Latest / Dots and Dreams / Episode 8: How to Navigate a Career Pivot in The AI Era And Why Self-Gratitude is The Only Answer
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- 0:01SPEAKER_00: Have you ever felt like such a failure that the idea
- 0:04SPEAKER_00: of any company hiring you seemed impossible?
- 0:09SPEAKER_00: Like, everything you've ever done in your career was worth absolutely nothing.
- 0:16SPEAKER_00: That's exactly how I felt after every single email rejection,
- 0:20SPEAKER_00: every single interview process,
- 0:24SPEAKER_00: really during the entire 14 months on the job market since AI entered the picture.
- 0:31SPEAKER_00: Between January 2025 and February 2026, I felt completely lost.
- 0:39SPEAKER_00: I'd pump myself up.
- 0:41SPEAKER_00: I'd apply to several jobs.
- 0:44SPEAKER_00: I'd leverage the heck out of my network.
- 0:46SPEAKER_00: I'd show up.
- 0:47SPEAKER_00: I'd over prep.
- 0:49SPEAKER_00: I'd listen to podcasts with people I'd be interviewing with.
- 0:52SPEAKER_00: I'd go all out.
- 0:54SPEAKER_00: And each and every time, I'd feel like this is just the death of my career.
- 1:00SPEAKER_00: And what I really couldn't name back then was that I actually had the space
- 1:06SPEAKER_00: to think, to reflect on what's next.
- 1:09SPEAKER_00: I actually had space to sit in and really see where I wanted to go.
- 1:18SPEAKER_00: But I wasn't using it because nobody teaches us how.
- 1:22SPEAKER_00: Society doesn't give us permission to pause.
- 1:26SPEAKER_00: I was running the marathon of finding either exactly what I had
- 1:31SPEAKER_00: or just finding what's the next thing, but I was missing the point entirely.
- 1:41SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Dots and Dreams,
- 1:43SPEAKER_00: a podcast about the real,
- 1:45SPEAKER_00: vulnerable, and my sometimes in the moment stories of life transitions.
- 1:50SPEAKER_00: I'm Jenny Sidorova, and I've been an immigrant, marketer, mother, and serial reinventor.
- 1:56SPEAKER_00: And today,
- 1:57SPEAKER_00: I want to talk about why self-gratitude is the only way to get through
- 2:03SPEAKER_00: a career pivot in the post-AI era.
- 2:09SPEAKER_00: It's summer 2025.
- 2:11SPEAKER_00: I'm on the verge of a burnout from my job search.
- 2:15SPEAKER_00: And while I felt like my energy with the job search was just dying out,
- 2:20SPEAKER_00: I felt like I needed something uplifting and something with community.
- 2:25SPEAKER_00: I must have seen an ad on Instagram or something
- 2:28SPEAKER_00: because only social media would have led me to actually read a self-help book called
- 2:34SPEAKER_00: The Magic.
- 2:35SPEAKER_00: By Rhonda Byron.
- 2:37SPEAKER_00: She's more known for her book The Secret, but I didn't read that one.
- 2:40SPEAKER_00: I'm not usually into that type of stuff, but I was intrigued.
- 2:45SPEAKER_00: I'm part of this expat woman's mama's group here where I live in the southwest of France.
- 2:51SPEAKER_00: So I thought, you know what?
- 2:52SPEAKER_00: I'm about to go to Ireland with my family for three weeks.
- 2:56SPEAKER_00: Let's see if I can get a group of women together and we can all read
- 3:00SPEAKER_00: the book together and hold each other accountable because it's basically 28 days
- 3:06SPEAKER_00: of blessings, gratitude exercises that you do guided as you read the book.
- 3:13SPEAKER_00: I threw a message out there in the WhatsApp group.
- 3:15SPEAKER_00: There were three women who were up for it.
- 3:18SPEAKER_00: And so we were a small group of four.
- 3:20SPEAKER_00: Next thing I know, I was leading this project because that's what it was, a project.
- 3:27SPEAKER_00: And I created a WhatsApp group with the picture being the book cover.
