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Why Just Getting It Done Will Leave You With Less Stress · Get Real Rae... Real Business & Life Advice

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Speaker: Is this how I'm showing up?
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Speaker: I can do better, right?
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Speaker: Really?
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Speaker: Hello, what's up?
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Speaker: This is Rae!
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Speaker: With you, Rae, I'll play some things for
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Speaker: life.
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Speaker: And this is tips from this creative soul
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Speaker: to hopefully inspire you on your journey or
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Speaker: at the very least remind you with some
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Speaker: laughs.
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Speaker: And so today we are going to talk
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Speaker: about how we show up.
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Speaker: Oh yeah, let's get real.
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Speaker: Craving real advice.
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Speaker: Tired of feeling like every other small business
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Speaker: owner or solopreneur is raking in the dough
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Speaker: while you just seem to be raking, secretly
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Speaker: looking for a reminder that starting your own
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Speaker: business is not as glamorous as others make
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Speaker: it look.
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Speaker: Whether you're looking to change the game in
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Speaker: your relationships at home or at the workplace,
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Speaker: you've come to the right place.
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Speaker: My name is Rae.
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Speaker: I went from corporate America to running my
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Speaker: own small business to becoming a solopreneur.
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Speaker: I'm a professional actor and dare we say
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Speaker: a professional busybody because this body is about
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Speaker: to be busy all up in your biz.
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Speaker: So let's get real.
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Speaker: All right, so I was looking through my
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Speaker: videos because I needed to, I was like,
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Speaker: you know what?
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Speaker: I don't have any video footage on my
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Speaker: acting profiles and this is ridiculous.
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Speaker: I've been an actor for a ridiculous number
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Speaker: of years.
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Speaker: I have done things on screen.
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Speaker: I have done things on stage.
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Speaker: I am proud of my work.
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Speaker: I don't suck and yet I've got nothing
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Speaker: out there to at least make me look
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Speaker: like I've done something.
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Speaker: I haven't done any like major things but
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Speaker: I have skills and no one's seen this
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Speaker: and I know, I've known for years that
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Speaker: having video on your actor profile is a
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Speaker: must.
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Speaker: Why don't I have video?
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Speaker: And it used to be in the world
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Speaker: of acting, if you're like, Rae, I'm not
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Speaker: an actor.
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Speaker: Okay, hold up, hold up.
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Speaker: I didn't say you have to be an
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Speaker: actor.
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Speaker: You know, you know I get there.
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Speaker: It just takes a little while but that's
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Speaker: why I like these videos.
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Speaker: I mean, I kind of like these videos.
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Speaker: Okay, so I love editing things and creating
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Speaker: these beautifully edited masterpieces and I love watching
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Speaker: well edited videos.
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Speaker: You know, where there's like the closeup shot
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Speaker: and just the music and the lighting and
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Speaker: the soft tone.
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Speaker: And so as I make my practice, I
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Speaker: try to remind myself that it's okay to
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Speaker: be tired in the morning and that it's
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Speaker: okay to have a cup of tea.
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Speaker: Like I like watching those videos.
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Speaker: They make me feel relaxed and I also
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Speaker: kind of like learning about different camera angles
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Speaker: and stuff too.
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Speaker: I think that's so cool but I'm a
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Speaker: busy girl and so when I have this
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Speaker: pressure on myself to make another really well
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Speaker: done edited video, just keep trying those out
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Speaker: and try to make one at least once
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Speaker: a week.
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Speaker: It just wasn't happening.
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Speaker: It was not happening and then the hard
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Speaker: drive was over full and over full.
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Speaker: The hard drive was full and then that
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Speaker: computer crashed and then I was trying to
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Speaker: like recover files and then there's the whole
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Speaker: thing, right?
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Speaker: Then the hard drive wasn't readable anymore.
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Speaker: Oh my God, that's gracious.
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Speaker: And so I already have so much on
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Speaker: the to-do list.
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Speaker: I finally had to say, you know what?
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Speaker: This needs the get it done rule and
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Speaker: so tip number one today, party people.
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Speaker: Get it done.
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Speaker: Have a get it done rule in your
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Speaker: life.
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Speaker: Maybe apply like a three second rule to
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Speaker: the get it done rule or three step
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Speaker: rule.
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Speaker: I don't know why three came in there.
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Speaker: The holy trinity.
