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17. The Essential Role of Free Time · Burning Brightly

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  Hello.
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  We
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  are
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  diving
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  in
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  today
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  on
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  how
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  we
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  spend
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  our
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  free
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  time,
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  especially
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  as
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  high
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  achieving
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  entrepreneurs
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  or
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  entrepreneurs
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  who
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  love
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  to
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  get
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  things
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  done.
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  Sometimes
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  we
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  forget
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  just
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  how
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  essential
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  it
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  is
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  to
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  make
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  sure
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  that
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  we
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  have
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  free
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  time
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  for
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  ourselves
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  and
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  particularly
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  what
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  to
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  do
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  when
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  we
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  make
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  that
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  free
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  time
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  a
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  reality.
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  are
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  a
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  business
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  builder,
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  chances
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  are
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  pretty
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  good
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  that
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  you
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  have
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  some
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  of
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  these
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  high
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  achieving
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  tendencies,
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  right?
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  A
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  high
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  achiever
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  looks
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  like
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  someone
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  who.
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  Value
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  is
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  productivity.
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  They
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  value
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  collecting
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  achievements.
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  And
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  those
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  of
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  us
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  who
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  identify
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  in
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  this
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  way
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  can
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  sometimes
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  be
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  tempted
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  very
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  often,
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  be
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  tempted
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  to
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  derive
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  our
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  sense
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  of
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  value
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  from
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  our
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  achievements.
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  So
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  if
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  you're
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  the
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  type
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  of
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  person
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  who
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  collected
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  gold
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  stars
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  at
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  school,
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  And
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  brought
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  them
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  home
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  to
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  show
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  your
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  mom
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  and
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  got
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  immense
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  pleasure
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  of
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  checking
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  off
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  boxes
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  and
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  making
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  sure
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  you
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  were
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  shining
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  star,
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  then
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  you
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  know
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  what
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  I'm
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  talking
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  about.
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  Okay.
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  Sometimes
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  high-achievers
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  are
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  perfectionist.
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  Sometimes
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  they
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  are
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  overachievers.
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  And
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  very
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  often
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  they
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  are
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  workaholics
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  because
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  they
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  love
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  that
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  productivity.
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  Now,
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  regardless
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  of
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  whether
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  or
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  not
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  this
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  is
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  you.
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  If
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  it
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  is
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  solidarity
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  sister,
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  that's
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  me
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  too.
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  Then
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  working
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  for
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  yourself
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  can
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  actually
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  very
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  often
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  lead
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  to
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  an
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  unhealthy
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  work-life
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  balance.
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  Because
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  it's
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  just
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  so
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  fun
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  to
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  work
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  on
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  our
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  business
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  is
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  something
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  we
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  created
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  it,
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  something
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  we
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  want
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  to
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  see.
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  To
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  fulfillment
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  as
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  well.
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  that
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  we
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  gain
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  immense
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  pleasure
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  and
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  satisfaction
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  out
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  of
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  working
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  on.
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  And
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  so
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  we
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  work
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  on
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  it.
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  Over
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  and
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  over
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  and
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  over
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  day
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  in,
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  day
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  out
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  nights,
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  weekends,
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  I
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  recently
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  posted
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  a
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  reel
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  on
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  Instagram
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  with
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  an
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  audio
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  that
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  I
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  just
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  really
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  related
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  to.
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  The
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  guy
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  said
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  something
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  like
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  people
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  say,
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  if
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  you
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  love
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  what
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  you
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  do,
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  you
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  won't
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  work
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  a
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  day
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  of
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  your
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  life.
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  And
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  he
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  said,
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  I
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  disagree.
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  If
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  you
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  love
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  what
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  you
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  do,
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  you
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  work
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  nights,
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  weekends.
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  When
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  your
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  friends
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  are
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  partying,
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  when
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  your
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  family
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  is
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  getting
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  together,
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  you
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  work
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  all
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  the
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  time
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  because
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  you're
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  so
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  passionate
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  about
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  it.
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  So
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  this
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  is.
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  A
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  temptation
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  for
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  those
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  of
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  us
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  who
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  build
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  something
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  that
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  we
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  just
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  love.
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  Love.
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  Love.
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  But
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  it
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  doesn't
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  have
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  to
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  be.
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  Now,
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  if
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  you
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  go
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  back
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  to
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  episode
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  13,
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  it's
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  all
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  about
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  finding
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  the
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  fun
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  and
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  humor
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  inside
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  entrepreneurship.
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  And
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  I
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  highly
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  recommend
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  that
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  you
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  listen
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  to
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  that.
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  And
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  start
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  implementing
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  that,
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  finding
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  more
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  fun
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  in
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  what
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  you
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  do
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  everyday.
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  So
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  it
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  is
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  something
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  that
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  you
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  love.
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  But
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  it
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  is
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  something
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  that
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  have
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  to
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  work
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  on,
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  especially
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  because
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  we
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  get
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  really
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  dramatic
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  about
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  our
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  work
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  and
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  we
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  start
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  thinking,
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  oh,
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  it's
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  just
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  such
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  a
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  big
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  freaking
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  deal.
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  And
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  if
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  things
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  don't
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  work
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  out,
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  I'm
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  a
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  failure
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  and
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  blah,
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  blah,
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  blah.
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  And
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  it's
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  totally
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  unnecessary.
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  I
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  want
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  to
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  keep
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  things
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  light
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  as
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  much
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  as
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  possible
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  within
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  my.
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  But
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  admittedly
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  things
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  feel
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  pretty
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  high
• 2:23
  stakes
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  when
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  you
• 2:24
  were
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  the
• 2:24
  boss
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  and
• 2:25
  the
• 2:25
  employee
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  and
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  the
• 2:26
  technician
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  and
• 2:27
  the
• 2:27
  bookkeeper
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  and
• 2:28
  the
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  marketing
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  department
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  and
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  the
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  entire
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  sales
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  team
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  all
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  at
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  one
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  time,
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  it's
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  very
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  easy
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  to
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  get
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  bogged
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  down
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  by.
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  Responsibility
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  and
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  big
• 2:37
  drama.
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  And
• 2:38
  we
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  forget
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  to
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  have
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  fun.
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  So
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  that's
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  why
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  I
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  But
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  of
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  course,
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  we
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  also
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  need
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  to
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  remember
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  to
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  rest
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  and
• 2:43
  recuperate
• 2:44
  outside
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  of
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  our
• 2:45
  business
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  hours.
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  Side
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  note.
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  Did
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  you
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  know
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  that
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  that's
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  a
• 2:48
  thing
• 2:48
  you
• 2:48
  can
• 2:48
  have
• 2:49
  business
• 2:49
  hours
• 2:49
  when
• 2:50
  you
• 2:50
  do
• 2:50
  work
• 2:51
  and
• 2:51
  when
• 2:51
  you
• 2:51
  don't
• 2:52
  work
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  right.
• 2:53
  hours
• 2:53
  means
• 2:53
  there
• 2:53
  is
• 2:53
  time
• 2:54
  when
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  you
• 2:54
  will
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  not
• 2:55
  work.
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  So
• 2:56
  watch
• 2:56
  out
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  for
• 2:57
  this
• 2:57
  passion
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  of
• 2:57
  yours,
• 2:58
  trying
• 2:58
  to
• 2:58
  take
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  over
• 2:58
  your
• 2:59
  life,
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  because
• 2:59
  it's
• 2:59
  very
• 2:59
  easy
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  to
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  do
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  that.
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  So,
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  like
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  I
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  mentioned,
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  at
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  the
• 3:01
  beginning,
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  we've
• 3:02
  got
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  four
• 3:02
  main
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  ways
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  to
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  balance
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  out
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  all
• 3:04
  the
• 3:04
  work
• 3:04
  we
• 3:04
  do
• 3:04
  in
• 3:04
  our
• 3:04
  lives
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  as
• 3:05
  moms
• 3:05
  and
• 3:05
  entrepreneurs
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  finding
• 3:07
  free
• 3:07
  time.
• 3:08
  Making
• 3:08
  time
• 3:08
  for
• 3:08
  play
• 3:08
  and
• 3:09
  fun
• 3:09
  making
• 3:10
  time
• 3:10
  for
• 3:10
  rest.
• 3:10
  And
• 3:10
  then
• 3:11
  also
• 3:11
  entertainment.