- 3:31SPEAKER_00: And we just went for it.
- 3:33SPEAKER_00: There were a few things we had to do as pre-work before we actually started day one
- 3:39SPEAKER_00: of 28 days of exercises.
- 3:42SPEAKER_00: One of the pre-work exercises was simply to write down three things you are grateful
- 3:48SPEAKER_00: for about yourself.
- 3:50SPEAKER_00: Have you ever done that?
- 3:52SPEAKER_00: Have you ever looked in the mirror and asked what am I amazing at
- 3:57SPEAKER_00: and what am I grateful to myself for?
- 3:59SPEAKER_00: Have you ever tried to do that when you're feeling at the lowest of the lows
- 4:04SPEAKER_00: with your self-esteem?
- 4:06SPEAKER_00: Well, I haven't.
- 4:07SPEAKER_00: I had never had to do that because my self-esteem had never been that low.
- 4:13SPEAKER_00: But I forced myself to do it and what I wrote down was I'm grateful to myself
- 4:18SPEAKER_00: for never giving up even when I feel really defeated and like there's no direction.
- 4:24SPEAKER_00: I'm grateful for my resilience and I'm grateful to myself for trying
- 4:29SPEAKER_00: to be optimistic even when it feels really difficult.
- 4:34SPEAKER_00: It felt forced.
- 4:35SPEAKER_00: It felt super unnatural.
- 4:37SPEAKER_00: But those three gratitudes would make a huge impact at some point.
- 4:42SPEAKER_00: There was no way that I could have known that when I actually wrote them down.
- 4:46SPEAKER_00: I got laid off in December of 2024, and it was towards the end of my second maternity leave.
- 4:53SPEAKER_00: The funny thing is,
- 4:54SPEAKER_00: though, it didn't feel devastating at first because, well, I kind of expected it.
- 4:59SPEAKER_00: I knew what the company was going through.
- 5:01SPEAKER_00: I was part of the management team.
- 5:03SPEAKER_00: And when the CEO left a few months before I got laid off, I saw the writing on the wall.
- 5:10SPEAKER_00: But I went into my job search being really confident and thinking,
- 5:15SPEAKER_00: well, I'm going to look for a new job and find something great.
- 5:19SPEAKER_00: I didn't have the full picture yet.
- 5:21SPEAKER_00: I didn't know how different the market had become.
- 5:23SPEAKER_00: I didn't know that AI was reshaping hiring and reshaping applying for jobs.
- 5:30SPEAKER_00: This was towards the beginnings of the democratization of chat GPT.
- 5:35SPEAKER_00: So I didn't have the full picture.
- 5:37SPEAKER_00: I quickly did.
- 5:38SPEAKER_00: It took me about a month of applying to jobs to realize this is like no other job market.
- 5:44SPEAKER_00: And I have experienced six others.
- 5:46SPEAKER_00: It's not like I've been in the same company for 10 years.
- 5:50SPEAKER_00: But the plan that I had made,
- 5:53SPEAKER_00: which was let's get through Christmas and then seriously start to look when
- 5:57SPEAKER_00: the kids go back to daycare and school.
- 6:00SPEAKER_00: And I kind of assumed I would land something fast because I had in the past.
- 6:06SPEAKER_00: I've had to look for a job many times in my career,
- 6:09SPEAKER_00: and it's usually taken me anywhere from four to six months.
- 6:12SPEAKER_00: Where the false hope here came from was Was really the relief
- 6:17SPEAKER_00: of already having something after maternity leave.
- 6:21SPEAKER_00: I went on maternity leave relishing the fact that I had something to come back to.
- 6:27SPEAKER_00: I felt like I didn't have to stress.
- 6:29SPEAKER_00: I could go on maternity leave,
- 6:31SPEAKER_00: enjoy my time with Victor,
- 6:32SPEAKER_00: who I knew would be my last baby, and then come back to DX.
- 6:37SPEAKER_00: I figured worst case scenario,
- 6:39SPEAKER_00: I'll come back, work for a year and then start looking for something.
