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EPISODE 9: "When The Dads Got The Mic...And We Got Anxiety" · It's Mom O'Clock

• 0:01
  Speaker A: Hello.
• 0:02
  Speaker B: You guys, stop. Is it Mama Clock yet? I'm going crazy.
• 0:07
  Speaker A: Heck yeah, it's Mama Clock Somewhere.
• 0:31
  Speaker B: You doing a cheer?
• 0:35
  Speaker A: 1, 2, 3, 4. Who do we appreciate more? Father.
• 0:42
  Speaker B: Sit your ass down.
• 0:44
  Speaker A: 1, 2, 3, 4. Who do we appreciate more? Fathers.
• 0:47
  Speaker B: Oh, she's still got it.
• 0:51
  Speaker A: No, really.
• 0:53
  Speaker B: Did you know that I was a cheerleader also?
• 0:55
  Speaker A: Don't even try to play with me today.
• 0:57
  Speaker C: I'm not moving.
• 0:58
  Speaker A: Not in the mood for that.
• 1:00
  Speaker B: Episode nine. It is Mama Cock Somewhere and somewhere is here Today. Special episode. Because we have Daddy's in the house.
• 1:15
  Speaker A: Why, though?
• 1:16
  Speaker B: Because it's Father's Day weekend and we thought we'd switch it up with a little fun.
• 1:20
  Speaker A: And in true chaotic fashion, we're flipping the script.
• 1:25
  Speaker B: What are we doing?
• 1:26
  Speaker A: I am going to be interviewing Emily's husband, Joe. He's.
• 1:30
  Speaker B: Hello?
• 1:31
  Speaker A: Hell no. And Emily's going to be interviewing my husband, Michael.
• 1:35
  Speaker B: So excited.
• 1:36
  Speaker A: We're very excited. The boys are in the hot seat today. They're currently chugging espresso martinis. Nervous as hell.
• 1:44
  Speaker B: They should be pregaming for the pod.
• 1:46
  Speaker A: They're actually really excited.
• 1:47
  Speaker B: No, they're cute.
• 1:48
  Speaker A: They're handsome as ever.
• 1:50
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:50
  Speaker A: But we figured we switch it up. It's Father's Day weekend.
• 1:53
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 1:53
  Speaker A: We have to appreciate our founding fathers.
• 1:56
  Speaker B: Which are our husbands, who are the father of our children.
• 2:00
  Speaker A: Correct.
• 2:01
  Speaker B: And we appreciate them, so we want them to be involved in our world. Everything. My husband thinks he's a celebrity today.
• 2:08
  Speaker C: He is.
• 2:09
  Speaker A: And my husband just is always. He does everything. So he's just always a celebrity. So anywho, just got it. There's no rules.
• 2:18
  Speaker B: The rules are there are no rules. That's my favorite way to be. I love that I live my life that way. Let's get started.
• 2:24
  Speaker A: Okay. Also, thank you for subscribing. We appreciate you.
• 2:27
  Speaker B: Yeah, keep doing that. If you're new here.
• 2:30
  Speaker A: If you're new here. Hi, I'm your co host.
• 2:32
  Speaker B: So they're my opinion people. Because it was the last day of school and the moms ready to listen. No, no. The moms told the teachers at my son's school and the teachers are in. So. Hi, teachers.
• 2:43
  Speaker A: Hi, I'm your co host, Dominique Divisio.
• 2:45
  Speaker B: And I am Emily d' Annunzio.
• 2:46
  Speaker A: And it's Mama Talk Somewhere. Okay, let's do it. Okay, Jo.
• 2:51
  Speaker B: I'm exiting the building and my husband is entering also.
• 2:55
  Speaker A: We teed up last episode.
• 2:57
  Speaker B: We were pumped up. We were pumped up for the boat.
• 3:01
  Speaker A: For juicy tits. We were having juicy tits on my dad's boat. We had a videographer. We were going to shoot content and just have the time of our lives. Lives. And what happened? Canceled thunderstorms.
• 3:16
  Speaker B: This rain has been terrible.
• 3:17
  Speaker A: We had to cancel. We have to reschedule. We haven't yet, but we will do that. We're very excited for our druzy tits. And that's all I have to say. So can you go? Yeah.
• 3:26
  Speaker B: Bye, honey.
• 3:27
  Speaker A: Come on, honey.
• 3:28
  Speaker B: Oh, my God, I'm so excited.
• 3:29
  Speaker A: All right, so we're gonna go. My son has his new language.
• 3:35
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah, you don't speak.
• 3:36
  Speaker A: Baby, you do. Anyhow, we have our first guest.
• 3:41
  Speaker B: Yes.
• 3:42
  Speaker A: My husband, Joseph d' Annunzio.
• 3:44
  Speaker B: He's coming.
• 3:45
  Speaker A: He's ready. He's currently eyeing me down, so he's excited.
• 3:49
  Speaker B: You should behave yourselves.
• 3:54
  Speaker A: Father of three, under five. We're excited to have him. You all pro? Please. I don't know if he's going to be able to fit in this room. Okay, ready?
• 4:02
  Speaker B: One.
• 4:03
  Speaker A: She's a horse.
• 4:04
  Speaker B: There.
• 4:04
  Speaker A: Oh, God.
• 4:05
  Speaker B: He's going to let it. Let it rip, baby. Laugh.
• 4:08
  Speaker A: I'm so scared.
• 4:09
  Speaker B: Her trigger words are vomit.
• 4:11
  Speaker A: No, no.
• 4:12
  Speaker B: I'm already triggered.
• 4:13
  Speaker A: I'm sweating.
• 4:14
  Speaker B: All right, gotta go. Love you.
• 4:16
  Speaker A: You wanna hug?
• 4:17
  Speaker D: Look at that. Do you need it?
• 4:18
  Speaker B: That was.
• 4:19
  Speaker A: Do you need it? Welcome. My honey. My second honey.
• 4:24
  Speaker D: What's up?
• 4:24
  Speaker A: You actually look good in the topsy.
• 4:26
  Speaker D: Thank you.
• 4:27
  Speaker A: Hi, Joseph.
• 4:28
  Speaker D: Hi, Dean.
• 4:29
  Speaker A: I've missed you.
• 4:30
  Speaker D: I've also known as Dominique.
• 4:31
  Speaker A: I miss you so much.
• 4:32
  Speaker D: What's going on?
• 4:33
  Speaker A: Not much. I'm so happy to have you. I'm so on Mama Claus Valley Junior.
• 4:37
  Speaker D: First off, thanks for having me. Don't forget, guys like Comment subscribe the Mac.
• 4:43
  Speaker A: Did you prepare him?
• 4:44
  Speaker B: I don't need to, baby.
• 4:47
  Speaker A: Well, thank you for saying. I just have to say it. Fama. Shoot. You want to go by Joe or Joey? Oh, right.
• 4:55
  Speaker D: Joe.
• 4:56
  Speaker A: All right, so you're going by Joe. We're not doing Joey.
• 4:58
  Speaker C: Correct.
• 4:59
  Speaker A: Okay.
• 4:59
  Speaker D: Joey's no son.
• 5:00
  Speaker A: Facts.
• 5:01
  Speaker D: That's how you separate Joey.
• 5:02
  Speaker A: Yes, Deb. Three, four, three and almost two. I have to ask, how's your nervous system?
• 5:12
  Speaker D: It's okay. I mean, look, our house is a circus 24 7.
• 5:16
  Speaker A: Yeah, but you're like so opposite of your wife. So when it's a circus, what is your feelings through your veins?
• 5:27
  Speaker D: Depends on what's. What's going on? Depends on what the situation is. You know, I'm the one that lays the law down in the house. And we know she's the one that, you know, brings the chaos with them.
• 5:38
  Speaker A: So tell because we forgot to mention.
• 5:40
  Speaker B: Our story of the week.
• 5:41
  Speaker A: I'll have your husband do it. Tell us what happened last night.
• 5:45
  Speaker D: Last night.
• 5:46
  Speaker A: This portrays your relationship. Go ahead.
• 5:50
  Speaker D: Pretty much. But. So last night I went out with the guys. I got home late. Emily put all the kids to bed like she. It always does, typically does. And you know, 1:30 I, I get in the bed, 2:00 clock, one of the kids gets up.
• 6:06
  Speaker A: 2:00Am yes. What time did you get home last night?
• 6:10
  Speaker D: About one.
• 6:12
  Speaker A: Where were you?
• 6:13
  Speaker D: We went out to the Matouchen Inn and then we went to Paley's down the street.
• 6:18
  Speaker A: So 1am you get in 2am Your kid wakes up.
• 6:20
  Speaker D: Kids kid started with once, okay Cuz.
• 6:23
  Speaker A: She your old ass.
• 6:24
  Speaker D: This was the youngest, 22 month old. So puts him back to bed. Later on around 4am Both Vienna and Joey both get up. Currently they're sharing a room because Joey.
• 6:37
  Speaker A: Wakes up Rocco and are you dead asleep and they come into your room?
• 6:40
  Speaker D: I was a little drunk, so. So yeah.
• 6:44
  Speaker A: So were you scared or were you like what the fuck?
• 6:47
  Speaker D: No, I wasn't. I mean I sleep like a rock. So I do toss and turn, you know, I started tossing and turning and I felt, you know, a little person kicking me and on top of my. So it went on for probably a good half hour or so. And around 4:30 or I got up, I looked at him as she's tried to put them.
• 7:06
  Speaker A: What was she doing?
• 7:08
  Speaker D: She was snuggling Vienna like it's okay.
• 7:10
  Speaker A: Baby, it's too am getting bed.
• 7:11
  Speaker D: Yeah. At this time it was four, so even better she instead of, she tried to put them back to bed once. They both freaked out. So she said all right, just come into bed with us. Well, at this point I'm trying to get some sleep after getting home at 1:30 a little bit drunk. And she decides that, you know, we'll just snuggle in bed and whatnot.
• 7:31
  Speaker A: Happy go lucky, it's fine.
• 7:33
  Speaker D: And I get up at 4:30, I stand up and I tell the voice.
• 7:38
  Speaker A: All two of them are in bed with you.
• 7:40
  Speaker D: So it's Emily, Vienna, Joey, me. I stand up and I yell at the two of them. They both have beds. Get back in your bed. You're not sleeping with us. Right away, both kids get up, walk back to the room and go right back to sleep.
• 7:57
  Speaker A: No questions asked.
• 7:58
  Speaker D: No questions asked.
• 7:59
  Speaker A: I can't.
• 8:00
  Speaker D: Meanwhile she's been trying to put him back to bed hours, probably half hour, 45 minutes.
• 8:05
  Speaker A: And you just stood up and said get the fuck in Bed and then didn't say Pifa went to bed and.
• 8:09
  Speaker D: Told him I woke up the bill rest pretty much.
• 8:11
  Speaker A: I can.
• 8:12
  Speaker D: I mean, Joey still got up by six, 6:30.
• 8:15
  Speaker A: That's your role in the house. Like you are the Gustavo.
• 8:18
  Speaker D: I'm Gestapo Joe.
• 8:19
  Speaker A: You are. And she just. But they listened to you the first.
• 8:24
  Speaker C: Time for the most part.
• 8:26
  Speaker A: Joey, you're a little scary.
• 8:29
  Speaker D: Someone got me. They laugh at her when she yells.
• 8:34
  Speaker A: They definitely laugh at her when she fucking yells. I laugh at her when she yells. I can't. That's crazy. I have too much anxiety to be up at 4 o' clock. I have another question for you though. What's something you thought you'd be good at as a dad? Because now it's been five years as you as a dad, but turned out to be like the complete opposite. You're not so good as a dad.
• 8:55
  Speaker D: So this is a tough one because as I was growing up, we're getting serious. Yeah, it's fine. Anything's available.