• 3:12
  Now,
• 3:12
  each
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  these
• 3:13
  is
• 3:13
  very
• 3:13
  different
• 3:13
  and
• 3:14
  serves
• 3:14
  very
• 3:14
  different,
• 3:15
  unique
• 3:15
  purposes.
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  And
• 3:16
  I
• 3:16
  really
• 3:16
  do
• 3:16
  believe
• 3:16
  that
• 3:16
  there's
• 3:17
  a
• 3:17
  purpose
• 3:18
  for
• 3:18
  each
• 3:18
  one
• 3:18
  of
• 3:18
  these
• 3:19
  within
• 3:19
  our
• 3:19
  lives.
• 3:20
  But
• 3:20
  they
• 3:20
  can
• 3:20
  also
• 3:21
  very
• 3:21
  easily
• 3:21
  be
• 3:21
  confused
• 3:22
  for
• 3:22
  one
• 3:22
  another.
• 3:23
  So
• 3:23
  let's
• 3:24
  dive
• 3:24
  into
• 3:24
  them.
• 3:25
  Starting
• 3:25
  off
• 3:25
  with
• 3:25
  free
• 3:25
  time,
• 3:26
  because
• 3:26
  obviously
• 3:26
  you
• 3:27
  can't
• 3:27
  incorporate
• 3:28
  entertainment
• 3:28
  or
• 3:28
  rest.
• 3:29
  If
• 3:29
  you
• 3:29
  don't
• 3:29
  actually
• 3:30
  have
• 3:30
  some
• 3:30
  free
• 3:30
  time.
• 3:31
  This
• 3:31
  is
• 3:31
  also
• 3:32
  known
• 3:32
  as
• 3:32
  discretionary
• 3:33
  time.
• 3:33
  So
• 3:33
  time
• 3:34
  when
• 3:34
  you
• 3:34
  have
• 3:34
  nothing
• 3:35
  else
• 3:35
  that
• 3:35
  you
• 3:36
  need
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  be
• 3:36
  doing.
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  Or
• 3:37
  rather
• 3:37
  for
• 3:38
  those
• 3:38
  of
• 3:38
  us
• 3:38
  who
• 3:38
  always
• 3:38
  feel
• 3:39
  like
• 3:39
  there's
• 3:39
  things
• 3:39
  we
• 3:39
  need
• 3:39
  to
• 3:39
  be
• 3:39
  doing,
• 3:40
  it's
• 3:40
  time
• 3:40
  that
• 3:40
  you
• 3:40
  have
• 3:41
  purposely
• 3:41
  set
• 3:42
  aside
• 3:42
  from
• 3:42
  your
• 3:42
  obligations
• 3:43
  and
• 3:43
  have
• 3:44
  marked
• 3:44
  it
• 3:44
  as
• 3:45
  free
• 3:45
  time.
• 3:46
  Now
• 3:47
  I
• 3:47
  recently
• 3:47
  was
• 3:47
  reading
• 3:48
  the
• 3:48
  book
• 3:48
  happier
• 3:48
  hour
• 3:49
  by
• 3:49
  author
• 3:50
  Cathy
• 3:50
  Holmes.
• 3:51
  And
• 3:51
  she
• 3:51
  discusses
• 3:52
  a
• 3:52
  study
• 3:52
  aimed
• 3:53
  at
• 3:53
  determining
• 3:54
  how
• 3:54
  much
• 3:54
  is
• 3:54
  just
• 3:55
  enough
• 3:55
  discretionary
• 3:56
  time.
• 3:56
  It's
• 3:56
  a
• 3:57
  In
• 3:57
  other
• 3:57
  words,
• 3:57
  she
• 3:57
  decided
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  figure
• 3:58
  out
• 3:58
  how
• 3:58
  much
• 3:59
  free
• 3:59
  time
• 3:59
  each
• 3:59
  of
• 3:59
  us
• 4:00
  needs
• 4:00
  and
• 4:00
  how
• 4:00
  much
• 4:00
  is
• 4:00
  too
• 4:01
  much.
• 4:01
  So
• 4:01
  in
• 4:02
  case
• 4:02
  you're
• 4:02
  curious,
• 4:02
  she
• 4:03
  landed
• 4:03
  on
• 4:03
  about
• 4:03
  two
• 4:04
  hours
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  day
• 4:04
  is
• 4:04
  what
• 4:05
  most
• 4:05
  people
• 4:05
  need
• 4:05
  is
• 4:05
  discretionary
• 4:06
  time.
• 4:06
  Now
• 4:06
  I'll
• 4:07
  be
• 4:07
  honest.
• 4:07
  When
• 4:07
  I
• 4:07
  first
• 4:07
  heard
• 4:07
  this,
• 4:08
  I
• 4:08
  thought.
• 4:08
  Two
• 4:09
  hours
• 4:09
  of
• 4:09
  free
• 4:09
  time
• 4:09
  a
• 4:10
  day
• 4:10
  is
• 4:10
  a
• 4:10
  massive
• 4:11
  amount
• 4:11
  of
• 4:11
  free
• 4:11
  time.
• 4:12
  I
• 4:12
  do
• 4:12
  not
• 4:12
  have
• 4:13
  that
• 4:13
  on
• 4:13
  a
• 4:13
  free
• 4:13
  time.
• 4:14
  Then
• 4:14
  when
• 4:14
  I
• 4:14
  looked
• 4:14
  a
• 4:14
  little
• 4:15
  bit
• 4:15
  closer,
• 4:15
  I
• 4:15
  realized
• 4:15
  I
• 4:16
  actually
• 4:16
  did.
• 4:17
  I
• 4:17
  made
• 4:18
  sure
• 4:18
  that
• 4:18
  I
• 4:18
  had
• 4:18
  a
• 4:18
  little
• 4:19
  bit
• 4:19
  of
• 4:19
  time
• 4:19
  to.
• 4:20
  in
• 4:20
  the
• 4:20
  evening
• 4:21
  a
• 4:21
  little
• 4:21
  bit
• 4:21
  of
• 4:21
  time
• 4:21
  to
• 4:21
  talk
• 4:22
  to
• 4:22
  my
• 4:22
  husband
• 4:22
  a
• 4:22
  little
• 4:22
  bit
• 4:23
  of
• 4:23
  time,
• 4:23
  maybe
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  sew
• 4:23
  or
• 4:24
  do
• 4:24
  something
• 4:24
  creative
• 4:25
  now
• 4:25
  on
• 4:25
  the
• 4:25
  busy
• 4:25
  days
• 4:26
  that
• 4:26
  doesn't
• 4:26
  happen.
• 4:26
  But
• 4:27
  when
• 4:27
  I'm
• 4:27
  being
• 4:27
  very
• 4:27
  intentional
• 4:28
  about
• 4:28
  my
• 4:28
  life,
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  realized
• 4:29
  she
• 4:29
  was
• 4:29
  right.
• 4:30
  Two
• 4:30
  hours
• 4:30
  feels
• 4:30
  really,
• 4:31
  really
• 4:31
  amazing.
• 4:32
  Now
• 4:32
  if
• 4:32
  you
• 4:32
  are
• 4:32
  a
• 4:32
  busy
• 4:33
  mom,
• 4:33
  chances
• 4:33
  are
• 4:33
  good.
• 4:34
  That
• 4:35
  your
• 4:35
  free
• 4:35
  time
• 4:36
  might
• 4:36
  not
• 4:37
  often
• 4:37
  coincide
• 4:37
  with
• 4:38
  alone
• 4:38
  time,
• 4:38
  which
• 4:39
  is
• 4:39
  unfortunate
• 4:39
  because
• 4:40
  when
• 4:40
  you
• 4:40
  have
• 4:40
  free
• 4:40
  time,
• 4:41
  very
• 4:41
  often,
• 4:41
  you
• 4:41
  would
• 4:41
  like
• 4:41
  to
• 4:42
  spend
• 4:42
  it
• 4:42
  doing
• 4:42
  something
• 4:42
  that
• 4:43
  you
• 4:43
  want
• 4:43
  to
• 4:43
  do.
• 4:44
  And
• 4:44
  admittedly,
• 4:45
  it
• 4:45
  may
• 4:45
  be
• 4:45
  a
• 4:45
  battle
• 4:46
  to
• 4:46
  find
• 4:46
  any
• 4:46
  free
• 4:47
  time
• 4:47
  at
• 4:47
  all.
