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5 reasons why the new supply won't believe you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, Beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about 5 reasons why the
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  Narcissist New Supply doesn't believe you.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back, welcome back,
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  welcome back folks. Yes, Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep, Yep,
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  yes. This is y'all.
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  Should you reach out to the Narcissist News supply?
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  I'm going to go ahead and say probably not.
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  You know, most times the answer to their question is going to be
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  no, unless there's some physical danger, some kids, some some
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  things going on with children, you know, maybe if you catch my
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  drift, something like that. If you want to try to warn them
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  to get ahead of it and what not to try to protect children and
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  try to protect them. I get that.
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  But even if you do that, there's no guarantee that the new supply
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  is going to believe you or they're going to trust you or
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  anything like that or they're going to just take your advice.
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  So this is going to be the top five reasons and there could be
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  more there going to be there. There's absolutely going to be
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  more. Y'all, let's just keep it RIP.
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  There's going to be more reasons, but this is my top five
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  reasons, right? Why the narcissist new supply
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  won't believe you if you so choose to reach out to them.
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  OK the number one reason is they don't care.
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  But let's keep it real y'all. Some people do not care about
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  the narcissist or toxic person's past.
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  They they in the past look that that was in the past.
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  They haven't you know they haven't done it.
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  To me they don't seem like that. They just don't care to hear
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  from the ex. You know, they might try to
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  rationalize it in their heads because they might have had a
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  toxic X themselves and whatever happened, you know, they, they
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  try to rationalize it in their heads and whatnot.
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  So they do not, they absolutely do not care what you have to
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  say. No matter what it is pertaining
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  to about the narcissist or whatever.
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  They in their past, they don't care.
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  Physical abuse, something going on with children, They don't,
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  yeah, let's be real, some people don't care.
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  Well, I don't have kids, so I don't care, you know, that might
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  be in the past. And I don't even have kids.
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  I don't even care if that happened, you know, And I know
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  how people are and people lie, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  So some people absolutely, truly just do not care.
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  But you have to say they don't know you, they don't trust you.
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  So it doesn't really matter if you reach out because they're
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  going to shut you down immediately anyway.
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  You know, or they might entertain you for a little
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  while, get some information from you and then share it with the
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  narcissist. You just gave them information.
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  You see what I'm saying? Now they now you just gave them
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  information and whatnot. But that happens quite a bit.
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  There's a, there's a lot of detail involved in that and
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  whatnot as well. So it always, it happens right
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  there. Yeah.
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  The second reason #2 that narcissists, the, the new supply
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  might not believe you is they think that you want them back.
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  Pardon the Interruption. Just want to let you know that I
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  do have courses and support groups available as well.
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  Courses to help you understand what you went through and
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  support groups to help you during or after the toxic
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  relationship. Link in the description.
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  And back to the video. They think that you are still in
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  love with that narcissist or toxic person and that you're
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  just reaching out to try to break them up, right?
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  That you, you're just reaching out because you want this person
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  back into your life. You might have just had a kid
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  with them, you know, and you want your family back together
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  because that's how it goes sometimes when people break up,
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  sometimes they want to get back together.
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  So they're assuming, they're just going to assumption that
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  you can go back to number one. They don't care because they
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  think that you want them back. They really truly think that you
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  want them back. Like you're just a bitter ex and
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  whatnot and you want like you. You just, you don't want to see
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  them happy and you might be crazy or whatever it is in this
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  situation right here. They just think that you are
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  reaching out to me because you want me to leave them because
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  you want them back into your life.
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  You want your boyfriend back, you want your husband back.
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  You want your girlfriend back. You want your wife back.
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  You want you, whoever this person is, you know, you want,
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  you want your best friend back. You want your favorite employee
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  back. You know, whatever it is, they
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  just think that you want them back.
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  So they just, they don't believe you're just like in one ear off
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  the other. It's not.
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  It's either they don't believe you or they just, it doesn't
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  matter. They don't care.
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  You know #1 the reason #1 is going to be big in this one
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  right here. Yeah, yeah.
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  They just don't give a damn. I mean, like, they don't care.
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  And they just think that you want them back.
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  That's just the simple crux of it right there.
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  Yeah. The third reason is that the
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  narcissist has already planted seeds and they believe the
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  narcissist and they have, you mean they have become a flying
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  monkey for the narcissist. So the narcissist toxic person,
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  whoever has already got into their ear has predicted that
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  you're going to reach out. The narcissist has already
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  thought about it like, oh, my ex is kind of crazy.
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  They're going to end up reaching out.
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  They're going to end up reaching out to them and talk, talking to
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  them. So let me go ahead and get ahead
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  of it. So they will preemptively talk
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  to the new supply about the possibility of you reaching out.
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  They'll talk to them about the possibility of you reaching out
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  and saying something to them, right?
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  They will absolutely do that. That's the mindset right there.
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  They just, OK, they're going to reach out.
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  So I need to be prepared. That's where it goes.
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  They're going to reach out to me.
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  They're going to reach out to my new supply.
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  So I need to go ahead and plant these seeds and hey, my ex might
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  reach out to you and she crazy as hell.
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  Just so you know, Hey, my ex might reach out to you and he he
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  is out of his mind. He's going to say he's going to
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  say the worst things about me. He's going to say the the most
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  horrible, wretched things about me.
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  He's he's going to say I was a liar.
