasonable to expect uh someone to keep
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  Speaker 2: your child at the feed your Like when when Nola
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  Speaker 2: came here, she came with no clothes, right, nothing, Everything
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  Speaker 2: she needed she got right.
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  Speaker 1: And some of some of that was an ass whooping.
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  Speaker 3: Not delivered by her grandfather.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no.
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  Speaker 4: I bet this is a problem that happens more and
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  Speaker 4: more because you know, these generations come in there doing
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  Speaker 4: the oh, don't spank kids. It causes damage, and there's
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  Speaker 4: been studies to show that that they don't do corporal punishments.
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  Speaker 2: People did the studies actually need their ass Well, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I'm just saying in general.
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  Speaker 4: So I see, I see this as a more common
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  Speaker 4: problem problem.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Juny, she was saying something got fair. I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to miss it what we say.
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  Speaker 5: And you know, I said, you know, like when we
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  Speaker 5: were kids, when my mom would leave us with either
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  Speaker 5: relatives or friends, you know. Most of them. We were
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  Speaker 5: always taught to be on our best behavior, and we were.
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  Speaker 5: But there was one uncle, like my uncle Joe. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: he was straight, no chaser. I mean, the smallest infraction,
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  Speaker 5: you was gonna get it. So I mean was he
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  Speaker 5: a priest? No, okay, no, she was a long.
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  Speaker 1: Show, no long man.
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  Speaker 5: Come on now, yeah, with the long hands, Oh my god,
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  Speaker 5: and that long show, my bill.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, bruh.
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  Speaker 2: I had an aunt, Levy May, and we all hate
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  Speaker 2: Leavy May. So you know that's because he was Leavy
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  Speaker 2: Levy's her name. And we couldn't stand staying with her, Jack,
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  Speaker 2: I need everybody. We could not stand stay with her.
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  Speaker 2: She was she just she didn't have no kids, didn't
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  Speaker 2: want no kids, and let you know it, Jack, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: stay with her. Yeah, and it was it was hell.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, I can't say this. She never Well
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  Speaker 2: here's the thing. I got my ass with so much
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  Speaker 2: that I can't tell you if it was abused or not.
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  Speaker 3: That's kind of all.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not the arbiter of whether it was abusive or not.
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  Speaker 2: But I can't tell you this that they everybody who
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  Speaker 2: we stayed.
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  Speaker 1: With have permission. They put their foot in I ass.
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  Speaker 1: So I guess they.
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  Speaker 2: They solved it by if you if they can't trust
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  Speaker 2: you to that extent, that they can't trust you at all.
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  Speaker 1: The question we're asking a.
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  Speaker 2: Young woman is called unruly, I mean, excuse me, unreasonable
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  Speaker 2: because she told her mother in law that she can't spank.
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  Speaker 1: Her two year old or unruly toddler. Do you think
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  Speaker 1: that that was you? Can't someone else make it?
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  Speaker 2: You're here's the thing what you're going to learn right now,
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  Speaker 2: really soon. If you have this relationship with your with
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  Speaker 2: your with your mother in law now, you don't want
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  Speaker 2: to cut off the avenues you're gonna need later on
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  Speaker 2: because you're gonna want to go on vacation, You're gonna
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  Speaker 2: want to go out to dinner, You're gonna have a commone,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna and you're gonna need them. And if you,
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  Speaker 2: if you damage the relationship, good luck finding the babysit
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  Speaker 2: you gotta pay for.
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  Speaker 4: Especially with your bad ass kid. Everybody word, get out
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  Speaker 4: to work, get out when.
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  Speaker 2: No doubt you have If your grandpar if grandparents won't
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  Speaker 2: keep them kids, they two things.
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  Speaker 1: Either they ugly or they bad, and sometimes they both don't.
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  Speaker 2: Nobody want no ugly bad kids. Come on now, if
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna be ugly, ugly kid, you might well be
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  Speaker 2: nice at least.
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  Speaker 1: Come on now.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it's somebody riding in the car right now
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  Speaker 2: looking at the ugly ass kid.
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  Speaker 1: They babysitting and cracking up.
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  Speaker 2: I'm telling you you better not say that you can't
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  Speaker 2: eat ugly and have an ugly attitude. Some got to
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  Speaker 2: be beautiful about you. Yeah, yeah, come on now, come on.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, the cuter they are, the more you
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  Speaker 2: let them get away with.
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  Speaker 3: Ain't that something?
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  Speaker 6: Boy?
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  Speaker 3: That's the truth. The cutter they are it is.
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  Speaker 7: Boy.
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  Speaker 2: You know what if you ugly baby, and trust me,
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  Speaker 2: I know you couldn't get away with breathing.
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  Speaker 1: Eat you like that because I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: And now you know, Unfortunately that goes when you grow up.
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  Speaker 4: Hey man, pretty people they get away with more.
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  Speaker 1: And ugly people get radio shows so no one has
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  Speaker 1: to see them on TV. That's what happens. That's what
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  Speaker 1: goes on. So the question we're.
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  Speaker 2: Asking a woman is being called unreasonable because she refuses
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  Speaker 2: to let her mother in law spank her unruly toddler.