- 6:42SPEAKER_00: But there was a certain false confidence that was created from the fact
- 6:47SPEAKER_00: that I had this kind of excitement over coming back again.
- 6:52SPEAKER_00: With a job after maternity leave.
- 6:54SPEAKER_00: That sentiment very much clouded me.
- 6:57SPEAKER_00: So eight months into the job market,
- 7:00SPEAKER_00: I felt like I was at my breaking moment right before we were going to Ireland.
- 7:06SPEAKER_00: And that was kind of when I felt like this is a square into a circle situation.
- 7:12SPEAKER_00: This is not working.
- 7:14SPEAKER_00: Max and I in Ireland had a lot of conversations and we kind of looked
- 7:18SPEAKER_00: at our larger life, our surroundings.
- 7:20SPEAKER_00: We started thinking that maybe moving is the right thing for us.
- 7:23SPEAKER_00: Maybe we need to open the pool of opportunity.
- 7:26SPEAKER_00: That actually gave me a lot of excitement and I went ahead and continued looking for something.
- 7:33SPEAKER_00: Now pivoted to cities like Amsterdam and Dublin, in office, hybrid roles.
- 7:40SPEAKER_00: But when I think back on the 14 months of my job search,
- 7:43SPEAKER_00: what comes to mind is that the time off was not chosen.
- 7:47SPEAKER_00: That's probably one of the difficult things
- 7:50SPEAKER_00: with getting laid off is it's really forced on you and it was really forced on me.
- 7:56SPEAKER_00: The burnout didn't really have a single moment.
- 7:59SPEAKER_00: It was like an ongoing bucket of water with drops being added every interview process.
- 8:06SPEAKER_00: Every time a rejection email came, it was like an additional drop of water.
- 8:11SPEAKER_00: And every single week with those heavy applications,
- 8:15SPEAKER_00: one too many networking calls, and then boom, the bucket of water just tipped.
- 8:21SPEAKER_00: That moment was when I kind of said, you know what?
- 8:24SPEAKER_00: I need to stop completely applying to jobs.
- 8:28SPEAKER_00: I need to stop even looking at job descriptions.
- 8:31SPEAKER_00: And that was when I really pivoted into...
- 8:34SPEAKER_00: What I've been referring to as the pull.
- 8:37SPEAKER_00: Things that give me energy.
- 8:38SPEAKER_00: Things that make me excited.
- 8:40SPEAKER_00: This creative process.
- 8:42SPEAKER_00: The community of other creatives.
- 8:44SPEAKER_00: The spontaneity behind it.
- 8:46SPEAKER_00: It was already kind of quietly overriding the square peg feeling from the job search.
- 8:53SPEAKER_00: And leaning fully into that really helped me understand.
- 8:58SPEAKER_00: I think that the fact that I did this magic exercise that I was leaning into
- 9:07SPEAKER_00: the self-gratitude and gratitude in general mindset for 28 days last August is
- 9:18SPEAKER_00: It was something that I really grabbed onto in order to attempt to save myself.
- 9:24SPEAKER_00: I already knew that gratitude was something that humans cannot experience at
- 9:29SPEAKER_00: the same time as they experience negativity.
- 9:37SPEAKER_00: When I moved to Paris in 2017,
- 9:40SPEAKER_00: I also kind of needed at that moment daily reminders of things that I'm grateful for
- 9:45SPEAKER_00: to get through what was really hard at that time.
- 9:49SPEAKER_00: And the summer 2025 and those daily blessings while I was taking a breather from
- 9:55SPEAKER_00: the job market, it really helped me have a reset.
- 9:59SPEAKER_00: Part of the process I had to do during that book was also...
- 10:04SPEAKER_00: Approach something that was really difficult with a gratitude mindset.
- 10:09SPEAKER_00: The book has you list 10 blessings towards a difficult situation in your life.
- 10:16SPEAKER_00: Naturally, I chose unemployment because that's what was front and center at that time.
- 10:22SPEAKER_00: And four of the blessings that I will just share here from my list of 10 were...
- 10:28SPEAKER_00: Wednesdays with my daughter, Lena, and Fridays with my son, Victor.