• 4:47
  As
• 4:48
  a
• 4:48
  busy
• 4:48
  mom,
• 4:48
  it
• 4:49
  takes
• 4:49
  a
• 4:49
  lot
• 4:49
  of
• 4:50
  work
• 4:50
  to
• 4:50
  run
• 4:50
  a
• 4:50
  household,
• 4:51
  a
• 4:51
  lot
• 4:51
  of
• 4:52
  work
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  keep
• 4:52
  kids
• 4:52
  alive.
• 4:53
  And
• 4:53
  not
• 4:53
  only
• 4:53
  that,
• 4:53
  but
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  emotional.
• 4:55
  Responsibility
• 4:56
  of
• 4:56
  being
• 4:56
  available
• 4:56
  for
• 4:56
  your
• 4:57
  kid
• 4:57
  when
• 4:57
  he
• 4:57
  needs
• 4:57
  to
• 4:57
  talk
• 4:57
  or
• 4:58
  when
• 4:58
  you
• 4:59
  want
• 4:59
  to
• 4:59
  connect
• 4:59
  with
• 4:59
  him
• 4:59
  or
• 4:59
  her.
• 5:00
  free
• 5:00
  time
• 5:01
  really
• 5:02
  is
• 5:02
  essential.
• 5:04
  Now,
• 5:04
  let
• 5:04
  me
• 5:04
  say
• 5:04
  that
• 5:04
  again.
• 5:05
  As
• 5:05
  a
• 5:05
  business
• 5:05
  owner
• 5:06
  who
• 5:06
  might
• 5:06
  be
• 5:06
  tempted
• 5:07
  to
• 5:07
  do.
• 5:07
  business
• 5:07
  a
• 5:08
  lot
• 5:08
  because
• 5:08
  she
• 5:08
  loves
• 5:08
  it
• 5:08
  so
• 5:09
  much.
• 5:09
  Be
• 5:09
  aware
• 5:10
  of
• 5:10
  using
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  free
• 5:10
  time
• 5:11
  that
• 5:11
  you've
• 5:11
  marked
• 5:11
  as
• 5:12
  such
• 5:12
  to
• 5:13
  work
• 5:13
  on
• 5:13
  your
• 5:13
  business.
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  play
• 5:15
  with
• 5:15
  your
• 5:15
  kids
• 5:15
  or
• 5:15
  to
• 5:16
  do
• 5:16
  anything
• 5:16
  that
• 5:16
  doesn't
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:17
  relaxing
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  you.
• 5:17
  Now,
• 5:18
  if
• 5:18
  playing
• 5:18
  a
• 5:18
  board
• 5:18
  game
• 5:18
  with
• 5:19
  you,
• 5:19
  with
• 5:19
  feels
• 5:20
  really
• 5:20
  relaxing
• 5:20
  to
• 5:20
  you,
• 5:20
  then
• 5:21
  please
• 5:21
  do
• 5:21
  that
• 5:21
  in
• 5:21
  your
• 5:21
  free
• 5:22
  time.
• 5:22
  There
• 5:22
  are
• 5:22
  a
• 5:22
  few
• 5:22
  things
• 5:22
  I
• 5:23
  really
• 5:23
  enjoy
• 5:23
  doing
• 5:23
  with
• 5:23
  my
• 5:23
  kids
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  I
• 5:24
  consider
• 5:24
  that
• 5:24
  free
• 5:25
  time.
• 5:26
  But
• 5:26
  if
• 5:26
  it
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  something
• 5:26
  that
• 5:27
  you
• 5:27
  feel
• 5:27
  obligated
• 5:28
  to
• 5:28
  do,
• 5:28
  don't
• 5:29
  count
• 5:29
  that
• 5:29
  as
• 5:29
  your
• 5:29
  free
• 5:30
  time.
• 5:30
  Because
• 5:30
  Because
• 5:31
  your
• 5:31
  brain
• 5:31
  and
• 5:31
  your
• 5:31
  body
• 5:32
  need
• 5:32
  time
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  rest
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  relax.
• 5:34
  It's
• 5:34
  essential
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  both
• 5:35
  of
• 5:35
  them
• 5:35
  get
• 5:36
  that
• 5:36
  time.
• 5:37
  So
• 5:37
  that
• 5:37
  brings
• 5:37
  us
• 5:37
  to
• 5:38
  rest
• 5:38
  in
• 5:39
  our
• 5:39
  free
• 5:39
  time.
• 5:39
  We
• 5:39
  have
• 5:40
  got
• 5:40
  to
• 5:40
  find
• 5:40
  time
• 5:41
  to
• 5:41
  rest.
• 5:41
  am
• 5:42
  so
• 5:42
  grateful
• 5:43
  for
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  merciful
• 5:44
  God
• 5:44
  who
• 5:44
  gave
• 5:45
  us
• 5:45
  bodies
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  require
• 5:46
  resting
• 5:47
  like.
• 5:47
  Over
• 5:48
  a
• 5:48
  third
• 5:48
  of
• 5:48
  the
• 5:48
  time
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  we're
• 5:49
  alive.
• 5:49
  Think
• 5:50
  about
• 5:50
  that
• 5:50
  for
• 5:50
  a
• 5:50
  minute.
• 5:50
  Just
• 5:51
  how
• 5:51
  much.
• 5:52
  Time
• 5:52
  in
• 5:52
  our
• 5:52
  lives
• 5:53
  is
• 5:53
  spent
• 5:53
  asleep.
• 5:54
  I
• 5:55
  think
• 5:55
  it's
• 5:55
  a
• 5:55
  miracle.
• 5:56
  I
• 5:56
  think
• 5:56
  it's
• 5:56
  such
• 5:57
  a
• 5:57
  blessing
• 5:58
  that
• 5:58
  we
• 5:59
  have
• 5:59
  to
• 5:59
  lay
• 5:59
  down
• 5:59
  and
• 6:00
  basically
• 6:00
  go
• 6:00
  unconscious.
• 6:02
  Four.
• 6:03
  Seven
• 6:04
  to
• 6:04
  eight
• 6:04
  hours
• 6:04
  every
• 6:04
  single
• 6:05
  night
• 6:05
  in
• 6:05
  order
• 6:05
  to
• 6:05
  function.
• 6:06
  We
• 6:07
  think
• 6:07
  of
• 6:07
  this
• 6:07
  as
• 6:08
  physical
• 6:08
  rest,
• 6:08
  but
• 6:08
  I
• 6:09
  would
• 6:09
  also
• 6:09
  encourage
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  seek
• 6:10
  out
• 6:10
  mental
• 6:10
  rest.
• 6:11
  Now
• 6:11
  you
• 6:11
  do
• 6:11
  get
• 6:11
  mental
• 6:12
  rest
• 6:12
  in
• 6:12
  your
• 6:13
  sleep
• 6:13
  time,
• 6:13
  but
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  have
• 6:15
  noticed.
• 6:16
  That
• 6:16
  if
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  do
• 6:16
  not
• 6:17
  schedule
• 6:17
  in
• 6:17
  mental
• 6:17
  rest
• 6:18
  during
• 6:18
  the
• 6:18
  rest
• 6:18
  of
• 6:19
  the
• 6:19
  day.
• 6:19
  It
• 6:20
  actually
• 6:20
  affects
• 6:20
  my
• 6:21
  sleep.
• 6:21
  So
• 6:22
  you've
• 6:22
  probably
• 6:22
  had
• 6:22
  this
• 6:23
  happen.
• 6:23
  If
• 6:23
  you've
• 6:23
  ever
• 6:23
  fallen
• 6:24
  in
• 6:24
  bed
• 6:24
  exhausted
• 6:25
  like
• 6:25
  11
• 6:26
  o'clock
• 6:26
  at
• 6:26
  night.
• 6:27
  Only
• 6:27
  to
• 6:27
  have
• 6:27
  your
• 6:27
  brain
• 6:28
  just
• 6:28
  start
• 6:28
  spinning
• 6:28
  out
• 6:28
  of
• 6:29
  control
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  thinking
• 6:29
  about
• 6:30
  everything
• 6:30
  under
• 6:30
  the
• 6:30
  sun.
• 6:31
  Oh,
• 6:31
  I
• 6:31
  forgot
• 6:32
  this
• 6:32
  thing.
