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How Do We Deal with Envy and Hate? · Inspiration and Transformation

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  Welcome to inspiration and transformation from the banks of the Gunga with Sadvi Bagwati Saraswati
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  and American Sanyasi living at the parmarth Nikitan Ashram in Rishikesh, India. Sadvi
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  is President of the Divine Shakti Foundation, a charitable organization bringing education, vocational
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  training, upliftment and empowerment programs to women and children. Sadvi is also Secretary
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  General of the Global Interfaith Wash Alliance and director of the world famous International Yoga
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  Festival. Joined the musings of an American Sanyasi as Sadvi shares the wisdom and
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  teachings of her Guru, His Holiness Pujiaswami Chinnant Saraswatiji. Welcome everyone to inspiration
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  and transformation from the holy banks of the Sacred Gunga River in the land of
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  Rishikesh, India. The only blessing left that I want in life is that
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  my thirty eight year old daughter should be married. Is there anything you can
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  recommend that I can do to make sure that happens? So? Wanting our
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  children to be happy is what parenthood is about. We want our children to
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  be happy. We want them to be successful. We want them to be
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  peaceful, we want them to have even more than what we have in life.
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  The dilemma arises when we think that we know what they need to be
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  happy, and a lot of times we don't, and we end up actually
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  creating more friction through our agenda than help. So you haven't mentioned in the
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  question whether you're thirty eight year old daughter wants to be married, whether she's
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  looking for a spouse, or whether this is something that in your mind you
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  feel, well, she would be so much happier if good cable shad the
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  karlofor subtikojata. But that's our way of thinking, that's our agenda, and
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  what we're seeing a lot when I imagine it's always happened, but we're seeing
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  it more and more in recent general rations is this conflict between parents who want
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  the best for their children, only want the kids to be happy, and
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  yet the parents' vision of what would make the children happy it's actually quite different
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  from what the children themselves think would make them happy. And that's really important
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  thirty eight is she's an adult, and I have to imagine that if getting
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  married were a priority for her, if that were something that she was really
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  really looking for she'd make it happen. But if by thirty eight she's not
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  married, what that means to me is that that isn't such a priority for
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  her. Maybe her career is more of a priority, maybe traveling is more
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  of a priority, Maybe her spiritual practice is more of a priority. Maybe
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  she's in beautiful relationship but they're just not married. Whatever it may be.
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  But I would say that there's absolutely nothing that you, as a parent can
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  do to make your thirty eight year old daughter get married. And the best
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  thing that you can do for her happiness, her peace, and also your
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  relationship is for you to let go because on some level, she knows you're
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  not satisfied with her life. On some level, she knows that you want
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  something from her, of her, for her that isn't there, and that's
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  going to create a challenge for her, that's going to create a sense in
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  her that somehow she's letting you down, that somehow she's disappointing you, that
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  somehow she's not fulfilling what you want for her, And that takes away our
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  happiness, takes away our peace, takes away our freedom. So certainly ask
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  her, Darling BETHA. Honey, whatever you call her, Are you looking
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  for a spouse? Is that something you'd like me to help you with?
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  And if she says, oh yes, please, for God's sakes, I'm
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  dying to get married. Could you just you know, do something, well,
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  then by all means, let me know, will think of something.
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  But my instinct, given that she's thirty eight, is that she's making different
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  decisions in her life and that the last thing that she needs is to feel
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  like she's somehow letting you down or she's incomplete or inferior because she's not married.
