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We Need Connection... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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Speaker 1: Okay, Greeting's friends after Show Army. Another new after show
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Speaker 1: podcast happens now. It is Tuesday, July twenty eighth. Yesterday
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Speaker 1: was the twenty seventh. I had mentioned it was Bex's birthday.
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Speaker 1: Bexsy used to work on this show. Happy to report
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Speaker 1: I did text her Happy birthday. We were talking last
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Speaker 1: night and wouldn't you know, she is coming to Boston,
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Speaker 1: I think in the beginning of September. And I extended
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Speaker 1: the invite to come on the show and hopefully the
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Speaker 1: after show podcast as well, to catch up on everything
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Speaker 1: that she's been up to. And she said, okay, she
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Speaker 1: doesn't have dates yet. Obviously she's bringing her whole family.
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Speaker 1: She has young children, but hopefully she'll come in and visit.
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Speaker 1: And wouldn't that be cool to have Beck's on the
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Speaker 1: after show podcast. That'd be nice you can find out
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Speaker 1: what she's been up to. She does have cousins that
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Speaker 1: live here. If you remember, if you're an OG member,
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Speaker 1: when she took the job here for the Maddie Show,
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Speaker 1: she had family in Methuin. You know, she has a
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Speaker 1: big Lebanese family, and so she would spend time with
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Speaker 1: her cousins. And then I was reminded. I actually forgot
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Speaker 1: about this. I never mentioned this when I joined my
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Speaker 1: gym drive custom fit up in Salem, New Hampshire. I
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Speaker 1: think I was in a yoga class and after the class,
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Speaker 1: some girl came up to me and she said she
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Speaker 1: was Bex's cousin. I don't remember her name, and PEX
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Speaker 1: was asking me which cousin was it. I guess she
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Speaker 1: has several I'm like, I don't remember her name. I
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Speaker 1: don't even know if she said her name. I think
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Speaker 1: she just said I'm Bex's cousin. Super nice, and yeah,
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Speaker 1: hopefully she'll she'll come in. Maybe we'll meet up and
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Speaker 1: get some Lebanese food. There's actually a spot in Methuen, Massachusetts,
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Speaker 1: near where I am in Salem called Yala that Ducks
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Speaker 1: put me onto that my wife and I go to.
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Speaker 1: We haven't been in a while, but that's a good spot.
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Speaker 1: It's right off four ninety five, and the Lebanese food
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Speaker 1: is delicious. I love hummus, and you know I love
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Speaker 1: all hummus, well most most hummus. I obviously cedars, that's
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Speaker 1: like Josiphs. Cedars is my favorite. But there's nothing like
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Speaker 1: some homemade hummus. You know, from like a restaurant, not
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Speaker 1: that like cedars isn't real hummus. It's it's good, it's real,
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Speaker 1: it's good. But I guess fresh hummus is well, I
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Speaker 1: should say, you know, you go to a restaurant, it's
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Speaker 1: made that day oh so so good. Okay. I mentioned
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Speaker 1: my wife started a new job yesterday. It went well.
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Speaker 1: I think it's just a training. You know, she has
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Speaker 1: to do a couple of days of training. Hr stuff,
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Speaker 1: you know, all that good stuff.
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Speaker 2: Hey, justin it's Lynn. I just wanted to say I
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Speaker 2: hope that Jen had a great first day yesterday. I'm
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Speaker 2: so happy she found something that she's enjoying. It may
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Speaker 2: not be for her forever job, but right now, hopefully
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Speaker 2: it makes her heart happy and she comes home with
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Speaker 2: a smile every day. That's all you can ask for.
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Speaker 2: All Right, have a great day, great podcast yesterday.
