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Ep 31 | The Privilege of Being Who You Are: Reclaiming Your True Frequency as a Sensitive Woman · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, Conversations for
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the Sensitive Soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength, not something.
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise sensitive, and authentic self. Well, I just
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want to begin today by just letting you know
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how deeply I appreciate you being here, you listening
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to this podcast, to what my heart has to share
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for your greatest benefit. You know, I, last
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week I recorded episode 30 called When Peace
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Is Not Quiet. It's about boundaries, fresh air,
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and the sensitive woman's voice. And I believe
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that was the first time that I actually, you
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know, was sharing something so very live and
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real and raw for me. You know, and just what
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I was encountering with a neighbor. And I just
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want to follow up by saying that, you know, my
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own, you know, reflections on how I responded
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to the situation, you know, and really how much
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unfolded before that occurrence where I had the
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exchange with her. after, you know, with different
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people that I had talked about. And this neighbor
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had walked by, I think it was Saturday. And she
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just had a lovely, very colorful, you know, jumper
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on and, you know, she had purple sandals, and
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she just looked so lovely. And I commented about
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what a beautiful outfit. And that prompted her
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to stop walking by, you know, and actually walk
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towards me into my yard. And, you know, she asked
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me, you know, how things had been, you know,
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because now she was walking away from my yard
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to smoke and you know, I thanked her, I said,
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Yes, it's been, you know, so much better. I really
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appreciate, you know, that and, you know, and
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she acknowledged that she doesn't want to, you
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know, intrude on other people's fresh air or
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experiences of life. And it just took us right,
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like a few different interchanges until we found
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that balance between you know just honoring and
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respecting each other's journeys and she did
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share more about her own um experiences with
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smoking and that she had wanted to quit smoking
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and so I certainly shared you know resources
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with her because I really value everybody's experience
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and perspective and understand how different
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we each are um So anyway, I just wanted to follow
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up with that because, you know, this podcast
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is, you know, it's really me speaking from my
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heart in whatever is coming up in the now. I
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do not have like a prescripted, you know. I don't
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even necessarily know the topic that I'm going
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to talk about. I've had a few episodes where,
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you know, I knew what I was going to reference,
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right? The idea had come. And so it felt right.
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And I said, yes, and I did it. But otherwise,
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when I'm recording on, you know, Wednesday mornings,
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you know, which is a mercury day, and I'm born,
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you know, as Gemini under the planet of Mercury,
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I'm literally speaking to you from my heart because,
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you know, from a human design perspective, my
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conscious sun is in gate 20 .3, which is a third
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line. So I'm all about trial and error and just
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experiencing life. I live and I learn and I grow.
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It's about the now, you know, so it's literally
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the energy is just moving through me and I'm
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speaking to you in the now and I don't know what
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I'm going to say. I don't know, you know, what's
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going to come through me because again it's not
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a strategy you know this is me being me um authentic
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and free and just aligned and inspired and um
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so i just wanted to share that little bit in
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case you don't know me uh yet and you're new
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to listening that really i am living what i call
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the realigned journey you know because i care
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about what is coming up for me to learn and grow
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through. You know, I understand that we each
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have a very unique path. You know, we each have
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a very unique design. And whether we see, you
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know, ourselves as you know children of god children
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of light you know children of mother father god
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or goddess like there's so many different ways
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right um to view who we are as as if we want
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to call it children right but we are all very
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unique individual individuations of you know
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one universal intelligence and source of all
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that is. And so I'm here to share freely in what
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can most benefit other sensitive and strong women
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who are just awakening to what makes them different
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you know I'm just amazed and I and I'm so honored
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to work with and support and walk with other
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sensitive women you know on their own realigned
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journey right where You know, they want to understand
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why they do what they do. You know, they want
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to let go of the weight of, you know, carrying
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others as far as taking on more responsibilities,
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right? Because again, this depth of caring, this
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depth of processing. that we have as sensitive
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women you know we often are just so generous
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right we can call it overly generous um you know
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but the key is is it's not that we want to stop
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being generous of heart right because we do have
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this depth of caring we absolutely care it's
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just that we our unraveling right old beliefs
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or old conditions or patterns that told us that
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we needed to you know take care of others right
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we needed to save others we needed to support
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others um before ourselves and you know i've
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certainly seen this from many different perspectives
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right there are times when i can see like I want
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to save this person. When I say save, I want
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to help, right? Like, I can see, I can feel,
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I can sense the turmoil that they're in. And
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I just want to be a guiding light for them, right?