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  Because what that message does is it says, on your own who you
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  are is not enough. Jupati will, you are not complete. And that's
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  that's a really dangerous message. I mean, marriage is wonderful. Lots and
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  lots of people in the world are very very happy in marriage. But for
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  a lot of people that's not necessarily their dharma or maybe it's just not their
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  priority right now. And I know a lot of people both monastic renunciance and
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  Yasi's as well as non Signyasi's non renunciance non monastics, who are not married
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  and very very happy. Their lives are very full. And I also know
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  a lot of people who are married and are who are miserable and who wish
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  that somehow they could get out of the marriage in order to be happy and
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  peaceful and free. So it's neither the presence of a marriage nor the absence
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  of a marriage that actually brings that that joy, that meaning, that fulfillment
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  in life. We've all got different, different paths to walk, different dharmas
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  to unfold, and so the best gift you can give your daughter, the
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  best blessing for her, is that she should find happiness, she should find
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  peace, she should find fulfillment meaning in her life as it is, and
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  that she should feel totally free and empowered, not just by society but by
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  you, especially her parents, because no matter what we say, we always
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  want our parents to approve, to be proud of us, to respect the
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  choices we make, to understand us. And so the best blessing for her
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  is joy and peace and fulfillment in whatever path she chooses, and for her
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  to know that your blessings as her I'm not sure if it's a mother or
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  father, but as her mother or as her father, that your blessings are
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  with her, not blessings that she should get married, but blessings with her
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  for whatever path she chooses, and that you fully support her, and you
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  fully respect her, and you fully see her and recognize her as a full
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  being chi equip pati ho kny. It's not a husband or a wife that
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  makes us full. We are full and in our fullness. Should we choose
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  to get married, wonderful and in our fullness, should we choose not to
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  get married, also wonderful. If you're looking for a relationship to complete you,
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  you're going to be bitterly disappointed when you get involved in one, because
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  you're going to find that it doesn't. The relationships that are the most meaningful
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  and successful are two people fully grounded in their own fullness and completeness who come
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  together in that fullness. So don't think that she needs it in order to
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  be full. Bless her with your love, with blessings of happiness and peace
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  and respect and celebration whatever she chooses. And again, if she says to
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  you, yah yah kuch koov bind me of bartner, find me a spouse,
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  well then let me know. Un we'll figure it out. But check
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  with her, check with her whether she wants your involvement or whether she's really
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  station. Welcome back to inspiration and transformation. I'm so glad to have you
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  all back here with me. We have to realize that not forgiving is actually
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  keeping us stuck, that it is that holding on to a grudge that keeps
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  us stuck. My favorite story about this is the city in India that was
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  overrun with monkeys and the city council was trying to figure out what to do,
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  because obviously you don't want monkeys over running your city. But on the
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  other hand, where a non violent people, they're not going to take out
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  guns and shoot them, they're not going to poison them. And so someone
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  came up with this brilliant idea. They took coconuts and they hollowed out the
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  coconut, and inside the coconut they put something that monkeys love, a piece
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  of fruit to sweet. But they made the hole in the coconut big enough
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  for an empty hand like this to go in, but too small for a
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  closed fist to come out. So the monkey would stick its hand in the
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  coconut, grab hold of its prized treasure a banana, a sweet, and
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  then it would be stuck because the fist couldn't come out. Now, you
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  would think, because monkeys we know are very intelligent, they are our closest
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  DNA relatives, you'd think they would be smart enough finally to realize, oh,
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  it's holding onto this thing that makes my hand stuck, my legs stuck,
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  and they would let it go and free their hand. But they never
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  did. Now you imagine, if you've got four legs and three of them
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  are free, but one of them is stuck in a coconut, you actually
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  can't run. Imagine a monkey running with one legs stuck in a coconut.
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  No candy, You can't climb a tree, you can't swing from branches,
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  because if you watch monkeys, you'll realize they actually use all four of their
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  legs. So the coconut ended up being this perfect trap in a way.
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  They no longer could run, they couldn't swing, they couldn't climb, and
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  so what the city council was able to do was go out with big nets
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  and get them and then take them back into the jungle or forest. Now
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  I love that because this is exactly what holding on to our our grudges does.
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  We think that through this grudge, through this pain, that we're somehow
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  going to get something. That's why we hold onto it. On some subconscious
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  level, the ego thinks it's going to get something. Maybe we're going to
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  get something from the person who harmed us. Maybe we think they're going to
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  come back, mafia mangangay, They're going to apologize, they'll beg for forgiveness,
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  they'll love us again, they'll see how much they hurt us. They'll
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  do something really nice to make us feel good. Or maybe we think that
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  we're going to get something from society. People will see what's happened to us,
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  they will feel badly. They will give us sympathy and empathy. They'll
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  take good care of us, they will love us. Or maybe it's something
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  in our own lives. Maybe as long as I identify as being harmed in
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  that way, being abused, being betrayed, being cheated, being lied to,
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  being a band and whatever it was, well, it's it's already made
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  excuse that I have not to step up to the plate of my own life.
