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Alison Grey - The Mindful Medium · Destination Unlimited with Victor Fuhrman

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My name is Victor Furman. Some call me the Voice. I've always been
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fascinated with human nature, spirituality, science, and the crossroads at which they
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meet. Join me now and we will explore these topics and so much more
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with fascinating guests, authors, and experts who will guide us to Destination Unlimited.
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Do you ever know or sense things before they happen? Are the burgeoning
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gifts of clairvoyance, Claire audience and Clare sentience gracing your life? How may
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you develop these gifts and use them to enhance your life and that of others?
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My guest this week on Destination Unlimited, Alison Gray, began receiving leaving
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signs and messages as a child and acknowledges how these first steps of her own
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journey led her to where she is today, a successful psychic medium, healer,
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spiritual teacher, and counselor. Her teaching weaves a fascinating and accessible alternative
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way of thinking, encouraging you mediums to deepen their own intuitive and psychic skills
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while helping them to find answers to life's most important questions. Her website is
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Alison graymedium dot com and she joins me this week to share her path and
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new book, The Mindful Medium, a Practical Guide to Spirituality. Please join
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me in welcoming to Destination Unlimited, Alison Gray. Welcome, Alison, Oh,
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hello, and thank you Victor for having me. Thank you so much
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for joining us. And as we shared before recording, you and I have
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very much had common experience as children. So although we're decades apart, it
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made me aware and made you aware of the nature of spirit. Please share
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with us your early path and the events that opened your understanding as of what
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has been deemed paranormal but for us was very very normal. Yes. Well,
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I think I was always a sensitive child. I've always been a child
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that had that empathy, and I could always feel things around me. I
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could feel people's energy. I didn't really understand what I mean by that,
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you know, when I was younger, but I always sort of had an
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understanding of whether people were nice, whether they were kind, whether I was
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going to like them or not. I think I spent a lot of time
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being quite quiet. My mum used to always say, you know, she's
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in one of her little moods today, She's just you know, observing and
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watching. And I think that was me picking up intuitively people's energy, So
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you know, that was my earliest kind of memories, but it wasn't until
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the age of when I was ten and my paternal grandfather, he was in
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the seventies and we were very very close. We used to see him every
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week, and he was a religious man, and although my family were religious,
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we didn't necessarily go to church every week, but it was more of
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a Christian upbringing that I was born into. And one night, imber Well,
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I remembered my being told that my grandfather had passed away, and for
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a ten year old, I didn't really understand what that meant. Because that
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scared me because I felt, well, if he's gone, has he gone
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forever? You know? I had all these big questions that nobody really answered
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for me. And then one night soon afterwards, i'd gone to bed and
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I had this dream that my grandfather came to me and we would go,
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like every Saturday, go and visit him in his house, and he'd be
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there, and I was very aware that I was asleep, but very also
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aware that my grandfather was standing there and I was saying, but you know,
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you're you're not supposed to be here, And I had this recurring dream
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years after years after year, and on one occasion, like a traditional family,
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my grandfather used to sit at the head of the table and we had
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gone to his house and we were all invited to sit around the dinner table,
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and I'd for some reason, sat at the head of the table and
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he sat through me, and I remember thinking, how does this work?
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How does this happen? Because I'm sitting here, You're sitting here, and
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in my head, in my kind of understanding, it was like, because
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we're blended, because we are now together and I'm here with you. And
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that took a long time for me to kind of get my head around.
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And because I came from a family that said we're more kind of Christian in
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their religion, I didn't know how to express this to my parents. They
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just thought I was a little bit strange. And often they used to do
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that when I was sleeping at night and I used to feel somebody at the
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bottom of my bed, or I used to feel our cat, who had
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also passed the spirit world, jump on my bed and snuggle up by my
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feet. I just didn't have any idea what was really going on, and
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every time I got a little bit scared at night, and I went up
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to my parents and they'd be like, they don't be silly, go back
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to sleep. There's nobody there. And that was my experience for a long
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time, really, right up until my teenage years. And did you ever
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share these? I know you said you were reluctant to do that. Did
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you ever share these with anyone when you were young? No, I didn't
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know who to talk to, so I had to try and figure it out
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myself and ask my grandfather in these dreams, you know, what was going
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on? Really? And then I suppose again, I was always interested in
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mythical thing. I loved fairies, elves, pixes, which is wizards.
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You know, give me you need blighten, give me any book that contained
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magical things, and I would just find a tree. We had a lovely
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tree in our garden. I know, used to climb up there and I
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just used to read my books and be like transported elsewhere to these different realms.
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So I always had that in a belief that there was something there.
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But said, I was always deemed as a you know, head in the
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clouds and a little bit odd, a little bit strange. As I shared
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with you, we had commonaltive experience. I also, but I would tell
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people about it, and they told me I had an overactive imagination. So
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when you have someone in your life, especially parents who are listening right now,
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if you have a child who was reflecting to you things that seem a
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little bit strange, listen, don't put them down, don't say they have
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overactive imaginations. Give them a chance to express themselves, because who knows,
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they may be sharing something very important with you. Would you agree, absolutely?