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  She's going to say I was a cheater.
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  She's going to say I beat her up.
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  She's going to say, you know, there was I stole some money.
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  She's going to say I was I am I was bummed.
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  She's going to say all of this. I need you to not believe her
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  because I'm in love with you. I'm in love with you.
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  I want you. And she's going to make stuff up
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  because she wants me back. You see?
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  Go back to #2 She wants me back or he wants me back.
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  We know women can be narcissist to you.
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  But like, yeah, but that's how it goes right there.
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  She wants me back. So this is what I'm going to
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  say. This is what I'm going to do.
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  You know, that's the mindset, That's the dynamic.
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  That's really how it goes right there.
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  You know what I mean? So I'm just like, they will
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  already plant these seeds that you are crazy, that you might be
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  a narcissist, that you're jealous, that you're bitter,
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  that you're a stalker, that you're obsessive, that you are
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  dangerous. So guess what happens when you
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  reach out? You just it's kind of like this
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  kind of like you, you just make it come true.
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  It really, really is. It's like a self fulfilling
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  prophecy. I already told you my ex is
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  going to reach out. And then guess what happens?
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  My ex reaches out and confirms, pretty much confirms everything
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  I said by accusing me. I've said I've already told you
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  what they're going to say and they said so the new supply
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  believes me. So that's the third reason right
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  there why the narcissist new supply won't believe you.
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  Then it doesn't care because they don't believe the
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  narcissist. The narcissist already planted
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  their seed, so you reaching out could actually make the new
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  supply trust the narcissist more.
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  That's just the way it goes right there y'all.
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  The fourth reason, not the last one more after this, is that the
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  new supply knows you. The new supply knows who you
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  are. You, this is your your friend.
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  This is your family member. This is your brother or sister,
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  this is your mom or your dad. Do you know the new supply
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  already knows who you are. They know about your
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  relationship, but I mean, they might have been friends with you
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  and being been around you all as a couple and seeing the
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  toxicity, seeing the abuse, seeing everything that was going
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  on. And they know who you are.
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  So they don't like at at the end of the day, they're not going to
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  believe it. They're going to blame you.
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  So you reaching, like I said, you reaching out to the new
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  supply in this circumstance right here, just for feels that
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  because they already know you, so they don't really care.
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  They don't believe you. They think you want them back.
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  All this you see, this reason compiles all the other reasons
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  They don't. They don't care what you have to
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  say because they already know who you are, right?
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  They don't care. They took your man, they took
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  your girl, whatever they took your wife or whatever in this
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  situation and then they think that you want them back because
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  it's the mentality. That's the mindset that a lot of
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  them go through. And then they are going to
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  believe the narcissist because they want the narcissist, right?
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  They want to be with them. So if, if I want to be with
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  them, if I want them, then that's the way it's going to go
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  right there. You mean that's the space it's
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  going to be in. So the new supply knows you,
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  they're already already familiar with the dynamics of your
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  relationship. So if you reach out to them,
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  they already know you. They, they already know what to
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  expect, you know, and this right here ties into the last reason,
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  the the number five reason. They know you, right?
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  Or they don't know you. The fifth reason is they just
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  think they're better than you. Yo, the new supply doesn't care.
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  They think that they are more qualified for this person than
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  you are or ever will be. The new supply could you know
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  what I mean? Let's be realistic.
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  The new supply could also be a narcissist or toxic person
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  themselves, right? So they just think they're
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  better than you. They think they're entitled to
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  your man. They think they're entitled to
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  your girl because they just are. I'm better than you.
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  I'm more qualified for this person than you are.
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  Sorry that happened to you, but it won't happen to me.
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  Hey, this, that was in the past. It hasn't happened.
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  They haven't done that to me yet.
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  They haven't showed me those signs.
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  Maybe they just did you that way.
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  Sorry you feel that way. Sorry that happened to you.
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  Sorry you went through that, but I'm not going to go through
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  that. So that that's part of it right
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  there. So this I would just tell people
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  in their spaces and what not that that's how it would go.
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  So I would tell people, I would just warn people that sometimes
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  the new supply just think that they're better than you.
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  They they got your person and they think that person's going
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  to treat them better than they ever treated you.
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  They think that person is going to be better to them than they
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  were ever to you. So that happens a lot.
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  So before you reach out to the new supply before you do that,
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  and just sometimes you end up embarrassing yourself.
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  Just think about this list right here because again, you might be
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  reaching out to a super flying monkey or another narcissist.
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  They get together right? And I'll throw in a bonus reason
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  right here. The the new supply knows you and
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  they hate you. They are jealous of you.
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  So they don't care if you reach out.
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  They don't, they don't believe you and they don't care because
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  they hate you. The new supplies is not your
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  best friend or your your person. They know you, but they're an
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  enemy of yours. They're like what what the kids
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  say these days. They they are one of your OPS.
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  They are an OP. Well, that's the mindset, that's
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  the dynamic, that's the space that so many people fall into
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  right there. So I would just say y'all, if
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  you've missed it, if you missed it, if I missed the reason, drop
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  your comments in the comment section or whatnot.
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  Hey Lee, what about this reason right here?
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  I'm y'all know I'm in the comment section all the time and
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  whatnot. Anyways, y'all make sure y'all
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  I am extremely grateful for you have no idea.
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  I will see you in the next video.
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  Peace.