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  It's already made excuse never to trust. It's already made excuse never to
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  fulfill my dharma, because well, you know, I was harmed, I
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  was this, I was that. That's why I'm afraid. That's why I'm
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  miserable. That's why I'm depressed, That's why I'm anxious. It's the may
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  couchcardine, party Hune. It's already made excuse, it's a crutch. So
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  if we're not letting go, you have to realize there's there's something that unconsciously
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  our ego thinks we're getting from it, whether from someone else, from our
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  own selves. And this is where we have to realize that it's actually like
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  the monkey situation, we're not getting anything from it. Like the monkey thinks
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  it's going to get a sweet, it's going to get a fruit. This
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  banana is just it's coming, it's coming, when actually that is now what
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  has handicapped me. That is actually now what is making me stuck. If
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  the monkey wanted to be free, all it has to do is be prepared
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  to let go of its closed fist over the sweet or the fruit, and
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  then it's free. It's hand would easily come out of the coconut, it
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  would run away. It's the very thing that it thinks it wants that ends
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  up bringing about its downfall, that ends up making it stuck. Today is
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  Ghita Jayanti and in the Bug of a Gita Baguan Krishna emphasizes over and over
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  again letting go of our ignorance, being prepared to let go of the ignorance
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  because our ignorance makes us suffer. People say ignorance is bliss. It is
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  not bliss. In our ignorance. We get angry in our ignorance. We
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  feel jealous in our ignorance. We compete in our ignorance. We feel like
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  we are less than in some way. Ignorance is not bliss. Ignorance is
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  suffering. And so, if you really want to let go of this pain,
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  this grudge, first of all, you have to be deeply, acutely
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  aware that holding onto it is what's making you stock. It's like if I
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  had a hot coal and I threw it to you, and you didn't quite
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  know what it was, so you caught it, and as you catch it,
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  you realize it's burning your hands. Well, you're gonna as fast as
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  you can. You're gonna let it go because you realize it's burning my hands.
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  I don't need to give you a lecture to let it go. You
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  don't need to read all seven hundred verses of the Bug of Adgita to let
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  it go. Instinctively, we know this is harming me, it's burning me.
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  It's a hot coal. You're gonna drop it. And so you need
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  to be acutely aware of how this grudge, how this pain is keeping you
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  stuck. Allow yourself to really introspect on that. What is it in your
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  life that is stuck because of that? And then when you go to let
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  it go, close your eyes and really dive within and find in your body,
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  because we hold pain in our body, Find in your body where is
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  that pain? Look at it? Does it have a color, does it
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  have a shape, Is it solid? Is it moving? Where are you
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  holding this pain in your body? A lot of us hold it in our
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  stomachs and our solar plexes, and our necks, and our backs and our
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  shoulders. Some of us hold it in our hearts, maybe other parts of
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  your body. But where is it? And it may not be only one
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  place, it may be several places. What does it feel like? What
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  memories are associated with it? And then really feel yourself extricating it from you
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  like it were a tumor, because it is. Go within visually and feel
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  yourself extricating this, this tumor of pain from within yourself, and then feel
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  yourself holding it in your hands. Find a sacred jugna, a sacred river,
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  Find the base of a tree, something that is an embodiment of the
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  divine and embodiment of the universe, of nature, of the healing aspects of
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  Mother Nature, and offer it. Put it into the fire, put it
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  into the water, bury it in the earth, knowing that you're giving it
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  back to the universe. And as you do it, do it with a
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  big exhalation, because we hold our breaths in our pain and our grudges and
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  our anger. Really allow yourself just let it go. And you may certainly
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  find that you let go some of it now, and that a week or
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  a month or a year later you find, oh my god, there's another
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  layer. That's all right, let it go again. We don't necessarily always
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  get it all at one, because there may be layers to the unconscious that
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  we don't even necessarily see. So whatever's there, pull let and let it
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  go, and if it arises, let it go again. Just keep giving
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  it back to the universe. And every time that the mind goes there,
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  think of the coconut. Think of the coconut. No, no, no,
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  no, no, no, I know what I know where that's going.
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  It's like if the monkey were smart enough to pull its hand out,
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  but then it saw another coconut, it would be smart enough they learn,
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  Oh no way, I'll take my bananas from the the open cart, not
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  from inside the coconut. I know what happens because we learn it was maybe
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  fuzz jut the usiva chard me my fuzz jat the I've seen it before.
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  I know what happens. I get stuck. I know where that thought is
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  going. It takes me to misery. I don't want to go there.