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And I think I used to also express all of this through store.
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I used to love creative writing. I had a really good imagination. And
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again, something that you and I shared and come and absolutely now you shared
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that you acquired your first tarot deck when you were sixteen, What drew you
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to card reading? And how did you learn to use them? So by
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this point I think I was opening up to my mum and particularly her sister
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my aunt, who were all very close with and they started to tell me
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a little bit. So I think they understood more than what I understood them
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to have understood, if you know, when I was younger, because they'd
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also had strange things going on with themselves, particularly my aunt, whose house
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is very very active with spirit, that is, and eventually I was able
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to be understood. And my mum was telling me about these tarot cards,
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and I'd read somewhere that actually, you're not supposed to buy your own tarot
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cards. So I decided to buy her them, but I think it was
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a birthday. But of course my mum wasn't really into it like I was,
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so she ended up giving them back to me, and I spent hours
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just looking at them, first of all reading the little booklet that comes with
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it, and then eventually by different sets, because I understood by them that
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you can buy your own, and it's fine, you know, it was
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just a little myth, really, you know that you shouldn't buy your own.
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And I just explored different types of tarot decks and oracle cards and fairy
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cards that kind of thing. And I just did the spreads myself or my
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friends, my families, and it would be like anybody that came round,
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I'd be like, could you do my cards for me? Cause you know,
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and I used to get them out and I just I kind of became
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more self learnt with tarots. So even now I don't necessarily follow any spreads.
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I just turn the cards over and use them really as a tool because
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I just find them visually really inviting an interest in and I just want to
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find them beautiful. Actually, I love the images on those cards, and
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they become a focal point for the energy, don't they They do. They
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help me to as I said, they they're my tool. So when I'm
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working in mediumship, which is what I do most of the time, I
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will put a spread out or you know, just lay a few cards.
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But actually that's for me just to get into the energy and then the moment
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spirit come, they take over and they're talking to me. But they might
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direct me to an image or a number or a word or something on those
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cards, so that they're like a focal point, but I don't actually read
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them as in, this is what that card means, this is what that
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hard means. And also in your teen years, you were drawn to shops
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that sold mystical items, including crystals. Please tell us about your fascination with
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crystals and all things magical. Yes, so, as I said, when
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we were younger, we used to go down to Cornwall where there was all
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the elves and pixes, and that's that's obviously in the UK, and I
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used to love old places like well, I love churches. I love churches
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a lot, but places that hold a lot of history because you can feel
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the energy. And so always those places had gift shops, and in those
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gift shops there were always crystals. And for me, they're like, well,
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they like sweets and a jar, you know, or little gems that
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wink at me. And I just used to love picking them up and feeling
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the energy. But as a teenager, I didn't really know what I was
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doing with them. I was just drawn to them and I had them in
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my room. And then as I got older and my life started to kind
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of well, I went to today levels, I went to university. This
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side of me never went away, but I kind of put it to one
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side until because I didn't really know what was doing with the crystals. I
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just knew that I liked them. I just knew that I needed them in
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my energy, and I used to just touch them and hold them. And
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it wasn't until later that I refound my love for crystals, and they're everywhere
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in my house. I'm known for my crystals. Okay, which is your
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favorite crystal or do you have a favorite crystal. Oh well, I don't
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have a focal crystal because they are all just amazing. But I think everybody
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needs to have a rose quartz, a clear quart, and an amethyst.
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For me, I was going to say, they're the ones with the really
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high high vibration or healing energy. There's so many others a gates, and
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there's just so many of them I could really I can't really choose them,
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but I think if you were only to have one or two, they would
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be my ones of choice. I happened to wear a black tourmaline. I
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have worn black tormaline for years and years and years, and as you know,
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black tourmaline is something that wards off negative energy. That's right, yes,
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and I find that very well, very well placed, especially in the
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world of business for mans. That's right now. Tomaline, like all the
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blackstones, obsidian, even hematite, you know, all those darker crystals,
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they keep you grounded. And I used to put them underneath the mat in
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my house so when people were walking through, I could cleanse their energies.
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They walk through their house absolutely. Now with the birth of your second son,
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your intuitive skills became stronger. Please describe how this manifested for you.
