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Why Not Today? Season 2 - Episode 7 with J. Bishop, JbohnbiSHOP Mercantile. · Why Not Today? with Leslie Kane

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Hello, this is Leslie and I am the host of the Why Not Today? podcast.
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And this is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, why not
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today?
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I started this podcast to honor my father, Patrick Cain, who often did say, why not today?
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I am based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, DC.
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And thanks for joining us today.
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So I'm really excited.
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My guest today, we're in person.
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Yay!
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Thank you.
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More fun.
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Yes.
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So I would just like to introduce my guest and kind of how we met.
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So this is J-Bon Bishop.
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Hi.
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And Jessica, or J-Bon.
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Yes.
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We met, honestly, because I was stalking you.
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You were?
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Really?
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You never talked about that.
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Yeah.
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I went, so we are in, it's not like, which I'm here often.
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And I saw you on Facebook and you were just marketing like crazy.
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Yeah.
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Sharing a lot.
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And I'm like, who is this chick?
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And so you're having something at your house.
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Yep.
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And I was like, I'm just a thing.
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And so you had an ornament.
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I wanted to get a gift for somebody.
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And I went there.
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Of course, they were all sold out.
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Yep.
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They were.
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So reach out to you afterwards.
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And you ordered one for me.
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We met for Kosti.
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Fell in love with you and just have followed you and just your journey and become great
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friends.
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I'm glad you showed up at my house.
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We just never know how you're going to connect.
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And the funny thing is my friend Andy came with me.
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He was your neighbor.
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That's right.
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And he's like, I want to meet this person too.
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And he was so many people at the lake.
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And I'm so grateful for you and your friendship.
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You've connected yourself.
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Yeah.
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So I'm excited to have you as our guest and talking about your great story.
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So before we get into all your courage and everything, introduce yourself a small or
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fun fact about you.
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Nobody knows.
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Okay.
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We can get to know you and then we'll talk about courage.
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All right.
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So I'm J. Bond Bishop.
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My name is Jessica.
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I go by J. Bond.
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It's a nickname from seventh grade.
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But it's also become the brand of my store.
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This is the name of my store.
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And as you can see, the cursive just kind of looks pretty together.
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So like the J and the B and the B.
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So J. Bond Bishop, Rick and Paul.
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I am the owner here at the St.
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Lake.
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I do have a brick and mortar.
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I have another location actually across the lake.
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But it has definitely taken a lot to get to this point.
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You know, and if people always think like, oh, look, you opened a story.
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You just, I had this idea and it all happened now.
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It's up to downs and good, some bad and everything.
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So what's, so you're from, you're from this area.
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I've been here for I will be 37 in January.
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So I've literally been here that whole time.
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And that is of course when I went off to college for a couple of years.
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And it's changed a lot.
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It has.
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I've watched it grow the whole side of the lake.
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I've literally watched that grow.
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Yeah.
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Crazy.
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And you built that.
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All right.
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So what's the fun fact about J.
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Bond?
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Nobody knows.
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The fun fact that most people don't realize is that actually my, you
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know, I guess past and my experiences have nothing to do with retail,
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with any of that.
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Or I guess just the fact is that I have a master's in higher education.
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I don't want to be in the student affairs still than it actually took me
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being at admissions counselor at the university.
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I went to, to realize that I actually loved sharing things with people that I
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was passionate about, which was my school at the time.
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And yeah, so that degree was supposed to lead me to be on the other side of
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that, which was to cater to those students once they got to school.
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And that's just wasn't what I know what you learned is people skills.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Somebody came in and told me that I did share that with a customer.
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They said, you're just teaching people how to shop.
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Exactly.
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I absolutely am.
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Yep.
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That's what I do.
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You people have to go there.
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Yeah.
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You know, my degree is my master's in finance.
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So like master's in finance in your American.
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But it works.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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My business woman.
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I'm a big fan of your, you know, total upper sales.
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That's like the building.
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Right.
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So, all right.
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So what does courage mean to you?
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Courage means to me.
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I thought a lot about this.
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Courage means to me doing something that obviously, you know, you're scared of.