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  So next time it begins to arise, just look at it like you were
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  the monkey looking at the coconut, going not this time, not this time,
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  and bring on a different thought, a thought of love, a thought
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  of joy, Bring on your mantra. But give your mind something else so
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  that it doesn't keep ruminating. And it works. I've seen it in my
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  Welcome back. This is Sadvi Bagavati Saraswati with inspiration and transformation. God is
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  inside of us. What does that mean? When we say God is inside
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  of us, what does it mean? Does it mean that God is,
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  you know, sitting on top of your kidneys, right next to your adrenal
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  glands and you just have to somehow be able to see it. What is
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  mean God is inside of us? What it means is the truth of who
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  we are. The core of who we are is divine. If I say
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  to you, who are you up corning, You're gonna tell me your name,
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  You're gonna tell me where you're from, Maya, may you com kurte
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  the hone. I'm this one's wife or husband or mother or father. You'll
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  give me your job, You'll give me all these things. But that isn't
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  who you are. Those are all attributes of the body. Your age,
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  your height, your weight, your size, your bank account, your job.
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  These are attributes of the body. Body keeps changing. That's not who
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  you are. The core of who you are is the divine. So when
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  we say go within, what it means is that divinity you are looking for
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  is within you. You've been created of the Creator. There was a a
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  temple in I think it was Thailand that was the temple of the Clay Buddha.
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  There was this huge Buddha made of clay, and one day and everybody
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  would come and worship this beautiful clay Buddha. And one day the monks of
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  that temple, we're cleaning the clay Buddha, and they saw some light,
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  something was shining. They thought, what is that? So they started gently,
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  slowly try to seeky what is shining and they could see in a crack
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  in the clay it looked like gold. The lucky son used me so D
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  D D D. Slowly they started moving away the clay and they discovered that
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  actually inside the clay Buddha there was a golden Buddha. And it turned out
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  that originally it was a mon there of the golden Buddha. But then all
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  of the invaders came at a time when they were stealing everything, melting everything,
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  looting everything. So the monks in the temple usi same. At that
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  time, the monks of the temple of the Golden Buddha decided, well,
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  let us cover the Buddha with clay paki legga ki it's worthless, so that
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  the invaders wouldn't harm our Buddha. And the good news was that the Buddha
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  was left unharmed, but the monks died, so there was nobody left too.
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  New that inside the clay buddh other actually was gold. And I love
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  that because this is a perfect metaphor for this teaching of God is within you.
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  We live like we are made of clay, that we are this kind
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  of junk. We are our weight, our size, our skin, color,
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  our jobs, our success, our relationships. But we want to be
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  gold, right, We want that light, and so we look outside for
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  it. And it would be like covering the clay Buddha up with gold.
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  Right, it's with the hay Sona. It is gold already. You don't
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  need to find more gold to stick on top of the clay. All you
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  need to do is remove the clay, melt the clay, and then you
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  have that light. And so the teaching is we are looking for the divine
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  outside of us, when actually who we are at the core, the very
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  core of who we are, like the Buddha was gold, the core of
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  who we are is divinity. We've been created not just by God but of
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  God, like a drop is the ocean, but we're looking outside for that
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  divinity. Cello Eck degree Lelo e course card case certificate Lelo Yekurovo. We're
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  looking to keep doing more things to feel like it makes us more divine,
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  more light, when actually all we have to do is remove that clay to
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  find the gold, the divinity within ourselves. And so that goes back to
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  your question of how do we find it, Well, it's simply a matter
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  of removing that which is not true self. So we practice this beautiful meditation.
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  There's a beautiful meditation called ninety, which is literally not this, not
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  this. So we begin by saying, I am not my shawl, I
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  am not to my side. Thinka. We all understand that I'm not my
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  skin. I'm not the blood beneath my skin. I'm not my bones.
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  Did beyond may essay adathing You think, oh, yeah, of course,
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  tica, I'm not my bones. I know that I'm not my organs,
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  not my kidney, not my liver. But then we get more subtle.
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  I am not my brain. Right. My brain is just made up of
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  neurons, gray matter, white matter. The brain functions with chemicals and electricity.
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  What makes thoughts, emotions, feelings are There's this electrical charge that runs
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  in the brain and then the neuron that has the chemicals, it releases the
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  chemicals, then that makes more electricity, and the next neuron than that neuron
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  releases its chemicals. That's what we call thoughts. If we say you may
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  essay soach, then yeah, I am feeling this thinking that what that really
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  is saying is the electricity in my brain is causing the neurons in my brain
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  to release chemicals that form a pattern that we call sadness or we call anger.