• 9:02
  Speaker A: We're going at it right now.
• 9:04
  Speaker D: I would say as I was growing up particularly this is. I always thought I'd have kids. I always thought I'd be a father.
• 9:10
  Speaker A: A lot of kids you thought you had, you would have.
• 9:11
  Speaker D: I mean, as me and Emily have been together since we were children. So, you know, we talked about it numerous times. She always wanted five. I said three. He had two. I would have been okay with two because we had one of each. And then Rocco came and. No, he's been a blessing. But I think we're done. We're good here.
• 9:31
  Speaker A: Are you getting sniffed?
• 9:32
  Speaker D: Yes.
• 9:33
  Speaker A: This is not your turn.
• 9:34
  Speaker D: There's not going to be.
• 9:35
  Speaker A: There's absolutely not. Possibly not. We'll get there. But anyway, can you answer my question? You said that like, what would you. What did you think you would be good at as a dad? And you're just not.
• 9:44
  Speaker D: So I, I can't say at, at the beginning of this, where I was going was. I don't know particularly if I would say I was. I, I never really like dreamt of it. Like, yes, I had. I thought about having kids when I was younger. I didn't think that I would particularly. It's not something that like I thought about more frequently. Yeah, I had nephews and everything else and that's who I would be around and everything else. But until I have my own kid. That's kind of when you try and mold yourself. And my dad was one of my role models. Anything he tried to do, I tried to emulate. Because still try to emulate. I wish he was here today to be able to see my kids. And that's probably the toughest part about him passing. Not being able to see the grandkids. I don't know if there's something that I think that comes to mind right now that I would say I thought I'd be really good at that I'm not.
• 10:32
  Speaker A: What about as you've been a dad, Like, I thought I was gonna. Like, as you been taking care of your kids, you know, your oldest is almost turning five. What do you do now that you're like, I'm not really good at this, and you, like, lead to your life. Like, maybe you thought like, I thought I would be good at this, but I'm just not. Or you just couldn't fucking everything. You could say that.
• 10:53
  Speaker D: Also, I think it's tough because there's so many things that she does that I don't do because I'm not around as much because I could do it if I had to. Yes.
• 11:02
  Speaker A: So you're just a 10 out of 10 years with everything. Okay, don't bother.
• 11:05
  Speaker D: I wouldn't say that. There's plenty of stuff that I'm not good at that she's definitely way better at. She's definitely way better dealing with kids and putting them to bed and all that routine. Yes. She's got the routine down with them. Can I do it? Yes.
• 11:18
  Speaker A: But I'm shocked because you are so routine esque.
• 11:22
  Speaker D: Yeah.
• 11:22
  Speaker A: Are you not?
• 11:23
  Speaker D: No, I definitely am. I mean, I get up early for work. I get home late from work. And while I'm home, you know, you try and do what you can to spend time with them. So that routine that I have with them is not really what.
• 11:34
  Speaker A: So say roll the reverse. Emily gets up, goes to work the same time you do, leaves for the day. You're the stay at home dad. What's your morning routine with them? Do you think it's very different than Emily Sier?
• 11:46
  Speaker D: I do, because like you said, I'm very regimented. I'm very structured in that. In that sense. And for her, it's the complete opposite. She's going with the flow. And that's kind of why we're yin and yang. So I think that portion of it is.
• 12:01
  Speaker A: So you think you would be very scheduled. Same routine every day, Morning routine, nap routine, bedtime routine. Like, there would be no go with the flow.
• 12:12
  Speaker D: There's definitely some. I mean, a portion of it. And I don't know if we'll touch on this later. But, like, when she goes out with her friends or she comes here to record podcasts late at night or whatever.
• 12:21
  Speaker A: Do you mimic her routine when she's gone, or are you doing your own thing?
• 12:24
  Speaker D: No, I do anything. And the kids are vastly different between.
• 12:27
  Speaker A: She used to tell me, like, he's like, they're being so good right now. They're laying all day on the couch, eating a snack, watching tv. And meanwhile, she sent me videos. They're jumping off the walls when she's on them. So obviously, you just have schedules of that.
• 12:39
  Speaker D: I don't know it's particularly scheduled. They just know I mean business. Like, if I'm. If I yell at them, that's. That's it. We're. We're done. We're not, you know, so, you know, there's been times where she comes here and she's like, how's it. How's it going? Like, we're. We haven't started yet. Don just did my makeup. Whatever. We're good. I just found dinner. They're.
• 12:58
  Speaker A: They're sitting in the couch, hands and feet crossed on the couch.
• 13:00
  Speaker D: Yeah, and that's what it is. I mean, she likes to try and put them down at a certain bedtime with that regimen. For me, I know Rocco's got to go to bed early, so I put Rocco down, and then me. And I don't see him as much as she's with them all day long. So. Yeah. And typically, because right now, Joey and Vienna are sharing a room, because Joey wakes up, Rocco always stays on the couch with me. Later, he falls asleep on the couch, and then I carry him up to bed. So it's kind of like I let them dictate. And Vienna's pretty good about saying, like, I'm tired. I'm ready to go to bed. She gives a hard time when she's not there because she likes when I only put her to bed.
• 13:37
  Speaker A: But crazy.
• 13:37
  Speaker C: I just let it ride.
• 13:38
  Speaker A: Yeah, well, because you're not with him all the time. Does that make sense? But you know what's crazy, though? Like, I feel like I know you so well, but I don't know, because Emily has said stuff about you as a dad. Like, you told me the other day you braided your daughter's hair, brushed it, braided it, and put her to bed when Emily was. I think we were out.
• 13:54
  Speaker C: But you're here recording.
• 13:55
  Speaker A: Oh, we're recording. But, like, it's so crazy how much you don't know someone so close to you as a dad or a father.
• 14:03
  Speaker D: Well, it's the first time I've ever braided her hair. But you know, do you want nails to braid? So you just, you figured I will.
• 14:08
  Speaker A: Not start talking about it. But I just feel like you can know somebody so well, but you just don't know them as a father. Like, what did you tell me the other day? Emily was like, you are the dad that goes into a toy store and buys all the toys for your kids.
• 14:21
  Speaker D: Yeah, it's a problem.
• 14:23
  Speaker A: I don't know why I just didn't picture you to be that. Yeah, she said you got it from.
• 14:27
  Speaker B: Oh, joke.
• 14:28
  Speaker A: But I'm saying like, I didn't think that would be you. Not that you wouldn't do it, but I think that was your job.
• 14:33
  Speaker D: Yeah, I try and tone it down.
• 14:35
  Speaker A: Because, you know, I feel like you yell at Emily for buying so many toys, but you're the one going to the store and buying so many toys.
• 14:41
  Speaker D: That's a different since she's doing it daily and I do it every so often.
• 14:45
  Speaker A: Throwing her under the bus. No, but I like love. I love. This is why I love this because I'm going to get to know you more as a father and I. And I feel like I'm going to get to know your dad more knowing what you like to do as a dad. Like you said, you mimic what your father did growing up. And she said that that's what Uncle Joey used to do by all the tortoise. That was like his thing.
• 15:06
  Speaker D: Oh yeah.
• 15:06
  Speaker A: I love that.
• 15:07
  Speaker D: He was a big late time infomercial guy too.
• 15:10
  Speaker A: I love that. Wait, what does that mean?
• 15:13
  Speaker D: So he was up late nights, late night infomercials would come on. One of the ones was vacuums. And he could never just buy one. He'd buy six. He'd buy one for himself or two for himself in Florida. He'd buy two for me, one for my upstairs, one for downstairs. He'd buy two for my sister. And then every so often, if he was dating someone or whatever, he'd buy a couple extras. I mean, he did vacuums.
• 15:38
  Speaker A: That is so true. He would just buy seven vacuums. Seven air fryers. Anybody need an air fryer?
• 15:45
  Speaker C: Actually.
• 15:45
  Speaker D: What happened? He sent them all to my sister.
• 15:47
  Speaker A: Well, you need a fucking air fryer. Keep borrowing mine. Actually, you still have it.
• 15:52
  Speaker D: I do. My son loves the wings on it.
• 15:55
  Speaker A: So it sucks.
• 15:56
  Speaker B: Rocco likes putting popules in it too.
• 15:58
  Speaker A: Oh my God. I can't find Rokin. Anywho, love that so much. What? Getting a little bit sentimental. Can you sit like it sure. Getting a little bit sentimental here. What do you wish that one or all of your kids say about you when they're older? Like now? Like, when I walk around, I say, like, my dad's legacy is just, like, helping people. He's the guy you call, like, what do you want your children or child or anybody to say?
• 16:29
  Speaker D: I go up to all of them. Just a couple of things I think I would say is, number one, I'm always there, no matter the situation or, you know, I try. If. If they have something going on at school or whatever else, I leave work to make sure I'm there. I want them to make sure that they know that I'm there for them no matter what it is.
• 16:46
  Speaker A: Do you think you're going to be the parent that, like, for instance, if, God forbid, I say I get into a car accident, like, I am not calling my mom. Other scream on the top of her mom's like, the house is on fire. My dad, no questions asked. We're just getting a car to come. Like, my mom would just make it a big deal because she's just a nervous person like that. Like, do you think they'd be scared to call Daddy if they, I don't know, put a hole in the wall or something like that?
• 17:10
  Speaker D: No, they're definitely scared to call me to put a hole in the wall. That happened.
• 17:14
  Speaker A: That's why I said it.
• 17:15
  Speaker D: There's unconditional love. They know at the end of the day, you know, he told me and that that was what it was. We fixed it. Aside from that, just to know that, like, I try to be able. I fix things. I try. And, yeah. To do anything. I want them to. To strive for greatness, to be able to work hard, to be able to complete things. You know, so them seeing me do work around the house and the kids wanting to help me do things, that's a big portion of it.
• 17:41
  Speaker A: And you feel like Joey's your oldest. Is. I feel like we were at your house the other day, and what did you do? You asked him to put his shoes on and he came outside to do what? Oh, clean up his golf balls.
• 17:52
  Speaker D: Yeah.
• 17:53
  Speaker A: So that, to me is like, you taught him. That's what we do. Put your shoes on, come outside and clean up the backyard.
• 17:59
  Speaker D: I mean, also, big difference between Emily and I is I try. If we'll have fun, do one thing, clean up that one thing, and then we'll go to the next. We're not going to blow the house up.
• 18:12
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 18:12
  Speaker D: And then you're going to be Too tired to go clean.
• 18:15
  Speaker A: It also makes your life easier, and.
• 18:16
  Speaker D: That leans on us to go back and pick up all the pieces.
• 18:19
  Speaker A: Is that how you grew up?
• 18:20
  Speaker D: Oh, yeah.
• 18:21
  Speaker A: Like, you cleaned up your mess?
• 18:23
  Speaker D: There was no. I grew up. I grew up with Jeannie, who was our. Our nanny at the time. She's. She was really, really strict. And my mom used to pick our plates up and clean under our plates as we were eating dinner, literally. So there's.
• 18:39
  Speaker A: Was your dad like that, too?
• 18:40
  Speaker D: No, my dad was a tornado.
• 18:44
  Speaker A: Like, how did that work, like, in the household? Was it like a shincha? It's hard for people who are OCD clean to live with people who are.
• 18:52
  Speaker D: Well, we used to say as we were growing up, like, we need a TV show, a reality TV show about my house. A. Because my Jamaican nanny was crazy.
• 19:01
  Speaker A: The Jamaican nanny gets.
• 19:02
  Speaker D: She was crazy.
• 19:03
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 19:03
  Speaker D: My dad was perennial. My mom was a clean freak. And then you had me and my sister throwing the mix. Mike was at our house three quarters of the time. And then Emily and my sister's husband, Steve, have been around forever, too. We're both high school sweethearts.