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Speaker 1: Also, Ah, thank you. Yes, McCabe. I thought that was
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Speaker 1: interesting to me. You know, not just because I like
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Speaker 1: McCabe is a friend of mine, I work with him,
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Speaker 1: but that story about presenting to like the big wigs
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Speaker 1: of the biggest media company in the world, I thought
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Speaker 1: it was a big deal. I think he was playing
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Speaker 1: a humble I think he understands how a big of
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Speaker 1: a deal that was. When it comes to my wife
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Speaker 1: and her first day at work, interesting you should say that. Lynn,
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Speaker 1: So she had been off from work. She got laid
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Speaker 1: off in early June, so she has been not been
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Speaker 1: working okay, and because she got a severance, so she
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Speaker 1: just started the new job per diem. It was some training.
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Speaker 1: So her first day was yesterday and you mentioned coming
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Speaker 1: home with a smile. She did not come home with
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Speaker 1: a smile last night. She was like, I don't know
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Speaker 1: what it is my first Like, my brain had to
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Speaker 1: work again. So she had to sit all day long
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Speaker 1: in front of a computer, and she had to meet
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Speaker 1: with HR and all these you know, different things that
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Speaker 1: she had to learn. And so she came home and
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Speaker 1: she was beat. I'm like, are you okay, And she's like,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just cannot get it together. I
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Speaker 1: just feel like overwhelmed, which I guess makes sense when
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Speaker 1: you go from literally sitting by the pool for over
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Speaker 1: a month to all of a sudden, now you have
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Speaker 1: to you have to get dressed in the morning, you
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Speaker 1: have to you know, look nice. You go to work
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Speaker 1: for eight hours and not only that you're not like
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Speaker 1: working on the floor. She had to like sit in
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Speaker 1: front of a computer and do all that stuff. But
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Speaker 1: hopefully today she'll have a better day. I'm really looking
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Speaker 1: forward to our vacation. You know, we are staying in
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Speaker 1: Florida for a long weekend. The first weekend we're on vacations,
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Speaker 1: that would be August fourteenth is a Friday, So I
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Speaker 1: do the show and then we fly out down to
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Speaker 1: Naples and then we come back I think on Monday night,
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Speaker 1: so it'll be like a long weekend that we'll be there.
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Speaker 1: Really really looking forward to it. It's so needed. You know,
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Speaker 1: I've talked about this endlessly. You know, to be a
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Speaker 1: father and to be a husband and being a marriage,
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Speaker 1: it takes a lot of work, right especially with kids,
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Speaker 1: because with kids, they always come first, and it's very
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Speaker 1: easy for your marriage to basically take a back seat, okay,
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Speaker 1: And it becomes all about the kids every single day,
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Speaker 1: all of their issues, all of their needs, and you know,
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Speaker 1: you forget about the needs that you have with your
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Speaker 1: your partner, your wife or your husband. And it's a
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Speaker 1: constant battle with this, Okay. It goes up and down,
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Speaker 1: and many times in the past it gets to a
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Speaker 1: kind of a boiling point where where we're not being intimate.
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Speaker 1: And when I say intimate, I don't mean sexual intimacy,
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Speaker 1: I mean intimate one on one, you know, emotionally together.
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Speaker 1: We don't have talks just her and I, you know,
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Speaker 1: and so it'll reach a boiling point where we kind
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Speaker 1: of just get so frustrated. We end up getting into
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Speaker 1: a fight, and then we make up and we spend
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Speaker 1: some time together and then everything is good for a while,
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Speaker 1: but then you just fall into that and I think
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Speaker 1: we're at that point right now. That's why I'm really
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Speaker 1: looking forward to in a couple of weeks when we
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Speaker 1: go away, because that's time that we can just spend
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Speaker 1: with each other, you know, trying to talk to each
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Speaker 1: other when the kids are around, especially my daughter. You know,
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Speaker 1: she's like latched onto my wife, and she does that
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Speaker 1: thing which most kids do. I remember my son doing
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Speaker 1: it when he was little. When we're talking, she has
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Speaker 1: to interrupt. So it's very very hard. And you know,
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Speaker 1: the sleeping situation in my house is not it's not
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Speaker 1: the best.
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Speaker 2: You know.