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  But it's just chemistry and electricity. I am not chemicals. I am
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  not electricity. Right, we know that, which means I'm not My thoughts
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  means I'm not my feelings, not my emotions. De deda, You go
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  one by one what I am not, and then we hit that beautiful space
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  in which the clay has been removed, not clay, not clay, not
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  clay, and then that true experience of who we are, that goldenness,
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  it arises. It's there, happening up. But that's the meaning of God
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  is in you, all right. God is also outside. God is everywhere,
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  in a deity and mother Gunga in a tree, that's fine. Also it's
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  the same God. Doesn't matter. But eventually, eventually the awareness arises Kim
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  two two pet a Welcome back. This is Sadvi Bagavati Saraswati with inspiration and
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  transformation. How do you deal with envy and hate from others, from friends
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  and even from close relations. We don't have any control over someone else's emotional
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  state. Sadly, it would be really wonderful if we could dictate and control
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  and change how people feel. Don't be angry, calm down right? How
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  many times have we tried to say to somebody, calm down, stop being
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  angry, don't be sad right. We say these things, but has anybody
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  ever actually stopped being sad because somebody said don't be sad. I mean,
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  think about when you were sad and people who say, oh, don't be
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  sad. Does it make you think, oh, all right, okay,
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  I won't be sad you've said not to be. Or if you're really angry
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  and the person you're angry at says don't be angry, does that make you
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  not angry? And of course the worst is when people say calm down,
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  don't be stressed. Right, That's when you get people saying, I am
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  calm you know. So we don't have any control. Trying to control other
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  people's emotional state is just an exercise in frustration and futility. What we have
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  control over is ourselves. And so when someone is envious of us or hating
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  us, it sparks in us upset, pain, hatred, anger, And
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  that's the part we do have control over. So if someone around you is
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  feeling envious or if someone around you is feeling hate, what you've got to
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  work on is how do you yourself clear? I mean, we just got
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  out of the COVID pandemic. What did we do when we moved through the
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  world in a place where people were potentially sick? What did we do?
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  We wore masks, we stayed socially distant, We washed our hands, we
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  did the things that we were taught, we learned over the last several years
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  to do to protect ourselves. You couldn't make somebody not sick, but you
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  could make yourself not contract their sickness. You could keep yourself healthy, protect
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  yourself. And it's really about the same thing. Our spiritual practices are actually
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  about building our spiritual immunity. So I don't mean you have to stay separate
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  from people or actually wear masks or but the way that we protect our spiritual
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  immunity is with our meditation. A mask over our face isn't going to help.
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  Spirituality is not about distancing yourself from people. It's about staying connected,
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  but in a way where someone else's ignorance or ego waves of emotional state,
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  anger, envy, fear, confusion that they don't end up literally making you
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  sick, which is mostly what happens when somebody's angry or full of hate or
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  full of envy. They make things really difficult for us. They're the people
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  who are really difficult to be around, especially when they are colleagues, family
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  members, and you've got to see them every day work, with them.
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  The only way is to develop a really strong spiritual immune system through recognizing that
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  you are not someone else's projections. If I sit over here and I say,
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  oh, you are like this, you are like that, you are
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  this, well, that's only going to impact you if you buy into my
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  story. Then you get upset, then you fight back. But if you're
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  walking down the street and there's somebody, you know, where you're in a
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  subwoy station or something like that, where there's lots of people and a lot
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  of times you see people who are not in their right senses and they're kind
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  of standing in a corner shouting and screaming. Now, if you're walking down
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  a are you walking through a subway station and somebody is clearly not in their
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  senses and they're yelling, and you walk by and they say you are the
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  evil Witch of the West. Now are you going to get all worked up
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  about that? I mean, is it going to ruin your day? You
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  realize, first of all, I'm not the evil Witch of the West.
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  Like, clearly the person is having some sort of psychotic episode. But what
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  you're going to realize most importantly is what they're saying is about them, not
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  about me, doesn't matter what I look like, doesn't matter who I am.