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Everybody knows that.
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But to me, it's setting boundaries.
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It is just kind of setting aside all insecurities of yourself, of anything and
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not really worrying about what people think.
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A lot of what I know we're going to get into today and really reflects that on me because
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I spent so many years worrying about what other people thought or what's going to happen.
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And so courage is really literally just setting aside all of that and making your dreams happen.
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Yeah.
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And that's so true in that whole, what are people think and we judge, you know, and we
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take advice.
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And this is what I've seen a lot.
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We take advice from people we don't even like.
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Right.
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The girl from high school we didn't even like.
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Right.
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Or her aren't planning to do the things we don't want to do.
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Yeah.
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I'm like, they're not thinking.
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We have bigger thinkers.
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Yeah.
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Definitely big thinkers we are.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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That's why we connected immediately and shared ideas.
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And this podcast interview came about that when I was down at the lake last week, came
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in and hung out with you and we're like, we need to do that.
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Literally, we need to pin it down.
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All right.
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So courage.
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You've had a lot of courage.
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You started this business.
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But let's go back to, I think, before you started this.
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I think it was around the 2020 and life was hard for you.
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Just to kind of, you know, just giving you all a brief little history about just, you
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know, had the degree to do higher education and back in 2013, you know, I decided then
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that I was made to work for myself.
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Like I just knew very early on that was just what I needed to do to be happy.
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And that took a lot of courage in itself and discipline.
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That's another thing, discipline.
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Yeah.
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Absolutely.
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And so, you know, I was able to build an online community of people over the last 10 years,
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but then going back to 2020, you know, the world shut down and I was already connected
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to the community in the way of doing social media for folks.
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So post COVID, I actually ended up starting the social media marketing company to help
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mentor and guide the local business owners and just small business owners like myself.
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And so throughout those 10 years, I've done things like Stella and Dot.
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That was of course my biggest and my longest journey with social selling.
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And so in 2020, we had gift shops around the lake, restaurants, you name it, they were
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trying to figure out how can we pretty much convert sales to online.
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And I remember setting with a couple of different business owners and just really talking over
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how do we bring this to be an online thing because 2020, like you've got all this inventory
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coming in.
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That was me.
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How are you going to sell it?
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Right.
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When you have no know how of doing online.
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And so what turned into just starting with a couple of things ended up spending the whole
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2020 mentoring and just meeting fix at the coffee shop and giving them the advice that
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I had and just what I had learned since not, you know, being in this industry.
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So yeah, I forgot your question Leslie.
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So just how you got here.
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Yeah.
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So you were such a happy upbeat, right?
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Fun personality, but it's not always that way.
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It's not.
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And so that's where we were going with that one is that in 2020.
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So after I had done all that, you know, I had really extended out a lot of help to people
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and granted, you know, after 2021 started, you know, they were paying me to do it because
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at that point I could no longer do it volunteer as much as I would have loved to.
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I kind of run ran myself into a hole because I had that knowledge of online and social
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sharing and that sort of thing.
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Come June, I had meant toward over 100 people plus for workshops, not to mention all the
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social media account that was right.
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So I was setting no boundaries.
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I wasn't taking care of myself and it takes a lot of courage to say, Hey, like we need
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to change and to actually ran myself into a hole and I became really depressed.
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I've been diagnosed with OCD.
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So had some mental health issues in 2020 started in early 2019.
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Did you know about that before?
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Nope.
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Like I said, in 2019 something just wasn't right.
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Like I went to the doctor and didn't really actually get help help until July of 2020.
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So fast for a year after that.
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I just something was inside of me just depressed.
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Didn't want to leave the house.
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You just mentioned I'm bubbly and you know, I don't want to go anywhere.
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I didn't want to get stressed.
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It wasn't.
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So I knew that I needed to make a change and one of those changes was to say no, all the
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things that I've been taken on, but something inside of me.
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So I was still doing selling dot at the time, which obviously is all in my mind.
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When you do your own pop ups and whatnot, which those of you don't know what that is.
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It's another direct selling company.
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It's a health story, health story.
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And so for me, I just had this gut feeling.