- 10:32SPEAKER_00: Lena has never been to a Wednesday's care program because of my unemployment.
- 10:39SPEAKER_00: I've been able to be with her since there's no school here on Wednesdays.
- 10:43SPEAKER_00: And And we can save some money with Victor not being in daycare on Fridays.
- 10:47SPEAKER_00: And I get to have my day with each kid.
- 10:49SPEAKER_00: Also, networking really forced me to be vulnerable.
- 10:53SPEAKER_00: But I was also so humbled by how many people said yes and talked to me
- 10:58SPEAKER_00: and shared their story with me.
- 10:59SPEAKER_00: And I would have never reached out to those people if it wasn't for my unemployment.
- 11:04SPEAKER_00: I put AI on my list because I had the space to learn.
- 11:08SPEAKER_00: So I got to teach myself a lot, test a lot, and actually apply it to my own job search.
- 11:14SPEAKER_00: I even built a website.
- 11:16SPEAKER_00: I got to do so much with AI that I would have never had time.
- 11:19SPEAKER_00: And finally, I was really grateful for my husband, Max.
- 11:27SPEAKER_00: Unemployment forced us to have a lot of hard conversations about moving careers in our 40s.
- 11:34SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
- 11:49SPEAKER_00: Applying this lens of gratitude to the situation that was the hardest in my life at
- 11:54SPEAKER_00: that moment was a really interesting experience.
- 11:58SPEAKER_00: And it reminded me of the power of gratitude because I have often in times
- 12:04SPEAKER_00: of life difficulties leaned on gratitude.
- 12:08SPEAKER_00: This self-gratitude mindset kind of became my lifeboat.
- 12:13SPEAKER_00: And I think it's truly the only way to approach a career pivot post the AI era.
- 12:20SPEAKER_00: Why do I keep saying post?
- 12:22SPEAKER_00: Well, because AI is here.
- 12:24SPEAKER_00: So in my mind, we are now living the post.
- 12:27SPEAKER_00: We are already living the aftermath of AI entering our lives and My next step kind
- 12:34SPEAKER_00: of became an entire career pivot, much more than just looking for a job.
- 12:41SPEAKER_00: And it's really interesting to think back to what turned this process
- 12:46SPEAKER_00: from I got laid off, I'm looking to a job into this is a much larger journey.
- 12:53SPEAKER_00: I am sharing this with you because so many people are impacted and either forced
- 12:59SPEAKER_00: to rethink their careers or just willingly go through a pivot.
- 13:03SPEAKER_00: I see it all over my Substack and LinkedIn feeds.
- 13:07SPEAKER_00: I know my own friends are asking themselves so many questions
- 13:10SPEAKER_00: about what makes them happy, what they want to do.
- 13:14SPEAKER_00: A lot of people actually...
- 13:16SPEAKER_00: Don't have the strength to ask themselves those questions if they are already in
- 13:21SPEAKER_00: a full-time role because it does take a lot of strength to carve out space
- 13:27SPEAKER_00: to actually deal with this topic.
- 13:30SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to lie.
- 13:32SPEAKER_00: Ever since I leaned into the space that I have been forcefully given, I actually...
- 13:40SPEAKER_00: I'm amazed at what has come out of it and how much of
- 13:43SPEAKER_00: a more impactful journey it has been on me.
- 13:47SPEAKER_00: But leaning into the space has been extremely difficult.
- 13:51SPEAKER_00: It took me 14 months of square in a circle momentum to finally say,
- 13:58SPEAKER_00: Jenny, you have been given this space.
- 14:01SPEAKER_00: Lean into it.
- 14:02SPEAKER_00: Lean into the pull, but also lean into the space.
- 14:06SPEAKER_00: So I want to share my recipe to really help others because I know there are
- 14:11SPEAKER_00: so many people going through this right now.
- 14:13SPEAKER_00: Here are three ways I recommend approaching a career pivot right now
- 14:19SPEAKER_00: and all are guided by self-gratitude because as I said up front,
- 14:23SPEAKER_00: I really think this is the only way you can really get through a career pivot
- 14:28SPEAKER_00: in this post-AI era.