• 19:15
  Speaker A: But you always had the parties at your house. So does your mom have a fit?
• 19:18
  Speaker D: They didn't know. I was fortunate enough that my parents had a very large house, that the basement was three or four levels down, you know, and I never had bangers. I had my close friends of. You know, we had 10 to 15 people. We kept it respectful, and that was it, you know, so it was never crazy.
• 19:37
  Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, my God, that's so hard because you're. But you never really complained about her tornado. Like, I feel like you're very split clean and. And ocd. Like, everything in order.
• 19:46
  Speaker D: She hears it.
• 19:47
  Speaker A: She hears it.
• 19:47
  Speaker D: Oh, yeah.
• 19:48
  Speaker A: Well, she said that, but she's gotten a lot better.
• 19:50
  Speaker D: She has gotten better. It gets to points where, like, I hit the breaking point.
• 19:54
  Speaker A: Did you. So did you actually have a breaking point where you're like, I can't fucking live like this anymore?
• 19:58
  Speaker D: Oh, yeah, it happen. It happens every so often.
• 20:01
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah, it's.
• 20:02
  Speaker A: Let me ask you something, because I know we're very similar. I know we fist fight, but it's all with love. Like, I'll kiss you. Random, of course. But I'm saying, sometimes I hit my. My husband's. I say this all the time. I say this often, too. Like, when you walk into your house, like, when you don't say it, does it actually, like, irk you inside?
• 20:22
  Speaker D: Oh, 100%.
• 20:22
  Speaker A: Okay. Same. My house is, like, pretty Put together.
• 20:27
  Speaker D: You could tell what day of the week it is based on who was at my house, based on when I walk in. I'll leave it at that.
• 20:34
  Speaker A: Do you always say something or you're.
• 20:35
  Speaker D: Just like, I don't always say something.
• 20:37
  Speaker A: But does it ever put you in a mood?
• 20:39
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 20:40
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 20:40
  Speaker D: I won't. Won't deny that.
• 20:42
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 20:42
  Speaker C: Same.
• 20:43
  Speaker A: Especially clean house is everything to me. I swear to God.
• 20:45
  Speaker D: And a long time ago, we. We decided, she's in charge of the inside, I'm in charge of the outside.
• 20:51
  Speaker C: I didn't know that.
• 20:52
  Speaker D: That was well before kids. But there are some things that I said, like, look, I'm going to work 10, 12, 14 hours a day. You go outside. You can't let them throw everything everywhere. You got to clean up something.
• 21:06
  Speaker A: And do you think it's gotten better? It's a lot, right? I feel like it is when you have that, you know, you just want to walk into a clean. Especially when you're out all day, you want to walk into a clean house.
• 21:17
  Speaker D: And I can't. Look, I can't.
• 21:20
  Speaker A: Just has three kids, so it's like, you understand.
• 21:24
  Speaker D: I can't compare myself to that because I don't. I'm not with all three of them all day long. And nor.
• 21:30
  Speaker A: She's probably like, you don't understand. They're crazy. I'm trying.
• 21:33
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 21:34
  Speaker A: She has a side, too.
• 21:35
  Speaker D: And I would. I would never be able to do what she does. She does a great job doing it. She loves doing it. She doesn't complain about it. She does it, and she's awesome. I could never do that. It's not my personality. It's not who I am.
• 21:47
  Speaker A: That's a good point.
• 21:48
  Speaker D: And like I said, the kids are way different with me than they are with her. Because when she, like. And she gets so mad at it, because when she goes out and does things, when she comes home, everything's in place, everything's clean, the kids are there, and she's like, I don't understand.
• 22:04
  Speaker A: Were you ever at a point where you're like. Because you just said when you're there, it's like, boom, boom, boom. When you come home with her watching the kids, it's like. I mean, it's different. But were you ever like, I don't understand how I could do this, and the house is clean, the kids are listening to me, or you just knew you guys are different. You understand what I'm saying? Like, did you just. You guys are just different and that's that? Or were you ever At. In questioning. Like, I don't understand why I'm doing it and you can't do it.
• 22:32
  Speaker D: I think it's more. I. I understand the difference.
• 22:35
  Speaker B: The kids, like I was.
• 22:36
  Speaker D: That's so. Like, the kids have three different personalities. It's everyone's personal.
• 22:41
  Speaker A: All kids are different with their mom and their dad.
• 22:42
  Speaker D: But it's personality with Emily. Yeah. It's personality with. With me, and it's personality with both of us.
• 22:47
  Speaker A: Right.
• 22:47
  Speaker D: So when it's Emily free for all, or her mom, you know, when it's with me, it's very regimented. They understand the rules. This is what we're doing. We're not. We're not deviating from that. And if they do, they get yelled at because that's.
• 23:00
  Speaker A: And then they don't want to get yelled at, so they just don't.
• 23:03
  Speaker D: And. And then with both of us, there's a fine line because they try and play us against each other to see who will do what.
• 23:10
  Speaker A: They were like, well, Daddy lets me do this. Well, Mommy lets me do this.
• 23:13
  Speaker D: And we try and have united front that if one of us says one thing, that's what it is. And my biggest thing, especially with Joey, because Joey is so persistent where he'll attack, attack, attack, attack, attack, until he gets what he wants.
• 23:24
  Speaker C: Right.
• 23:25
  Speaker D: And when I say no, that means no. I'm not changing my mind with her. If he. If he attacks her enough, she flips.
• 23:33
  Speaker A: I feel like that's just the mom thing.
• 23:35
  Speaker D: Yeah, so just flip.
• 23:37
  Speaker A: So you understand when the assignment. When she's home and when you're home. And sometimes she just can't. But I just. I was just asking the question. Cause I know it's hard from somebody who is like this to walk in and is like, oh, my God, enough is enough. I can't stand walk into a house like this. I mean, I'm not saying it's like disgusting, but when you're so. Your side of the, you know. Well, so mine, it's hard.
• 23:58
  Speaker D: We turned our basement into a playroom. Yeah.
• 24:00
  Speaker A: Which now you don't have to see it as I had mine. Exactly.
• 24:03
  Speaker D: And you know when you come home and all the toys are on the first floor instead of in the basement.
• 24:08
  Speaker A: Easier.
• 24:09
  Speaker D: No, it hurts me.
• 24:10
  Speaker A: Oh, you're saying when all the.
• 24:11
  Speaker D: They bring everything upstairs.
• 24:13
  Speaker A: That's how I feel when my shit's in my living room. I can't understand looking at it, but. No, I understand that, but let's move on. I, like, I am getting irked at my playrooms. The Best. But anyway. I do have a funny question for you though.
• 24:24
  Speaker D: Sure.
• 24:25
  Speaker A: What do you do now that is so unhinged that the old Joe back in the day, pre kids would be like, is this Joe kidding me doing this?
• 24:37
  Speaker D: I don't know if I would say pre kids like my.
• 24:41
  Speaker A: Do you ever. Look, I do things now that I'm like my pre kids self will be like the.
• 24:46
  Speaker D: I think it was more of how I was raised and what I would do around the house or. Or whatever else. Like when I was a kid, I wake up in the morning, make my bed, bring my clothes to the laundry. There was no dishes left in the sink like that.
• 25:01
  Speaker A: So that has changed now.
• 25:03
  Speaker D: So your.
• 25:03
  Speaker A: Your old self is kind of opposite. You're looking at it like, oh my God, my old self would never live with this.
• 25:08
  Speaker D: The same 100%.
• 25:09
  Speaker A: Got it. Wow. Interesting. It's hard to have fucking kids. Especially three out of five. Let me go to my little handy dandy. Nope. I do have another question for you, Joseph.
• 25:21
  Speaker D: Keep firing away.
• 25:22
  Speaker A: What's the best part of being a dad of three?
• 25:25
  Speaker D: I don't know if it's necessarily a dad of three, but I think it's just being a dad in general.
• 25:29
  Speaker A: Best part. I figured I choose one thing.
• 25:31
  Speaker D: Like I said, I work a lot. So when I walk in the door and they open their arms and they yell for me and they run and scream and Joey is my one who always wants me. Vienna and Rocco, half to three quarters, they don't even look at me. I pick them up, they scream. The other, the other portion, they love me. But so yesterday, for example, you know, I went and paid, played Beth Page Black golf course and I was gone all day. I walked in at 7pm and Rocco for the first time saw me and goes, dad opens up his arms for a big hug. So like that.
• 26:06
  Speaker A: How does that make you feel?
• 26:07
  Speaker D: That I think is like the best part of. Of being a dad.
• 26:10
  Speaker A: Do you feel like this is such a strange question, but like, if you're gone all day, like, it's almost like cooler that you're gone all day, that you get to come home and they get to miss you, rather than like. Cause I feel like the same thing with G. He runs and dad, Dad. I mean, even when. Cause he's gone and I'm here, so he doesn't get to miss me, but he gets to miss my husband. So it's like, you know, I could.
• 26:34
  Speaker D: Definitely understand the dynamic of like you guys, you or Emily or any mother for that fact.
• 26:39
  Speaker A: Who's the one with their candle day.
• 26:40
  Speaker D: Yeah. Not, not getting that right. That feeling.
• 26:43
  Speaker A: That's probably the best feeling ever.
• 26:44
  Speaker D: But when, when you are home, it's like all they want is.
• 26:49
  Speaker A: Is you. Right. There's no side of it.
• 26:51
  Speaker D: Rocco, for in general or for instance, is snuggle. That's his thing. He wants to snuggle and be on top of Emily, on her shoulder, laying with her. And I'm not allowed to touch her. Like he.
• 27:03
  Speaker A: Oh, he won't let you go by?
• 27:04
  Speaker D: No. He freaks out if I, if I'm anywhere near her.
• 27:07
  Speaker A: Interesting. I wonder what that is.
• 27:09
  Speaker D: I don't know. So there's territory, there's that.
• 27:12
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:12
  Speaker D: Those two different songs.
• 27:13
  Speaker A: You're like, I want to snuggle with Rocco when he wants mommy sad next time Joe.
• 27:17
  Speaker D: Or snuggle with mom and rock with.
• 27:19
  Speaker A: Yeah. Okay. But I do have to ask you though, if you had to choose, who's your favorite kid?
• 27:27
  Speaker D: It's funny because me and Emily talked about this on the way here.
• 27:29
  Speaker A: Oh, you did? I was curious. There's possibly a favorite.
• 27:33
  Speaker D: I love all my kids. On condition we know I would do. I would do anything for any of them.
• 27:38
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:38
  Speaker D: You know, I take a bullet for them. But if I, if I had to choose one, I would say Joey and.
• 27:43
  Speaker A: I could have answered that for you.
• 27:44
  Speaker D: Number one, he's my buddy. Well, he's my firstborn. He's my buddy. He's the oldest. Where now he's starting to. To enjoy things that I enjoy.
• 27:53
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 27:53
  Speaker D: And he's the only one of my kids, like I said before, that wants me over mom 100%.
• 27:59
  Speaker A: So fun that he's like your buddy, right hand man. He does things with you. He can actually help you now.
• 28:03
  Speaker D: But now, now he's getting into, he's getting into baseball. He's getting into golf.
• 28:07
  Speaker A: Do you love going to his games?
• 28:08
  Speaker D: It's fun because. And he's starting to become a little. He's starting to understand and he's starting to listen. And I just try and play. I played baseball at a high level.
• 28:19
  Speaker C: I played your son good at baseball.
• 28:21
  Speaker D: It's too early to tell.
• 28:22
  Speaker A: I mean, will you be upset if he's not going to baseball?
• 28:25
  Speaker D: No, I just, look, I just want. And I'll let him play any sport he wants if he wants to play sports. And from what I've seen to start, he really enjoys playing baseball. He really enjoys playing golf. But you could tell I would just like. I mean, he's definitely got hand eye coordination.