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It was one of the things I was at the darkest time of my life, Leslie.
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Like I think I told you this part.
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Like I was at the darkest part of my life, but yet all I could think about was this was
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and when I say this, I don't even mean this store.
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I mean the mission of what we do.
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It wasn't even the same product line because we ended up launching J bond Bishop Mercantile
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at the chili fest just a few months later and it kind of looks completely different than
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this.
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We might have to go through a little tour of the store and work time.
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I don't know about that.
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Okay.
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We can share.
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You can tell in the background we are in her store.
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But what we've evolved to is what the customers have wanted.
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Right.
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So we didn't start out with clothes and shoes.
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We definitely had jewelry because that's my background is mostly having jewelry and
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that sort of fashion.
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Home decor is also the thing.
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When you come into the store now, you definitely get that experience and you could kind of
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tell that I like to decorate.
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I got a lot of good one on there.
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But yeah, it was just, like I said, I'm at home and I'm like, that's all I could, that's
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all I wanted to put my time and effort towards when I was really sad and I was really down.
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I don't even know that it's sad the best way to describe it, but just not feeling like
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myself, but I knew that doing this and what this means is especially now as it's evolved
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into clothing and as you know with makeup.
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We are seriously just like helping women feel good about themselves.
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And that's what I love about this.
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When people walk through the store, how can we help you?
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You know, oh, I'm looking for an outfit for XYZ and you're in and out.
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Yeah, we try to create a really good experience and really catering to just build in those
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relationships with people.
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But that has brought me joy that I was lacking.
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Right.
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So.
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So lots of things I heard you say.
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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I heard that you realized there was a problem, which is a problem, which is a good thing
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that and you got help.
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I did.
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And so so many people around the mental health issues are afraid to get help.
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And I think COVID, I hate to say that word, but magnified and brought it out.
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It did.
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I don't think I was ever lonely in my life and hope it right.
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And that's what brought me here.
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Issues were definitely underlined before COVID, but COVID definitely brought it out.
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And you were doing lots for a lot of people because you are a giver and you are a helper.
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And so you were doing a lot of things.
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And one, what I know for sure is we got to fill our own cup.
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Yeah.
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And if we're not filling our own cup, you can't give to somebody else.
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And I heard that all the time, but I was like in one ear and out the other and I thought
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that I was feeling my cup by doing things like, Oh, let me take myself out to lunch.
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They sort of sort of things that's so temporary.
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Yeah.
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You got to fill your soul up and do the things and some of the time things that give us joy
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are the ones that are going to fill our cup.
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That's right.
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And so you're just doing stuff to check them off.
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Yeah.
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It's not doing it.
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And you're helping everybody, which is great.
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I can help them now.
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I'm still helping them, but in a totally different way that's bringing us both joy.
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Right.
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To meet your beneficial things.
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Exactly.
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And a friend once tell me, you know, you stop entering into so many agreements with people
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that aren't usually official.
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And I thought, gosh, that is a really good way to look at things.
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I like that.
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Because it's not going to, you know, don't get me wrong.
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I still like to volunteer and I do that, but it brings me joy.
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If you're going to do something that isn't bringing you the joy.
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Well, I volunteer for something where your heart's not in it.
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That's right.
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Like one of the things I help out a lot with is domestic violence.
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Yes.
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Because Mary Kay's aligned with that.
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Right.
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But also the confidence for women.
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Yeah.
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You know, they say on average a woman's self esteem is highest at age 10.
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Oh, wow.
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It just breaks my heart.
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So how can we empower women and make people feel better and feel better?
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I understand that because I was 33 when I started going through this like mental health,
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basically crisis.
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And now when people have been telling me, I'm going to be your best and I'm like,
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oh, no, about that.
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I mean, I think 30 is like, they're hard.
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A decade where you kind of reevaluate them.
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Where am I?
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What am I doing?
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And then all the things on here, you know, you and I both don't have kids.
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And so that plays a lot into it.
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You know, if you've had children at that age, they might be going great.
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But for me, it's just been kind of just like 23 was also difficult.
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And, you know, we're deciding where you want to go and what you want to do.