• 6:32
  And
• 6:32
  oh,
• 6:32
  what
• 6:33
  about
• 6:33
  this
• 6:33
  person?
• 6:33
  And,
• 6:33
  oh,
• 6:34
  I
• 6:34
  was
• 6:34
  going
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  tell
• 6:34
  somebody
• 6:34
  this
• 6:35
  and
• 6:35
  making
• 6:35
  connections
• 6:36
  and
• 6:36
  ideas
• 6:37
  are
• 6:37
  coming
• 6:37
  it's
• 6:37
  maddening,
• 6:38
  especially
• 6:38
  when
• 6:38
  you're
• 6:39
  exhausted
• 6:39
  and
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  just
• 6:40
  want
• 6:40
  to
• 6:40
  sleep.
• 6:41
  But
• 6:41
  in
• 6:41
  my
• 6:42
  experience
• 6:42
  at
• 6:42
  this
• 6:42
  happens
• 6:43
  because
• 6:44
  I
• 6:44
  am
• 6:44
  not
• 6:44
  allowing
• 6:45
  adequate
• 6:45
  mental
• 6:45
  rest
• 6:46
  during
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  day.
• 6:47
  So
• 6:48
  it's
• 6:48
  true
• 6:48
  that
• 6:48
  every
• 6:49
  brain
• 6:49
  actually
• 6:49
  needs
• 6:50
  time
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  decompress
• 6:51
  and
• 6:51
  make
• 6:51
  those
• 6:51
  central
• 6:52
  neural
• 6:52
  connections.
• 6:53
  And
• 6:54
  if
• 6:54
  we
• 6:54
  don't
• 6:54
  allow
• 6:54
  that
• 6:54
  during
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  day,
• 6:55
  cause
• 6:55
  we
• 6:55
  are
• 6:55
  just
• 6:55
  jam
• 6:56
  packed
• 6:56
  with
• 6:56
  stimulus
• 6:57
  and
• 6:57
  stuff
• 6:57
  and
• 6:58
  go,
• 6:58
  go,
• 6:58
  go.
• 6:59
  Then
• 6:59
  our
• 6:59
  brain,
• 7:00
  I
• 7:00
  think
• 7:00
  actually
• 7:01
  functions
• 7:01
  at
• 7:02
  a
• 7:02
  lower
• 7:02
  level
• 7:03
  and
• 7:03
  cannot
• 7:04
  be
• 7:04
  called
• 7:04
  upon
• 7:05
  to
• 7:05
  be
• 7:06
  extra
• 7:06
  creative,
• 7:06
  be
• 7:07
  very
• 7:07
  efficient.
• 7:08
  It
• 7:08
  starts
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  forget
• 7:09
  things.
• 7:09
  Things
• 7:09
  start
• 7:09
  to
• 7:10
  fall
• 7:10
  through
• 7:10
  the
• 7:10
  cracks
• 7:10
  because
• 7:11
  it
• 7:11
  is
• 7:11
  not
• 7:11
  allowed
• 7:12
  enough
• 7:12
  rest
• 7:12
  time.
• 7:13
  So
• 7:13
  I
• 7:13
  know
• 7:13
  you're
• 7:13
  thinking,
• 7:14
  well,
• 7:14
  how
• 7:14
  do
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  do
• 7:14
  that
• 7:15
  before
• 7:15
  11
• 7:15
  o'clock
• 7:15
  at
• 7:15
  night
• 7:15
  when
• 7:16
  everybody's
• 7:16
  asleep.
• 7:16
  And
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  finally
• 7:17
  have
• 7:17
  a
• 7:17
  chance
• 7:17
  to
• 7:17
  lay
• 7:17
  down.
• 7:18
  Try
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  leave
• 7:19
  mental
• 7:20
  blank
• 7:20
  space
• 7:21
  during
• 7:21
  your
• 7:21
  day.
• 7:22
  So
• 7:23
  that
• 7:23
  could
• 7:23
  look
• 7:23
  like
• 7:23
  doing
• 7:24
  something
• 7:25
  that
• 7:25
  is
• 7:25
  very
• 7:25
  monotonous,
• 7:26
  that
• 7:26
  you
• 7:27
  can
• 7:27
  do
• 7:27
  kind
• 7:27
  of
• 7:28
  half
• 7:28
  unconscious,
• 7:29
  like
• 7:29
  walking
• 7:29
  or
• 7:30
  even
• 7:30
  driving.
• 7:31
  Resting,
• 7:32
  you
• 7:32
  can
• 7:32
  go
• 7:32
  lay
• 7:33
  in
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  hammock
• 7:33
  and
• 7:33
  just
• 7:34
  clear
• 7:34
  your
• 7:34
  brain
• 7:35
  or
• 7:35
  cleaning
• 7:36
  your
• 7:36
  house.
• 7:37
  Right.
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  don't
• 7:37
  really
• 7:37
  need
• 7:37
  a
• 7:38
  lot
• 7:38
  of
• 7:38
  brainpower
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  pick
• 7:38
  up
• 7:39
  my
• 7:39
  house
• 7:39
  or
• 7:39
  sweep
• 7:39
  or
• 7:40
  vacuum.
• 7:41
  But
• 7:41
  try
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  do
• 7:41
  it
• 7:41
  without
• 7:42
  listening
• 7:42
  to
• 7:42
  anything.
• 7:43
  Now,
• 7:43
  again,
• 7:44
  if
• 7:44
  you're
• 7:44
  a
• 7:44
  high
• 7:44
  achiever,
• 7:45
  This
• 7:45
  is
• 7:46
  very
• 7:46
  difficult.
• 7:46
  You
• 7:47
  always
• 7:47
  want
• 7:47
  to
• 7:47
  be
• 7:47
  learning
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  growing
• 7:48
  and
• 7:48
  entertained
• 7:49
  and
• 7:49
  having
• 7:49
  things
• 7:50
  come
• 7:50
  in.
• 7:50
  And
• 7:50
  that
• 7:51
  is
• 7:51
  wonderful,
• 7:52
  except
• 7:52
  for
• 7:52
  when
• 7:52
  your
• 7:53
  brain
• 7:53
  needs
• 7:53
  to
• 7:54
  make
• 7:54
  some
• 7:54
  connections.
• 7:55
  And.
• 7:56
  Slot
• 7:56
  things
• 7:57
  in
• 7:57
  the
• 7:58
  appropriate
• 7:58
  file
• 7:58
  cabinets,
• 7:59
  right?
• 7:59
  do
• 8:00
  that
• 8:00
  with
• 8:00
  constant
• 8:01
  auditory
• 8:01
  stimulus.
• 8:02
  So
• 8:02
  try
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  find
• 8:03
  quiet
• 8:03
  time
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  and
• 8:04
  try
• 8:04
  to
• 8:04
  capitalize
• 8:05
  on
• 8:05
  it
• 8:05
  by
• 8:05
  not
• 8:05
  putting
• 8:06
  anything
• 8:06
  else
• 8:06
  in
• 8:06
  your
• 8:06
  ear.
• 8:07
  So
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  personally
• 8:08
  like
• 8:08
  to
• 8:08
  do
• 8:08
  this
• 8:08
  when
• 8:08
  I'm
• 8:08
  driving.
• 8:09
  Um,
• 8:10
  always,
• 8:10
  always
• 8:11
  a
• 8:11
  temptation
• 8:11
  for
• 8:11
  me
• 8:11
  to
• 8:11
  put
• 8:11
  in
• 8:12
  a
• 8:12
  book
• 8:12
  or
• 8:12
  a
• 8:12
  podcast
• 8:12
  because
• 8:13
  I
• 8:13
  just
• 8:13
  love
• 8:13
  to
• 8:13
  learn
• 8:14
  and
• 8:14
  I
• 8:14
  just
• 8:14
  love
• 8:14
  to
• 8:14
  be
• 8:15
  entertained.
• 8:15
  So.
• 8:16
  Try
• 8:16
  to
• 8:16
  carve
• 8:16
  this
• 8:17
  out
• 8:17
  for
• 8:17
  yourself.