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Speaker: I don't know, three just seems like a
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Speaker: good number but you don't want like 10
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Speaker: seconds or 10 steps before the get it
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Speaker: done rule applies.
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Speaker: So I'm working out my get it done
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Speaker: rule as we're talking or as I'm yammering
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Speaker: but hopefully you're talking too.
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Speaker: You're like, yeah, how can I do a
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Speaker: get it done rule, son?
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Speaker: Okay, so I'm thinking if I need some
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Speaker: kind of outline like if it has been
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Speaker: more than one day or if I've thought
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Speaker: about it, let's see, if I've tried to,
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Speaker: if I've touched it three times and it
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Speaker: has been at least touched it three times,
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Speaker: been, touched it three times, been more than
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Speaker: two days, touched it three times in more
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Speaker: than one day and I need something with
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Speaker: two.
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Speaker: I need something with two.
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Speaker: I'll figure it out, right?
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Speaker: But whatever it is, if I've touched it
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Speaker: at least three times so I've made some
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Speaker: sort of attempt on it, if it's appeared
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Speaker: in my journal twice so I've made an
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Speaker: attempt, it's appeared in my journal twice and
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Speaker: it's been at least a day then I
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Speaker: just need to be like, you know what,
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Speaker: I just gotta get it done.
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Speaker: Okay, so with this kind of new frame
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Speaker: that I just came up with, let's see
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Speaker: if I can apply this, all right?
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Speaker: So one of the things that I know
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Speaker: I need to do today is to finish
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Speaker: this website project, okay?
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Speaker: So if it's appeared in my evening journal
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Speaker: because I try to journal out some of
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Speaker: the things that happen in my day so
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Speaker: that the feeling of, oh yeah, I gotta
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Speaker: finish that.
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Speaker: If the feeling has appeared at least three
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Speaker: times and I've, no, I've touched, I've tried.
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Speaker: I've worked on this project at least three
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Speaker: times.
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Speaker: I've, it's appeared in my journal two times
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Speaker: and it's due in a day or it's
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Speaker: been at least a day then I just
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Speaker: gotta say, you know what, it's not gonna
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Speaker: be perfect.
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Speaker: I'm just gonna get it done in whatever
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Speaker: version it's gonna happen and that's what's gonna
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Speaker: happen, okay?
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Speaker: Lately, I've been kind of waiting until the
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Speaker: day certain things are due to do them.
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Speaker: It's partly been this kind of like, I
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Speaker: want to have a day off.
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Speaker: I want my weekend back.
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Speaker: So that's definitely been a thing for me.
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Speaker: But in order to stop that bratty kid
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Speaker: inside of me, I need to also take
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Speaker: a moment to re-look at my schedule
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Speaker: and to re-look at how, why am
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Speaker: I being a brat?
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Speaker: Because I feel like I've lost control, right?
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Speaker: Did I wanna own my own business so
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Speaker: I could have control, could be in control?
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Speaker: And so I'm looking at my schedule and
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Speaker: I'm seeing slowly this creep of, oh, how
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Speaker: did I go to work in seven days
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Speaker: a week again?
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Speaker: No, I don't wanna do that.
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Speaker: I don't wanna do that.
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Speaker: And for a while, like Sunday was supposed
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Speaker: to be my day off, but it really
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Speaker: just became a day of getting stuff done
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Speaker: for the rest of the week or feeling
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Speaker: guilty about not getting stuff done for the
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Speaker: rest of the week or being part of
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Speaker: the day that I spent traveling because I
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Speaker: was traveling all weekend for work.
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Speaker: Okay, so I'm working to reclaim my weekends.
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Speaker: This year, I actually looked at my schedule
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Speaker: and I wanna give myself Saturday and Sunday
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Speaker: off.
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Speaker: And part of me says, well, how are
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Speaker: you gonna do that?
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Speaker: Because you make good money on the weekends.
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Speaker: And when I looked at the last couple
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Speaker: of months, I'm like, actually, the money I
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Speaker: make on the weekends is really nothing better
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Speaker: than during the week.
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Speaker: So maybe I need to figure out how
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Speaker: to make the week more happening so that
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Speaker: I don't miss this weekend money.
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Speaker: Because I would like some time to not
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Speaker: think about my work all the time and
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Speaker: to feel balanced and to feel in control.
