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Season 4 - Episode 36 - Your past does not define who you are · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking and just bring
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  some. Joy into the world.
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  So welcome to the coop and let's start your day off in a
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  fantastic way. Hey everybody, good afternoon
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  from the chicken coop. So today we are talking about
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  our past and how our past does not define who you are.
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  I've had multiple conversations about this over the years and
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  how we have to let go of certain things in order to see things
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  change, and the past is one of them.
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  Your past does not define who you are, and you've got to
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  surrender to the fact that it's not going to help you expand.
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  Focusing on your past, the the concepts of yourself that are
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  from the past are based on who you were at that point in time.
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  But right now, there's not a cell in you that was the same as
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  it was when you were in 6th, 7th, or 8th grade.
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  I mean, biologically we know cells constantly are dying off
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  and new ones are born and everything changes over.
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  And so on a cellular level, you definitely are not the same
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  person that you were at those points in time.
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  Now, why is it so important to let go of this?
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  Why is it so important to change this and change your approach
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  with things? Because it's only through
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  letting go that you can get to that higher version of yourself
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  that you want to be. If you continue to hang on to
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  that past version of yourself, you can't grow now, Really
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  important distinction. It doesn't mean you let go of
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  the things about you that you love.
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  Like, I would never let go of my creativity.
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  I would never let go of things that I don't think serve, that I
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  think serve me. But the things that don't serve
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  me, the things that like being in a constant state of anxiety,
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  well, that never serves me. However, having anxiety on my
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  bus, well, yeah, that can serve me when I need it to.
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  So I mean, earlier today, I was very out there.
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  I was out with the girls walking and there was in fire ants and I
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  had on flip flops and I was like, right, My anxiety went
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  through the roof because I wanted to move away from them.
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  But guess what? That was good.
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  I didn't stay in it. I got right out of it, but I let
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  go of the version of myself that hung on to anxiety all the time
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  because that's not going to help me get there.
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  It doesn't serve me to do that anymore and my consciousness
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  doesn't want it. It wants to go to a different
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  place. So if I'm going to really work
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  on manifesting things in my life, I have to make sure that
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  I, I make the, the choice to say, I have to let go of this.
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  So when's the last time you actually sat down and said, I'm
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  going to let go of these things that were in my past that I
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  don't think served me anymore? And I'm going to change my
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  approach to it. And I think it's super important
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  to do that because if you don't change that approach, you're
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  you're going to take it with you and you're inevitably going to
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  run into the problems with it. So how do you let go of it?
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  That's always the big question. How do I let go?
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  Well, the first thing is you make a decision that you want to
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  not have that be part of your present, your future.
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  And it's not part of the identity you have now.
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  It's part of the past. And when you make that
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  distinction and you clarify that to yourself, it becomes a heck
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  of a lot easier to not let yourself go there when it comes
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  up. So for an example, I had when I,
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  we were, you know, first Mark and I were first together and we
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  were trying to have a child. I had multiple miscarriages and
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  it became part of my identity. And I realized that I was doing
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  that because these miscarriages meant that I was less than to
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  me. There were things that were
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  happening. I couldn't I the, the even
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  though we could get pregnant, we just couldn't get past week 9.
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  And it happened five times. And that's a lot to endure in a
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  process. And it became part of my, I was
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  saying to this thing, well, I have miscarriages.
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  And I was recognizing how much it became part of my identity.
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  As soon as I made the distinction and I realized what
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  I was doing, I was able to say, this is not my identity.
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  This is not who I choose to be. I choose to be the person that
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  is the mom, that is the that wants to have another child.
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  And in that distinction, I was able to change my approach of
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  how that happened. And ultimately we adopted my
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  son. And I would not have done that
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  if I was hanging on to the past, even the not so far in the past
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  past, it would have shifted me. It would have made me keep going
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  to that because I felt like I was failing, even though it was
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  had nothing to do with being my fault.
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  So the reality is when you look at it and you really dig into
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  it, you can make these distinctions that will help
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  shift you in your awareness and how you're doing things.
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  And all of a sudden, it won't be your your destiny to have the
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  the past dictate the present and the future.
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  It'll be you making choices about it, you making really
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  smart choices about it, and you having some very big
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  distinctions about how you want it to look because that's what
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  shifts things. That's what makes things great.
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  So go out there and remember, your past does not define you.
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  It doesn't dictate you. You decide what that is.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you all tomorrow. Bye.