• 8:17
  I
• 8:17
  promise
• 8:17
  it
• 8:18
  will
• 8:18
  be
• 8:18
  a
• 8:18
  game
• 8:18
  changer,
• 8:18
  especially
• 8:19
  if
• 8:19
  you're
• 8:19
  the
• 8:19
  kind
• 8:19
  of
• 8:19
  person
• 8:19
  who
• 8:20
  fills
• 8:20
  every
• 8:21
  last
• 8:21
  minute
• 8:21
  with
• 8:22
  stuff.
• 8:23
  And
• 8:24
  then
• 8:24
  of
• 8:24
  course
• 8:24
  there's
• 8:24
  physical
• 8:24
  rest.
• 8:25
  So
• 8:25
  what
• 8:25
  does
• 8:25
  that
• 8:25
  look
• 8:25
  like
• 8:26
  again,
• 8:26
  apart
• 8:27
  from
• 8:27
  sleep?
• 8:27
  I
• 8:27
  think
• 8:27
  it's
• 8:27
  also
• 8:28
  necessary.
• 8:28
  I
• 8:28
  know
• 8:28
  there
• 8:29
  are
• 8:29
  days
• 8:29
  when
• 8:29
  you
• 8:29
  wake
• 8:29
  up
• 8:30
  and
• 8:30
  you
• 8:30
  go,
• 8:30
  go,
• 8:31
  go
• 8:31
  all
• 8:31
  day
• 8:31
  long
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  then
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  don't
• 8:32
  even
• 8:32
  sit
• 8:32
  down
• 8:33
  until
• 8:33
  you
• 8:33
  finally
• 8:33
  crash
• 8:33
  in
• 8:34
  bed.
• 8:34
  But
• 8:34
  those
• 8:34
  are
• 8:35
  not
• 8:35
  ideal
• 8:35
  days,
• 8:35
  as
• 8:36
  you
• 8:36
  can
• 8:36
  probably
• 8:36
  tell
• 8:36
  by
• 8:37
  how
• 8:37
  exhausted
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  are.
• 8:38
  Right.
• 8:38
  I
• 8:38
  try
• 8:38
  to
• 8:39
  find
• 8:39
  time
• 8:39
  to
• 8:39
  do
• 8:39
  this
• 8:40
  before
• 8:40
  bed.
• 8:41
  Like
• 8:41
  again,
• 8:41
  lying
• 8:41
  in
• 8:41
  a
• 8:42
  hammock.
• 8:42
  We're
• 8:42
  sitting
• 8:42
  on
• 8:42
  the
• 8:42
  couch
• 8:43
  with
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  kid.
• 8:44
  Or
• 8:44
  rocking
• 8:45
  someone
• 8:45
  in
• 8:45
  a
• 8:45
  rocking
• 8:45
  chair.
• 8:47
  Sometimes
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  will
• 8:47
  only
• 8:48
  get
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  this
• 8:48
  when
• 8:48
  it's
• 8:48
  time
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  put
• 8:49
  little
• 8:49
  ones
• 8:49
  to
• 8:49
  bed
• 8:49
  and
• 8:49
  I'll
• 8:49
  just
• 8:50
  lie
• 8:50
  down
• 8:50
  with
• 8:50
  them
• 8:50
  for
• 8:50
  a
• 8:50
  little
• 8:50
  bit
• 8:51
  and
• 8:51
  allow
• 8:51
  my
• 8:51
  body
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  rest.
• 8:52
  my
• 8:52
  favorite
• 8:53
  phases
• 8:53
  of
• 8:53
  life
• 8:54
  is
• 8:54
  when
• 8:54
  I
• 8:54
  have
• 8:55
  a
• 8:55
  nursing
• 8:55
  baby,
• 8:56
  I've
• 8:56
  had
• 8:56
  10
• 8:56
  of
• 8:56
  them.
• 8:57
  So
• 8:57
  I've
• 8:57
  had
• 8:57
  quite
• 8:57
  a
• 8:57
  few
• 8:57
  experiences
• 8:58
  like
• 8:58
  this,
• 8:59
  and
• 8:59
  I
• 9:00
  firmly
• 9:00
  believe
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  that
• 9:01
  is
• 9:01
  a
• 9:02
  gift
• 9:02
  given
• 9:02
  to
• 9:03
  new
• 9:03
  moms.
• 9:04
  For
• 9:04
  the
• 9:04
  opportunity
• 9:04
  to
• 9:05
  sit
• 9:05
  down
• 9:05
  and
• 9:05
  put
• 9:06
  your
• 9:06
  feet
• 9:06
  up
• 9:06
  and
• 9:06
  rest
• 9:07
  with
• 9:07
  your
• 9:07
  baby,
• 9:08
  because
• 9:08
  otherwise
• 9:08
  you
• 9:08
  could
• 9:09
  just
• 9:09
  go
• 9:10
  crazy
• 9:10
  all
• 9:10
  day
• 9:10
  long,
• 9:10
  especially
• 9:11
  if
• 9:11
  you
• 9:11
  have
• 9:11
  other
• 9:11
  kids
• 9:11
  to
• 9:11
  take
• 9:11
  care
• 9:12
  of
• 9:12
  and
• 9:12
  never
• 9:13
  be
• 9:13
  able
• 9:13
  to
• 9:13
  sit
• 9:13
  down
• 9:13
  and
• 9:14
  rest.
• 9:14
  So.
• 9:15
  Try
• 9:15
  to
• 9:15
  take
• 9:15
  time
• 9:16
  as
• 9:16
  if
• 9:16
  you
• 9:16
  would
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  feed
• 9:17
  a
• 9:17
  baby
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  sit
• 9:18
  down
• 9:18
  just
• 9:18
  a
• 9:18
  couple
• 9:19
  of
• 9:19
  times
• 9:19
  during
• 9:19
  the
• 9:19
  day.
• 9:20
  Now
• 9:20
  meditation
• 9:21
  is
• 9:21
  a
• 9:21
  really
• 9:22
  great
• 9:22
  way
• 9:22
  to
• 9:22
  try
• 9:23
  both
• 9:23
  physical
• 9:23
  and
• 9:24
  mental
• 9:24
  rest.
• 9:25
  But
• 9:26
  admittedly
• 9:26
  it
• 9:26
  takes
• 9:27
  practice.
• 9:27
  If
• 9:28
  we're
• 9:28
  you're
• 9:28
  used
• 9:28
  to
• 9:28
  that,
• 9:28
  go
• 9:29
  go,
• 9:29
  go
• 9:29
  lifestyle.
• 9:30
  It's
• 9:30
  going
• 9:31
  to
• 9:31
  take
• 9:31
  some
• 9:31
  time
• 9:32
  and
• 9:32
  effort.
• 9:33
  To
• 9:33
  be
• 9:33
  able
• 9:33
  to
• 9:33
  clear
• 9:34
  your
• 9:34
  brain,
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  be
• 9:34
  able
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  sit
• 9:35
  there
• 9:35
  and
• 9:35
  not
• 9:35
  be
• 9:35
  fidgety
• 9:36
  in
• 9:36
  antsy.
• 9:37
  But
• 9:37
  make
• 9:38
  it
• 9:38
  a
• 9:38
  priority
• 9:38
  to
• 9:38
  schedule
• 9:38
  that
• 9:39
  rest
• 9:39
  and
• 9:39
  try
• 9:39
  some
• 9:39
  meditation
• 9:40
  if
• 9:40
  you
• 9:40
  want.
• 9:40
  Want
• 9:41
  to.
• 9:41
  we're
• 9:41
  going
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  talk
• 9:41
  for
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  minute
• 9:42
  about
• 9:42
  playtime.
• 9:44
  Okay,
• 9:44
  you
• 9:44
  guys,
• 9:44
  I
• 9:44
  think
• 9:45
  you've
• 9:45
  probably
• 9:45
  noticed
• 9:45
  that
• 9:45
  adults
• 9:46
  are
• 9:46
  really
• 9:46
  stink
• 9:46
  at
• 9:46
  playing
• 9:47
  kids
• 9:47
  are
• 9:47
  naturals.
• 9:48
  In
• 9:48
  fact,
• 9:48
  they
• 9:49
  learn
• 9:49
  through
• 9:50
  play.
• 9:50
  But
• 9:51
  we
• 9:51
  don't
• 9:51
  dig
• 9:51
  in
• 9:51
  sandboxes.
• 9:52
  We
• 9:52
  think
• 9:52
  it's
• 9:52
  gross.