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And there are times in my life when, you know,
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I did, I invested so much time and energy in
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people in my personal life. And even my professional
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life, when I think of, you know, working on teams,
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you know, and really caring about the people
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that I was working with, you know, that I was
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willing to give more time and more attention
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to supporting them because I could see their
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pain. I could feel their pain. I could see that
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I could make a difference by being supportive,
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by being giving, right? But what was hard to
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see while I was living that was how it was actually
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causing me, right, the harm. I was abandoning
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myself, right? My own needs, my own priorities,
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my own preferences, you know? But I think that,
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you know, often, again, we have these other beliefs
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that, you know, maybe tell us, you know, well,
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if I just hang in there a little bit longer.
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You know, I, I think they're going to turn that
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corner and, and everything's just going to be
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so much better, you know, and I've done that.
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I've lived that. And, um, it, it has not, um,
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turned out the way that I used to think it would,
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you know, and that's where it just really became
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about, I need to take care of me. Right. And
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so I need to get to know me and my needs and
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to prioritize that. And it's not always the easiest
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thing to do as a sensitive woman, you know, because
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especially if we're in a relationship, if we're
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parenting, right, or if we're caring for our
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parents, you know, whatever stage of life you're
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in, right, there's different challenges. But
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I absolutely, you know, recommend and advocate
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that you carve out time to just be with yourself,
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right? I've spoken about, you know, in other
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episodes where you need to be your own best friend
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because no one else walks this path with you.
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Every step, every breath, every heartbeat, right?
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It's you. And often, you know, We're neglecting
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our own needs to meet the needs of others, whether
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that's society, loved ones, friends, right, careers.
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And nobody wins when that happens, you know,
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in the sense of that, that out of balance, you
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know, ripples. So it may seem that other people
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are benefiting from you. When you're over giving
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or not meeting your own needs, but not really,
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not really, because we're greater benefit to
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others when we're truly attuned to our own needs,
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right? You know, I talk a lot about coherence,
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you know, between our heart and our head in the
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sense of, you know, the heart sends more signals
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to the brain than the brain does to the heart,
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right? And, you know, there's so much about our
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heart's intelligence and wisdom and guidance
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that, you know, can't be researched. There's
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a lot of amazing research out there and I've
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certainly referenced HeartMath Institute and
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their research and I'm really grateful for the
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work that they do and continue to speak about
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it, right? But we're talking, you know, beyond
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our physical form, you know, and that's what
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I'm here to speak about, right? We are whole
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beings, you know, we can't necessarily only approach
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our physical health from a physical perspective,
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right? There's a lot more research, you know,
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that speaks to the energetics, right? The biofield,
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the electromagnetic field, you know, there's
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so much available. And how much you hear about
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or read about you know or even is waking up for
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you to realize and remember you know is different
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for each of us um and that's where you know the
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more we tune in right the more we connect with
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our breath right the more we get still right
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get centered and listen, right? And feel, just
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really tune in, you know, it becomes clearer,
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right? Like, let's just take a break and breathe
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love here. It just feels so important. You know,
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I invite you to rub your hands together and just
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feel that warmth that gets generated as you move
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your hands. whether it's in a circle or back
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and forth, you know, and then just slow it down.
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And if you're in a safe, you know, environment,
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close your eyes or just lower your lids. And
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then just gradually move your hands apart and
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just feel the sensations, right? Feel that tingling
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in your fingers. Just feel that electricity moving
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through you. Maybe you feel it even between the
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two hands with them separated, right? Then I
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invite you to put one hand on your heart and
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the other on your belly. And then take a nice
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deep inhale through your nose. Second inhale
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through your nose. And now a nice long exhale
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out your mouth. You can make a sigh. You can
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blow out a candle. The key is just long and slow.
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I invite you to continue for at least two more,
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just at your own pace, honoring where you are
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and what's true and correct for you. But inhaling
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deeply through the nose, second inhale, and then
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nice, long, and slow exhale out your mouth. And
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again. I say one is better than none, but I love
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the number three, but there's a lot of great
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numbers. So it's not like, you know, it has to
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be any certain way. I really do encourage you
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to honor wherever you are in this moment. You
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know, What has come up for me in the last week
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is a quote from Joseph Campbell. And I knew I
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had posted it on my Instagram and Facebook, and
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I was curious how long ago it was. So it was
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actually something I posted in March of 2018.
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But the quote is, the privilege of a lifetime
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is being who you are. I mean, just take that
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in, right? The privilege of a lifetime is being
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who you are. I think it's just something worth
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just sitting with, you know, and realizing, like,
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how much of your life, of your day, Maybe it's
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easier, right? Whatever stage or age you're at,
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like how much are you tailoring to, right? What
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the external world is dictating in a sense, right?