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Yeah, exactly.
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So you created this amazing business and it is not just a store.
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It's not definitely don't want it to be.
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It is an experience.
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And that's what you've created.
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And I love like I'm when I'm down here, I just come to see you and experience it when
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I walked in the door the other day.
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And you were getting ready to close really what I walked in.
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That's okay.
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People hear you.
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I'll never close on you.
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I always see you.
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So you introduced me to somebody that wrote a devotional, which I've had in my hands
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the other day and I'm buying it.
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So, yeah, it's just, it's just, it's just you know, getting into, getting into the
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business of it and you know, just getting into the business of it and you know,
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just actually we will talk to just the, yeah, on the podcast.
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There were a couple girls trying on clothes and we were able to say, Oh,
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that looks good.
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No, I don't know about that.
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And there was something, you know, you could have been all about the mighty
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dollar, right.
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And there was a shirt that.
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Yeah.
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Sara, her, yeah.
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Sara was looking at and you're like, yeah, no, not today.
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and be confident with it and be happy with it and love it.
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And I try to make sure that when I leave here,
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if I can see them at the register with their wills,
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then I know how I am.
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You know, I do want to buy everything,
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but you just said you can't.
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And you're not gonna wear it and it's not making me happy.
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And if it's really making you sick to think about
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buying it, do not buy it.
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Yeah, and then you're gonna, every time you put it on,
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go, ugh, had to hide this from my husband.
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That's a facility just fine if you don't make that purchase.
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Exactly, exactly.
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I want you to come back and buy things that you love.
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Yep.
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So yeah, you evolve from online selling to a store.
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I know you have one in a marina,
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you have another pop-up and you open this store,
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which has probably took some courage and investment
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and putting yourself out there.
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It was a big decision because for me, pre-COVID,
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you know, and with still and bought, you know,
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I earned a lot of those trips,
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I was always traveling.
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We still like to travel,
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but the concept of having a brick and mortar,
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and probably also at the time in my life,
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I didn't have anybody that I knew was gonna be the person
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to run this store when I'm not here.
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It's one of the biggest things,
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is having your business not need you as much,
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or need you all the time.
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So you can have time for yourself,
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but pre-COVID, those things just weren't lined up.
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And so in my head, I thought I never will have a store,
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that was not the mission.
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Again, this did not start with the same product line,
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it was a lot more manageable.
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This was hard to manage, but I loved it.
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But yeah, so I ended up doing it because I said,
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you know, now that I'm in a place where if I need to go
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on vacation, and I do, I can do it,
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we all do at hand and things still run smooth.
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And so, you know, we've kind of progressed from all of that
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to now we still have the online portion,
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which is doing very well,
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and we had to continue to grow it.
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But in order for me to continue to grow,
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I'm bringing my mom on.
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So she's gonna become the Mercantile manager.
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Now she's the Mercantile mama,
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but she's gonna be the Mercantile manager.
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She's retiring, she's not super close to retirement,
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but I am retiring her to work with me.
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Yay!
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You know, that's it, you gotta have a strong team.
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And I know we talked one day,
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but we talked about getting help,
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and being able to delegate,
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and you know, we can't work all night, every night,
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and there's nothing to give back.
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That's right, it's not good for your mental health,
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and you know, going back to seeking help for mental issues,
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there's a huge stigma, as we all know,
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and that's one of the things that I've tried to voice
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and be very transparent with on Facebook,
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especially on Instagram,
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because I do realize I've got an audience of people
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who are looking, maybe they're not common,
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but they're watching, and so when I shared,
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you know, what I was going through,
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people were coming out of the woodworks, like,
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oh my gosh, you know, 65 year old man reached out,
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like, that's huge.
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Well, and I think that's the social media responsibility
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we have, and when we do have people following us,
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and people paying attention to us,
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you never know who's watching, and it's not about the likes,
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it's not about the comments,
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there's people watching behind the scenes,
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I often wear, and I have it on today, a starfish thing,
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because I do, do you know the story of the starfish?
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I do not know that.