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Speaker: I've got control issues, apparently.
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Speaker: So I'm applying some kind of role, applying
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Speaker: some kind of role in order to allow
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Speaker: oneself to say, it's okay that this is
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Speaker: not perfect and it's time to get this
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Speaker: done.
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Speaker: I think that is key.
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Speaker: A lot of times, the get it done
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Speaker: version is good enough.
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Speaker: Now, I'm also a fan of the do
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Speaker: it right the first time so you don't
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Speaker: have to go back and do it again.
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Speaker: But if nothing's getting done because you're looking
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Speaker: for perfection constantly on that first round, then
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Speaker: you're not exactly improving your situation either.
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Speaker: So with these YouTube videos, this kind of
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Speaker: like talking to camera version is part of
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Speaker: my get it done.
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Speaker: And so that's a large part of why
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Speaker: I want to do these videos is, yes,
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Speaker: I love something that is more visually interesting
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Speaker: and edited and can just really show like
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Speaker: me outdoors and indoors and just all the
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Speaker: wackiness that is my life.
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Speaker: But at the end of the day, if
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Speaker: I don't have the time to edit those
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Speaker: videos, I gotta change my plan because I'm
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Speaker: not doing myself any favors, right?
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Speaker: I'm not building the viewership or videos in
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Speaker: the way that I want.
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Speaker: Why did I want to make videos in
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Speaker: the first place?
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Speaker: Well, one reason was because I felt like
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Speaker: I've lived a life, I've done a lot
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Speaker: of things, and I have business knowledge and
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Speaker: some life knowledge too that might help others,
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Speaker: right?
9:26
Speaker: Part of the reason why my business, one
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Speaker: of my businesses has a mentoring program is
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Speaker: because we wanna help young people who are
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Speaker: interested in learning.
9:34
Speaker: That's it.
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Speaker: And hey, if you're interested in learning, sure,
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Speaker: we'll help you.
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Speaker: We wanna work with you.
9:38
Speaker: Absolutely.
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Speaker: If you're not interested in learning, I don't
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Speaker: wanna force on you.
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Speaker: So what can I say, right?
9:46
Speaker: And I think YouTube is a really interesting
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Speaker: space for that is people who are interested
9:50
Speaker: in learning, go to YouTube to learn things.
9:53
Speaker: And I'm like, well, this is a nice
9:54
Speaker: way to just, it's not taking more time
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Speaker: out of my day per se in the
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Speaker: sense that I don't have to get on
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Speaker: in my car or on a bus and
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Speaker: travel a long distance in order to help
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Speaker: some people, right?
10:10
Speaker: And people don't have to pay for it.
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Speaker: So that's nice for them.
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Speaker: And I can reach a larger group of
10:16
Speaker: people if I remember just to show up.
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Speaker: I gotta do my part.
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Speaker: I gotta show up and share what I
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Speaker: know.
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Speaker: If I don't do my part, if I
10:24
Speaker: don't show up that I'm not helping anybody
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Speaker: and my failures, my mistakes, these things that
10:31
Speaker: I know that someone else can learn from,
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Speaker: they're not gonna know it because I didn't
10:38
Speaker: do my part, didn't show up.
10:41
Speaker: And it just, the idea of it has
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Speaker: to be a video, a good video has
10:52
Speaker: to be, it has to look like this.
10:54
Speaker: A good website has to look like this.
10:57
Speaker: A good career path in your job has
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Speaker: to look like this.
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Speaker: That was holding me back because every time
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Speaker: I didn't reach the goal of what it
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Speaker: has to look like or achieve what it
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Speaker: has to look like, every time I didn't
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Speaker: make that a priority, things just weren't getting
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Speaker: done.
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Speaker: And this kind of goes across many areas
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Speaker: of my life and maybe it does for
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Speaker: your life too, right?
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Speaker: What are some areas of your life where
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Speaker: you have been working on something, it's not
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Speaker: quite where you want it to be and
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Speaker: you haven't finished it.
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Speaker: You're not really getting it done.
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Speaker: You're not putting yourself out there.
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Speaker: Can you make the change?
11:39
Speaker: One of my Cambly friends, so I've talked
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Speaker: about Cambly before.
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Speaker: It's this online platform where one can say,
11:47
Speaker: I will help tutor people in English and
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Speaker: you can use their Cambly lessons or you
11:52
Speaker: can have conversations with people.