• 28:41
  Speaker A: He's definitely there.
• 28:42
  Speaker D: He's definitely enjoying it to the sense where like a couple weeks ago he was supposed to have a t ball game. It got rained out and he wanted to go to batting cage. So it was the first time I.
• 28:52
  Speaker A: Saw that hit and posted.
• 28:53
  Speaker D: It was the first time I took him to a batting cage where he wasn't on a team. And he actually like made content, like.
• 28:59
  Speaker A: Yeah.
• 29:00
  Speaker D: And it was the self satisfaction and I was so happy and so joyful that like, you know, at the start it was the same place that I went to as a kid. So like I knew the owner and everything else and he's like going with them, like, help him, whatever. It's like I explained to him, not so fast. No, I mean it was in the. The one that throws the slowest, but. But still just to see. So I brought him the first day he got hit with a ball. Even then he got hit in hand as like, you know, I try to tell him, like, I. I don't give him too much direction to start for now. I just say, hey, go up there, have fun. Put your feet here, keep the bat off your shoulder and just swing, have light, rip. Have fun.
• 29:39
  Speaker C: And he got.
• 29:40
  Speaker D: He kept inching towards the plate. Inch towards the plate.
• 29:42
  Speaker A: Was he enjoying it?
• 29:42
  Speaker D: Yeah, he had a blast. So much so that like the following day he said, dad, let's go back. Let's go back.
• 29:48
  Speaker C: So I took him again.
• 29:48
  Speaker D: I took him again the next day.
• 29:49
  Speaker A: Did you play baseball at Rutgers?
• 29:51
  Speaker D: Yes.
• 29:52
  Speaker A: Ruckers or you? Or you? Rah, rah, rah, rah.
• 29:57
  Speaker D: On the old Raritan.
• 29:59
  Speaker A: Yeah. You guys both went to college? Well, she went down south and then.
• 30:02
  Speaker D: She started college of Charles.
• 30:03
  Speaker A: She missed you so much.
• 30:04
  Speaker D: So much.
• 30:06
  Speaker A: My goodness. I can't leave it on. My joke. All right, so anyway, I love that you guys are so cute. But anyway, one last question and get deep on me.
• 30:14
  Speaker B: Okay.
• 30:15
  Speaker A: What is one thing you admire about Emily as a mom?
• 30:22
  Speaker D: Well, you know, I've kind of been talking about it the whole time.
• 30:24
  Speaker A: One thing, Joe, one thing.
• 30:26
  Speaker D: She's. She's a great mom. She's awesome with the kids. She's so selfless, you know, everything is about them. And it's always about them. It's never about anyone else. And she'll do anything at any time of the day, no matter, like I said, whether it's the middle of the night where she just has to snuggle in the bed, where I get upset. We're like, put her back to bed. Like, it's not. They shouldn't be here. She's so selfless. She loves, she loves being a mom and that's. It's cool to see and she's so great at it.
• 30:53
  Speaker A: And is it so crazy to see, like, where you guys work? She's been together for decades and now, like, did you. I mean, I'm sure you expected everything and more as the mom she is now.
• 31:03
  Speaker D: Well, so she's one of the best moms I've known the full story.
• 31:06
  Speaker A: Yeah, she talked about it. Yeah, of course.
• 31:10
  Speaker D: All the way from seventh grade.
• 31:11
  Speaker A: Yes, we've talked. Have you listened to the episode?
• 31:15
  Speaker D: Some.
• 31:17
  Speaker A: We talked and we talk off camera. We're friends, you know, besties. Hello, Lily.
• 31:22
  Speaker D: You don't know everything.
• 31:23
  Speaker A: Oh, I do. So that's really awesome though. Like you, you know, all in all, you disrespect her so much as a mom and it shows.
• 31:32
  Speaker D: Well, I love her to death. And I hope, I hope that I'm gonna piss out.
• 31:37
  Speaker A: You do. You really do. Do you love me to death? You do.
• 31:44
  Speaker D: But before we do, I've got, I've got one question for you. Oh, we're gonna topsy turvy this motherfucker.
• 31:48
  Speaker A: I don't want to.
• 31:50
  Speaker D: So tonight, Mike and Dom have a wedding to go to. So we're watching Gio.
• 31:55
  Speaker A: You are with your seven kids.
• 31:57
  Speaker B: McDonald's for dinner.
• 31:58
  Speaker D: Seven kids and dogs for dinner. From other episodes on this podcast, we have organic mom to gas station milk. How are you going to feel when.
• 32:09
  Speaker C: Don't say when.
• 32:10
  Speaker D: Geo's not having grass fed milk and organic this and organic that and we're feeding him gas station milk.
• 32:16
  Speaker A: My grass fed looks like her house. What are you now? I need video from that. You're feeding myself.
• 32:25
  Speaker D: You know, I don't have like. I went in your snack cabin before and you talked about this as well.
• 32:29
  Speaker A: He comes upstairs. Emily and I are getting ready. He raids my snack cabinet and brings up one bag of Cheez it that I had when I was pregnant, which I don't know why I still have that. And he was so upset. There was nothing like just that snack cabinet. It's healthy, organic Medichips. What are they called? He goes, do you have cinnamon sugar?
• 32:47
  Speaker C: I go, no.
• 32:47
  Speaker A: He makes cinnamon sugar with sourdough breath in my house. It was good, was it not?
• 32:52
  Speaker D: Yeah, it was good. But I mean, it's.
• 32:56
  Speaker A: Well, this is my house. Love me or hate me, it's still an obsession.
• 32:59
  Speaker D: That's true. Just. You don't want to go to friends houses.
• 33:03
  Speaker A: You think? No, don't do that to him. All Right, enough. Because you're giving me anxiety about your gas station milk. Anyway, thank you for coming on this pod. We love you so much.
• 33:15
  Speaker D: Thank you for having me. I love you guys. I know. To continued success and hopefully rising followers. And like I said before, guys like comment, subscribe and, and hopefully you guys keep producing content and then you could quit your job. And I would love to quit.
• 33:31
  Speaker A: All fathers would. So would my husband. So love you so much. Let's hug it out. Okay, Give me a good hug. I went. All right. Well, it was a lovely having Emily's husband on here. He's a doll. But now it's time for my sexy husband and my co host Emily to have their side of the story. I better go have a drink or something.
• 33:56
  Speaker B: Bye.
• 33:57
  Speaker A: Woo.
• 33:58
  Speaker C: Let's go, baby. Hey, hey. I'm forcing you to tick.
• 34:01
  Speaker B: Yeah, get it, get it, get it, get it.
• 34:03
  Speaker C: Look at me, I'm breaking my own rules.
• 34:04
  Speaker B: This was my old school partner in private. Here, feel the chemistry. Is that organic?
• 34:09
  Speaker C: Oh yeah.
• 34:10
  Speaker B: Michael here, Dominique's husband. How you doing?
• 34:15
  Speaker C: Pretty good. I like this recording on a Saturday.
• 34:18
  Speaker B: Yeah, this is nice.
• 34:18
  Speaker C: I'm not as stressed, right? Usually he's helping out on a work day. This is way easier.
• 34:24
  Speaker B: We call him Vic, he's a producer. I like him, honestly.
• 34:29
  Speaker C: What am I on Mike and Vic today? Yeah, you're both okay.
• 34:31
  Speaker B: I like it. You are a dad of a 15 month old Geo.
• 34:37
  Speaker C: Love accent models. So he's so fun.
• 34:41
  Speaker D: Are you?
• 34:41
  Speaker B: He's so fun. How is. You're. You're pretty much a rookie though. Like you're a rookie dad. So how's rookie year? How's it been?
• 34:49
  Speaker C: Like chop it up to a pretty good year.
• 34:50
  Speaker B: A good year so far?
• 34:51
  Speaker C: Not like batting 500, but I think it's been a pretty good year.
• 34:55
  Speaker B: All right.
• 34:56
  Speaker C: He's, he's definitely at an age right now where it's like that personality come through and it's just like, it's so awesome.
• 35:04
  Speaker B: Do you like sometimes just look at him and be like, holy shit. Like that's my son.
• 35:08
  Speaker C: Like he just did something like 100%. Yeah, it's starting to happen on a daily basis. He's in his dead phase right now. You could tell he's like starting to get his little identity as like a boy man. Whatever.
• 35:22
  Speaker B: We have a 15 month old man.
• 35:26
  Speaker C: And he's. Yeah, he's just at that, he's at that point. But I think in relation to your question, it's, it's been a lot to just, you know, I Run a business and a company.
• 35:38
  Speaker B: You do a lot.
• 35:39
  Speaker C: Yeah. Balancing that all while, like I want to be around. Right. As much as possible and I tried to. And I'm in a. I think I've tried to work my tail off for as long as I have to be able at this point in time when I had kids, to be able to be at everything that I could possibly be at. So it's like it's this double edged sword sometimes where it's like, oh, yeah, I know I can leave.
• 36:00
  Speaker B: Right.
• 36:01
  Speaker C: But there's a loss in leaving potentially of things I could be doing to make more or do more in business. But at the end of the day, it's easy for me to be like, yeah, I'm out. I'm going to that.
• 36:12
  Speaker B: Right. Like you will be there.
• 36:13
  Speaker C: That, that double edged sword is, is. It's weird sometimes it's like a balance.
• 36:17
  Speaker B: You got a figure out balance and you're still new to it, like.
• 36:19
  Speaker C: And business has its ebbs and flows, you know, so when it's here it's. It's easy to use and it's here, it's. It makes life a little bit tougher. Right? Yeah. Lucky year. All in all, I was hurting for anything. It's been fun and you know, I.
• 36:33
  Speaker B: Mean you're a dad of one, but like you're a godfather to like 12. You were the godfather.
• 36:39
  Speaker C: I have five God children and I consider your son, you know, you know, he didn't do the baptism, but like, I consider Joey to be like my godson.
• 36:46
  Speaker B: You are the godfather title.
• 36:47
  Speaker C: Yeah. So it's a lot, you know, and just trying to also make sure, well.
• 36:51
  Speaker B: You'Re the uncle of the year too.
• 36:53
  Speaker C: Thank you. Trying to make sure that I still see, you know, everyone like I used.
• 36:59
  Speaker B: To feel, I felt like this, that. So for a long time you were just the uncle for a lot of people. And then once you're a dad, like, obviously you was your number one. But did you feel like it was a little bit harder to give attention to like your God children?
• 37:16
  Speaker C: Yeah. Hard to give attention to everything, you know?
• 37:19
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 37:19
  Speaker C: Especially when you're in the thick of that, like first year.
• 37:22
  Speaker B: Oh yeah.
• 37:22
  Speaker C: Of your kid. You're learning it all for the first time, you know, and you don't know what to expect and it's a bunch of difficulties. But again, I wouldn't change it.
• 37:34
  Speaker B: What's one thing that like just surprised you this first year? Like either in a good way, in a bad way that either Gio did or just the feeling of Being a dad, what was something that, like, surprised you?
• 37:46
  Speaker C: I feel like it's just personality came through earlier than I expected. Yeah, Again, all of it in a good way. Like, and the way that their personalities change day to day.
• 37:57
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
• 37:59
  Speaker C: Like, that's why you need to be there every day, because, like, you will miss something day to day. That they do. And just so I think the speed from, like, 0 to 100, all of a sudden there's this blob that doesn't move. I mean, wait till you just start pocket boom in.
• 38:14
  Speaker B: It's crazy.
• 38:15
  Speaker C: And I think for his age, like, he's spoken a little earlier, he's walked a little earlier, he's doing things a little earlier, but still, it's just that every day it's just like, what, you didn't do this yesterday? How are you doing this today? At, like, a high level in some things, it's like, Yeah.