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Yes, So again, by then I was already opening up to this real
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world. I was doing a lot more kind of reading and finding out about
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tarot and healing and crystals, past life, astrology, anything really that I
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could get my hands on. But it was the visions that used to keep
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coming. So although I always went by my intuition and felt things intuitively,
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when I had my son, and I was thirty three when I had him,
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I used to just like lie there and I would get my grandfather's coming
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in because by then my maternal grandfather had passed away. I'd get images of
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navy ships because I knew that they were in the navy. I'd see faces
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and when I was when he was a tiny baby, and I remember like
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changing his nappy and he'd say that, Mummy, he's you know Auntie Joe,
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Auntie Joe behind me. I mean, in his kind of he wasn't
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very old by them, but he could recognize it. And I was like
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the middle of the night, there's nobody here. So I think that he
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was, well, I know that he's also intuitive and very spiritual, and
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I think he'd just awaken that within me. And it became so that I
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had to go and find somebody and say, look, you know, I'm
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not really sure I'm going with any of this. I'm not really sure what's
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happening. But I know that spirit is communicating with me, and I know
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I need to try and find somebody to kind of help me to develop or
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to tell me what's going on really. And this led to your joining a
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healing circle where you learned reiki, Rahaney and crystal healing. How did each
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of these modalities open your understanding of working with energy? So the first thing
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I did was the healing circle really taught me about energy, energy centers,
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the aura, and how to keep that healthy, how to keep that safe,
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how to make sure that I was grounded, and if I was open,
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how to close down or at least bring that energy in so I wasn't
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absorbing the energy from everybody and my environment around me. So just working with
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the hands, and I've always been hands off, you know, I never
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placed my hands on somebody. It's always like, have my hands hovering and
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we'd do color, we would do sound, we would do all different types
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of healing. But I was really drawn to the reiki because for me,
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it felt really grounding, and it was very gentle, but very very powerful
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and very strong, and I just loved that energy and to know how to
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work within somebody else's oric field and how to to understand what's going on with
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them, whether that was either physical or emotional or mentally. And I think
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that's also using my guides. They were giving me the information as I was
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working. So reiki came first, and I studied Reyki up to masters.
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I'm a Reiki master and loved teaching that and introducing everybody else into the reiki
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energy. But then I found that I've always been really close to angels.
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I love the Angelica energy too, and I just stumbled on it really.
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Somebody I was talking to about ki and healing, they told me about Rahani,
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which is quite a high modality, quite fast frequency that has been given
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to us at this stage now because our lives are much faster and much quicker.
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But it's linked into the angels and Kwan Yin, so the ascended Master
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Kuan Yin, and it all radiates on on a level like the pink.
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It's all about the one heart, the open heart, and so I've just
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found that to be most magical really and very very calm, and it's very
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very good for children as well. And because I trained as a teacher,
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particularly a special needs teacher, and I've worked with a lot of children who
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had emotional difficulties. So whether that's speech and language, which was the base
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that I ran, or whether it was because they had ADHD or they're on
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the autistic spectrum, this kind of healing, well, all healing, it
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just really helps them to calm and to center so that they can understand themselves
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a little bit better. And I just felt working with the angels and working
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within that healing, the light of both reiki and rahani to be really soothing,
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not just for the people that I'm working with, but I always felt
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like you probably feel that when you're giving healing, you have an essence of
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that healing yourself. It comes down through you and it's a little bit like
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for me, I describe it as the honey jar. You know, it
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comes down and you give that healing out because we are at the channel,
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but actually a little bit stays behind on the sides, doesn't it. Absolutely?
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And also crystal healing tell us about crystal healing, So the crystals,
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as I said, you know, I fell in love with crystals, and
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I just couldn't get enough, and I wanted to know what all the crystals
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were and how they helped. And although I will give crystal healing individually,
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I always merge my healing with crystals, So whether that's for the chakras or
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generally speak and I just say to the people that I'm working with, you
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know which crystals are you drawn to? Because I've never I've never been in
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situation and I don't know whether you work with crystal's victor, But whenever people
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pick a crystal and I explain to them what that crystal is, whether it's
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to do with the crystal or whether it's to do with the color, it's
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always they they always say, that's exactly what I need, that's exactly what
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I'm feeling, that's exactly what I'm going through. So I feel that intuitively,
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we're always drawn to the right crystal, whether that's crystal that's going to
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give us the energy or whether it's the crystal that's going to help us soothe.
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Absolutely true and something that I've also experienced and see people seem to know
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intuitively, even if they're not practicing or out about their abilities, they're drawn
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to the things that they actually need to use in their lives, aren't they?
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They are? And that's our wonderful guides and angels that direct us with
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that. I think absolutely. You had mentioned the chakras. Tell us what
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you learned about these subtle energy centers, these chakras, So for me,
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the chakrash you know, these are our raised in energy centers. They are
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there. Well, the term means spinning wheel, so they're like vortexes of
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energy. And although we have loads of different chackras all over our body,
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there are seven main chakras, so we I don't necessarily know the real words
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for them because I always go by the base chakra, that the sacral.