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  Speaker 1: Do you let other people spank your your children?
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  Speaker 8: We've got to go to the folks, if your child
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  Speaker 8: cannot be disciplined at my home or when they're with me,
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  Speaker 8: then they cannot come.
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  Speaker 9: My hairs rested a long time ago had a sign
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  Speaker 9: in her.
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  Speaker 8: Shop that said, do not get offended that I have
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  Speaker 8: to correct your child. Be embarrassed that I had to
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  Speaker 8: so teach the little being in song babies how to
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  Speaker 8: being respectful handle them while they're little, when they're acting
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  Speaker 8: up out in public right there, out in public.
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  Speaker 6: And you want to deal with that when you get
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  Speaker 6: a bit older.
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  Speaker 10: But yeah, you can't come to my house if I
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  Speaker 10: can't discipline you.
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  Speaker 8: I ain't trying to beat you, but you're going to
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  Speaker 8: be corrected and disciplined. Offences fary.
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  Speaker 6: Nobody should should be touching your child except you in
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  Speaker 6: that way. I mean, yeah, you can get out of
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  Speaker 6: control quick.
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  Speaker 7: Uh.
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  Speaker 6: Families, family, they tell you what happened, but you still
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  Speaker 6: got to take care of the business. Yeah, you got
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  Speaker 6: to be there. I don't want a teachers thanking my child.
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  Speaker 6: I don't want anybody spanking my child. No way.
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  Speaker 9: I would let someone else whip my kids. No, let
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  Speaker 9: their parents whip their own kids.
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  Speaker 11: Know, I feel it's not right to do because if
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  Speaker 11: they leave a scar is going to be bad, and
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  Speaker 11: that something kids would never forget.
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  Speaker 9: I never had to beat my kids at all, Thank
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  Speaker 9: god they've grown now.
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  Speaker 3: But some of these kids these days, they deserve more.
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  Speaker 12: Than a beaten man.
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  Speaker 9: They very disrespectful.
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  Speaker 2: They don't even respect their parents, so how can they
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  Speaker 2: respect anybody else?
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  Speaker 9: They need more than a beating. I should like we
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  Speaker 9: need a village in order to get a village.
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  Speaker 11: If my child is acting up, if I love you,
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  Speaker 11: if I trust you, stay, tell up, came up?
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  Speaker 10: It depends on who it is that they can whip
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  Speaker 10: your children. But I'm a sixties and seventies baby, I
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  Speaker 10: grew up. If you got in trouble out at Miss
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  Speaker 10: Johnson's house and she worked everybody down there, and then
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  Speaker 10: she calls your mama and told your mamma that she
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  Speaker 10: would kids, and then you were scared to go to
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  Speaker 10: ben because when your daddy got home, you gonna get another.
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  Speaker 10: So it kind of depends on who it is these
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  Speaker 10: days and what the kid did.
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  Speaker 11: It depends on who it is.
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  Speaker 7: If it's my relative or someone that's close to me
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  Speaker 7: that I consider being you know close to me and
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  Speaker 7: know me and know my kids.
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  Speaker 9: I don't have a problem with that.
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  Speaker 11: But other than that, I think a phone call would
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  Speaker 11: be good and then I will get on them.
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  Speaker 9: I'm a granddad. I got nine grandkids, and they know
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  Speaker 9: what to expect when they come to Granddaddy, no matter
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  Speaker 9: how you treat them at your house, and they're gonna
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  Speaker 9: get disciplined they come to granddaddy. So if you don't
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  Speaker 9: want your kids to have discipline, and then you keep
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  Speaker 9: them and you take care of them yourself, and don't
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  Speaker 9: bring them to me, because they're coming to me, they're
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  Speaker 9: gonna get disciplinea they're doing something stupid, they're gonna get
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  Speaker 9: us fanking for it, and they're gonna know what they're
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  Speaker 9: doing is wrong. And that's my way a kitchen.
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  Speaker 11: Don't nobody watch my kids but my mother, and I
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  Speaker 11: wouldn't allow them to go to the in law, especially
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  Speaker 11: if the in laws didn't like the parents, and if
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  Speaker 11: the kid wasn't bad, they'd try to take things out
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  Speaker 11: on the child. So didn't nobody watch my kids but
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  Speaker 11: my mother. Because I had to be at an orange jumpsuit.
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  Speaker 11: I don't look good in orange.
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  Speaker 1: I think you should absolutely allow.
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  Speaker 9: Now I grew up in then ever where you know,
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  Speaker 9: mister Jenkos. You're cursing outside playing basketball, and we played
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  Speaker 9: on the crate.
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  Speaker 1: If you go upside their heads. You know, if mister
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  Speaker 1: Jenkins knew your mother, you know your grandmother and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: so I think you should.
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  Speaker 3: I think the problem is we don't allow billits to
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  Speaker 3: raise our kids no more.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you know, we get those twenty twenty four year
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  Speaker 1: old you know.
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  Speaker 10: Twenty year old mothers, and they want to get all
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  Speaker 10: get on with you when you you tell it, you
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  Speaker 10: try to correct their child man, And I think that's
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  Speaker 10: the problem.
