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#463 The Currency of Relationships · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. It's the podcast for the
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  Speaker 1: time poor parent who.
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  Speaker 2: Just on answers.
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  Speaker 1: Now good everybody. This docs justin Colson flying solo because
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  Speaker 1: sometimes it's just too hard to get Kylie and I
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  Speaker 1: together to do the podcast together. Do you hear that
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  Speaker 1: my voice cracked because I feel so I feel like
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  Speaker 1: I'm letting the team down today. Just a really quick one,
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  Speaker 1: because sometimes we don't need a fifteen minute podcast to
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  Speaker 1: remind us of what matters. Just like dollars, the currency
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  Speaker 1: of our economy, connection is the currency of our relationships.
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  Speaker 1: When you have a relationship that has connection, you have
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  Speaker 1: a relationship that has life. A relationship with no connection
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  Speaker 1: is a relationship that really is either dead or dying.
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  Speaker 1: We've all had that experience with somebody that matters to us.
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  Speaker 1: We love them, we try our best to connect, but
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  Speaker 1: instead we misconnect. And the longer the misconnections occur, the
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  Speaker 1: more anxiety we feel around the relationship, and the more
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  Speaker 1: the relationship suffers. And I can't tell you how many
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  Speaker 1: times I've had this conversation with parents. The parent will say,
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  Speaker 1: I'm really really struggling with my child. They're driving me crazy.
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  Speaker 1: So I'll say well, tell me about the last time
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  Speaker 1: that you really spent some good quality time with them.
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  Speaker 1: No eruptions, no correction and direction, just good time together,
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  Speaker 1: a walk in the park, a camping trip, that kind
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  Speaker 1: of thing, and the parent will usually say something like
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  Speaker 1: uh a while kids spell love t im e and
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  Speaker 1: so I'll say to them, spend some time connecting. Email me,
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  Speaker 1: let me know how it goes. And within a pretty
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  Speaker 1: short time I usually receive an update and it goes
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  Speaker 1: something like this, Hi, justin we spent some time together.
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  Speaker 1: It made such a difference. I feel like our relationship
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  Speaker 1: is alive again. So does this work every time? Well,
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  Speaker 1: of course not. Parenting isn't that simple, but sometimes it
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  Speaker 1: actually is. So try it this week. Focus on time together,
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  Speaker 1: drop the agenda and help your children feel like they matter.
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  Speaker 1: And then let me know what happens right after the
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  Speaker 1: break and update on some cool stuff happening. At Happy Families,
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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast, the podcast for the time
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  Speaker 1: poor parent who just wants answers. Now it's doctor Justin
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  Speaker 1: Coulson here, flying solo without Kylie, who is in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of navigating our ongoing moving saga. Our house is
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  Speaker 1: finally on the market. In case you're wondering, can I
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  Speaker 1: be that personal with you? Our house is finally on
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  Speaker 1: the market. If you're looking to live in the southern
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  Speaker 1: Brisbane suburb of Cornubia, we'd be really happy for you
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  Speaker 1: to buy our house we can finalize our move to
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  Speaker 1: the coast. Kylie is still living in an airbnb and
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  Speaker 1: doing her best to help the children to feel settled
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  Speaker 1: when it isn't really working so well. I mean, the
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  Speaker 1: kids just they want stability and it's really tough to
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  Speaker 1: not have that. The reason that I wanted to continue
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  Speaker 1: the podcast just briefly is because on the twenty fourth
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  Speaker 1: of March, I've got a free webinar coming up called
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  Speaker 1: can We Please Talk about Our Boys? In the first
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  Speaker 1: part of this conversation this podcast today, I've talked about
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  Speaker 1: the importance of connection and it is so important, but
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  Speaker 1: the reality is raising boys is really complicated in today's world.
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  Speaker 1: We've got an ever changing view of what masculinity is
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  Speaker 1: and what it should be, particularly due to great things
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  Speaker 1: like the Me Too movement, but also the ongoing challenging
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  Speaker 1: conversation around consent, issues of privilege and so on. And
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  Speaker 1: some people are saying, well, we should be talking to
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  Speaker 1: our girls about this stuff as well as our boys.
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  Speaker 1: I would agree with that, but the conversations need to
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  Speaker 1: be different because our boys experience these things in ways
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  Speaker 1: that are different to our girls. So we're going to
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  Speaker 1: unpack all of this in a free webinar on Thursday
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  Speaker 1: of next week, Thursday March the twenty fourth, at today
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  Speaker 1: o'clock New South Wales, Victoria time, seven o'clock Queensland time.
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  Speaker 1: Anywhere else you might be check your local guides and
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  Speaker 1: here's the good news. If you've got boys and you'd
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  Speaker 1: like to participate, being there in attendance live will be
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  Speaker 1: best because you can ask your questions and enjoy the interaction.
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  Speaker 1: But we will be giving you access to the free
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  Speaker 1: webinar as a recording for seven days following the free webinar,
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  Speaker 1: So can we please talk about boys? That's on Thursday,
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  Speaker 1: the twenty fourth of March at eight pm New South Wales,
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  Speaker 1: Victoria seven pm Queensland and a seven day recording is included,
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  Speaker 1: plus a cheat sheet so that you've got a whole
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  Speaker 1: lot of extra info to lean on and think about
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  Speaker 1: what's going on thirty forty minutes something around that can't
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  Speaker 1: wait to share it with you. Please visit happyfamilies dot
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  Speaker 1: com dot you for all the details. Hey, thanks for
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  Speaker 1: listening today's podcast. I hope it's been helpful and that
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  Speaker 1: you get some connection time in because connection really is
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  Speaker 1: the currency of our relationships. The Happy Families Podcast, as always,
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  Speaker 1: is produced by Justin Ruhland from Bridge Media. Craig Bruce
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  Speaker 1: is our executive producer and for all the information that
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  Speaker 1: you can handle about making your family happier, please visit
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  Speaker 1: happy families dot com dot au. He knows the