11:53
Speaker: I love the Cambly.
11:55
Speaker: I think it's so fun.
11:56
Speaker: I actually met a woman in a job.
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Speaker: I was doing a job interview and one
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Speaker: of the interviewees was someone who worked for
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Speaker: Cambly and that was like her full-time
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Speaker: income but she was also not living in
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Speaker: the US at the time.
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Speaker: She would think she was in India.
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Speaker: She was a US citizen living in India.
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Speaker: I don't even know how long she was
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Speaker: living there for.
12:26
Speaker: I wound up having to kind of withdraw
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Speaker: the work offer because she wasn't honest about
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Speaker: some things up front.
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Speaker: Like the fact that my job posting said,
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Speaker: you need to be living in the US
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Speaker: and be able to do these times and
12:43
Speaker: she said, yes, I can.
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Speaker: And then after all the paperwork and whatnot,
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Speaker: it comes out that she's actually living in
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Speaker: India and she's not available for any of
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Speaker: the times that we need.
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Speaker: She's like, oh yeah, I can work from
12:58
Speaker: midnight your time zone to like 5 a
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Speaker: .m. So that's not what we said we
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Speaker: were looking for.
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Speaker: Like you want students who are available in
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Speaker: Asia time zone which is great, but that's
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Speaker: not what we're offering.
13:13
Speaker: That's not what we're offering, lady.
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Speaker: Like I just, yeah.
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Speaker: When people say, this is my thing.
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Speaker: When someone says, I appreciate you, that for
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Speaker: me, it is the red flag.
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Speaker: I know it's the thing to say.
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Speaker: I know it's a thing to say, but
13:34
Speaker: every time someone has said that to me,
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Speaker: I appreciate you.
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Speaker: That person has turned around and done something
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Speaker: evil or destructive every single time.
13:51
Speaker: The lady who tried to be a squatter
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Speaker: when I was renting a room out to
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Speaker: her, I was renting a bed out to
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Speaker: her and she called the cops because I
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Speaker: told her she had to leave because she
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Speaker: was insisting on like staying in other people's
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Speaker: beds and just doing all kinds of crazy
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Speaker: stuff.
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Speaker: She called the cops and I had to,
14:14
Speaker: it was this whole crazy thing.
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Speaker: I just don't even wanna get into it.
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Speaker: And being threatened of being arrested because I
14:23
Speaker: had said, I'm gonna have to change the
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Speaker: locks.
14:27
Speaker: And they're like, if you change the locks,
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Speaker: we're gonna arrest you.
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Speaker: And I was like, what?
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Speaker: I'm the lease holder here.
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Speaker: What is going on?
14:34
Speaker: But she, thank you, NYPD.
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Speaker: Thankfully, she took her money and left and
14:43
Speaker: I never saw her again.
14:44
Speaker: But that was probably, that was one of
14:47
Speaker: the worst moments of my life.
14:48
Speaker: And that's a moment where I said, I've
14:51
Speaker: lost faith in the police system of this
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Speaker: city.
14:57
Speaker: Cause I really thought, I was like, what?
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Speaker: I thought I was gonna be arrested.
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Speaker: And I actually called the precinct to check
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Speaker: if I could change the locks.
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Speaker: And I was told that I could.
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Speaker: So when this police officer shows up and
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Speaker: says, you can't change the locks.
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Speaker: If you do, I'm gonna arrest you right
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Speaker: now.
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Speaker: That was not fun.
15:18
Speaker: That was not fun.
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Speaker: And I'm thinking, I'm not looking for trouble.
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Speaker: What is going on here?
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Speaker: And so craziness.
15:35
Speaker: But that is in the past.
15:37
Speaker: That is in the past.
15:38
Speaker: And so she was the first person who
15:42
Speaker: ever said to me, I appreciate you.
15:45
Speaker: And then, you know, like four days later
15:48
Speaker: or something like that, the cops are called
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Speaker: to my home to threaten me basically.
15:56
Speaker: So yeah, she was evil and crazy.
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Speaker: And I'm just saying, watch out for people
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Speaker: who say that phrase.
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Speaker: Don't say that phrase.
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Speaker: I don't know.
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Speaker: I don't know.
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Speaker: Or maybe it's just like people I meet
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Speaker: who say that phrase are just pure evil.