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  Speaker 7: I'm okay with someone else's discipline in my kids, However,
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  Speaker 7: I don't. I won't leave my kid with someone who
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  Speaker 7: will pick up anything to beat.
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  Speaker 1: Their kids, like you know they I doubt that's right.
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  Speaker 7: Go ahead, but don't pick up an iron and hit
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  Speaker 7: my baby.
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  Speaker 2: I can hear somebody getting asked with right now. So
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  Speaker 2: the question we're asking a woman is being called unreasonable
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  Speaker 2: because she refused to let her mother in law spank
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  Speaker 2: her unruly or bad ass. The unruly ain't aware with
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  Speaker 2: you though, you're bad ass, little toddler. Do you allow
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  Speaker 2: people to spank your children? We're going through the phones.
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  Speaker 11: I didn't want no one to hit my kids.
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  Speaker 13: When my kids have to stay at someone's house, someone
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  Speaker 13: hit my son.
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  Speaker 7: And left bruises on them.
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  Speaker 13: Because everybody's level of thinking is not the same. But
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  Speaker 13: I get turned with my grandchildren without putting my hands
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  Speaker 13: on them. I don't believe anybody should touch anybody's children
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  Speaker 13: if they're unruly, either don't keep them or learn to
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  Speaker 13: deal with them in a manner where you don't.
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  Speaker 12: Have to put your hands on them. My niches and nephews, yeah,
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  Speaker 12: I've disciplined them what we called it course correction, and
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  Speaker 12: my sister knows that she's done the same thing with
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  Speaker 12: all my boy But no, ain't nobody, just nobody go
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  Speaker 12: put their hands on my child period, you know, other
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  Speaker 12: than my sister and maybe my grandmother when they were
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  Speaker 12: when she was alive, and it's only the course correct.
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  Speaker 12: You ain't gonna read no marks or nothing like.
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  Speaker 3: That on my child.
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  Speaker 9: But now you just ain't gonna put your hands on
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  Speaker 9: my child period.
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  Speaker 14: If you don't want nobody to whoop your child, don't
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  Speaker 14: have them at that person's house. Because my root was
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  Speaker 14: always for all the kids neighborhood. Now, if you don't
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  Speaker 14: want them whoopd don't bring them to my home.
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  Speaker 3: Period.
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  Speaker 14: Kids nowadays are so disrespectful, and if you allow them
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  Speaker 14: to keep disrespecting you, that's the way they're.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna always be. So if you know you have a
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  Speaker 1: child that's.
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  Speaker 14: Disrespectful, then you should know that that child's gonna get tought.
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  Speaker 14: If they come to my home, that's it. And that's
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  Speaker 14: all always been that type of grandmother. I love all
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  Speaker 14: the kids. They all come to my house, but their
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  Speaker 14: parents already know. I don't play I play no games.
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  Speaker 7: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I think that there are a lot of there's a
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  Speaker 2: lot of merit to the way that children are being
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  Speaker 2: raised right now. I don't think that every infraction deserves
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  Speaker 2: physical punishment, but I do think that there are two
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  Speaker 2: year olds like even that you know, when they get
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  Speaker 2: into that phase, you have to do something that corrects them.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm not saying they always got to be an
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  Speaker 2: ass woman, but I will say this every no, let's
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  Speaker 2: here for two months, she got jacked up by everybody
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  Speaker 2: but me.
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  Speaker 14: Well you have to.
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  Speaker 15: I mean, I'm telling you, I firmly believe that's what
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  Speaker 15: you know. Being a parent partially is about, is disciplined
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  Speaker 15: and understanding who to give that permission to discipline your
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  Speaker 15: kid or not. And I think if you allow a
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  Speaker 15: kid to just be unruly and you know it, you're
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  Speaker 15: you're a terrible parent.
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  Speaker 3: You're terrible.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think so too. And you know what you
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  Speaker 1: really have to you were really a blessed person.
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  Speaker 2: If you have a family around you who's willing to
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  Speaker 2: take your children off, you blessed and do you do not?
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  Speaker 1: That is a very tenuous relationship.
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  Speaker 2: And one of those is the things that could damage
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  Speaker 2: that relationship is trying to tell somebody who raised you
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  Speaker 2: or raised the person you with, how to raise somebody. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and a lot of times, go ahead, I'm sorry, well
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  Speaker 2: you say, you know, I said a lot of times
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  Speaker 2: it's for the kids own good.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, especially toddlers that are unruly. They'll go in
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  Speaker 5: the kitchen and try to mess around with hot stuff.
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  Speaker 5: I had a toddler that we used to have to
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  Speaker 5: take care of and he was fascinated with the extension
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  Speaker 5: court plug and he would always be trying to play
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  Speaker 5: put his finger in there, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So you know, you let him do it one time,
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  Speaker 3: he'll learn rint me right, sit down for a while.
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  Speaker 2: What they say experience is not the best teacher experience
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  Speaker 2: is the harshest teacher because the lesson comes after the problem.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go back to that little boy. Stop crying and
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  Speaker 3: slick your hair back down. Now, come on.
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  Speaker 1: I learned that lesson myself