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Speaker 1: I don't really talk about that a lot. I've kind
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Speaker 1: of accepted it. We both accepted it. This goes way back, okay,
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Speaker 1: to my son. This has been a running storyline on
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Speaker 1: the show on the air. My son was born, my
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Speaker 1: wife was in nursing school and working, and you know,
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Speaker 1: when I get up at three o'clock in the morning, okay,
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Speaker 1: so my son would be in the basinette next to
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Speaker 1: the bed. He'd be crying. You know, maybe I would
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Speaker 1: be gone or I'd have to get up in an
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Speaker 1: hour or two. So my wife would, you know, take him.
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Speaker 1: And you know, it's so easy to put the kid
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Speaker 1: in the bed. You know, that's one of the things
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Speaker 1: I tell new parents. You know, my friend, my friend
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Speaker 1: Bobby just had his first kid. Bobby, surprise shout out
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Speaker 1: to him, had his first son. I said, one piece
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Speaker 1: of advice, as hard as it is, do not let
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Speaker 1: the kid in the bed. Once you let the kid
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Speaker 1: in the bed, they will never ever leave. And that's
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Speaker 1: what happened to me, right, So he ended up in
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Speaker 1: the bed, and that was a way for her to
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Speaker 1: get sleep. Listen. Isn't an excuse, maybe, but she owns it.
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Speaker 1: And you know what, I don't falter for that because
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Speaker 1: I'm I'm there with her. You know, I could have
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Speaker 1: I could have you know, taken. Well, it's a tough
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Speaker 1: thing because the kid just wants his mother, right, doesn't
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Speaker 1: want dad, although I would get up and take him
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Speaker 1: out of the bas net and walk him back to sleep,
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Speaker 1: but really he just wanted her. And so once she
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Speaker 1: went into the bed, he fell asleep and she was
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Speaker 1: able to get the sleep that she needed and she
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Speaker 1: was able to do nursing school. The problem is that
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Speaker 1: he never left the bed. Okay, so then it got
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Speaker 1: she gets to a point where it becomes really hard
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Speaker 1: to sleep train. So you got to sleep the sleep
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Speaker 1: train the baby early. And that's something that Maddie Matt Siegel,
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Speaker 1: he talked about with me off the air and on
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Speaker 1: the air. You know, there was a doctor I got
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Speaker 1: to forget his name. There's this famous doctor I think
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Speaker 1: in Boston that created the whatever the name is. To
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Speaker 1: sleep train, basically, you have to like it takes the
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Speaker 1: whole weekend. You have to let the kid cry so
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Speaker 1: they cry it out, basically, like let him cry it
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Speaker 1: out him or her, then go in, then leave, then
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Speaker 1: go in then And it takes a little bit of
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Speaker 1: time and a lot of patience in hearing the baby cry.
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Speaker 1: But once they're sleep trained, then you're all good. Okay.
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Speaker 1: So we did not do that with my son. He
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Speaker 1: was you might remember, I slept in his room in
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Speaker 1: a race car bed and then bunk beds until he
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Speaker 1: was I want to say, like five years old, right,
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Speaker 1: actually twenty Yeah, about four or five years old, we
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Speaker 1: got bunk beds. So then I was on the bottom bunk.
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Speaker 1: He was my bunkie, right. Imagine the irony of that. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I go from serving time in prison with a bunkie,
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Speaker 1: so then being a bunkie with my son, okay, And
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Speaker 1: then finally we ended up doing it. So I would
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Speaker 1: just lay with him or she would lay with him
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Speaker 1: until he fell asleep, and then we would leave. Now
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Speaker 1: he before I get to my daughter, he's nine years old.
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Speaker 1: He still can't sleep alone. Okay, he still can't. So
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Speaker 1: we started doing that with him, and then he would
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Speaker 1: just It was good because once he fell asleep, it
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Speaker 1: was fine. If he was something, he would wake up,
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Speaker 1: he'd run in and my wife would had to go
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Speaker 1: back into the bunk and lay down. But then eventually
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Speaker 1: he just slept through the night, so he would just
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Speaker 1: need somebody there to fall asleep because again he was
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Speaker 1: never sleep trained, so then came my daughter, and so
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Speaker 1: my wife said to me, I am committed to sleep
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Speaker 1: train her. I am not going to make the same mistake. Okay.