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So there's a guy walking on the beach,
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and there were millions of stars on the beach,
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and he's picking them up and throwing them in the water,
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and they climb up and throw them in the water,
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and this other person walks up and he goes,
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what are you doing, you're never going to make a good person,
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you're going to make a difference.
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And he picked them up, threw them in the water,
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and said, I made a difference for that one.
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And so when you work with people, and anything you do,
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you never know who's watching, who's paying attention,
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and when you are on social media, you have an audience,
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you know, there's things I do that people make comment,
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and like, I have no idea what you're watching,
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you know, people that are listening to the podcast,
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I do an inspirational post.
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Let's make courage to make, do a podcast, right?
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It does.
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Like, everything that we decide to share takes courage.
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Whether it's the... When you share it with anybody,
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you know, sitting here on camera with a friend, you know,
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it takes courage.
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And I'm not perfect.
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I haven't been nervous at all, this has been great.
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You know, it's just a conversation.
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And it really always just share.
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It is.
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So, and let's go back to the store real quick.
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Sure.
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What I love about this is it isn't an experience,
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you walk in, you're greeted.
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Her dressing rooms, you guys, are almost as big as the store.
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They are, they're pretty big.
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You have.
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We did that for a reason that you know that, right?
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You know that.
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Well, I know one is Charleston and one is Nashville.
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Charleston and Savannah is the kind of the low country.
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Yeah.
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And then Nashville.
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And the reason that we kept them so big,
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number one is we already had a knockout like four walls.
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We were like, you know, what we've experienced in the past
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is that women love to come shop together, right?
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And whether it be mom and daughter,
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mom, daughter and baby, or gosh,
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a group of four to five women,
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that those dressing rooms will fit comfortably
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if you're willing to go in with your girlfriends
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and these ladies are, they go in there together
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and they're just in their pack one and laughing away
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and having the best time.
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So we're really able to do that.
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And then of course, the flex room is the national room
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that we use to serve on our buffet like food.
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We were having a good time.
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Because you do a lot of fun.
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We do a lot of events.
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A lot of food involved here because we love to eat.
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So and even if you walk in here by yourself,
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yes.
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You create friends.
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I know one time I was shopping with a friend
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and we were looking at something.
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And by the time we were done,
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we had a whole group of women.
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Right.
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And you know, you see something like,
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I don't know about that,
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somebody else try it on and see another combination.
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Like, yeah.
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I have that.
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If the room is full here,
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I always try to make connections because,
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you know, even if I've just met that person,
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I try to like listen to what they're saying
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and connect them with the person shopping beside them.
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And I've even had friends like one would walk out
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and I'd say, did y'all know each other before today?
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And they were like, no, we just met here.
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And I was like, in the way they were just interacting
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with each other, it just made me so happy.
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Well, I made three friends when I was in here.
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I wanted to make sure you had met the author
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of the book you'd been looking at.
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And you know, I like to connect people
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and I know you do too,
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but that's the biggest thing is just making sure
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that everybody knows everybody and like feels loved
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and they feel comfortable in this room.
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And the other thing too,
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I love about the dressing room, they're big.
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So you're not standing like this to a mirror.
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Right.
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And I think I shared with you the other day,
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the clothing store, she goes,
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I don't know if they still do this.
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They didn't have mirrors in the dressing room.
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Yeah, that's right.
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So you come out and somebody's like,
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oh, let's try this and this and this.
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Let's try that.
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Because, you know, we do want to be affirmed
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and we do want, you know, I don't want to buy stuff.
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We ask every lady that goes in, if you feel comfortable,
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be sure to come out and show us, we'd love to see it.
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And then we can really talk to them and truthful, you know,
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if it doesn't fit, we got a lot of pre-tools right now
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that want to shop for clothes bigger
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than they really need to be wearing.
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So I have to tell them, you need to really size down
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and it'll show your figure.
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And they really appreciate that because, you know,
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especially if mom's not with them
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or maybe mom's not around anymore.
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And you don't know, you know,
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you need somebody else to affirm and to tell us,
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oh, that was good.
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Yeah, then no girl, that's not the color.