• 38:31
  Speaker B: I mean, he.
• 38:32
  Speaker A: He love.
• 38:32
  Speaker B: He. Like, he's kicking balls. He's playing. He loves playing with balls.
• 38:36
  Speaker C: Like, he walked him ten and a half months, I think it was.
• 38:38
  Speaker B: That's really.
• 38:39
  Speaker C: And the second he started walking, like, I put a soccer ball right in front of him.
• 38:42
  Speaker B: The soccer ball is in every inch of this house. It's just like, there's a goal, there's a soccer ball. There's.
• 38:48
  Speaker C: We're.
• 38:48
  Speaker B: We're raising athletes here.
• 38:49
  Speaker C: We're definitely trying to raise an athlete. I thought I have to force it on, but I think he has it naturally. I'm, you know, pretty athletic. My wife's pretty athletic. So we're all good. You know, if you put two together, you have an athletic kid. But. And it's funny because he's in this phase right now where it's. Everything's a ball. He's been saying, like, bubble. No, he's been saying, like, bubble. Like, it sounds like bubbles. And he knows bubbles because he loves.
• 39:13
  Speaker B: But he's. But he means ball.
• 39:14
  Speaker C: But he means ball. And we're like, are you saying. We've been saying that he's saying big ball, but as of yesterday, we're like. I think he's saying big ball. It's. What is bubble? Over the next couple of weeks, we'll probably find out one way that he's.
• 39:26
  Speaker B: I mean, the language is crazy. They just explode. The Bronco is just exploding now. And I feel like once Gio does that, it's just. It opens up a whole new. A whole new world of communication between you and yourself. Yeah. Which is an exciting thing for you.
• 39:40
  Speaker C: And there's it's really awesome when you can start to just communicate right with them. Like, I know. Even though he can't speak back to me in some ways, like, he knows.
• 39:49
  Speaker D: What we're talking about.
• 39:50
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah?
• 39:50
  Speaker C: Yeah. Like, when I say, jill, go put that away in the cabinet. Like, he knows exactly.
• 39:54
  Speaker B: And even when he does that, aren't.
• 39:56
  Speaker C: You like, holy shit, how do you know do that? Like, is it me? Is it her? Is it Ms. Rachel?
• 40:00
  Speaker D: Like, what.
• 40:01
  Speaker C: What created that to be opinion. Ms. Rachel's.
• 40:05
  Speaker B: No, but it is crazy how they. And that's why it's such a. It's so important to just talk to your kids. Just like. Yeah, talk to them like they're regular people and they catch on.
• 40:15
  Speaker C: They.
• 40:15
  Speaker B: That's how they learn.
• 40:16
  Speaker C: They are me.
• 40:18
  Speaker B: They're sponges.
• 40:19
  Speaker C: They're a sponge for sure. Everybody says that, but it is very true. Like I said, day to dayto day, I feel like I can do something. It doesn't even matter if it's like me grabbing that hat and going and putting it on the tip of that computer. Like, he will then go grab the hat and put it in the.
• 40:34
  Speaker B: Where.
• 40:35
  Speaker C: Where I put in, like, little spines. It's. It's. It's scary because you gotta watch what you do because you will go mimic something if you don't want him to do something specific. Yeah, he's in the throwing phase right now. That's a difficult phase.
• 40:47
  Speaker B: That's a fun one. Throwing food. Throwing everything. The food.
• 40:51
  Speaker C: This dog's getting fat.
• 40:53
  Speaker B: I mean, I didn't. I told you not to get a dog before again.
• 40:56
  Speaker C: Well, let alone there's gonna be two next week. Wow. I'm not gonna be. Baby, that's busy. You look like an old man. You're getting a gray.
• 41:05
  Speaker B: He is getting a little gray.
• 41:07
  Speaker C: You're fat.
• 41:08
  Speaker B: Has there been anything that you have silently Googled that you never told Dom about that you. Because your wife is a fucking psycho. I would silently Google too.
• 41:19
  Speaker C: Well, my wife is definitely a Googler or chat GPT or half right now.
• 41:24
  Speaker B: She is.
• 41:24
  Speaker C: But is there something. And sometimes it's a. It's a. It's a need. Right? And I'm. I'm maybe to laugh in that capacity.
• 41:31
  Speaker B: I feel like I'm pretty chill.
• 41:34
  Speaker C: I'm definitely chill in the sense of, like, I. I do well in, like.
• 41:39
  Speaker B: I mean, you're. They have a. They have a viral choking video out there, if anyone's seen it. He wasn't actually choking Gio, but dad was cool, calm, collected. Mom was like hun, hun. I think he's not breathing. Meanwhile he's just like doing a little.
• 41:53
  Speaker A: Bit of a gag.
• 41:55
  Speaker B: But he was a new, he was like newly eating so that was scary for them. I actually went out to dinner with them one time and they were cutting his pieces, I kid you not.
• 42:04
  Speaker A: And maybe he was like five months old.
• 42:08
  Speaker B: He was. There is baby legume going on. Rice size pieces like littler than a rice. And I was like, you guys again, live and learn.
• 42:17
  Speaker C: Like you need to be smaller is worse. Little bigger is. Bigger is better.
• 42:21
  Speaker B: Honestly, you don't know. Like it's your first time doing all this shit and you just don't know.
• 42:26
  Speaker C: Definitely.
• 42:27
  Speaker B: And you learn. And for your second kid, I'm sure you'll fucking just get on the whole banana.
• 42:30
  Speaker C: I could totally see how much more lax you've gotten with second and third. And like we're going to do the same way because it totally makes sense. But in those situations I think yes, I'm very full, calm and collected. I'm not going to panic in those situations. My wife may panic and rightfully so. I'm like, do I Google thing? I'd say at one point if I had to say, like they fall a lot. Yeah. And, and you know, he's constantly on the move. He's, he's pretty much climbing now. So there are some times where it's just like how much, what the, what's the impact? Like what, what is the impact level of that fall that a kid can take it 14, 15 months. Because like when they do that cry where there's a silence, there's a pause and, and, and then he goes to that screen, that pause is like. And you know, he's really good. At least you know, for he's scared.
• 43:20
  Speaker B: But like you've learned that over 100%.
• 43:23
  Speaker C: Yeah, like, you know when he's just regular crying, like you're fine.
• 43:25
  Speaker B: You know like three days before your wedding when Joey busted his head, caught himself like can you imagine Gio doing that before a wedding?
• 43:31
  Speaker C: That was bad.
• 43:32
  Speaker B: I mean he, he got stitches, he got cut open. Imagine, imagine the silent cry he had. But yeah, I mean, you know, that first year is learning. I do have another question for you. How many times have you accidentally handed Dom the baby when you smell to poop but you didn't, you just like politely handed him off, huh? Or are you the poop changer?
• 43:59
  Speaker C: I mean I, I'm a.
• 44:01
  Speaker B: He's been hard changing poops. He does the turn.
• 44:03
  Speaker C: I have to struggle. I've been changing poops.
• 44:05
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 44:06
  Speaker C: If I, you know, say too much, then she knows my tactic. But no, there's probably been a ton or two. Definitely.
• 44:15
  Speaker B: Can you take him?
• 44:16
  Speaker C: Oh, crap. I think he. I got to go to the bathroom.
• 44:20
  Speaker B: And honestly, I feel like Geo is just like the stand up baby. He's. He's pretty.
• 44:25
  Speaker D: He's.
• 44:26
  Speaker C: He's an. He's in. In relationship kids from what we know. Definitely great kid.
• 44:29
  Speaker B: Like, he's sleeping. He's gonna.
• 44:32
  Speaker C: He's teething hard right now. And so the last month has been a tough sleep for us.
• 44:35
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 44:36
  Speaker C: We've also been traveling a bit. So yeah, we throwed him in a hard mix and that, you know, that's on us.
• 44:41
  Speaker B: Right.
• 44:41
  Speaker C: He's the one that's battling through those situations. Yeah, he's just, he's just going with the flow.
• 44:47
  Speaker B: But he is. That's what that you're raising a kid. I tell this Don, like you are raising a go with the flow kid that just like can be in any situation and just live it.
• 44:56
  Speaker C: Yeah, it's.
• 44:58
  Speaker B: But that's because you have one.
• 44:59
  Speaker C: I think they're. Yeah. That's why we're just not ready for the next one yet. That's okay. We got the pack. Having two kids.
• 45:07
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 45:08
  Speaker C: Really hard to prepare yourself, I think for trying to be like I'm a. I try to be a high performer, like a high functioning person at work and just thrive greatness. But like it's hard some days when it's like I slept two hours total last night and because yeah, teething's teething's. Teething. I guess.
• 45:29
  Speaker B: So you actually, in the middle of the night, you will get up. Oh yeah. And help.
• 45:33
  Speaker C: Yeah. Well, we both do it.
• 45:34
  Speaker B: I feel you guys are pretty fifty.
• 45:36
  Speaker C: Fifty. A hundred percent. But he's like I said, he's in this dad phase right now.
• 45:39
  Speaker B: So.
• 45:39
  Speaker C: I mean, last night we. We went to sleep relatively later last night. Even though we didn't do anything last night. We were just watching something late, I think like maybe 11 30. We probably went to sleep and then about.
• 45:52
  Speaker B: So sit back on the couch. Did you ever fall asleep in the delivery room while she was in labor? Because mine didn't visit.
• 45:58
  Speaker C: No, I was. I was.
• 46:00
  Speaker B: You were up.
• 46:00
  Speaker C: I was in it. I was up. Yeah, I was in it. I was up.
• 46:04
  Speaker B: All right.
• 46:05
  Speaker C: You can't record here. You can't record in here.
• 46:08
  Speaker B: What?
• 46:08
  Speaker C: But then our delivery room kind of.
• 46:10
  Speaker B: But we're going to talk about labor delivery. What is your dad, a toxic tree? Like what do you do that you think is toxic but like, you like it because you're a dad?
• 46:22
  Speaker C: That's hard.
• 46:22
  Speaker B: Tough question.
• 46:23
  Speaker C: Yeah. I don't know if I have the answer to that.
• 46:24
  Speaker B: All right, think about it.
• 46:25
  Speaker C: I could think about that.
• 46:26
  Speaker B: Get back to me on that one.
• 46:27
  Speaker C: They didn't prepare us into questions.
• 46:28
  Speaker B: No. Apparently we went rogue, bro. But toxic.
• 46:34
  Speaker C: I try not to do a lot of talks.
• 46:38
  Speaker B: No toxins.
• 46:39
  Speaker C: So on the downstairs, release the toxins.
• 46:42
  Speaker B: Well, it doesn't have to be so literal. It could be like. So your wife went back to work soon after she had you. And then you said, you kind of said like, babe, you can do whatever you want. You don't. She. She wasn't feeling good, she wasn't feeling herself. She. She felt kind of like she didn't want to be at work, but she wanted to be at home. And I feel like you were the most supportive husband in her decision. How do you feel now looking back at her decision to be a stay at home mom?
• 47:11
  Speaker C: Well, one, she didn't have enough maternity leave. I think three months. Three months not enough fucked up. You know, I definitely think there should be.
• 47:19
  Speaker B: I mean, three months, there's still a blob newborn. They still have vagina juice on them at three months.
• 47:23
  Speaker C: Especially having a C section like you're 90 days goes like super, super fast.
• 47:30
  Speaker B: So I mean, that's crazy to think about.
• 47:32
  Speaker C: Four months isn't enough. Six months should probably be the standard. Five. Six months should definitely be a standard. So, you know, just not enough time, not enough recovery time. Went back for I think a week. I think we again, first time, like we're trying to figure all this out. You know, our plan was kind of. And we're sort of, we're planners, but our plan was just like we're gonna do it while having people give us help that weren't necessarily people that our moms were helping. Of course they want to give us help. But it's not saying that that was like their number one desire was to like be the nannies. Right. Like, and rightfully so. So we were kind of scrambling in.