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But we've got the seven major chakras that are in our bodies, and they
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align with our physical, our emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. And
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as they spin, we need to keep them in alignment and as they spin
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and as they're opening, and they're regulating our energy and helping us to be
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in tune with the world, with nature and the world and ourselves. You
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learn that over time or through life, and depending on our situations, that
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sometimes our shakras are too open, or sometimes that we've closed them down a
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little bit, so therefore they're not all spinning at the same rate, and
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therefore we're not in aligned. And if our bodies are not in aligned,
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then we're going to feel differently. We're either going to be you know,
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heading the clouds and not being able to be grounded, or we're not We're
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going to be feeling really really low and have those energy feels of you know,
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not depression, but you know, just those I don't know what to
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do in life and life's not working for me, or you know, things
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aren't happening. So so for me, working with the crystals, working with
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the healing energy, and working within the Shaqrass system, it's about alignment and
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making sure that we're in balance, because when our bodies are imbalanced, we
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have that harmony. And when we have that harmony, we're able to tap
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into our you know, our sole purpose and what we're supposed to be doing
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here, and we can communicate properly. We can we can get those downloads
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of inspirations, but you know, whatever the chakra we're linking into, and
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that's what we need to be doing daily. But because our lives are busy,
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because we read things here, things, have conversations. You know,
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our chakra system can be become unbalanced quite easily. So for me, a
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regular whether that's meditation, sitting with the crystals, or giving ourselves some self
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healing, tapping into that energy and making sure that our chakras are aligned is
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for me, is a regular and important practice. You've shared that the first
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time you stood up to speak at one of these circles and connect with spirit,
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that it was horrifying for you. How So, the funny thing is
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is that I was a primary school teacher and I was able to talk to
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a class of thirty. I could run an assembly with like, you know,
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one hundred and fifty children, not a problem, It wouldn't It wouldn't
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phase me. But standing up in front of other members of a circle and
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telling them what I'm getting from the spirit world felt really scary because I feel
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like, what if I'm making this up? What if? Because I'm quite
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a practical person being an Earth sign, I'm a very practical person. I'm
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a quite scientific person. So I like to have you know rules and regulations.
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I like to know what's you know, what's right, and what's real
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and what's not real. So this for me was like a leap of faith.
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Having to trust all the feelings that I was getting, all the images
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I was getting, all the words and everything, and trying to convey that
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into a message for somebody. Was WHOA really out of my comfort zone to
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start with, because you know, it's that trust of the spirit world,
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and it was something I was very passionate about as well. So you know,
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you learn things being a school teacher, you learn what you're teaching.
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Was this was very new and unfamiliar and, as I say, a leap
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of faith for me. My guest is Alison Gray. We're going to be
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talking about her new book, The Mindful Medium, A Practical Guide to Spirituality.
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Allison, please share with our listeners where they can get your book and
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find out more about you. Okay, so thank you. So my book
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is out on the twenty ninth March the twenty ninth, and you can get
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it from Amazon, but the publishers is sixth book Think from Collective Books.
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You can order the book from there, and you can find me on my
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website Alison graymedium dot com and my title is The Mindful Medium. You can
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Welcome Mile in the Shoes. Back on Destination Unlimited. My guest this
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week is Alison Gray. We're talking about her new book, The Mindful Medium,
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A Practical Guide to Spirituality. Allison, what inspired The Mindful Medium for
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me? As I explained earlier, I grew up with all of this information
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coming to me, all these experiences, the dreams, the feelings, and
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I just didn't know who to go to. I didn't know where to learn
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anything, who to talk to. So my inspiration for this book really is
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like a practical guide for anybody who's starting out in the same way that I
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did and wanted to find out what's happening to them Like I did, I
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had to find myself a teacher. But for me, I'm putting all my
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knowledge, all my experiences from everywhere into books. So I started off with
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a little background on myself, and you know, because I thought that may
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also inspire other people to think, well, this is what I was like
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as a child, or this is what I experienced to then the middle section
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being all my tools and tips that I have learnt either through various different teachers
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because I found I also had to go to different teachers for different things because
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I was you know that I had a healing group and my mediumship. Then
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they didn't all tell me about the angels, or they didn't tell me all
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about the crystals or past life regression or astrology. So I had to go
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and find all this information in different places. So I just wanted to bring
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that all together in my book so people would have like a reference so they
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could dip in and out of things when they inspired them all or they suddenly
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look Because we don't learn it all in, you know, in one go,
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we develop and evolve. And as we develop and evolve, our understanding
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changes, and other doors open and new ideas and new feelings come in.
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And you know, I sit a lot with my guides and I ask them
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so many questions I must be really annoying to then, but I like to
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understand. So everything I do, everything I've experienced in I need to internalize
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and it needs to resonate with me. So I will often read things or
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sit with my guides, and if it feels right and resonates with me,
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I'm like, yeah, that's that for me, feels true, and I
28:30
will speak that. I'll speak that as my truth. And there's some things
28:33
that you know that you may also say, victor that that does Oh I'm
28:37
not quite sure or I'm not ready for that kind of information, you know.
28:41
So when we're talking about higher beings, I have a level of understanding
28:44
on high beans, and I believe in high beans, but if anybody talks
28:48
to me about UFOs, I'm not really sure I'm ready for that kind of
28:52
thing, you know. So I just wanted to put everything that I've experienced,
28:56
everything that resonates with me, and all my knowledge in one place.