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Speaker 1: So for the most part we were in the bed together, right,
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Speaker 1: one of us would lay with my son and then
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Speaker 1: and then we would come into the bed. So then
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Speaker 1: my daughter is born, all right, So my wife sleep
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Speaker 1: trains Gemma, okay, gets her in the crib. Everything was
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Speaker 1: all good. Right, I would lay with my son, she
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Speaker 1: would put them into bed. We'd end up in the
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Speaker 1: bed together, and it was great. It was great, great
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Speaker 1: for intimacy, it was great for sexual intimacy. But then
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Speaker 1: what happened was she made a mistake, and I told
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Speaker 1: her when she did it that it wasn't a good idea. Basically,
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Speaker 1: she said, I think I want to let the crib
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Speaker 1: open the front of the gate, okay, so that if
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Speaker 1: she wakes up, she can just come in and get me.
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Speaker 1: So once she did that, Jemma would just run in
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Speaker 1: and get my wife and she would have to go
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Speaker 1: put her back in. Okay. So she never fully was
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Speaker 1: she was sleep trained to go to sleep, but then
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Speaker 1: she was waking up and she realized if I woke
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Speaker 1: up and got her or she would come back. So
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Speaker 1: she spent a lot of time doing that. Then we
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Speaker 1: got her a bed as she got a little bit bigger,
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Speaker 1: and my wife would put her to bed and lay
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Speaker 1: in the bed with her, and most knights would fall
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Speaker 1: asleep next to her, right because it would be late
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Speaker 1: at night or whatever, she'd fall asleep. So then she
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Speaker 1: the sleep training went out the window. She forgot everything
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Speaker 1: that she that she did. It became a huge issue,
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Speaker 1: and she spent there were so many times she would
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Speaker 1: start at the beginning where she would put her to
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Speaker 1: bed and then she would leave the room and come back.
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Speaker 1: But Gemma was not a good sleeper, so she would
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Speaker 1: come back in the room get my wife, so she
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Speaker 1: would put it in the bed. We'd go to bed,
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Speaker 1: and then I woke up in the morning and she
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Speaker 1: would never be in the bed. She would be in
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Speaker 1: Gema's bed next to Gemma. So now Gemma is, you know,
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Speaker 1: used to sleeping with my wife. So this went on
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Speaker 1: for a while and then you know, the bed was
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Speaker 1: hurting my wife's back. It was it's not really meant
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Speaker 1: for you know, an adulta and a kid. So she
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Speaker 1: just did what she had to do and She's like, look,
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna get a blow up bed and put
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Speaker 1: it in n Able's room and sleep on the bottom bunk.
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Speaker 1: You know, I need She needed to get her That's
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Speaker 1: what it was. She needed to get her away from
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Speaker 1: sleeping in the same bed as her. So she got
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Speaker 1: the blow up bed, puts it on the floor my
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Speaker 1: son's room, and then my son's on the top, my
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Speaker 1: wife's on the bottom, and Gemma is on the blow
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Speaker 1: up bed. Look, you might listen to this and be like, wow,
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Speaker 1: that's really really fucked up, And I understand. You can
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Speaker 1: cast judgment. It's it's okay, it's no problem, but you
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Speaker 1: gotta do what you gotta do. We're in this situation.
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Speaker 1: It is what it is. I'm not mad at it. Listen,
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Speaker 1: I said my wife. Listen, I spent five years, five
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Speaker 1: years not in my own bed, so I know what
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Speaker 1: it's like, I really really do. So, yeah, it's at nighttime.
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Speaker 1: What happens is we brush the kids, we get them
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Speaker 1: ready for bed, we get them tubs, all that stuff,
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Speaker 1: and my wife goes into the bunk with Gemma. Gemma
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Speaker 1: goes into the blowout, my wife goes into the bed.
