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Stop spinning your wheels, Solocast · Learnings and Missteps by Depth Builder

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  what is up LnM Family, Jesse here with the learnings and missteps pod.
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  Podcast.
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  Another solo cast coming at you.
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  This thought.
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  Here's another one of those learnings and missteps, and I just came.
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  To, to the realization.
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  I, you know, I don't even know if it counts as a realization, it's kind of something that I've been observing in my behavior and observing and other people's, uh, life experience lately.
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  And you may have heard me talk about idea to action.
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  And keeping the space between idea and action, super tight.
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  because of the fulfillment that I've experienced from living my life.
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  That way I have an idea.
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  I take action.
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  and, and magical things happen right now.
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  But thinking a lot about my people that are out there working hard, doing their job, earning a living, supporting their families.
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  That are kind of spent.
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  And thinking about how I have.
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  How I don't ever really feel spent.
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  I mean, I do feel tired because I get, I get going a little crazy on some of my ideas and my projects out here.
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  But I'm having a good time.
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  And the energy seems to be endless.
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  And so I started thinking about.
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  The impact of, of social media.
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  and expanding your, expanding, our influence, right?
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  Helping other people know.
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  Sharing our gifts and talents with other people in a very public way.
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  Yes.
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  I know it's uncomfortable.
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  It takes a lot of practice, takes a lot of time to get used to it.
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  but thinking through all of that, what I landed on was I remember.
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  When I had, you know, my, when I was working for the mechanical contractor general contractor, the owner.
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  I remember.
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  Putting in tons of effort.
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  Uh, to be.
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  You know, to, to get recognized by my boss and for my boss to advocate for me for salary increases, uh, new opportunities increased.
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  Influence within the organization.
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  And it always felt like I couldn't do enough.
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  And I never really could tell.
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  If that energy was going to result in what I was seeking.
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  And I'll give you an example.
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  This is a crazy example, but it's a true story.
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  So back in the day, like the very first job that I ever worked, where I got paid, like by a company.
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  Was at KFC, Kentucky fried chicken.
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  and I was there.
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  My gold.
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  Was to earn employee of the month.
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  Mind you, this was my first month.
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  And I'll be damn.
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  We come up to the end of the month and I kind of remember we had like monthly meet monthly employee meetings and where they would announce employee of the month, blah, blah, blah.
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  And I didn't get it.
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  And I was.
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  disappointed to say the least.
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  And I quit my job.
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  I quit working there.
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  I remember talking to Carol, she was the manager.
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  And she was like, why are you quitting your you're a good employee?
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  And I was like, well, I didn't get employee of the month.
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  And she's like, Jessie, you've only been here a month.
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  And I say, yeah, I understand that.
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  But my goal was to get employee of the month.
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  And I didn't get it.
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  So clearly my efforts aren't.
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  Aren't appreciated or maybe at least misguided.
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  Truth be told I ended up going back and working there again because I did enjoy working with the people.
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  The work was fun.
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  I found it fun anyways, but my point in that story is.
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  You know, it puts so much effort into being employee of the month.
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  And then when I think about all the other jobs I've had in my career, I put a lot of effort in to Helping my manager, my boss see the value that I could bring so that I could be.
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  Uh, given a raise so that I could get all the magical stuff you get for being a team player in an A-plus worker.
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  And then almost always being disappointed.
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  By the outcome.
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  And so that makes me think like, well, what was I really working for?
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  Was I putting my energy towards like, yes, I was looking to advance in the company and expand my career.
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  Yeah.
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  But like, What I was really, really doing is I was seeking affirmation.
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  From my manager.
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  And only my manager could see my skills and my talents and the effort that I put in.
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  And what's interesting because I've been a manager and I know how frustrating this is.
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  it's not always in my boss's interest to promote me because.
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  They may not have someone else to do the work that I was doing.
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  And I was doing above and beyond.
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  So.
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  That created a big gap for them to, to backfill.