29:03
And then the third part of the book is all about my mindfulness, which
29:07
is where I've got the title from because working with children with special needs,
29:12
having my own children, and just working with crystals and the healing for me,
29:18
mindfulness and well being is so very important, and I just wanted to
29:23
put in some meditations that I love writing in there so that people can tap
29:30
into themselves and have a better understanding on who they are. When you're ready
29:36
to talk about UFO has given me a call. Okay, I do believe
29:41
in them. I absolutely believe in them. That yeah, I have seen
29:48
I have seen an ORB with an alien's face in the middle, and that
29:53
really shocked me because it was a first. You know, I see orbs
29:57
and they're always loving and angelic, and you know my spirit loved ones.
30:03
But I had this phase and I was like, whoa. And I've had
30:07
a dream also, Well, I wasn't dream. I was waking up and
30:11
I had this thing come to me and again I don't know who it was,
30:15
but he had he had like crocodile skin and like a sword, and
30:21
he just said to me, I found you. And I was like,
30:22
oh, I'm not sure what I've done. So I just called the angels
30:27
to surround me in love and protection. So I know that there. I'm
30:32
just haven't quite embraced that side, but I shall definitely call you absolutely.
30:40
So you touched upon the importance of meditation and visualization and developing ourselves. How
30:45
do these practices help us get the gifts of spirit because we come back to
30:52
our center, we come back to who we are and I always find that
30:57
when I'm grounded, when I'm centered, when I'm at peace, when I'm
31:03
when I'm relaxed and i haven't got all these thoughts and all these feelings racing
31:08
around me, my energy changes, it shifts, and I can feel Spirit
31:15
much closer to me. If I'm racing around, they try and tap and
31:22
knock on the door, and I'm like, yeah, too busy to busy.
31:25
But when I'm in a place of stillness, when I'm in a place
31:27
of when I call it the zone, then spirit world is much more tangible
31:33
and that they can come through much clearer. And it's a little bit like
31:36
why a lot of people can have those spirit dreams or have those really vivid
31:41
dreams, because Spirit can communicate with them because the body is at rest,
31:45
and they can tap in to the subconscious and to the mind and to your
31:51
soul. I've taught meditation for many years, and I have people who come
31:56
to me and say, I can't do that. I can't quiet my mind,
31:59
I don't have time to meditate. What do you say to people who
32:00
give you stories like that? I love that challenge. I do like a
32:06
challenge. So I run a meditation group as well, and some of the
32:12
people that come to my group to start with find it really difficult to switch
32:17
off. So I always start with a breathing exercise. So we always do
32:22
that breath work where we just feel the flow of the breath in through the
32:27
nose, out of the mouth, relaxing the body, and just by listening
32:31
and being guided by the voice and following that trail of our breath can take
32:38
us already into that zone of pushing everything out because that's not important. And
32:45
then when their mind has begun to still using the breath, then you can
32:51
either continue with a guided meditation or learn. And it is something we have
32:54
to develop. And it's really interesting because you know, sometimes I run my
32:59
class is for six weeks and at the beginning they're twitching and they're fussing,
33:04
and they're you know, they can't concentrate, and then by the end I've
33:07
practically got them asleep, you know, because your body. You have to
33:09
train your body to do that. But I think it's very important that we
33:14
give ourselves that time off. And if we're not good at sitting still,
33:17
and if we're not very good at you know, putting on a piece of
33:22
music and just sitting there and listening to it, Go for a walk outside,
33:27
just go into nature. Sometimes a lot of my spirit communication comes when
33:31
I'm cooking, because the spirit world know that I just go off. So
33:36
when we do things that we are we don't have to think about. It's
33:40
a little bit like daydreaming. And I think that's probably why I was a
33:44
bit like that as a child away with the fairies, because when your mind
33:49
just allowed, when you just allow yourself to come and just drift, then
33:52
the spirit world can can come in. So mindfulness or meditation doesn't have to
33:57
be sitting here and char It can just be using the breath. It can
34:02
be putting on a piece of music. It could just be for me,
34:06
it was like holding crystals and just turning them around and observing them, you
34:10
know, in my hands, to doing the things that enjoy, cooking,
34:15
gardening, going for nice long walk, or even just swiming in the sea.
34:20
It's a question of presents, isn't it Just being present with whatever the
34:22
activity you're doing is. Yeah, definitely just And I always say it just
34:29
brings you back to yourself, centering yourself and bring you back to you the
34:34
here and the now. Absolutely now, how may we differentiate communication with the
34:39
spirits of those who have departed and the angelic realm Ah. I love that
34:46
question. So for me, I used to spend a long time on this,
34:52
and I used to ask my guides to come in and give me that
34:58
feeling so that I would know who I was connecting with. So I spent
35:01
a lot of time with my loved ones, right, you know, how
35:05
are you going to make me feel? So when my dad comes in,
35:07
you know, my heart starts racing, when my ground when my grandfathers come
35:15
in, I might get an image in my mind. Spirit for me feel
35:22
a little bit more, they feel how do I explain this, not closer.
35:29
They feel a little bit more grounded, They feel a little bit more
35:31
kind of Oh, here you are, you've turned up. The angelic grounds
35:36
feel to me like a whole out of love, encompassing love that surrounds me
35:42
completely. And my whole energy really lifts as the vibration around me rises.