• 9:53
  You
• 9:53
  know,
• 9:53
  it's,
• 9:53
  it
• 9:53
  is.
• 9:54
  Don't
• 9:54
  take
• 9:54
  it
• 9:55
  as
• 9:55
  sandboxes
• 9:55
  gross.
• 9:56
  Swing
• 9:56
  on
• 9:56
  swings.
• 9:57
  We
• 9:57
  don't
• 9:57
  build
• 9:57
  Lego's
• 9:58
  generally.
• 9:59
  We
• 9:59
  don't
• 9:59
  do
• 10:00
  a
• 10:00
  lot
• 10:00
  of
• 10:00
  fun
• 10:00
  things.
• 10:01
  We
• 10:01
  do
• 10:01
  a
• 10:01
  lot
• 10:01
  of
• 10:01
  things
• 10:02
  that
• 10:02
  have
• 10:02
  to
• 10:02
  get
• 10:02
  done.
• 10:03
  I
• 10:04
  was
• 10:04
  recently
• 10:04
  chatting
• 10:04
  with
• 10:04
  a
• 10:04
  group
• 10:05
  of
• 10:05
  friends,
• 10:05
  specifically
• 10:06
  about
• 10:06
  this
• 10:06
  concept
• 10:07
  about
• 10:07
  what
• 10:07
  we
• 10:07
  do
• 10:07
  for
• 10:07
  fun
• 10:08
  and
• 10:09
  the
• 10:09
  things
• 10:09
  I
• 10:09
  came
• 10:10
  up
• 10:10
  with.
• 10:10
  Were
• 10:11
  things
• 10:11
  that
• 10:11
  I
• 10:11
  actually
• 10:12
  limited
• 10:13
  to
• 10:13
  doing.
• 10:14
  Just
• 10:14
  a
• 10:14
  couple
• 10:15
  of
• 10:15
  times
• 10:15
  a
• 10:15
  year.
• 10:15
  Things
• 10:15
  like
• 10:15
  going
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  a
• 10:16
  waterpark
• 10:16
  with
• 10:16
  my
• 10:16
  family
• 10:17
  or
• 10:17
  an
• 10:17
  amusement
• 10:17
  park
• 10:18
  or
• 10:18
  Disneyland,
• 10:19
  or,
• 10:19
  you
• 10:20
  know,
• 10:20
  something
• 10:20
  that
• 10:20
  was
• 10:20
  like
• 10:21
  a
• 10:21
  big
• 10:21
  to
• 10:21
  do.
• 10:22
  But
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  really
• 10:23
  don't
• 10:23
  think
• 10:23
  that
• 10:23
  that's
• 10:24
  necessary
• 10:25
  nor
• 10:25
  do
• 10:25
  I
• 10:25
  think
• 10:25
  that's
• 10:25
  healthy.
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  think
• 10:27
  we
• 10:27
  need
• 10:27
  to
• 10:27
  make
• 10:27
  time
• 10:28
  for
• 10:28
  plate
• 10:29
  in
• 10:29
  other
• 10:29
  parts
• 10:29
  of
• 10:29
  our
• 10:29
  life.
• 10:30
  Daily
• 10:30
  if
• 10:31
  possible.
• 10:32
  So,
• 10:32
  what
• 10:32
  about
• 10:32
  you?
• 10:33
  Do
• 10:33
  you
• 10:33
  allow
• 10:34
  for
• 10:34
  playtime?
• 10:35
  And
• 10:35
  not
• 10:35
  just
• 10:36
  grudgingly
• 10:37
  what
• 10:37
  your
• 10:37
  kids
• 10:37
  want
• 10:37
  to
• 10:37
  do,
• 10:37
  but
• 10:37
  things
• 10:38
  that
• 10:38
  you
• 10:38
  want
• 10:38
  to
• 10:38
  do
• 10:39
  that
• 10:39
  you
• 10:39
  find
• 10:39
  are
• 10:39
  fun.
• 10:40
  we
• 10:40
  were
• 10:40
  told
• 10:41
  that
• 10:41
  we
• 10:41
  needed
• 10:41
  to
• 10:41
  incorporate,
• 10:42
  play
• 10:42
  and
• 10:42
  fun
• 10:42
  in
• 10:43
  our
• 10:43
  everyday
• 10:43
  life,
• 10:43
  what
• 10:43
  would
• 10:44
  that
• 10:44
  look
• 10:44
  like?
• 10:44
  And
• 10:45
  how
• 10:45
  can
• 10:45
  we
• 10:45
  do
• 10:45
  more
• 10:45
  of
• 10:46
  it?
• 10:46
  So
• 10:46
  ask
• 10:47
  yourself
• 10:47
  that
• 10:47
  maybe
• 10:47
  do
• 10:47
  a
• 10:47
  little
• 10:48
  bit
• 10:48
  of
• 10:48
  journaling,
• 10:49
  ask
• 10:49
  your
• 10:49
  husband,
• 10:49
  ask
• 10:49
  your
• 10:49
  kids,
• 10:50
  what
• 10:50
  do
• 10:50
  they
• 10:50
  like
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  do
• 10:51
  for
• 10:51
  fun?
• 10:51
  Maybe
• 10:51
  you
• 10:51
  can
• 10:51
  borrow
• 10:51
  some
• 10:52
  beliefs
• 10:52
  if
• 10:52
  you
• 10:52
  need
• 10:52
  to.
• 10:53
  Some
• 10:53
  ideas.
• 10:54
  And
• 10:54
  it
• 10:54
  is
• 10:55
  okay.
• 10:55
  I
• 10:55
  will
• 10:55
  say
• 10:56
  here
• 10:56
  again,
• 10:56
  for
• 10:56
  those
• 10:56
  of
• 10:57
  us
• 10:57
  that
• 10:57
  love
• 10:57
  productivity.
• 10:57
  It's
• 10:58
  okay.
• 10:58
  If
• 10:58
  this
• 10:58
  play
• 10:58
  feels
• 10:59
  productive.
• 11:00
  So
• 11:00
  for
• 11:00
  me,
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  believe
• 11:01
  that
• 11:01
  sewing
• 11:02
  is
• 11:03
  something
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  do
• 11:03
  for
• 11:03
  fun
• 11:04
  and
• 11:04
  for
• 11:04
  play
• 11:04
  it's
• 11:05
  enjoyable.
• 11:05
  To
• 11:05
  me,
• 11:06
  it
• 11:06
  also
• 11:06
  feels
• 11:06
  productive,
• 11:07
  which
• 11:07
  is
• 11:07
  probably
• 11:07
  another
• 11:07
  reason
• 11:08
  that
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  really
• 11:08
  enjoy
• 11:08
  doing
• 11:08
  it.
• 11:09
  But
• 11:09
  generally
• 11:10
  I
• 11:10
  would
• 11:10
  say
• 11:11
  that.
• 11:12
  Your
• 11:12
  play
• 11:12
  or
• 11:12
  fun
• 11:13
  time
• 11:13
  should
• 11:13
  produce.
• 11:14
  Laughter
• 11:15
  it
• 11:15
  should
• 11:15
  produce
• 11:15
  smiles.
• 11:16
  It
• 11:17
  should
• 11:17
  make
• 11:17
  you
• 11:17
  feel
• 11:18
  rejuvenated
• 11:19
  and
• 11:19
  like
• 11:19
  you're
• 11:19
  able
• 11:20
  to
• 11:20
  better
• 11:21
  function
• 11:22
  and
• 11:22
  take
• 11:22
  on
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  world.
• 11:24
  about
• 11:24
  it
• 11:24
  a
• 11:24
  little
• 11:24
  bit
• 11:24
  longer
• 11:25
  and
• 11:25
  decided
• 11:25
  I
• 11:26
  had
• 11:26
  a
• 11:26
  list
• 11:27
  of
• 11:27
  more
• 11:27
  things
• 11:27
  that
• 11:27
  could
• 11:27
  incorporate
• 11:28
  fun
• 11:28
  into
• 11:29
  my
• 11:29
  day
• 11:29
  to
• 11:29
  day.
• 11:30
  And
• 11:30
  they're
• 11:30
  things
• 11:30
  like
• 11:30
  playing
• 11:31
  card
• 11:31
  games
• 11:31
  with
• 11:31
  my
• 11:31
  family.
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  really
• 11:32
  enjoy
• 11:32
  that.