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  Which makes it easy.
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  For them to kind of downplay all my contributions to the team and to the company so that I can stay there and make their job easier.
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  I'm not accusing them.
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  I know that I have felt that with people, I didn't give into it, but I did feel like son of a gun.
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  If I promote you and you go to this other department.
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  I got to replace you.
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  And that's a lot of work on my part.
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  so I think that's a natural thing now.
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  The interesting thing is.
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  In my experience since I got super active and visible on, on all the socials out there, I feel like by doing so as my value.
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  Increased.
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  In the industry, or on the omniverse, my value within the organization also increased.
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  And so I had to ask myself, why is that?
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  And I said, well, maybe it's because now all of a sudden I'm not hitting.
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  Under my department heads umbrella.
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  Right.
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  Like, I don't have to just count.
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  On one person to advocate for me.
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  Now I'm advocating for myself.
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  By letting people know where I come from, what my thinking is, what I believe in what I support.
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  And that gets recognition.
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  Almost accidentally, like, well, maybe not even, almost like for real, for real, I wasn't doing it.
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  Like I didn't start the podcast for that reason.
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  But I believe that that actually happened.
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  And along that path of, you know, Sharing my thoughts doing the interviews, et cetera, all the posts that I put out there.
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  What started happening is I started having impact or at least the ideas that I was sharing.
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  And the conversations that were being shared were impactful for other human beings.
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  And so I started contributing value to them.
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  And somehow along the way I promise I didn't do it on purpose.
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  Um, I started shifting my energy, meaning.
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  I didn't focus my energy on getting affirmation from my boss or my manager anymore.
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  I focus my energy on getting impact on delivering impact on having an impact on people's lives.
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  People's thinking.
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  Uh, improving the quality of life to some degree.
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  For, for anybody who would listen.
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  And the result of that.
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  Has been spectacularly.
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  Amazing.
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  Now, back to the, like the energy required to get an idea and take it from some crazy wild aspiration and actually turn it into something real.
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  That takes a tremendous amount of energy, um, because there is a lot of friction.
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  There's the friction of practical thinking, meaning why are you doing this?
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  Nobody's paying you for it.
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  there's the friction of failure and embarrassment.
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  There's the friction of still having a job and trying to do this other new thing.
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  Like.
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  But the energy to continue forward.
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  I believe has come from the impact that I've had or that we all can have.
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  In sharing our gifts and talents with other people.
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  I think that's the most important thing here.
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  At least, I think that's what I'm seeing.
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  Is when we focus our energy on chasing affirmation from one person within the organization from, or maybe, maybe a little broader from our very localized community, like the people that are in our neighborhood, in our life.
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  And.
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  And our companies.
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  The yield from all of that effort is.
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  Almost predictable.
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  And much smaller.
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  Then the yield of focus on our focusing our energy on having impact in serving others.
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  And being able to witness the impact of our efforts.
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  Fuels us with this whole new source of energy to continue working through the friction.
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  Required to get ideas into action.
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  And so I'm wondering, y'all like, I'm wondering, does this resonate with you at all?
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  Have you ever spent all your time?
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  Or have you ever put in a whole ton of energy to get that promotion, to get that raise, uh, to get that special, sexy project?
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  And then you don't get it.
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  Uh, and then you see other people promote, you see other people advancing and you're like, what the hell?
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  Like I know I'm out performing them fools.
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  And are you really just counting on that one person?
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  To be your advocate when you can advocate for yourself.
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  I know that sounds a little selfish, but think of, if you think of it, in terms of sharing your gifts and talents.
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  Uh, for the purpose of serving others, that's a whole new ball game.
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  And if you didn't know, we do have a learnings and missteps blog out there.
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  So if you're interested in reading, I'll make sure that the, the link.
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  To that blog is in the show notes.
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  Let's check it out, share it with a friend.
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  be cool.
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  And we'll talk to you next time.