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Speaker 1: My son usually stays up on the couch for a
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Speaker 1: little while I go to bed, and then when he's ready,
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Speaker 1: he goes in the room, goes on the top bunk,
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Speaker 1: and goes to sleep. So they basically have a slumber
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Speaker 1: party every single night. Not ideal. Not ideal. I don't
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Speaker 1: hate it, but I will say one thing is again,
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Speaker 1: not sleeping in the bed with my wife, not you know,
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Speaker 1: having that connection, that intimacy, you know, having to basically
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Speaker 1: be together, especially you know physically. We have to find
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Speaker 1: time to do that, which is not a huge deal,
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Speaker 1: but we have to. It's just different. You know, It's
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Speaker 1: different when you go to bed with your your husband
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Speaker 1: or your wife and you're in the bed, and I
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Speaker 1: fink that's how it's supposed to be, you know, for
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Speaker 1: the most part, but we kind of have to work
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Speaker 1: around that. One good thing, though, is that once my daughter,
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Speaker 1: you know, my daughter goes to sleep, and then my
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Speaker 1: son will come in and he'll go right to sleep
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Speaker 1: because he's you know, when he's tired, he'll just go
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Speaker 1: to bed. There's a TV in there, so my wife
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Speaker 1: ken watch TV, whereas in my room, you know, she
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Speaker 1: knows I have to get up early. I can't go
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Speaker 1: to sleep with the TV on. It's just I'm one
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Speaker 1: of those people. So she really can't watch TV in
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Speaker 1: the room. I mean, I guess she could, but out
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Speaker 1: of respect, she doesn't. So she watches TV in the
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Speaker 1: in the room with the kids while they're sleeping. And
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Speaker 1: so that's good she because you know, she doesn't want
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Speaker 1: to go to sleep at eight o'clock when I go
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Speaker 1: to bed, you know, she's up till ten eleven o'clock.
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Speaker 1: She watches her shows and a lot of times, like
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Speaker 1: once the kids are asleep, she'll come out and then
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Speaker 1: you know, spend some time with me. But I don't know,
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Speaker 1: it's just not it's getting to a point where we
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Speaker 1: really need the time. And how I know that is,
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Speaker 1: you know, frustrations. I feel it, She feels it, and
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Speaker 1: that's how we know it's not it's not a sexual thing.
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Speaker 1: It's not a sexual issue because that's not an issue
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Speaker 1: for us. It really just comes down to the connection.
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Speaker 1: It comes down to just spending time one on one
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Speaker 1: without kids. And you know, if you're a parent, you
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Speaker 1: understand this. You might be going through this right now,
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Speaker 1: and it's just something to be aware of. It's it's
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Speaker 1: something to really be kind of conscious of so you
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Speaker 1: know when it's coming. So you know when you have
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Speaker 1: to do something. See, it's when you don't do anything
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Speaker 1: and you let it go too far. That's where problems happen.
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Speaker 1: You know, that's where things can really go wrong. So
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Speaker 1: I'm recognizing it, and I'm grateful that we do have
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Speaker 1: this thing coming up. We'll spend some time together for
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Speaker 1: a weekend. So that's really what's going on at my house.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, she came home from work yesterday. She was
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Speaker 1: all tired, very frustrated, and I found myself frustrated because
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Speaker 1: the kids have issues, you know, not not issues, I
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Speaker 1: should say, just you know, my son had you know,
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Speaker 1: he goes to the Boys and Girls club. He's got
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Speaker 1: issues there. My daughter is very emotional. She's attached to
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Speaker 1: my wife. She won't let her talk, won't let her move.
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Speaker 1: She's crying every single morning that my wife, that she
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Speaker 1: has to go to school, that my wife went back
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Speaker 1: to work. I mean every day. It's like a complete
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Speaker 1: meltdown in the morning. So yeah, it's it's tough, but
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Speaker 1: all right, moving away from that, if you missed the
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Speaker 1: show this morning, I thought it was very funny. We
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Speaker 1: have a lot of fun on the show. We really do.