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  This person is in the middle of a hallucination in which what they are
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  seeing is the Wicked Witch. I could have been anybody walking by. It's
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  irrelevant. Their hallucination is showing them wicked Witch of the West. But that's
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  not about me, So I'm not going to get upset about it. I'm
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  not gonna lose my sleep or not be able to eat my food or need
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  to go to therapy because some drunk or not in their senses person told me
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  that I was the wicked Witch. In the same way, when people in
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  our lives who may not so obviously appear to be under the influence of drugs
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  or alcohol or not in their right senses, when they lash stuff at us,
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  we have to remember it's about them, it's not about us. They
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  may not be actually drunk or on drugs, but they're certainly under the influence
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  of ego, of ignorance, of fear of their own illusion, their own
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  sense of being not enough that leads them to envy me for having more than
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  they think they have and just triggers their feelings of not enoughness. But it's
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  not about you, and So whether it's a family member, whether it's a
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  colleague, whether it's a drunk person or a psychotic person on the street,
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  you have to be clear, this isn't about me, it's about them,
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  and so don't buy into it, don't react. Maybe if you're you know,
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  a spiritual person or practicing loving hindness meta meditation, maybe as you walk
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  by that person screaming at you, maybe you'll send them, send them some
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  loving kindness because you realize they're really suffering, and because you don't get triggered
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  by what they've said, because you realize they're sick, you're able to send
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  them energy of love. You're able to send them. May you be in
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  peace, May you be healthy, May you be safe, because we understand
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  you are suffering. It's like if you walk by somebody who's coughing and sneezing
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  and really sick, well, first thing, you're gonna want to make sure
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  you don't catch it. But once you know you're safe, you're gonna feel
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  empathy or at least sympathy for them. You are a minimum some pity for
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  them that they are suffering so much so, in the same way, when
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  people are lashing out, realize it's because they are not well. They're in
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  a state of dis ease. Now it may not be some diagnosable disease by
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  medical textbooks or psychology textbooks, but they are definitely not in ease in health.
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  Because if we are, that's what we share. If I'm in a
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  state of joy, I'm going to share joy. If what I'm sharing is
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  hatred and envy, it's because that's what's brewing inside of me, all right.
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  I mean, if you walk by somebody and they're sick and they throw
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  up on you, or you pick up a baby who looks really cute but
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  who hadn't yet been burped, and the baby kind of pukes all over you,
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  well, it's not about you. It's about what that person has inside
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  them. Whatever they have inside them is what's going to come out on top
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  of you because they weren't well, because something in them wasn't settled, and
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  so it came out on you. So your task is twofold number one,
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  first and foremost, protect yourself with your spiritual immunity, with your meditation,
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  with your energy. We talk a lot in here about conscious energy, either
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  receiving or transmitting, because we're always doing both, but we can very consciously
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  also decide what we're going to do more of. So when you're in a
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  time, in a place that's deeply enriching and filling, you're in the Gunga
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  Arty, you're on the banks of Gunga, you're in a beautiful hug with
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  a loved one, you're smelling some beautiful flowers, you're in a beautiful,
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  deep, meaningful conversation or connection. That's the time you open yourself and you
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  want to just receive and receive beautiful energy. And then there's times when,
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  to the extent possible, you want to turn the receiving off and turn on
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  the transmission. And that's when you're going to be in places where you know
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  the energy is not what you want to be receiving. It could be a
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  really crowded subway car, it could be a family dinner, it could be
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  a board meeting. But before you go into it, consciously, real eyes,
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  okay, this is my transmitting time. So we protect ourselves with meditation,
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  with being conscious of our energy, and also in the same way with
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  COVID, where we were told you know six feet, give yourself six feet.
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  Typically a sneeze can't go that far. So if you're six feet away,
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  you're safe. In the same way, there are sometimes people where really
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  the best thing to do is just to see how distant you can become.
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  Can't always do it, I know that, But to the extent possible,
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  can you maintain a distance of some sort to protect yourself? And if you
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  can't, then maintain that distance emotionally at least if you can't maintain it physically.
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  When you're with them, just make sure that you're constantly chanting your Mantha,
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  that you're doing something else with your energy, the energy, the awareness
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  is on your breath, you're chanting the Mantha or reciting a prayer or an
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  affirmation. And then the second part is to remember it's not about you,
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  it's about them, And to the extent possible, offer them your love,
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  offer them your kindness, your compassion, your empathy, bear them and amm
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  offer them your sympathy for the fact that they are suffering, and that's why
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  you're they're essentially vomiting on you. So feel badly that they're not well.
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  But do whatever you can to stay far enough away that you don't keep getting
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  vomited on. And that power or of your meditation, well, we'll really
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  protect you. It forms this energetic mask that really keeps anybody's stuff from impacting
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  you. You're able to just see it. Oh yeah, there's that's their
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  stuff. Oh yeah, they're like that. Okay, but it stops impacting
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  us. This brings to a close, this hour of inspiration and transformation.
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  Thank you so much for joining me. I'm so glad to be together with
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  you all each week, and I look forward to being together again next Thursday,
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  same time on Home Time's Radio. But I don't because I don't Bokay,
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