16:18
Speaker: Now, perfection.
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Speaker: Yes, yes, yes, yes.
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Speaker: You don't wanna have to go back and
16:27
Speaker: redo something.
16:28
Speaker: But at the end of the day, you
16:29
Speaker: gotta get it done.
16:30
Speaker: Because if we're still delayed, we will never
16:36
Speaker: get that out there.
16:40
Speaker: Whatever it is, right?
16:45
Speaker: My businesses are designed to help people.
16:48
Speaker: I want to help people.
16:51
Speaker: If, oh gosh, McDonald's like waited until they
17:00
Speaker: had the idea of the Big Mac before
17:02
Speaker: actually ever selling a burger, they would never
17:06
Speaker: have gotten off the ground, right?
17:09
Speaker: Or just would have taken them longer.
17:10
Speaker: So sometimes you gotta make the leap.
17:12
Speaker: There's this really interesting podcast where the creators
17:18
Speaker: pick a moment in time and then they
17:20
Speaker: kind of go back and do like a
17:22
Speaker: deep dive into that moment in time.
17:24
Speaker: And so they picked this year.
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Speaker: I forget what year it was.
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Speaker: But one episode was about the first Pizza
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Speaker: Hut in, I wanna say in Russia.
17:38
Speaker: Was it Pizza Hut in Russia?
17:40
Speaker: Yes, it was Pizza Hut in, wait, or
17:42
Speaker: was it Germany?
17:44
Speaker: Hmm, now I'm thinking about like walls coming
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Speaker: down.
17:48
Speaker: All right, so it was a European Pizza
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Speaker: Hut.
17:52
Speaker: But I thought he mentioned Gorbachev.
17:54
Speaker: Okay, so we're going to say Russian Pizza
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Speaker: Hut.
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Speaker: And the hurdles that had to be overcome
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Speaker: in order to make this happen.
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Speaker: And it finally did happen.
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Speaker: And it was great and everything was working.
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Speaker: And then things beyond the franchise owner and
18:22
Speaker: the corporate's control.
18:24
Speaker: Basically things beyond corporate's control led to having
18:28
Speaker: to close the restaurant.
18:31
Speaker: So it worked really well for a number
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Speaker: of years.
18:34
Speaker: And then they had to shut it down.
18:37
Speaker: And that's kind of like, I guess, right?
18:39
Speaker: Sometimes we do the thing to get it
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Speaker: done.
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Speaker: And we put it out there and it's
18:48
Speaker: rocking and rolling.
18:49
Speaker: And then things beyond our control, we have
18:52
Speaker: to shut it down or change it.
18:54
Speaker: And that's life.
18:55
Speaker: Life has changed.
18:57
Speaker: Life is not stand still.
18:58
Speaker: It's gonna be the same way every day.
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Speaker: Sometimes it may feel like the McDonald's burger
19:05
Speaker: never changes.
19:06
Speaker: Or it may feel like the job you
19:09
Speaker: go to every day never changes, but life
19:13
Speaker: has changed.
19:13
Speaker: You are always changing.
19:15
Speaker: The things around you are always changing.
19:16
Speaker: The businesses you're involved in are always changing.
19:18
Speaker: Friendships are always changing.
19:19
Speaker: Change is a part of life.
19:21
Speaker: It is normal.
19:22
Speaker: The leaves outside are changing or the sand
19:25
Speaker: is changing.
19:29
Speaker: So yeah, my videos are what they are
19:34
Speaker: because I just need to get them done.
19:36
Speaker: And I am gonna go back to the
19:39
Speaker: editing.
19:41
Speaker: I've made some time in my schedule to
19:43
Speaker: find a way to go back to that
19:44
Speaker: old finish.
19:45
Speaker: And to edit some stuff.
19:49
Speaker: And videos are not the only thing in
19:51
Speaker: my life where I'm like, I need to
19:52
Speaker: apply the get it done philosophy.
19:54
Speaker: My website, I need to just focus on
19:56
Speaker: getting it done.
19:58
Speaker: My career as an artist, I need to
20:01
Speaker: just focus on getting it done, getting it
20:04
Speaker: out there.
20:05
Speaker: So I started going through these videos.
20:07
Speaker: I found some video clips where I looked
20:11
Speaker: at myself going, oh my God, I always
20:15
Speaker: tell my students, try, rehearse, do your best.
