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S8 Ep:2374 When Love Becomes a Lie · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  Have faith, let begin. When it starts right now.
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  Welcome to Have Faith, Let It Begin.
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  Here's your host, Angel Santana. Good morning, everyone, and welcome to Have
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  Faith, Let It Begin. I'm also doing this video format for TikTok,
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  which I'm hoping that you will join us if you want to see the video format of it.
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  And I want to welcome you all in. Again, my name is Angel Santana.
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  This has been a very, very crazy week. This week, we've been talking about betrayal.
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  And on Monday, we talked about the day the truth finally found me.
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  Yesterday, we talked about being cheated by people.
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  So today, we're talking about something even more difficult,
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  even harder than you'll ever imagine, we're talking about what happens when
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  someone you love becomes someone you no longer recognize.
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  I think we've all can relate to these stories. We're talking about what happens when trust is broken.
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  We're talking about what happens when the person you believed,
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  the person you believed in, I should say, chooses a different path.
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  This episode is called When Love Becomes a Lie.
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  Have faith, let it begin. crazy stories, crazy week, crazy series entitled cheated starts right now.
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  You know, I think one of the hardest, how do I start? I think one of the hardest
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  things a person can experience,
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  is discovering that someone they love has been living a different truth,
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  a different truth than the one they've been sharing.
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  Not for a day, not for a week, but for a long time.
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  What makes it painful isn't simply the betrayal itself.
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  It's realizing how many conversations happened while the truth remained hidden.
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  How many promises were made? How many moments were shared, how many times you
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  looked someone in the eyes and believed what they were telling you.
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  Because trust is one of the most valuable gifts we can give another human being.
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  Once it's broken, it's difficult to put back together.
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  Wouldn't you agree? I mean, I remember asking myself the number one question.
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  The question that kept me awake at night.
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  Question I couldn't answer.
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  Question I wasn't prepared for. I found myself replaying the conversation,
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  replaying memories, trying to find the moment where everything changed,
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  trying to understand how something that felt so real could suddenly feel so uncertain.
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  And maybe that's the hardest part of a breakup or a heartbreak,
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  I should say, not losing the person losing your your inner self losing your certainty,
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  losing your confidence yeah that's probably better losing your confidence in
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  what you thought was truth or was true we reflect together right you know what but.
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  You know what betrayal does? It makes you question yourself.
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  You start asking, how did I miss this? Why didn't I see it?
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  Was I that naive? Was I blind? Should I have known?
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  And before long, the pain caused by someone else's choices becomes pain directed
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  at yourself. That's dangerous.
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  Because eventually you stop being angry at what happened and start blaming yourself for what happened.
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  I lived there for a long time, longer than I should have.
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  If you're listening with me this morning or today or whenever you're listening
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  to this episode, maybe you have too.
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  Maybe someone hurt you years ago and you're still carrying responsibilities
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  for decisions they made.
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  Maybe you're still
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  carrying guilt That was never yours to carry
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  Maybe you're still punishing yourself for
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  trusting But trusting someone isn't
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  weakness Loving someone isn't weakness
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  Believing the best in someone isn't weakness Those are qualities Those are qualities
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  that God placed inside of us
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  the mistake or the mistakes belongs to the person who abused that trust,
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  not the person who offered it.
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  One of the things I struggled with most was understanding where God was,
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  where was God during all of it.
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  And as a pastor in training, as a man of faith, I prayed, I cried,
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  I questioned, I searched for the answers, and sometimes it felt like heaven was silent.
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  As I sit here today with you, looking back now, I see something I couldn't see then. God never left.
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  Not once. Even when I felt abandoned.
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  Even when my heart was shattered. Even when I couldn't imagine a future. God remained.
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  Sometimes his presence wasn't allowed at all.
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  Sometimes it was simply the strength to get through another day.
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  The strength to keep going when quitting felt
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  easier The strength to wake up for
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  tomorrow The strength to keep believing there
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  was still purpose ahead So here
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  I'm going to ask you the question If you're listening this morning If you're
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  listening today And you've had your heart broken If you've been lied to If you've
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  experienced betrayal from someone you loved I want you to know and remember
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  this Their choices do not define your value.
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  Their deception does not define your future.
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  And their betrayal does not have the authority to rewrite God's plan for your life.
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  Healing takes time. Trust takes time.
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  Recovery takes time. But God specializes in rebuilding broken things.
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  And he's rebuilding you.
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  Heavenly Father, today we pray for every broken heart listening,
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  for every person carrying wounds from betrayal, disappointment, and broken trust.
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  Remember then that they are loved, they are valued, and never forgotten.
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  Help them release the burdens they will never meant to carry and place their burdens.
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  In you once again. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
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  Tomorrow, we're talking about one of the most difficult truths of all,
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  the times I cheated myself.
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  Until then, never forget, have faith, let it begin.
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  Don't forget, everybody, tomorrow we continue on with the series and don't forget
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  that I will be, once again,
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  preaching on a live simulcast all
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  of our social media for our June 14th
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  flag day from the church that I serve at and preach at times I'm doing a two
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  week back to back simulcast First Reformed Church it's flag day June 14th but
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  don't forget that the week before which is this weekend June 7th Pastor Jim
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  my mentor will be preaching as well and then,
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  June 21st is Father's Day and I'm dedicating it to all fathers especially mine
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  so may God be with you may he shine his light upon you and grant each and every
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  single one of you peace on earth and never ever forget to have faith and let it begin.