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Speaker 1: This pit Bull puzzle game is very funny and very
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Speaker 1: fun to play, and you know, a great topic time,
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Speaker 1: you know. I like to tie it into the stoop
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Speaker 1: dating event, which, by the way, I'm going to and
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Speaker 1: Zeb's going to. If you want to come, do you
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Speaker 1: want RSVP? I don't even think you have to be single, right,
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Speaker 1: you can go and just do the workout. So we're
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Speaker 1: gonna do the workout and then they're gonna have the
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Speaker 1: stoop dating event, which would be really really fun to watch,
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Speaker 1: you know, matchmaking people on the stoop outside Tall Ships,
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Speaker 1: East Boston. Hopefully the weather is good, but I'm I'm
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Speaker 1: really looking forward to it. I'm really looking looking forward
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Speaker 1: to the workout and spending time with my people and
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Speaker 1: my buddy Zeb. So Kiss wentawait dot com slash Oh,
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Speaker 1: go to Kiss, went to wait on Instagram and go
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Speaker 1: to the link tree in the bio and there's an
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Speaker 1: RSVP there. I don't know if there's space still available.
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Speaker 1: I would think that I don't know what the capacity is.
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Speaker 1: I would think he'll be able to hold you know,
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Speaker 1: a lot of people. I mean, I don't know how
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Speaker 1: big the space is. I haven't been there, but we'd
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Speaker 1: love to have you join. I think it's gonna be
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Speaker 1: really really fun. And Will Noonan's going to be there,
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Speaker 1: who I love comedian, so funny. I called Will when
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Speaker 1: the idea started to kind of come together. So okay,
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Speaker 1: So backstory, backstory, So Jared Freed was originally the one.
16:41
Speaker 1: He was gonna be the comedian cause he had a book, right,
16:44
Speaker 1: so he was going to promote his book because you
16:45
Speaker 1: gotta have a book. It's a book club event, right,
16:47
Speaker 1: That's why Carolyn Kapnis is here. So we're gonna have
16:49
Speaker 1: Jared Freed come in and you know you do stand up,
16:53
Speaker 1: do the stupid dating, all that stuff, cut comedy and
16:57
Speaker 1: he said yes, of course, but then he pulled out
17:01
Speaker 1: because of scheduling issues. So I ended up calling him
17:05
Speaker 1: and he's like, doing, I'm so sorry, you know schedule,
17:07
Speaker 1: which which we understand things happen. He's a very busy guy.
17:11
Speaker 1: So then we were like, shit, what are we going
17:12
Speaker 1: to do? So that's why then we had to pivot.
17:14
Speaker 1: So we had to find well we had because we
17:16
Speaker 1: had Battista boot Camp, we had Stoop Dating, but we
17:19
Speaker 1: needed something book club and a comedian. So I said,
17:22
Speaker 1: you know, I was throwing around different people, and I said,
17:24
Speaker 1: what about Will Noonan. Like he's a friend of the show,
17:27
Speaker 1: he loves the show. I think he'd do it. And
17:30
Speaker 1: then Lisa came up with Caroline kept it. So I
17:32
Speaker 1: called Will and I go on this long pitch. I
17:34
Speaker 1: go putting this thing together. I laid it all out
17:36
Speaker 1: for him, and at the end he goes, all right.
17:39
Speaker 1: He goes, justin, you don't have to pitch me on this.
17:41
Speaker 1: He's like Lisa's book Club. I'm in one hundred percent.
17:44
Speaker 1: I'm in. Just tell me the date, tell me the times,
17:46
Speaker 1: and I'll see if I'm opening on my schedule. But
17:48
Speaker 1: you said it's a Sunday. He's like, I typically don't
17:50
Speaker 1: do anything on Sundays. I go Sunday, August ninth, twelve
17:52
Speaker 1: to three. He goes, I'm in, So I love Will Noonan.