• 48:11
  Speaker B: The sense of my mom, I think Geo on Thursday.
• 48:13
  Speaker C: Yeah. Like a float. I was afloat day for a little bit like that week or two. Like I was kind of just like working here.
• 48:20
  Speaker B: Right.
• 48:20
  Speaker C: If I got a call, but I was pretty much just, just staying here and. And she went back and yeah, it was difficult. She was in a traffic route.
• 48:29
  Speaker B: Right.
• 48:29
  Speaker C: To work in relationship.
• 48:30
  Speaker B: So there was a lot of factors that really.
• 48:32
  Speaker C: It's Gotta suck to have a new baby at home, be in traffic on the way to work, being traffic on the way home from work. And just all you want to do is deal with your baby.
• 48:39
  Speaker B: Right.
• 48:39
  Speaker C: And it's just like I just want to get there. And you can't get there.
• 48:41
  Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
• 48:42
  Speaker C: So I mean, yeah, I mean I was, there was no second guessing me saying like, as long as you're okay not working, right, you can stay home. And as great as that sounds, and I'm sure there's half women that want to hear that and other half don't want to hear that because they don't want to. Let's be, let's say be stayed home.
• 49:03
  Speaker B: I mean there's a lot of women.
• 49:04
  Speaker C: That can't do it rightfully.
• 49:06
  Speaker B: So. Yeah. Could you be a stay at home dad? Like you might be able to, but no. No. You're a hustler.
• 49:13
  Speaker C: I could if I, if I had to. Like, if the situation was like, I have no other choice, of course. Well, yeah, yeah.
• 49:19
  Speaker B: But I feel like you'd also like want to be out making money.
• 49:22
  Speaker C: No. Yeah, I'm. I gotta get up, get out of the house, like do, do things. I think I would, I would.
• 49:27
  Speaker B: You need to get out of that.
• 49:28
  Speaker C: I would do it, but I think I'd build up like a, A struggle inside over time where it's, it's, it's hard to do well.
• 49:35
  Speaker B: When mama Cock was famous and you guys are both.
• 49:38
  Speaker C: I'll never stop working. I'll. My work will evolve, I think, over time.
• 49:42
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 49:42
  Speaker C: But I'll never stop working. But back to my wife again. The decision, I think was easy from my perspective. It was if it made sense for her, do it. And of course, like she did it, the decision for her was easy in the sense of like, I don't care about any, anything else except being with my kids.
• 50:01
  Speaker B: It was kind of seamless in that regard.
• 50:03
  Speaker C: But it doesn't mean that it's not hard day to day to like, she gave up a career.
• 50:07
  Speaker B: Right.
• 50:08
  Speaker C: To be a mom. Right. And again that's.
• 50:10
  Speaker B: And you think about that because I feel like in our situation it was different. Like I, oh, my dream was to be a stay at home mom, so I didn't leave something for that. And like Dom and I have talked about it a lot where she had this career, she was a hustler, she was a go getter and she left something big to do something bigger for her. And I feel like as a husband it's hard to. Well, it might be Easier because you could put yourself in her shoes in some sense, like where you, you also have a career and she's leaving something that you also know.
• 50:42
  Speaker C: No, I know her situation. Yeah, I know there's. I mean, listen, she has this now. Right, Right. I think as human beings, even if you want to be a stay at home mom and that's what you thrive for, like, like you were. I think there's still part of life where we need to have something outside of just that. Because that's like more of a natural thing that like we need to be striving to do something, whatever it is. It could be something so simple or something crazy. But I think we need that as humans to just like always make sure that we're just. I think continuing to strive for something is just how we better ourselves as humans.
• 51:17
  Speaker B: And so now that she has our mama clap, which is a big part of our lives, don't you think that she's driving.
• 51:24
  Speaker C: You could tell there's been a, a shift in demeanor. I'm not saying like she's happier because of it, but like, I think it's, it's good for her to be able to have like almost like a check in, check out of. It's not just a hundred percent constant in the weeds of the craziness. Because, you know, motherhood between baby and dog, like, it is, it is a lot. It's a lot. He's really needy. He lays here.
• 51:52
  Speaker B: Like a perfect angel. He's needy.
• 51:56
  Speaker C: But, you know, she's managed it well. And I do think having something like this is.
• 52:03
  Speaker B: And staying on her. I just need to know what is the most admirable thing she does, like as a mom or the way she does it.
• 52:15
  Speaker C: That's a good question. Besides what we just said, the fact that she put not even on the side just. Yeah, kind of threw it away to be a mom. I think. And I think there's part of. I think most parents want to strive to be better parents than their parents, even if their parents were awesome. They always try to try to be better generationally. I think just like her day to day striving for Gio to just have the best possible life. The big things, the small things, us never missing those little moments, the big moments, you know, and sometimes I bust a chops in the sense of like busting chops. Always busting chops. Not busting chops. I don't love you. Always busting chops in the sense of like he's 15 months, he has no idea what's going on like, he's. We're not going to Disney. We're not going to Disney at 15 months. But her desire to want to go to Disney is just to make memories, like with our kid, you know, to have to have those experiences. And again, we're going to do all that stuff. Of course I want to do all that stuff.
• 53:24
  Speaker B: But we're going to do it together.
• 53:25
  Speaker C: We're going to do it together when.
• 53:26
  Speaker B: We grow our families more 100.
• 53:28
  Speaker C: Yeah, we. Not sure I'm still. Until that guy gets out, you know, my money's still on one side, you know, but on our side. Yeah. Our family, you know, God willing, will grow at some point. We're not ready tomorrow, but at some point we'll get there. But yeah, I think it's just her constant thrive to make sure we're doing the family things. We're making the memories for us so that we have things to talk about with Gio when he's older. This is what we did. This is so fun. And she's also very good with cameras and videos and phones. And I'm not. I'm not saying I don't want to have that stuff, because I do. But it's not the things that I think about, like when we're in the moment, because I am in an in the moment type of living person. I'm not like, let's take a picture and let's take a video. And again, I'll bust our chops about that. But at the same time, it's good that I have that because then you get the conversations like this where it's like, shit, I forget what happened there. Right Then you look at a picture, you look at a video, all those memories come back. And so that's. That's important.
• 54:33
  Speaker B: Yeah, no, she's really good at that. I mean, she's just good at holding it all together, I think.
• 54:38
  Speaker C: Yeah, you said it. Yeah. There's a lot that comes with her situation and what she did to now and. Yeah, just not every day's a rainbows and butterflies. She stays in the trenches and we work through it.
• 54:52
  Speaker B: And you have the most adorable little baby.
• 54:55
  Speaker C: He's a cute little.
• 54:56
  Speaker B: He's a cute little kid. What's the craziest thing that he's doing right now?
• 55:01
  Speaker C: Like I said, he's in the throwing phase. He's. He's.
• 55:04
  Speaker D: Is he hitting?
• 55:05
  Speaker C: He's in the hitting phase. You know, I feel bad. This one's. The dog's taking it.
• 55:09
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 55:09
  Speaker C: Like, he just sleep. Some of the sleepless Nights where he wakes up and he's cranky because he's just like, not a cranky kid with, you know, it's like teething and just bad sleep. Just wakes up, he'll like walk like 15ft across the kitchen and just smack Bama right.
• 55:25
  Speaker B: Someone's got. Right in the face.
• 55:26
  Speaker C: Yeah, right in the face. Or like. Or like, he'll help. He'll grab him by like, the. The hair on his head and I'm like, are you gouging your fingers into his high balls? Like, what are you doing right now? No.
• 55:38
  Speaker B: That's scary. But do you ever worry about Bama, like, lashing out?
• 55:41
  Speaker C: No.
• 55:42
  Speaker B: No.
• 55:43
  Speaker C: I feel like I totally get where parents or other dogs, like 100% Bama doesn't have that. Bama, unfortunately, is like, Bama's becoming scared of fgo. Yeah. I mean, when you wake up and you just get smacked, I run too.
• 56:00
  Speaker B: Oh, my God, he is. Why is he just laying there? He looks like he's.
• 56:04
  Speaker C: He just like checks in and out of like he's playing dead. The Zoomies and Ahma King right now. He's. This is his king wife. Absolute king wife.
• 56:16
  Speaker B: I have. I have another question for you. Dom said this year, but I.
• 56:20
  Speaker C: By the way, is it good? This cup says the Godfather.
• 56:24
  Speaker B: You are the Godfather. Wow, you really are. You are the father, the godfather, the uncle. He. This guy right here. For my son's third birthday, he dressed up as Spider man, came to my house. A total like mask. Like, it was the Spider Man. You came full in the house doing flips. You even came to the birthday party.
• 56:46
  Speaker C: Birthday party.
• 56:47
  Speaker B: Oh, the birthday party was first or was it separate things?
• 56:49
  Speaker C: No, the first time I came as Spider man was to your house.
• 56:51
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 56:52
  Speaker C: Second time I came as Spider man as we were telling Joey that I knew Spider Man. Right.
• 56:57
  Speaker B: Uncle Mike knows Spider Man's number.
• 56:58
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 56:59
  Speaker B: So that's the trampoline park and he came as Spider Man. I mean, it was the talk of the town.
• 57:06
  Speaker C: That was funny. Yeah, because you could jump in that. When I jumped into the rope and then did the upside down Spider man thing.
• 57:12
  Speaker B: Yes, that was.
• 57:13
  Speaker C: That was funny.
• 57:14
  Speaker B: You actually looked like Spider Man.
• 57:15
  Speaker C: Yeah, that was fun life. That's when Joey really. I think if he was questioning that I was Spider man once I did that move, he was like that.
• 57:23
  Speaker B: It has surrounds so much so that when we were at my house, you went upstairs as Spider man and then I think you said Spider man jumped out the window because then. Then Uncle Mike was back and Joey was like, he thought Spider man literally jumped out.
• 57:38
  Speaker C: He's smart as shit. So at some point he was like, come on, Ace of Spiderman.
• 57:43
  Speaker B: I mean, I'm sure he would ask him, but not. He. He fully. You committed to that. And that was like an epic.
• 57:49
  Speaker C: Yeah, that was funny.
• 57:50
  Speaker B: That was Uncle Veer.
• 57:52
  Speaker C: Yeah. At my ass looking those.
• 57:56
  Speaker B: I think your wife put it on at one point. She did the flip out of the car. These are committed people right here. That was before kids.
• 58:05
  Speaker C: I know.
• 58:05
  Speaker B: Yeah. Would you do it again?
• 58:08
  Speaker C: I'm not sure.
• 58:11
  Speaker B: And sorry. Oh, I wanted to ask you this question. What would you like Gio to look back on. On his childhood, about his dad growing up? Like, what would you want him to say?
• 58:24
  Speaker C: I think Joey kind of said this before to sort of mimic it and. Or piggyback on it, because I think we think alike in the sense of, like, just want him to know that I was there. Dad tried his absolute best to provide, give him the best life possible, but try to not miss a thing. Like, I chose a profession which was build a business that I thought, going back 10, almost 15 years ago, that when I had kids, when my son or daughter were toddlers and kids that, like, I'll never miss a game or play or this or that. A dance. Right.
• 59:04
  Speaker A: Dance, dad, dance, Dance.
• 59:07
  Speaker C: Because my dad, who I. I love my dad to death, you know, I. I don't know my dad in a lot of capacities, but he was in a business that, when I was a kid, he was still in the thick of it, working for the most part, seven days a week, 14 hours a day. There was a lot of things that he missed.
• 59:28
  Speaker B: Right.
• 59:28
  Speaker C: Not because he wants to be there. He physically couldn't. And part of the reason why the going into the restaurant business, like, wasn't for me. Right.