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I interviewed somebody on this before
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that talked about fashion and she was like,
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oh, bless that with somebody else.
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Like, if you have some of your closet,
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that's a good story, yeah.
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That's right.
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If you have a blessing to somebody else.
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That's right, yeah.
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That's right, I love it.
20:52
So, well, so you are a book, or a store,
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but also online, if you can shop.
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I know a couple of my friends are shopping.
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Yeah.
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So I told them about you.
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Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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But so, we do ship all over the US.
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Yeah, so we'll talk about the and how people connect with you.
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Yeah.
21:08
So, we'll talk about how would you encourage somebody else
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to be courageous?
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How would I encourage someone else to be courageous?
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Maybe get help, mental health,
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if that's an issue or to start a business
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or just to do the scary things.
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How would you encourage somebody else?
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All above, I mean, gosh, you know,
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sometimes it takes, for me, it's doing that brain dump
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of like, what's going on?
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Like, what is the number one thing that you want to focus on
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and start there?
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Because once you've done the one courageous thing,
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then it kind of keeps.
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Yeah, absolutely.
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It's all set.
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And so, like, you know, we spoke about,
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it's been in the store, it took a lot of prayer
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and talking with my husband about,
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do we have time for this?
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Do, you know.
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It's a lot of time involved.
21:49
It's not going to affect your entire relationship.
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Your entire family.
21:52
Exactly.
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So, yeah, just to be courageous is to, you know,
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write it all down, get it out of your head.
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That's going to make you feel better, first of all.
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Oh, absolutely.
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Then just tackle those issues one by one
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and just do the set aside all the insecurities.
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Like I said before, don't worry about what other people say.
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We're so bad at that.
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Please stop, because I worried so much.
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And then we take advice from the people we don't even like.
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Exactly.
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And we don't.
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And definitely don't do that.
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Yeah.
22:18
Especially, like I said, if they're not on the path
22:20
to do anything related to what you want to do,
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those are the people who are never going to grow
22:25
because they're just trying to tell everybody else what to do
22:27
or what's wrong and what's right.
22:29
Oh, you've heard the story of the crab, right?
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No.
22:31
The crab pot.
22:32
So you put crabs in a pot.
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Yeah.
22:34
And the one tries to escape and the other one's going down
22:35
and one tries to escape and the other.
22:37
So people are like that.
22:38
Yeah.
22:38
We don't want to see you successful.
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Because they're scared to be successful.
22:41
I've got another similar story.
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The church group years ago when I was little,
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it was such a great lesson.
22:46
The teacher had one person sit on top of a table,
22:49
just sit on the table, and the other person is on the floor.
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And they're trying to pull them up.
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And how easy it was for the person that was already down
22:57
to pull the person up as opposed to the person who pulled them
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up.
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It's a lot harder to pull people up.
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Yeah.
23:02
And so, yeah.
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I'm here to pull people up, though.
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I don't care how hard it is.
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You do a good job of it.
23:07
And you do a great job.
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Thank you, Judy, too.
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Oh, thank you.
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And I'm fine.
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I love hanging out with you.
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Me, too.
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Yeah.
23:12
It's fun to have an in-person.
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Yeah.
23:14
All right.
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So people are probably wondering, how the heck do I
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get something cute something?
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It's a lot of pink, which brings a lot to pink.
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What's that mean?
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I mean, I'm wearing black, which is a no-no in this store.
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I will say.
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Jumping cat.
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I do have a pink cat.
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We did the black to be a little bit.
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And pink lips.
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Same, same.
23:32
But yeah, so what are we telling them?
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Where they can chop?
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Where they can saw off?
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How they can find you?
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So it is just jbonbishop.com.
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Super simple, jbonbishop.com.
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They can look on there.
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And what I love about the local folks here
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is that we do a pork pick up or an in-store pick up.
23:50
So you can reserve something when you're in town
23:53
and make sure you have it.
23:55
And then you get to decide if you
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need to come in the store or not.
23:58
And then we also, of course, ship all over the United States.
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And then on social media, we love
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to have you be a part of our group, which is Jbonbishop,
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which is so funny.
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Did I tell you that the other day?
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No.