17:55
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, you can't come in. You can, you know,
17:57
Speaker 1: be a part of promoting the event. You can promote
17:59
Speaker 1: your own gigs. He's very busy, does a lot of
18:01
Speaker 1: shows a Coppo and he's just a really really great guy.
18:04
Speaker 1: And then Caroline Capni's obviously is fantastic, so it's gonna
18:08
Speaker 1: be a really fun event. Love to see you there.
18:11
Speaker 1: What else I think that's I think that's it in
18:14
Speaker 1: my world. Thank you for letting me share that stuff.
18:16
Speaker 1: By the way, I really really appreciate it. I always
18:19
Speaker 1: feel better after I do the after show, especially when
18:21
Speaker 1: I talk about things going on in my life. You know,
18:24
Speaker 1: I have people around me to talk to about and
18:27
Speaker 1: it's weird. I'm talking into a microphone to people that
18:30
Speaker 1: I can't see, but I know the army is listening,
18:34
Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Like, I know there are people
18:36
Speaker 1: going to listen to this today and they might like it,
18:39
Speaker 1: they might not, but hopefully some of you will understand
18:43
Speaker 1: or have gone through it or are going through it
18:45
Speaker 1: right now. And that is what I call connection to listeners.
18:50
Speaker 1: Because I'm no better than anybody else just because I'm
18:53
Speaker 1: on this podcast, just because I work on the radio.
18:56
Speaker 1: It none of that matters. We're all human and we
18:59
Speaker 1: all be trying to connect and help one another. It's
19:03
Speaker 1: a really really basic, basic thing, you know, And and
19:08
Speaker 1: was sharing a story about that. I've shared this before,
19:11
Speaker 1: I'm sure, so I'm sorry if you heard it before.
19:14
Speaker 1: But one of the greatest interviews I've ever heard was
19:19
Speaker 1: of Jimmy Iavine. Jimmy Iavine is the legendary record label guy.
19:23
Speaker 1: He you know, fond Eminem, he worked with dre Beats, Headphones.
19:27
Speaker 1: I mean he goes way back to like Stevie Nickson,
19:29
Speaker 1: Fleetwood mac Right. Jimmy Iavin. The guy's worth about a
19:32
Speaker 1: billion dollars, okay. And he was doing an interview with
19:35
Speaker 1: Howard Stern going over his career and all that, and
19:37
Speaker 1: several times during the interview he would go back to
19:42
Speaker 1: the key to his success, all of the number one hits,
19:46
Speaker 1: all of the artists that he discovered, all of the
19:49
Speaker 1: money that he made, he attributed it to one thing,
19:52
Speaker 1: and that was service that was helping others. And I
19:57
Speaker 1: don't know if it was just like when I heard it,
19:59
Speaker 1: I had about three or four years clean, and a
20:01
Speaker 1: big part of recovery is helping others. Right, we can't
20:03
Speaker 1: keep what we have, which is recovery, unless we give
20:06
Speaker 1: it away. That's like a big, big thing helping others. Okay.
20:09
Speaker 1: So I don't know if I was like really connected
20:11
Speaker 1: to it because of that likely, but I think it's
20:13
Speaker 1: just a basic life lesson. Right, here's this guy, he's
20:17
Speaker 1: got a billion dollars, amazing career, like so so successful,
20:22
Speaker 1: and the one thing he attributed attributes it to is service.
20:26
Speaker 1: You have to you never stop helping other people. And
20:30
Speaker 1: I was like, wow, that's so true, because it's it's
20:34
Speaker 1: kind of a thing where when you help others you
20:37
Speaker 1: it's a two for essentially, it's a two for one. Right,
20:39
Speaker 1: you're helping somebody else, but you're also helping yourself spiritually
20:43
Speaker 1: because it makes you feel good, you know. So you know,
20:47
Speaker 1: the the the action, the thought and the action of
20:49
Speaker 1: helping somebody is great, and then you help them, they
20:53
Speaker 1: get the help, but then you feel good about what
20:55
Speaker 1: you just did, so you both benefit. So I don't know,
20:59
Speaker 1: I just want to leave with that. I always kind
21:01
Speaker 1: of use that as an example because it doesn't matter
21:03
Speaker 1: how much money you have or anything. Like I'm telling you,
21:07
Speaker 1: the money thing really really gets to me because money
21:11
Speaker 1: really truly is the root of all evil. I've learned that.