• 11:33
  Riding
• 11:33
  my
• 11:33
  bike
• 11:33
  for
• 11:34
  fun,
• 11:34
  not
• 11:34
  exercise
• 11:35
  just
• 11:35
  for
• 11:35
  fun,
• 11:36
  especially
• 11:36
  when
• 11:36
  there's
• 11:36
  a
• 11:36
  nice
• 11:36
  breeze
• 11:36
  out.
• 11:37
  Playing
• 11:38
  in
• 11:38
  the
• 11:38
  pool
• 11:38
  with
• 11:38
  my
• 11:38
  kids.
• 11:39
  So
• 11:40
  these
• 11:40
  are
• 11:40
  things
• 11:40
  that
• 11:41
  really
• 11:41
  are
• 11:41
  fun,
• 11:42
  but
• 11:42
  for
• 11:42
  me,
• 11:42
  they
• 11:42
  are
• 11:43
  hard
• 11:43
  to
• 11:43
  prioritize.
• 11:43
  If
• 11:44
  you
• 11:44
  are
• 11:44
  a
• 11:44
  person
• 11:44
  who
• 11:45
  values
• 11:46
  fun
• 11:46
  more
• 11:47
  than
• 11:47
  me,
• 11:47
  this
• 11:47
  might
• 11:47
  not
• 11:48
  be
• 11:48
  as
• 11:48
  big
• 11:48
  of
• 11:48
  a
• 11:48
  deal.
• 11:48
  Maybe
• 11:49
  you
• 11:49
  struggle
• 11:49
  a
• 11:49
  little
• 11:49
  bit
• 11:50
  more
• 11:50
  with
• 11:50
  the
• 11:50
  productivity.
• 11:51
  struggle
• 11:52
  with
• 11:52
  fun,
• 11:52
  because
• 11:52
  it
• 11:52
  doesn't
• 11:53
  feel
• 11:53
  productive
• 11:54
  or
• 11:54
  like
• 11:54
  an
• 11:54
  achievement,
• 11:55
  then
• 11:56
  remind
• 11:56
  yourself
• 11:57
  that
• 11:57
  fun
• 11:57
  is
• 11:57
  still
• 11:57
  important
• 11:58
  and
• 11:59
  that
• 11:59
  it
• 11:59
  does
• 11:59
  two
• 11:59
  main
• 11:59
  things.
• 12:00
  Number
• 12:00
  one.
• 12:01
  Fun
• 12:02
  reminds
• 12:02
  you
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  life
• 12:03
  is
• 12:03
  meant
• 12:03
  for
• 12:04
  joy.
• 12:04
  It's
• 12:04
  meant
• 12:04
  to
• 12:04
  produce
• 12:05
  joy.
• 12:06
  And
• 12:06
  secondly,
• 12:07
  it
• 12:07
  allows
• 12:07
  you
• 12:07
  to
• 12:08
  tap
• 12:08
  into
• 12:08
  that
• 12:08
  inner
• 12:08
  child
• 12:09
  that
• 12:09
  loves
• 12:09
  fun.
• 12:10
  And
• 12:10
  I
• 12:10
  know
• 12:10
  my
• 12:10
  kids
• 12:11
  connect
• 12:11
  with
• 12:11
  me
• 12:12
  so
• 12:13
  strongly
• 12:13
  when
• 12:13
  we
• 12:13
  were
• 12:13
  having
• 12:14
  fun
• 12:14
  together.
• 12:14
  I
• 12:15
  think
• 12:15
  it's
• 12:15
  like
• 12:15
  the
• 12:16
  inner
• 12:16
  child
• 12:16
  in
• 12:16
  me
• 12:16
  sees
• 12:16
  the
• 12:17
  child
• 12:17
  in
• 12:17
  them
• 12:17
  and
• 12:17
  they
• 12:17
  can
• 12:18
  play
• 12:18
  together,
• 12:18
  you
• 12:19
  know?
• 12:19
  And
• 12:20
  it's
• 12:21
  always
• 12:21
  such
• 12:21
  an
• 12:21
  enjoyable
• 12:22
  experience
• 12:22
  that
• 12:22
  when
• 12:22
  I'm
• 12:23
  done,
• 12:23
  I
• 12:23
  think,
• 12:23
  gosh,
• 12:23
  I
• 12:23
  should
• 12:24
  really
• 12:24
  make
• 12:24
  time
• 12:24
  for
• 12:24
  this
• 12:24
  more
• 12:24
  often.
• 12:25
  Right.
• 12:25
  So
• 12:25
  there's
• 12:26
  just
• 12:26
  a
• 12:26
  little
• 12:26
  reminder
• 12:26
  to
• 12:27
  make
• 12:27
  sure
• 12:27
  that
• 12:27
  play
• 12:27
  and
• 12:28
  fun
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  a
• 12:28
  part
• 12:28
  of
• 12:28
  your
• 12:28
  life.
• 12:29
  If
• 12:29
  not
• 12:29
  every
• 12:29
  day,
• 12:29
  at
• 12:29
  least
• 12:30
  once
• 12:30
  a
• 12:30
  week.
• 12:31
  Okay.
• 12:32
  Finally,
• 12:32
  let's
• 12:32
  talk
• 12:32
  about
• 12:33
  entertainment
• 12:33
  for
• 12:34
  awhile.
• 12:34
  Now
• 12:34
  I
• 12:34
  saved
• 12:35
  this
• 12:35
  one
• 12:35
  for
• 12:35
  last,
• 12:36
  because
• 12:36
  it
• 12:36
  is
• 12:36
  often
• 12:37
  the
• 12:38
  first
• 12:38
  thing
• 12:38
  we
• 12:38
  do
• 12:39
  when
• 12:39
  we're
• 12:39
  feeling
• 12:39
  overworked
• 12:40
  or
• 12:40
  exhausted
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  we
• 12:40
  have
• 12:41
  free
• 12:41
  time.
• 12:42
  However
• 12:43
  it
• 12:43
  actually
• 12:44
  yields
• 12:44
  the
• 12:44
  smallest
• 12:45
  amount
• 12:45
  of
• 12:45
  benefit.
• 12:47
  Now
• 12:47
  entertainment.
• 12:48
  I'm
• 12:48
  talking
• 12:48
  about
• 12:48
  generally
• 12:49
  media,
• 12:49
  right?
• 12:49
  Scrolling
• 12:50
  Instagram,
• 12:50
  or
• 12:50
  watching
• 12:51
  TV,
• 12:51
  watching
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  movie.
• 12:52
  It's
• 12:53
  not
• 12:53
  all
• 12:53
  bad.
• 12:54
  Being
• 12:54
  entertained.
• 12:55
  Being
• 12:55
  passively
• 12:55
  entertained
• 12:56
  is
• 12:56
  not
• 12:56
  all
• 12:56
  bad.
• 12:56
  It
• 12:56
  can
• 12:57
  be
• 12:57
  really
• 12:57
  fun.
• 12:58
  It
• 12:58
  definitely
• 12:59
  allows
• 12:59
  for
• 12:59
  some
• 12:59
  of
• 13:00
  that
• 13:00
  mental
• 13:00
  relaxation
• 13:01
  that
• 13:01
  we're
• 13:01
  looking
• 13:01
  for.
• 13:02
  However,
• 13:03
  because
• 13:03
  there
• 13:03
  is
• 13:04
  still
• 13:04
  stimulus
• 13:05
  coming
• 13:05
  in
• 13:05
  your
• 13:05
  brain
• 13:06
  actually
• 13:06
  can't
• 13:06
  make
• 13:07
  some
• 13:07
  of
• 13:07
  the
• 13:07
  connections
• 13:07
  that
• 13:07
  could
• 13:07
  make.
• 13:08
  If
• 13:08
  your
• 13:08
  blame
• 13:09
  blank
• 13:09
  slate.
• 13:09
  If
• 13:09
  you
• 13:09
  were
• 13:09
  just
• 13:10
  lying
• 13:10
  in
• 13:10
  a
• 13:10
  hammock
• 13:10
  or
• 13:10
  walking
• 13:11
  down
• 13:11
  the
• 13:11
  street,
• 13:12
  You're
• 13:12
  still
• 13:13
  left
• 13:13
  with
• 13:13
  a
• 13:13
  lot
• 13:13
  swirling
• 13:14
  around.