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What that collective wave, right? Whether it's
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fear, whether it's productivity, you know, performance,
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whatever it is. Like how much are you giving
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attention to the external world versus how much
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you're tuning in and tending to who you are and
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what you need as a whole being, right? I call
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it mind, body, heart, and soul. You know, I just,
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I just, there's so many aspects, right, to who
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we are. And me as a Gemini, my fascination has
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always been with the mind and understanding,
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why do we do what we do? Why do things happen
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to some people that don't happen to others? You
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know, why is there no one way for us all? You
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know, so this is my invitation to you, you know,
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is if you've never heard this quote, you know,
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write this down. It's from Joseph Campbell. And
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if you're not familiar with him, he is an amazing
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individual who has passed, but he has wonderful
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books, you know, The Hero's Journey, The Pathway
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to Bliss. Actually, that's a book that my 13
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-year -old son is reading. So I just, I love
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the work of Joseph Campbell. But yes, this quote
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is... The privilege of a lifetime is being who
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you are. What does that even mean for you? That's
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what's really important. You know, as highly
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sensitive individuals, I am often supporting
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women as they share their personal experiences
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and their personal journey. and it comes back
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to well what does that mean for you you know
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because we have these meaning making machines
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in a sense you know as we experience something
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and notice something and then process it right
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we are these deep processors um which is really
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profound you know when you can understand that
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the meaning that we place on something is really
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important to know, right? So, you know, many
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women are looking at that, that what is the meaning
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behind something, you know, like if they didn't
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get to their to do list, right? Like if they
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had to deal with somebody else's feelings or,
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you know, tension in a relationship, you know,
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what did they make that mean about themselves,
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right? Like, it's not uncommon for women to feel
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like, I didn't get to my to -do list, you know,
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like, I don't feel like I've succeeded. I don't
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feel like I'm efficient, right? Efficient. And
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sometimes it's even, you know, well, this thing
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hasn't happened. So that means I'm a failure,
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right? Like there's so many different stories
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in a sense that get played across our consciousness
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that we're not always aware of because these
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to -do lists, right? They're just always there.
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And there's always going to be more to add onto
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that to -do list. And I remember before my awakening
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in 2008 i remember sitting in my beautiful home
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you know this was like peace on earth my former
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husband and i just felt like ah this is it this
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was our fifth home in 20 years and we just felt
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like this is everything we had the land we had
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really everything that we wanted and i remember
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like relaxing the best that I could back then,
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the high, strong woman that I was, you know,
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just thinking, oh, there's only like three or
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four more things on that list of to -dos. And
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then I can finally relax. I can finally enjoy
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my life. Like I finally reached that ultimate,
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you know, American dream. And it's like, What
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a joke that was, right? Like, that was the turning
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point, right, for so much of my life that got
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turned around, turned upside down, you know,
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and shook so that I could rediscover, you know,
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that there's so much more to life than what I
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had realized back then. And this is the privilege
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for me is, you know, I just celebrated my birthday
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on Sunday. I've been saying how I'm a Gemini
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and you know there's just so many things that
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come up you know around what people didn't understand
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about Geminis and you know what this time you
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know Uranus and Gemini means and you know there's
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just there's so much right but Whether this is
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a time where you're waking up to some of your
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old patterns or whether you're waking up to,
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you know, understanding that, you know, you matter,
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right? What your heart dreams about, that matters,
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right? Like you're not here to please others.
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You're not here to make others' dreams come true.
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You're here to live your life. to be who you
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are, right? Your own wise, sensitive, and authentic
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self. And, you know, you don't have to wait until
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you're in your 50s to access the wisdom, right?
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There's so much that I come across when I go
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on social media just to see what's there. And
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granted, I'm I'm targeted with the things that
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I've indicated I'm interested in, right? That's
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what the algorithms do. Oh, here's more of this
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thing that you're, you're indicating you like.
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Um, but I see a lot about, you know, oh, when,
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when a woman is in her fifties, this, that, and
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dah, dah, dah, dah, you know? And it's like,
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you know, again, I feel like that's compartmentalizing
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in a different way, right? The human journey.
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I mean, sure, we can recognize that as babies,
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you know, we look and appear and can do certain
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things. And, you know, we just continue to change,
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right? Evolve. But I see value in all of the
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stages and all of the ages and the waking up
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aspect to our wholeness, right? Our true nature
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and essence and that wisdom. It's not, it's not,
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you know, limited to once we're in our fifties,
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because there are many souls who come into this,
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you know, earthly experience for shorter amounts
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of time. So they don't lack wisdom because they
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didn't make it to their 50s, right? And that's
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really important to understand is I support women
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from 18 to their 80s. And I can tell you. the
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wisdom that comes through all of those ages and
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stages. And it's just beautiful. And it's about
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honoring, you know, each one of your hearts,
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wisdom and intelligence, you know, like we're
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all coming into this world as a soul, right?