20:18
Speaker: Come on, you can do this.
20:20
Speaker: I'm always pushing my students to do their
20:22
Speaker: best.
20:23
Speaker: And the video that I can find is
20:26
Speaker: not me at my best.
20:29
Speaker: It's doable.
20:31
Speaker: It's presentable.
20:33
Speaker: But this isn't me at my best.
20:36
Speaker: And the thing that really bugs me is
20:38
Speaker: that there are projects that I participated in
20:42
Speaker: where I wasn't stressed out and I did
20:45
Speaker: excellent work.
20:47
Speaker: And those people never gave me back my
20:49
Speaker: footage.
20:50
Speaker: I got into it with one producer and
20:56
Speaker: I'm actually considering talking to a lawyer because
21:00
Speaker: I don't think that what they did was
21:04
Speaker: right.
21:05
Speaker: And then to say to me, you'll get
21:10
Speaker: it when you get it if we have
21:12
Speaker: anything to give you, I don't think it's
21:13
Speaker: okay.
21:18
Speaker: And then part of me says, eh, just
21:20
Speaker: put it on your IMDb and just move
21:22
Speaker: on.
21:23
Speaker: Like who the F cares, right?
21:25
Speaker: But there's also the principle of the matter.
21:27
Speaker: There's certain things that one shouldn't do.
21:29
Speaker: And when you look at different areas of
21:33
Speaker: the arts industry and how artists talk now
21:35
Speaker: about, yeah, you know, back in the day,
21:38
Speaker: as musicians, we used to just accept that
21:42
Speaker: this is the way things were done.
21:44
Speaker: But now we say, they really shouldn't have
21:47
Speaker: been like that.
21:48
Speaker: It's not okay to talk about, you know,
21:52
Speaker: 15 year olds virginity or it's not okay
21:55
Speaker: to give people contracts where they're making only
21:58
Speaker: one penny for every album that they sell
22:03
Speaker: or to offer a young person a million
22:06
Speaker: dollars upfront.
22:08
Speaker: But then say, you're gonna keep everything else,
22:13
Speaker: right?
22:13
Speaker: We gotta make sure we get our money
22:14
Speaker: back.
22:15
Speaker: By the way, you have to have, go
22:17
Speaker: tour all these things and take all these
22:19
Speaker: people with you.
22:20
Speaker: If we're taking the money for those people
22:22
Speaker: out of the money you make for being
22:27
Speaker: an athlete or being a musician, we're going
22:31
Speaker: to take the money as things go along.
22:35
Speaker: Even though now you're making millions and billions
22:38
Speaker: of dollars, the artist never sees it because
22:40
Speaker: the company says, oh no, we gotta pay
22:41
Speaker: for all these things, right?
22:43
Speaker: We insisted you had the best before now
22:44
Speaker: we have to make sure those are paid
22:46
Speaker: for.
22:54
Speaker: So there's just a number of areas where
22:59
Speaker: I feel like as an artist, as a
23:02
Speaker: business owner, as a woman, this should not
23:06
Speaker: be okay.
23:08
Speaker: And I need to speak up, but in
23:10
Speaker: speaking up, am I delaying myself from focusing
23:14
Speaker: on getting things done, just moving on?
23:18
Speaker: Is this the fight you fight?
23:19
Speaker: Is this the fight that you die on
23:22
Speaker: your sword for?
23:24
Speaker: Or do you just say, yeah, whatever, it
23:26
Speaker: is what it is, right?
23:28
Speaker: Cause I couldn't help someone else by fighting
23:29
Speaker: that fight or get me done, I don't
23:34
Speaker: know.
23:35
Speaker: But as you know, I need to get
23:36
Speaker: things done.
23:37
Speaker: I need to get more done and you
23:39
Speaker: probably should too.
23:40
Speaker: You're watching YouTube right now.
23:44
Speaker: No, I'm kind of kidding because I use
23:46
Speaker: YouTube for research all the time, all the
23:49
Speaker: time.
23:50
Speaker: And a lot of times I also find
23:52
Speaker: it inspirational.
23:54
Speaker: Like, ah, that is so cool.
23:56
Speaker: That person just overcame this obstacle.
24:02
Speaker: That is so cool.
24:03
Speaker: Or that person has a good organizational technique.
24:05
Speaker: I think I'll go try that, right?