• 13:15
  Even
• 13:15
  though
• 13:15
  you've
• 13:16
  kind
• 13:16
  of
• 13:16
  checked
• 13:16
  out
• 13:17
  for
• 13:17
  a
• 13:17
  while.
• 13:17
  I
• 13:17
  kind
• 13:17
  of
• 13:18
  view
• 13:18
  entertainment
• 13:19
  as
• 13:19
  like
• 13:19
  going
• 13:20
  unconscious
• 13:20
  for
• 13:20
  a
• 13:20
  little
• 13:20
  while
• 13:21
  and
• 13:21
  sometimes
• 13:21
  that's
• 13:21
  necessary.
• 13:22
  Sometimes
• 13:22
  I
• 13:22
  really
• 13:22
  enjoy
• 13:23
  going
• 13:23
  unconscious
• 13:23
  with
• 13:23
  my
• 13:23
  husband
• 13:24
  and
• 13:24
  a
• 13:24
  TV
• 13:25
  show.
• 13:25
  In
• 13:25
  the
• 13:25
  evening.
• 13:27
  But
• 13:27
  there
• 13:28
  are
• 13:28
  some
• 13:28
  downsides
• 13:28
  entertainment
• 13:29
  can
• 13:29
  actually
• 13:29
  quickly
• 13:30
  become
• 13:30
  addictive.
• 13:31
  If
• 13:31
  it's
• 13:31
  late
• 13:32
  at
• 13:32
  night.
• 13:33
  TV
• 13:33
  is
• 13:33
  a
• 13:33
  surefire
• 13:34
  way
• 13:34
  to
• 13:34
  make
• 13:34
  sure
• 13:35
  I
• 13:35
  will
• 13:35
  never
• 13:35
  get
• 13:35
  to
• 13:35
  bed
• 13:35
  or
• 13:36
  I
• 13:36
  won't
• 13:36
  sleep
• 13:36
  for
• 13:36
  another
• 13:36
  hour
• 13:36
  or
• 13:37
  two.
• 13:37
  Right.
• 13:37
  If
• 13:37
  I
• 13:37
  a
• 13:37
  book,
• 13:38
  my
• 13:38
  eyes
• 13:38
  can
• 13:39
  get
• 13:39
  tired.
• 13:39
  I'll
• 13:39
  read
• 13:39
  for
• 13:39
  a
• 13:39
  chapter
• 13:40
  or
• 13:40
  so,
• 13:40
  and
• 13:40
  I'll
• 13:40
  put
• 13:40
  it
• 13:40
  down.
• 13:41
  If
• 13:41
  I
• 13:41
  start
• 13:41
  a
• 13:41
  TV
• 13:41
  show,
• 13:42
  I'm
• 13:42
  there
• 13:42
  till
• 13:43
  it's
• 13:43
  over.
• 13:43
  Maybe
• 13:44
  you're
• 13:44
  one
• 13:44
  of
• 13:44
  those
• 13:44
  wonderful,
• 13:44
  magical
• 13:45
  unicorns
• 13:45
  that
• 13:45
  can
• 13:45
  fall
• 13:46
  asleep
• 13:46
  while
• 13:46
  watching
• 13:46
  TV.
• 13:46
  It's
• 13:47
  not
• 13:47
  me,
• 13:47
  unfortunately.
• 13:48
  And
• 13:48
  it's
• 13:49
  much
• 13:49
  harder
• 13:49
  for
• 13:49
  me
• 13:49
  to
• 13:49
  turn
• 13:49
  off
• 13:50
  and
• 13:50
  walk
• 13:50
  away.
• 13:51
  TV
• 13:51
  or
• 13:51
  a
• 13:51
  movie
• 13:52
  than
• 13:52
  it
• 13:52
  is
• 13:52
  a
• 13:52
  puzzle
• 13:53
  or
• 13:53
  a
• 13:53
  book
• 13:53
  or
• 13:53
  something
• 13:54
  that
• 13:54
  is
• 13:54
  relaxing
• 13:55
  for
• 13:55
  me,
• 13:55
  but
• 13:55
  not
• 13:56
  as
• 13:56
  addictive.
• 13:57
  So
• 13:57
  again,
• 13:57
  while
• 13:57
  there's
• 13:58
  totally
• 13:58
  a
• 13:58
  place
• 13:59
  for
• 13:59
  entertainment
• 14:00
  in
• 14:00
  a
• 14:00
  healthy,
• 14:00
  balanced
• 14:01
  life.
• 14:01
  Just
• 14:02
  be
• 14:02
  aware
• 14:02
  of
• 14:02
  it
• 14:03
  taking
• 14:03
  over
• 14:04
  your
• 14:04
  free
• 14:04
  time
• 14:05
  and
• 14:05
  crowding
• 14:06
  out
• 14:06
  the
• 14:06
  rest
• 14:06
  or
• 14:06
  the
• 14:07
  play
• 14:07
  that
• 14:07
  you
• 14:07
  crucially
• 14:08
  need.
• 14:08
  So.
• 14:09
  were
• 14:09
  trying
• 14:09
  to
• 14:09
  fit
• 14:09
  in
• 14:09
  more
• 14:10
  free
• 14:10
  time
• 14:11
  and
• 14:11
  more
• 14:11
  rest
• 14:12
  play
• 14:12
  and
• 14:12
  entertainment
• 14:13
  in
• 14:13
  that
• 14:13
  free
• 14:13
  time.
• 14:14
  Start
• 14:14
  taking
• 14:15
  a
• 14:15
  note
• 14:16
  of
• 14:16
  where
• 14:16
  you
• 14:17
  are
• 14:17
  spending
• 14:17
  your
• 14:17
  time.
• 14:18
  If
• 14:18
  you
• 14:18
  do
• 14:18
  have
• 14:18
  free
• 14:18
  time
• 14:18
  in
• 14:19
  your
• 14:19
  day
• 14:19
  already.
• 14:19
  Good
• 14:19
  job.
• 14:20
  Take
• 14:20
  a
• 14:20
  note
• 14:21
  of
• 14:21
  where,
• 14:21
  how
• 14:21
  you're
• 14:21
  spending
• 14:21
  it
• 14:21
  is
• 14:22
  always
• 14:22
  on
• 14:22
  TV
• 14:22
  or
• 14:23
  on
• 14:23
  social
• 14:23
  media.
• 14:24
  Are
• 14:24
  you
• 14:24
  spending
• 14:24
  any
• 14:24
  time
• 14:25
  for
• 14:26
  some
• 14:26
  of
• 14:26
  that
• 14:26
  active
• 14:26
  rest?
• 14:27
  I
• 14:27
  know
• 14:27
  that
• 14:27
  sounds
• 14:27
  silly
• 14:27
  to
• 14:28
  call
• 14:28
  it
• 14:28
  active
• 14:28
  respite
• 14:29
  where
• 14:29
  you're
• 14:29
  purposely
• 14:30
  making
• 14:30
  time
• 14:31
  for
• 14:31
  a
• 14:31
  nap
• 14:31
  or
• 14:31
  for
• 14:32
  lying
• 14:32
  down
• 14:32
  somewhere.
• 14:33
  Are
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  making
• 14:34
  time
• 14:34
  for
• 14:34
  that
• 14:34
  play
• 14:35
  and
• 14:35
  having
• 14:36
  fun,
• 14:36
  especially
• 14:37
  with
• 14:37
  those
• 14:37
  that
• 14:37
  you
• 14:37
  love.
• 14:38
  ask
• 14:38
  yourself,
• 14:38
  what
• 14:39
  do
• 14:39
  you
• 14:39
  need
• 14:39
  more
• 14:39
  of
• 14:39
  in
• 14:40
  your
• 14:40
  life
• 14:40
  this
• 14:40
  week
• 14:41
  and
• 14:41
  how
• 14:41
  do
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  plan
• 14:42
  on
• 14:42
  getting
• 14:42
  it?
• 14:43
  Okay
• 14:43
  out
• 14:43
  there
• 14:43
  and
• 14:43
  have
• 14:44
  more
• 14:44
  fun.
• 14:45
  Take
• 14:45
  more
• 14:45
  rests
• 14:46
  and
• 14:46
  come
• 14:46
  back.
• 14:46
  Rejuvenated.
• 14:47
  We'll
• 14:47
  talk
• 14:47
  next
• 14:47
  week.