• 59:39
  Speaker B: That's interesting that you felt like that. And you, I mean, you're. You're building life that you want for your family.
• 59:46
  Speaker C: Because it's not that the restaurant business wasn't for me. Like, I could go. You could have done right now. But it was the trade off of.
• 59:51
  Speaker B: The fact that you want the family.
• 59:54
  Speaker C: I. I wanted more than Ellis.
• 59:56
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 59:56
  Speaker C: I wanted more of a balance. I, you know, as the world progresses right now, I less and less want to be the coach for my son.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker C: Because I just feel like I'm going to either beat up a dad or, you know, I'm going to ruin my career from just some stupid, stupid situation. I think I'd rather just be the silent father on the side.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker B: I don't Know how silent.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker C: Yeah. Or I'll be my son's coach.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker C: Um, I. Yeah, I think on a daily basis I want to be the coach less. We'll see. We'll see where, you know, we live.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker B: Joe was saying on it, too, like, he. He. First of all, I don't think he has the patience to deal with a million other kids.
• 1:00:37
  Speaker C: Yeah. Some kids. Hopefully my son isn't that kid.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker B: Right.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker C: Because I'm not saying my son's going to be perfect in any capacity. Like, some kids suck. And it's because.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker B: Suck, Jerry.
• 1:00:49
  Speaker C: And it's. No. And I'm not even saying, like, they stink at the sports. Like.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:00:54
  Speaker C: They're just. They're just their personalities. And most of the. It's because they're parents, you know, And I'm not really trying to deal with their parents.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker B: No, I know. And that's a big thing. The parents. The parents are very vocal, especially now with the coach.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker C: And I'm going to be a dev. And if Gio's not good at something, I'm going to have conversations with Gio about, like, well, it's okay to not be okay at this, but maybe there's a bunch of other things. We're going to give those things a try because it's going to be something that you're going to be good at, and then we're going to. Then we're going to thrive at that.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker B: Oh, I like that. So that's. That's a good way to be. Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker C: Like, I joke, I 100% hope my son is athletic.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker B: Right.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker C: And I think Joe said before, like, based on some coordination type things at this age, like, say it's trying to be unbiased. It's trending well.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker B: Okay, but. And he's a lefty.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker C: He seems to be a lefty. I don't know. The other day he was running. Running.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker B: It's hard to tell, but when he.
• 1:01:52
  Speaker C: Kicks a soccer ball, it does. He seems like he puts his left foot first, but that's also good because he's stepping to actually kick. He already Then shot. They still. But, you know, if he's. If he's not athletic, he's going to be good at something. And we're going to, you know, we're going to focus on that for sure.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker B: I love that. Maybe dance.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker C: He's not gonna dance.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker B: He might. Do you know your wife. Yeah. She twerks it. Twerk it back. She dances.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker C: Joe, he's not good at dancing.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker D: He'll dance at weddings.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker B: That was the dance. Feet at wedding.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker C: It's funny because my wife is a dancer. I can dance, right? Maybe not better than my wife, but I can.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker B: I don't know.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker C: I can dance.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker B: Do you think that you can dance better than her?
• 1:02:40
  Speaker C: No choreograph. No shot.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker B: Okay. Free. Free. Free fall.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker C: Freestyle.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker B: Freestyle.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker C: Yeah. I'll kick. I'll kick her ass.
• 1:02:47
  Speaker B: We'll have a dance off one time.
• 1:02:49
  Speaker C: Give me a couple of juicy tits on the boat. It's funny, my, like, coordination. Dancing gets a little better with, like, a couple drinks.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker B: Well, he'll be on the next TikTok. Did you guys like the TikTok? All right, well, we're gonna wrap this up, but Joe is gonna come on and you guys are gonna ask each other always the questions.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker C: You guys are really throwing us in the ringer.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker B: Yes. Right? Fire. Really? Fire.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker C: We didn't know that.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker B: They don't know anything.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker C: Nothing. No Charlie sniff.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker B: But you are a great dad. You are like, you are. Wait, Number one. Yeah.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker C: First off, thank you.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker B: I'm sorry.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker C: I'll keep trying.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker B: Keep trying.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker C: I think I saw Joey throw us back on my wife with one question. So I got to give you one question.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker B: What a copycat.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker C: What is the best thing about your husband as a dad besides being a drill sergeant?
• 1:03:42
  Speaker B: I know he came up with such a drill sergeant. He does have a soft side. He's so soft sometimes. I'm full of shit.
• 1:03:48
  Speaker C: Yeah, no, he's. He's stern.
• 1:03:50
  Speaker B: No.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker C: Well, I'm stern too. I. I actually, as a father, I'm stern. Like, is he.
• 1:03:56
  Speaker D: I don't.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker C: Yeah. I won't put up with this.
• 1:03:58
  Speaker B: Well, I feel like you and Joey are similar in. In a lot of ways.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker C: Yeah, I won't put up with the.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. It definitely comes out when they get older. Like. Yeah, you're disciplined.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker C: Like, ways, like in the sense of, like, if you're gonna go have like a. Like a fit over something that's ridiculous.
• 1:04:14
  Speaker B: Yeah, yeah.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker C: No, I'm not gonna deal with that.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker B: Honestly, I. What attracts me so much as him as a dad is the amount of time, like, he does want to spend with the kids. Like, he works so hard, but also when. When he comes home, like, he is there. Like, he wants to be there. And that is what I love most about him.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker C: That's right. You're blessed.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker B: Blessed. Blessed for the best.
• 1:04:42
  Speaker C: I'm proud of you guys as parents as well. Seriously, it's hard. I mean, like, we joke, we look at your guys life and like, you need birth control. Going to that household to an extent we're being truthful because like we knew we didn't want.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker B: Oh yeah.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker C: You see what you with at the time again? She was working. Working a dog. Like if we had three kids under five, like yeah, we. We'd be dead.
• 1:05:08
  Speaker B: Honestly, I think a lot of people feel that way. And we are just surviving. We are not thriving. But.
• 1:05:14
  Speaker C: But you're even go back a year.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker C: From a year prior to now.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker C: You were in full blown survival to. You're trending to survive.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker B: I mean they were all three. Imagine changing three separate diapers. No. Okay.
• 1:05:29
  Speaker C: I don't want to. I can't. And I don't want to.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker B: That right. So space them out a little or don't. Fine. Do what you got to do. And you're doing great at it too. Love you.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker C: Thank you.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker B: Love you. I loved you first and I'm proud.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker D: Of you guys in my.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker C: She did love me first. She did love me first and moment. Hopefully like Joey said before, you know, trying keep trending up.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker B: I'm sorry. I love.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker C: I'm trying to give up. I'm trying to give a lot of my time as you guys know. You guys know something that you guys want.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker A: She has no business. Just.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker B: No business. Just.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker C: We're getting the hang of it, right?
• 1:06:05
  Speaker A: What's this?
• 1:06:05
  Speaker C: Episode nine. So call it nine weeks, maybe ten weeks so we skip one. We're getting the hang of it. Yeah.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker A: It's.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker C: It's becoming easier and you guys.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker B: And we could not do it without you. Behind the scenes. Here he is. He's hotter than ever. I want him. That's a wrap until my husband comes on.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker C: Joe.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker D: Mikey.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker B: What's up?
• 1:06:31
  Speaker C: Dad o' clock, baby.
• 1:06:32
  Speaker D: You're gonna change the podcast now. It's gonna be us talking and not.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker C: Down at the clock. Are we off the clock or on the clock?
• 1:06:38
  Speaker B: Don't know. You decide.
• 1:06:39
  Speaker C: Father's day weekend U. S. Open.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker D: Well, before we fully get into this, for those who may not know if they haven't listened to previous episodes, whenever. Mike's my first cousin, my. My dad and his mom are brother and sister. We're pretty much brothers. We grew up next to each other. We do everything together.
• 1:06:57
  Speaker C: Actual neighbors I walked across and I.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker D: Was there and literally would do anything for each other. So it was nice that our wives were able to find each other. And I know as we were growing up, you know, Emily was a third wheel to me and Mike. It wasn't. Mike was the third wheel to me and Emily. And so it was nice that Emily, I mean Mike was able to find someone that Emily was able to become so close with.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker C: So we always, we always joked I had to marry somebody that was either Emily's friend or tried that to extend or someone that she absolutely has to be very, very good friends with. And they have molded into best friends, which is, which is great. So I just want to say Joey and I were told yesterday that this was going to happen yesterday.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker D: I was told this morning.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker C: This morning.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker D: Get ready. You're going on a podcast.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker C: I'm the producer, so I guess I get a little bit more inside information. And then they definitely just told us that you and I were going to be sitting here across from each other, talking to each other, which dangerous for them. Yeah, very dangerous. We can ruin this. But I was just given an iPad with questions that you and I have to ask each other. And I'm not sure if I'm going to ask it and you're going to answer, and then I'm also going to answer, but we're just going to. So first. 1, 2, 3. There's five questions here, so let's just fire away. What's the one thing you would warn other dads not to do in the delivery? Interesting. You had an interesting first delivery with COVID too?
• 1:08:39
  Speaker D: Well, Joey a. With COVID she had a really rough delivery. It was three and a half hours. He had seizures and everything else. But I think the advice, it's not the advice I would give to new fathers or, you know, new dads for their first child or any child, for that matter, when you have the baby in a natural birth. Because I can't. You can attest to C sections. Because I can't do that.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker C: Shit's crazy.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker D: When the baby comes out, follow the baby and watch the baby. Because for the first one, no one gave me that advice. You don't want to see what comes out next. And I'll leave it at that. It's, it's vulgar. It's not very fun. So watch the baby, follow the baby. And, you know, in our, in our scenario, you know, our baby was unresponsive. And thankfully, you know, they, they were able to figure out what it was. And, you know, he's doing great, but yeah, you don't, you don't want to see what, what comes next.
• 1:09:37
  Speaker C: I will say my first time around, I, I, I was in there because my wife had a C section. But that wasn't the first plan. The plan was, was natural and it, it was an attempt until baby was kind of breached and some things were going on. But I was in there, like, with the phone, like, recording it. I was, like, ready to go until the hospital was like, you can't record. I was like, oh, really?
• 1:09:58
  Speaker B: So.
• 1:09:59
  Speaker C: But, you know, it was once it went from that to the C section. That's a total. Totally. Especially the emergency C section. Totally different ballgame. Totally different ball game. I guess if I can get one piece of recommendation. If you're in that C section room, just stay behind the curtain. Just stay behind the curtain. Don't watch anything that's actually going on behind the curtain, because what's actually going on behind the curtain, you just don't want to know. And to your point of following your kid. So our kid came out so purple and dark. I didn't know that it was my son. I thought that again, it was just a crazy moment. I wasn't 100 sure that there wasn't other, like, C sections going on, like, from another area where that baby was maybe being brought near us, you know, to get the baby, like, you know, dressed in. In the town or whatnot. And I did not know that Gio was our son until they were like, want to meet your son? He's like. First off, he seemed really, like, big. Like a huge. He came out nine pounds, like, dumps full five foot. I'm five, six, five foot, nothing. Five foot, nothing. So when they were like, it's your kid. I was like, that's not my kid.
• 1:11:18
  Speaker B: Me.
• 1:11:19
  Speaker C: I look behind me like, are you pointing at someone else? Of course it was our. It was our kid. But it was. It was. It was funny. But, yeah, Warning. Just C section stuff. Stay behind the curtain.