24:07
Speaker: And so it prompts me to make a
24:09
Speaker: change.
24:10
Speaker: But I know that I also need to
24:16
Speaker: remind myself not to totally rely on external
24:21
Speaker: resources to get things done and not to
24:25
Speaker: use the research as an excuse to delay
24:29
Speaker: getting things done.
24:31
Speaker: So yeah, I gotta go edit some videos.
24:33
Speaker: I gotta go work on my taxes.
24:35
Speaker: I gotta go take a walk.
24:37
Speaker: I gotta go do things, drink a cup
24:38
Speaker: of water.
24:38
Speaker: Oh my goodness, the list is long.
24:40
Speaker: But it's gonna be fun.
24:41
Speaker: It's gonna, getting things done is gonna be
24:43
Speaker: fun.
24:43
Speaker: So figure out how are you gonna make
24:44
Speaker: it fun for yourself?
24:46
Speaker: How are you gonna make it fun for
24:47
Speaker: yourself to risk failing?
24:53
Speaker: It's something you gotta be comfortable with.
24:54
Speaker: It's not, oh, I might not, you might
24:56
Speaker: not love it.
24:58
Speaker: You're probably not gonna love it.
24:59
Speaker: Whatever it is that needs to get done,
25:00
Speaker: you're not gonna love it.
25:02
Speaker: That's okay.
25:02
Speaker: It's okay.
25:03
Speaker: So, all right.
25:05
Speaker: We don't love it, except that you don't
25:06
Speaker: love it.
25:07
Speaker: And then except that it's just gotta get
25:08
Speaker: done and it's gonna be what it's gonna
25:10
Speaker: be.
25:12
Speaker: And maybe, maybe we add to this process
25:15
Speaker: whether or not we're allowed to tweak it,
25:18
Speaker: touch it, or change it.
25:20
Speaker: But, oh, maybe that's the two.
25:23
Speaker: Okay, so you've touched it three times.
25:31
Speaker: It, I don't know, some kind of, now
25:35
Speaker: I was saying like within a day.
25:37
Speaker: Okay, you touch it three times, get it
25:39
Speaker: done within a day, and you have to
25:42
Speaker: wait two months before you're even allowed to
25:45
Speaker: think about it, touch it, change it again.
25:47
Speaker: I love it.
25:48
Speaker: I love it.
25:49
Speaker: Three, two, one.
25:51
Speaker: Three, one, two.
25:52
Speaker: I love it.
25:53
Speaker: Anyway, I love it, okay?
25:55
Speaker: Because this way it's gonna keep me from,
25:58
Speaker: oh, I just worked on that, but you
26:00
Speaker: know what?
26:00
Speaker: I just wanna change this one little thing
26:02
Speaker: because I'm like that, right?
26:03
Speaker: I just wanna fix this little thing.
26:05
Speaker: So, three, one, two.
26:09
Speaker: Three, two, one.
26:10
Speaker: One, two, three.
26:11
Speaker: One, two, three, let's get it done.
26:13
Speaker: Okay, my friend, I hope some of this
26:15
Speaker: was helpful.
26:16
Speaker: What did we learn today?
26:18
Speaker: What did we learn today, kids?
26:20
Speaker: We've learned don't trust somebody who says, I
26:24
Speaker: appreciate you, evil.
26:28
Speaker: We've learned that just because you call the
26:32
Speaker: police precinct when the cops show up at
26:35
Speaker: your house, they may have a different story.
26:38
Speaker: Just saying.
26:41
Speaker: We've learned that sometimes you just need to
26:45
Speaker: get it done.
26:46
Speaker: And you might be someone like me who
26:47
Speaker: has to put a policy in place and
26:49
Speaker: be like, okay, I cannot keep wasting energy,
26:52
Speaker: avoiding this or ignoring this or changing this
26:55
Speaker: just or waiting for perfection, doing the research.
26:58
Speaker: I just need to get it done and
27:01
Speaker: have a rule in place so that once
27:03
Speaker: it's done, it's done.
27:07
Speaker: You don't keep fiddling.
27:09
Speaker: All right, friends, this has been Rae with
27:11
Speaker: Get Real Rae and I hope you found
27:12
Speaker: a little of this helpful, inspirational.
27:15
Speaker: And until next time, peace.
27:19
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27:20
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27:22
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27:24
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27:26
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