35:49
So there's that sense of I can feel my loved ones or the spirit world.
35:53
I can feel their energies as they were as people down here when they're
35:58
on the earth plane. But Jelly, it's and I always feel as if
36:01
I have to sit really tall when the angels come, because they've got really
36:05
tall, powerful energy, but such a loving, such a gentle energy,
36:09
and they talk differently. So spirits or loved ones, guides and angels all
36:16
have a different way of talking. And this is my experience, this is
36:21
how I've differentiated it. So the spirit world would often talk as they were,
36:25
and they would bring through those lovely stories and those feelings and their personalities
36:30
and their characters and their passing conditions. Guides are very direct, very direct,
36:37
and it's kind of like we're just going to get straight to the point.
36:38
And it feels like, you know, I talk really fast when I'm
36:42
talking with guides and the angels, as I say, just bring that beautiful,
36:45
loving, healing reassurance as they communicate. Do we have a choice as
36:52
to who or who manifests as our spirit guide. I believe our spirit GUIDs
37:00
are souls that we've what the earth was, so spirit guides, unlike the
37:07
angels, guides have lived on the earth before, and I feel that we've
37:10
got that karmic link with them, and we have that we have that connection
37:20
where we have made that agreement that we are either going to help or support
37:25
or teach. So I feel that within our past lives, and this is
37:29
again, this is my understanding. What my guys have told me is that
37:32
sometimes we'll have different roles. So you know, I may have been their
37:36
guides before them, they're this time around, they've chosen to be my guides.
37:40
But they know my blueprint, they know what my mission is, what
37:44
my purpose is, what I'm supposed to be doing, and they're the ones
37:47
that help me along the way, guiding me and putting me into the right
37:53
places, the right situations, meeting the right people. They can engineer and
37:59
we all of that magically, I think, and I think they are very
38:04
much aligned to my energy, so they would have that understanding of who I
38:07
am, so a little bit like why we choose our friends. They get
38:12
us, don't they They understand us, and that's why we energetically connect and
38:17
recognize them when they come in. And I feel we have guides for different
38:22
reasons as well, So you would have healing guides, learning guides, teaching
38:24
guides. I've had situations where voices have come to me inside, not my
38:31
voice, but voices inside and have given me guidance at times of great import
38:39
advised me when someone in my family who is many, many thousands of miles
38:43
away was ill, advised me to do certain practices on myself to promote healing,
38:49
etc. And I find that those voices are both very direct, but
38:53
they're also very calm and loving rather than a shouting voice. How do we
38:58
differentiate between the shot voice, which I believe is ego and that calm,
39:02
still voice that gives us that guidance and loving affirmation. Yeah, well,
39:07
I think I think the ego voice is a lot of the time our fears
39:14
it comes, you know, these are the things that we dread and put
39:17
us out of our comfort zones. And and my understanding is that our guides,
39:23
whether they are loved ones, guides or angels, are here for our
39:28
highest good and they are they're lovingly helping us move forward, whereas the ego
39:35
is us not wanting to make those changes, or resisting those changes, or
39:39
scared to make those changes. And again, that's we have to a lot
39:44
of the time when I'm working and when I'm teaching spiritually, I'm saying,
39:46
we have to shift ourselves from that ego self. We have to let that
39:51
go so that we can listen to the direct line really and allow that to
39:57
come through. But I definitely feel exactly as you've said, our guides and
40:00
loved ones and angels are much more encouraging and supportive and more gentle than the
40:07
shouting ego of fear. Our listeners are familiar with the words describing how we
40:13
make sense, energy and spirit, including clairvoyance, Claire audience, Clare sentience.
40:17
How may readers find their specific way of sensing and develop it? I
40:24
feel that this is a lot of this is to do with this is a
40:28
good question, and there is a question that I pick up a lot in
40:30
my teaching. You know which ones are our strongest, Claire's, and it's
40:36
usually with how we are in our characters. So if you're a very visual
40:40
person, if you like art and you like to do things with your eyes
40:45
then and you know, like color and things like that, then you're going
40:49
to be and you're very good at imagination, you know, creativity, that
40:53
kind of thing, then you're going to be drawn with your clairvoyance. If
40:58
you pick up energy and you're an EmPATH and you feel things, you're going
41:01
to pick things up Claire sentiently. And then the other ones work in marvelous
41:08
ways, because you know, if you're communicator, you're going to be listening,
41:12
you're going to be hearing. But the one that is the hardest is
41:15
that Claire knowing, where you just know and you don't know how you know.