• 1:11:32
  Speaker D: Both sides. Follow the kid.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker B: Follow the kid.
• 1:11:34
  Speaker C: The other thing that they're. They've written here for us. Okay, be honest. On a scale of one to holy shit, how freaked out were you watching it all go down? I think that sort of goes in with what we were just saying.
• 1:11:45
  Speaker D: Yeah, I would say. I wasn't.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker C: You watched the full natural.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker D: Well, so like we said, like I said before, she had a tough delivery. She was, you know, she was in labor for over three and a half hours pushing. And a portion of that, the doctor walked out. I actually was, like, there to receive the baby. You know, we were playing tug of war. There was. It was so much so that the nurses, they were understaffed. They said, oh, wow, you're a great doula. Like, you should do this for a living. And I was actually, like, in the mix of it where, like, I was the quarterback, ready to, you know, to take the handle that's fine. So I. I would say I wasn't. I was probably at a zero. You know, I. I'm very good in panic situations. I'm very good at. And staying calm and keeping her calm in a sense where, you know, her and Dom are very similar in that sense, where if something is to go awry, they. They start to panic. Where both of us are very even keel and able to process and.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker D: You know. And evaluate and execute.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker C: Yeah. I think for me, when it was going down naturally, and because we got to a point, like, I saw the top of Gio's head, like, as she was trying to push naturally, I was ready to rock. Like, there was not. No aspect about that that was, you know, grossing me out or this. Like, I was. I was. I was ready to see all. I didn't see the whole thing. It's possible that if I saw the whole thing, I would have been like, never again. But I was ready to rock that time around.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker D: That was also because I gave you the advice, follow the name, because if you saw it afterwards, you would never.
• 1:13:14
  Speaker C: Once it went to the emergency C section. And there was at one point where I did a little peek around that curtain. Yeah. Never, never, never again stare at your wife. Talk to your wife. Keep her calm, Knock her nails, hold her hand. Just talk to her. And let the doctors help with the breath behind the curtain. Yeah. What's the one thing you saw during birth that you could never unsee?
• 1:13:37
  Speaker D: Well, I just said. We both just kind of said what it was.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker C: We're gonna skip that one. Did you. Did you actually watch the baby come out, or did you accidentally stare at the wall?
• 1:13:49
  Speaker D: Like I said, I was in catcher's position, ready to receive. So, yeah, I was there. I was on the leg.
• 1:13:55
  Speaker C: I asked the doctors, talking, looking back, how badass are our wives that they were able to do this and give us our perfect babies?
• 1:14:07
  Speaker D: I mean, words can't describe the fact that she wanted to do this three times. I mean, after. After how.
• 1:14:14
  Speaker C: Maybe four.
• 1:14:16
  Speaker D: There's not. After how traumatizing the first one was.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker C: Yeah.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker D: You know, she jumped. She wanted to jump right back in the saddle the minute she had Joey in her arm.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker C: The first one was complications, Covid. Just terrible. I remember I came to St Barbara. St Barbara's remember coming to St Barbara's just to talk to you outside, just to, like, comfort you for a couple minutes, because I couldn't come in. I couldn't you call me. It was. I'm just.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker D: Yeah, it was definitely a weird situation.
• 1:14:42
  Speaker C: In front of the front door of Barnabas just to be like, yeah, okay, it was just, what a shitty time to have a kid, you know, But.
• 1:14:51
  Speaker D: I mean, yeah, like. Like I said, the fact that, you know, she wanted to do it again and again, the toughness, the bravery and, and being able to, you know, endure that is. And it. And it got easier each time is what her doctor told her. But you never believe that, you know, it's. Every time isn't fun. And hopefully, I know Don had had a difficult situation throughout her first time and hopefully, as you guys continue to bury your family, that, that it does get easier and she doesn't have those complications. And yeah, it's more seamless.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker C: I. There are certain days in your life where you remember, like, you know, every second or every minute. And that day was definitely one that I remember all of it. I'm sure Dom only remember some of it, if all.
• 1:15:36
  Speaker D: If any of it, if any of it all.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker C: And it was just, you know, again, it ended with us getting our. Our son, which amazing. But that day itself, like one of the worst days of. Of my life. And I wasn't the one there going through all the. The craziness. But to be able to watch it from the outside. Like, I remember towards the end before. Before it turned from a, you know, the natural birth to the emergency C section, she finally was able to like, fall asleep for a little bit, to just like, relax before, like, the doctor came back in to tried to push again. And I just remember just breaking down into tears. Like, it was just me and me staring at her asleep. And I just was crying and she woke up and I was crying. She's like, what's wrong with you? And I was like, honestly, like, I just. I just want this to be over. For you.
• 1:16:27
  Speaker D: It was hard to watch emotional rollercoaster for you as well.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker C: Two, three hours prior was really hard to watch. Again, not saying it was hard on me.
• 1:16:34
  Speaker D: No. But it shows how much you actually care for her. You love her and you don't want to see her go through that thing.
• 1:16:38
  Speaker C: It was really difficult. Difficult. And then going into the C section. From there, it was just movie scene type shit. Like it was. We're in this big, beautiful room, nurses, eight nurses come in, pack up your shit. They're packing up our bag. They're throw. Like we were packed for two days in that room. They were grabbing our shit, throwing in our suitcases, cleaning our suitcases, putting everything and then, and then everything together. It was just wheeling down, you know, the hospital to this Room. And I was just so, like, what the Is going on? Trying to, like, keep my cool, to be able to relay to her, like, it's gonna be okay, that we're gonna be fine. You're gonna be fine, G. You know, the baby's coming. He had his name prior. Gio's coming soon. And while simultaneously being like, what the fuck is going on? This is craziness. And then, yeah, thankfully, it all worked out when we got. We got our little angel baby.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker D: So, yeah, I think just as. As we're talking and everything else, one other thing that pops my head to, like, give advice for new parents or going for your first child, and as you go for your second, you know, the first time you go to the hospital, and first time we went, it was Covid. It was a little different. You couldn't leave the hospital. But when you go to the hospital, less is more. Like, the first time we went, I was carrying 17 bags, food this, that, and everything, and she still has her backpack, and she's waddling to the hospital, where every time after that, you know, it was a little bit less. A little bit less. You don't need as much as you think you're going to when you're there, you know, less is more. Enjoy the experience. And what we kind of adopted throughout, you know, when it was Covid, like you said, we couldn't have anyone come to the hospital, and it was really nice, especially for the first one after, you know, all the complications and everything else, that we were able to spend that time.
• 1:18:31
  Speaker C: Yeah, it's sort of a blessing with our son only. Do you guys.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker D: Yeah.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker C: Because you want your family to come and, like, meet and see, but at the same time, like, it's your first kid, like, it's okay to. It's cool to be able to have that time where it's just the three of you.
• 1:18:44
  Speaker D: We had. We adopted that for all of our kids. We didn't let anyone come to the hospital and see our kids throughout the whole process of it. And, you know, as we continue to have in between then Vienna and Morocco, it then became a vacation. It was our vacation away from the craziness and enjoying. Because once you go back to the craziness, you really don't have the opportunity to spend that solo time. You know, it's still, to this day, Rocco kind of gets pushed to the side because the other two are such big personalities. They're such in your face. They. They command the attention.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker B: Yeah.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker C: No. 100%.
• 1:19:15
  Speaker D: That's what I would say.
• 1:19:16
  Speaker C: Her bags are still packed. So who.
• 1:19:18
  Speaker D: Don.
• 1:19:19
  Speaker C: No, you're. You're. You're.
• 1:19:22
  Speaker D: It ain't happening. So she can get it out of her head. Unless it's with you. It ain't happening.
• 1:19:28
  Speaker C: Less is more for the next one, right? Actually, you know what? Hospital wise didn't pack that much the last three trips that we've taken the last couple of months. Can't say the same, but that's possible.
• 1:19:41
  Speaker D: We'll get that anytime we go anywhere. You know, we have a Expedition xl. No El. Whatever. The extra long. The. A huge trunk space. You. You literally can't fit anything else in the truck because she packs so much. You know, every little gadget toy, seed.
• 1:19:58
  Speaker C: Three kids, Nika one. You know, it's like for two nights or nine nights.
• 1:20:07
  Speaker D: That's how it goes.
• 1:20:08
  Speaker C: But it's all good at the end of the day. This was fun. Obviously, we kind of got thrown into the fire a little bit. Hopefully we don't totally ruin the podcast. The views. Maybe we increase the views. Who knows?
• 1:20:18
  Speaker D: We'll see. We'll see how it goes and we'll see.
• 1:20:20
  Speaker C: Maybe we'll be back and maybe soon there'll be four of these and then there'll be a group discussion where the four of us can kind of bust each other's chops.
• 1:20:29
  Speaker D: Definitely. I mean, I definitely had fun being thrown into a mix. Like I said, I got told this morning, get dressed. She laid out my clothes because Dom. Dom was like, oh, you slept two hours.
• 1:20:38
  Speaker C: You come on the podcast.
• 1:20:40
  Speaker D: Dom was like, you can't wear your typical outfit. Put your new. Put your newest outfit you have on, because my. My wardrobe is typically Yankees and only Yankees.
• 1:20:48
  Speaker C: Love you.
• 1:20:48
  Speaker D: I love you and like, comment, subscribe. I appreciate everything you do for these guys to, you know, hopefully grow their success and. And to then good luck and hopefully you guys continue to grow and cheers. Become famous.
• 1:21:06
  Speaker B: Well, you got him first.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker A: Good job, boys.
• 1:21:10
  Speaker B: Good job, baby. So good.
• 1:21:12
  Speaker A: Honey.
• 1:21:13
  Speaker B: Honey, we're back.
• 1:21:16
  Speaker A: Did you miss us?
• 1:21:17
  Speaker B: Did you like our husbands more?
• 1:21:19
  Speaker A: Definitely. I mean, they were so cute.
• 1:21:22
  Speaker B: I like model. Rewatch it because I. I was like.
• 1:21:24
  Speaker A: Joey was trying to talk. I was listen. Genuinely listening.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker B: Wait to watch.
• 1:21:29
  Speaker A: That was so. I mean, you don't ever get to hear your husbands talk on that mana.
• 1:21:34
  Speaker B: Yeah, like, when do you really get to hear your husband's talk about you or start talking Talk in general or talk ever, ever? That was never talk to his.
• 1:21:43
  Speaker A: No, seriously. I was so invested. That was so good. We love our husbands.
• 1:21:48
  Speaker B: We love them. We love them as dads we love us.
• 1:21:51
  Speaker A: We just love us.
• 1:21:52
  Speaker B: Father's Day is tomorrow. Or it was last week. When you're listening. But to all the fathers out there, happy Father's Day.
• 1:22:00
  Speaker A: We love you so much.
• 1:22:01
  Speaker B: Everyone's still looking for their daddies. Keep looking.
• 1:22:04
  Speaker A: Cause you ain't gonna find them. But seriously, happy Father's Day. We love our dads out there.
• 1:22:09
  Speaker B: And mom o' clock would not be mom o' clock without.
• 1:22:13
  Speaker A: Without Daddy.
• 1:22:14
  Speaker B: Without daddy.
• 1:22:15
  Speaker A: All right, well, anyway, like, follow, subscribe, don't forget YouTube, Apple Podcasts. Spotify is non existent.
• 1:22:23
  Speaker B: We're figuring it out.
• 1:22:25
  Speaker A: Seriously. Still figuring out. But we love you guys so much. And thanks for listening, and thanks for.
• 1:22:30
  Speaker B: Listening to our husband.
• 1:22:31
  Speaker A: I hope you enjoy.
• 1:22:33
  Speaker B: Bye.
• 1:22:33
  Speaker C: Bye.
• 1:22:41
  Speaker A: It.