- 14:31SPEAKER_00: So the first thing is to constantly pamper yourself with self-gratitude.
- 14:35SPEAKER_00: The second thing is being grateful often leads to altruism.
- 14:39SPEAKER_00: Number two is be altruistic.
- 14:42SPEAKER_00: Number three is don't fight the imposed space.
- 14:46SPEAKER_00: See it as a gift.
- 14:47SPEAKER_00: Let it linger as long as possible and be grateful for it.
- 14:52SPEAKER_00: I want to go into all three of these.
- 14:55SPEAKER_00: The first one, constantly pamper yourself with self-gratitude.
- 14:59SPEAKER_00: That list that I wrote down,
- 15:01SPEAKER_00: the one where I wrote down those three things I was grateful for,
- 15:05SPEAKER_00: the difficulty of looking at myself in the mirror
- 15:09SPEAKER_00: and writing those three things down,
- 15:12SPEAKER_00: that list ended up being pinned to my wall and I look at it regularly.
- 15:16SPEAKER_00: I remind myself of my resilience,
- 15:19SPEAKER_00: my inability to give up, and always kind of attempting to be optimistic.
- 15:25SPEAKER_00: Also, I have this post-it right in front of my computer that says you are
- 15:30SPEAKER_00: a rare pearl talent because I am.
- 15:33SPEAKER_00: I am a rare pearl talent and I have not taken that post-it off for over a year.
- 15:41SPEAKER_00: It's really important to remember what you are grateful to yourself for because by
- 15:47SPEAKER_00: By doing that,
- 15:48SPEAKER_00: you're actually tapping into memories that are not top of mind when you are in
- 15:54SPEAKER_00: a career pivot.
- 15:55SPEAKER_00: You don't remember all of the things you have accomplished.
- 15:58SPEAKER_00: And if you're not actively interviewing,
- 16:00SPEAKER_00: which I have not been since February, you're not telling your story.
- 16:05SPEAKER_00: And when you don't tell your story, you forget everything you've done.
- 16:09SPEAKER_00: And we still live in this polarized society where the second I open LinkedIn,
- 16:13SPEAKER_00: I'm The second thing is be altruistic.
- 16:16SPEAKER_00: So I'm
- 16:41SPEAKER_00: This one is really easy to do if you are in a grateful mindset because
- 16:46SPEAKER_00: when you're grateful, you want to give.
- 16:48SPEAKER_00: You want to give without asking for anything in return.
- 16:51SPEAKER_00: A specific example that pops into my mind is this podcast.
- 16:57SPEAKER_00: I'm slowly getting messages and feedback from people telling me that they feel seen
- 17:03SPEAKER_00: with certain episodes or they too are living a difficult moment and this story
- 17:09SPEAKER_00: that I told spoke to them and I'm realizing from these messages
- 17:13SPEAKER_00: that they fill my cup like nothing else right now.
- 17:17SPEAKER_00: So I find myself really wanting to Be altruistic and give my time.
- 17:23SPEAKER_00: I recently received a message from a friend who was struggling to make a decision
- 17:29SPEAKER_00: about a job that she didn't want to take,
- 17:32SPEAKER_00: but on paper it would have been good and it would have been helpful
- 17:35SPEAKER_00: for her family finances.
- 17:38SPEAKER_00: And I just found myself leaving her a five-minute message
- 17:42SPEAKER_00: about why she shouldn't take that job,
- 17:44SPEAKER_00: going back to something that she wrote,
- 17:46SPEAKER_00: pulling a quote out of the article for her because she needed the reminder.
- 17:51SPEAKER_00: I told her, just read what you wrote and you will know you can't take that job.
- 17:56SPEAKER_00: It felt so good to have the confidence to tell her that.
- 17:59SPEAKER_00: And I just find myself lately carving out time for people sometimes
- 18:04SPEAKER_00: that I've never even met on Substack or someone who reaches out
- 18:09SPEAKER_00: to me via this networking mentoring program that I'm in.