41:22
That's the hardest one to accept. That's the one that most people think
41:25
I'm making up. Because your body can see things, it can feel things,
41:30
it can smell things, it can hear things. But the knowing takes
41:34
that leap of faith. It's strange. I did not know there's a thing
41:37
called some people have clear old facts where they smell things and get information from
41:43
that. Yes, so I've done readings before where I mean, okay,
41:51
I've done readings before where I've smelt things like apple pie, or I've smelt
41:54
food, which is quite interested. It makes you quite But also going back
42:01
to when I was having my children, my children were young, and they
42:05
were up in the night and I was feeding them in the middle of the
42:07
night. I'm not a smoker, my husband wasn't. We didn't have any
42:10
smoking in the house, and it would be in the middle of the night
42:14
and I would get this waft of cigarettes, always, this waft of cigarettes,
42:19
and I knew that it was my grandfather, my maternal grandfather, around
42:22
me because he was such a heavy smoker. And you know, I'd look
42:25
out the window and there was nobody on the streets, and the windows were,
42:29
you know, nevitably closed because it was nighttime. But yes, you
42:31
can pick up that sense of smell and you can determine who is around you.
42:37
It's quite an interesting one. You can also get the taste of things
42:38
as well. Absolutely. You know, it's funny. I kid people by
42:43
saying that I'm clairvoyant, Clare, audient, Clare Cynthia, and I have
42:45
all the clears. I call myself an A Claire. My guest is Alison
42:52
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My guest this week is Allison Gray. Were talking about her new book The
44:52
Mindful Medium, A Practical Guide to Spirituality. Allison, what do you see
44:59
as the diffference between spirituality and spiritualism? So? I think spirituality is who
45:07
we are and how we're made up, and what our beliefs are core beliefs,
45:15
and what we are guided to, how we hold ourselves and how express
45:21
ourselves. I feel that, you know, we can have Christianity spiritual You
45:24
know these are I suppose that their organizations that tell us how to how to
45:30
be or how to do things. Whereas I feel that if you're spiritual,
45:36
it comes from within and it's who you are as that person, rather than
45:40
being told how to be something or what we should and what we shouldn't be
45:45
doing, which I feel sometimes organized sometimes organized religions can be a little bit
45:52
like that, So I think, you know, if you're a spiritual person,
45:55
it comes from within you and compassion in that love. You know.
46:01
One of the things that I learned when I attended the New Seminary, the
46:06
Interfaith Seminary in the nineteen nineties is that in virtually every faith and belief system
46:13
there is an iteration of the Golden rule, doing to others as you'd have
46:15
them doing to you, Love thy neighbor as thyself. If everyone practice those
46:21
two tenets and just disregard to everything else, what a world we would have.
46:27
Absolutely. I remember having that written on a plate as I was a
46:30
child and always ask my mum, well what does that mean? She said,
46:36
you know, treat other people how you would like to be treated yourself.
46:40
It seems basic, doesn't it, But it's so important. Absolutely.
46:45
Please share with our listeners how they may use some of the divination tools that
46:50
you share in your book, including cards and crystals. I wrote the meanings
46:57
of some of these, So let's just go with the tara because I feel
47:01
that, you know, you need to have a basic understanding if you're going
47:04
to be using them for divination. So if you're going to be using them
47:07
to look into other people's lives, what's going on around them. You need
47:13
to have a little understanding on what their meaning is. And you know,
47:17
there'd be loads and loads of books mine included, where they would tell you
47:21
a brief meaning, but actually what you're doing the same with crystals. You
47:25
know, people will write various lots and lots of books that this is what
47:29
the crystal means. And but for me, the way I teach and the
47:32
way that I've learned how to work is that we all have a different opinion
47:38
and it all has to resonate with what we believe. So what my feelings
47:45
are at crystal means what that terror card means would be very different from somebody
47:50
else. So we all have different interpretations. So I always use them as
47:54
a tool and as a guide and ask that we tap into the energy and
48:00
also like make up our own it's like our own vocabulary, it's our symbolism
48:07
and what that actually means to me. So we were talking a little bit
48:12
in the break about you know the rings in your poem, and the rings
48:16
would mean something different to you than they would for me. So you know,
48:21
by all means, look a look at the books, look at the
48:22
tips, but generally feel them intuitively, and I feel that is my message
48:30
in my book. You know, these these these are all basic understandings so
48:36
that you can put it together. But my real teaching and my real advice
48:39
is feel it yourself. Listen to what your intuition is saying, Listen to
48:43
the guides, listen to the loved ones and how what they're trying to express.
48:49
But I feel that, you know, the taro and picking up crystals
48:52
are very powerful. They're very powerful tools, and they can give a lot
48:57
of insight into the energy and what's going on around other people. So for
49:01
me, I carry my tarot cards with me everywhere. I love them.
49:05
They're like best friends, you know, and they're always gat they're always a
49:08
great talking point. But again they're tools. And actually when you're open to
49:16
the energy of spirit, that's the pure. For me, that's the pure,
49:21
the pure voice that's coming in. And I find that that comes in
49:24
and without me even thinking about it, without me even connecting to my ego,
49:29
connecting to my own experiences, I just allow it to come out,
49:32
and that is the pure for me, the pure channel of mediumship and working
49:37
with the spirit world. In your work, what have you learned about the
49:42
afterlife and how may this be helpful to those grieving the loss of loved ones.