21:15
Speaker 1: If you ask me things that I've learned as I've
21:17
Speaker 1: gotten older, there are many things. Well, one of the
21:20
Speaker 1: top ones is money is the root of all evil.
21:23
Speaker 1: And I see that in family disputes, house disputes. It's
21:28
Speaker 1: happening in my family multiple times, right end of life, inheritances, anything,
21:37
Speaker 1: borrowing money, people I know that are borrowing money or
21:39
Speaker 1: had money borrowed from them not getting paid back. I mean,
21:42
Speaker 1: it goes on and on and on, and it always
21:43
Speaker 1: comes back to the same thing. Money. Money. And that's
21:47
Speaker 1: why I always say to Bill, because Bill and I
21:49
Speaker 1: are really close, right, it's one of my best friends,
21:51
Speaker 1: because we're like Manda man, you know, and he knows
21:54
Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, I don't. So many people see Billy
21:56
Speaker 1: as a bank right, what they can get from him
22:00
Speaker 1: because he has money. Okay, he's not the richest guy
22:02
Speaker 1: in the world, but he's doing just fine. He's worked
22:05
Speaker 1: in TV and radio and he hosted galleys for decades. Okay,
22:10
Speaker 1: he makes great money all around, not just at the
22:12
Speaker 1: radio but on the TV side and the gal is
22:14
Speaker 1: and he's sponsorships and endorsements. Like the dude has money.
22:17
Speaker 1: He's living good. Don't worry about Bill. He's living good.
22:19
Speaker 1: And so many people take advantage of that, especially because
22:23
Speaker 1: of how nice he is. And I'm always clear to him,
22:26
Speaker 1: like dude, like I don't look at you and see money.
22:28
Speaker 1: I don't want your money. I mean Obviously, I had
22:30
Speaker 1: the joke of like, if Bill offers you money, you
22:32
Speaker 1: always take Bill money. That's a joke. I mean it's true.
22:35
Speaker 1: If he offers me money, I'm gonna take it. But
22:37
Speaker 1: I just don't see him. I don't see it like that,
22:39
Speaker 1: Like I don't want your money, Bill, I want your friendship.
22:42
Speaker 1: You know. I don't look at people like there's someone
22:44
Speaker 1: in my life, close person. I'm not gonna say who
22:48
Speaker 1: who is getting an inheritance pretty soon and I'm like
22:52
Speaker 1: happy for them, and I'm like proud of myself, because
22:56
Speaker 1: not proud of myself I should say, I'm like I
22:59
Speaker 1: think about it, and I'm like, I don't. I don't
23:00
Speaker 1: want any of that money, you know. Like obviously, if
23:03
Speaker 1: somebody wants to like help me, or like, hey, you
23:05
Speaker 1: want me to buy you this or something, I might
23:07
Speaker 1: I'll say, okay, right, I'm not gonna turn people down,
23:10
Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna go after what's not mine. You know.
23:13
Speaker 1: I worry about mine. I worry about what I have,
23:15
Speaker 1: and I never want to let money come in between
23:18
Speaker 1: any kind of relationship. I guess is what I'm saying.
23:21
Speaker 1: I don't know. That's been on my mind a lot,
23:22
Speaker 1: latelyast so sorry to throw that at you, like at
23:25
Speaker 1: the last minute, but life is so much more than money.
23:28
Speaker 1: Money is important, but it's not everything. So I'll leave
23:31
Speaker 1: you at that. Hit the talk backs if you have
23:32
Speaker 1: anything you want to say, and we'll talk tomorrow. All right,
23:35
Speaker 1: have a great day, by it.