- 18:13SPEAKER_00: I just find myself wanting to give my time to others because so many of us are going
- 18:19SPEAKER_00: through this and I feel like I have unlocked some Really important realizations that
- 18:24SPEAKER_00: if someone who is at the start of the process I was in The third
- 18:37SPEAKER_00: thing is
- 18:38SPEAKER_00: if you're grateful and you're being altruistic, let yourself simmer in this space.
- 18:44SPEAKER_00: The space that you're given,
- 18:45SPEAKER_00: if you got laid off, it's so tempting to just jump in and find a solution.
- 18:51SPEAKER_00: And that is what I did for 14 months.
- 18:53SPEAKER_00: So I'm
- 18:56SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to tell you not to do it,
- 18:58SPEAKER_00: but I do wish that I had started to sit in this space a little bit sooner
- 19:03SPEAKER_00: because it's when you're in the space that the shift actually happened.
- 19:09SPEAKER_00: And the shift is what moves you from fear and desperation,
- 19:12SPEAKER_00: which is really what you go into a job search with when you're going into it right
- 19:17SPEAKER_00: after a layoff.
- 19:20SPEAKER_00: But you can make that shift take you towards a place of excitement and confidence.
- 19:25SPEAKER_00: And that is really where I feel I am now.
- 19:28SPEAKER_00: And it's incredible because I can actually feel the shift in my energy.
- 19:33SPEAKER_00: I don't have all the magic solutions.
- 19:35SPEAKER_00: I haven't suddenly stumbled upon a magic wand.
- 19:39SPEAKER_00: There are still many down moments happening.
- 19:43SPEAKER_00: There are still a lot that I'm dealing with internally.
- 19:47SPEAKER_00: But when it comes to Thinking about my career,
- 19:50SPEAKER_00: I suddenly now have this space for excitement and confidence because of stepping out
- 19:59SPEAKER_00: of applications, stepping out of a solution, stepping out.
- 20:04SPEAKER_00: When I finally let the space sit and exist and approached what's next from a place
- 20:08SPEAKER_00: of what brings me joy, I stepped into what I'm doing now.
- 20:28SPEAKER_00: Where am I today?
- 20:29SPEAKER_00: Because as I said, I don't have all the answers.
- 20:32SPEAKER_00: Today, I'm still very much in reflection mode.
- 20:35SPEAKER_00: I'm still pivoting.
- 20:36SPEAKER_00: I'm still kind of sitting in the space.
- 20:38SPEAKER_00: But things do feel like they are slowly starting to happen.
- 20:42SPEAKER_00: Today,
- 20:42SPEAKER_00: I'm actually really excited to start the process of looking for full time work so
- 20:47SPEAKER_00: that my family and I can eventually move.
- 20:50SPEAKER_00: And this is the first time since I got laid off that I can say those words.
- 20:54SPEAKER_00: I am excited to start the process for looking for a job.
- 20:58SPEAKER_00: I have never felt excited about it.
- 21:01SPEAKER_00: It's not because the past opportunities were not exciting.
- 21:04SPEAKER_00: No, it's because the energy was not there.
- 21:07SPEAKER_00: Internally,
- 21:08SPEAKER_00: I hadn't done the work yet,
- 21:10SPEAKER_00: so I couldn't be coming at it from a place of excitement.
- 21:15SPEAKER_00: And today, I feel that I slowly, finally am.
- 21:19SPEAKER_00: The word slowly is important because I'm not one to do things slowly.
- 21:24SPEAKER_00: But my energy is telling me that this needs to be a slow process.
- 21:29SPEAKER_00: I also just have this general feeling of positivity that I honestly have never had.
- 21:36SPEAKER_00: So I'm convinced that it's this overarching self-gratitude
- 21:41SPEAKER_00: that has gotten me here paired with leaning into projects that give me energy
- 21:47SPEAKER_00: and stepping away from the job search.
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- 22:05SPEAKER_00: What's a negative situation you found yourself in
- 22:08SPEAKER_00: where self-gratitude really changed how you moved through it?
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