49:50
So when I was said, when I was ten and I lost my
49:52
grandfather, I was thrown into a massive panic of well, I'm never going
49:59
to see him again? And what is the point of life? And is
50:04
it just black? Where does the body? You know, where do we
50:07
go when we pass over? And as a ten year old, that created
50:12
a lot of fear within me. And it's taken me, you know,
50:16
to now to understand and to really believe that there is life after life,
50:22
that there is this We are eternal souls, and we have had many lives
50:29
before we've had this one, and there will be many lives afterwards, and
50:32
that our souls go on, and that we as we pass over into the
50:38
spirit world, whether you want to call that heaven or whatever you want to
50:42
call it, that there is you know, that love, that bond of
50:45
love that we have continues, and I believe that we grow and we continue
50:52
to grow, our souls continue to grow as we pass over. But the
50:57
wonderful thing about mediumship and connecting with our loved ones and proving that life goes
51:05
on if you like is through by having readings, you can pick up on
51:07
that personality. So if you know, if you're reading for somebody and you're
51:10
bringing through a loved one, you're able to give them enough information for them
51:15
to say, well, there must be something out there, because otherwise,
51:19
how do they know that about my loved one. I haven't shared any of
51:23
this because it's quite recent, but I lost I lost my husband a year
51:27
ago through through through cancer, and he always believed in everything that I did,
51:37
but he didn't always have the understanding of the spirit world. And through
51:45
his treatment and through his through the time that he had, he really grew
51:51
to understand what it meant or what I was telling him all these years that
51:57
I was doing and taking on that he and learning about the other side.
52:01
And actually, by the time it came around that when he was passing,
52:06
he was ready to go because there was no fear there because he knew that
52:09
there was something else afterwards. And I think it's important if we can to
52:16
have that understanding, because it takes away the fear that you know, it's
52:22
just this is just one life and everything it stops, because it doesn't it
52:25
continues. And I think mediumship gives us that evidence that life continues, in
52:31
that there is that existence earthly body has passed over. Have you shared this
52:38
with your sons? I have, I have. I've got four boys.
52:45
One of them is an atheist. He doesn't believe in it at all,
52:49
But he's the one I feel that struggles the most. My other children,
52:52
the other three have all had experiences with their father, so they do have
52:58
that understanding. I mean, I know what I do, but they've had
53:02
that understanding, so you know, they've had that connection. So they may
53:07
not completely understand it to the level that maybe I do, but at least
53:10
they know that there's something. You know, their dad hasn't just left,
53:15
you know, he's gone somewhere else, but he's still available and he's still
53:19
around, and that love continues. How may we open and heal our heart
53:24
chakras in a world so filled with fear and divisiveness. So I think we
53:32
need to look around us to see the love actually that is around us.
53:37
So we do focus on the negatives. We hear a lot of the negatives,
53:43
but actually act of kindness from other people, the compassion and the love
53:49
that actually that we are shown. That I was shown when my husband was
53:52
ill that I've always been shown. Really, I think, you know,
53:55
if we look past the fear, I can look to the small acts of
54:01
kindness. So like you know, when we had COVID and people reached out
54:06
to other people. There are so many compassionate, loving people out there that
54:13
we forget with all the wars and all the troubles in the world, that
54:16
actually we do pull together. And I think focusing on our heart chakras and
54:22
encouraging them to be open, encouraging those positive feelings and not just having them
54:30
ourselves, but by sharing them with others. I think that's really important in
54:36
opening and keeping our heart chakras shining and spinning absolutely basic acts of empathy,
54:44
compassion and kindness we feel and change our world. Yeah, you know,
54:51
just by somebody giving you a bunch of flowers, or just by picking up
54:57
the phone and asking how's your day. My sons do that to me.
55:00
They come in from school and how you doing, mom, how's your day
55:02
been? And I'm like, oh, they're interested that, you know,
55:07
because I've asked them that. So it has a knock on effect. So
55:13
they they learn. You know, you learn and you grow, and if
55:15
you're in that environment that is loving and caring, and people have done that
55:20
to you, you're more more open to doing those for other people. And
55:23
I think that's what we need to share in the world. So again it
55:27
goes back to what you were saying, you know, do what you know,
55:30
what you want to receive, do it for others as well. The
55:35
wisdom and experience of my guest Alison Gray. Her book is entitled The Mindful
55:39
Medium, A Practical Guide to Spirituality. Allison, one more time, please
55:45
share with our listeners whether it can get your book and find out more about
55:47
you. Yeah, thank you so Amazon and Collective Book sixth Books, so
55:53
Collective Books. But you can find in my website Alison Gray Medium, The
55:59
Mindful and you can find me on Facebook, and you can find me in
56:05
Spiritual Insights, and you can find me on Instagram. Allison, thank you
56:09
so much for joining us and sharing your experience and your wisdom and your great
56:14
heart. Thank you so much. Thank you for having me. Thank you
56:17
and thank you for joining us on Destination Unlimited. I'm Victor, the voice
56:22
Herman of a Wonderful week