24:11
Think about it.
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Bishop, the last part of my name says shop.
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So I went in and capitalized my group's name to Jbonbishop.
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Jbonbishop working in town.
24:21
That's just a group name.
24:23
But then you also have my Facebook page and my Instagram,
24:26
which is also the handle.
24:27
And we'll share all those links with everybody.
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My name is a little crazy.
24:31
A little long.
24:32
It's like, what is it?
24:33
It's just fun.
24:34
And it's not an exotic name.
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It's Jessica Bondbishop.
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People have always said we thought it was Jbon.
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I'm like, it's just basic.
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Just a safe place.
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Just a girl from the country.
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That's OK.
24:44
And that's right.
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And yeah, so if you're coming to Smithmell Lake,
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you've got to come visit her.
24:48
Or go online.
24:49
And then everything comes from the right.
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Yeah.
24:52
And I'll say this.
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And Leslie mentioned it earlier.
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I've been here my whole life.
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Not only when you come in here, I mean, obviously,
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we'd love for you to look around.
25:00
But we are here to provide all the information you want.
25:03
So if you need somewhere good to eat,
25:04
we will tell you.
25:05
If you need somewhere else to go shopping,
25:08
we'll help you with that.
25:09
We'll tell you about Renau-Gill-Lindberg.
25:11
Like, we're kind of like one-stop shop here.
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You are a good referral.
25:14
One of the places when I'm coming down here going through
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Danville is stopping at the pot.
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Yes.
25:19
Oh, gosh.
25:19
I always stop there.
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Shout out to Peyton at the pot and come out.
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I always stop there in between.
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That's right.
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And it's the other day.
25:24
And I always think of you.
25:25
So yeah.
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Good place.
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I've been here long enough to do all the little back roads
25:29
and all the in-between.
25:30
I think I'm getting there.
25:31
Yeah.
25:32
You're doing very good.
25:33
So we'll share on the show notes where to find the save on.
25:36
Yeah.
25:36
That's right.
25:37
We also have, I don't know, lots of why not today's way.
25:41
There's a few little guys.
25:41
We've got cups.
25:42
We have t-shirts.
25:44
We have vinyl.
25:45
My second favorite color.
25:46
This is, yeah.
25:46
Yeah.
25:47
So we're picking this.
25:48
We've got all different colors.
25:49
Also, what can I do in a journal?
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OK.
25:52
Yeah.
25:52
Yeah.
25:53
Yeah.
25:54
And brain-washing.
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Yeah.
25:55
I think they go hand in hand.
25:56
Journals are good.
25:57
Yeah.
25:57
Yeah.
25:58
For sure.
25:58
So, all right.
25:59
Oh, I forgot the other thing too.
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I always try to connect people back to my dad.
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Like, how do I know my dad?
26:04
Right.
26:05
Well, and so I always try with the conversation
26:07
like how we connect back.
26:08
So I think for you, you're very much a part of the community.
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My dad and the community plan are big with community.
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He actually started the chamber.
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OK.
26:15
I remember you telling me that.
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That's amazing.
26:17
You were the one that encouraged me to join the chamber down here.
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Yeah.
26:20
And so you all.
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Anybody, any chamber people like in your community, join them.
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They're awesome.
26:26
Yeah.
26:26
And I think you're also about community.
26:28
Just like you said.
26:29
When you come in here, you're going to first of all,
26:31
get to know people.
26:31
Figure out how you connect, what you did masterfully.
26:34
And then you're going to share where the places go,
26:37
what it's things to do.
26:38
Right.
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And just make people feel important that you do a great job.
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Thank you, Leslie.
26:42
Thank you.
26:43
You're welcome.
26:43
Right back at you.
26:44
Well, it's been super fun.
26:45
I love the conversation.
26:46
I think just sitting here, I'm thinking,
26:48
ooh, I might have to go do a little shopping.
26:50
A little private party.
26:52
Private shopping.
26:53
I love it.
26:53
Yes.
26:53
All right.
26:54
We can do that.
26:55
So thanks again for sharing your story.
26:57
We'll share how we're making it to talk to you.
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