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And our souls are eternal. So our wisdom is not
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confined to our physical age, right? Our physical
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journey. And I think it's really important to
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be who you are. But to be who you really are,
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it's important that you have that space to realign.
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with that truth of who you are. Because many
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of us have led busy lives, right? If we've been
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schooled, if we've been, you know, working full
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-time jobs, right? Like it's important to understand
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how conditioned we become, right? Because when
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you understand that, you know, your heart is
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emanating a frequency, right? And so are others.
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And, you know, We can get in sync with others
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when we're around them for a long time, right?
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So when we're schooled, right? Same age kids,
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when we're in careers, right? Whatever it may
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be. And this is why it's so important to trust
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your own inner guidance. Because you'll know
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when something's not true and correct for you.
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You will feel the dissonance, right? Like what
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resonates for you is going to feel good. It's
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going to bring relief, peace, right? Can light
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you up, can bring joy and passion, right? Like
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there's not one response is what I'm saying,
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because it depends on where you are and what
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you're currently experiencing, how something's
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going to feel that's resonant. dissonance, right?
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Like you could call it something that feels off,
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right? It irks you, frustrates you, you know,
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whatever that may be. But this is why for me,
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the invitation, right, is to trust your intuition,
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to trust your inner guidance, right? It does
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require space for you to connect with your breath
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your body and your heart so that you receive
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with clarity you know what is coming up for you
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so the privilege of a lifetime is being who you
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are And so you want to be able to know who you
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are, right? Appreciate the gifts that you have,
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the greatness, right? The gratitude, all of that
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is within you. Your unique brilliance and beauty,
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you know, and bliss, like connecting with that,
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right? Tuning in, you know, and then radiating
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that out to the world. That's, that's where our
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truest gifts are. That's how we're generous with
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each other, right? It's because the more aligned
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and attuned and coherent you are, the more that
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ripples out and the more that benefits others.
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So it's not selfish to take care of yourself
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first, right? It's truly essential. And especially,
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especially, please hear me. This is especially
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true when you are a highly sensitive individual
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and, you know, your own inner communication,
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right? Your alarm system, right? Like this is,
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it's called an innate survival strategy, right?
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But it's not strategic in the sense of, you know,
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We think of marketing or, you know, coming up
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with strategies to do things per se. This is
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an innate survival strategy in the sense that
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you're receiving this sensory intelligence, right?
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This high frequency, you know, or high perception
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is there to help direct you and redirect you,
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right? Back into alignment with yourself. back
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into what's true and correct for you. So just
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noticing, I swear, sometimes I could really talk.
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about these things for a much longer time but
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i really want to honor that there's other things
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that i know you want to tend to and you know
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less is better when it comes to highly sensitive
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individuals because it takes us time to process
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what we've heard what resonates with us right
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what it might tap into that now you want to explore
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so i really want to respect and honor your time
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So I'll just say if you're recognizing yourself
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as a sensitive woman, you know, one who truly,
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you know, wants to be who you are in your fullness,
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in your sensitivity, in your strength, right?
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Then I offer my entry pathway. Your sensitivity
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is intelligent design essentials course. It's
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a science informed course. Um, though, for those
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who are ready to understand their sensitive system
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as an intentional design, never a flaw to fix.
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There's so much that you can just release and
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let go of, um, as I guide you through this course
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of what makes your brain, you know, just a little
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bit unique and your nervous system, right? And
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how to keep realigning with you and your authentic,
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wise self. And I also know the importance of,
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you know, walking this together because I've
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certainly signed up for tons of courses whether
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it's because of my professional you know continuing
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education requirements or just my own personal
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journey and doing something alone It's not quite
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the same as doing it with others. So this is
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a hybrid in a sense. You still go through each
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lesson on your own, whether you do a lesson a
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day, a lesson a week, however long, there's 26.
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It's up to you. But I'm walking this with you
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through the year through four seasonal threshold
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gatherings. And the first of them is at the summer
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solstice. sensitivity realignment spiral. And
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I would just be honored to see you there and
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walk with you as you continue to wake up to who
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you really are, your unique magnificence. So
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before we close, I invite you to return to your
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breath, to your body. to what feels true for
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you right now. There's nothing you need to fix.
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Just notice what's here. Where the heart leads,
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the body remembers, and the soul awakens. As
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a reminder, we are here together to rise, reclaim,
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remember. And as always, I'm so grateful you're
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here. And you can find everything at realignwithmelissa
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.com. So take good care of you. Much love and
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light.